The Erotic Realm

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  #135 The Psychology of Ownership: Total Power Exchange, Erotic Identity & the Desire to Own with RednBlack 18.09.2026 1h 9min

  What happens when the kink you're having is no longer the kink you actually want?In this episode I'm joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity.After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire?We explore:The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE).Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled.Red's journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange.Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies.The tension between being an academic and openly kinky.Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons.Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests.This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #134 The Psychology of Male Dominance: Justin on Power, Masculinity & Submission 15.09.2026 1h 24min

  Can a man learn to be Dominant — or is dominance something you either have or you don't?In this episode I'm joined by Justin, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore the psychology of male dominance, masculinity and consensual power exchange.We explore:Whether male dominance can be learned.The difference between embodying dominance and performing it.Justin's four pillars of a Dominant man: self-containment, earned authority, erotic mastery and relational leadership.Why authority must be earned before someone can responsibly hold another person's submission.The difference between consensual dominance and men who simply want control over women.How BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships can become pathways for personal transformation.Research article: To Know Thyself: A Qualitative Exploration of Motivating Factors for BDSM and Kink Participants Who Hold Dominant Identities.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships 11.09.2026 1h 1min

  What happens when you love each other — but you don't want the same things sexually?In this episode I'm joined by Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, to explore the psychology of mismatched desire, sexual compatibility and kink in relationships.We explore:What mismatched sexual desire looks like inside relationships.Why telling our partner what we really want can feel extraordinarily vulnerable.Whether an apparent “low desire” partner might simply not be having the kind of sex that activates their desire.What BDSM and kink can teach conventional couples about negotiating desire, boundaries and consent.The surprisingly complicated question: is sex actually a need?Research article: Strategies for Mitigating Sexual Desire Discrepancy in RelationshipsThis episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #132 Kink & Neurodivergence: BDSM, Mental Health & Consent with Auntie Vice 08.09.2026 49min

  What's missing when the standard rules of kink assume everybody's brain works the same way?In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated.So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time?We explore:How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire.Why BDSM's explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people.Consent and communication when someone's capacity or mental state changes.The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink.Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy.The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury.Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #131 What Your Sexual Fantasies Reveal About You: Cat Savard on Kink, CNC & Desire 04.09.2026 56min

  What do your sexual fantasies reveal about you?In this episode I'm joined by Cat Savard, founder of Good Ember, to explore the psychology and data behind our sexual fantasies.Link to Survey data here: https://www.goodember.com/pages/surveysWe explore:What our sexual fantasies and kinks might reveal about us.What Cat's Good Ember data is revealing about people's fantasies.The psychology of consensual non-consent (CNC).Why people can fantasise about experiences they don't literally want to happen.Sexual communication and why sharing fantasies with a partner can feel so vulnerable.How couples can become more curious about each other erotically.Research article: The Role of Sexual Communication in Couples' Sexual Outcomes: A Dyadic Path Analysis.This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey 01.09.2026 1h 49min

  What happens when you stop hiding your kink and decide to fully own who you are?In this episode Rain DeGrey takes us from coming out of the kink closet and finding herself at Kink.com just three weeks later, through her evolution into sexuality education and her belief that helping people overcome shame and "own their awesome" is what she was put here to do.We explore:Coming out of the kink closet and owning your erotic identity.Why strap-ons became one of her specialist areas.Rain's experience of being in a cult — and why she left.What supporting people through their final moments of life taught her about living.Sexual shame and where we learn to judge our desires.What two decades of exploring kink have taught Rain about pleasure and authenticity.Why accepting our erotic selves can become part of living a more meaningful life.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality 28.08.2026 1h 4min

  What happens when there is a disconnect between what your mind and your body wants?In this episode I explore with Judith Swack, creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU), about sexual shame, trauma, desire and what she describes as experiencing sex from the body's point of view.We explore:Sexual shame and its impact on desire.The conflict between consciously wanting something and not feeling safe enough to want it.What Judith describes as a phobia of sexual desire.How religious and cultural messages can become attached to sexuality.A live tapping demonstration during the episode.How Judith works with unconscious patterns around sex.The relationship between the mind, body and erotic desire.Research article: Sexual Satisfaction, Sexual Attitudes, and Shame in Relation to Religiosity.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #128 Why Financial Domination Turns People On: Money, Power & Kink with Harley 25.08.2026 54min

  Why can giving someone your money become an act of erotic surrender?In this episode I'm joined by Harley to explore the psychology of financial domination — better known as findom — and the complex relationship between money, power, submission and desire.We explore:The psychology of financial domination and findom.Why financial domination can feel "primal".Service submission and the psychology of giving.The difference between lifestyle findom and commercial erotic labour.Why financial domination isn't necessarily reducible to sexual arousal.Negotiating boundaries within financial power exchange.The difference between financial domination and financial exploitation.Research article: Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space 21.08.2026 1h

  What happens when you don't just want to pretend to be a pony but you want to psychologically become one?In this episode I'm joined by Desmond, known in the kink community as Rapidash, for our first exploration into the psychology of pony play and human animal roleplay.We explore:What pony play actually is and why people are drawn to it.Why pony play isn't primarily sexual for Desmond.How latex, masks, bridles and tack facilitate psychological transformation.Service, devotion and the relationship between a pony and handler.The importance of community in transforming a private fantasy into an embodied identity.Whether entering pony space represents escaping yourself — or becoming more fully yourself.Research article: The Psychology of Puppy Play: A Phenomenological Investigation.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #126 365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure, Desire & the Psychology of Orgasm with Annette Benedetti 18.08.2026 57min

