The Wise Wife Podcast

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• E35 Victim vs Martyr - How to Share Your Story Well 27.05.2026 30min

  There are two sinful responses to trauma, and most of us are living in one of them. The victim is sharing her story compulsively, looking for someone to confirm her pain is real. The martyr is stuffing it all down and calling that strength. Today I'm naming both, exposing the root wounds that drive each one, and showing you what it actually looks like to share your story well, with discernment, with dignity, and without destroying the covenant or yourself. This episode will ruffle your feathers. Resources mentioned: Subscribe to The Wise Wife Letters at www.wisewife.co for prayers and resources to help you start anointing your home, your husband, and your family. Join us in Atlanta: The Wise Wife Conference is coming September 12–13, 2026. Find out more at www.wisewife.co If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. And if you want to go deeper, join us inside the Wise Wife Mentorship at www.wisewife.co
• E34 My Marriage Stand Part 3 - How He Came Home 20.05.2026 22min

  My Marriage Stand: Part 3 — How He Came Home I got the call I had been fasting and praying for. Tim's opening line was, "Natasha, I don't love you. I haven't loved you in a really long time." I dropped to my knees. Not because the words were good. They were the worst sales pitch of all time. But I knew in my spirit that something had broken. This is Part 3, the final episode of my full marriage restoration story. Parts one and two covered the breakdown and the year of separation. This one is about what God used to break through to Tim, what the call actually sounded like, what the first two years of being back together cost me, and what I want you to take with you if you're standing right now. Don't skip to this one. Go back and start at Part 1. You need that context. But if you're ready, let's finish the story. God did not bring Tim home the way I expected. No dramatic repentance at my door. No apology. He called to say he hoped to one day love me again, and for the next two years, he made good on that. He really didn't feel anything for me. And I had to choose, almost every day, whether I was going to fight in the flesh or fight in the spirit. Most Sundays I kissed him on the cheek, smiled, and went to church alone with the boys. My flesh wanted to slam the door. Key Takeaways God did not use who I expected. I spent years praying that someone would say the right thing to Tim. People from church, people from work, all of them offering to reach out. And I kept releasing them from that because God didn't need them. He got through to Tim using the other woman. The one I had been asking Him to remove. Stop managing how He does it. The call did not sound like victory. "I don't love you. I haven't loved you in a really long time. But I can't see my life without the boys, and I hope to one day love you again." That was it. But I heard what God was saying behind those words, and I dropped to my knees in gratitude. You have to be anchored enough in the Lord to hear what the Spirit is saying when the words are not what you wanted. Coming home is not the same as coming back. Tim came home physically. For the next two years I was still proving out the work. He saw that I had changed, but he did not trust it yet. Two years physically back together before emotional connection. Two more years after that before he came back to the Lord. Know what you are actually standing in. Abigail exists because neither of us quit. Our daughter, our restoration baby, born 13 years after the twins. She would not be here if I had given in to my hurt feelings or Tim to his stubbornness. She is what obedience looks like with skin on. The sanctification was the point. The biggest gain from those years was not getting my marriage back. It was what God built in me through it. Even if Tim had never come home, I would still thank God for that season. The woman He made me into, I would not trade her. Seek His kingdom first, and all these things get added. That is the whole testimony. Resources Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/ This is Part 3 of 3. Start at the beginning: Part 1 — I Hated My Husband.
• E34 My Marriage Stand Part 2 16.05.2026 20min

  My Marriage Stand: Part 2 — What God Did With the Wreckage He moved out. I was at the house with the boys. And by God's grace, I did not lose my mind. That surprised me more than anything, because nothing about how I'd been living had prepared me for dignified separation. There was not a single fleshly reason I should have held it together when he was packing that car, but I did. What followed was the hardest year of my life. Tim was gone, done, and not shy about saying he was never coming back. Meanwhile, the Holy Spirit took full advantage of the opening. Rotten layer after rotten layer, every part of my wretchedness exposed. This is Part 2 of my full marriage restoration story, and I'm telling you exactly how that year gutted me and what God asked me to do with it. Key Takeaways The first key to saving my marriage was that I stopped looking at his wretchedness. Tim was doing what Tim was doing that year, and it was bad. What I had to do was stop staring at it. That is not the same as excusing it or pretending it isn't real, but you cannot change yourself and obsess over him at the same time. Looking at yourself with truth, not condemnation, is where the actual work starts. Obedience feels like freedom when you step into it. God convicted me to quit my job. Not to perform change for Tim, not to make myself look better. He showed me I had put my career on an altar and sacrificed my marriage, my children, and my soul on it. Quitting was obedience, and the moment I stepped into it, I tasted freedom I had never felt before. Take one idol down and God shows you the next one. Spiritual warfare became my education that year. I had never heard of it before. Daniel chapter 10 was my first real encounter with the reality of spiritual battle, a literal war in the heavenly realm, an angel warring the Prince of Persia for 21 days. I was 26 years old with no grid for any of it. That was the beginning of everything I now teach about warring in the spirit. Resources Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/ This is Part 2/3.   Part 3 is coming soon
• E34 My Marriage Stand, Part 1 13.05.2026 26min

  My Marriage Stand: Part 1 — I Hated My Husband There was a time I hated my husband. Not the small kind of hate. The kind where you lie awake at night wondering if you married your mortal enemy. And the part that's even harder to say? I thought I was the good one. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series where I'm telling my full story. Not the cleaned up version. The actual story of how my marriage died, what was really happening underneath it, and what God did with all of it. In this episode I talk about how we met, what we both brought into the marriage that we never dealt with, the slow collapse that followed, and the moment I found out it was over. I gave up on my marriage. Then I gave up on God. And that's where Part 1 ends. If you're in a hard marriage right now, this one is for you. Not because it's going to be easy to hear, but because I'm not going to pretend it was easy to live. Key Takeaways We both came into marriage with idolatry. I wanted Tim to be my spiritual leader, my validator, my everything. He came in with a survival mentality. Neither of us knew what we were doing, and nobody in the church had equipped us for any of it. The turtling is the most dangerous place. When a wife has tried and tried and finally just shuts down and concedes, that's not peace. That's the enemy's finish line. Giving up on your marriage is bad but recoverable. Giving up on God is the real crisis. That's what I did, and that's what the enemy was after the whole time. My heart posture was the problem. There was truth in everything I was bringing to God. But I was bringing it as a victim demanding a verdict, not as a wife asking what needed to change in me. The more he failed, the more controlling I became. And the more controlling I became, the more he withdrew. We fed each other's worst patterns for years before anything broke open. Resources Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/ This is Part 1 of 3. Part 2 — What God Did With the Wreckage — is coming soon.
• The Power Isn't in the Oil: What Anointing Actually Does 06.05.2026 18min

  Anointing your house, your husband's pillow, your kids' foreheads, your kitchen sink — none of it does anything if you don't actually believe God is who He says He is. In this episode, Natasha answers a question one of our Wise Wives asked about anointing oil. What is it? Why do people use it? Does it actually do anything? She walks through the biblical roots of anointing — David being set apart for the throne, oil consecrating priests and sacred items, the Holy Spirit's presence symbolized through oil — and then turns to the New Testament instruction in James 5:14 to show what carries the real weight in anointing: prayer, faith, and the name of the Lord. Then she calls something out - there is a religious spirit that turns anointing oil into performance. It feeds self-sufficiency, it looks holy and produces nothing. Natasha shows the difference between obedience and performance, and why one woman's anointing carries authority while another woman's is just oil on a doorframe. She also tells the story of the first time she ever anointed something — her separated husband's space pen — and what God did with it. In this episode: The biblical roots of anointing oil and why it was used to consecrate What 1 Samuel 16:13 reveals about oil and the Holy Spirit James 5:14 and what actually carries the weight in anointing The four declarations you make every time you anoint The religious spirit and how it turns obedience into performance Natasha's space pen story Resources mentioned: Subscribe to The Wise Wife Letters at www.wisewife.co for prayers and resources to help you start anointing your home, your husband, and your family. Join us in Atlanta: The Wise Wife Conference is coming September 12–13, 2026. Find out more at www.wisewife.co If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. And if you want to go deeper, join us inside the Wise Wife Mentorship at www.wisewife.co  
• He Says He Believes in God But Doesn't Act Like It 29.04.2026 14min

  He says he believes in God. So why doesn't it show? If you've ever felt like something isn't adding up in your marriage — your head saying one thing, your spirit saying another — this episode is for you. In this episode, Natasha breaks down one of the most confusing and painful situations a Christian wife can face: a husband who professes faith but shows no fruit. Drawing from her own marriage story and 15+ years of walking alongside women, she gives you clarity on exactly what you're dealing with and how to fight — the right way. In this episode: The 3 categories of husbands — and why knowing which one you're dealing with changes everything Why quoting scripture to your husband might actually be making things worse What 1 Peter 3 actually means — and what it doesn't Why you are not your husband's Holy Spirit — and what happens when you try to be The difference between standing for your marriage and maintaining an illusion out of fear   Scriptures referenced: 1 Corinthians 2:14 · James 2:19 · Luke 6:46 · 1 John 5:19 · Colossians 1:13 · 1 Peter 3:1-2 · 1 Corinthians 7:15
• Fearless Faith 22.04.2026 31min

  Are you stuck in a cycle of managing, controlling, and worrying — and wondering why nothing ever changes? The root isn't your circumstances, it's fear. In this episode of The Wise Wife Podcast, Natasha dives deep into what fearless faith actually is — not the street-corner shouting kind, but the kind that let David face Goliath, kept the apostles standing under torture, and can keep you standing no matter what your marriage, family, or life throws at you. You'll learn: - Why fear is bondage rooted in self-reliance — not just an emotion - Why positive thinking, affirmations, and coping strategies will never truly heal anxiety - The difference between legalism and genuine fearless faith - How to stop living like a peasant when you're actually an heir - What Psalm 91 looks like when you actually dwell there — not just visit This episode will challenge you, but it might also set you free.   📍 Wise Wife Conference: Atlanta, Sept 12–13 | https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 💬 Join The Wise Wife Community | https://wisewife.co
• Reality Discipline in Marriage (Stop Trying to Fix Your Husband) 15.04.2026 39min

  Many wives feel trapped in a cycle of trying to fix, manage, or carry the weight of their husband’s choices, only to end up exhausted, frustrated, and stuck. In this episode, Natasha breaks down a powerful and often misunderstood concept: reality discipline. Originally taught in parenting, this principle has profound implications for marriage, especially when you’re dealing with sin, dysfunction, or unhealthy patterns. This is not about control, or manipulation, and it’s definitely not about passive compliance. It’s about stepping out of the way, holding your ground with strength and dignity, and allowing God (and reality) to do what you cannot. If you’ve been trying everything to create change and nothing is working, this episode will reframe the battle and show you a better way forward. What You’ll Learn - Why trying to “fix” your husband often backfires - The difference between biblical submission and unbiblical compliance - The most common flesh-driven responses(and why they don’t work) - What reality discipline actually is (and how it applies in marriage) - The critical difference between applying consequences vs. allowing them - How to set boundaries without anger, control, or fear - Why this is a spiritual battle, not just a marriage problem   Key Scripture Referenced John 10:10   Resources & Next Steps Two Types of Prodigals Course Learn to discern the root stronghold driving your husband’s behavior, and how to respond in a way that doesn’t make it worse. 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/two-types-of-prodigals-course-launchsale-sp   Wise Wife Community Join weekly live coaching, teaching, and support as you walk this out in real time. 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp   Wise Wife Conference (Atlanta, GA) September 12–13, 2026 👉 https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026   Connect with Wise Wife Website: https://wisewife.co   Share This Episode! If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. You are not called to carry what only God can change. Stand firm in truth, walk in wisdom, and trust Him to do the work.
• Should I Submit in This Case? What Biblical Submission Actually Looks Like 08.04.2026 41min

  “How do I submit in this situation?” It’s one of the most common—and most misunderstood—questions in Christian marriage. In this episode, Natasha addresses a real-life scenario from a wife who feels stuck carrying the weight of her household while her husband avoids responsibility. But instead of giving a surface-level answer, she reframes the question entirely: It’s not just “how do I submit?” It’s “should I submit in this?” Inside this conversation, you’ll learn: - Why submission is often misunderstood in both Christian and secular spaces - The difference between biblical submission and enabling sinful behavior - The two extremes women fall into: the protector and the appeaser - Why both control and passivity are rooted in fear - What it actually looks like to live in the “spirit-led middle” - A simple 2-question framework to help you discern your response in difficult situations Natasha also shares personal examples from her own marriage, showing how choosing strength and dignity over fear became the catalyst for real transformation. This episode is not about compliance, and it's not about control. It’s about honoring God, walking in truth, and having the courage to stop getting in the way of what He is doing. Key Takeaway: Coddling and enabling sinful behavior is not love, it’s actually one of the most disrespectful things you can do to your husband. If this episode helped bring clarity to your situation, share it with a woman who may be asking the same question.
• Ep. 28: He Wants To Come Home, But I Don’t Feel Secure in His Love 17.03.2026 19min

  What do you do when your husband wants to come back, but not fully as a husband? In this episode, Natasha addresses a common and painful question from wives navigating broken marriages: how do you know whether letting him come home is wisdom or enabling dysfunction? She unpacks the difference between regret and repentance, explains what an “in-home prodigal” looks like, and shows why many women end up tolerating arrangements God never asked them to accept. This episode covers: regret vs. repentance boundaries vs. demands why fear makes women accept scraps how children learn marriage from what is normalized why you must stop absorbing consequences that belong to your husband what it really looks like to respond in strength and dignity If your husband wants the benefits of home without the responsibility of covenant, this episode will help you discern the difference and respond with wisdom, truth, and dignity.
• Episode 27: You Are More Than Just a Rib 11.03.2026 28min

  In this episode of The Wise Wife Podcast, Natasha takes a closer look at the Genesis creation account and explores the Hebrew words often translated as “man,” “helper,” and “rib.” What if the story of Adam and Eve is richer than the simplified version many of us learned growing up? What if woman was never meant to be understood as an afterthought, but as fully present in God’s original design for humanity from the beginning? Natasha walks through key Hebrew terms in Genesis 1 and 2, including adam, ha’adam, ezer kenegdo, tsela, and banah, and explains how these words can open up a deeper understanding of identity, covenant, and God’s intentional design for women and marriage. This episode is especially for women who have struggled to receive the love of God apart from performance, usefulness, or relational validation. If your identity has been shaped by the belief that your worth begins in someone else’s need, this conversation offers a biblical foundation that points back to where your worth truly begins: in the image of God. In this episode: Why “Adam” in Genesis does not initially function as a male personal name The meaning of ha’adam as “the human” What ezer kenegdo really communicates about a wife’s role Why the Hebrew word often translated “rib” may be better understood as “side” How translation history shaped the traditional “rib” interpretation Why this matters for a woman’s identity in Christ How Genesis reframes worth, purpose, and covenantal design Key takeaway: Your worth does not begin in Adam’s need. Your worth begins in God’s image.
• Episode 26: The One Thing That Will Keep You "Standing" Forever 05.03.2026 43min

  Some women who believe they’re “standing for their marriage” are actually stuck in idolatry. Not devotion. Not faith. Idolatry. Because if your husband leaving has turned you into an emotional wreck who can’t function, can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t think about anything else… that’s a type of worship, rather than biblical strength. And on the other side of the story, many of the spouses who leave are also in idolatry. But their idol isn’t marriage, it’s happiness. They believe their personal happiness gives them permission to break their vows and sin against God. So today we’re going to talk about the two idols destroying modern marriages: The idol of marriage itself, and the idol of personal happiness. And we’re going to look at one of the most shocking tests of loyalty in the Bible - when God asked Abraham to sacrifice Isaac. Because sometimes God will ask you to lay down the very thing you wanted most, just to prove it’s not your god.
• Episode 25: Should Christians go to marriage counseling? 24.02.2026 32min

  “Should Christians go to marriage counseling?” It’s one of the most common questions I hear from Christian wives in marital crisis. In this episode, I walk through the difference between godly sorrow and worldly sorrow, change versus transformation, and how to discern whether counseling in your season will support sanctification, or reinforce control and victimhood. This conversation is about peace, alignment, and learning to move with what God is actually doing.
• Ep. 24 When God Humbles You Through Circumstances 17.02.2026 20min

  In this Wise Swipe Podcast episode, I teach from Hezekiah’s story (2 Chronicles 32; 2 Kings 19) to encourage women standing for their marriages. I explain how idols create open doors for attack, why scrambling and compromise never satisfy the enemy, and why God doesn’t need our help—He wants obedience, trust, and surrender. I share how mockery and fear try to intimidate faith, how reaping and sowing can bring painful but necessary consequences, and how deliverance came when Hezekiah humbled himself and appealed to God’s name. I also share my own experience of shifting from striving to surrendered prayer, warn that pride can follow breakthrough, and close with a prayer for repentance, healing, and renewed courage to trust God as our defender. For information about the new course, The Two Types of Prodigals, visit www.wisewife.co
• Ep 23 When Marriage Advice Sounds Biblical But is Stealing Your Breakthrough 10.02.2026 39min

  In this episode of The Wise Wife, Natasha addresses a blind spot many Christian women don’t realize they have: consuming voices that sound helpful, feel validating, and claim biblical values, while subtly contradicting God’s design for marriage, authority, and obedience. Natasha walks through how spiritual compromise often enters quietly—not through rebellion, but through “good resources,” popular podcasts, bestselling books, and music we don’t think twice about. She introduces the concept of covenantal hypocrisy: Asking God to bless a covenant we aren’t fully submitted to. This episode challenges:     The belief that intention matters more than obedience      The idea that you can heal spiritually without repentance      The assumption that popular Christian advice is automatically sound Natasha also addresses well-known marriage teachings that many women trust—breaking down why some advice appeals to the flesh, reinforces control, and bypasses true surrender, even when it’s labeled “biblical.” This is an episode about discernment. About influence. About whether Jesus is truly Lord, not just Savior.
• Ep 22 | Should I Let Him Move Back In? (The In-Home Prodigal) 10.11.2025 24min

  Natasha answers a listener question -- one that she receives often -- in how to navigate a prodigal husband who wants to "come home" but isn't showing any signs of repentance or remorse. In this episode, Natasha explains the biblical framework she uses to help make wise decisions when faced with difficult situations.
• Ep 21 | Meekness is Not Weakness 15.09.2025 15min

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• Ep.20 | How to Pray in the Spirit and Destroy the Enemy’s Schemes for Your Life 10.03.2025 42min

  Today on the Wise Wife Podcast, Natasha explores praying "in the Spirit," including speaking in tongues. We'll learn about the power of this form of prayer for personal edification, intercession, and spiritual warfare and talk about why it's important for EVERY believer. Come with expectation and FAITH that you can be baptized in the Holy Spirit!
• Ep 19 | Understanding the Spiritual Realm, How to Wage War Against Satan and His Minions, and Why we Must Wield the Sword of the Spirit 06.12.2024 54min

  In this episode, we near the conclusion of our Armor of God series by recapping what we’ve learned about standing firm against evil, as outlined in Ephesians 6. This isn’t metaphorical or abstract; it’s preparation for a literal spiritual battle raging over our souls, families, and legacies. We explore the Bible’s depiction of an organized, hierarchical demonic realm and how understanding this reality transforms the way we view spiritual tools like prayer, fasting, and the armor of God. Natasha addresses misconceptions about the spiritual realm, explaining its structure and emphasizing that our good works empower our side of the battle, not to earn God’s favor, but to move the needle in this unseen war. She also warns against the dangers of becoming prideful or fascinated with spiritual authority, urging listeners to remain rooted in Jesus, who alone gives us victory. This episode challenges listeners to see spiritual warfare as real, urgent, and relevant to their daily lives, while reminding them that Christ’s power enables them to stand firm and finish strong.
• Ep. 18 | The Helmet of Salvation is More than Just Being "Saved" 25.11.2024 42min

  In this episode, Natasha continues the Armor of God series with a deep dive into the Helmet of Salvation. She challenges listeners to move beyond surface-level understanding of salvation and instead embrace its transformative power. Natasha explores how the enemy targets our identity, distorts our purpose, and uses pride or shame to separate us from God. She unpacks what it means to have an eternal mindset, how salvation equips us to finish strong, and why our identity in Christ is the key to victory over spiritual attacks, especially when we are being called to fight for our marriage without signs of hope in our natural circumstances. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking deeper faith, clarity of purpose, and unshakable confidence in their salvation.