Dads And Daddies

Brian and Judson celebrate the launch of Season Three with a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza and talk open relationship rules, self-care routines, sex party connections, unpredictable libidos, and more 02.06.2026 1ч 17мин

Judson and Brian celebrate the second anniversary of the podcast, the launch of Season Three, and the start of Pride Month! Judson spots two gay people at his new place of work and strategizes to befriend them both. Brian provides two theatre recommendations for Pride Month. Judson struggles with sleep issues. Brian shares an Instagram post sent his way that examines the question “Why are gay men so divided on open relationships?” The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who gets to prove his versatility when a hot connection made while traveling spices up his vacation more than once during his stay. Brian and Judson then begin their Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza answering five diverse listener questions. They first tackle one about open relationship rules, particularly around repeat hookups; the second asks each to describe their self-care routines; the third wants to know the etiquette around finding people on social media after meeting them at a sex party; the fourth is from a listener who is having trouble with his fiancé’s desire to open the relationship; and the fifth and final question comes from a listener in an open marriage whose Bipolar II disorder makes his libido unpredictable and wants help balancing saving his sexual energy for his husband with allowing himself freedom to have hookups.

Brian and Judson hookup with Kevin Aviance and talk the pressures of being an icon, making Beyoncé c*nty, ballroom history, what it means to be a Black Queen today, and more 26.05.2026 1ч 32мин

Brian and Judson are joined by recording artist, DJ, and performance legend whose influence has shaped generations of LGBTQ nightlife, dance music, and drag performance, Kevin Aviance! Kevin talks about how he reset his life after surviving a brutal hate crime in 2006 that shocked the LGBTQ community, how the pandemic gave rise to his DJing career, and how Beyoncé sampling his hit song “Cunty” on her Renaissance album completed his return to icon status. He also talks about the pressures of being labeled iconic, the origins of his latest album, HIPPOPOTAMUS!, his views on sex and hookup culture, his friendship with queens Honey Davenport and Sapphira Cristál and how they helped him understand what it means to be Black and queer in today’s world, his history with the ballroom scene and his reaction to its omnipresence within mainstream pop culture, why he loves aging, and his concern that the younger generation of queer people have lost a sense of history and the ability to learn through experience. Kevin then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a trans man who wants help building confidence to help him in finding friends and making hookups happen.

Brian and Judson hookup with Zachary Zane and talk Bisexual Audibility, the joys of bottoming, being brave about sex when sober, the value of anger, whether top shortages are a myth, and more 19.05.2026 1ч 57мин

Brian and Judson are joined by bisexual sex columnist, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, editor-in-chief of the Boyslut zine, and host of the Bi Babes Book Club on Allstora, Zachary Zane! Zachary covers the gamut of sexual topics, from his struggle to overcome his fraysexuality, to discovering the magic of anal stimulation, to switching from top to bottom and Daddy to Son even within the same session, to what he means by “Bisexual Audibility.” He also talks about formerly relying on drugs and alcohol to lower inhibitions enough to have certain types of sexual encounters, and how to get to the same level of comfort without them; the effects of being raised by a rageaholic; what straight people don’t understand about Grindr; readers who assume he will sleep with them; how long it truly takes to have sex; and he answers questions from some Dads and Daddies book clubbers. Zachary then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who can only finish when bottoming but finds himself topping due to what he describes as a top shortage.

Brian and Judson hookup with Nick Wolny and talk generating wealth as queer people, whether poppers are an essential expense, accepting our social inheritances, preparing emotionally and financially for gay events, and more 12.05.2026 1ч 25мин

Brian and Judson are joined by personal finance educator and advocate Nick Wolny. Nick, the finance columnist for Out Magazine and author of the book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future, helps Brian and Judson understand how and why queer people approach money in our own way. He delves into how we develop our thought patterns around money and how we can set ourselves up for our futures while living fabulous queer lives in the present. He shares how he crafted his book to educate those of us who don’t have money left over at the end of the month about how to get to a place where we do, and to then maintain it so we can live the way we deserve in the moment. Brian, Judson and Nick also examine broadening the definition of wealth, debate whether or not poppers are an essential expense, Nick shares his Daddy Issue about his realization he’s becoming his parents, and he responds to listener-submitted questions. The episode ends with the three responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is excited to attend the Folsom Street Fair for his first time, and wants to ensure that he and his husband are preparing for it properly.

Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more 05.05.2026 1ч 31мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Rich Burns, writer, creator and star of the Humanitas Prize-winning comedic digital series “The Disappointments.” The show’s second season is out now and follows three gay friends in their 60s who are single, broke and desperately trying to turn their disappointing lives around. Rich shares how the series came out of the realization that a number of his friends found themselves in their 50s with their dreams unfulfilled, talks about the disparate reactions to the show from different generations of gay viewers, and dispels certain myths about the differences between himself and Ray, the character he plays on the show. Rich also shares his thoughts on open relationships, dating younger, the presumption by most that he’s a Daddy, the success of his slutty Instagram account, how his sexual exploration derives from connection and trust, and so much more. Rich then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is finding himself so busy that he has to schedule hookups weeks, if not months, in advance and is concerned that it’s a problem he needs help solving.

Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more 28.04.2026 1ч 23мин

Brian and Judson are joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his journey from a childhood in Michigan spent hiding in the closet, feeling unattractive, uncool, unmanly and seeking comfort in food, to moving to New York and feeling othered as a minority man in the mainstream gay scene, to the person he is today exuding sex and confidence on a Broadway stage eight times a week. He tells them about the role that connections and community played in his transformation, how he found the sexiness of Rum Tum Tugger, and about how “Realness,” Tugger’s ballroom category that showcases a person’s ability to pass as straight, is, at its core, a trauma response to homophobia. Sydney gets even more personal and talks about some of the various reasons he likes to have sex, the demise of finding hookups on Craig’s List, his “mad, passionate lust affair” with Andy Cohen, why we should have sex with the straight men on the apps, and his preference for faceless Grindr profiles. Sydney then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in his 30s who is newly out of the closet and wants to know what the three consider must-have experiences for a gay man.

Brian and Judson hookup with Claybourne Elder and talk growing up Mormon and gay, wanting to be evil, aging in the public eye, and gay wedding planning 21.04.2026 1ч 37мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway’s favorite DILF, Claybourne Elder. The Gilded Age star and Grammy, Screen Actors Guild Award, Drama Desk and Lucille Lortel Award nominee tells Brian and Judson about the origin of his City of Strangers initiative that provides free tickets to Broadway shows for people who might not have the means, and takes them through the process of recording his debut album out now, If the Stars Were Mine. He also talks about growing up gay and Mormon, his time as a performing missionary in the Nauvoo, Illinois Historic District, getting kicked out of Brigham Young University for being gay, how he met his Jewish husband, their path to parenthood, and how they address religion with their son. Claybourne shares his Daddy Issue, which is around aging, and particularly how he wrestles with whether or not, as an actor, he should be considering any procedures to maintain his youth. He then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener wanting advice on planning a wedding that is true to him and his partner.

Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more 14.04.2026 1ч 44мин

Brian and Judson launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. John Paul tells Brian and Judson all about the origin of his ¡Hola Papi! advice column, how he overcame the feeling that he didn’t have the authority to give advice, and shares how he feels now that he’s retired his column after eight years. He also provides a sneak peek at his next two books, and responds to Brian’s ask for advice by giving his thoughts about steeling oneself against internet commenters. John Paul then goes all the way to the top to discuss his Daddy Issue, which is his recent fascination with Jesus, particularly the comforting discovery that he may not have been attractive, and talks about the time he almost converted to Judaism for a boyfriend. The episode ends with the renowned advice giver joining Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious about the etiquette of hooking up when one is hanging out with friends.

Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music 07.04.2026 1ч 17мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with “Queen of the Universe” winner and “Drag Race Brasil” host, Grag Queen, and talks about his mission with this and every one of his tours to bring joy and build community during these dark and divisive times. He teaches Brian and Judson all about his home country of Wales and its connection to music, he goes deep into his friendships and collaborations with Elton John and Scissor Sisters, and talks about how he has made a name and career for himself without ever signing with a label. They discuss the prevalence of misogyny in the gay community, they share thoughts on maintaining youth and taking risks throughout one’s life, and they debate the importance of sex as a subject of artistic expression. Rod then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a 50 year-old listener in a 25-year open relationship who has never used the gay hookup apps and wants advice about how to start.

Brian and Judson hookup with Grey Henson and talk the sexual appeal of Bigfoot, the challenges of dating as an actor, Daddy physique vs energy, and moving past the fear of new connections 31.03.2026 1ч 31мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway musical theatre star Grey Henson! Grey takes Brian and Judson through his nonstop career that took off immediately upon leaving college with his casting as Elder McKinley in the first national tour and Broadway productions of The Book of Mormon, through his Tony-nominated performance as the iconic role of Damian in Mean Girls, to 2023's surprise hit musical, Shucked, to starring as Buddy the Elf in the recent revival of Elf, to now playing the title role in the current off-Broadway show, Bigfoot The Musical. Grey also gets personal and talks about his search for a partner since moving to New York twelve years ago, the struggle of people making assumptions about who he is as a person based on how they perceive him on the stage, and the absence in his life of his father, both now that he has passed, but also even while he was alive. He also talks about existing at the paradox of having Daddy physique, but without feeling he possesses Daddy energy. Grey then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has become paralyzed with fear about making new connections.

Brian and Judson hookup with Eric Williams and talk being slut podcasters comparing coasts, making bad money, and sleeping with friends 24.03.2026 1ч 38мин

Brian and Judson are joined by comedian, actor and host of the immensely popular “That’s a Gay Ass Podcast,” Eric Williams. Eric talks about the origins of both his hit podcast and his open marriage, how his mom came to find out he and his husband are open, how his gay life is blossoming after a move from New York to L.A., and the truth behind the gay marriage question. He also tells Brian and Judson about “Why All the Drama,” the solo show he’s currently touring around the US and his aspirations for the future of his life and career.

Brian and Judson hookup with John-Andrew Morrison and talk being husband to Jane, Jinkx, Hannah and John Cameron, careers reclaimed through sobriety, afternoon nookie, and loving yourself enough to be late for your house 17.03.2026 1ч 29мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Broadway actor John-Andrew Morrison, currently on the boards as Mary’s Husband in Oh, Mary! John-Andrew talks about how he came to play our 16th president in Broadway’s most outrageous play, how he was able to make the role his own, and the differences between his four leading ladies since he took office–Jane Krakowski, Hannah Solow, Jinkx Monsoon and John Cameron Mitchell. He also celebrates 18 years of sobriety, the community he has found through recovery, and how being sober helped him reclaim his career. John-Andrew details his decade-long journey with A Strange Loop, winner of both the Pulitzer Prize and the Tony Award, and the show for which he also received a Tony nomination. He then shares three Daddy Issues–one sexy, one practical and one literal–before helping Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about strategies for saying no and making sure boundaries are respected.

Brian and Judson hookup with Mike Fails and Gina Spears and talk queer friendships, surviving trauma, the quest to bottom and messy hookups 10.03.2026 1ч 30мин

Brian and Judson joined by hosts of “The Big C*nty Couch” podcast, Mike Fails and drag queen Gina Spears! Mike and Gina reveal the bold choice that first solidified their now fifteen-year friendship before either was out of the closet, the secret sauce that has kept them so close for so long, how they each define their sexuality and what made them decide to create a podcast together. Each also shares personal stories including the origins of the Gina Spears persona, the challenges of the past year since Mike’s husband survived a nightmarish accident, and so much more. Together, the four respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to handle hooking up with someone he likes, but whose home is a complete mess.

Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, in which they talk hooking up on a family cruise, sex for the sake of the story, the treatment of women by gay men, and how deep the friendship with a friend-with-benefits should be 03.03.2026 1ч 12мин

Our Dad and Daddy reunite after Judson’s week in San Francisco for work and Brian’s Disney Cruise in the Caribbean with his family, and they each provide a full report on their travels, including the hookup activity that happened for one and not the other. Judson sees “Pillion” a second time and takes his husband to see it for his first. Brian suggests that listeners read John Paul Brammer’s book, “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons” in advance of his appearance on the podcast in the coming weeks. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who again takes us to a public cruising spot in Australia. Judson raises some thoughts and concerns that have been on his mind about the way gay men treat women. The two end the episode responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about how friendships with the people we hook up with work inside an open relationship.

