The Family Captain

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  Cruise Ship or Battleship Christianity? | The Question Christian Husbands Fail (And Why It's Killing Their Legacy) 12.08.2026 58min

  Ask a Christian husband what his family is building for the Kingdom.Watch him freeze."I don't know."That answer is the most dangerous phrase in Christian marriage — and John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) says his team hears it OVER and OVER on assessment calls.Not because Christian husbands don't love their families. Because they've been trained to run their household like a CRUISE SHIP — nice food, no waves, everyone comfortable — when God called them to captain a BATTLESHIP.The difference? Cruise ships serve themselves. Battleships damage the devil.In this episode:▸ The phrase JM's team hears most on assessment calls — and why being COMFORTABLE with the answer is the real red flag▸ Cruise Ship Christianity vs Battleship Christianity — the difference between comfortable and consequential▸ "You're not USEFUL. You're just VALUABLE." — the line every Christian husband needs to hear▸ Are you actually a PROBLEM for the devil? Or is he thankful you're not a threat?▸ The 3 questions every Christian husband must answer about what he's building▸ Why what a man REALLY wants he's been trained to believe is selfish▸ Your wife's sexual PASSION vs her availability — they are NOT the same thing▸ Your wife's RESPECT vs her non-disrespect — most husbands confuse the two▸ "Kill the dragon. Get the girl." — the biblical masculinity story every Christian man is starving for▸ Belief vs thinking — why what you actually believe shows up in how you live▸ Why "infotainment Christianity" keeps you comfortable and useless▸ The Matrix red-pill moment every Christian husband eventually facesCHAPTERS00:00 The Phrase Christian Husbands Say Most On Assessment Calls02:00 GPS Needs Two Points (Where You Are + Where You're Going)03:20 "But Isn't That Biblical Contentment?"03:50 Multiplication vs Addition (The Talents Parable)04:45 "You're Not USEFUL. Just VALUABLE."05:25 Cruise Ship vs Battleship Christianity06:00 Are You Actually A Problem For The Devil?07:20 "I Am Mad For You" — The Coach's Heart08:55 Husband 1.0 / 2.0 / 3.0 (Pain vs Peak)11:00 Why You've Been Trained To Think Your Desire Is Selfish13:00 Sexually Passionate vs Available · Respectful vs Non-Disrespectful14:55 Kill The Dragon. Get The Girl.19:15 The Glory Of God To Conceal · The Glory Of Kings To Seek Out22:10 Belief vs Thinking — What Actually Changes You24:30 The "Infotainment Christian" Problem25:15 The 3 Questions Every Christian Husband Must Answer30:00 The Matrix Red-Pill Moment — Welcome To The Real World32:00 Fighting For Greater Glory — Multiplication Not ManagementReady to become joyfully followed, deeply respected, and sexually desired by your wife? 500+ men have already started the journey.Book a free assessment call and find out if The Family Captain is the right fit for you: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDMatthew 25 (Parable of the Talents — multiplication vs burying it)Proverbs 25:2 ("It is the glory of God to conceal a matter; the glory of kings to search it out")Genesis 1 (the dominion mandate — man made to build)The Matrix (Neo's red-pill wake-up moment)Alice in Wonderland (the fork in the road)The Family Captain Elite (JM's coaching program for Christian husbands)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Leadership Level Most Husbands Never Reach (Ep 91): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5i50PxIpdEVLNAnOYcjU80?si=Alif5HLBR3i7nQBKyvftugCrazy Stuff Your Wife Hears At Bible Study (Ep 90): https://open.spotify.com/episode/6qyufQUSo9bwUZ0YcC4vbx?si=MZAfqwXuSOGzvSs2rDZtLAThe "Porn Talk" Christian Dads Skip (Ep 92): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5Eow35yDV7V4by0z5EG3jA?si=yBiwqf_eThqcoA_Zh2snlQSUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  The "Porn Talk" Christian Dads Skip | Age 8 Is Too Late 05.08.2026 51min

