Reforged Marriage

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  Dead Bedrooms & Mid-Life Awakenings 16.09.2026 1h 20min

  For the first time, Giff, Chad, and Nejc are all in the same room. And with the Slovenian liquor flowing, the conversation gets pretty candid.In this special IRL edition of the Reforged Marriage Podcast, the guys talk dead bedrooms, midlife awakenings, and what it actually takes to become a man your wife desires again.Why can’t you negotiate desire? What happens when a man realizes his wife still has plenty of sexuality—she just isn’t pointing it at him? And could the dreaded “midlife crisis” actually be an invitation to wake up and start living again?Along the way, they dig into extreme ownership, the difference between wanting sex and needing validation from sex, why “playful cockiness” may be more genuinely humble than self-deprecation, and the strange shift that happens when a man stops asking, “How do I get my wife to respond?” and starts asking, “How do I become the man I actually want to be?”This one is loose, unscripted, occasionally inappropriate, and probably best enjoyed with a drink.
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  Should you ever refuse an offer of sex from your wife? 27.07.2026 43min

  Most men think saying no to sex is insane.If your marriage is struggling, shouldn't you take every opportunity you get?In this episode, Giff and Chad unpack why the ability to reject sex can actually be a mark of masculine abundance—not disinterest. They explore the difference between needing sex and enjoying it, why transactional intimacy kills desire, and how a man who isn't controlled by sexual scarcity often becomes far more attractive.Along the way, they discuss a dead bedroom that turned around in days, the mantra that changed everything ("We don't ask for sex—we just are sexy."), and a thoughtful conversation sparked by Abby Libby's challenge to the common "duty sex vs. desired sex" framework.This episode is about becoming the kind of man who enjoys sex without needing it—and why that paradox often leads to more of the real thing.
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  Why Christian Marriages Lose Attraction 12.07.2026 1h 30min

  When marriages struggle, most Christian advice focuses on better communication, more sacrifice, or simply trying harder.But what if the real problem runs deeper?In this conversation recorded live in Ljubljana, Slovenia, Giff Lasta sits down with Nejc Škoberne to explore a biblical vision of masculine leadership, attraction, responsibility, and marriage that challenges much of today's conventional wisdom.This event was hosted in Slovenia following the release of the Slovenian edition of The Way of Men with Maids, and marks the beginning of an exciting partnership to bring these ideas to Christian men across Europe.
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  The Privileges Of Victimhood 19.06.2026 1h 30min

  In this conversation, Giff Lasta and Nejc Škoberne discuss the hidden privileges of victimhood, why so many men wait for someone else to save them, and how taking responsibility transformed Nejc's marriage, leadership, and sense of purpose.
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  Why Doesn't She Desire Me? 06.06.2026 1h 17min

  In this conversation with Benjamin Siter, I share how overcoming pornography addiction forced me to confront a deeper issue: my own passivity.We discuss masculinity, virility, marriage, leadership, desire, responsibility, and why many men unknowingly sabotage the very intimacy they long for.At the heart of the discussion is a simple but demanding idea:Own everything.Not because your wife is always right. Not because every problem is your fault. But because responsibility is where a man's freedom begins.
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  Should you tolerate disrespect from your wife? 06.04.2026 41min

  Giff and Chad break down how trying to “correct” your wife’s behavior backfires—and what real leadership actually looks like. They unpack the difference between ultimatums and decisive action, why “holding her accountable” can be just ego in disguise, and how men reclaim respect by reclaiming their own point of origin.
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  Stop asking your wife for sex 06.04.2026 45min

  Many married men approach sex with their wives the same way: politely asking… and quietly bracing for rejection. Giff and Chad explain why that dynamic quietly kills attraction—and what to do instead. They discuss the fear many husbands feel when initiating, the difference between negotiating sex and inspiring desire, and why confidence, dignity, and leadership transform a marriage far more than “asking nicely.”
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  Can you win a fight with your wife? 06.04.2026 53min

  Giff and Chad explore the complexities of arguments in marriage, using a clip from the movie 'The Breakup' as a case study.
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  Is duty sex better than no sex? 06.04.2026 1h 11min

  Giff and Chad Collins kick off Reforged Marriage looking at “duty sex” vs. cultivating genuine desire. Drawing from years of coaching and Chad’s hard-won story, they explain why negotiated intimacy kills attraction—and how to rebuild your frame, purpose, and presence so your wife chooses you.