Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin

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  How Do You Help Your Adult Child Through Heartbreak? Plus: Our Goodbye Ritual 21.07.2026 55min

  In our final episode, we share listener responses to questions about teen vaping, photos of exes, and what it means when an era ends. We respond to a parent whose 19-year-old son is going through a breakup and wants to support him without meddling. Plus: We take on rapid-fire questions about endings, hear what ordinary tasks Since You Askers secretly enjoy, and close with a listener-inspired goodbye ritual. Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Pay Extra When Your Mom Is Flying In for Childcare? Plus: Advice You Ignored 14.07.2026 30min

  We share a listener response about what to say when an estranged parent dies before there’s a chance to reconcile. We respond to a listener whose mother would fly in for childcare only if her daughter paid for an upgrade. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What’s the most helpful advice you ignored at the time? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Can You Support Two People Who Aren’t Talking to Each Other Without Taking Sides? Plus: We Have An Announcement! 07.07.2026 32min

  We share listener responses to Dan Harris’s anxiety dilemma and a question about parents bragging about adult kids online. We respond to a listener who let her close friend’s adult son stay on her property and is trying to support him without getting pulled into his estrangement from his mother. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What rituals help you mark an ending or goodbye? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Delete Photos of an Ex for Your Partner? Plus: Getting Out of a Rut 30.06.2026 36min

  We hear an update from the mother whose adult son was struggling with his difficult relationship with his father, and what changed after he talked it through with his dad. We respond to a listener whose boyfriend wants her to delete old photos with her ex if they get married. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Have you ever done something outside your comfort zone to get out of a rut? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Do You Reset Your Life Without Starting Over? Plus: Which matters more at work: Money or Meaning? 23.06.2026 37min

  We share listener responses on new baby boundaries and how to support friends dealing with family estrangement. We respond to a listener who wants a fresh start socially and professionally without making a major life change. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Do you need your work to feel meaningful or just financially support your life? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  What Should You Do When You Catch Your Teen Vaping? Plus: The Best Surprises of Getting Older 16.06.2026 30min

  We share more listener responses to the question of what to do with a secret a dying father is asking his daughter to keep. We respond to a parent who found their 16-year-old vaping and is trying to decide how to respond. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What surprised you about yourself after 30 or 40? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Much Should Parents Post About Their Adult Kids? Plus: Should You Pay for the Friends Trip If You Have More Money? 09.06.2026 35min

  We respond to a listener who’s tired of parents posting about their adult kids on social media and wonders where the line is. We also hear from a listener who wants to pick up more of the tab on her friends’ annual trip, but doesn’t want it to change the dynamic. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What does someone in your life tend to misunderstand about you? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Do You Support a Friend Dealing with Family Estrangement? Plus: Dan Harris Wants Our Advice! 02.06.2026 34min

  We respond to a listener who wants to support friends whose adult children are estranged; we share what can help and what to avoid. Since You Askers weigh in: Would people describe you as easy or difficult, and why? Plus, 10% Happier host and author Dan Harris asks how to handle claustrophobia and panic he feels on flights and in elevators. Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Do Adult Children Need to Know About a Parent’s Affair? Plus: Is It Selfish Not to Share Food You Order With Significant Others? 26.05.2026 34min

  We share listener responses to last season’s question about feeling less attracted to a partner after weight gain. We respond to a widow who discovered her late husband had an affair and is torn about whether to tell their adult children. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: When you order food with family or friends, should you always share or is it okay to say no? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Feel Offended If You Can’t Meet Your New Grandchild in Person? Plus: Quitting Without a Backup Plan 19.05.2026 26min

  We’re so excited to be back with Season Three! We share updates and listener responses to the “work wife” question from last season. We respond to a new grandparent who feels hurt about being asked not to visit their newborn until after vaccinations, and how to support the parents without taking their rules personally. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Have you ever quit something without a backup plan, and how did it turn out? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Is It Okay to Admit You’re Less Attracted to Your Partner? Plus: Carl Radke Wants our Advice! 24.03.2026 41min

  We share updates from listeners on grief after losing a parent, the green bubble group chat dilemma, and the weight of family secrets. We respond to a listener who wants to talk to his partner about feeling less attracted after weight gain, and how to approach it with care. Since You Askers weigh in: What’s the most life changing advice you’ve ever received? Plus, we close out Season 2 with Summer House star Carl Radke, who asks for advice on imposter syndrome as a new entrepreneur. While we’re off getting a brand new Season 3 ready for you, don’t forget to go back to any episodes you missed or want to hear again. Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Do You Set Money Boundaries with Family? Plus: Save It for Later or Use It Now? 17.03.2026 38min

  We share updates from listeners on the husband who’s been meeting his ex-girlfriend for an annual coffee—and the bigger question of staying friends with an ex. We respond to a listener whose live-in mother-in-law’s spending is creating tension as their own child heads to college. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Are you a “save it for later” person or a “use the good stuff now” person? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Is Your Partner’s ‘Work Wife’ Crossing Boundaries? Plus: Are You Becoming Your Parents? 10.03.2026 34min

  We share updates from listeners on forgiving yourself after a social misstep, using AI during relationship conflict, and the surprising research behind the workplace candy dish dilemma. We respond to a listener who feels uneasy about her boyfriend’s “work wife,” and isn’t sure what boundaries to set. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Have you become more like your parents or less like them as you’ve gotten older? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Is It Always Wrong to Give In to Teen Peer Pressure? Plus: The Best Gift You Ever Gave 03.03.2026 31min

  We share updates from the mother whose adult son is ready to pull back from his difficult relationship with his father. We also hear from a parent whose eighth grader is being left out of group chats because his Android texts show up as green bubbles — and she’s torn over whether buying him an iPhone sends the wrong message. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Is it better to give a practical gift someone needs or one they’d simply enjoy? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Keep a Dying Parent’s Secret? Plus: Making Peace With Yourself 24.02.2026 33min

  We share updates from listeners on messy rooms, constant texting for reassurance, and how to handle a sensitive conversation about bad breath. We respond to a question about being asked to keep a family secret by a dying father, and what it means when that secret affects everyone left behind. Plus Since You Askers weigh in: What’s something you’ve made peace with that used to upset you? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How Do We Help People Grieve? Plus: When AI Starts Mediating Your Marriage 17.02.2026 44min

  We both reflect on the experience of losing our fathers, and we share the advice that helped us during the early months and years–plus we discuss listeners’ insights and experiences.  We also respond to a listener who is uneasy about her husband’s new habit of consulting ChatGPT during arguments. Plus Since You Askers weigh in: What is something you stopped doing that made your life better? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should Your Spouse Tell You If They’re Meeting Up with an Ex? Plus: Valentine’s Day Expectations 10.02.2026 42min

  We share updates from listeners on donor conception, family secrets, and what it can look like to tell the truth with consideration. We respond to a question from a listener trying to decide whether her husband’s annual meet-up with his ex is normal–or a breach of trust. We also respond to a mother who feels pressure to create “magical” traditions for her kids, and worries she is overscheduling family life. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What’s your best—or worst—Valentine’s Day? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Cut Ties With a Parent? Plus: Chrissy Teigen Wants Friendship Advice 03.02.2026 43min

  We respond to a mother’s question about whether her adult son should keep seeing his father when every visit turns into criticism. We also hear from a listener who apologized for a thoughtless comment, was not forgiven, and still feels stuck in shame two years later. Since You Askers weigh in: When is it justified to tell a lie? Plus, author and TV personality Chrissy Teigen asks how to be a better friend when life gets busy. Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Is Your Partner Too Needy? Plus: Small Decisions That Changed Your Life 27.01.2026 35min

  We share updates from listeners on the visiting-parents dilemma and where to draw the line when family comes to stay. We respond to questions about boundaries that leave people feeling rejected, including a boyfriend who wants constant texting for reassurance and parents who get upset when teens share information that the grandparents don’t want to hear. Plus Since You Askers weigh in: Have you ever made a small decision that completely changed your life? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Should You Call Out an Awkward Problem? Plus: Did We Follow Our Own Advice? 20.01.2026 30min

  We return for Season 2 with updates from listeners on gift-giving pressure, Botox honesty, and setting boundaries around family expectations. We respond to a question from a listener unsure whether to say something to a loved one about an uncomfortable issue involving a persistent smell. We also check in on whether we actually followed our own advice from last season about how to have a happier holiday. Plus Since You Askers weigh in: If someone needs to hear a hard truth about themselves, would you rather it come from family or a close friend? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices