Chats From the Peak: A Marriage Pinnacle Podcast

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  Putting Down Shame After Trauma: Dating, Trust & Emotional Safety with Michelle Valorae 13.08.2026 1h 11min

  What happens when your past has shaped the way you trust, date, attach, and protect yourself?In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with Michelle Valorae for an honest conversation about singleness, trauma, dating after painful experiences, emotional safety, boundaries, trust, and healing before partnership. Rather than focusing only on what happened to her, this conversation explores what can happen after the trauma. How does pain affect the people we choose? Can chaos feel more familiar than peace? How do you know whether you are protecting your heart or hiding from intimacy? And what does it look like to stay hopeful about love without making a relationship responsible for healing you? Together, we unpack questions like:How can trauma influence attraction and dating patterns?Can peace feel boring when you are used to emotional intensity?What is the difference between chemistry and familiarity?How do you know if your single season is helping you heal or helping you hide?When should you disclose trauma to someone you are dating?What does a healthy response to vulnerability look like?Can hyper-independence disguise itself as high standards?How do you build trust in yourself after painful relationship experiences?This episode is for anyone navigating dating, dating after trauma, singleness, emotional healing, trust issues, boundaries, relationship anxiety, vulnerability, healthy relationships, and preparing for love after heartbreak or disappointment.Being healed does not mean you will never be triggered again. Sometimes healing looks like learning how to recognize what is safe, communicate what you need, and remain open to love without abandoning yourself in the process.______________________________________________________________CHAPTERS__________________________________00:00 Content Warning & Episode Preview01:20 Welcome to Chats from the Peak02:15 Meet Michelle Valorae 03:50 Living Without Shame: The Freedom Journey09:08 Growing Up in Performance Culture12:30 The Night Everything Changed18:00 Finding Rock Bottom and the Road Back23:00 How Trauma Shapes Who You Choose33:00 The Power of Solitude vs. Isolation42:00 Practical Advice for Singles Still Becoming51:30 Knowing When and How Much to Share56:00 Contentment Without Compromise66:00 A Word for Whoever Needs It69:30 Rapid Fire RoundBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Pursue, Attack, Withdraw: Which Conflict Style Is Running Your Marriage? 30.07.2026 45min

  Every couple has conflict. But have you ever noticed that you and your spouse seem to have the same argument over and over again, even when the issue changes?In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Memi and Dr. Lara break down four common conflict patterns that can shape how couples argue, communicate, disconnect, and repair: pursue-withdraw, attack-attack, pursue-pursue, and withdraw-withdraw. From the spouse who keeps pushing for an answer to the partner who shuts down, from couples who escalate together to those who both pursue resolution without knowing when to pause, these patterns can quickly turn a disagreement into a cycle. But understanding your conflict style is only the beginning. We’re talking about how to recognize the pattern, understand what is happening underneath it, and interrupt the cycle before conflict creates emotional distance.In this episode, you’ll learn:• The four common conflict styles and what they look like in marriage• Why some partners pursue while others withdraw• How couples unintentionally trigger each other’s conflict responses• Why both attacking and withdrawing can damage connection• How to identify the conflict pattern you and your spouse fall into• Practical ways to interrupt unhealthy conflict cycles• How to move from “me versus you” to “us versus the problem”• Why healthy marriages aren’t conflict-free, but learn how to navigate conflict differently If you and your spouse keep having the same fight in different forms, this conversation will help you understand why and give you tools to start changing the pattern. Because oftentimes the problem isn’t the problem, it’s the pattern. _______________________________________________________________________________CHAPTERS ________________________________________________00:00 Introduction01:23 Why Every Couple Has a Conflict Pattern04:36 Pattern 1: Pursue and Withdraw10:29 How to Break the Pursue-Withdraw Cycle14:53 Pattern 2: Attack and Attack18:35 How to Break the Attack-Attack Cycle19:01 Pattern 3: Withdraw and Withdraw23:05 How to Break the Withdraw-Withdraw Cycle26:40 Pattern 4: Pursue and Pursue33:39 Step-by-Step Tools to Interrupt Any Conflict Pattern40:15 Build Your Couples Conflict Action Plan43:06 Closing Thoughts**Take our free couples communication quiz** → https://marriagepinnacle.com/take-the-quiz/ **Sign up for our Communication Styles Decoded Masterclass* → https://thempschool.marriagepinnacle.com/products/live_events/communication-styles-decoded **Book a 1:1 coaching session** → https://calendar.app.google/qhmURBwrcaaRQ9dm8Your conflict pattern is not your character. It's a cycle. And cycles can be broken once you figure out how. Drop your conflict type in the comments, what are you: a pursuer, withdrawer, attacker, or over-processor?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG:...
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  Get In the Room: How Community Actually Saves Your Marriage with Nai S. of Black Marriage Club 16.07.2026 1h 10min

  What inspires someone to dedicate their life to strengthening relationships?Welcome to the very first episode of 'Founders Corner,' a Marriage Pinnacle series that takes you behind the brands, organizations, and movements making an impact in the relationship space. In this inaugural conversation, Memi and Dr. Lara sit down with Nai Sobowale, founder of Black Marriage Club and Room to Relate, to explore the heart behind her mission to create meaningful spaces where couples can connect, grow, and thrive. Nai shares the story behind launching Black Marriage Club, the gap she recognized in the relationship community, and why building intentional spaces for Black couples has become her life’s work. Together, they discuss entrepreneurship, community building, marriage, and what it takes to create movements that strengthen families for generations. In this episode, you’ll discover:• The story behind the creation of Black Marriage Club• Why representation and community matter in healthy relationships• What founders often sacrifice to build something that serves others• How creating intentional spaces helps couples thrive• The importance of collaboration over competition in the relationship space• What legacy looks like when your mission is bigger than your businessWhether you’re a founder, creator, or simply passionate about building healthy relationships, this conversation offers inspiration, practical wisdom, and a behind-the-scenes look at the purpose driving one of today’s most impactful relationship communities. __________________________________________________________________________ CHAPTERS __________________________________________________________________________ 00:00 Welcome to Founders Corner with Nai S.02:06 Ice Breakers: Marriage Would Be Easier If...04:35 What Single People Romanticize About Relationships07:50 How Black Marriage Club Was Born from a Double Date13:45 Why Couples Need Community — Not Just Brunch19:30 The Real Reason People Won't Invest in Their Marriage25:10 Getting Men into the Room: Nai S. on the Hard Sell33:00 Social Media, Love, and Who's Really Watching40:15 The Role of Friendship and Pride in Marriage Crisis50:20 What Couples Actually Need in the In-Between Season61:30 Room to Relate, Thrive in Love Retreat, and What's NextBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Postpartum and The Unspoken Fourth Trimester with Dr. Nicole Kumi 25.06.2026 1h 4min

  What nobody tells you about having a baby is that two people are born that day and historically, we've only been preparing for one of them. Dr. Nicole Kumi, founder of The Whole Mom and maternal mental health expert, joins the ladies of Marriage Pinnacle for one of the most honest conversations about postpartum life, Black maternal health, and what the fourth trimester actually does to a marriage.If you've ever felt like a stranger in your own body after baby, fought your partner over who did more, or quietly wondered why you still don't feel like yourself two years later then this episode was made for you.What you'll learn in this episode:What the fourth trimester actually is (hint: it lasts way longer than 12 weeks) and why postpartum mental health symptoms are so easy to missHow the "strong Black woman" narrative directly impacts whether moms ask for help and what it costs families when they don't Why equal task-splitting doesn't mean equal mental load, and how couples can stop fighting each other and start fighting the problem together Practical tools for partners including the split-shift sleep strategy, initiative-taking, and the Sunday check-in The difference between postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and intrusive thoughts and when it's time to get professional support Dr. Nicole also opens up about her own postpartum journey, what she wishes she'd told her husband sooner, and why she frames her work as education and not therapy to reach women who wouldn't otherwise walk through the door. _______________________________________________________ CHAPTERS_______________________________________________________ 00:00 The Mental Load Is Not Equal01:35 Welcome & Meet Dr. Nicole Kumi03:58 Icebreaker: This or That With a Mom Twist10:11 What Is the Fourth Trimester Really15:15 Why We Prep for Birth But Not Recovery18:46 The Strong Black Woman Narrative & Postpartum Stigma28:55 How the Fourth Trimester Hijacks Intimacy33:13 Feeling Unsupported Even When He's Helping39:18 What Postpartum Actually Looks Like51:43 Practical Tools for Couples Right Now58:59 Dr. Nicole's Final Word to Couples & Rapid Fire **Find Dr. Nicole Kumi:**Dr. Nicole Kumi, PhD, PMH-C, is a maternal wellness expert, speaker, author, and founder of The Whole Mom. After experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety following the births of her own children, Nicole dedicated her work to changing the way we prepare and support mothers during one of the biggest transitions of their lives. Her work centers around the “birth of the mother," the understanding that when a baby is born, a woman is also undergoing a profound psychological, emotional, relational, and identity transformation.Through education, coaching, and community programs, Nicole helps mothers and families navigate postpartum before they reach a point of crisis. As a certified perinatal mental health professional and Postpartum Support International Board Member, Nicole is passionate about expanding the conversation beyond the baby and helping partners recognize their important role in protecting maternal mental health. Her mission is to build a future where every mother feels prepared, supported, and seen, not just as a parent, but as a whole person.Books: *Postpartum My Language*, *Butterfly Mama*, *Born Together: The Birth of the Mother* — all available on AmazonWebsite: thewholemom.com | Instagram: @nicolekumiPostpartum Support International Hotline: 1-800-944-4773 (staffed 24/7)**Subscribe, leave a review, and join our PeakSeeker community on Instagram.** If this episode helped you or someone you love, share it because someone in your circle needs this conversation right now.Become a supporter of this podcast:
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  You Cannot Build a Real Marriage on a Curated Version of Yourself 11.06.2026 28min

  What you don't say before the wedding can shake your entire marriage to its foundation. Memi and Dr. Lara are pulling back the curtain on the conversations most couples avoid, rush through, or flat-out skip and why those silences cost you later. From body counts to bankruptcy, chronic illness to childhood trauma, this episode breaks down exactly what belongs on the table before you say "I do" and gives you a practical framework to figure out what's your secret to keep and what's your partner's right to know.In this episode, you'll learn:Why health disclosures (chronic illness, STIs, fertility challenges, genotype) are non-negotiable before marriageHow to talk about debt, financial history, and money habits without it feeling like an interrogationWhat past relationship history, including previous marriages, children, and adoptions because your future spouse deserves to knowHow trauma, mental health diagnoses, and addiction histories show up in marriage whether you name them or notFive self-check questions to help you decide if something needs to be disclosed before you walk down the aisleWhether you're engaged, dating seriously, or already married and realizing some conversations got skipped, this episode meets you where you are.CHAPTERS _______________________________________________________________________________00:00 Introduction & Cold Open 00:28 Welcome to Chats from the Peak01:34 Today's Topic: What to Disclose Before Marriage03:58 Health Disclosures: Chronic Illness, STIs & Genotypes07:40 Finances: Debt, Credit & Money Conversations13:29 Past Relationships: How Much Is Too Much?18:03 Trauma, Mental Health & Addiction Histories22:34 The Observation Factor: Reading Family Dynamics23:10 Practical Takeaways: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself26:26 Closing Thoughts & Homework for CouplesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Your Relationship Isn't Content: How to Stop Performing and Start Connecting 28.05.2026 33min

