Having It A.L.L.

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  Relationship Misconceptions That Are Making You Unhappy with Sarah Bivens 18.11.2025 1h 6min

  Are your relationship beliefs actually creating the connection you want—or quietly sabotaging it? In this honest conversation, Sarah and I unpack the subtle, sneaky beliefs that shape how we show up in love—and often lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional burnout. These are the misconceptions we bought into for years, that quietly crept into our marriage, and that we had to challenge in order to grow individually and as a couple. From the myth that your partner should “complete you,” to the belief that love means putting yourself last, we get into the raw truths behind what actually works in a healthy, passionate, and sustainable relationship. Whether you’re single, married, dating, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you check the beliefs you're bringing into your relationships—and give you permission to create something far more real, powerful, and aligned. GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (And How to Make Sure They’re Not Yours) 13.11.2025 48min

  What will you regret when your time is up? In this confronting and thought-provoking episode, I explore the five most common regrets people share as they approach the end of their lives—insights captured by palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware after years of supporting individuals in their final days. These reflections aren’t hypothetical or abstract. They are raw truths gathered from real people who were able to reflect on their lives with total clarity. And what they revealed is both sobering and inspiring: most of us are not living in alignment with what truly matters. If you've ever felt like you're drifting through life, holding back from expressing your authentic self, or putting off joy and connection for “someday,” this conversation offers a powerful opportunity to reflect and recalibrate. It’s a reminder that we each have a choice—every single day—to live fully, love boldly, and honor the deepest parts of ourselves. Let this be the moment that wakes you up to what’s possible, before it's too late. Links from the episode: Bronnie's original blog article "Regrets of the Dying" - https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Codependency and Unhealthy Attachments In Relationships 05.11.2025 44min

  How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Feeling Stressed or Anxious? This One Question Can Instantly Stop Your Stress and Overwhelm 21.10.2025 47min

  How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week? We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others. Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how to deal with it in more healthy ways. Drinking, smoking and pornography were not leading me down the path I wanted, and so I sought out other means of relating to the circumstances in my life. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a massive breakthrough I had that led to me looking at stress in a whole new way. The "7 minutes" breakthrough as I like to call it, has helped me get back into my center when life's stressors have knocked me out of alignment. I'm sharing this with you today with the goal of inspiring you to take a harder look at your triggers and the things that stress you out in life, and to seek out true healing so you can experience the joy you truly desire. Resources from this episode: ⁠Compassionate Inquiry: Diffuse Your Emotional Triggers with Dr. Gabor Mate⁠ ⁠Chronic Stress Puts Your Health At Risk⁠ ⁠Sympathetic vs. Parasympathetic State: How Stress Affects Your Health⁠ Other Having It A.L.L. episodes about stress with action items and takeaways: ⁠How To Coach Yourself Through The Chronic Stresses Of Everyday Life⁠ ⁠A Powerful Method For Changing Your Relationship Towards Stress - How To Learn To Love Stress Through Exercise⁠ ⁠The STOP Method For De-Stressing and Reclaiming Balance In 30 Seconds⁠ ⁠Learn How To Master Your Stress (Instead Of Running From It) So That You Can Be Calm In The Face Of Fire⁠ ⁠A 15 Minute Meditation For Easing Stress, Fear and Anxiety (from Katie Krimitsos of the Women's Meditation Network Podcast)⁠ ⁠The Balance Experts Have Spoken! 10 Expert Tips On Living A Life Of Balance (Plus 15 More You're Really Going To Want To Use In Your Life)⁠ ⁠3 Underlying Reasons Why You Don't Have Balance (And What To Do About Them) DO YOU DESIRE MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE IN YOUR LIFE? The "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint" is a self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! ⁠https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint⁠ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW ⁠matthew@matthewbivens.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Healing My Wounded Inner Child 07.10.2025 45min

  What does it mean to heal your inner child? The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood and have a profound influence over our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a recent experience where I had the opportunity to look at, talk with and heal my wounded inner child. DO YOU DESIRE MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE IN YOUR LIFE? The "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint" is a self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Avoiding Burnout, Business Planning and Content Creation: Answering Your Life Questions Part 3 23.09.2025 54min

  Ever feel like the more you achieve, the emptier you feel? You’re hitting goals, growing your business, and pushing hard—but the burnout is real. In this raw and real episode, I answer your powerful questions about how to avoid burnout, build a meaningful business, and create content that actually aligns with your energy and purpose. We unpack: The hidden costs of Type A success How to balance performance and capacity (without sacrificing your health) Why your business plan might be missing the one thing that matters How to launch a vlog, podcast, or blog without spinning out This is part of a series where I dive into YOUR questions, and this one’s all about life, creation, and conscious business. Let’s get into it. READY TO STOP RUNNING ON EMPTY? Grab the free "Burnout Breakthrough Audit" and get crystal clear on what’s draining you, where you're out of alignment, and what to do about it, in less time than it takes to listen to this episode! WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Fasting Isn’t About Food...It’s About Emotional Mastery 19.09.2025 15min

  What if the reason you keep breaking your commitments isn’t about willpower, but emotions? This episode dives into how emotions like stress, frustration, and apathy quietly hijack your habits, your follow-through, and your sense of integrity. I’m sharing how a simple weekly fasting practice helped me see where I was letting feelings lead, and how often that meant letting myself down. This isn’t about food. It’s about practicing emotional discipline. It’s about learning to show up even when you don’t feel like it. You’ll walk away with personal insights, real-life examples, and a clear challenge: make one small commitment AND KEEP IT, no matter what your emotions say. If you’re tired of breaking promises to yourself, let’s change that. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The 6 Steps I Use to Get Unstuck When I Feel Lost, Unclear or Unmotivated 10.09.2025 39min

  Ever feel like your life should feel amazing, but inside... you’re just stuck? You’ve got the job, the family, the “success”—but confidence is shaky, motivation is MIA, and the truth is you’re scared you’re wasting your potential. In this episode, I respond to a listener email from “Jim,” a man with a beautiful life on the outside and a gnawing feeling of being lost on the inside. If you’ve ever said: “I don’t know where to start,” or “I feel like I’m this close to something real but can’t seem to move”—this one is for you. I walk you through the six principles I’ve personally used (and coached others through) to reconnect with clarity, rebuild trust with yourself, and actually start living the life you know you’re meant for. No fluff. No hacks. Just truth, ownership, and a roadmap back to your power. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Who’s Watching You Quit On Yourself (And Learning From Your Example)? 03.09.2025 33min

  Who are you unconsciously giving permission to quit on themselves? In this episode, I share a powerful story from a recent Play Camp where one small decision to avoid discomfort triggered a ripple effect of playing small. We unpack what it means to be a watcher—and how your fear (or your courage) directly impacts the greatness of others. I also reflect on a personal moment where I bailed on a commitment—and how that moment shaped my relationship with leadership, alignment, and integrity. If you've ever wondered why you shrink when you say you want to expand—or if you sense that people around you are following your lead even when you’re not proud of the example—you need to hear this one. Because someone is always watching. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  How to Turn Stress Into Power (Using Nothing But Your Workout) 26.08.2025 18min

  What if your next workout could help you stay calm in a fight, show up powerfully at work, or stop spiraling when life hits hard? In this episode, I break down how to use exercise as a training ground for transforming your relationship with stress. I’m not talking about just getting abs or hitting a new PR, I’m talking about emotional mastery, breath control, and learning to flow when everything in you wants to force. If stress runs your life… this is your call to flip the script. You’ll learn how to tap into your breath, shift your energy, and create new patterns that ripple into every area of your life. Your body doesn’t lie. And it’s telling you it’s time to train differently. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? The Having It A.L.L. Blueprint gives you the exact tools I use with clients to create real, lasting change—in a simple, flexible format that fits your life. No fluff. No long video modules. Just powerful shifts you can apply right now, on your time. Click below to learn more and purchase. https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2 Simple Ways To Get Your Sense Of Stability Back 19.08.2025 26min

  Feeling like life’s got the upper hand? When everything around you feels unpredictable—your relationships, your career, your body—it’s easy to spiral into anxiety, frustration, or helplessness. But here’s the truth: you’re never truly powerless. In this episode, I take you into a personal season of chaos—infertility struggles, business breakdowns, and emotional overwhelm—and show you how two deceptively simple commitments helped me take my power back. If you’re craving stability and self-trust in the middle of uncertainty, this one’s for you. You’ll walk away with tangible steps to shift from reactive to proactive, and a reminder that your integrity, not your mood, dictates your reality. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Life-Changing Magic of Just Going for It 12.08.2025 14min

  When was the last time you stood at the edge of something, heart pounding and stomach knotted, knowing you could either stay safe… or jump? In this episode, I share the story of an early morning hike with a friend that turned into one of those rare and real "f**k it!" moments. This story is more than a thrill-seeking stunt — it was a masterclass in recognizing the exact moment life invites you to grow. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop hesitating, this is it. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way, Listen Closer 05.08.2025 25min

  Ever found yourself staring at a situation thinking, “This isn’t what I wanted”? What if it’s exactly what you needed? In this episode, I share a powerful and unexpected conversation with a stranger that turned into a divine download—and cracked open a deeper truth about fatherhood, faith, and surrendering control. Whether it’s relationships, parenting, or just navigating life when things don’t go your way, this one is about learning to trust what’s being handed to you… even when it wasn’t part of your plan. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Invisible Weight You’re Carrying Through Your Life 31.07.2025 27min

  What happens to your body when your thoughts turn on you? In today’s episode, I walk you through two real-life moments from the gym that illustrate just how powerful your inner dialogue truly is. One man dropped the weight the moment fear crept in. One woman nearly fainted from the emotional weight she carried into her workout. Both were physically capable—but their thoughts hijacked their performance. Your mindset is a multiplier—or a limiter. And the stress you feel in the gym? It mirrors the stress you’re carrying at work, in your relationships, with your kids, in your own head. This episode is a challenge to be more mindful of what you’re thinking… because what you think is what you train. And what you train becomes who you are. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Game You’re Playing Is Working - Even If It’s Wrecking You 23.07.2025 5min

  What game are you playing so well… it’s keeping you stuck? If you feel like life isn’t working, pause before you call it failure. You’re winning. You’ve just been unconsciously training for the wrong game. This episode isn’t here to fluff you up or give you a participation ribbon. It’s here to hold up the mirror and show you exactly where your energy, time, and identity are going—and what it's actually producing. Because whether it’s the Game of Burnout, the Game of Victimhood, the Game of Playing Small, or the Game of “I Can’t”—you’re clocking W’s every day. You're just not enjoying the spoils. I’ve played all of those games. I’ve collected those trophies. And I made a new choice. Tune in if you’re ready to flip the board, shift your scoreboard, and start playing for power, peace, and principle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Real Reason Your Breakthrough Keeps Dodging You 15.07.2025 17min

  We all say we want change—more peace, better health, deeper connection, stronger boundaries. But the results we crave only show up when our effort matches our expectations. In this episode, I explore the invisible gap between what we say we want and what we’re actually doing to create it. Inspired by those powerful before-and-after transformation stories, I draw the connection between physical weight loss and the emotional, mental, and relational baggage we claim we’re ready to release. But here’s the truth: losing 100 pounds of emotional weight takes just as much grit, discipline, and full-bodied commitment as dropping 100 pounds of body fat. You can’t shortcut the reps. And you can’t fake the intention. So the question becomes—are you going all in? This episode is a mirror. If you’ve been frustrated by stalled progress or unmet expectations, this is your chance to check in honestly, recalibrate, and decide if you’re truly ready to put in what the outcome demands. Let’s talk about where your walk needs to catch up to your talk—and how to finally align both. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  The Real Test of Growth: Will You Choose Integrity Over Approval? 08.07.2025 21min

  What do you do when your values get tested—and the cost of staying true is real? This episode is about the moments that reveal who you actually are—not who you say you are. Not the version that shows up in your journal, on your vision board, or in your next coaching session. But the version that steps forward when life applies pressure. Because the truth is, your growth isn’t proven by how many books you’ve read or breakthroughs you’ve had. It’s proven by how you respond when staying in alignment comes with consequences. When your principles aren't popular. When the easy path tempts you with comfort, validation, and old habits. In this conversation, I share a personal story that challenged me to walk my talk in a deeply uncomfortable way. It involved family, identity, and a decision that didn’t earn me applause—but did bring me closer to integrity. If you’ve ever felt the pull between being who you’ve always been and becoming who you say you want to be—this one is for you. Especially if you're the one people look to for answers, strength, or leadership. Because the pressure you’re under? That’s not a problem. That’s the invitation. Let’s talk about what it really means to stand on your principles when no one else is standing with you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  7 Must Haves For Stellar Relationships (They Are Not What You Think) 01.07.2025 29min

  Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time? In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drained, or straight-up stuck. We’re talking about the internal work most people skip: knowing your mission, owning your values, getting clear on your standards, and having the guts to hold them. Because here’s the truth—if you’re not grounded in who you are and what you stand for, you’ll always be at the mercy of someone else’s wave. This isn’t theory. I lived it. And it wasn’t until I did the work—with my wife Sarah, and on my own—that I understood what truly fuels a thriving partnership. Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or gearing up for the next, these seven tools will help you stop defaulting to old patterns and start building something real—something powerful—something that lasts. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things) 25.06.2025 12min

  You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why? In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself. This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life. If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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  STOP Ignoring This Feedback, If You Want Your Life To Change 13.06.2025 37min

  Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns? You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive? In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them. This isn’t about criticism. It’s about awareness, accountability, and growth. It’s time to check your scoreboard. Let’s go! STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices