Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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  EP 557: Discovering What You Want After a Lifetime of Doing What Everyone Else Wants with Eliza 30.09.2026 31min

  Growing up, Eliza learned that having a stable job meant you were doing well—and that people who didn't have one could be viewed as lazy or unable to get their lives together. She also missed an important developmental stage: the freedom to discover what she liked, who she was, and how she naturally wanted to express herself. Now, through raising her own children, Eliza has an opportunity to give herself something she didn't receive: permission to discover herself without pressure. Together, Christine and Eliza explore identity, people-pleasing, parenting, boundaries, self-worth, generational patterns, and the difference between who you truly are and the roles you play in the world. If you've ever thought, "I should know what I want by now," or felt ashamed because your career doesn't look the way you thought it would, this episode offers a powerful invitation: stop forcing yourself to have the answer and allow yourself to enter a season of discovery. Press play to explore how reconnecting with your authentic self may bring far more clarity than trying to force yourself into another role. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel pressure to have your career or next chapter figured out? Was your worth growing up connected to achievement, productivity, or having a "good" job? Are you making choices based on what you genuinely want—or what you believe other people will approve of? Did you have the freedom as a child to discover your interests, preferences, and authentic self? Have you confused your job, career, or other roles with your identity? Where might people-pleasing be making it harder to hear your own desires? Key Insights and A-Ha's Not knowing what you want doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with you. You may never have been given enough space to discover it. When worth becomes tied to productivity or employment, career uncertainty can trigger deep shame. Feelings can be powerful without necessarily being facts. Missing a developmental stage in childhood can create patterns that continue showing up in adulthood. Parenting can provide an opportunity to reparent ourselves alongside our children. Moving from authoritarian parenting to overly permissive parenting doesn't necessarily break the pattern; healthy boundaries still matter. People-pleasing makes discovering yourself difficult because so much energy is spent monitoring what everyone else wants. Setting boundaries doesn't mean you're dishonoring someone else's feelings or desires. A career can be one expression of who you are, but it does not have to define your identity. Sometimes clarity comes after discovery—not before it. How to Deepen the Work Give yourself permission to put the pressure of finding the "right" job aside for now. Consider this season a discovery process rather than a problem you need to solve. As your children explore what they enjoy, allow their curiosity and playfulness to reconnect you with younger parts of yourself. Notice the qualities, interests, and forms of expression that begin coming back online. Practice stronger boundaries while remembering that honoring someone else's desires doesn't mean always giving them what they want. Notice when you're making a decision because you're afraid someone will be disappointed in you. Explore who you are through your qualities and authentic expression rather than through your job title. Release guilt or shame around making a self-honoring choice that works for your family during this stage of your life. A Powerful Reframe on Identity Christine offers Eliza a helpful metaphor for separating identity from the roles we play. Think of your authentic identity as water. Your roles—mother, wife, teacher, coach, podcaster, employee, entrepreneur, or anything else—are the different glasses that hold that water. The glasses can change. You are the water, not the glass. Instead of asking a job to give you an identity, begin by discovering the authentic version of yourself. Then ask: What roles allow that version of me to express itself? Resources Mentioned in This Episode Free Love Magnet Workshop Christine and her husband, Stef, are teaching a free three-day virtual workshop on October 13, 14, and 15 for those who desire a healthy, aligned partnership. Christine shares that they'll be teaching the work they did to call each other in and invites listeners who desire partnership to learn more and register. Register for the free Love Magnet workshop Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show Courses, retreats, and more resources  
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  CC: What We Get Wrong About Trauma with My Former TV Co-Host Dr. Isaiah Pickens 26.09.2026 54min

  Dr. Isaiah Pickens is a clinical psychologist, organizational development specialist, and nationally recognized trauma expert. He is the founder and CEO of iOpening Enterprises, where he helps organizations create healthier, more emotionally intelligent work cultures without sacrificing productivity or well-being. He previously served as Assistant Director at the UCLA-Duke National Center for Child Traumatic Stress and as a clinical assistant professor at NYU School of Medicine. He is also a Robert Wood Johnson Foundation Culture of Health Leader and Fellow, a Stanford-certified Compassion Specialist, and a recipient of the American Psychological Association Early Career Achievement Award. He is the author of Trauma-Informed and Culturally Responsive Practices in Schools: Building a Climate of Compassion, and through his work, Dr. Pickens is helping individuals and organizations redefine success and unlock their potential through psychological science.
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  EP 556: Why Do I Associate Success with Stress and Self-Sacrifice? with Maya 23.09.2026 33min

  What if part of you wants success—but another part believes achieving it will cost you your health, relationships, or well-being? In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Maya, an ambitious entrepreneur who knows she's capable of achieving big things in her career. But after years of professional success coincided with increasing health challenges, Maya has begun to associate achievement with stress, exhaustion, and physical suffering. Now, as she intentionally slows down and prioritizes her health, she notices something surprising: the better she begins to feel, the more she slips back into old habits. It's almost as if part of her doesn't want to fully recover—because getting better might mean returning to the same version of success that depleted her in the first place. Christine helps Maya reframe what looks like self-sabotage as protection. As they explore Maya's childhood, another layer emerges. Health challenges were present from a young age, while success was modeled as something that required hard work and sacrifice. Maya also remembers desperately wanting friendship, belonging, and romantic attention as a young girl—only to experience rejection and disappointment. Could a younger part of her have learned that putting herself out there isn't safe? Together, Christine and Maya explore the connection between physical health and emotional patterns, subconscious protection, childhood experiences, belonging, success, relationships, and the possibility that we don't have to choose between thriving professionally and thriving personally. If you've ever said, "I know what I want, so why do I keep getting in my own way?" this conversation offers a compassionate alternative: perhaps you aren't sabotaging yourself at all. Perhaps a younger part of you is simply trying to keep you safe using an outdated strategy. Press play to explore how curiosity, compassion, and working with—not against—your protective parts can begin creating a new definition of success. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you unconsciously associate success with stress, overworking, or self-sacrifice? Do you believe you have to choose between your health and your ambitions? Is there something you consciously want but continually find yourself resisting? When something fulfilling is followed by discomfort, do you automatically conclude that you shouldn't have done it? Could what you've labeled "self-sabotage" actually be a protective pattern trying to keep you safe? Key Insights and A-Ha's What looks like self-sabotage may actually be a subconscious attempt at protection. We can consciously want something while a younger part of us associates getting it with pain, rejection, exhaustion, or danger. Early health challenges can influence how safe or reliable we believe our bodies are. The way success was modeled in childhood can shape whether we associate achievement with ease or with sacrifice and overwork. Experiences of rejection and not belonging can create protective patterns around relationships, visibility, and putting ourselves out into the world. Physical and emotional experiences don't always have to be viewed separately; Christine encourages a holistic approach that considers both. When discomfort follows an enjoyable experience, immediately deciding "I shouldn't have done that" can reinforce an existing protective pattern. Both the part that wants expansion and the part that wants to retreat may ultimately be trying to create safety, health, and happiness. Our conscious adult self may feel ready for something while a younger part of us still needs reassurance. How to Deepen the Work When resistance appears, get curious instead of immediately trying to override it. Ask the protective part: "What are you afraid will happen if I do this?" Explore: "What does this remind you of?" When you're experiencing physical discomfort, focus on what your body needs rather than immediately connecting the symptoms to something enjoyable you recently did. Notice when you're telling yourself, "I shouldn't have done that," and consider whether that story is reinforcing an old pattern. Explore both physical and emotional avenues of support rather than assuming everything has a single cause. Begin creating a new definition of success that includes health, relationships, connection, and well-being rather than requiring sacrifice. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Love Block Quiz Christine and her husband created a free Love Block Quiz to help identify subconscious blocks that may be getting in the way of calling in the relationship you desire. Take Christine's free Love Block Quiz Be the Queen Christine and her husband teach Be the Queen for women who are ready to call in healthy, aligned partnership and explore the conscious, subconscious, energetic, and relational patterns that may be affecting their love lives. Christine is currently taking names for the early-bird interest list, which includes access to a special early-bird discount before the program launches. Join the Be the Queen interest list One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine shares that she currently has space for a couple more private coaching clients for those interested in deeper individualized work. Learn more about one-on-one coaching with Christine Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show Courses, retreats, and more resources
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  EP 555: When You Thought They Changed, but an Old Pattern Comes Back with Haley 16.09.2026 35min