  When did your relationship beome content instead of connection?You're posting the Valentine's Day roses, holding hands for the camera, and captioning it "blessed,"but the second the phone goes down, so does the act. You're performing a marriage for people who don't sleep in your bed, and it's exhausting.This episode calls out what nobody wants to admit: some of us are better at curating our relationships than actually living in them. We're breaking down how celebrating your love online can quietly become producing content for validation, comparison, and the approval of people who don't pay your bills.Memi and Dr. Lara explore the sneaky signs you've crossed into performance mode like planning spontaneous moments, posting only when things are good, or feeling obligated to share just to prove you're not struggling. They also reveal what you lose when you prioritize the aesthetic over the actual: intimacy, identity, and the ability to ask for help when things get hard.If you've ever caught yourself worrying more about how your marriage looks than how it feels, this one's for you. Real intimacy happens off-camera with a sincere apology, the quiet moments, and the messy middle that never makes it to the highlight reel.This week's challenge: Do one thing for your partner that has nothing to do with content. Then come tell us you did it!! Just drop "DONE" in the comments.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction01:41 When the Aesthetic Isn't Giving Reality03:03 Social Media as a Stage for Fake Relationships04:14 Celebrating Love vs. Using It for Content06:06 Signs You're Performing Instead of Living09:58 Why We Produce Our Joy Online13:27 The Comparison Culture Trap17:27 The Fear of Looking Like You're Struggling20:14 What You Lose When You Perform26:29 How to Get Back to Being Real31:08 Homework: Do Something Just for You TwoBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Boundaries, Dating Standards and Finding Purpose in Singleness with Amina Aminu (@aminaplease) 21.05.2026 1h 2min

  In this fun episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with beauty and lifestyle influencer AminaPlease to talk about faith, dating standards, singleness, and navigating your 20s with intention. After growing up Muslim and giving her life to Christ at 22, Amina shares how her faith completely transformed the way she approaches relationships, boundaries, and self-worth. From leaving unhealthy relationships behind to learning how to recognize the fruits of the Spirit in a partner, this conversation is filled with wisdom for women dating in today’s culture.In this episode, we discuss:Dating as a woman of faith in your 20sSetting healthy boundaries in relationshipsWhat God reveals during your single seasonThe difference between chemistry and characterHow to recognize emotional and spiritual red flagsWhy “girls club” comfort zones may be limiting your dating lifeThe danger of making influencers or relationships the standard Faith, femininity, and growing without losing yourselfWhether you are single, dating, healing, or learning to trust God with your love life, this episode offers practical wisdom, encouragement, and real conversations about choosing growth over validation.Tune in for a good kiki, relationship gems, faith-filled perspective, and a lot of laughs along the way. _______________________________________________________________________________Keep Up With Amina: For all of your beauty and lifestyle needs, follow Amina on all social media platforms at:  @aminaplease  _______________________________________________________________________________ CHAPTERS0:00- Episode Intro0:53- Welcome to Chats from the Peak3:34- Meet Amina Please: Digital Creator on Faith, Dating, and Navigating Your 20s11:29- Dating Without Boundaries: What Her Love Life Looked Like Before Faith17:36- The Relationship She Should Have Left Sooner and What God Did With It19:54- What God Actually Reveals to You in Your Single Season22:39- How to Spot the Fruits of the Spirit in a Partner (Not Just the Words) 38:18- The Spiritual Straw Problem: When People Want Your Proximity More Than God42:34- Why the Girls Club Mentality Might Be Keeping You From the Love You Want57:53- Rapid Fire: Dating in Your 20s as a Woman of Faith and Final WordsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  What Does Unequally Yoked Really Mean? Alignment, Love and Relationship Red Flags 07.05.2026 33min

  In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi break down what it really means to be unequally yoked—both spiritually and practically—and why it matters more than people think. This episode isn’t about religion or to make you feel bad about the current state of your relationship. It’s about alignment in values, vision, lifestyle, emotional maturity, and long-term goals. And when that alignment is missing, it can create tension, confusion, and deep relationship strain over time.In this episode, we discuss:The true meaning of being unequally yoked in modern relationshipsHow spiritual and value misalignment shows up in dating and marriageEarly signs you may be unequally yokedThe difference between growth gaps and core incompatibilityThe hidden dangers of ignoring red flags because of chemistryWhy trying to change your partner often leads to frustrationHow misalignment affects communication, decision-making, and future planningWhat to do if you realize you are unequally yokedWhether you’re dating, engaged, or already in a relationship, this episode will challenge you to think deeply about compatibility, purpose, and long-term alignment. Love is not just about connection, but about moving in the same direction. Tune in if you are ready to make wiser relationship decisions and build something that lasts.0:00 Are You Actually Compatible or Just in Love With the Potential?0:43 Welcome to Chats from the Peak1:36 What Does Unequally Yoked Actually Mean?3:41 The Biblical Origin of the Yoke: What the Oxen Analogy Is Really Telling You5:00 The Four Ways You Can Be Unequally Yoked (Beyond Religion)10:17 Can You Be Spiritually Aligned but Financially or Emotionally Mismatched?12:04 The Difference Between a Growth Opportunity and a Core Incompatibility14:01 Signs You Are Not Equally Yoked: What to Watch For While Dating16:52 When You See the Red Flags but Stay Anyway22:15 When Life Gets Heavy and the Misalignment Finally Shows Up23:13 Three Questions to Ask Yourself If You Feel Misaligned Right Now26:11 What to Do If You Are Already Married and Feel Unequally Yoked27:49 Stop Thinking Marriage Will Fix It30:00 Chemistry Does Not Replace Compatibility31:46 What Happens When One Person Is Carrying the Whole Relationship33:03 Final Thoughts and TakeawaysBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  How Chronic Pain Affects Marriage, Sex and Mental Health with The Pain Relief Doc 23.04.2026 43min

  In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with Dr. Christelle Samen, a double board-certified pain specialist and anesthesiologist, to unpack how chronic pain shows up in relationships and marriage. Pain is not just physical. It impacts your mood, your communication, your patience, your intimacy, and the overall health of your relationship. And for many couples, it is a silent struggle that often goes unspoken.In this episode, we explore:The difference between acute and chronic pain and why it is more common than people thinkHow chronic pain affects emotional connection, communication, and daily life in marriageCompassion fatigue in the supporting partner and how to recognize itHonest conversations about pain and sex, including pelvic floor tension and intimacy changesPostpartum pain, hormone shifts, and the realities of the fourth trimesterThe impact of racial bias in pain management and how to advocate for yourself as a Black patientPractical ways to support a partner living with chronic painWhether you are personally dealing with chronic pain or supporting a partner who is, this episode offers real insight, medical expertise, and practical tools to help couples navigate this often overlooked challenge. Because healthy relationships require more than love. They require understanding, patience, and the willingness to support each other through every season.CHAPTERS━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 00:00 - Episode Preview00:42 - Welcome to Chats from the Peak + Meet Dr. Christelle Samen03:01 - Icebreaker: Morning Routines, Home as Sanctuary & Creaking Knees06:33 - What Is Chronic Pain and Why Is It So Common?11:02 - How Chronic Pain Affects Relationships 14:32 - Chronic Pain and Intimacy: The Conversation Couples Avoid19:11 - What a Pain Specialist Actually Does: From Supplements to Spinal Cord Stimulation25:06 - Pregnancy Pain, Postpartum & the Fourth Trimester Partners Don't Understand28:09 - Black Patients and Pain: The Bias, the Dismissed Diagnoses & How to Advocate35:00 - What a Spouse Can Actually Do: Practical Support for a Partner in Chronic Pain38:53 - Closing: You Are Stronger Than You Think_______________________________________________________________________________Keep up with Dr. Samen:Socials: @thepainreliefdocWebsite: www.thepainreliefdoc.coMEDICAL DISCLAIMER: The information provided by Dr. Samen is for educational purposes only and does not constitute as medical advice or a physician-patient relationshipBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Service Over Selfishness: How Selfish Habits Are Hurting Your Marriage (And How to Fix It) 23.04.2026 36min

