Lessons in Overthinking & Obsessing

Why Can't You Stop Obsessing? 7 Types of Overthinking Explained 31.05.2026 23мин

Why can't you stop obsessing over certain thoughts, conversations, mistakes, or future scenarios? In this episode, I (Carly Ann) explore overthinking share 7 of the most common types of overthinking.Understanding your personal style of overthinking is the first step toward breaking free from obsessive thoughts and regaining control of your mind.Whether you struggle with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, worry, perfectionism, or constant overanalysis, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps to help you overcome overthinking and live more fully in the present moment.In this episode, you'll learn:• What overthinking is • The 7 different types of overthinking• How each style triggers certain feelings & behaviours• Practical guidance on how to stop overthinking and reduce anxietyIf you're ready to stop living in your head and start living in the moment, this episode is for you.Useful links:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠Keywords: overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxiety, rumination, intrusive thoughts, mental health, mindfulness, emotional wellness, self-help, personal growth, happiness, overanalyzing, worry, stress management, self-awareness, mental clarity, psychology, emotional resilience, living in the present moment.

Overthinking & Obsessing? Therapist Shares Key Helpful Insights, Plus What NOT to Do When You'r Stuck in Your Head 26.05.2026 21мин

In this episode, I’m (Carly Ann) introducing the new direction of the podcast and why I changed the name from Lessons in Self Worth to Lessons in Overthinking and Obsessing.If you struggle with overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, social anxiety, health anxiety, reassurance seeking, or feeling stuck in mental loops you can’t switch off, this ep is going to feel lovely for youComing Up:Why this is now the podcast and place to be if you're an overthinkerDifferent types of overthinking and obsessingHow overthinking links to self-worthThe emotional, behavioural, and physical impact of overthinkingThe core mistake people make when trying to stop overthinkingA quick, more effective approach that can help take the weight and fear out of difficult thoughts todayCURRENT LINKS:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠

The SPOTLIGHT Effect: Breaking Free From Social Anxiety Moments 03.05.2026 14мин

Are you feeling self-conscious, anxious, or like everyone is watching you, especially in social situations? You might feel embarrassed talking at work, scared to share your opinion with friends, or nervous to talk to a stranger...That’s the spotlight effect - a common cognitive bias where you overestimate how much others notice our appearance, behaviour, mistakes, or the fact you're anxious.In this episode, I (Modern CBT Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann) discuss the spotlight effect in more detail, including more on what it is, examples you can relate to, the impact, and I explore practical strategies to overcome the spotlight effect. If you struggle with fear of judgement, awkward social moments, or replaying conversations in your head, this episode will help you give you a moment of feeling so seen - and how to break free from it.Hosted by Carly Ann, this episode is ideal for anyone interested in psychology, mental health, anxiety management, and personal development.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠

Therapist Tips: Stop Arguing With Yourself and Trust Your New Mindset 29.04.2026 17мин

Changing your mindset and beginning to think in a new way is not just about learning & repeating the new thoughts. It often comes with an internal battle that no one really talks about, feeling like you are arguing with yourself. In this episode I (Carly Ann) explore what it feels like when you are trying to grow, but your mind keeps arguing with you, doubting you, or pulling you back into old patterns.You might notice two parts of you showing up at the same time. One part wants change and another part does not fully trust it yet. This inner conflict can feel confusing, frustrating, and discouraging, but it is a normal part of building self-esteem and shifting long held beliefs.I also share practical therapist informed tools and self help techniques to help you start calming that internal argument, strengthen new ways of thinking, and build more trust in yourself over time.If you are in the middle of change and it feels hard - save this ep or listen right nowLinks below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠⁠

Using Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT) with Low Self-Esteem - Including a LIVE practice 27.04.2026 17мин