  The average age a boy sees porn for the first time?Age 8.Not 15. Not 13. Eight.And most Christian dads are still waiting for "the right time" to have the conversation.John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) has 3 sons — 17, 15, and 11 — and his oldest is about to turn 18 having NEVER seen porn. Here's how he got in front of it.In this episode:▸ Why age 8 is the wake-up call every Christian dad refuses to hear▸ JM's own dad had "the talk" — and JM had to ASK for it. Why that means you're already TOO LATE.▸ The Daddy's Home 2 scene that captures the American Christian dad's failure▸ The perfume commercial framework — teach your son to spot lust in real time▸ The exact playbook JM used to prepare his boys for the moment a friend puts a phone in their face▸ The 4 excuses Christian dads use to avoid the porn conversation (JM tears each one down)▸ Excuse 1: "I'll plant a seed if I bring it up"▸ Excuse 2: "We use Covenant Eyes, Bark — we're covered"▸ Excuse 3: "My son will come to me when he's ready" (avoidance dressed as trust)▸ Excuse 4: "I still dabble — I don't have the moral authority"▸ The windshield-time move for the dad who's late to this conversation▸ Why lust falls off in Elite — without JM ever making it the goalCHAPTERS00:00 Age 8. JM's Gut Reaction — Anger + Disgust00:56 JM's Own Dad Had The Talk — Too Late03:26 What The Silence Cost JM (Playboy Story)07:36 The Perfume Commercial Playbook09:16 "Someday A Friend Will Put A Screen In Your Face"12:06 JM's 17-Year-Old Has Never Seen Porn14:11 Farm Kids vs Suburb Kids — The Historical Shift15:31 One Big Talk vs A Million Little Ones19:36 The 4 Excuses (Overview)19:41 Excuse 1 — "You're Planting Seeds"24:11 Excuse 2 — "We Have Filters"29:31 How To Have The Talk Late (The Windshield Move)37:21 Excuse 3 — "I Trust My Son Will Come To Me"41:21 Excuse 4 — "I Still Dabble Myself"45:36 Cut Off Your Hand — Real Freedom46:41 Elite — Getting On The Mighty Offense49:56 "Don't Worry Buddy — I'm Not Gonna Let You Ruin Your Life"READY TO BECOME JOYFULLY FOLLOWED, DEEPLY RESPECTED, AND SEXUALLY DESIRED BY YOUR WIFE?500+ men have already started the journey. Book a free assessment call and find out if The Family Captain is the right fit for you: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDCovenant Eyes (accountability software)Bark (parental monitoring app)Pinwheel (JM's actual phone recommendation for kids)Daddy's Home 2 (Mel Gibson · John Lithgow "took him back to his college dorm")Proverbs — the whore whose feet go down to the graveKing David (2 Samuel 11)Kingdom of Lemuel (Proverbs 31)The Family Captain EliteMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Talk — Talking To Your Kids About Sex (Jan 2026 companion ep): https://open.spotify.com/episode/49TbOqKWFK5oXxaC5ikpTr?si=MML_0YujQ4y93rrxP3s2-QCrazy Stuff Your Wife Hears At Bible Study (Ep 90): https://open.spotify.com/episode/6qyufQUSo9bwUZ0YcC4vbx?si=8dE2h5HpQRK9zUQkWvFaEQThe Leadership Level Most Husbands Never Reach (Ep 91): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5i50PxIpdEVLNAnOYcjU80?si=OoKRX4jVSW6v2iNIWXpv9gSTOP Scheduling Sex! (Do This Instead) (Ep 89): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5uWI0UYT3ioZav8RwrjH5e?si=7Rgl9QuoSxKfIUTUbM-rUASUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  The Leadership Level Most Husbands Never Reach | STOP Settling For A Silver Marriage 29.07.2026 38min

  Most Christian husbands think they've made it.The marriage is stable. The wife's mostly happy. The fights stopped a long time ago. He's checking the boxes — reads the Bible, leads devotions, works hard, doesn't cheat.John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) says: brother, you're parked at level 2. And you think level 2 is the top of the mountain. It's not. It's base camp.There's a leadership level most Christian husbands never reach — because they don't even know it exists.In this episode:▸ The 1.0 / 2.0 / 3.0 husband framework that reveals exactly where you're stuck▸ Why "learn to communicate better" is the weakest marriage advice a Christian dad ever gets▸ The one word most guys use to describe their wife that instantly puts them in the friend zone▸ Why "happy wife, happy life" makes you a hostage — not a head▸ The jiu-jitsu blue belt trap: why most Christian husbands quit right here▸ The Michael Jordan / Tom Brady "what's the secret?" test▸ Why 9 out of 10 Christian dads can't name their family vision▸ The "Isaac Moment" ceiling — the exact place most Christian husbands stop growing▸ The mistake that keeps 2.0 husbands entitled, unfulfilled, and stuck▸ The one move for the brother who's ready to stop settling for silverCHAPTERS00:00 The 1.0 / 2.0 / 3.0 Husband Framework01:11 Why "Learn To Communicate Better" Is Weak Marriage Advice03:56 The Best-Friend Trap (Why This Brag Is A Red Flag)06:16 When Did Men And Women Have Real Polarity?08:26 Microplastics, Gay Frogs, And Rumble (Sidebar)09:26 The Happy-Wife-Happy-Life Cope11:56 Why So Many Bros Fall Into Follower Mode12:56 The Jiu-Jitsu Belt Analogy For Husbands15:26 Why Guys Quit At Blue Belt17:26 The Danger Of Chasing Marriage Hacks20:56 Michael Jordan / Tom Brady — "What's The Secret?"24:16 Real Fruit vs Fake Fruit (Atomic Habits)26:31 The Vision Test — 9 Out Of 10 Dads Fail30:36 What Pulls You Out Of Bed?31:36 What's Keeping 2.0 Husbands Stuck34:00 The "Isaac Moment" — The Ceiling Christians Hit36:31 The Move For A Brother Listening TodayREADY TO STOP SETTLING FOR SILVER?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's yourturn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDMichael Jordan (the "what's the secret?" test)Tom Brady (game film mastery vs shortcut-seeking)Jocko Willink (discipline reference)James Clear — Atomic Habits (you can't trick your brain)Abraham & Isaac (Genesis 22 — the "Isaac Moment" ceiling)The Family Captain EliteMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODECrazy Stuff Your Wife Hears At Bible Study: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6qyufQUSo9bwUZ0YcC4vbx?si=bRN0nq0pTg6EnAcsh_CNSASTOP Scheduling Sex! (Do This Instead) (Ep 89): https://open.spotify.com/episode/5uWI0UYT3ioZav8RwrjH5e?si=w5o-wpHzQ-KFv7S9roI5uAShould Christian Wives Work? (Ep 88): https://open.spotify.com/episode/4kMroq4Af4yu27S4RjjHov?si=5nC6wiLwQ5Kyxi6fh5wg8ASUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud
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  Crazy Stuff Your Wife Hears At Bible Study | Novice, Wolf, Or Both? 22.07.2026 56min

  Your wife comes home from Bible study glowing. She's got a new insight. She says something that sounds spiritual — but your gut knows it's off. You just can't explain why.John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) says: it's either a NOVICE or a WOLF. There's not much in between. And it's time Christian husbands learned how to tell.In this episode:▸ The one-word test that instantly reveals if her Bible study leader is a NOVICE or a WOLF▸ Why "neither male nor female" is the #1 misread verse in modern Christian marriage▸ The Ephesians 5:21 trap every "servant leader" pastor is stuck in▸ Should you stay in a church where women preach? (JM's answer will surprise you)▸ The Adam question every Christian husband is failing right now▸ Why "Lead Like Jael" is the worst book being pushed on Christian wives (yes, it's a real book)▸ The one book Thomas Jefferson literally took a razor knife to▸ The 4 spiritual ages your wife could be in — and which one gets deceived fastest▸ The "Did God really say?" con that's been running since Eden▸ The ONE sign that her Bible study is training her to lead you▸ Why the modern men's ministry is just "women's ministry with a grill"▸ 2.0 marriage vs 3.0 marriage: what it looks like when she starts bringing the questions TO youCHAPTERS00:00 Pastor Melvin's Wife Ran This Bible Study00:31 "Neither Male Nor Female" — The Partnership Gospel Trap02:41 The Ephesians 5:21 Misread Every Christian Couple Falls For04:46 "She's More Gifted Than Me" — Where This Cope Breaks07:46 Should You Stay In A Church Where Women Preach?10:11 Why Men Are Built For Leadership (And Women Aren't)13:36 When A Culture Is Ruled By Feminism16:51 The Cultural Context Card — "Was Headship Just First Century?"19:51 Thomas Jefferson Literally Cut Verses Out Of His Bible22:31 "Jesus Is Our Head — So You're Not"26:51 Why The Modern Church Treats WANTING Authority Like A Sin29:31 Snakes At Her Bible Study — The Adam Question31:36 Signs Her Bible Study Is Training Her To Lead You32:21 The Best Defense Is Running A Mighty Offense37:11 Deborah, Esther, Jael — Exceptions Are Not Prescriptions40:16 Esther Was Feminine And Charming — Not "Roid Rage"42:31 What Jael Actually Did (And Why It's Not A Blueprint)44:36 When Your Pastor Uses Deborah To Justify Women Leading45:36 The #1 Sign Her Bible Study Is Training Her To Lead You47:41 The Family Butler Trap — Why Helping Kills Margin50:31 Masculine Displacement In The Church53:31 The Final Takeaway: The Word Of God Is Final54:56 Who The Family Captain Elite Is NOT ForREADY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDGalatians 3:28 (Paul — "neither male nor female, Jew nor Greek")Ephesians 5 (headship + submit to one another)1 Corinthians 11 (God → Christ → man → woman)Titus 2 (older women teach younger women)Priscilla & Aquila (Acts 18 — both taught Apollos together)Deborah, Esther, Jael (three OT women most misused today)Thomas Jefferson (razor-knifed verses out of his Bible)Leonard Ravenhill (quote about the "simple soul" reading the book of God)"Lead Like Jael" (the actual book JM discovered is real on tape)SUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  STOP Scheduling Sex! | The Dead Battery Every Christian Marriage Is Missing 15.07.2026 55min

  Every Christian therapist is telling you to schedule sex. Book it on the calendar. Twice a week. "Consistency creates intimacy."John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) says: NO.Scheduling sex is jumper cables. Your battery is dead — and no calendar event is going to fix it.In this episode:▸ Why sexual frequency actually dropped (it's not age, it's not kids, it's not "life")▸ The "keeper of the sex" vs "seeker of the sex" frame every Christian couple is stuck in▸ Spontaneous vs responsive desire — what the therapists got right (and where they went stupid)▸ JM's EMERGENCY MINIMUM — the number that shocks most Christian husbands▸ 1 Corinthians 7 read correctly — for the brother using the calendar as "obedience"▸ The jumper cable / dead battery frame that reframes your entire marriage▸ Why a wife who INITIATES sex is actually the problem (99% of guys get this backwards)▸ The "grandma underwear" grade — why what she wears to bed matters▸ Chris's 13-year confession — what he'd tell his newlywed self▸ What a man actually IS: Protector · Provider · LeaderCHAPTERS00:00 Why Sex Frequency Actually Dropped00:41 Keeper vs Seeker — The Frame Every Christian Couple Is Stuck In01:36 Would JM Schedule Sex? His One-Word Answer03:36 Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire (The Therapist Frame)05:31 Emergency Minimum — Twice A Week07:31 Raising The Water Temperature To 21213:16 When Your Wife Initiates — Why It's Emasculating17:16 1 Corinthians 7 — Don't Deprive One Another21:56 The Jumper Cable / Dead Battery Frame27:41 Chris's 13-Year Confession30:26 Fireworks Every Time Is A Myth34:31 The Bear vs The Feminine Charm37:36 When Your Wife Wants To Schedule (Vacuum Problem)40:41 The Grandma Underwear Grade43:36 When Your Wife Is Masculine — Where To Start47:41 "But Our Method Works" — JM's Reply48:31 What Makes A Man: Protector · Provider · Leader55:00 Install A New Battery + Book The CallREADY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONED1 Corinthians 7 (Paul — "do not deprive one another")Aretha Franklin ("Respect" — JM's sidebar on the song written by a man)Napoleon Dynamite ("boat staff skills" — the protector reference)The Family Captain Elite (JM's coaching program for Christian husbands)SUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  Should Christian Wives Work? | LeBron, Homemaking and Stay at Home Moms 08.07.2026 56min

  LeBron James told the world he could never marry a stay-at-home mom. "Just sitting there — wouldn't float for me."Christian wives started showing the clip to their husbands. Christian husbands started sliding into JM's DMs. So — was LeBron right?In this episode, John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) walks through:▸ What LeBron got RIGHT — and the one word he missed that changes everything▸ What the Bible actually says about stay-at-home moms (Titus 2 + Proverbs 31)▸ Why "we're a team in provision" is a cope, not a strength▸ The 1950s housewife trap — and how to avoid it▸ The ONE WORD swap that flips "I want you to come home" into leadership▸ Why homeschool + Christian school + private are NOT the same fruit▸ The choir-teacher pathway to real extra income (JM's tactical playbook)▸ The "pucker factor" test — how to know if you're actually walking by faithCHAPTERS00:00 Roll The LeBron Clip02:30 What The Bible Actually Says About Stay-At-Home Moms05:30 Can Your Wife Earn A Paycheck?09:00 Jobs A Woman Should Never Do11:00 The First Move — Cast The Vision14:40 The Money Objection17:20 Why "We're A Team In Provision" Is A Cope19:50 SAHM vs Homemaker (With Kids At Home)22:30 The 1950s Housewife Trap28:00 Household Systems As You Grow (Jethro + Moses)33:40 "But My Degree Would Be Wasted"36:40 "We Tried — And She Went Back To Work"41:00 Swap ONE Word When You Ask Her43:00 The Choir-Teacher Extra-Income Playbook46:20 "But The Kids Love School"49:00 Government School vs Christian School vs Homeschool52:30 The Pucker Factor Test55:00 Book An Assessment CallREADY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDLeBron James (the viral clip that opens the episode — his "just sitting there wouldn't float for me" comment on stay-at-home moms)Jocko Willink ("Don't run at the machine gun bunker — flank" — referenced by JM)Solomon & Queen of Sheba (1 Kings 10 — kingdom of excellence frame)Jethro & Moses (Exodus 18 — "what you're doing is not good" leadership scaling)Titus 2 (older women disciple younger women — homemaker calling)Proverbs 31 (the woman who trades, plants, sells — value creation vs paycheck)Ecclesiastes 10:19 ("Money answers all things")
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  Should Christian Dads Let Their Kids Watch Mr. Beast? | The Culture War Every Christian Father Is Already Losing 01.07.2026 54min