  In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi unpack a hard truth many couples avoid: selfishness in marriage and how it quietly destroys connection over time. From subtle habits to outright scorekeeping, selfishness can show up in ways we don’t always recognize in ourselves. And if left unchecked, it leads to resentment, emotional distance, and relationships that feel more like roommates than partners.In this episode, we dive into:The hidden signs of selfishness in relationshipsWhy scorekeeping in marriage keeps couples stuckHow selfish habits create emotional disconnection and resentmentServing your spouse through their love language and not just your ownWhat serving your partner looks like during hard seasons (grief, burnout, job loss)The real conversations couples avoid, like sex, finances, and supportThe difference between healthy selflessness and unhealthy overgivingThis episode is a call to shift your mindset from “What can I get?” to “What can I give?”Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will challenge you to show up differently and love more intentionally.Tap in and ask yourself: Who am I serving in my relationship?00:00 — The Sneaky Ways Selfishness Shows Up When You're Not Looking00:55 — Welcome to Chats from the Peak03:30 — Let's Be Clear: This Is About Mutual Service, Not Being a Doormat05:44 — What Selfishness Actually Looks Like in a Marriage12:00 — The Damage Selfishness Does: Resentment, Disconnection & One-Sided Marriages16:51 — Serving Your Spouse Through Their Love Language, Not Yours18:26 — What Daily Service Actually Looks Like: Monday Through Sunday21:31 — Service in Conflict: Choosing Peace Over Being Right23:54 — How to Serve in Hard Seasons: Grief, Depression, Job Loss & More27:00 — Service, Intimacy & the Money Conversation Nobody Wants to Have30:00 — When Service Becomes Unhealthy: Signs You're Heading Toward Burnout33:00 — The Challenge: Choose Service Over Selfishness This WeekBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Navigating Autism as a Parent: Culture, Faith & Access to Resources 26.03.2026 1h 11min

  In this powerful episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with Dr. Deondra Smith of Breakthrough Therapeutic Concepts for an honest and transparent conversation about raising a child with autism while balancing identity, faith, and professional insight. Dr. Smith shares her personal journey as a mother navigating life with a neurodivergent child, and how her background as a psychologist provided unique access to care, resources, and early intervention; while also acknowledging the emotional weight that comes with the role. We explore:The realities of parenting a child with autismHow her culture and community shaped her parenting journeyThe role of faith in navigating uncertainty and resilienceThe privilege and pressure of being a mental health professional raising a special needs childAccess to therapy, early intervention, and support systemsEncouragement for parents raising neurodivergent childrenThis episode is for everyone—but especially for parents, caregivers, and families navigating special needs parenting, autism, and developmental differences. If you or someone you love is on this journey, this conversation offers hope, insight, and practical encouragement.Share this with someone who needs to feel seen, supported, and reminded that they are not alone.Dr. Deondra Smith is a licensed psychologist, entrepreneur, wife, and proud mother of two who is deeply committed to helping individuals and families thrive emotionally, relationally, and culturally. She is the founder and clinical leader of multiple mental health organizations, including Breakthrough Therapeutic Concepts, where she specializes in psychological assessment, child and family mental health, and culturally responsive care.Of Bahamian heritage, Dr. Smith’s life and work are grounded in a deep appreciation for culture, family, and belonging. Navigating life across spaces and communities, she is continually learning what it means to create “home,” not just as a physical place, but as a sense of safety, connection, and identity for her family wherever they are located. In addition to her clinical and leadership work, Dr. Smith is the cohost of Culture & Clarity, a podcast exploring the intersection of culture and mental health. Dr. Smith is passionate about normalizing real conversations about marriage, parenting, cultural identity, and the resilience required to hold multiple roles at once. She believes thriving relationships are not built on perfection, but on intentional love, flexibility, and a shared commitment to growing together.Find her at @drdeondrasmith on social media Breakthrough Therapeutic Concepts- http://www.btconcepts.orgCulture and Clarity podcast- @cultureandclarity_Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage...
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  Living Wills & Last Will and Testaments: Why Couples Have To Plan Before It’s Too Late 12.03.2026 30min

  In this important episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi tackle a conversation many couples avoid but absolutely need to have: death and what it means to having your affairs in order. Planning for death may feel uncomfortable, but avoiding the conversation can create emotional stress, family conflict, and financial strain for the people you love most. From funeral expenses to medical decisions and asset distribution, couples need to be proactive about estate planning and end-of-life wishes. In this episode we discuss:The difference between a living will and a last will and testamentWhy couples should talk about end-of-life decisions earlyHow unclear wishes can lead to family disputes and legal battlesThe financial impact of funeral costs and unplanned expensesWhy documenting your wishes protects your spouse and loved onesHow to start these difficult but necessary conversationsWhile we are not legal experts, this episode is meant to start the conversation and encourage couples to be proactive about estate planning and financial preparedness. Don't know where to start? Check out 5 Wishes to help with resources and tools to have these conversations with ease-- 5 WishesTune in and start the conversation today.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Defensiveness in Relationships: Why It Kills Communication 26.02.2026 44min