Struggling with overwhelming thoughts, anxiety or low self-esteem? You are not alone, and this episode is here to help you take a meaningful first step towards change.In this episode, we explore Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a modern and evidence-based approach that helps you break free from negative thinking patterns, build emotional resilience and reconnect with what truly matters to you.You will learn the core principles of ACT, including acceptance, mindfulness and values-based living, so you can decide if this powerful approach is right for you. There is also a live guided practice, giving you a real and practical experience of how ACT can work in your everyday life.If you are dealing with anxiety, intrusive thoughts or low confidence, this episode offers practical tools, mental health insights and empowering strategies to support your wellbeing and personal growth.Tune in to begin changing your relationship with your thoughts and start moving forward with greater clarity and self-compassion.Keywords: anxiety support, low self-esteem, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, ACT therapy, mindfulness, mental health podcast UK, emotional wellbeing, self development, confidence building⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Doing The Work On Negative Automatic Thoughts Before Your Spiral & Obsess 22.04.2026 15мин

Do you ever say something and then have hundreds of obsessive thoughts along the line of “I was awkward” “They don’t like me” “I’ve pushed them away”?Or someone doesn't text back and you are flooded with “I’ve done something wrong”, “they’re losing interest”, or "why did I have to do that"This kind of spiral feels so real...but what actually happened might be nothing, but you have a tendency to create a massive, panful story in your mind anywayIn this episode I (Carly Ann), talk about how to break this cycle and I share quite a famous method by a book I read years ago but has stuck with me.I hope you love it and find it as useful as many others around the world.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

This Style of Thinking Are Putting A Strain on Relationships AND Self-Worth 19.04.2026 11мин

If your mood can shift in an instant and you quickly get stuck in your head - listen to this today.We have thousands of thoughts every single day, but what most people don’t realise is that those thoughts often fall into predictable patterns.And these patterns matter.Because the way you think doesn’t just reflect reality, it can quietly distort it. It can change how you see situations, how you judge people, and even how you interpret yourself.And once that shift happens, everything else follows: how you feel… and what you choose to do next.In this episode, Carly Ann breaks down the exact thought patterns and the specific language that can make people feel triggered, hurt, overwhelmed, or suddenly irritated without fully understanding why.And most importantly, she shows you how to start noticing these patterns in real time and begin stepping out of them.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Self-Esteem Specialist Shares KEY Mind-Set Shift for Rejection & Failure 15.04.2026 6мин

We all experience setbacks in the form of criticism, rejection, and failure - and the reality is that some of us getting more triggered by it than othersFor some of you, the slight hint of failure or rejection will lead to intense worry, physical anxiety, and not feeling good enoughIf that reaction is getting in the way of your potential, your happiness, and your wellbeing - you need to listen to this episodeIt's short and sweet, it's a small clip from the most recent Self-Worth RESET

When Good People Are Done with People Pleasing & Self-Abandonment 12.04.2026 16мин

You're a good person, in fact you're probably anxious about not being a good person...And you know that you people please.You say yes when you actually mean noYou say sorry for things that aren’t even your faultYou go along with what others think, even if you don’t agreeYou over-explain yourself so people don’t judge youYou put everyone else first and end up exhaustedYou get to be a good person and show up as your self too, and ultimately feel happierIn this episode, Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann gives you 3 options that you can go ahead and put straight into practiceNot only does it help you reduce people pleasing (and feel free for the BS!), but it's brilliant for self respect, happiness, and self-esteem - absolute bonus!I've put some real love into this ep based on what shows up in my practice, I hope you enjoyLinks below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Determined to Reparent Yourself? Here are some Key Concepts to Help You 05.04.2026 12мин

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, old patterns or your past seems to get in the way?You may seem confident on the outside, but inside, self-doubt, overthinking, or big emotions can take control. Many of us carry invisible wounds from childhood, times we felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant. Those old patterns can follow us into adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, our choices, and our relationships.I believe it is our role, to reparent ourselves and be the kind of support we always craved.When we do this, we get to create a life bigger than we imagined.In this episode, Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and Somatic Coach who specialises in self-esteem and self-worth, talks about reparenting, a gentle and practical way to give yourself the care and support you may have missed as a child. It is not about blaming the past. It is about learning to be your own nurturing parent.If you have ever felt not enough, this episode is for you. Tune in and start giving yourself the love and care you have always deserved.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Therapist Shares 3 Painful Patterns Mums Fall Into, Plus a Tool to Improve Your Wellbeing Immediately 30.03.2026 8мин

