Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

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  TPP 521: A Conversation with Dr. Peter Gray About Restoring Childhood 15.09.2026 46min

  I’m talking with developmental psychologist Dr. Peter Gray about his new book, Restoring Childhood: How to Set Kids Free in the Age of Anxiety, which challenges one of the dominant narratives about the youth mental health crisis: that smartphones and social media are largely to blame for the rise in anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges among kids. Peter argues that this picture is incomplete, and that when we look more closely at the data and at what has changed in childhood over the past several decades, a very different story emerges.  So today we dig into what Peter believes we’re missing when we focus so much attention on screens, including the rise of intensive parenting and overprotection, the loss of independence and free play, and especially the increasingly stressful and demanding role that school plays in children’s lives. We also talk about why kids need unstructured time, autonomy, and opportunities to take age-appropriate risks, and Peter shares practical ideas for giving our kids more freedom to build confidence, resilience, and a stronger sense of agency. ​ About Dr. Peter Gray  Dr. Peter Gray is a research professor of psychology and neuroscience at Boston College. He has conducted and published research in neuroendocrinology, developmental psychology, anthropology, and education. He did his undergraduate study at Columbia University and earned a Ph.D. in biological sciences at Rockefeller University. His current research and writing focus primarily on children’s natural ways of learning and the life-long value of play. He has helped found and continues to support nonprofit organizations aimed at bringing more play and independent activity to children’s lives.He is the author of an internationally acclaimed college introductory psychology textbook (Psychology, now in its 8th edition), which views all of psychology from an evolutionary perspective, and of Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life. Things you'll learn from this episode  How Peter Gray defines childhood as a gradual process of growing independence, autonomy, and responsibility Why the rise of intensive parenting and overprotection has reduced kids’ freedom and may be contributing to increased stress and anxiety How Common Core and increasingly demanding, high-pressure school environments have fundamentally changed children’s experience of childhood Why Peter argues that school pressure and the loss of independence may be bigger drivers of the youth mental health crisis than smartphones and social media How free play, self-directed activity, and opportunities to take age-appropriate risks build confidence, resilience, and agency What parents can do to give kids more freedom, independence, and control over their own lives Resources mentioned Dr. Peter Gray’s website Dr. Peter Gray’s Substack Restoring Childhood: How to Set Kids Free in the Age of Anxiety by Dr. Peter Gray Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life by Dr. Peter Gray A Historic Settlement Over Social Media Addiction (The Daily podcast) Let Grow   Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 253a: Advocate and Author Jonathan Mooney on Why Normal Sucks 11.09.2026 43min

  I’m excited to share this powerful and gut-punching conversation with Jonathan Mooney, a self-described “do-gooder,” speaker, and writer who didn’t learn to read until he was 12-years-old. Growing up with Dyslexia, Jonathan faced a number of low expectations: he was told he would be a high-school dropout and likely end up in jail. Instead, he earned a degree in English Literature, started his first non-profit organization in his college dorm, and has gone on to write a number of books, including his latest title Normal Sucks (which, side note: should be required reading for everyone). He’s been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and his award-winning advocacy projects have been featured in major media outlets across the US.  THINGS YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: The powerful messages, both positive and negative, Jonathan heard from the adults in his life as a child with dyslexia What it means to pathologize difference, and how even well-meaning organizations participate in this The difficult and disturbing historical outcomes for differently-abled people, including the ideas and legacy of the Eugenics movement.  How the idea of “normal” has evolved since Jonathan started his advocacy work Why Jonathan believes that learning differences are a gift and why this is such an important concept What parents and teachers can do to help children to see their differences as strengths Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 520: Dr. Özgür Bolat on Why Rewards Backfire and the Real Science of Motivating Kids 08.09.2026 41min