  In this episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi tackle one of the biggest communication killers in relationships: defensiveness. It's the story as old as time... you’ve seen it before. “Here we go again.” “Well YOU do this too.” “That’s not what I meant.” And just like that… the conversation is over.If you’ve ever wondered why small disagreements escalate into full-blown arguments, or why your partner shuts down when you bring up concerns, this episode breaks down what’s really happening beneath the surface. We unpack:What defensiveness actually is (and why we all do it)The psychology behind fight-or-flight responses in relationshipsHow defensiveness shuts down communication and creates resentmentCultural and generational patterns that fuel pride and egoThe emotional damage caused by invalidationPractical tools to stop being defensive and start listening What to do when your partner is the defensive oneWhether you’re married, dating, or working on your communication skills, this episode offers real, actionable relationship advice rooted in emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and growth. Remember, you can be right and still be wrong and choosing ego over empathy will cost you connection every single time.Tune in if you're ready to improve communication, reduce conflict, and build a healthier, more emotionally safe relationship.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Valentine’s Day Done Right: 5 Dos, 5 Don’ts & Love That Lasts All Year 12.02.2026 23min

  Valentine’s Day is cute… but is your love consistent?In this episode of Chats From the Peak, we break down 5 Valentine’s Day Dos and Don’ts that can make or break the mood and more importantly, how to show love in ways that last all year long. From unrealistic expectations and last-minute planning to meaningful connection and everyday intimacy, we’re talking about how to move from performance-based romance to intentional partnership.Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this episode will help you:Avoid common Valentine’s Day mistakesCommunicate expectations clearlyBuild emotional intimacy beyond gifts and grand gesturesCreate sustainable romance throughout the yearThis episode is sponsored by Anumee Aesthetics, a DMV-based, Black woman-owned aesthetics clinic dedicated to enhancing natural beauty with confidence and care. Because feeling good in your relationship also starts with feeling good in your own skin. Visit them  ⁨@AnumeeAesthetics⁩  on all social media platforms to book your appointment!!Remember love isn't a holiday. It’s a habit.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Season 3 Kickoff: What’s Your Communication Style? Take the Quiz!! 29.01.2026 35min

  (00:00:00) Intro (00:01:20) The Importance of Communication in Relationships (00:02:42) Introducing the Communication Quiz (00:05:12) Navigating Different Communication Styles (00:10:03) The Connector: Feeling-Driven Communication (00:12:42) The Analyzer: Logic-Driven Communication (00:15:15) The Fixer: Solution-Oriented Communication (00:17:56) The Peacemaker: Harmony-Seeking Communication (00:21:22) The Storyteller: Narrative-Driven Communication (00:29:30) How Understanding Communication Styles Improves Relationships Welcome to Season 3 of Chats From the Peak—the podcast where real couples, experts, and peak seekers unpack the highs and lows of modern love.We're kicking off the new year with something special: The Peak Communication Style Quiz is officially LIVE!!!! Whether you're married, dating, or somewhere in between, understanding how you communicate is the first step to deeper connection, fewer misunderstandings, and more joy in your relationships.In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Lara and Memi break down:Why communication styles matter more than love languagesHow knowing your default mode can prevent conflict The six styles you’ll meet in the quiz (and which one you might be!) Tips to strengthen your conversations, starting todayTake the quiz (https://marriagepinnacle.com/communication-quiz/) tag your partner, and share your style using #PeakCommunicator. This is the season of clarity, connection, and climbing higher... together.Tune in, take the quiz, and let's grow ON PURPOSE!!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  'That's Just How I Am | Breaking Emotional Defensiveness in Marriage 11.12.2025 26min

