Coming Up for Air

How to Enjoy Being Single After a Breakup (Instead of Just Surviving It) 26.06.2026 1h 4min

How do you actually enjoy being single after a breakup instead of just surviving it? In this episode, I'm challenging some of the most common breakup advice and sharing a completely different way of thinking about single life. Instead of treating being single like a waiting room, I explore why it can become one of the most freeing and transformative chapters of your life. I talk about why we keep living as though our ex is still watching, how emotional intensity can make peace feel unfa...

The Thoughts Nobody Talks About After Becoming Single When You’re 30. 19.06.2026 1h 1min

This isn't a self-help episode. It's a validation chat. If you've found yourself single in your late 20s or 30s after a breakup, engagement ending, divorce, or long-term relationship, this conversation is for you. I am talking about the things people don't say out loud: feeling left behind while everyone else seems to be moving forward, grieving a future you had already planned, rebuilding a life you never wanted, and comparing your reality to an ex who appears to have moved on. No generic ad...

Will My Ex Ever Reach Out Again? The Truth About Them Not Coming Back. 12.06.2026 59min

Will your ex come back? Why hasn't your ex reached out? Does no contact really work? And how do you heal when you've been dumped by someone you still love? In this episode, I explore the psychology behind heartbreak, attachment, and why so many people stay emotionally stuck waiting for an ex to return. You'll learn why silence feels so painful, why some exes never reach out again, what actually predicts reconciliation, and how to stop putting your life on hold while waiting for closure. This ...

I Fell In Love With Who They Could Have Been. Letting Go Of Your Ex's Potential After Heartbreak. 05.06.2026 53min

In this episode, I talk about why it's so hard to move on after a breakup when you still believe your ex had so much potential. If you've been dumped, blindsided, or left heartbroken after a long-term relationship, you may find yourself obsessing over who your ex could have been rather than who they actually were. I talk about heartbreak healing, anxious attachment, relationship grief, emotional unavailability, waiting for someone to change, overthinking after a breakup, and why attachment to...

I Sold the House After My Breakup. How I Healed Without Bitterness 29.05.2026 1h 13min

In this episode, I’m opening up about what it was really like selling the house I shared with my ex after our breakup. This isn’t just about moving house, it’s about letting go of a chapter of life, healing emotionally, and learning how to move forward without bitterness. I wanted this conversation to feel like sitting down with a friend, so I’m sharing the honest emotions behind leaving a home full of memories, the mindset shifts that helped me heal, and what I did to protect my peace during...

The Comparison Trap After Heartbreak - How To Deal With It. 22.05.2026 1h

In this episode, I talk about the comparison trap after heartbreak comparing yourself to your ex, your ex’s new partner, people moving on faster than you, happy couples, engagements, and everyone who seems okay while you still feel heartbroken after being dumped. I talk about breakup anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking, checking your ex’s social media, emotional obsession, feeling replaced, loneliness, rejection, and the emotional pain of feeling left behind after a long-term relationsh...

The Truth About Situationships After Your Breakup. 15.05.2026 59min

After going through a breakup I didn’t want, I quickly learnt how easy it is to fall into a situationship. Situationships feel feel addictive, emotionally intense, and impossible to let go of sometimes. In this episode, I talk about situationships after heartbreak, anxious attachment, breakup healing, why emotionally inconsistent people can feel so hard to move on from after being rejected. I explore how I fell into a siutationship & sometimes acting like you are okay and chill about them...

Stop Trying to Be Understood by Someone Who Has Chosen to Misunderstand You. 08.05.2026 53min

Going through a breakup you didn’t want can make you feel rejected, misunderstood, emotionally drained, and impossible to move on from the person you still love. In this breakup healing podcast episode, I talk about heartbreak, anxious attachment, emotional pain, overthinking, self-worth, rejection, attachment styles, and how to stop trying to be understood by someone who has chosen to misunderstand you. If you are struggling with: ✨breakup pain ✨heartbreak healing ✨breakup anxiety ✨emo...

10 Deep Limiting Beliefs About Being Single After Being Left (That Nobody Talks About) 01.05.2026 57min

How to heal after a breakup, move on from an ex, and learn how to be okay being single after being dumped. If you’re struggling with heartbreak, rejection, overthinking, or feeling not good enough after a breakup, this episode is for you. In this episode of I talk about how to heal after a breakup when you were brutally dumped and the 10 deep limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck in heartbreak without even realising it. If you’re trying to move on from an ex, rebuild confidence, or underst...

How to Heal After a Breakup & Stop Feeling Pressure to Glow Up. 24.04.2026 59min

Going through a breakup? Feeling pressure to glow up, move on fast, hit the gym, or prove your ex lost someone amazing? This episode is for you. In this episode i talk about how to heal after a breakup, move on from an ex, rebuild confidence, and deal with the pressure to glow up after heartbreak. So many people feel like after a breakup they need a revenge body, a dramatic transformation, or to look like they’re thriving. Society pushes that message but a lot of the pressure also comes from ...

How to Heal After a Breakup & Be Happy Single Again. Accept, Trust & Release. 17.04.2026 52min

Healing after a breakup? Struggling to be single again? Worried you’ll never meet the right person? This episode will help you feel peaceful, confident, and grounded in your single season. In this episode I talk about how to heal after heartbreak, stop worrying about meeting someone, and learn how to genuinely enjoy being single again. If you’re trying to move on from an ex, rebuild confidence, trust the timing of your life, or let go of pressure around relationships, this conversation is for...

How To Cope with A Breakup: 10 Harsh Truths That Will Set You Free. 10.04.2026 58min

Struggling to get over a breakup? Wondering how to move on after heartbreak or why you still miss your ex even when you know they weren’t right for you? In this episode, I dive into 10 brutal truths about breakups that most people avoid , but understanding them is the key to real healing, self-growth, and moving on. If you’re searching for real breakup advice, trying to figure out how to get over a breakup, or working through emotional healing after a relationship ends, this podcast episode w...

The Mindset Shift That Finally Helped Me Detach After My Breakup. 03.04.2026 55min

I made this episode for anyone going through a breakup who feels stuck and can’t stop thinking about their ex. I know how it feels to keep replaying everything, questioning your worth and wondering why you can’t just move on. In this episode I share the mindset shift that helped me finally detach and start getting over my ex. This isn’t about pretending you don’t care, it’s about understanding why you feel so attached and how to actually let go. I talk about why you’re not really missin...

Why 'Focus on Yourself' Feels Impossible After a Breakup. 27.03.2026 1h 5min

Struggling to move on after a breakup? Especially when you were the one who got left? In this episode, I break down why 'focus on yourself' feels so hard after being dumped. If you’re overthinking, replaying memories, missing your ex, or feeling stuck in heartbreak, this episode explains the psychology behind it. I cover breakup healing, attachment, rejection, and why letting go isn’t as simple as people say. I actually challenge my own advice, so if you are SICK of reading 'just focus on you...

The Pace of Your Healing After a Breakup Is a Sign of Your Strength. 20.03.2026 51min

Healing after a breakup doesn’t have a deadline and the pace you’re moving at? It says more about your strength than you think. In this episode of Coming Up For Air, I am talking about why slow healing is still powerful, how to stop comparing your journey, and what it really means to move on after heartbreak. If you’ve been feeling stuck, emotional, or frustrated with your progress after a breakup, this conversation will help you reframe everything. This is your reminder: you’re not beh...

Coping When Your Ex Moves On Quickly and Stays There. 06.03.2026 51min

What happens when your ex moves on quickly… and the relationship actually lasts? In this episode, I share my perspective three years later and talk about the emotions that come with watching someone you once loved build a long-term relationship with someone else. I discuss how to cope with the comparisons, the questions that come up, and how focusing on your own growth can slowly shift your perspective over time. This is an honest conversation about healing, acceptance, and how life can evolv...

Post Breakup & Your Life No Longer Looks Like Your Friends. 27.02.2026 56min

There’s a quiet pain in feeling like life has moved on without you. In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to be left while everyone around you seems to be moving forward. Friends at different life stages, a future that no longer exists, and the loneliness of being in an in-between space you never chose. This episode is about coping mentally and physically when comparison hits, when your world feels paused, and when you’re just trying to find your footing again. If you feel left behind,...

The Year of the Horse - Breakup Healing. 20.02.2026 54min

2026 is the Year of the Horse , a year of freedom, courage, and forward motion. In this episode, I explore how the Horse’s energy can help you move past heartbreak, restore your vitality, and reconnect with your true self. Learn practical ways to reclaim momentum, set boundaries, follow your desires, and trust your heart. Whether you’re navigating loss or seeking alignment, this episode guides you to move boldly, live fully, and step into life on your own terms. Want More Like This - ...

Single on Valentine’s Day? Congratulations. You’re Doing It Right. 13.02.2026 47min

Single on Valentine’s Day? Congratulations, you’re doing it right. In this episode, we reclaim the day for yourself, celebrating independence, self-love, and the power of choosing your own joy. We explore meaningful ways to honour your life, your growth, and your relationships beyond romance , including how to handle seeing an ex with someone else, so you can fully own this day as your own. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mov...

Liminal Space - The Messy Middle of Heartbreak 06.02.2026 48min

This episode explores the in-between phase after heartbreak, when the old version of you no longer fits and the new one hasn’t arrived yet. I talk about identity loss, emotional waves, nervous system regulation, loneliness, and practical ways to cope without rushing healing. This is a slow, grounding episode for anyone living inside transition. Nothing is wrong. Something is reorganizing. Want More Like This - https://stan.store/Loula My New Instagram - https://w...