  ​In this conversation, Debbie Reber speaks with Dr. Özgür Bolat about his book The Reward Trap and the hidden costs of using rewards to motivate children. Dr. Bolat explains that rewards may create short-term compliance, but they often undermine intrinsic motivation, self-esteem, and long-term confidence by teaching kids that love and approval are conditional on performance.  Drawing from his own experience as a highly accomplished student who became dependent on external validation, he argues that parents should shift from a control mindset to a connection mindset—asking what a child needs, helping them feel understood, and building internal motivation through effort, autonomy, and trust rather than prizes or pressure. About Dr. Özgür Bolat  Dr. Özgür Bolat is a distinguished education scientist, researcher, associate professor, and author with a career spanning academia, media, and corporate partnerships. His groundbreaking research on parenting and teaching has earned him international recognition, including the prestigious Best Young Researcher award in New Zealand. He holds a master’s degree from Harvard Graduate School of Education (Fulbright and TEV scholar) and a PhD from the University of Cambridge.  During his doctoral studies, he spent one year as a visiting PhD student at MIT Sloan. His academic work has been complemented by a successful media career, where he served as a columnist for a major national newspaper for 12 years, establishing himself as a leading voice in education and parenting. Dr. Bolat is a highly sought-after keynote speaker and parenting workshop leader. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why rewards and praise can create short-term compliance while undermining intrinsic motivation over time How conditional praise and external validation can contribute to anxiety, perfectionism, and a sense that approval must be earned Why behavior is often a signal of an unmet need rather than a lack of discipline How shifting from a control mindset to a connection mindset changes the way we respond to our kids Why focusing on effort rather than intelligence helps children build resilience and authentic motivation How parents can nurture kids who are internally motivated, self-respecting, and connected rather than focused on obedience Resources mentioned  Dr. Özgür Bolat’s website The Reward Trap book website The Reward Trap: Why Rewards Backfire and the Real Science of Motivation Kids by Dr. Özgür Bolat (on Amazon) Alfie Kohn on Practicing Unconditional Parenting (Tilt Parenting podcast) Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason by Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohn David Yeager on the Science of Motivating Young People (Tilt Parenting podcast) Mindset: How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential by Carol Dweck Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 519: Brendan Mahan on Overcoming the Wall of Awful 01.09.2026 43min

  What if the reason you or your child can’t “just do the thing” is not laziness, but a Wall of Awful built from repeated frustration, shame, anxiety, and failure? Brendan Mahan breaks down the hidden emotional barrier behind procrastination, avoidance, and shutdown - and shows how to actually get through it without burning out. Debbie Reber welcomes Brendan back to unpack his new book, Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It’s Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism and Anxiety, and How to Do Them Anyway. Together they make this deceptively simple metaphor concrete, useful, and surprisingly validating for parents, educators, clinicians, and anyone who has ever stared at a task and felt their brain go sideways. About Brendan Mahan  Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., MS., is the author of Overcoming the Wall of Awful™, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. A sought-after speaker, and neurodivergent person himself, Brendan helps organizations and individuals manage neurodiverse challenges through education, collaborative problem-solving, compassion, and accountability.  He is on the board of the Men’s ADHD Support Group, Director of Professional Resources for Calmer Con Boston, and a former committee member of the International Conference on ADHD. He has featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, LinkedIn, Understood, How to ADHD, VeryWell Mind, and ADDitude. Things you'll learn from this episode  How the Wall of Awful creates an emotional barrier that can make starting or completing tasks feel impossible Why anxiety and adrenaline can sometimes help us climb the Wall of Awful while also taking a toll How creating “doors” in the Wall can provide quicker paths to regulation and getting unstuck Why making tasks interesting, meaningful, or connected to personal values can reduce avoidance How rejection sensitive dysphoria can add another layer to the Wall of Awful and how parents can support kids through it Why having shared language and practical tools for talking about Walls of Awful can help kids better understand and navigate their experience Resources mentioned Brendan Mahan’s website Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It’s Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism, and Anxiety (and How to Do Them Anyway) by Brendan Mahan The Wall of Awful Brendan’s ADHD Essentials Community on Facebook ADHD Essentials on Instagram Brendan Mahan on LinkedIn ADHD Essentials on Blue Sky ADHD Essentials on X Jessica McCabe How to ADHD YouTube channel Wall of Awful on How to ADHD (YouTube videos) The Anti-Planner: How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don't Feel Like It - Undated ADHD Planner Alternative for Adults, Women & Teens, 100+ Productivity Strategies for Focus & Procrastination by Dani Donovan Dani Donovan’s website Dr. William Dodson  Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/tilt or use code TILT and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 426a: Georgie Wisen-Vincent on Unlocking Our Kids’ Emotional Balance and Resilience with The Way of Play 28.08.2026 45min