  What happens when someone you love finally seems to have changed—only for an old, painful pattern to suddenly come back? In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Haley, who grew up with a verbally and emotionally abusive father. After a period of having no relationship with him, the two spent the last five years rebuilding their connection. Haley began to genuinely enjoy being around her father and finally felt loved and supported by him. Then one painful conflict changed everything. After Haley stood up for her younger sister, she saw a side of her father she hadn't seen in years. Suddenly, she was transported back to the fear, hurt, and confusion she experienced as a child. The relationship she thought had changed no longer felt as safe or stable as she believed. Christine helps Haley explore the painful reality of what happens when someone shows signs of growth but reverts to old behaviors the moment we disagree, set a boundary, or stop behaving the way they want us to. Together, they explore narcissistic traits, emotionally abusive family dynamics, accountability, boundaries, grieving the parent you wanted, and the difference between someone's potential and the reality of what they're actually capable of relationally. For Haley, the deeper work may not be figuring out how to get her father to understand. It may be finding her own voice, trusting her inner authority, protecting her peace, and letting go of the hope that saying something perfectly will finally create the response she's always wanted. If you've ever rebuilt a relationship only to have an old pattern return, this conversation is a powerful reminder that the good moments don't necessarily have to be fake—but they also don't erase what happens when conflict, boundaries, or individuation enter the relationship. Press play to explore how accepting someone's limitations can help you stop fighting for their potential and start choosing your own peace. Consider / Ask Yourself Have you believed someone changed, only to see an old painful behavior suddenly return? Are you still hoping that if you explain yourself clearly enough, someone will finally understand your perspective? Did you learn as a child that staying quiet was the safest way to avoid conflict? Are you investing more energy in someone's potential than in the reality of how they consistently show up? What would choosing your own peace look like if the other person never takes accountability or apologizes? Key Insights and A-Ha's People can have genuinely good periods and still have limited capacity for healthy conflict and repair. One of the clearest tests of a relationship can be what happens when you disagree, say no, set a boundary, or stop organizing yourself around another person's emotional needs. When a child grows up around emotionally abusive or narcissistic traits, speaking up may feel unsafe even in adulthood. Trying harder to make someone understand you can repeat the childhood pattern of fighting for validation and approval. Healthy relational repair requires the capacity for responsibility, accountability, empathy, and apology. Understanding someone's limitations can help you manage your expectations and make more self-honoring choices. The "good" moments don't necessarily mean someone has fundamentally changed—and the painful moments don't necessarily mean every good moment was fake. Sometimes peace comes from accepting what a relationship actually is rather than continuing to fight for what you wish it could become. Potential isn't the same thing as reality. How to Deepen the Work Learn more about narcissistic traits and emotionally unhealthy relationship patterns so you can better understand what may—and may not—be possible in the relationship. Ask yourself whether you're speaking because it's important for your own integrity or because you're hoping to finally make the other person understand. If repair is necessary, consider what you can genuinely take responsibility for without apologizing for something that would feel like self-betrayal. Notice when you're tempted to overexplain, defend yourself, or prove your perspective. Grieve the idealized version of the parent or relationship you hoped you could have. Redirect energy away from trying to change someone and toward relationships where accountability, empathy, and mutual effort are possible. Ask yourself: "What do I need to choose for my own peace?" Resources Mentioned in This Episode Be the Queen Christine and her husband are opening the doors to Be the Queen again in April. The program is designed for women who want to call in healthy, soul-aligned partnership and stop unconsciously attracting relationships based on patterns from their past. Join the early-bird notification list for special pricing and additional resources: Learn more about Be the Queen Coaches Corner with Rebecca Zung Christine references her previous conversation with Rebecca Zung about narcissism and navigating relationships with high-conflict people. She recommends revisiting this episode for additional insight into why defending yourself may become an exhausting and unproductive use of your energy in certain relational dynamics. Listen to Christine's Coaches Corner with Rebecca Zung Dr. Ramani Christine also recommends exploring the work of Dr. Ramani Durvasula for additional education about narcissism, narcissistic traits, and narcissistic relationships. Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show Courses, retreats, and more resources
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  EP 554: When Everything Feels Hard and Nothing Feels Good with Jeni 09.09.2026 36min

  What do you do when everything feels hard, nothing feels particularly good, and you no longer trust that the things you've always wanted are actually going to happen? In this deeply reflective coaching session, Christine works with Jeni, who has spent the last three years navigating an overwhelming season of loss and change. A relationship ended. A new relationship that made her feel truly seen also ended. The job she loved came to an end. Her beloved cat was diagnosed with cancer. Her friend group disappeared. And at the same time, hormonal changes and perimenopause made it harder to simply push through life the way she always had. But as Christine explores Jeni's story, it becomes clear that this feeling didn't begin three years ago. Underneath the recent losses is a much older belief: that who Jeni naturally is isn't quite good enough. Growing up, Jeni learned that love, approval, and connection often depended on behaving the "right" way. Over time, people-pleasing and self-judgment disconnected her from her own inner compass. When you're continually taught—directly or indirectly—that your preferences, feelings, or choices are wrong, it becomes difficult to trust yourself at all. Christine helps Jeni recognize that what feels like being stuck may actually be an invitation to reclaim herself. Rather than searching for another external solution, this season may be asking her to stop relating to herself the way she was related to as a child. And that doesn't require one enormous breakthrough. Healing can happen through tiny moments of awareness, compassion, self-acceptance, and choosing differently. Sometimes the biggest transformation begins with simply noticing the pattern instead of automatically believing it. If life has felt gray lately, if you've lost faith in what you once wanted, or if you're exhausted from trying to fix yourself, this episode offers a compassionate reminder that you don't have to figure everything out today. Press play to explore how small, consistent acts of self-trust and self-love can begin reconnecting you with the person you've always been underneath the protective patterns. Consider / Ask Yourself Does life feel harder or "grayer" than it used to? Did you grow up believing you needed to behave a certain way to receive love, approval, or acceptance? Do you struggle to trust your own desires, opinions, or decisions? Are you highly critical of yourself because you learned early that who you naturally were wasn't enough? Are you waiting for a massive breakthrough instead of acknowledging the smaller steps you're already taking? Key Insights and A-Ha's Major seasons of loss can reveal patterns and wounds that have been operating underneath the surface for years. People-pleasing can disconnect us from our own inner compass and make it difficult to know or trust what we truly want. When children don't feel fully accepted, they may conclude that something is wrong with them rather than recognizing the limitations of their caregivers. Constant self-judgment can develop from trying to figure out how to become "good enough" to receive love and validation. What feels like depression or emotional grayness can sometimes include years of repressed feelings and suppressed self-expression. Protective patterns may resist healing because familiar discomfort can feel safer than an unknown future. Healing doesn't require a dramatic breakthrough. Small moments of awareness and safety matter. Reparenting means choosing not to continue relating to yourself in the same ways you were related to as a child. Acceptance and forward movement can coexist: you can accept where you are while still committing to the next step. How to Deepen the Work Notice when you're criticizing yourself without immediately trying to stop the criticism. Begin simply with: "I'm criticizing myself right now." Once that awareness becomes easier, try adding: "I forgive myself for criticizing myself." Eventually, ask: "What else could I tell myself right now?" Write your own "parenting manual" for yourself. How do you want to respond when you're scared, triggered, disappointed, or judging yourself? When fear arises during deeper emotional work, consider whether the fear actually means "stop" or whether it's a protective part responding to something unfamiliar. Celebrate small moments when you stay present with a difficult emotion instead of expecting yourself to have a massive breakthrough. Practice giving yourself a little more love, understanding, compassion, and patience today than you did yesterday. Resources Mentioned in This Episode One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine has opened her roster to additional private coaching clients. If you're navigating a season where everything feels difficult, you're experiencing significant loss or transition, or you're ready to explore deeper patterns with personalized support, you can learn more about working directly with Christine. Learn more about one-on-one coaching with Christine Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring individual toe articulation designed to support more natural movement and a barefoot-style experience. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show Courses, retreats, and more resources
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  EP 553: When Being Direct Isn't Getting You the Connection You Want with Gaby 02.09.2026 35min

  What if you're saying exactly what you mean—but somehow you're still not getting the connection you want? In this insightful coaching session, Christine works with Gaby, a self-described direct communicator who has become increasingly disappointed by the way friends and family respond when she tries to address hurt feelings or problems in their relationships. After becoming a mother, Gaby found herself less willing to tolerate behaviors that didn't feel good to her. She began speaking up more clearly, expecting that honesty would open the door to deeper conversations and stronger relationships. Instead, many of the people closest to her seemed to retreat, become defensive, or avoid the conversation altogether. That leaves Gaby wondering: If I'm the common denominator, am I the problem? Christine offers a different perspective. Gaby's directness isn't necessarily the problem—but the order of her communication may be getting in the way of what she actually wants: connection. Together, they explore emotional validation, vulnerability, defensiveness, motherhood, inner child healing, and the difference between communicating what's true and communicating it in a way another person can actually receive. Christine introduces a simple but powerful framework: connection first. Connect before you correct. Connect before you ask. Connect before you collaborate. If you've ever thought, "But I'm just being honest," only to have someone become defensive or shut down, this conversation will help you understand why—and give you practical language for approaching difficult conversations differently. Press play to learn how adding vulnerability, curiosity, and connection to your directness can help you communicate your needs without abandoning your truth. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you pride yourself on being direct but often find that other people become defensive? When you're hurt, are you communicating because you want connection—or because you want the other person to understand what they did wrong? Did you grow up feeling emotionally validated, seen, and supported when someone hurt you? Are you offering solutions when the person in front of you may simply want to be heard? Are you asking the right people to meet your emotional needs—or going to the proverbial "Chinese restaurant when you want nachos"? Key Insights and A-Ha's Being direct doesn't automatically create connection. Sometimes what we want more than a solution is simply to feel seen. A lifetime of not feeling emotionally validated can make being understood feel especially important in adult relationships. Directness without enough vulnerability or curiosity can unintentionally activate defensiveness. The phrases "The story I'm making up in my head is..." and "What I'm making that mean is..." can help create personal responsibility while lowering another person's defensiveness. Connecting before correcting, asking, or collaborating can completely change the tone of a difficult conversation. Part of inner child healing is learning how to communicate as an adult in ways that make it more likely our needs will be met. Even excellent communication can't guarantee someone will meet you emotionally. Discernment about who is capable of giving you what you need still matters. How to Deepen the Work Before an important conversation, ask yourself: "How can I connect with this person first?" Experiment with replacing accusations or conclusions with curiosity: "The story I'm making up in my head is..." When someone shares a struggle with you, pause before offering a solution and consider whether they may simply need validation. Notice whether anger or hurt is leading your communication. Give those feelings a healthy place to be expressed before entering the conversation. Practice taking responsibility for your side of the communication without taking responsibility for the other person's response. Remember Christine's framework: connection first, connection first, connection first. Resources Mentioned in This Episode One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine has opened a few additional spots in her private coaching practice for people who want individualized support, validation, and transformational coaching. Learn more and apply at: christinehassler.com/coaching Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to provide a barefoot-style experience while still offering cushioning for everyday movement, fitness, and athletic activities. Its individual five-toe articulation allows each toe to move separately and supports more natural foot movement. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link   Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com
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  CC: Why Moms Are Chronically Stressed — and How to Stop Overfunctioning with Sarah Tacy 29.08.2026 52min

  Sarah Tacy Tangredi is a nervous system specialist and somatic guide for moms who are done with burnout and overfunctioning. She helps clients move from urgency to choice, from survival patterns to deep self-trust, and into a more human pace where vitality, clarity, and mystery can coexist. Her work blends neuroscience, somatic healing, and sacred strategy to support women in reclaiming their wholeness. She's the creator of Resourced a 12 Week nervous system repatterning journey, and host of the Threshold Moments podcast, known for her grounded presence and ability to hold space for what's real, raw, and ready to rise. Sarah is an evolving mother, wife, and friend. She believes that the body is always speaking to us, and if we can create space and support on as many dimensions as possible, repair and transformation will unfold. Join her for a free online event on Sept 10th called "Opting Out of Urgency" that will help you move from chronic over-responsibility and rush to choice and ease. Register here: christinehassler.com/workshop 
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  EP 552: Allowing Yourself to Receive Support Without Feeling Guilty with Maryam 26.08.2026 29min

  What if receiving love and support feels almost as uncomfortable as the pain you're already carrying? In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Maryam, an Iranian woman living in Norway who is struggling with grief, fear, and guilt as she witnesses tremendous suffering in her homeland while her family remains in Iran. At the same time, Maryam has built a beautiful life with a loving husband who consistently shows up for her. He listens, comforts her, walks with her, and gives her space to grieve. Yet instead of simply receiving his support, Maryam often finds herself apologizing for needing it. Underneath that guilt is a powerful question: If people I love are suffering, is it okay for me to feel safe, supported, and loved? Christine helps Maryam explore how trauma can condition the nervous system to expect chaos and suffering—making safety and love feel unfamiliar when they finally arrive. Sometimes, without realizing it, we may even add guilt to positive experiences as a way of recalibrating back toward what feels familiar. Together, they explore collective grief, survivor's guilt, highly sensitive nervous systems, receiving in relationships, and the difference between compassionately witnessing suffering and believing you must suffer alongside someone in order to love them. If you've ever felt guilty for having something another person doesn't, struggled to receive help without apologizing, or believed that your own happiness somehow minimizes someone else's pain, this conversation offers a powerful invitation to choose differently. Press play to discover why your suffering doesn't relieve someone else's—and how allowing yourself to receive love may actually give you greater capacity to offer love in return. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel guilty receiving support when other people are struggling? Is it easier for you to care for others than to allow someone to care for you? Do you unconsciously believe that suffering alongside someone proves how much you love them? When something good enters your life, do you find yourself waiting for something bad to happen or creating additional worry? Can you allow yourself to experience safety and love even when suffering exists elsewhere? Key Insights and A-Ha's Compassion for another person's suffering doesn't require adding unnecessary suffering to your own life. Trauma can orient the nervous system toward chaos, making love, safety, and support feel unfamiliar. Guilt can become a way of limiting how much goodness we're willing to receive. Receiving support doesn't make you less compassionate, committed, or connected to the people you care about. Rejecting support can also prevent someone you love from experiencing the gift and purpose of supporting you. Your suffering does not automatically lessen someone else's suffering. Receiving love can expand your capacity to give love. Sometimes healing means allowing your nervous system to recalibrate to safety instead of continually tethering itself to pain. How to Deepen the Work When you notice yourself apologizing for needing support, try replacing "I'm sorry" with "Thank you," "I love you," or "I'm grateful you're here with me." Notice what happens in your body when someone offers you love, comfort, or support without asking for anything in return. Remind yourself that it is safe to receive—even when other parts of your life or the world feel uncertain. Ask yourself whether your suffering is actually helping the situation you're concerned about. Give yourself permission to step away from collective pain at times and return to the reality of your own present moment. Practice receiving support without immediately feeling obligated to reciprocate it. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring five-toe articulation, which gives each toe its own space and supports more natural movement while walking or running. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com
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  CC: On our Knees with Regena Thomashauer 22.08.2026 48min

  Regena Thomashauer — better known as Mama Gena — is a bestselling author, teacher, feminist icon, and founder of the School of Womanly Arts, which she started in her living room in 1998 and has since grown into a global movement. For more than three decades, Regena has helped women reconnect to the parts of themselves we've been taught to suppress — our bodies, our desires, our emotions, and our pleasure. At the heart of her work is the belief that pleasure is a form of power, and that when a woman is fully connected to herself and what she wants, it changes how she moves through every area of her life. She is the author of five books, including the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation, and her work has reached hundreds of thousands of women around the world. Her teachings are an invitation for women to reclaim their feminine power, raise their standards, and live with more truth, turn-on, and freedom. Today we talk about her newest book: On Our Knees which offers a new map for navigating heartbreak, uncertainty, loss, and reinvention.
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  EP 551: The Exhausting Drain of Feeling Responsible for Everyone You Love with Jessica 19.08.2026 35min

  What happens when loving the people in your life starts to feel like being responsible for keeping everyone okay? In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Jessica, who is navigating several major transitions at once: the end of a 10-year relationship with her best friend and business partner, building her own creative career, and watching her mother rapidly decline from Alzheimer's at a young age. As the oldest of four siblings, Jessica has spent much of her life carrying a strong sense of responsibility and loyalty toward the people she loves. When someone is hurting, her instinct is to step in, protect them, fix the problem, or even put her own life on hold to make sure they're okay. But that way of loving has become exhausting. Christine helps Jessica recognize the difference between holding space for someone and trying to protect them from pain. What Jessica has understood as love and compassion is sometimes an old survival pattern—one that tells her she can only feel safe when everyone around her is okay. Together, they explore over-responsibility, codependency, boundaries, grief, nervous system regulation, and the enormous amount of energy we can lose worrying about situations we simply cannot control. If you've ever been the strong one, the caretaker, the oldest daughter, the empath, or the person everyone depends on, this episode will help you recognize where love may have become tangled with worry, guilt, fear, and responsibility. Press play to discover how to love people deeply without carrying their pain—and how reclaiming that energy can help you finally have more capacity for your own life. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel responsible for making sure the people you love are okay? When someone you care about is suffering, do you immediately feel compelled to fix or rescue them? Have you confused worrying about someone with loving them? Are you spending so much energy managing other people's feelings that you have little left for your own needs? Can you allow someone you love to experience pain without believing it's your responsibility to make it better? Key Insights and A-Ha's Holding space for someone is not the same as protecting them from pain. Over-responsibility can become an identity and survival pattern, especially when it begins early in life. Love can become unconsciously paired with worry, caretaking, fear, and control. Worry can create the illusion that we're doing something when we're facing a situation we cannot control. Constantly putting yourself in someone else's shoes can cause you to carry suffering that may not actually be yours. When we focus primarily on other people's discomfort, we can lose touch with our own grief and needs. Trying to fix everything may provide short-term relief but can lead to long-term exhaustion and burnout. Healthy boundaries aren't about becoming cold or disconnected—they allow love and truth to exist together. How to Deepen the Work When you feel the urge to rescue someone, pause and notice what is happening in your body before taking action. Remind yourself: "Someone I love is going through something I cannot control." When an old caretaking pattern activates, meet it with compassion instead of criticizing yourself for falling into it again. Practice giving the people you love the dignity of experiencing and moving through their own feelings. Pay attention to the "energy leaks" created by worry, guilt, overthinking, and trying to control what isn't yours to control. Ask yourself what you need emotionally before automatically turning your attention toward everyone else. Resources Mentioned in This Episode One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine has opened additional space in her calendar for private one-on-one coaching. She shares her continued passion for individualized coaching and supporting people through major transitions, healing, and personal growth. Learn more about Christine's process and apply at: christinehassler.com/coaching Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe featuring five-toe articulation, allowing each toe to move independently and supporting more natural foot movement while walking or running. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link Social Media + Resources Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts including Coaches Corner Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler Facebook — Christine Hassler Instagram — @ChristineHassler Instagram — @SacredUnionCouples Apply to be coached on the show: christinehassler.com/waitlist Courses, retreats, and more resources: christinehassler.com
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  EP 550: Grieving the Father You Wanted While Caring for the One You Have with Kelli 12.08.2026 32min

  How do you care for an aging parent who never gave you what you needed as a child? In this deeply relatable coaching session, Christine works with Kelli, whose elderly father is beginning to show signs of aging and short-term memory changes. As the firstborn daughter and the only medical professional in her family, Kelli feels much of the responsibility for preparing for what may come next. But underneath the practical concerns is something much more complicated: grief for the father-daughter relationship she never had. Family members have told Kelli that she can seem "cold" toward her father. Yet Christine offers another perspective—what looks like coldness may actually be protection. After years of disappointment, lack of accountability, and feeling emotionally unseen, Kelli learned that keeping her heart guarded was safer than continuing to hope her father would become the dad she needed. Together, Christine and Kelli explore the father wound, caregiving, boundaries, resentment, grief, and how our relationships with our parents can influence the partners we choose and our ability to receive healthy love. Christine encourages Kelli to find the "both/and": she doesn't have to pretend everything is okay or abandon the boundaries she's worked hard to create. But she can also ask herself how she wants to show up in the relationship now so that, when her father is gone, she can experience grief without guilt. If you've ever struggled with an aging parent, felt guilty about keeping emotional distance from a family member, or wondered how your relationship with your father may be affecting your romantic relationships, this conversation will resonate deeply. Press play to discover how you can honor your hurt, maintain your boundaries, and still choose truth and love in the relationships that matter most. Consider / Ask Yourself Are you grieving the relationship you wish you could have had with one of your parents? Have others interpreted your emotional protection as being "cold" or distant? Are you caring for an aging parent while carrying unresolved hurt from childhood? How might your relationship with your father be influencing the way you relate to men or romantic partners? What would it look like to experience grief without guilt? Key Insights and A-Ha's What looks like emotional coldness may actually be a protective response to years of hurt and disappointment. You can accept who a parent is without pretending they gave you everything you needed. Healthy boundaries and love can coexist. Father wounds can influence worthiness, trust, vulnerability, and our relationships with men. We may unconsciously seek partners who give us what we didn't receive from our parents. Asking for help and delegating family responsibilities can prevent resentment and challenge the belief that everything falls on you. Self-love, truth, and authenticity can ultimately become stronger protection than emotional walls. How to Deepen the Work Ask yourself how you genuinely want to show up with an aging parent—not from guilt or obligation, but from your own values. Notice when hurt or protective patterns are leading your interactions and consider whether there's an authentic middle ground. Practice reminding your younger self that a parent's emotional limitations reflect their capacity, not your worth or lovability. Allow yourself to grieve the parent-child relationship you wanted without forcing the relationship you actually have to become something it isn't. Ask family members for help rather than automatically carrying the emotional and practical responsibility yourself. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Be the Queen Christine and Stef are opening the next live cohort of Be the Queen in October, focused on helping women call in healthy, aligned partnership. Join the waitlist for early access and the early-bird discount at: christinehassler.com/queen One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine has opened additional spots in her private coaching roster and is focusing more deeply on personalized, one-on-one transformational work. Learn more and apply at: christinehassler.com/coaching Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares more about Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to allow more natural foot movement, strengthen the feet, and provide a barefoot-style experience with cushioning for everyday movement. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 549: How Making Up Stories About Things Are Making Things So Much Worse with Shannon 05.08.2026 35min

  How often do you mistake the story in your head for the truth? In this deeply insightful coaching session, Christine works with Shannon, who has spent much of her life feeling like she's waiting for people to leave her. Growing up with a mother struggling with severe mental illness and a father who was absent for most of her life due to incarceration, Shannon learned to survive by becoming hypervigilant. Now, as an adult, those same survival strategies show up in her closest relationships. A small comment from her partner becomes evidence that he's leaving. A text message that goes unanswered becomes proof she's being rejected. A misunderstanding quickly spirals into a painful story about not being enough. Together, Christine and Shannon explore anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, childhood survival strategies, and one of the most powerful communication tools you can use to interrupt emotional spirals before they damage your relationships. Christine reminds us that message sent is not always message received—and that many of the stories we create during moments of fear have far more to do with our past than with what's actually happening in the present. If you've ever caught yourself assuming the worst, overthinking someone's words, or convincing yourself that people are pulling away without real evidence, this episode will help you slow down, seek clarity, and respond from your adult self instead of your wounded inner child. Press play to learn how changing one simple phrase can transform your relationships—and your peace of mind. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you often assume the worst when someone says or does something unexpected? Are you making decisions based on facts—or on stories your fear is creating? Do you struggle to know whether you're truly being hurt or simply being triggered? What would change if you asked for clarity instead of making assumptions? Key Insights and A-Ha's Childhood abandonment wounds can create hypervigilance in adult relationships. Survival strategies that once protected you may now be creating distance from the people you love. Triggers often distort reality, causing us to assign meaning that was never intended. Vulnerability creates connection; assumptions create isolation. Healthy relationships require clarification—not mind reading. How to Deepen the Work Practice using the phrases: "The story I'm making up in my head is..." and "What I'm making this mean is..."before reacting. Notice when your nervous system jumps to worst-case scenarios and pause before taking action. Give trusted people the opportunity to clarify their intentions before assuming rejection. Remember that seeking clarification is an act of self-advocacy, not weakness. Resources Mentioned in This Episode One-on-One Coaching with Christine Christine shares that she's opening additional one-on-one coaching spots, returning to what she calls "the basics"—real human connection, personalized guidance, and transformational coaching. To learn more, email: [email protected] Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a five-toe minimalist shoe designed to support natural foot movement, strengthen the feet, and provide all-day comfort. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 548: When Your Soul Part and Your Human Part, Seem to Have Different Priorities and Identities with Gihan 29.07.2026 32min