  When we say “that’s just how I am,” we think we’re being honest, but often, we’re being defensive. Stop calling it your personality when it’s really your protection.This episode dives into how that mindset quietly damages connection, blocks growth, and keeps couples stuck in cycles of frustration.We explore:- Why “that’s just how I am” is emotional armor- How self-awareness can turn into self-defense- Why love challenges your comfort zone- Simple mindset shifts to choose growth over prideIf you’re ready to outgrow old patterns and communicate with more awareness, this episode will help you stop defending who you were and start developing who you’re becoming.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Waiting Well: Love, Resilience and Purpose After Trauma with William “Tipper” Thomas 28.11.2025 1h 19min

  In this deeply inspiring episode of Chats From the Peak, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with William “Tipper” Thomas, a multi-hyphenate man! He's an engineer, CEO, speaker, and forced resigned almost "Sugar Daddy," whose life changed forever at age 17 after surviving a high school shooting that left him paralyzed.Though his world shifted physically, Tip rebuilt his life with purpose, discipline and relentless grit. He opens up about navigating life with a disability, the emotional reality of dating in his thirties, the silent acceptance of unmet timelines and the surprising full-circle journey that led him to finding real love.Now with new relationship status changes, Tip shares how faith, healing and maturity helped him wait well and recognize “the one” in a world that often misunderstands men like him.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt behind, overlooked, discouraged or unsure if love is still possible. Tipper’s story reminds us that purpose is not paused by pain and God’s timing is always intentional.00:00 - Introduction07:00 - Icebreaker-Truth or Trash18:00 - Tip’s Life Story: Trauma, Faith, and Becoming an Example35:00 - Dating After Trauma and Disability47:00 - When God Stepped In: Grief, Healing, and Revelation57:00 - Preparing for Partnership: Faith, Therapy, and Emotional Maturity1:08:00 - Meeting “The One”: Alignment, Timing, and Green FlagsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Am I the Ahole… or Just Married? Reddit Drama & Hot Takes | Chats Unmuted 20.11.2025 46min

  The internet is an interesting place! In this episode of Chats Unmuted, we’re diving into the wild world of Reddit’s AITAH (Am I the A**hole) threads and breaking down three viral relationship dilemmas—marriage meltdowns, boundary issues, and petty partner energy. Dr. Lara and Memi give their real-time hot takes, blending clinical insight, cultural perspective, and a lot of Memi saying, “nah sis, he’s the problem” energy. Whether you're boo'd up, married, or healing from heartbreak, this episode will have you thinking twice before hitting “send” on that group chat rant. Topics include:• Separation and Betrayal • Broken boundaries • When “keeping the peace” is actually causing harmTune in for laughs, interesting takesc, and the occasional side-eye as we ask… are they the villain, or just misunderstood?Subscribe, comment, and send us your favorite AITAH posts for our next round of truth-telling!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  Let's Get Real About Sex: Intimacy, Healing & Getting Yours with @Sextherapistjen 13.11.2025 1h 5min

  In this MUCH NEEDED Chats From the Peak episode, Dr. Lara and Memi sit down with licensed sex therapist Jen, aka @SexTherapistJen, for a raw conversation on healing sexual shame, reigniting desire, and redefining intimacy in real relationships.Whether you’re married, healing from purity culture, or just tired of performance-based intimacy, this episode offers practical insight, honest reflection, and unfiltered advice for navigating the highs and lows of your sex life. From low libido and mismatched desire to communication blocks and emotional disconnection, we cover it all but know there is so much more!!!!This episode is for couples who want to feel closer, individuals who want to feel seen, and anyone who believes that healthy sex starts with honest conversations.If you are interested in any of the products talked about during the episode, check out: https://us.satisfyer.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!
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  When Love Becomes One-Sided | Chats Unmuted 06.11.2025 44min

  In this week’s Chats Unmuted, we unpack how to know when a relationship no longer serves you, why self-worth determines how others treat you, the danger of ignoring red flags, and how to spot real change versus fake growth.This episode is for you if:your relationship doesn't feel safethe effort you give is not reciprocatedyou are looking for consistencyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!