  Joining me is Georgie Wisen-Vincent, an expert in play therapy and co-author, alongside Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, of the new book The Way of Play: Using Little Moments of Big Connection to Raise Kind and Confident Kids. In today’s episode, Georgie shares insights from The Way of Play and explains why play is a universal language that helps kids express their feelings and navigate life’s challenges. We discuss how parents can intentionally use play to strengthen bonds, nurture sibling relationships, and reconnect after time apart. Georgie also offers practical strategies for engaging in play effectively, such as mirroring your child’s play to deepen connection and understanding. Plus, we explore how play isn’t just for kids—it’s a lifelong skill that can enhance relationships at every stage of life.   Things you'll learn * Why play is a natural language that fosters social-emotional development, allowing children to express their feelings and process difficult experiences * How parents can strengthen connections by intentionally setting aside time for play and becoming active observers rather than controllers * How little moments of play can lead to big connections, helping to nurture sibling relationships and strengthen bonds after time apart * How to engage in play effectively, mirroring our child’s play to enhance connection and understanding * Why play is a lifelong skill that not only supports children’s growth but also enriches adult relationships and communication Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 518: Good Sleeping for Neurodivergent Kids, with Dr. Melisa Moore 25.08.2026 41min

  ​Today we’re talking about the complex and often misunderstood sleep challenges that show up in neurodivergent kids with Dr. Melisa Moore, a clinical psychologist who is board-certified in behavioral sleep medicine and has spent years supporting children, teens, and young adults with sleep and mood concerns. We’ll talk about some of the concepts in Melisa’s new book, The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids, including why sleep issues are so common in neurodivergent children, the role of underlying conditions like obstructive sleep apnea, how to recognize when something more than “typical” sleep struggles might be going on, and what kinds of support can actually make a difference. Melisa also shares practical strategies for improving sleep routines and helping kids—and their families—get the rest they need. About Melisa Moore, PhD  Melisa Moore, PhD, is a clinical psychologist board-certified in behavioral sleep medicine. Dr. Moore currently practices in the Los Angeles area and virtually across the country, supporting children, teens, and young adults for a variety of sleep and mood issues. She also works for the Sleep Center at Rady Children’s Health, San Diego. Dr. Moore continues to supervise medical and psychology trainees and teaches courses on pediatric sleep around the world. She previously worked at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) for 17 years, serving as the Psychosocial Director of the Sleep Center and as faculty of the University of Pennsylvania. Inspired by her work with families in combination with her experience as a mom, Dr. Moore’s book The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids is a compassionate, comprehensive, science-backed guide to improving sleep in neurodiverse children and teens, released by New World Library on March 4, 2026. Things you'll learn from this episode  How biology, genetics, and circadian rhythms shape sleep patterns in neurodivergent children Why sleep challenges are so common in kids with ADHD and autism, and what’s driving them How to recognize signs of obstructive sleep apnea and other underlying sleep disorders Why co-occurring conditions like allergies or hypermobility can further disrupt sleep How consistent routines and supportive sleep associations can improve bedtime success When to seek professional support and what options are available for addressing complex sleep issues Resources mentioned Dr. Melisa Moore’s website The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids: Science-Backed Strategies for Children and Teens with ADHD, Autism, and Other Neurodiversities by Melisa Moore, PhD Alex Mortlock Explains Circadian Rhythm Syndromes & Complex Sleep Challenges (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Mel Houser on Navigating the Healthcare System as a Neurodivergent Person (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Zachary Rubin on What Every Parent Should Understand About Allergies (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Roberto Olivardia on ADHD and Sleep Challenges (Tilt Parenting podcast) American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) Pediatric Sleep Council National Sleep Foundation (NSF)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 352a: Occupational Therapist Kelly Mahler on the Power in Understanding & Supporting Neurodivergent Kids' Interoception Experience 21.08.2026 36min

  I wanted to explore this concept of interoception and differently wired kids more deeply for the show, so I reached out to Kelly Mahler, an occupational therapist who specializes in interoception and is a co-principal investigator in several research projects pertaining to topics such as interoception, self-regulation, trauma, and autism. Kelly answered my big questions about interoception, including how it relates to sensory processing differences or SPD, why it’s essential that we help our children get to know their bodies’ unique language, and the relationship between ADHD, autism, and interoception. We also talked about what happens in our kids’ brains when they increase their interoceptive awareness, and effective strategies for helping our kids develop in this area.     Things you'll learn from this episode: * What interoception is and how it relates to sensory processing differences * What the spectrum of interoception awareness is and how extremes may manifest * The relationship between ADHD, autism, and interoception challenges * How to support a child with poor interoception awareness to become more tuned in to their body’s internal experience * What happens in our brains when we start to increase our interoception awareness * How to help older kids who’ve been on the receiving end of compliance-based strategies to reconnect with and trust their bodies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 517: James Guttman on Becoming the Father His Autistic Son Needed 18.08.2026 32min