Brian and Judson hookup with Honey Davenport and talk bridging the drag and leather communities, the importance of Dads, Daddies and Drag Mothers, starting activism young, and navigating the apps as a non-binary person 24.02.2026 1ч 21мин

Brian and Judson are joined by drag icon, RuPaul’s Drag Race alum and reigning Mr. Palm Springs Leather, Honey Davenport! Honey talks about their entree into the leather community over the last few years, bridging the drag and leather sides of their persona, why it’s important to address them as Honey, their thoughts on a return to Drag Race, their journey into adult content creation, the childhood origins of their activism and community service, and the need for mentorship in the queer community. They also tell us about the launch of their line of tights designed for the drag community, Honey’s Hose, detail how they fit into the Davenport family tree, and talk about their various relationship statuses as a polyamorous person. Honey then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a non-binary listener curious for thoughts on how to signal on the apps that Daddy and femme can co-exist early enough in a conversation to ensure expectations are set and met while keeping it sexy.

Brian and Judson hookup with Timothy Westbrook and talk Project Runway secrets, designing fashion from a place without shame, blindfolded hookups, and sex with a disability 17.02.2026 1ч 32мин

Brian and Judson are joined by fashion designer and sometime Son to Judson’s Daddy, Timothy Westbrook. After sharing behind-the-scenes secrets of his time on the 12th season of “Project Runway,” Timothy discusses his mission to design from a place without shame and how it inspires his very special collection, TL Brooke Bridal. He provides his unique perspective on rituals and ceremonies, and talks about how he works with clients of all gender expressions to create pieces that personify and celebrate their entire being. Timothy then reveals how he found his way to Dads and Daddies through a hookup story Judson shared on the pod three months ago, and dives deep into the fulfillment he finds in blindfolding himself during sex, his talent for being a good boy, how he protects himself when hooking up with strangers and his aspirations to a porn career. He also talks about his experience living life as a sexual person with a stoma and ostomy bag after his large intestine was removed due to ulcerative colitis.

Brian and Judson hookup with Jason Veasey and talk Best Medicine, his secret to a successful long-term relationship, reclaiming sexuality after the HIV diagnosis, and advocating for queer Black-on-Black love on TV 10.02.2026 1ч 30мин

Brian and Judson are joined by star of stage and screen Jason Veasey, currently co-starring in the new comedy-drama, “Best Medicine,” on Fox and Hulu. Jason talks about the joy of being on the sets of both his current show and “Only Murders in the Building,” his desire to represent gay men our age on screen as sexual beings, and the need for more depictions of queer Black-on-Black love and sex in TV and film. He also gets personal and chats with Brian and Judson about sexual comfort levels, the value he places on sex in his relationship, being in a long-term relationship without living together, reclaiming his sexuality after his HIV diagnosis, sharing the news of his diagnosis with his family, and what it took for him to realize that he’s versatile in bed. Jason then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how he should conduct himself around his grade school-age niblings when the MAGA members of his husband’s extended family feel that kids shouldn’t know that gay people exist.

Brian and Judson hookup with Ben Zumsteg and talk Disco Fizz, leaving alcohol behind, second chapters and being the Good Boy when you look like a Daddy 03.02.2026 1ч 30мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Ben Zumsteg, founder of Disco Fizz, a new premium non-alcoholic drink brand focused on serving queer nightlife. Ben shares the origins of his disordered relationship with alcohol, his personal journey to an alcohol-free life, the gay bar problem he’s trying to solve, how he knew it was the right time to start his own business, and his challenge being approached as a Daddy when he still wants to be a Good Boy. Ben then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question submitted by a listener who wants help building and maintaining self-confidence.

Brian and Judson talk Deshaming Sluttiness, Heated Rivalry, Spontaneous Sex and Hooking Up with Celebrities 27.01.2026 1ч 14мин

Brian and Judson focus on a topic for the first time in over three months! In a discussion about Deshaming Sluttiness, Brian looks to Judson after a particularly active day of hookups to make sure it’s okay that he doesn't feel remorse about his "promiscuous" behavior.

Brian and Judson hookup with Aidan Wharton and talk the need to revive our connection skills, alternatives to monogamy, overcommunicating in open relationships and building community through the hookup apps 20.01.2026 1ч 31мин

Brian and Judson are joined by Aidan Wharton, creator of the Substack bestseller, Gay Buffet, and host of Getting Close, a podcast that aims to revive humanity’s connection skills, which Aidan warns are being intentionally destroyed by the tech companies that control the world. Aidan shares how he found his purpose, how he knew that monogamy wasn’t for him, his exploration of open relationships through his writing, the cardinal rule of his open marriage, and how Grindr is useful for so much more than finding sex. Aidan then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has discovered that he and his husband are no longer on the same page about the status of their open relationship, after a series of changes to their work and living situations.