  What happens when you commit to having an orgasm every single day for an entire year?In this episode we explore Annette's 365 Days of Orgasms journey — what began as an unusual personal experiment and evolved into a much deeper exploration of pleasure, desire, embodiment and sexuality.We explore:The psychology behind 365 consecutive days of orgasms.What women may misunderstand about their own arousal and pleasure.The relationship between orgasm, desire and sexual satisfaction.How self-pleasure can affect partnered sex.The role of embodiment, presence and psychological safety in pleasure.Whether everyone could benefit from developing a regular pleasure practice.Why the greatest sexual experiences may involve much more than orgasm.Research article: Building Blocks Toward Optimal Sexuality: Constructing a Conceptual Model.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #125 Erotic Jealousy, Non-Monogamy & Your Passport 2 Pleasure with Ally Iseman 14.08.2026 59min

  Can jealousy become erotic—and can we have both security and novelty in our relationships?I'm joined by Ally Iseman from Passport to Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives.We explore:Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire.Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you're ready to explore it.How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship.The tension between security and erotic novelty.The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships.Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship.Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we've inherited about love.Research article:  The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox 11.08.2026 1h 2min

  What if some BDSM experiences aren't simply erotic—but sacred?In this episode I explore with scholar Melissa M. Wilcox about the fascinating intersection of BDSM, spirituality, religion, ritual and sexuality.We explore:Ritual, surrender and meaning within BDSM.The historical relationship between religion, pain and self-flagellation.What makes an experience feel sacred.Melissa's research process for Devotions.Feminist Wicca, LGBTQ+ Christianity and Melissa's academic journey.Why human beings create rituals in the first place.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #123 The Good Boy: Submission, Tantra & Latex with The Queensman 07.08.2026 1h 21min

  What if submission wasn't about weakness...but about finally feeling safe enough to be vulnerable?In this episode I sit down with The Queensman—a passionate submissive, service sub, tantra practitioner, latex fetishist, and the first Good Boy to appear on the podcast.We explore:What it means to identify as a Good Boy.Mommy Domme/little dynamics and unconditional love.Why service submission isn't about being a pushover.Hidden desires, shame, and self-acceptance.How tantra transformed his BDSM journey.Latex, caning, and his favourite kinks.Advice for anyone afraid to explore their desires.Research article: Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #122 The Art of Shibari: Marie Sauvage on Ritual, Presence, & Erotic Art 04.08.2026 46min

  What if Shibari wasn't simply about rope—but about learning a new way to communicate?In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage.We explore:How Shibari became Marie's artistic language.Why rope is about communication, not just restraint.Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness.The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage.Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations.A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari.Research article: Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT).Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #121 The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Jim Benson on Masculinity, Tantra & Erotic Confidence 31.07.2026 58min

  Can men experience multiple orgasms - and if so, why aren't more people talking about it?In this episode I speak with men's sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man.We explore:What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man.The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.How tantra transforms male sexuality.Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety.Awakening the "sexual animal within".Why presence creates better sex.Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #120 Healing Your Erotic Self: Big Bear Hug on Trauma, Boundaries & Belonging 28.07.2026 1h

  What happens when healing from trauma changes the way you understand your desires?In this episode I chat with with Big_Bear_Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves.We explore:The relationship between trauma and desire.Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink.Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces.Finding a kink-aware therapist.Becoming a "Desire Fulfilment Entity".Belonging beyond labels.Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #119 Building Orgasmic Wellness: The Platform Rethinking Sexual Health Care with Mike Corner 24.07.2026 39min

  Why is finding the right help for a sexual concern still so difficult?In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care.We explore:What sexual wellness actually includes.Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult.The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support.What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google.The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #118 Inside the Mind of FetLife Founder John Baku 21.07.2026 1h 3min

  How do you build the world's largest BDSM community?In this episode I chat down with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.We explore:How FetLife was created.The psychology of building online communities.Why belonging is so important for kinky people.The future of FetLife and BDSM education.Community safety, moderation, and transparency.Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #117 The Erotic Edge: Tantra, Neuroscience & Conscious BDSM with Amber Ella-Vatrix 17.07.2026 1h 4min

  What if your erotic struggles aren't really about sex but about safety, connection, and your nervous system?In this episode I chat with Amber Ella-Vatrix—conscious kink educator, tantra practitioner, neuroscience-informed facilitator, and creator of The Erotic Edge.We explore:Conscious kink.Tantra and embodied sexuality.Heart-based dominance.Erotic transformation.The sacred prostitute tradition.Trauma, retraumatisation, and safety.Research article: Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety.Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  #116 The Psychology of Super Orgasms: Female Pleasure, Desire & Expanded Sexual Response with Mae 14.07.2026 1h 5min

  Can some women experience super orgasms?In this episode I chat with down with Mae —educator, former professor, and creator whose work has placed her at the centre of thousands of deeply personal conversations about sexuality, fantasy, insecurity, and pleasure.We explore:Super orgasms and Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).Male sexuality and vulnerability.Consent, communication and respect.Kink and human connection.Sexual confidence.Why pleasure matters more than performance.Research article: Five Cases with Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).Supporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.