  Today I’m talking with James Guttman, author of Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation. James is the father of a nonspeaking autistic son and a neurotypical daughter, and through his writing and podcast he shares an honest, deeply personal perspective on fatherhood, autism, and the journey toward acceptance. One of the reasons I wanted to have James on the show is because we so rarely hear fathers' voices in conversations about raising neurodivergent kids. Like all of us, James's understanding has evolved over time, and I appreciated the opportunity to talk with him about that evolution, what he's learned from his children, and why acceptance has become such a central part of his story. In our conversation, we talk about fatherhood, acceptance, community, and the unexpected ways our neurodivergent kids can change us for the better. About James Guttman  James Guttman is the author of Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation. As a father to a nonverbal son and a neurotypical daughter, he shares a message rooted in autism appreciation and the belief that our kids’ differences hold their own beauty. His writing reached national attention when his HuffPost Personal essay drew more than 750,000 readers in a single day and became one of the most-clicked stories on Apple News. Through his long-running blog, Hi Blog! I’m Dad, James tells honest, heartfelt stories about parenting, connection, and the shared humanity between his children. James is also the author of the Amazon-bestselling Expectant Father’s Activity Book, and his work has been featured by Love What Matters, The Mighty, the Organization for Autism Research, Yahoo Lifestyle, and more. A survivor of a quintuple bypass at 35 and host of the Hi Pod! I’m Dad podcast, James brings humor, vulnerability, and perspective to conversations about parenting, mental health, and raising kids in a world that doesn’t always understand them. Things you'll learn from this episode  How James’s journey raising neurodivergent children reshaped his understanding of parenting, autism, and himself How surviving a heart attack transformed James’s perspective on fatherhood, presence, and what truly matters Why fathers need more inclusive spaces, community, and support as they navigate parenting neurodivergent kids How authenticity, vulnerability, and redefining masculinity can strengthen relationships with children and challenge outdated assumptions How James’s evolving relationship with his children, and his son’s example, helped him become a more authentic version of himself Resources mentioned  James Guttman’s blog, Hi Blog, I’m Dad Hi World, I’m Dad: How Fathers Can Journey to Autism Awareness, Acceptance, and Appreciation by James Guttman James Guttman on Facebook James on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 280a: Occupational Therapist Rosemary White Talks about DIR / Floortime 14.08.2026 45min

  Pediatric and occupational therapist Rosemary White explains the philosophy behind DIR / Floortime as a powerful modality to support children's sensory, motor, and social / emotional development. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 516: A Conversation with Dr. Gila About Supporting Single Parents of Neurodivergent Kids 11.08.2026 37min

  Today we’re talking about a parenting experience that comes with its own unique set of challenges and complexities: raising neurodivergent kids as a single parent. My guest is Dr. Gila, a clinical psychologist, neuropsychologist, certified parenting coach, and single mom who is passionate about helping grownups support beautifully complex kids with compassion, connection, and brain-based tools that actually work. Drawing from both her professional expertise and lived experience, Dr. Gila has a gift for translating complex ideas into practical strategies parents can put into action right away. In our conversation, we explore the unique realities of solo parenting neurodivergent children, including the emotional load, decision fatigue, and constant balancing act that so many single parents face. Dr. Gila shares practical approaches for managing overwhelm, staying connected to your values, and creating more sustainability in daily life. This is a validating and encouraging conversation for any parent carrying a lot—and especially for those doing it on their own.   About Dr. Gila Dr. Gila is a single mom, certified parenting coach, clinical psychologist, and neuropsychologist. She’s passionate about helping grownups support beautifully complex kids with compassion, connection, and brain-based tools that actually work. Dr. Gila combines her professional background with her lived experience in a relatable, down-to-earth style. Her background as an educator and medical writer makes her especially skilled at translating complex concepts into practical tools you can understand…and actually use. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why grief, worry about the future, and emotional exhaustion are common realities for many single parents How the “sink model” helps explain the mental, emotional, and cognitive load that can lead to overwhelm How strategies like “stop, drop, and roll” and compassionate reframing can support parents through moments of dysregulation Why community, support systems, and self-care practices such as audio journaling are essential for sustainability How values-based parenting, creative connection, and letting go of perfection help families thrive through small, meaningful moments Resources mentioned  Dr. Gila’s website Dr. Gila’s Resources for Tilt listeners Single Parenting with Connection podcast Dr. Gila on Instagram Dr. Gila’s Single Parenting with Connection, Not Perfection Facebook group How to Practice Conscious Co-Parenting, with Jenna Flowers (Tilt Parenting podcast) Sandi Lerman   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 104b: Dr. Lori Baudino on the Power of Movement, Dance, and the Mind/Body Connection 07.08.2026 38min

