Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma

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  All that I considered doing to my perp 25.08.2026 1h 12min

  In the second set of memories I recovered, the perp was someone who was still alive. In my first set of memories, the perp was dead – I didn't fully realize it then, but it was a bit of a relief, since that removed the question of confronting him. That wasn't the case in the second set.In this video, I talk in great detail about all the actions I considered towards my perp. And how that chapter of my healing journey, where much energy and attention was being put to my relationship with him, came to an end.#healingchildhoodsexualtrauma #childhoodsexualabuse
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  Trafficking 20.08.2026 1h 4min

  In this next episode in my series of updates as my journey of healing childhood sexual trauma feels complete (in a manner of speaking), I talk about trafficking. In my own exploration of this theme, I came to realize that trafficking doesn’t always mean kidnapping. There are ways to traffick children ie. use them as sexual slaves to earn money, where you don’t need to take them away from their parents permanently viz. kidnap. My grandfather would take me periodically to a farmhouse near my mom’s home town of Satara, a tier 3 city in Maharashtra. There his friend and business partner also sodomized me. I don’t know who else abused me. I don’t know if money was exchanged. I don’t know how a child can be expected to know if money was exchanged in such a circumstance. I don’t know if it is worse to hand over your grandson to your friend to be raped for free or for money. In this episode, I explore all of these themes mixed in with some of my present philosophical explorations of Marxism. I hope you enjoy watching/listening. If you do, I’d love to hear how it lands. Please like, share and subscribe if you’d like to support my work! It means a lot :)
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  Moving past trying to figure out who all abused me 09.08.2026 26min

  In this episode of "Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma"–which is the first in a series of episodes where I am intending to update the audience on this specific theme that I have kind of moved on from onto other (more fun!) themes like #sexualpleasure, Jesus and #exorcisms–I talk about the season of my healing journey where I was caught up in the question of who all did what to me when I was a child and its corollary what did I do to who all, that I don’t remember now.The underlying subject is my relationship to my own memory post the recovery of #repressedmemories. I'm sure those of you who have recovered your own repressed memories of sexual abuse will relate to some of these day-to-day challenges.I am also back to interviewing folks on the fascinating phenomenon of repressed memories. So if you or someone you know has recovered fully repressed memories of #sexualabuse, please reach out!
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  Texture of Panic Attacks 23.02.2026 36min

  What is a panic attack really? It is a circumcision of the heart. Listen to understand how you can choose a different posture towards this fearful phenomenon and be freed of the panic that comes with it.Read the essay here: https://vighneshrege.substack.com/p/the-texture-of-panic-attacksI'd love to receive kind reflections on email: [email protected]
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  Divine Forgiveness – Closing the Chapter on my Vengeance Fantasies 01.06.2025 10min

  This is the most honest thing I’ve shared about forgiveness.For a long time, I didn’t understand why killing was considered a sin. Not from the Buddha, not from Christian theology. After recovering memories of sodomy from my perpetrator in 2022, I felt deeply justified in wanting to kill him. I even researched how. I made soul agreements with parts of me that were in agony. I thought I was bringing karmic judgment — cleanly. And then, I met Jesus. Not the idea of him — the presence. In the depths of my agony, I felt him suffering with me. Not witnessing, but feeling it. And suddenly, I understood what it meant that he died for our sins. My pain was inside his pain. And so was my perpetrator’s.This video is for anyone struggling with revenge, with justice, with the unbearable weight of pain that hasn’t been answered. I don’t have all the answers. But I’ve felt enough to know that Christ’s death changed the game. And his forgiveness — it includes them too.#christianhealing #traumarecovery #forgiveness #innerhealing #jesusheals #cptsd #survivorstories
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  Exploring the Collapse of Boundaries in Abuse 26.04.2025 26min

  In this video, I’m exploring some tender territory around the collapse of boundaries in abuse. I’m reflecting on how hatred from strangers online has been stirring up deep old pain — and how it might connect to early experiences of boundary collapse, possibly even repressed trauma. I share honestly about the emotional waves that came up, the grief, the moments of suicidal flashes, and the practices that are helping me move through it — like crying instead of numbing, and allowing the tension to release. This isn’t a polished answer — it’s an open inquiry. If you’re navigating similar territory, know you’re not alone.#childhoodtrauma #repressedmemories #healingfromabuse #griefandhealing #survivorstories #emotionalresilience #healingchildhoodsexualtrauma #childhoodsexualabuse #childhoodsexualtrauma #adultsurvivors #suicidalawareness
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  Microdosing Psychedelics for Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma w/ Will Harris 21.02.2025 1h 21min