Are you a mum? Are you feeling worried and anxious in a way that feels out of proportion?Perhaps you have always worried or struggled with Self-Esteem, but when it comes to being a Mum it feels uncontrollable?As a Therapist that focuses on self-esteem, I very often work with Mums that doubt themselves, criticise themselves, and set expectations that lead to anxiety, low mood, and overwhelm.In this episode I share three common patterns that show up in the therapy room, in individual and group settings for Mum.These patterns can contribute to daily struggles or post natal depression / post natal anxietyIf you do believe you may have clinical depression or anxiety, please do seek out support, you do not need to suffer aloneLinks below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Struggling With Low Self-Esteem and Self-Doubt? Listen to THIS, it will give you the boost you're looking for! 25.03.2026 11мин

Are you feeling bad about yourself, giving yourself a hard time, or struggling with self-worth?You need to listen to this, I (Carly Ann) and getting real about what makes these moments and cycles even worse.If you want to break free and embody your worthy SELF, I'm telling you what you need to hear in this episode.It's here for a boost, plus tips on how to shift your thinking.I invite you to use a mind-set shift that helps self-esteem, save this ep for later or dive straight inLinks below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

INNER CHILD WORK: Therapist Tools for Managing Rejection 22.03.2026 16мин

Supporting Your Inner Child Through RejectionRejection can hit deeper than we expect - whether it’s a major life moment or the subtle, everyday kind. If you’ve ever felt disproportionately triggered, shut down, or emotionally overwhelmed by rejection, it may be your inner child asking for care and attention.In this episode, we explore how experiences of rejection can activate old wounds and why your inner child might feel unsafe, unseen, or unworthy in those moments. This conversation is for anyone doing inner work, self-healing, or exploring inner child practices and wanting practical ways to respond with compassion instead of self-criticism.I’ll guide you through three powerful techniques you can use when rejection arises - these are simple yet supportive tools to help you reconnect, regulate, and create a sense of inner safety. The third technqiue is inspired by self-compassion therapy and can be especially effective in shifting how you react.If you’re ready to meet yourself with more kindness, soften your triggers, and build a more secure relationship within, this episode will give you grounding, actionable support.Tune in to learn how to turn moments of rejection into opportunities for healing, connection, and self-trust.Note: If inner child work ever feels overwhelming or 'too much'. Take a break, and feel free to do this with me during Single Session Therapy.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠

Living a Happier & More Intentional Life with Mo Seetubtim 16.03.2026 31мин

Today I am speaking with a special guest, Mo Seetubtim, whose journey includes a deep passion for helping people live happier lives. You are invited to listen to a conversation where we explore personal development and steps towards being more intentional in your relationships and day-to-day life. From childhood curiosities to navigating the complexities of family dynamics, Mo shares personal stories of growth, self-awareness, and doing the work that led to a better relationship with herself and mother. You get a lovely glimpse into some of the ways Mo has improved managing daily moods, and building habits that truly well-being.The discussion touches on the challenges we all face when starting to change, the subtle ways our past influences our present, and the mindset shifts that can lead to more empathy, patience, and self-compassion. Links below:⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE

3 Ways Past Relational Trauma Impacts Adult Relationships & Makes Them Feel HARD 15.03.2026 8мин

Why do relationships sometimes trigger anxiety, jealousy, or the feeling that you’re not enough, even when things seem fine on the surface?I’m Carly Ann, a psychotherapist and coach specialising in self-esteem and self-worth. I work with people who appear capable and self-aware on the outside, but internally struggle with self-doubt, rumination, perfectionism, or relationship anxiety. You might know you’re worthy, yet still feel patterns repeating that leave you unsettled in your connections.In this episode, I talk about how relational trauma can quietly show up in your adult relationships and anxiety. This isn’t about tips or quick fixes...it’s about noticing patterns, understanding what’s happening beneath the surface, and recognising that you’re not alone.If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react this way in relationships?” or felt frustrated by your own responses, this episode is for you. Press play to start seeing your reactions with clarity, awareness, and a little more compassion for yourself.Links below:⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠Join NewsletterJoin my Telegram HERE

Overthinking and Jealous? Mindset Shift for When You’re Not the Priority 11.03.2026 11мин