  Dance/movement therapist Dr. Lori Baudino talks about how teaching differently wired kids to tap into the mind-body connection can help with emotional regulation, social communication, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 515: Dr. Emily King & the Neurodivergent Learner: A New Approach to Your Child's Success 04.08.2026 48min

  Today we’re exploring a more holistic, humane approach to supporting neurodivergent learners — one that starts with understanding the nervous system and builds from there. My guest is Dr. Emily King, a child psychologist who has spent more than 20 years working with neurodivergent youth in both school settings and private practice. She’s the creator of The Neurodiverse Classroom®, a professional development curriculum for educators, and the author of her new book The Neurodivergent Learner, which we’ll be talking about today. In our conversation, Emily and I talk about why safety and regulation are foundational for learning, how relationships at school can shape outcomes in powerful ways, and what it means to redefine success for kids who don’t fit traditional models. We also explore practical ways parents can partner with schools to better support their children, and how shifting our lens can open up new possibilities for growth, connection, and well-being. About Dr. Emily King  Dr. Emily King is a child psychologist who has worked with neurodivergent learners for over 20 years. She received a Ph.D. in School Psychology from the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill and began her career in Houston, Texas, specializing in school-based mental health in K-12 public schools. She has since worked in private practice in North Carolina supporting the mental health, executive functioning, and social needs of neurodivergent youth. Dr. Emily hosts the Learn with Dr. Emily Substack, where she provides parent workshops, is the creator of The Neurodiverse Classroom®, a professional development curriculum for educators, and her first book, The Neurodivergent Learner, was released in August 2026. Things you'll learn from this episode  How mental health, education, and neurodivergence are deeply interconnected in shaping a child’s experience Why building felt safety and a true sense of community at school is foundational for learning How navigating IEPs, homework, and behavior systems benefits from a flexible, relationship-centered approach Why prioritizing social satisfaction over social achievement supports authentic connection and well-being How parents can assess and choose school environments that truly fit their neurodivergent child Why leading with relationships and adaptability strengthens both parenting and advocacy Resources mentioned  Dr. Emily King’s website Learn with Dr. Emily (Emily’s Substack) Learn with Dr. Emily Podcast Dr. Emily on Instagram Dr. Emily on Facebook Free downloads on Emily’s website Redefining Success for Neurodivergent Children, with Dr. Emily (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 421a: A Bonus Conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker about Self-Regulation and Helping Our Children Successfully Engage with Life 31.07.2026 1h 4min

  Dr. Stuart Shanker, author of Self-Reg, shares his expertise on self-regulation, offering practical strategies and compassionate insights to help neurodivergent kids and their families manage stress and build self-awareness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 514: An Introduction to Neurodiversity-Affirming OT, with Dr. Bryden Carlson-Giving 28.07.2026 39min