  (Skip to 0:00:45 for the start, apologies for the editing gaffe.)In this episode, Will Harris shares his journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse from his father using psychedelics.I met Will over a year ago here in Asheville and felt a resonance in our capacity to speak openly about our similar trauma history. In April of 2024, I did an Ayahuasca ceremony (my second one) with the intention of healing my subconscious misogyny – specifically as it relates to my mother. It was quite a wild journey. On the first night, I saw vivid imagery that flicked by quickly where I saw myself being raped by almost everyone I know and myself raping quite a few people I know. As this imagery flicked by, there was a very clear difference between what I'd call fantastical imagination and felt embodied remembering. Most of this imagery felt heady and was fantastical in my imagination and then for a few of these, I could feel the truth of it in my body. As I write this, I sit with the risk of sharing something like this so openly – I imagine people who never believed me would read this and go "oh I knew it! It was all fantasy". Those are not the people I am writing and creating content for. I have learnt that it's best to just step back from such people and it's quite futile trying to convince them. After all that imagery, I saw one that really struck with me – it was a series of men, all sodomizing each other in a chain and all the men were me. Even as I write it out, I remember it vividly.I share this story because it reaffirms my belief that the tide of abusive cultural systems (often referenced in a gendered manner as patriarchy, hiding the subconscious misandry that many humans carry today) changes when men who have experienced sexual abuse openly speak up about what they went through, what impact it had on their lives and how they are reconnecting with their tenderness and their strength.I am always grateful when I am met in this desire by a man – especially when it's from the state that I am attempting to create home in. A state that carries the powerful tagline – "First in Freedom". North Carolina.If you have questions on this for me or Will, feel free to comment here or email me at [email protected]. I might take a minute to respond, but I do try to respond to all inquiries.
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  Exorcising childhood sexual abuse with Bob Falconer 17.01.2025 1h 3min

  I hosted Bob Falconer today on my podcast Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma. I really loved the simplicity of a theme that emerged in this conversation. It's that love heals everything. You don't need all these fancy tools and fancy trauma healing techniques and fancy conversational frameworks. You just need to open your heart to love. Of course the journey to a soft heart sometimes requires learning all these techniques – just so that the mind can finally lay down its defenses. What a delight it is to connect with a man who has worked really hard to keep his heart soft and tender after a childhood filled with pretty horrific acts of abuse. Bob survived sexual abuse from his mother, father and his father's gay partners amongst others while growing up in middle class New York. Today, he is the leading voice on the part of Internal Family Systems therapy that deals with exorcising or unburdening external spirit entities that might have lodged themselves in the client during moments of sexual violation (amongst other things). He is the author of the book "The Others Within Us". In this episode, we dive into his history of abuse, his trauma healing journey and how he relates to Spirit in service of healing himself and others. I'd love to hear what this episode evokes in you and any follow up questions you might have for me or Bob. You can find him at https://robertfalconer.us/ #childhoodsexualtrauma #ifs #exorcisms #childhoodsexualabuse
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  Healing Indulgence in Vengeance Fantasies 13.01.2025 40min

  This past weekend in Asheville was quite a grief portal for me, triggered by my first instance of being on the receiving end of verbal racism since I've moved here. I trudged the now familiar road from shock, numbness to grief release to exhaustion, fatigue to suicidality to vengeance fantasization. In this video, I describe how allowing myself to fantasize about vengeance has helped relieve a lot of the tension that can emerge in moments of deep trauma triggers. I reference a tool in the video called aspecting. Here's an essay describing how I used it to release all charge towards my maternal grandfather for his role in my #childhoodsexualabuse. https://vighneshrege.substack.com/p/aspecting-a-tool-for-healing-trauma?utm_source=youtube I also reference IFS, a healing modality that helps create greater harmony amongst all the varied conflicting parts that we as adult survivors can have. If you'd like to book an IFS session with me, go here – https://cal.com/vighnesh-rege/ifs Please like and share this video if you found it useful and comment below on what kind of content you'd like to see.
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  The Ridiculous Projection of Repressed Trauma into "Theories" 18.10.2024 9min

  The wounding we don't see within ourselves, tends to get intellectualized and projected out onto the world. I dig into the story of Dr. Elizabeth Loftus, the top most expert on the "falsity" of recovered memories of sexual abuse. She was fondled at the age of 6 and believes that that incident "did not affect her much". She has devoted her career as a psychologist to create bodies of scientific research to discredit recovery of repressed memories. How cosmically ironic and ridiculous! It's high time that we discard "wisdom" from anyone who is unwilling to share what wounding they experienced in *this* lifetime to be able to gather that wisdom. Otherwise we are at the mercy of depressed philosophers and influencers who parrot those same old quotes that you've seen a gazillion times. As a society, we deserve better! #childhoodsexualtrauma#childhoodsexualabuse#repressedmemories
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  Rage Against the Caretaker – A commentary on the movie Eileen (2023) 27.07.2024 22min