  He's not on TikTok. He's not on dark corners of the internet. He's Mr. Beast — and your kid wants in. Their friends talk about him. Their iPad calls them back to him every afternoon.So — yes or no?In this episode, John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) and Chris Farrell walk through:▸ Chris's Mr. Beast documentary experiment — and the best 2 hours of family conversation that came out of it▸ The Proverbs verse that explains why telling your kid "no" makes culture MORE attractive▸ Why "shepherd dads" win and "warden dads" lose the culture war▸ The 45-second screen-time trick JM uses on himself (because he can't trust his own brain)▸ Why getting married at 19 and going to church is the new punk rock▸ The Rocky family movie discipleship trick — using culture as a teaching tool▸ "Make masculinity toxic again" — what JM tells his sons that culture won't▸ Adam in the garden — what every Christian father will answer to Jesus forCHAPTERS00:00 Should Your Kids Watch Mr. Beast?02:30 Why Limiting Screen Time Is The Wrong Fight04:30 The 45-Second Trick That Stops Doomscrolling07:30 Why Stolen Water Tastes Sweet10:30 Chris's Mr. Beast Documentary Experiment17:00 How To Show Your Kids Over The Fence20:00 The Old-Culture Test (Why Justin Bieber Tells The Truth)24:00 The Warden Dad vs. The Shepherd Dad27:00 "Shooting My Sons At The Face Of The Devil"30:00 The Soy Boy Test (And Why Drugs Are For Losers)32:00 Raising Masculine Sons In A Soft Culture34:00 Why Going To Church Is The New Punk Rock37:30 Why Dads without Brotherhood Lose40:30 The Rocky Family Movie Night Discipleship43:00 Make Masculinity Toxic Again46:00 The VidAngel Streaming Reset48:00 What Does It Cost A Dad To Do Nothing?52:00 What Every Christian Father Will Answer To Jesus ForREADY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE? 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDMr. Beast (the YouTube creator at the center of Chris's documentary experiment)Jocko Willink ("Discipline equals freedom" — referenced by JM)Rocky / Sylvester Stallone (Chris's family-discipleship movie series)Proverbs ("Stolen water tastes sweet" — Proverbs 9:17)VidAngel (streaming filter service JM recommends)The Garden of Eden (Genesis 3 — "Where are you?" — JM's accountability frame)SUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  They Obey You. But They Don't Bring You The Hard Stuff. | Why Your Kid Shuts Down When You Speak 24.06.2026 55min

  Your kids do what you say. They never give you a hard time. So why does the room get quiet when you walk in? You're not a bad dad. You're an intense one — and your kids can feel it before you've said a word. In this episode, John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) walks through:▸ Why your kids "freeze up" the second you walk in — and what their nervous system is telling you▸ The "nuclear reactor in the chest" your wife and daughter can feel from across the room▸ Why mom is the "easier cop" — and what to do when your kids keep dodging you▸ The lie that ruins teenage sons: "my obedience = my respect"▸ The basketball goal + scratched truck moment that taught JM more than any lecture ever could▸ Ben Shapiro got it half right — why "facts don't care about feelings" is the wrong play with your kids▸ The 2-minute repentance conversation every too-intense dad needs to have tonight▸ Also: the praying son moment that made JM say "I'm the richest man in the world"READY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it's your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDJohn Delony (the "nuclear reactor in your chest" framing) Ben Shapiro ("Facts don't care about your feelings" — what he got right and wrong) Brene Brown (the "hole in the rain" empathy video JM pushes back on)Elon Musk (the trillionaire comparison vs. the praying son)Joshua 24:15 ("As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord")Proverbs (on discipline + the rod of correction)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEShould These Guys Teach Marriage?: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3jVUcjcSRsLFkx7r3FJaoP?si=vxeR2MB-Sw2uyC0SsFf7lwHow To Lead Through A Sexless Season Without Pressure: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6G7UDmUhvIPNvbFGimyM2L?si=rHGY1sLOQdecRinVkcbiQALead Your Wife Through Her Family's Drama: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7xUBNggizB6Zeup7jsm47x?si=9GOxG5i5RnSyYQrppZaJgQSUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  The Mission The Church Never Gave You | Why Christian Husbands Feel Bored With Life 17.06.2026 53min

  You're married. You've got the kids. The career. You're following Jesus. And somewhere on thecommute home, you've quietly asked yourself: "Is this it?"You're not broken. You're not in crisis. You're bored —and the church has handed you almostevery answer except the one that fixes it.In this episode, John Michael Clark (Founder, The Family Captain) walks through:▸ Why "going through the motions" is the symptom — not the disease▸ Why you're bored even when you're being entertained (it's all candy)▸ The three assignments God gave every man — and the one most Christian husbands havenever been taught▸ "Don't pee on me and tell me it's raining" — what the church got wrong about men▸ Why clients who rated their marriage an 8 later call it a 4 — and why that's good news▸ Eric Liddell's "When I run, I feel His pleasure" — applied to your actual Tuesday▸ The 24-hour challenge that changes the energy in your house tonight▸ Also: JM vs. a goose in the octagon. Place your bets in the comments.CHAPTERS00:00 The question every "successful" Christian husband asks02:06 Bored even when you're entertained05:31 What the Bible actually says about boredom08:21 God assigned men three things. The church taught you two.13:01 What the church got wrong about men17:11 Step one: get your hopes up24:11 The charge your household is missing24:51 Eric Liddell and God's pleasure29:41 Risk, skydiving, and a rite of passage35:36 "You can just do things"36:01 The goose octagon (place your bets)43:41 Dad brings the fun46:11 Chris breaks his own rule in a hotel room49:51 The recap — your next 24 hours50:51 If you're done with "fine"READY TO LEAD WITH CONFIDENCE?500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it'syour turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Callhere: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/podREFERENCES MENTIONEDEric Liddell (Chariots of Fire) movie · Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25)MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODELeadership Capital episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XtcCfQRii5iPA15xlDpI9?si=RBqyPk8bTwC-LtpUQ-CqiwSUBSCRIBE for weekly episodes that say the quiet things out loud.
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  Should These Guys Teach Marriage? | The Fruit Test 10.06.2026 48min

  Jordan Peterson, John Delony, Joby Martin, your pastor — should these guys teach marriage? In this episode, John Michael Clark walks through the biblical fruit test Jesus actually told us to use, why "former pastor" is often code for "current wolf," and what Joby Martin's famous "you can be right or you can be married" line gets wrong. You become like the men you let teach you. Most Christian husbands have been quietly absorbing marriage advice from men whose own marriages don't look like the marriage they want. We unpack Pastor Melvin (the loving Christian guy still wrecking marriages), the "we're a team" cliché trap, and why you're not brave if culture says amen.CHAPTERS:00:00 Who Can You Actually Trust to Teach Marriage? 01:00 The Test Jesus Told Us to Use02:10 Why "Former Pastor" Is a Red Flag04:20 The Polygamy DM JM Got on X05:20 What to Watch For When You Meet a Pastor and His Wife06:30 Why You Can't Fake Fun (Kids Always Tell)07:30 The Lie JM's 5-Year-Old Told the Neighbor11:30 Why "Normal" Christian Marriage Is the Trap13:30 Don't Take Marriage Advice From an Average Guy14:30 Meet Pastor Melvin (He Loves Jesus AND Wrecks Marriages)17:30 Why JM Won't Take Marriage Advice From Joby Martin22:30 The "We're a Team" Cliché That Wrecks Husbands26:00 The Conference Ambush Story28:00 What "Partnership" Actually Translates To30:00 You're Not Brave If Culture Says Amen31:50 What You're Actually Aiming For As A Husband33:50 JM's Own Marriage Wake-Up36:00 The Real Job of a Christian Husband (And Why Most Miss It)37:00 Why Husbands Stall Out When They Try to Change--👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod -- Join our Free Facebook Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage:https://facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain—CONNECT WITH THE FAMILY CAPTAINWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.comFacebook: https://facebook.com/thefamilycaptainInstagram: https://instagram.com/the_family_captainTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainYouTube: https://youtube.com/@familycaptainIf you're a Christ-following husband — and you want to be joyfully followed, fully respected, and sexually desired by your wife — this is the place. Welcome to The Family Captain.
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  Sexless Season After Baby: How To Lead Your Wife Without Pressure 03.06.2026 47min

  Most Christian husbands hit a sexless SEASON at some point — after a baby, during a medical issue, in the middle of grief. The church usually responds with shame and silence. We're not having that conversation here.In this episode, John Michael Clark and Chris Farrell break down what to do when your wife is medically cleared but emotionally not ready — and how to lead through it without becoming Pastor Melvin's version of a "good Christian husband."We're NOT talking about sexless marriages. That's a different (and serious) conversation. This is about the seasons every healthy marriage navigates — and how a captain leads through them.What you'll learn:• Why the church gets sexless seasons wrong (and what Pastor Melvin would tell you)• The husband dynamic you should be cultivating BEFORE the season starts• How to decline low-quality affection without depriving your wife• What the Bible actually says about intimacy in seasons of grief (David & Bathsheba)• The 3 legs of leadership: compassion, responsibility, authority• Why marriage MUST come before kids — and why dad ministries skip this• The actual conversation script for when you're 6+ weeks in and nothing's happeningChapters: 00:00 - The Sexless Season vs. The Sexless Marriage01:21 - Where The Church Gets It Wrong03:31 - The Boyfriend/Husband Framework06:51 - Should A Husband Initiate?13:51 - The 3% Battery Rule16:51 - What The Bible Actually Says20:46 - The 3 Legs Of Captain Leadership27:31 - Marriage Before Kids32:31 - The Conversation Script (When She Pushes Back)37:01 - The Mom Coma Warning🔗 NEXT STEPS👉 Book an Assessment Call: https://thefamilycaptain.com/call/yt---👉 Join our Free Facebook Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage:https://facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain---📲 FOLLOWInstagram: @the_family_captainYouTube: Subscribe + hit the bell for weekly episodes🎯 ABOUT THE FAMILY CAPTAINThe Family Captain exists to help Christian husbands become the men their wives fully respect, joyfully follow, and sexually desire. Hosted by John Michael Clark with Chris Farrell. Real talk. Biblical foundation. Path forward — not a way back.
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  How to Lead Your Wife Through Her Family's Drama 27.05.2026 52min

  Nobody tells men what to do when their wife's family drama starts swallowing their marriage. They didn't warn us that a "happy" household can quietly become a chaotic one — not because anything is wrong inside our four walls, but because we left the fence open to the chaos outside.If you're a Christian husband who loves his wife, loves his kids, and is watching her get worn down by extended family drama she shouldn't be carrying alone — this episode is for you.We're talking about the moment her phone lights up. The text from Mom. Another sigh on the couch. Another night you both feel a little heavier than you should.Most husbands try to be "supportive" — which usually means packing her a really nice lunch and sending her back into combat.That's not leadership. That's passivity wearing a kind face.In this episode, JM & Chris walk through exactly what a Family Captain does instead — including the fence-with-a-gate play, the boundary script for your in-laws, and the one biblical line most pastors won't preach.Stay till the end for Practical Tuesday: her phone lights up tonight — what's your first move?---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod --- CHAPTERS0:00 Intro1:46 Supporting Your Wife vs Absorbing Her Family's Chaos7:26 The Boundary Script for Last-Minute Family Plans15:21 The Quiet Sin Most Christian Marriages Won't Name22:01 The Barking Dog Sermon You Didn't See Coming26:41 What Pastor Melvin Keeps Getting Wrong About Loving Your Wife31:26 Verbal Processing vs Gossip — Where's the Christian Line?42:00 Are You Escaping Your Own Family Problems?49:00 Practical Tuesday: Her Phone Lights Up — What's Your First Move?— Join our Free Facebook Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage:https://facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain—CONNECT WITH THE FAMILY CAPTAINWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.comFacebook: https://facebook.com/thefamilycaptainInstagram: https://instagram.com/the_family_captainTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainYouTube: https://youtube.com/@familycaptain—If you're a Christ-following husband — and you want to be joyfully followed, fully respected, and sexually desired by your wife — this is the place. Welcome to The Family Captain.
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  Why Most Christian Marriages Lose Their "Spark" (And How To Get It Back) 20.05.2026 50min

  So many Christian marriages have lost their spark.I see it in my church, I see it in our coaching program. I see it everywhere I look."Happily" married couples whose body language makes it look like they're friends instead of spouses.We don't think God designed marriage to be "just okay".We think following His good designs for life, including marriage, leads to good fruit.That's why we tell guys to aim for ECSTATICALLY married...not just "happily" (which is usually not all that happy).So in this episode, we're helping you get the spark back in your marriage.To attract your wife again.To bring some fire back into the marriage bed.Stay till the end to hear how I suggest taking action on this to level up over the next 7 days.👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  How The Church Made Christian Men Weak: The Emasculated Husband 13.05.2026 52min

  Today we're exposing the LIE that has sadly seeped into Jesus' church. The lie that emasculates men, masculinizes women, makes families miserable, and minimizes God's good distinctions.We're going to blow up the nice guy issue plaguing the church. We're going to focus on the righteous fruit that the Scriptures want for us instead of the cultural perversions so prevalent today. And gentlemen, all of this is so that men, women, and children, can experience God's good design for marriage and family. God's design is a win-win where nobody loses, and where HE gets the glory.It's time to stop being the emasculated Nice Guy and start to become a Good Man.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:59 What has the church done to men?3:08 Why "Nice Guys" aren't nice8:21 Why wives RESENT Nice Guys13:28 Keeping your wife on her toes19:13 If you let your wife run your household...22:49 Why asking for permission KILLS her desire for you36:33 How to get your masculinity back40:58 If she pushes backMentioned:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW/---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod --- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  Why 50/50 Marriage Doesn't Work (Do This Instead) 06.05.2026 45min

  Perhaps the most common marriage advice of the past 50 years has been:"Happy Wife, Happy Life"But it's a lie.It's not biblical.It leads to misery.We're here to destroy the myth of the "50/50" marriage by doing something radical...Reading the Bible and applying it.In this episode you'll learn why this is the biggest lie, how it slowly corrodes attraction in your marriage, and what to do instead.Implement our 3 legs of leadership and watch your family life flourish.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:27 Why is "Happy Wife, Happy Life" a lie?2:43 Why wives lose respect for husbands in "50/50" marriages12:10 What about BIG decisions?17:31 Family Leadership in the Bible23:31 Hierarchy and delegation29:41 Micromanaging and being controlling32:17 If you're doing everything right...42:03 Is a good wife necessary for SUCCESS?---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  How Feminism Is Secretly DESTROYING Your Marriage 01.05.2026 49min

  Feminism has subtly rooted itself in most marriages today. And yes, probably your marriage, too.Men and women who truly love the Lord are settling for meh, or even miserable, marriages...all because they've let demonic, feminist lies infiltrate their lives.In this episode, we'll break down how to identify and start to push back against feminist lies, how to bring peace to your wife by leading as a godly, masculine husband, and what the Bible ACTUALLY says about marriage, men, and women.This one will have immediate application for most marriages, so buckle up.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:44 Feminism in Christian Marriages6:29 Covert Feminism14:31 Leading AGAINST culture19:08 If your wife was taught male leadership is dangerous...21:58 Why feminists feel threatened by us27:04 What the Bible reveals30:29 Bringing peace to your wife34:05 Is submission only because of The Fall?41:21 How to become the man she trusts47:37 The SECRET to a happy marriage---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  Why Husbands Become Resentful (And How to Fix It) 22.04.2026 42min

  Bitterness and resentment.After working with so many Christian husbands, we know that these feelings come up and create distance, even in Christian marriages.If left to their own devices, these do immense damage to families.That's why Family Captains nip resentment in the bud and get back to leading.How?In this episode we'll give you 3 questions to ask and answer that'll get you back on track, conquering resentment in your heart, and moving forward with strength and love.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:02 The Marriage That Breeds Resentment3:27 Do You Keep "The List"?8:46 Have You Removed Your Protection?24:43 Wife Screen Time Example34:03 What Do You Do When You're Disappointed?Mentioned:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW/No More Christian Nice Guy by Paul Coughlin: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MBTYGK8/---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  Husbands Who Kill Addiction Do This 15.04.2026 48min

  👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain ---Addiction stops many husbands from taking their life and their family to the next level.Inside the Family Captain, we're (accidental) experts on crushing addiction.I say accidental, because we never explicitly talk about it.We don't have curriculum that helps our clients defeat addiction.Our program simply creates so much momentum in men's lives that they don't have time or desire to do the things they used to cope or numb with.Internet lust. Gambling. Drinking. Scrolling. You name it.Many of our clients have come to us after and told us they broke free from the grips of addiction because of everything else we helped them put in place.This episode starts that process for YOU.No 12 step programs, just a solid 3 step plan to help you live the life you want to live, and addiction naturally crumbles.In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:56 Big Shift #14:22 Husband 1.0 vs 2.010:43 Can You Even Level Up If You're Stuck in Addiction?19:00 Big Shift #231:43 Sports and Food40:17 Big Shift #345:42 First StepMentioned:Death by a Thousand Lies by Blaine Bartel: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692104860---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  How to Lead Your Family When Nobody Showed You How 08.04.2026 49min

  The thing you're missing? Leadership.The reason you're missing it? Nobody ever showed you what it looked like.We live in a strange generation. God's Truth is still True. Marriages still function ideally within that Truth. But, almost all of us are completely divorced from seeing it in action.So we become passive. Uncertain. We stop leading. Our marriages are..."okay". But they're certainly not God's best. They're usually not even that much different than secular, non-believer marriages.This episode helps fix that.What leadership ACTUALLY looks like.How to start leading today.How to use systems and strategies, not just tactics, to BECOME the man who leads, not just pretends.Let's dive in.--👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:02 Didn't Learn Leadership From Dad?4:16 If You're "Winging It" on Family Leadership11:00 What To Do When You Get Home24:11 Building The 3 Legs of Leadership30:07 Masculinizing Your Wife41:58 Busy Is Not LeadingMentioned:AI Episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyIVKodyYZI---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
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  Help, My Wife Doesn't Want Sex 01.04.2026 50min

  "My wife loves me...but she doesn't WANT me."This is something we hear all the time from men here at The Family Captain.You're doing life really well together, you're operating as a team, you're friends with one another...But sex is irregular and infrequent, and you have a hard time telling the difference between what a "wife" means versus what a "good friend" means.This episode helps to change all of that.You'll learn some tactical stuff, but you'll also learn the thing underlying all of it that makes all the difference.Oh, and stick around to hear why we coach men to literally never ask for sex from their wives ever again.--👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:07 The WRONG Way To Think About The Problem14:08 Warm and Fuzzies vs. Hot and Bothered16:11 Friend vs Roommate Marriage20:09 Pursuing vs Pressuring30:37 If You've Stopped Asking38:29 The Pout41:34 What To Do Tonight---👉 500+ men have stopped guessing and started leading their families with confidence. Now it’s your turn. Find out if The Family Captain coaching is the right fit. Book a free Assessment Call here:  http://www.thefamilycaptain.com/call/pod-- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.