You trust your partner… so why does jealousy still hit?The obsessing, the overthinking, the anxiety that makes you question yourself and your relationship.In this episode, psychotherapist Carly Ann explores why even self-aware, capable people struggle with jealousy, anxious thoughts, and insecure attachment, and shares a powerful mindset shift that can change how you experience love and connection.If relationship anxiety, obsessing, or jealousy has ever held you back, this episode is for you.Links below:⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠Join Newsletter

Therapist Shares What Low Self-Esteem Really is & What Keeps it Stuck 08.03.2026 19мин

If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-doubt, or feeling not good enough, ands it impacts your anxiety and wellbeing - you’re in the right place. Honestly, a lot of people look confident and happy on the outside but privately feel stuck in cycles of overthinking, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and self-criticism.In this episode, I (Psychotherapist and Self-Esteem Specialist, Carly Ann) open up a deeper conversation about what low self-esteem really is and why it can continue showing up even when you are doing the inner work. - we look at what keeps it going.Low self-worth often isn’t just about confidence. It can be connected to deeper beliefs we carry about ourselves and the subtle patterns that keep those beliefs alive in everyday life, I will explain more in this episode.If certain situations trigger intense self-doubt, you jump to the worst conclusions about yourself, or things just feel so difficult, I think this could really help you today.I work with thoughtful, capable people who often appear confident externally but internally struggle with rumination, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling like they are never quite good enough.This episode is for anyone beginning to question their relationship with themselves and wanting to understand low self-esteem and self-worth on a deeper level.If you are learning to reparent yourself, build self-acceptance, and develop a kinder inner voice - welcome to the community. Links below:Work with Carly AnnFREE: Self-Worth RESETJoin Newsletter

Obsessing Over Them & Wondering How to Get Your Ex (Or Someone Specific) Back? - The Podcast I Wish I Had Back Then 24.02.2026 4мин

⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ are all the details for The Self-Worth RESET, make sure you join up todayJOIN PRIVATE TELEGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for Newsletter Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Carly Ann on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠Do you want your ex back? Or you want someone specific? If you're feeling down or anxious because you can't stop thinking about someone you like... this so for you.I was there, where you are. This is the life changing advice needed when you are in that moment of needing them, wanting them, thinking about them.It's all consuming isn't it, sometimes to the point of not being able to focus or function, which is why you want them back... that and you feel they truly are the one.

Stop Comparing Yourself and Caring What People Think: CBT Therapist Explains a Powerful Technique 22.02.2026 15мин

Do you care too much about what other people think? Are you constantly comparing yourself socially and feel like everyone else is more successful, more confident, more together than you?In this episode, I talk about low self-esteem and the exhausting habit of comparing yourself to colleagues, exes, friends, and other mums. From overthinking group chats and replaying conversations to scrolling social media and feeling behind, this pattern keeps you worrying, shrinking, and playing small inside your comfort zone - and this only makes worse how much you care!I share a powerful self-help technique used in therapy called Behavioural Experiments, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tool designed to help you challenge negative thoughts, test your fears in real life, and build genuine confidence and self-love. Instead of letting comparison and fear control your choices, you will learn how to step outside your comfort zone and start proving to yourself that you are enough, in four simple steps.If you are ready to stop feeling inferior and start strengthening your self-esteem and self-worth, this episode will give you a practical and empowering place to begin.⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ are all the details for The Self-Worth RESET, make sure you join up todayJOIN PRIVATE TELEGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Anxious Avoidant Attachment Affirmations | Heal the Push Pull Relationship Cycle 15.02.2026 7мин

These affirmations are made with love for anyone caught in the anxious avoidant trap/cycle. This community knows push and pull relationship and how anxiety provoking it isListen to this if you need to stabilise and reclaim your sense of selfThese words from Carly Ann are designed to help regulate your nervous system, soften anxiety, and support attachment healing without pressure or force.Perfect for moments of overthinking, relationship anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or when you feel stuck between reaching out and pulling away.anxious avoidant attachmentattachment style healingnervous system regulationrelationship anxietyemotional safety & self-soothingListen when you need calm, reassurance, and a reminder that you are safe Sign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Carly Ann ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