  Often in the journey of an #adultsurvivor of #childhoodsexualabuse towards Wholeness, they have to face the Rage that lives within their bodies for the gross violation of boundaries that they experienced as a child. Rage is an emotion that exists to represent past violation of boundaries that have not been fully addressed and alchemized.It's a trope in the adult survivor world that often (not always), it's easier to access this Rage against the person who was supposed to be taking care of you instead of the perpertrator. There's a felt sense of deep betrayal. It's almost as if the enraged part is screaming at our caretaker (parents, or otherwise)–"YOU HAD ONE FUCKING JOB. TO NOT LET ME BE RAPED. AND YOU FAILED MISERABLY AT IT.". Your experience may vary, of course. If there's one thing I've learnt in exploring these dark recesses of human society, it's that there is a broad spectrum of experiences that we go through as humans both in our abuse and in our healing journeys. And yet, this is a trope that I encounter time and again.The movie #Eileen, based on a novel by the same name from Ottessa Moshfegh, explores the tragedy of the caretaker. In this case, the mom of a boy, who let her husband continue raping him.I found this movie, and this scene in particular, to be a very healing piece of art. I hope that's your experience too. Whether it is or not, I hope to hear from you in the comments 🌱 This is an audio taken from the video uploaded on my YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zaG8Gep2Yko Copyright belongs to the movie owners. Scene borrowed under Fair Use for critical commentary. #eileenmovie #annehathaway
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  Uncovering Trauma through a journey of Vipassana, Pick Up Artistry and Yoga – Interview with Wolf 06.07.2024 1h 9min

  Wolf is a fascinating human that I crossed paths with quite serendipitously through my travels. In this podcast interview recorded at Vondelpark in Amsterdam, NL, we dive into his uncovering of his childhood sexual trauma. Wolf is the first human I've directly spoken with who has experienced infantile sexual abuse. He is also one of the most open, creative and entrepreneurial human beings. I thoroughly enjoyed dropping in on this subject with him and hope you do too. You can find him on Instagram: @_wolfb_ and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/FlowOfConsciousness?app=desktop
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  On overcoming trauma–induced porn & sex addiction with Tyson Adams 30.05.2024 1h 5min

  Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men's coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men's work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he's not working you'll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny, San Diego. You can find more of his work at IG: @tysonadams__
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  On the Capacity of your Hands to Soothe your Panic Attacks 05.02.2024 14min

  In the previous episode, I talked about the panic I've experienced every time I've come close to or recovered a repressed memory of sexual abuse. In this episode, I share more about my direct experience with soothing my own panic attacks by holding different parts of myself with loving kindness every morning, along with regular self body oil massage rituals. I don't get panic attacks anymore – unless I find myself watching a movie with a lot of jump scares – wild to think I was so numbed out that I used to love these before. Now the skillset I developed soothing my physical body during panic attacks helps me in my work as a Shibari Dom.
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  The Panic of Recovering Repressed Memories of Sexual Abuse 02.02.2024 6min

  The Panic of Recovery of #repressedmemoriesofchildhoodsexualabuse is rooted in the fallacious notion that what you are seeing is happening to you right now.Practice reminding yourself that anything you might see has already happened to you. Anything that you might be afraid of needing to do is a choice that you don’t have to make right now.I’ve found this reminder to self a wonderful way of soothing myself during #panicattacks and aiding the recovery process.
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  Exploring the subjectivity & objectivity of repressed childhood sexual trauma 13.12.2023 9min

  I share my journey of wondering whether it’s all real.
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  The Gradual Horror of Remembering that you've featured in Child Pornography 06.09.2023 1h 28min

