Paths Back to You

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  63. In my 30s, I finally topped trying to become a "better" version of myself | reflection on getting older, anxious attachment & building a home for your favorite self 19.06.2026 19min

  A reflective essay on the quiet, deeper shifts between your 20s and your 30s: learning to leave things alone instead of fixing them, building a sense of home that lives inside you instead of in a relationship or a place, choosing the people who bring you back to yourself, and getting more comfortable in the uncertainty of not knowing what comes next.It's not a glow-up story, and there's no five-step plan. More on what it means to stop chasing a "better" version of yourself and start building a home for your favorite one.In this episode:– Why leaving things alone is sometimes more productive than fixing them– The difference between managing yourself and actually taking care of yourself– How anxious attachment, old friendships, and a stuck identity kept me small / what you might be missing out on– Making peace with getting older and the new excitement of uncertainty– Taking authorship of your life instead of living from the past🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  62. Self-awareness alone won't fix your self-sabotage. Here's what's actually happening in your nervous system, and the truth about creating real change (after 2 decades of trying) 09.05.2026 14min

  If you've ever understood exactly why you do something, and then did it anyway (again), then this episode is for you.I spent nearly 2 decades doing genuine, deep, inner work. Therapy, somatic practices, learning, even helping clients. I could name every wound, explain every pattern, and still spent years trying to 'get out of my own way'. Feeling at odds with different parts of myself.So, let's dive deep about the paradox of being a deeply self-aware person who still self-sabotages. Why awareness alone isn't the mechanism of change. What's actually happening in your nervous system while you're busy being frustrated that nothing is changing. And what I finally learned was 'the thing' that moves the needle.🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  61. Leap, and the net will appear (a short film on embracing uncertainty & life changes) 03.05.2026 4min

  One of my biggest lessons in life has been learning how to not brace for the fall when faced with uncertainty and change. As I reflect on the last decade of my life (from age 25 to 35), I'd say I did a pretty good job with trusting the next step before I felt fully confident to take it. I hope this may somehow resonate with you, or even inspire you to take the leap. cheers to the open road and question marks.This short video essay was created from a Substack article I wrote shortly after my 35th birthday. 🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  60. How to reinvent yourself, FOR YOU THIS TIME. Why we have to change from a place of self-worth and not self-rejection. How to shift your mindset AND take actions for lasting change 11.04.2026 11min

  Many of us pursue self improvement from a place of self-rejection, which can make sustained change a challenge. We explore the nuances of why this approach to "how to reinvent yourself" might not stick, especially when we try to implement too many new habits at once. We'll dive into the psychology behind effective habit formation and how to cultivate a healthier mindset that actually leads to lasting change, moving beyond the traps of superficial self-help, and 'glow-up' trends.🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  59. How to stop people pleasing. The 7 archetypes, why it's a survival strategy, and how to deepen your relationship to self and others. 04.04.2026 13min

  People pleasing became a survival strategy that turned into self abandonment. This video explores the nuances of why you've adapted to these toxic patterns, and how its become a trap and making us lose ourselves. I also wanted to share PRACTICAL ways on how to stop being a people pleaser, moving beyond these old pattern to cultivate genuine personal preferences and deepening your relationship to self, and others.🐝 A friend to all is a friend to none, especially to yourself. 🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  58. Am I too good at being alone? Solitude vs. loneliness, how to cultivate a rich inner life. Learning to be alone, but not lonely. 28.03.2026 13min

  I've always been someone who's comfortable alone. Traveling solo, going out by myself, not really needing anyone around. I was proud of being independent, self-sufficient, and a low-maintenance friend. In this video we go into the different faces of loneliness, what hyper-independence or being a low-maintenance friend is costing us, and why we can feel alone even in our closest relationships, along with what it looks like to have a rich inner life while still letting connection in and flourish. 🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajintopics:self-help, loneliness, being alone, solitude, how to be alone not lonely, personal growth, healing journey
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  57. Tired of self-help and healing? Signs of the self-help trap, why we get stuck in it, and how to move beyond 'doing the work' 21.03.2026 14min