  Today, I’m joined by Bryden Carlson-Giving, an occupational therapy practitioner and the creator of the EMPOWER model, the first neurodiversity-affirming OT framework. Bryden is both neurodivergent and disabled himself, and his work focuses on helping practitioners challenge ableism and create more supportive, affirming environments for neurodivergent individuals. In our conversation, Bryden walks us through the EMPOWER model and what it looks like in practice, especially when it comes to evaluations, goal-setting, and therapy approaches. We talk about how ableism can show up in subtle and systemic ways, and what it means to truly shift toward inclusive, affirming care. This is a thoughtful, important conversation about reimagining support — not just in therapy, but across education and systems more broadly. About Bryden Carlson-Giving  Bryden Carlson-Giving, OTD, OTR/L is a neurodivergent and disabled occupational therapy practitioner (OTP) with experience in pediatric outpatient, inpatient, and school-based settings. Bryden earned his post-professional doctorate from Boston University, where his research focused on creating a toolkit to support OTPs in challenging ableism within the OT profession. This work led to the development of the first neurodiversity-affirming occupational therapy model, the EMPOWER model. He received the 2024 Emerging Leader Award from Boston University, and is the editor of the first neurodiversity-focused occupational therapy book, titled Neurodiversity-Affirming Occupational Therapy: Empowering Approaches to Foster Neurodivergent Participation. Things you'll learn from this episode  How Bryden’s journey into occupational therapy led to creating a neurodiversity-affirming toolkit Why the Empower model centers strengths-based practice, anti-racism, disability justice, and trauma-informed care How inclusive evaluations can look in practice, especially within school-based systems Why implementing neurodiversity-affirming approaches in bureaucratic settings comes with both challenges and opportunities How ongoing self-reflection and unpacking internalized ableism are essential for practitioners How parents, educators, and therapists can take practical steps to amplify neurodiversity-affirming work Resources mentioned Neuridivergent Nexus (Bryden’s website) Neurodiversity-Affirming Occupational Therapy: Empowering Approaches to Foster Neurodivergent Participation edited by Dr. Bryden Carlson-Giving Bryon Carlson-Giving on Instagram Activist Emily Ladau on Demystifying Disability (Tilt Parenting podcast) Kassiane Asasumasu (coined the term neurodivergence) Dr. Destiny Huff on Neurodiversity-Affirming Advocacy in School (Tilt Parenting podcast) Dr. Jade Rivera and Strength-Based Assessments (Tilt Parenting podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 324a: A Conversation about Declarative Language and Co-Regulation, with Linda Murphy 24.07.2026 44min

  Linda Murphy describes declarative language as a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness, and as you’ll hear from our conversation, it is an ideal communication style for really all children, but especially neurodivergent children and kids whose nervous systems are triggered by demands or more imperative communication styles. We discussed the different ways we can communicate with our children, the language we use, and the effects that simple shifts in the way we have conversations can have in our daily interactions with them. We also explored what is declarative language versus imperative language, as well as the relationship between co-regulation and declarative language and why we should use them in tandem.  Things you'll learn from this episode * What it means to use declarative language (versus imperative language) * Why declarative language is so effective for neurodivergent children, and especially those who are wired to be more demand avoidance * Why declarative language is more effective when paired with co-regulation * Common language and communication styles that place demands on kids that we may not be aware of (including questions) * How to introduce declarative language communication and how it can support a child’s learning and development * What we can hope to see in a child or an adolescent that has been on the receiving end of this style of communication * What to say instead of “Did you hear what I said”? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 513: Understanding Dysgraphia: Beyond the Surface of Messy Handwriting, with Kelli Fetter 21.07.2026 37min

  Today we’re diving into dysgraphia—what it is, how it’s different from general handwriting struggles, and why so many kids go unsupported for far too long. My guest is Kelli Fetter, a certified handwriting specialist and occupational therapist, and the founder of Handwriting Solutions. Kelli breaks down the neurological underpinnings of dysgraphia, how it can show up differently from child to child, and why early recognition is so important. We talk about the role of assessment, how to distinguish dysgraphia from more general handwriting difficulties, and what meaningful support can look like at home and in school. This is a practical, eye-opening conversation for anyone trying to better understand—and advocate for—a child struggling with writing. About Kelli Fetter  Kelli Fetter, MS, OTR/L is a Certified Handwriting Specialist and the founder of Handwriting Solutions, LLC, where she and her team provide world-class handwriting, reading, and spelling tutoring to students virtually across the globe. Beyond her direct work with families, Kelli is a recognized leader in teacher and therapist education, equipping professionals with evidence-based strategies that transform student outcomes. With a career rooted in occupational therapy, Kelli has practiced in pediatric outpatient clinics, early intervention programs, preschools, and private schools, and has also served as an adjunct professor in pediatrics and kinesiology. Her expertise spans handwriting, dysgraphia, and dyslexia, supported by extensive advanced training in these areas.Kelli’s passion is deeply personal, fueled by her own daughter’s journey with dyslexia and dysgraphia. This lived experience drives her mission to empower parents, educators, and therapists with the tools and confidence they need to unlock every child’s potential. Things you'll learn from this episode  How dysgraphia differs from messy handwriting and why it’s rooted in complex neurological processes Why handwriting is such a demanding task for the brain, involving multiple systems working together How to recognize common signs like avoidance, frustration, and inconsistent output Why dysgraphia is often overlooked in schools and the importance of comprehensive assessment and advocacy How to balance skill-building with technology accommodations to support functional success Why focusing on confidence and real-world skills matters more than striving for perfect handwriting Resources mentioned Handwriting Solutions (Kelli’s website) Handwriting Solutions Blog Red Flags of Handwriting Struggles (freebie) Schedule a free consultation Email Kelli Kelli on Instagram Kelli on Facebook What is Dyscalculia? Parent Advocate Laura Jackson Talks About her Family’s Journey with a Math Disability (Tilt Parenting episode) Rebecca Bush Offers a Pathway for Parents with Newly-Identified Dyslexic Kids (Tilt Parenting episode) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 311a: Deb Dana on Befriending Our Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory 17.07.2026 40min

  Deb Dana, a clinician, consultant, and author, gives us a primer of the key points of Polyvagal Theory, and in doing so, explains the ways in which it can support the way we parent our differently-wired kids. Deb explains the nervous system pathways, why co-regulation is essential to our survival, what befriending and listening to our autonomic nervous system looks like in practice, and the benefits of having a breathing practice. We also talk about why these concepts can change our relationships to our daily life even if our circumstances stay the same.  Things you'll learn from this episode The mission behind Deb’s book Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory What the nervous system pathways are and the three states we can be in What aspects of our nervous systems are innate or “hardwired” versus routed in nurture or life experience Why co-regulation is essential to our survival and examples for ways in which we constantly do naturally What befriending and listening to our autonomic nervous system looks like in practice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 512: Dr. Katie Hurley on the "Manosphere" & Breaking the Boy Code 14.07.2026 45min

  Today we’re talking about boys—the messages they receive about emotions, strength, masculinity, and what it means to “be a man” in today’s world. My guest is Dr. Katie Hurley, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, and Vice President of Community Initiatives for The Jed Foundation, a nonprofit focused on youth mental health and suicide prevention. Katie is the author of several books on kids’ and teens’ mental health, and her newest release, Breaking the Boy Code, takes a deep look at the societal pressures shaping boys’ emotional lives. In our conversation, Katie and I explore how traditional expectations around masculinity can impact boys’ mental health, emotional expression, and relationships. We talk about the unique pressures boys are facing today, what can happen when emotions get pushed underground, and practical ways parents can support boys in developing emotional awareness, resilience, and a healthier sense of self.  About Dr. Katie Hurley   Dr. Katie Hurley is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, public speaker, and writer, and is the Vice President of Community Initiatives for The Jed Foundation (JED), a nonprofit dedicated to youth and young adult mental health and suicide prevention. She is the author of the award-winning No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls, The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated, The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World, A Year of Positive Thinking for Teens, and her newest book, The Stress-Buster Workbook for Kids. Her newest book is Breaking the Boy Code, which came out in March 2026. Katie covers mental health, child and adolescent development, and parenting for The Washington Post, PBS Parents, Psychology Today, Everyday Health, PsyCom, and US News and World Report, among other places. She splits her time between Los Angeles, California and coastal Connecticut with her husband and two children. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why the “Man Box” and traditional messages about masculinity can limit boys’ emotional well-being and self-expression How social media, gaming culture, and online spaces can influence boys’ identities, including exposure to red pill and incel ideologies Why open conversations about feelings and mental health are critical for helping boys thrive How practical tools, coping strategies, and supportive school environments can strengthen boys’ resilience and self-awareness Why media literacy, positive role models, and inclusive communities help boys navigate today’s complex world with greater confidence and authenticity   Resources mentioned Breaking the Boy Code: The New Playbook for Raising Resilience Boys by Dr. Katie Hurley Katie Hurley’s website Katie Hurley on Facebook Katie Hurley on Instagram Katie Hurley on Twitter Teen Talk / Katie’s Facebook Group for Parents of Teens Katie’s Facebook Group for Parents of younger children The Stress-Buster Workbook for Kids by Katie Hurley A Year of Positive Thinking for Teens by Katie Hurley The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World by Katie Hurley The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated by Katie Hurley No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls by Katie Hurley Not familiar with ‘red pill’ content? Teen boys are, whether they want to be or not (Katie’s article on CNN) We’re Family, and We Lost Loved Ones to Suicide 25 Years Apart. Here’s What’s Changed About Suicide in America, and What Hasn’t (Katie’s article on Oprah Magazine) Ecumundo Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Louis Theroux Inside the Manosphere (documentary on Netflix) Sex Educator Amy Lang Talks About Kids & Pornography (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 511: Jessica Patay on Building Brave Communities for Caregivers 07.07.2026 38min

  Today we’re talking about the power of community, resilience, and what it really means to show up bravely in the caregiver parenting journey. My guest is fellow community builder and mom on a mission Jessica Patay, the founder of We Are Brave Together, a global community supporting moms raising children with disabilities and other unique needs. Jessica’s work is deeply rooted in her own experience as a caregiving mom to her son Ryan, who was diagnosed with Prader-Willi syndrome, and her mission is all about making sure no parent has to walk this path alone. In our conversation, Jessica shares her story and the inspiration behind building such a powerful, life-giving community for mothers. We talk about the isolation so many caregivers experience, the importance of connection and support, and what it looks like to cultivate resilience in the midst of ongoing challenges. Jessica also offers practical, compassionate insights for parents who are feeling overwhelmed, reminding us that even in the hardest seasons, we are not alone—and we were never meant to do this by ourselves. About Jessica Patay  Jessica Patay is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities.  She has always fostered deep, life-giving friendships and has been intentional about her community of girlfriends.  As a caregiving mom herself, this passion carries on as she gathers women to encourage them, mentor them, inspire them, and validate their intense and precious journeys. Her own story as a mom to a child with a disability, began in 2003 when her second son, Ryan, was born and diagnosed with a rare, genetic disorder, called Prader-Willi syndrome. Within two days of receiving this diagnosis, she received a phone call from a mentor mom from the Prader-Willi California Foundation.  Immediately she felt relief and comfort knowing she was NOT ALONE. Thankfully, Ryan is sandwiched in the middle of siblings Luke and Kate, both fierce and loving cheerleaders and helpers to Ryan. Jessica is the founder of The We Are Brave Together organization, a supportive community for moms of children with disabilities and all unique needs, which has grown into an international community of over 4200 moms. She has helped launch over 25 support groups all over the United States, and in New Zealand and Australia, in the last five years. She is the host of the Brave Together Podcast. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why community is a critical foundation for healing, resilience, and feeling less alone as a caregiver How distinguishing between caregiving and motherhood can help parents better understand their experience How We Are Brave Together creates connection through circles, retreats, and shared storytelling Why bravery often shows up in small, everyday moments rather than big, visible acts How Jessica’s work, including Suddenly Brave Together, reflects and validates the lived experience of caregivers Why systemic challenges can leave caregivers isolated—and how taking small, practical steps can help them find support now Resources mentioned  We Are Brave Together Brave Together Podcast Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories from Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight by Jessica Patay Suddenly Brave Together: Letters to Caregiving Moms in a Defining Moment of Their Lives by Jessica Patay We Are Brave Together Facebook Group Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally by Emily Ladau Emily Ladau on Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Kelley Coleman on Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Margaret Webb Parent Coaching Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  TPP 305a: Stuart Shanker on What Self-Regulation Is, Why It Matters, and How to Help Our Children (and Ourselves) Do It Better 03.07.2026 44min

  We are kicking off this season with a conversation with Dr. Stuart Shanker, who I first learned about through my friend Seth Perler as he’s been part of the TEFOS Summit. I love Stuart's message and recently devoured his book Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage With Life, and wanted to dive deeper with Stuart about it. In this episode, we get into the ways in which the brain controls the levels of stress, the difference between self-regulation and self-control, and the difference between stress behavior and misbehaving. Stuart also walks us through his 5 steps to Self-Reg, and talks about the power of us as parents and caregivers and educators doing our own self-reg work so we can support the kids around us. Things you'll learn from this episode * How the explosion of stress-related problems in recent years among children has augmented the need for additional self-reg resources for parents and educators * How the brain controls the levels of stress and simple strategies that can be used to calm the nervous system response * Why self-reg practices for parents and teachers other adults begin with learning how to regulate ourselves * The difference between misbehavior and stress behavior * How self-regulation mechanisms evolve as we get older * The distinction between self-control and self-regulation and the five steps to self-regulation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices