BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

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  What I Told Myself When My Anxious Attachment Was Triggered (that 100% helped) 15.09.2026 17min

  In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral. We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic, and the BIG one: urgency does not equal truth. I’m also answering a listener question about catching feelings during the talking stage and how to stop anxiety from rushing you into treating someone like a committed partner before you actually know them. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered. It’s learning how to feel the trigger without letting it write the entire story. 🫶🏽 ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe      JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP
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  When Their Silence Feels Like They've Stopped Caring 08.09.2026 16min

  You know that feeling when they haven't texted back and suddenly your brain is doing A Beautiful Mind level calculations trying to figure out what it means? 😭 They told you they have a busy day. They've consistently shown you they care. You KNOW logically that nothing is wrong. But your anxious attachment is like... okay but why are they being quiet??? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, we're talking about why your partner's silence can feel SO freaking unbearable when you have anxious attachment, and why a delayed text, a little distance, or them needing space can suddenly feel like proof that they're pulling away. Because the problem usually isn't actually the silence. It's what your internal system has learned to make the silence mean. For me, silence used to mean: You're alone. No one's coming. Figure it out yourself. And no amount of telling myself, “Craig is probably just busy” could make that feeling disappear. Inside this episode, we're getting into: ✨ Why your partner not texting back can trigger an anxious attachment spiral✨ Why you can be wildly confident at work and completely unravel in your relationship✨ The “girl math” we do with response times when we're looking for reassurance✨ Why your brain starts hunting for evidence that they're pulling away✨ How people pleasing and overfunctioning can become ways of trying to earn safety in love✨ Why “just communicate” isn't always the answer✨ Why reassurance can feel amazing... until they go quiet again✨ The childhood experience that helped me understand why silence felt so threatening to me✨ My motion-sensor-light analogy for understanding relationship anxiety✨ What secure attachment actually looks like when your partner needs space I also answer a question from inside Secure Love Lab: “Every time they need space, I immediately assume they're pulling away for good. How do I know if it's real?” Because secure attachment doesn't mean your partner never goes quiet. It means their silence doesn't automatically become a story about your worth, their feelings, or the future of your relationship. And THAT is what we're working toward. If you're a high-achieving woman who can run the meeting, manage the team, make the diagnosis, close the deal... but one unanswered text has you wondering if the relationship is over, hiiiii babe. This one's for you. 😂 🎧 Subscribe to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast for more on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, overthinking, secure attachment, emotional safety, and learning how to actually relax into a healthy relationship. ✨ Is this my anxiety or is something actually wrong?Quiz coming soon! #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #Overthinking #SecureAttachment #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice #TextingAnxiety #FearOfAbandonment #HealthyRelationships #BeThatHealingGirl
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  How to Stop Overthinking When There’s Nothing Actually Wrong 01.09.2026 18min

  Ever have one of those weekends where everything was amazing... and then Sunday rolls around and suddenly your brain is convinced something is wrong? Yeah. I know that spiral. Your partner is kind. They're consistent. Their words match their actions. They've given you absolutely no reason to question the relationship. ...and somehow your brain is still waiting for the other shoe to drop. In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why we create problems when there aren't any, why healthy relationships can actually feel harder for anxious attachment, and the hidden habits that quietly fuel your spirals long before they explode. Because here's the thing: Your spiral didn't come out of nowhere. It was building long before the overthinking started. In this episode, we talk about:✨ Why you create conflict when your relationship is actually going well✨ The invisible habits quietly fueling your anxious attachment✨ Why reassurance isn't the thing you're actually looking for✨ The surprising reason healthy relationships can feel uncomfortable✨ Why "just stop overthinking" has never worked✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of white-knuckling your way through a good relationship✨ The phone battery analogy that completely changed how I think about spirals✨ A client story about finally letting herself receive love instead of always earning it One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that anxious attachment doesn't just show up when something is wrong. Sometimes it shows up because everything is finally right. And if you've ever found yourself picking fights after a great weekend, questioning a genuinely good partner, or wondering why you can't just relax... I made this episode for you. 💛 Ready to stop overthinking and start feeling secure? The Secure Love Lab is my 6-month coaching experience for high-achieving women who are exhausted from relationship anxiety, overthinking every text, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you're ready to stop understanding your patterns and finally start changing them, I'd love to support you.
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  How to Calm Your Anxiety When Your Partner Feels Distant 25.08.2026 16min

  Ever feel like your partner gets quiet and suddenly your entire nervous system decides the relationship is ending? Yep. Been there. In this episode, I'm sharing one of the biggest shifts that helped me stop spiraling every time I thought something felt "off" in my relationship. If you're a high achiever who can solve problems at work all day long but finds yourself replaying texts, analyzing their tone, or convincing yourself they're pulling away, this episode is for you. We're talking about why your brain keeps trying to "logic" its way out of relationship anxiety, why reassurance only works temporarily, and the emotional skill that actually creates lasting security. Inside this episode: ✨ Why your partner feeling distant can hijack your entire day ✨ The hidden pattern that keeps anxious attachment alive ✨ Why overthinking and reassurance are keeping you stuck ✨ The mistake high achievers make when anxiety shows up ✨ How to build real emotional safety instead of chasing temporary relief If you've ever caught yourself wondering, "Are they mad at me?" or convinced yourself the relationship was over because they took longer to text back, I promise you're not alone. Hit subscribe for weekly episodes on anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, emotional regulation, and building secure, healthy relationships. 💛 If this episode helped you, I'd love if you left a 5-star review. It helps me keep this podcast free and helps more people find the support they need.   ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  How You Are Ruining a Good Relationship with Self Sabotage 18.08.2026 12min

  Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that... especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste...this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨ #SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP
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  Anxious attachment making up fake scenarios? (My brain made up an affair!) 11.08.2026 24min

  Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up? Maybe they took longer to text back.Maybe they seemed quieter than usual.Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing interest, pulling away... or worse. If you've ever felt trapped in those spirals, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told. During a solo wilderness retreat, my anxious brain convinced me—with absolutely zero evidence—that my husband was having an affair. It felt completely real... until I was finally able to watch my mind create the story in real time. We dive into why anxious attachment doesn't just react to reality—it often fills in the blanks, creating stories that feel true even when they aren't. In this episode, we cover: ✨ Why your anxious brain creates fake relationship scenarios✨ The difference between intuition and anxiety✨ Why your brain always assumes the worst✨ How anxious attachment turns uncertainty into "proof"✨ Why distraction isn't the same as healing✨ The fear loop that keeps reinforcing relationship anxiety✨ How to recognize when you're reacting to a story instead of reality✨ The first step toward breaking the cycle If you're a high-achieving woman who's exhausted from overthinking every text, replaying conversations, or waiting for the other shoe to drop—even in a healthy relationship—this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. 💚 Want to stop living in false alarms and finally feel safe in love? Check out the Secure Love Lab, my coaching program designed to help you break free from anxious attachment, stop spiraling, and build lasting emotional security.   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP
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  What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away 04.08.2026 21min

  Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right? Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔 Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste - this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!" Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨ #SelfSabotage #RelationshipAdvice #LoveLife #HealingJourney #PodcastLife #GirlTalk #RealTalk #empowerment   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP
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  The Real Reason Why You Think You Need Constant Reassurance 28.07.2026 15min

  In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe. One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking: "Do you love me?" I was asking: "Am I safe?" And those are two completely different questions. We get into: ✨ Why reassurance feels good... for about five minutes ✨ The anxious attachment loop that keeps resetting itself ✨ Why your partner can't fix something that isn't actually coming from them ✨ The difference between communicating your needs and chasing reassurance ✨ How to build the kind of internal safety that doesn't disappear every time they take three hours to text back If you've ever felt embarrassed by how much reassurance you need or wondered why you can absolutely crush it at work but completely unravel over one delayed text... this episode is for you. And if you're tired of understanding your patterns but still feeling trapped by them... I have something coming that's built exactly for that. 🎧 Let's get into it!   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll   ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe        JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY 💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta 💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok   WORK WITH CLARE ⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP
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  What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away 21.07.2026 21min

  If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖 In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious attachment, share insights on how these symptoms can sabotage a good thing, and offer strategies to not only stop pushing your partner away but to actually bring them closer. Plus, don't miss the hot tip at the end where I reveal the internal shift that changed everything for me!!! 🔍 Inside This Episode: - Personal anecdotes and lessons learned from my own relationship struggles 📚 - Understanding the impact of anxiously attached symptoms on your love life 💔 - Strategies to manage triggers and avoid pushing your partner away 🛑 - A transformative hot tip that will help you bring your partner closer instead of driving them away 🔥 If you're a high-achieving, overthinking girly who's slaying in every area of your life except romantically, then you're in the perfect spot. Let's navigate these choppy waters together and turn your relationship anxiety into a source of strength. #BeThatHealingGirl #AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipAnxiety #LoveHealing #PodcastLove ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  The Hard Truth: Why You Still Overthink (Even After All The Work) 14.07.2026 15min

  You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯 You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling... ...so why are you still spiraling? In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women never hear: understanding your anxious attachment isn't the same as rewiring it. If you're stuck in the cycle of "I know what's happening, but I still can't stop," this conversation is for you. In this episode, we cover: 🧠 Why self-awareness alone doesn't stop relationship anxiety💭 The trap of becoming an expert on your anxiety... without changing it❤️ Why high-achieving women often feel the most frustrated with their healing journey🔥 The difference between insight and actual transformation✨ A client story that proves real change is possible when you stop collecting information and start practicing something different🍪 Clare's favorite cookie analogy for why more journaling isn't always the answer If you've ever thought... "I know I'm overthinking. I know WHY I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?" ...you're going to feel incredibly seen in this episode. Whether you're navigating anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, or simply feel exhausted from constantly trying to "fix yourself," this episode will help you understand what actually creates lasting change. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll  JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta  💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok  WORK WITH CLARE⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP 
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  Why The Good Times Still Trigger Your Anxiety 07.07.2026 20min

  You had an amazing weekend together... So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅 If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered after closeness, why your brain starts scanning for problems the moment you finally feel safe, and how to stop turning beautiful moments into the beginning of your next spiral. Inside this episode:💛 Why good weekends can trigger MORE anxiety than bad ones🧠 The surprising reason your brain treats peace like danger📱 Why Monday texts suddenly feel loaded after a great weekend⚠️ The hidden pattern keeping you stuck in the anxious attachment loop✨ The difference between understanding your triggers... and actually changing them🫶 A client story that'll make you believe secure love is possible🌿 How curiosity (not reassurance) is what finally rewires anxious attachment If you're successful everywhere else in life but somehow become a detective every time your partner takes a little longer to text back... welcome. You're in the right place. Whether you're navigating relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, overthinking texts, or learning how to finally trust a healthy relationship, this episode will help you stop bracing for the bad and start enjoying the good. 🎧 If this episode resonates, leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review (it helps more anxious girlies find the podcast!) 👇 Ready to stop overthinking your relationship in real time? Join The Secure Love Lab... my coaching community for high-achieving women who are done letting anxiety run their relationships. Weekly coaching, real-time support, nervous system tools, and everything you need to go from anxious to secure. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  How To Survive The Overthinking Spiral (Even though you know better!) 30.06.2026 20min

  You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵‍💫 You know your attachment style.You've read the books.You can literally watch yourself spiraling... ...and somehow you still can't stop. In this week's episode I'm breaking down why knowing better isn't the same as feeling safe... and what to do when your nervous system goes into full-on survival mode over a delayed text, a quiet mood, or a tiny change in communication. In this episode: 💭 Why high-achieving women feel so confident at work... but powerless in relationships🧠 The hidden reason your brain treats a delayed text like an emergency❤️ Why reassurance only gives temporary relief (and actually keeps the cycle alive)🌱 The difference between surviving your relationship and actually feeling secure in it🚩 How "I just need a little more clarity" might be keeping you stuck✨ My own story about breaking an old family pattern in real time👯‍♀️ A client win that proves you can stop spiraling even if you've struggled with jealousy, abandonment, or anxious attachment for years If you've ever thought... "I KNOW I'm overthinking... so why can't I stop?" This episode is for you. Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming smarter. It's about teaching your nervous system that you're safe (even when you don't have all the answers) If you're tired of surviving your relationship and ready to actually enjoy it, hit play. 🤍 ✨ Want support while you're actually in the spiral—not just after? The Secure Love Lab is my coaching membership for high-achieving women who are ready to stop overthinking every text, build secure attachment, and finally trust themselves in love. ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨https://www.healinggirlgang.com/sll  ✅ SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBEhttps://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlsubscribe       JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY💗Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlinsta  💖Follow on TikTok: https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirltiktok  WORK WITH CLARE⭐️ VIP 1:1 Session https://bit.ly/bethathealinggirlVIP 
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  How To stop OVERTHINKING Relationships 23.06.2026 16min

  Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen. In this episode, we're gonna chat about: - The why behind our tendency to overanalyze every little detail and how it's messing with our vibe. - Personal stories from my own love life (yep, it's gonna get real) and lessons learned from spiraling into the overthinking abyss. - Practical, no-BS strategies to quiet that overactive mind of yours, so you can actually enjoy dating and not turn it into a full-time job (because who's got time for that?). - How to distinguish between intuition and fear-based overthinking. Spoiler alert: They're not the same thing! So, grab your headphones and gear up for your hot girl walk and let's get into it! Trust me, by the end of this episode, you'll be ready to tackle love head-on, with a clear mind and an open heart!  💖✨ ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  
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  He Hasn't Texted You... Now What?! 16.06.2026 20min

  Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!)  Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from Mr. Maybe-Right? Tired of playing the waiting game with your phone? I’ve got you covered! For 20ish minutes I’ll be dishing out my unfiltered thoughts and juicy secrets on navigating the rollercoaster of relationship anxiety.  From cringe-worthy dating fails to epic self-discovery, plus my own hot mess moments and breakthroughs. Get ready for a bombshell tip on healing anxious attachment... it's all about tuning into your body (because, let's face it, feeling is healing!) So whether you’re getting ready for your hot girl walk or pouring yourself a glass of whatever makes you fabulous, hit play, and let's dive into this journey of turning your love life from anxious to aligned. Remember, you're not just any girl; you're THAT healing girl. Let's do this!  ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  
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  What Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Actually Takes 09.06.2026 16min

  You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵‍💫 If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you. Because here's the hard truth: The more you push for connection, the harder it can become for someone else to show up. In this episode, we're diving into what it actually takes to break the anxious-avoidant cycle and why the answer isn't communicating better, trying harder, or becoming the "perfect" partner. Inside this episode: 💭 Why you keep finding yourself in the same push-pull dynamic🫠 The surprising way anxiety creates distance in relationships📅 Why making all the plans might be the thing keeping you stuck❤️ What happens when you stop forcing connection and start allowing it🌪️ How overfunctioning destroys intimacy (even when your intentions are good)🌱 The difference between being flexible and being a people-pleasing pushover✨ What secure attachment actually looks like in real life If you're a high-achiever who can run a business, manage a team, crush your goals, and somehow still spend hours wondering why someone hasn't texted back... Welcome. You're in the right place! Because healing anxious attachment isn't about becoming easier to love. It's about becoming secure enough to stop chasing it. And sometimes the thing you're desperately trying to create is the exact thing you're accidentally preventing. Grab your coffee, put your detective hat down for a minute, and let's talk about it. 🤍 #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment  ✨ Ready to stop chasing and start feeling secure? If you're tired of the push-pull dynamic running your relationship, Clare offers private coaching for women who are ready to break the pattern for good. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  What To Do With Yourself When They Feel Distant 02.06.2026 16min