  What happens when the person you've always been no longer feels like the person you're becoming? In this deeply thoughtful coaching session, Christine works with Gihan, who is navigating the space between her cultural and familial identity and the life her soul feels called to create. Living with her mother in Cairo, Gihan has been on a healing journey that has challenged old patterns of people-pleasing and encouraged her to question what she truly wants. She feels drawn toward a simpler life—possibly living abroad, spending more time near the beach, and creating a life that feels authentic to her. But that desire brings up a difficult question: Does she genuinely want a different life, or is she simply trying to escape the discomfort of becoming a different version of herself? As Christine and Gihan explore that question, the conversation moves into belonging, identity, family, spirituality, and the tension that can arise when your soul seems to be pulling you in a direction that looks different from the life, culture, or expectations you were born into. Christine offers an important reframe: transformation doesn't always have to be an either/or decision. Sometimes the path forward is both/and—honoring where you came from while also remaining loyal to where your soul is leading you. If you've ever felt caught between who you've been and who you're becoming, questioned whether following your truth means leaving something—or someone—behind, or struggled to honor both your spirituality and your humanity, this conversation will resonate. Press play to discover how you can follow your soul without abandoning the human parts of you that still need belonging, compassion, and connection. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel caught between the identity you've always known and the person you're becoming? Are you questioning whether a desire for change is intuition—or an attempt to escape discomfort? Do you fear that choosing your own path could cost you belonging, connection, or approval? Where are you thinking in either/or terms when a both/and approach may be possible? Key Insights and A-Ha's Transformation often requires a period of not fully knowing who you're becoming. Choosing a different path can activate a primal fear of losing belonging. Your soul's desires and your human needs don't have to be mutually exclusive. Spiritual growth doesn't require bypassing difficult human emotions like judgment, fear, jealousy, or uncertainty. Authenticity isn't about becoming a perfect version of yourself—it's about becoming more genuine. Our judgments can become powerful teachers when we get curious about what they're reflecting back to us. How to Deepen the Work Notice when you're framing a decision as either/or and ask whether there's a both/and possibility. When judgment arises, practice acknowledging it without shame and asking what it may be showing you about yourself. Offer compassion to the human parts of you that feel afraid when your soul calls you toward something unfamiliar. Give yourself permission to be in the middle of transformation without needing to immediately define your new identity. Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to encourage natural foot movement while providing cushioning for everyday movement, fitness, and athletic activities. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Shop Peluva through Christine's link Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!  Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 547: When Protecting Your Child Becomes Its Own Kind of Prison with Shelley 15.07.2026 37min

  How do you protect your child without living in constant fear? In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Shelley, whose journey through chronic illness, mold toxicity, Lyme disease, fertility challenges, and becoming a new mother has left her feeling trapped in a cycle of hypervigilance around environmental toxins. What began as a genuine desire to keep her daughter safe has slowly become an exhausting mental prison. Every trip to the grocery store feels overwhelming. Every product label raises questions. Every social media post from health experts seems to introduce a new threat. Instead of enjoying motherhood, Shelley finds herself consumed by worry and worst-case scenarios. As Christine gently unpacks the deeper layers beneath the anxiety, a powerful truth emerges: Shelley's hypervigilance isn't the problem—it's a protective part of her that developed after years of trauma, illness, and uncertainty. Together they explore Parts Work (Internal Family Systems), nervous system regulation, motherhood, chronic illness recovery, intuition, and the difference between living from awareness versus living from fear. If you've ever found yourself obsessing over health, constantly researching the next thing to worry about, or feeling like your mind has become consumed by trying to control the uncontrollable, this episode offers a compassionate path back to peace. Press play to discover how trusting yourself—and allowing love to become louder than fear—can help you step out of survival mode and back into your life. Consider / Ask Yourself Do you spend so much time trying to protect yourself or your loved ones that it's difficult to enjoy the present moment? Has your search for health information become a source of anxiety instead of empowerment? Are you constantly scanning for what could go wrong instead of appreciating what is going well? What would change if you trusted your intuition more than your fear? Key Insights and A-Ha's Hypervigilance is often a protective response born from trauma—not a character flaw. Information becomes overwhelming when fear is driving the search for certainty. You don't need to eliminate your protective parts—you can simply give them a new role. Awareness is empowering; obsession is exhausting. Raising your inner sense of safety can be just as important as reducing external risks. How to Deepen the Work Notice when your protective part is taking over and gently thank it for trying to keep you safe. Limit exposure to fear-based content that keeps your nervous system activated. Spend intentional time strengthening the parts of yourself that feel creative, joyful, intuitive, and present. Practice speaking words of trust, health, and resilience over yourself and your loved ones. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and support overall foot health. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!  
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  EP 546: How the Fear of Loss is Keeping You from Building Your Own Life with IIaria 08.07.2026 29min

  Have you ever felt like you've done all the inner work... yet one fear refuses to leave? In this compassionate and eye-opening coaching session, Christine works with Ilaria, who has spent years in therapy, practicing breathwork, nervous system regulation, and inner child healing. Yet one fear continues to consume her: the overwhelming fear of losing her parents. As she approaches her mid-thirties and begins thinking about creating a life of her own—finding a partner, becoming more independent, and stepping into her future—the fear grows even stronger. Why? Because underneath the anxiety isn't simply a fear of loss. It's a younger part of her that believes worrying is the only way to protect the people she loves. Christine introduces Ilaria to the powerful framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Parts Work, helping her recognize that this fear isn't all of who she is—it's one protective part that's been trying to keep her safe since childhood. Together they explore acceptance, self-compassion, nervous system healing, and why sometimes the greatest breakthrough comes not from trying harder to fix ourselves, but from changing how we relate to the parts of us that are hurting. If you've ever felt trapped by anxiety, worried constantly about the people you love, or wondered why years of healing haven't made a particular fear disappear, this episode offers a deeply hopeful new perspective. Press play to discover how accepting your fear—rather than fighting it—may be the very thing that finally brings you peace. Consider / Ask Yourself Is there a fear you've been trying to eliminate for years without success? Do you constantly worry about losing the people you love? Have you confused your anxiety with your identity? Could one protective part of you be trying to keep you safe in the only way it knows how? Key Insights and A-Ha's Anxiety doesn't define you—it may simply be one protective part of your inner world. Healing isn't always about eliminating fear; sometimes it's about changing your relationship to it. Love and fear often become intertwined, making it difficult to experience one without the other. Parts Work (IFS) helps create compassion for protective patterns instead of fighting against them. Nothing truly heals through judgment—acceptance creates space for transformation. How to Deepen the Work Notice when fear shows up, and gently ask yourself, "Which part of me is speaking right now?" Practice separating your identity from your anxious thoughts: "This is a part of me, not all of me." Explore Parts Work or Internal Family Systems with a trained practitioner if this approach resonates. Allow yourself to fully experience love without assuming fear must always accompany it. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and improve overall foot health. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE Internal Family Systems (IFS) Christine recommends learning more about Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) and references her previous podcast conversation with Richard Schwartz, the founder of IFS, along with his book: No Bad Parts These resources offer a deeper understanding of how protective parts shape our emotional lives and how compassion can create lasting healing. Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 545: Grief, Injustice, and the Courage to Speak with Mary 01.07.2026 39min

  Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of suicide, the loss of a child, emotional abuse, and narcissistic relationship dynamics. Please care for yourself and listen only if it feels supportive. What do you do when you're grieving the unimaginable... and someone you once trusted continues to cause harm in the aftermath? In this profoundly moving coaching session, Christine sits down with Mary, whose teenage son died by suicide just nine months ago. As she navigates the heartbreaking reality of losing her child, Mary finds herself confronting another devastating challenge: discovering that her ex-husband has publicly misrepresented their son's cause of death while using his memory to promote a charitable foundation. For years, Mary lived in fear of speaking her truth during an emotionally abusive marriage. Now, she's faced with a painful question: Can she find the courage to use her voice—not from anger or revenge, but from love, integrity, and a desire to honor her son's legacy? Together, Christine and Mary explore grief, trauma, narcissistic abuse, reclaiming personal power, and the delicate balance between seeking justice and protecting your own peace. Their conversation is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't require silence—and that telling the truth can be an act of profound love. Whether you've experienced deep loss, struggled to find your voice after an abusive relationship, or wondered how to move forward when life feels unbearably unfair, this episode offers compassion, validation, and hope. Press play to hear a courageous conversation about honoring truth, reclaiming your voice, and allowing both grief and joy to coexist. Consider / Ask Yourself Have you ever stayed silent because you were afraid of someone else's reaction? Do you struggle to trust your own voice after experiencing manipulation or emotional abuse? Are you carrying grief while also trying to rebuild your life? Can you allow yourself to experience moments of joy without feeling guilty? Key Insights and A-Ha's Grief and joy are not opposites—they can exist together. Years of emotional abuse can disconnect you from your own inner knowing. Speaking your truth doesn't require anger; it can come from love and integrity. Healing often begins when we stop abandoning our own voice. You are not responsible for another person's choices, but you are responsible for honoring your own truth. How to Deepen the Work Notice where fear may still be preventing you from expressing your truth. Practice asking yourself, "What feels true for me?" before seeking external validation. Allow yourself to receive support from trusted friends, professionals, or your community. Remember that choosing joy does not diminish your love for someone you've lost. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she recommends Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to support natural foot movement, comfort, and long-term foot health. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE   Seeking Pro Bono Legal Support Mary is currently seeking legal representation regarding the misuse of her son's memory and charitable foundation. If you are an attorney—or know someone who may be willing to assist on a pro bono basis—Christine invites you to contact her team. Email: [email protected] Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 544: Struggling with Making Big Life Decisions with Asa 24.06.2026 37min

  How do you know when it's time to let go of a dream… and when it's time to keep holding on? In this deeply moving coaching session, Christine works with Asa, who has spent the last 18 months wrestling with one of the biggest decisions of her life: whether to have a second child. Her heart longs for another baby—for the chance to experience motherhood again, to give her son a sibling, and to hold onto a season of life she isn't ready to say goodbye to. But her reality tells a different story. Between health challenges, stress in her marriage, financial concerns, aging parents, and feeling emotionally depleted, Asa wonders if the loving choice might actually be to let go of the dream. As the conversation unfolds, Christine gently uncovers something even deeper: perhaps the longing for another child isn't only about another baby. Perhaps it's also a longing to nurture the part of herself that never fully got to be a child. Together they explore emotional depletion, inner child healing, motherhood, grief, and why making major life decisions from exhaustion often leads us further away from ourselves. If you've ever felt stuck in indecision, struggled to trust your intuition, or wondered whether you're yearning for something external that's actually pointing you inward, this episode will offer clarity and compassion. Press play to discover why the most important life you may need to nurture right now is your own. Consider / Ask Yourself Is there a major life decision you've been avoiding because you're afraid of making the "wrong" choice? Are you making decisions from a place of depletion or from a place of wholeness? Do you feel responsible for taking care of everyone else while neglecting yourself? What part of you is asking to be nurtured before you take your next big step? Key Insights and A-Ha's Indecision often creates more emotional exhaustion than making a conscious choice. Sometimes the longing for something external points to an unmet need within. Self-mothering is an essential part of healing—especially for caregivers and parents. Emotional depletion makes it difficult to hear your intuition clearly. The most loving decision is often the one that honors your current capacity, not your expectations. How to Deepen the Work Notice where you're trying to force clarity instead of creating the conditions for clarity to emerge. Ask yourself what your inner child truly needs right now—not what you think you "should" be doing. Create space to replenish your physical, emotional, and relational well-being before making major life decisions. Practice offering yourself the same compassion and care you naturally give to others. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares why she loves Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to support natural movement, strengthen the feet, and improve overall comfort. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 543: Breaking the Pattern of Managing Family Feelings with Emily 17.06.2026 30min

  What if keeping the peace is actually keeping you from being fully yourself? In this heartfelt and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Emily, who is preparing to release her first book—a deeply personal guide about becoming an intentional, loving grandparent called Don't Skip the Party. But instead of celebration, Emily is met with silence and defensiveness from her mother. As her mom reads the book through the lens of her own regrets and perceived shortcomings, Emily finds herself pulled back into a familiar role: making sure everyone else is okay, even at the expense of her own truth. Together, Christine and Emily unpack one of the most common generational patterns many women carry—the belief that love means managing other people's emotions. The conversation explores boundaries, codependency, family dynamics, and the difference between truth spoken with love versus sacrificing yourself to keep others comfortable. If you've ever felt responsible for a parent's happiness, struggled to set loving boundaries, or found yourself shrinking your truth to avoid upsetting others, this episode will resonate deeply. Press play to discover why letting people have their feelings may be one of the most loving things you can do—for them and for yourself.    Consider / Ask Yourself Do you feel responsible for keeping peace within your family? Are you uncomfortable when people are upset with you? Do you soften your truth or hold yourself back to avoid disappointing others? Have you confused love with self-sacrifice?   Key Insights and A-Ha's Love does not require managing another person's emotions. Boundaries are not rejection—they are an act of self-respect and honesty. Protecting people from discomfort can sometimes prevent their growth. Breaking generational patterns means changing your role in the family dynamic—not forcing others to change theirs. Truth and love belong together. One without the other creates imbalance.   How to Deepen the Work Notice where you take responsibility for emotions that don't belong to you. Ask yourself: "Am I being loving—or am I people-pleasing?" Practice allowing others to have their own reactions without rushing to fix them. Reflect on where you can choose truth and love simultaneously.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Featured Sponsor: Peluva Barefoot Shoes Christine shares her experience with Peluva, a minimalist five-toe shoe designed to strengthen the feet, encourage natural movement, and improve overall comfort. Use code CHRISTINE for 10% off your first pair. Visit: https://affiliate.peluva.com/CHRISTINE   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 542: My Safe Love Often Feels Unsafe with Sydney 10.06.2026 32min

  What happens when you finally find the healthy relationship you've always wanted... and your nervous system doesn't know what to do with it? In this deeply compassionate coaching session, Christine works with Sydney, who has found herself in the healthiest and most emotionally supportive relationship of her life. Her partner is stable, trustworthy, and committed—everything she once hoped for. So why does she still feel anxious? Why does part of her still expect abandonment, betrayal, or heartbreak? As the conversation unfolds, Sydney begins to recognize that her fears aren't coming from her current relationship. They're coming from old wounds. Growing up with an emotionally unavailable mother and a father who left, her nervous system learned early that love wasn't safe and connection couldn't be trusted. Now, even though her present-day reality is different, those old protective patterns continue to activate whenever intimacy deepens. Together, Christine and Sydney explore self-abandonment, dissociation, vulnerability, receptivity, and what it truly means to feel safe enough to receive love. If you've ever found yourself pulling away from healthy love, questioning a good relationship, or feeling anxious when things are actually going well, this episode will help you understand why. Press play to discover how old survival strategies may be keeping you from fully receiving the love you've worked so hard to create.    Consider / Ask Yourself Do you become anxious when relationships start feeling safe and secure? Do you find yourself expecting abandonment even when there is no evidence something is wrong? Were your emotional needs consistently met as a child? Do you struggle to receive love, support, compliments, affection, or intimacy?   Key Insights and A-Ha's Safe relationships can feel unfamiliar—and therefore unsafe—to a nervous system wired for unpredictability. Self-abandonment often begins when emotional needs go unmet in childhood. Vulnerability is not the same as neediness. Receptivity requires safety, embodiment, and trust. Many anxiety patterns are protective strategies that once served a purpose but are no longer necessary.   How to Deepen the Work Notice when you are reacting from present-day reality versus past experiences. Practice validating your triggers rather than criticizing yourself for having them. Explore ways to reconnect with your body through grounding and nervous system regulation practices. Allow yourself to express and process emotions instead of pushing them away or dissociating from them.   Social Media + Resources:  Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!
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  EP 541: Hiding in Plain Sight — How Fear of Criticism Is Keeping You from Being Fully You with Victoria 03.06.2026 34min

  What if the thing holding you back isn't a lack of confidence—but a fear of being seen? In this powerful and emotional coaching session, Christine works with Victoria, who feels called to step into a more authentic and public version of herself through a new creative venture. Although she has already achieved success in her current career, she feels increasingly disconnected from the life she truly wants to be living. The problem isn't a lack of passion. The problem is the overwhelming fear that comes with being visible. As Victoria explores her desire to become a content creator and inspire women to build their dream lives, deeper layers begin to emerge. Childhood criticism, perfectionism, fear of judgment, and the pressure to "get it right" have all created an internal protector that would rather keep her safe than allow her to be fully expressed. Together, Christine and Victoria uncover how growing up in a highly critical environment taught her to hide parts of herself in order to avoid conflict, judgment, and rejection. Now, as she prepares to share her voice more publicly, those same protective patterns are resurfacing. If you've ever felt called to something bigger but found yourself procrastinating, shrinking back, or questioning your worth, this episode will help you understand why—and what it takes to move forward anyway. Press play to discover how fear of criticism may be keeping you from the freedom, fulfillment, and authenticity you truly desire.    Consider / Ask Yourself Do you hold yourself back because you fear what others might think? Did you grow up in a household where criticism, correction, or high expectations were common? Do you feel called to share more of yourself but find yourself procrastinating or avoiding visibility? Are you living from authenticity—or from a strategy designed to avoid judgment?   Key Insights and A-Ha's Perfectionism is often a survival strategy developed in response to criticism. Fear of being seen can create "invisibility blocks" that limit authentic expression. Many people spend more energy avoiding criticism than pursuing what they truly want. Authenticity often requires grieving the identity you built to stay safe. Freedom comes not from being perfect—but from allowing yourself to be fully seen.   How to Deepen the Work Reflect on how criticism shaped your relationship with visibility and self-expression. Notice where you are seeking safety through perfection rather than authenticity. Ask yourself: "What would I do if I wasn't afraid of being judged?" Begin practicing self-expression in small ways, even when discomfort arises.   Resource Mentioned in This Episode Inner Child Course Christine references her evergreen Inner Child program, designed to help people rewire childhood conditioning, heal protective patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves. Learn more at: christinehassler.com/innerchild    Social Media + Resources:    Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!