  "I'd really like to dance with the stories of my childhood sexually traumas without being treated like I'm fragile. I want the disrespectful, shitty, bullying. I want people to say the things no one would EVER say. I want to find any other places I might have unresolved bits leftover. I think I'll make it a game where I give out points for whatever I want and that clues us all into which directions to head." I remember reading this post in a closed Facebook community for exploring triggers and feeling amazed that Carissa was actually inviting people to trigger her as much as they could. I felt inspired. This was a woman clearing out the remnants of trauma fragility from her being in a culture where the "accepted" reaction to trauma is either dumbfoundedness or "oh poor you, let's be careful and tiptoe around the subject". In this interview, I explore Carissa's journey of having fully repressed her childhood sexual abuse to gradually recovering horrific layer after layer. We also explore talking about trauma without making oh-so-big-a-deal about it and bring experiment with bringing levity to a very dark subject. This conversation is not for the faint-hearted. -- Carissa Lorraine Cassiel has her own YouTube channel but mainly shares her life openly on Facebook. Finding herself alone and unguided in her process of unearthing and processing so much trauma, it became her dharma to help others in need of direction and internal map-making. She offers coaching but is also available via fb messenger if you'd like to ask advice, connect, or share what comes up for you watching this video. Don't be a stranger - we're all in this together. You can connect with her here – https://www.facebook.com/carissalorraine
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  The Emasculation of Being Raped as a Boy 30.08.2023 1h 56min

  In this episode of the podcast, Liv Frank of https://www.mybodyprayer.com/ interviews me and explores my story of recovering repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse. In this conversation, we touch upon the fascinating myth of Saturn, Uranus and Venus. Uranus was Saturn's father, the god of the unlimited Skies. Saturn was the God of limited space and time. Uranus was married to Gaia, the Goddess Earth and mistreated her. Gaia asked Saturn to take revenge on his father and Saturn castrated Uranus. Uranus's testicles fell into the ocean and from the frothy foam was born Venus, the Goddess of Beauty. There's a lot to unpack in this myth but we talk to the sternness of Saturn's outlook on life and the competition with and fear of being defeated by other men that comes with such masculine stern ways of being. And how that fear of losing one's masculinity is karmically linked to one's own act of emasculating or attempts at emasculating other men. The unkind ways in which we act towards others are the ways that we are afraid others will act towards us when we are vulnerable – this is an essential corollary of the Law of Karma. Less mythically, more realistically, I speak about the slow recovery of repressed memories. Of going from not having a conscious awareness of being an adult survivor to wondering whether I was sexually abused as a child to recovering memories with respect to one perpetrator including the horror of realizing that I have been sodomized and the impact it had on my own sense of my masculinity, to recovering memories with another perpetrator, to wondering whether I have sexually abused other children, orchestrated by my perpetrator or independently and not having clarity on the same. We touch upon the taboo of enjoying the physical act of sex even when its nonconsensual and many more themes in this rich conversation. I appreciate and share deep gratitude to Liv's holding space, her presence and her gently guiding me to revealing more of my story and I share this story in the hope that it helps other male survivors of childhood sexual abuse – and helps them heal so that they may stop the cycles of trauma. Liv is an ever-learning priestess, a lover, and a devoted community sister. She facilitates grounding & liberatory containers for groups and individuals. The words “ancestral collective healing” turn her on.To learn more about her work, visit: www.mybodyprayer.com
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  Healthy boundaries, healthy parenting and the systemic nature of childhood sexual abuse with Clinical Sexologist and Shaman, Francesca Gentille 15.08.2023 1h 37min

  In this episode, I talk to Francesca Gentille, a clinical sexologist and shaman. We discuss her own history of childhood sexual trauma and get glimpses of her own wonderful story of parenting her kids, along with some interesting frameworks to understand sexual healing through – the 5 steps of healing, understanding how the notion of children as property underlies the widespread nature of sexual abuse. The podcast builds up to a very tender reveal from her about what (in my perception) is one of the most bizarre stories I've encountered in my exploration of stories of childhood sexual abuse. You can see more of her work here – http://www.francescagentille.com/ – and check out her Shamanic Kink workshop coming up in 3 months – https://www.shamanickink.com/
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  Boredom, suicidal ideation & repressed childhood sexual trauma 26.04.2023 30min

  In this episode, I describe my own relationship to boredom and suicidal ideation and how the exploration of my repressed childhood sexual trauma has provided me with clarity into why I would constantly feel "bored" and engage in passive/mildly active suicidal ideation. I have not felt "bored" or experienced "suicidal ideation" over the past 6 months and I hope that this share will help you connect to a felt sense of preciousness of your own life and connect you to the magic that surrounds you every moment. I cover– How "boredom" is intensity experienced through a layer of numbness How your Protector parts are the ones that want you to kill yourself Surrendering a desire for Death to Kali Looking at your astrological chart when you are feeling closer to suicidal ideation Some links I referenced in the podcast– My introduction to Internal Family Systems: https://vighneshrege.substack.com/p/minimizing-regret Flaws in common arguments against Astrology: https://vighneshrege.substack.com/p/flaws-in-common-arguments-against-astrology