  They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong. But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire. In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer has nothing to do with getting them to text faster, reassure you more, or prove they still care. Because the truth is:The moment they pull back, most anxious attachers immediately abandon themselves. And that's where the spiral begins. In this episode: 💭 Why distance feels like an emergency when you have anxious attachment📱 The urge to text, check, monitor, and keep the conversation alive🫠 Why "matching their energy" usually creates even more distance❤️ The difference between trusting your partner and actually feeling safe🔍 How overthinking turns you into a relationship detective🌿 What secure attachment really looks like when someone is having an off day✨ The surprising question that will stop you from centering your entire life around their availability If you're a high-achieving woman who can manage a business, lead a team, crush your goals... but completely unravel when someone's energy changes, this episode is for you. Because healing anxious attachment isn't about getting better at reading signals. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself when someone else feels unavailable. And that's exactly what we're diving into today. 🤍 ✨ Want to stop spiraling every time their energy shifts? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of Secure Love Lab — my step-by-step program for high-achieving women who are tired of overthinking every text, every delay, and every ounce of distance.   ✨🧪💚 GET ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  
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  The Reason You SPIRAL (Even After The BEST Weekend Together) 26.05.2026 20min

  If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits? This episode is for you. We’re diving into: ✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens ✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter ✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking fights you don’t even want to have ✨ why reassurance never fully fixes it ✨ the difference between a relationship problem and an anxiety problem pretending to be one I’m also sharing: 🤍 a personal story from my own relationship 🤍 a powerful client breakthrough 🤍 why your nervous system keeps trying to “prepare for loss” 🤍 and the exact reason so many high-achieving women stay stuck in this cycle for years This episode is deep, validating, practical, and honestly one of the most important conversations I’ve had on the podcast in a while. Because relationship anxiety isn’t usually about the weekend. It’s about what your safety system learned to do long before this relationship ever existed. 🎧 Listen now if you’re tired of overthinking good things, sabotaging peace, or feeling like your brain is constantly searching for a problem.   ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  
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  Why you Feel Confident in Life But Anxious in Your Relationship 19.05.2026 24min

  This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral. And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also sharing more about my newest drop... The Secure Love Lab! My new space for anxious overthinkers who are ready to stop obsessing over the relationship and actually experience it. ✨🧪💚 GET EARLY ACCESS TO THE SECURE LOVE LAB 🧪💚✨ SECURE LOVE LAB   FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  How to Stop Feeling Like You're Too Much in Your Relationship 12.05.2026 22min

  If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶 Not because your needs are too big. Not because you’re “crazy.” Not because you care too much. But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy. Easy to date. Easy to communicate with. Easy to not disappoint. Easy to never need anything. So now you: 💭 overthink every conversation 💭 rehearse texts before sending them 💭 hold everything in until you explode 💭 feel guilty for having needs 💭 try soooo hard to be “chill” while secretly spiraling inside   In this episode, we’re talking about: ✨ why feeling “too much” is usually rooted in fear of rejection ✨ the exhausting cycle of overexplaining, overfunctioning & people-pleasing ✨ how anxious attachment turns you into a “service provider” instead of a partner ✨ why trying to be low-maintenance actually creates MORE disconnection ✨ the difference between healthy communication vs performing “easy girl” energy ✨ and how to finally feel safe taking up space in love   We also talk about: 🧪 codependency vs anxious attachment 🧪 why reassurance never fully scratches the itch 🧪 how overthinking blocks true partnership 🧪 a client win that will make every anxious girlie exhale   If you’ve ever thought: “I just want to stop being so much.” …this episode might completely change the way you see yourself. ❤️   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session
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  What "If He Wanted To He Would" Is Actually Doing To Your Relationship 05.05.2026 19min

  “If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety 🧠 How this mindset turns you into a silent tester instead of a communicator 🔥 The subtle ways it makes you pull back, overanalyze, or keep score 🪞 Why it feels empowering… but actually disconnects you from your partner ❤️ What secure love actually looks like instead (hint: it’s not mind reading) Real talk moment: This belief creates a relationship where: you don’t ask for what you want you expect them to “just know” and you quietly decide what things mean about how much they care And then you end up feeling disappointed… even when nothing is technically wrong. Because you’re measuring love based on unspoken rules. This episode is for you if: ✨ You keep thinking “if they cared, they would just do it” ✨ You struggle to ask for what you want without feeling needy ✨ You find yourself testing instead of communicating ✨ You overanalyze effort, timing, or small actions ✨ You want to feel secure… but keep spiraling instead 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session