  Self-help and healing are (in my opinion) necessary and very impactful on our journey of being alive. However, there can come a point where it becomes the trap. The more we heal, the more we're experts at scanning for fixes. I break down the nuances of what the trap is, why we get stuck in it, and how to move beyond 'the work' and actually live.🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajintopics:self-help, personal growth, healing journey
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  56. Starting Over (AGAIN) in my 30s | What Changed in a Decade 17.01.2026 8min

  Life so far has never felt like a straight line. There'd been moments where I felt envious of those with such security, stability, always a home to return to. Then when I get honest with myself, through the rollercoaster ride of my 20s and into my 30s, I wouldn't have it any other way. To leave one of my favorite sayings: We can always begin, again🔑 https://diajin.com (FREE resources & paid offers)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajinTopics:advice for your 20s, advice for your 30s, starting over again, dealing with big life changes, traveling across the US, personal growth, personal development, self-help
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  55. Forget New Year's Resolutions, Try These 4 Delightful Practices For a Magical New Year ✨ 01.01.2026 13min

  Is it old news now? That New Year's Resolutions do not stick. I felt a full body NO when I was asked to set goals for the upcoming year. Instead, here are 4 intentional, delightful, and magical ways to help steer you into and through the new year. 🔑 https://diajin.com (1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajin
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  54. I Quit My 9-5 Corporate Job to Pursue My Dream Life, Was It Worth It? 03.12.2025 8min

  I’ve never walked a traditional path. My brief time in the corporate world felt like a layover, something I did out of financial need and the desire for stability. Maybe even my late attempt at “adulthood.” But it became clear pretty quickly that this life wasn’t meant for me.Even though uncertainty terrifies me and I have my own anxieties about the future, I decided to take the leap: leaving corporate, betting on myself, and returning to the path of being a content creator while building my own business.This is an honest reflection on what that transition is really like, the excitement and the stress, the hope and the doubt, and the reality behind starting a new chapter, a new venture, and a new version of your life.If you’re navigating a career change, thinking about quitting your job, or exploring entrepreneurship, I hope this helps you feel less alone.📥 Grab the free Micro-Yes Starter Kit: https://www.diajin.com/free❣️ Return to Self (course waitlist) https://www.diajin.com/return-to-self-waitlist🔑 https://diajin.com(1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribeSocials:🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajin🐝 YouTube:https://youtube.com/@diajinTopics covered:How I left my 9–5 corporate job, Career change at 30+ (why I walked away from stability), Quitting corporate to become a content creator, Transitioning from corporate life to entrepreneurship, What self-employment is really like behind the scenes, Building a business from scratch as a solo creator, The emotional side of taking a leap of faith, Choosing creativity over certainty, The hidden stressors of starting a business, How to know when a job isn’t aligned, Navigating uncertainty while reinventing your life, Mindset shifts for new entrepreneurs and creators, Honest reflections on leaving the traditional path
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  53. A Message From Your Future Self (If you've been trying, healing, and feeling stuck, watch this) 23.11.2025 9min

  If you're doing the inner work but nothing's changing, you're feeling frustrated and stuck, I hear you. I've been there many times.I spent 20 years chasing breakthroughs before I realized: transformation doesn't happen in aha moments. It happens in the small, boring actions I used to dismiss as "band-aids."In this video, I break down why might still feel stuck in the same patterns (even after all your efforts), what creates lasting change, and a reminder that yes, it all matters. everything you're doing is building the bridge to future you/back home.📥 Grab the free Micro-Yes Starter Kit: https://www.diajin.com/free🔗Join the waitlist for Return to Self❣️: https://www.diajin.com/return-to-self-waitlist🔑 https://diajin.com(Courses, 1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribe🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajinTopics:self love practices, inner work tips, feeling stuck in life, transformation journey, self worth journey, anxious attachment healing, mental health journey, personal development tips, nervous system regulation, healing journey, emotional growth, building self trust, breaking old patterns, small habits that changed my life, micro habits for mental health
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  52. How to Heal Your Nervous System (not just hacks to manage symptoms) 16.11.2025 10min

  You're doing all the nervous system tools: breathwork, grounding, somatic exercises—but you're still getting triggered, still spiraling, still stuck in the same patterns. Here's why: you're treating symptoms, not the system.In this video, I break down what nervous system regulation actually means (it's NOT about being calm), why the tools alone won't create lasting change, and the deeper layer most people miss, the one that keeps your system running old protection programs even when you're "safe."🔗 Ready to go deeper? Join the waitlist for Return to Self❣️: https://www.diajin.com/return-to-self-waitlist🔑 https://diajin.com(Courses, 1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribe🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajintopics mentioned: nervous system regulation, polyvagal theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, self worth, conditional self worth, people pleasing, trauma healing, somatic healing, nervous system healing, how to regulate your nervous system, fight or flight response, dysregulation, emotional regulation, attachment theory, internal family systems, IFS therapy, self compassion, healing from trauma, vagus nerve, ventral vagal, dorsal vagal, sympathetic nervous system
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  51. How to be productive WITHOUT burnout. (3 practices + mindset shifts for more energy and motivation to keep chasing your dream life) 09.11.2025 13min

  If you're a solopreneur, creator, artist, student, or anyone who feels like they're constantly busy, near burnout, but never "productive enough" then this one's for you.In this video, I'm sharing 3 "anti" productivity practices and mindset shifts that will not only allow you to optimize your time and schedule, but to stay motivated and in love with chasing your dreams. ❣️ Return to Self (course waitlist) https://www.diajin.com/return-to-self-waitlist🔑 https://diajin.com(1:1 and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack newsletter: https://diajin.substack.com/subscrib🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajin
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  50. How I Traveled the World With No Savings and a One-Way Ticket (What I Learned About My Own Self-Worth) 14.09.2025 12min

  In 2017, I booked a one-way ticket with no savings and no real plan. I just needed to run away and escape the version of me who felt low and lost. That leap into the unknown began a three year journey across Asia, Europe, and New Zealand that ended up teaching me far more than how to travel.In this episode, I share how I started a travel YouTube channel from scratch, worked odd jobs abroad, and slowly turned documenting my life into a career. There were a lot of uncertainty along the way but it was the start of completely reprogramming my self-worth and belief system. 🔑 https://diajin.com(Courses, 1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribe(I share more personal and in-depth essays on there, plus we can chat in real time!)🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajin🎙 My podcast "Paths Back to You" Listen on iTunes: https://apple.co/3iJVVwIListen on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2PYcE3a👻 My Spooky podcast "Soup of The Night"Listen on iTunes: https://bit.ly/4fv6PVFListen on Spotify: https://bit.ly/4lg5O5d
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  49. How I Rebuilt My Self-Worth | 3 things that took endless learning to actual embodiment 07.09.2025 14min

  Self-worth isn’t something we have to earn, but for many of us, childhood, culture, and past experiences convince us otherwise.In this video, I share my story of going from low self-worth and seeking home in wrong relationships to finally feeling anchored in my own worthiness. I’ll walk you through the 3 biggest shifts that changed everything for me. Work with me 1:1 or explore more at:🔑 https://diajin.com✍🏼Substack: https://diajin.substack.com/subscribe(I share more personal and in-depth essays on there, plus we can chat in real time!)🐝 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diajin🐝 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/diajintopics:self worth vs self esteemhow to build self worthinner child healing self compassion practicesbreaking people-pleasing patternschildhood wounds & adult relationshipsovercoming toxic relationshipshow to trust yourself againletting go of the past traumaself love journey / feeling enoughpersonal growth + embodimentstop seeking external validationrebuilding confidence & belonging
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  48. Better Than Happiness: 5 Key Principles for Sustainable Joy and Contentment That is Always Accessible 24.08.2025 12min

  In this video, I share 5 key principles that helped me shift from chasing happiness to cultivating something deeper: steady joy, presence, and contentment. These aren't quick fixes or "instant happiness hacks," but practices that create spaciousness, soften self-criticism, and help you cultivate peace and contentment that is always accessible.Topics Covered in This Video:- Lasting happiness vs. fleeting happiness- How to find joy and contentment- Awareness practice (inspired by Rupert Spira)- Radical self-permission & letting yourself be imperfect- Gratitude practices that go beyond toxic positivity- Balancing grief and gratitude- Letting go of control & cultivating presence- Inner peace and acceptance in daily life- Practical mindset shifts for emotional resilience- Moving from striving to allowing🔑 https://diajin.com(Courses, 1:1 offers, and other ways to work with me)✍🏼Substack: https://www.diajin.com/subscribe(I share more personal and in-depth essays on there, plus we can chat in real time!)⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠
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  47. Say Bye to Social Anxiety | 5 Practical Mindset Shifts and Tools 09.06.2025 12min

  Have you ever struggled with social anxiety, awkwardness, or overthinking every conversation? This video is for anyone who’s ever felt invisible in a crowd, terrified before a party, or drained after small talk. I’m sharing 5 practical tools and mindset shifts that actually helped me go from avoiding people altogether to enjoying social connection—even when I’m still a little awkward.How to reframe rejection and stop fearing what people thinkWhy you don’t have to be “charming” to be confidentHow to use exposure therapy without overwhelming yourselfTips for managing anticipatory anxiety before social eventsHow to build quiet, grounded self-worth that makes social anxiety lose its powerWhether you identify as socially anxious, introverted, shy, or just someone who hates awkward moments—you’re not broken. You’re human. I hope this episode will give you the tools to meet that part of you with compassion and real change.🔑 Get access to members-only content⁠⁠[A private space for deeper essays, live chats, curated recs, and more]⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠
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  46. From Anxious to Secure Attachment Style | Is your relationship part of the "problem"? Practical tools and mindset shifts to finally feel secure. 25.05.2025 20min

  Are you actually in a secure relationship—or just trying to heal in the wrong environment?If you’ve ever wondered “Is it me, or is it this relationship?”—this video is for you. We’re exploring anxious attachment, emotional spiraling, and the real reason why healing can feel like a never-ending project when your connection isn’t safe.Whether you're deep in self-work, constantly overthinking your partner’s behavior, or trying to practice secure attachment in a relationship that might not be built for it, this is a grounded and honest conversation about how to tell the difference—and what to do next.In this episode, I share:How to tell if you’re in a relationship that supports secure attachmentWhat it looks like when your nervous system feels safeThe mindset shifts that helped me stop spiraling from relationship anxietyTools for self-regulation, co-regulation, and actually feeling different (not just knowing better)If you’ve been doing all the inner work and still feel insecure, jealous, or unsettled, you’re not broken—and you’re not alone.🔑 Get access to members-only content⁠⁠⁠[A private space for deeper essays, live chats, curated recs, and more]⁠⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠
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  45. What 6 Movies Taught Me About Love, Chaos, Letting Go, and Growing Up (from 17 to 34) 12.05.2025 31min

  From first heartbreak to finding a home in myself, this is a personal reflection on the six movies that quietly shaped my life—from age 17 to 34.If you’ve ever rewatched a film and felt like it mirrored a past version of you, this episode is for you.We’ll explore themes of identity, love, emotional growth, and the unexpected life lessons that come through coming-of-age stories, cinematic storytelling, and the movies that changed us—without us even noticing.Movies mentioned:Eternal sunshine of the spotless mindCloserLost in translationEat Pray LoveArrivalPerfect Days⁠⁠🔑 Get access to members-only content⁠⁠[A private space for deeper essays, live chats, curated recs, and more]⁠⁠YouTube Channel⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠
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  44. You're a Paradox, How to Let it Be your Superpower 04.05.2025 16min

  "The ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function is the mark of a superior mind." - F. Scott FitzgeraldLet's talk about why trying to "make sense" of everything can leave you feeling stuck, and how learning to live inside your own contradictions, and the ones out in the real world, can actually give you an edge. If you've ever wrestled with self-acceptance vs. self-growth, openness vs. boundaries, ambition vs. surrender — this is for you.You’re allowed to be everything, all at once.🔑 Get access to members-only content[A private space for deeper essays, live chats, curated recs, and more]YouTube ChannelInstagramTikTok