Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert

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• Beyond the Sex Talk: Relationship Skills You Forgot to Teach Your Kids ft. Ruby Falk, MA, LPC 02.07.2026 1t 10min

  We spend a lot of time teaching kids about sex, boundaries, and dating. But how often do we intentionally teach them how to build a healthy relationship?In this episode, Angela sits down with licensed therapist and relationship coach Ruby Falk to discuss the relationship skills every child should learn long before they enter a romantic relationship.Together they explore what it means to maintain your identity while caring for a partner, why you're not responsible for someone else's emotions, how healthy couples handle conflict, and why emotional safety matters more than perfection. They also discuss the importance of letting kids witness healthy conflict and repair, helping children learn to respond rather than react, and teaching them not only how to say "no," but how to recognize an authentic "yes."Whether you're raising young children, navigating the teen years, or simply reflecting on the relationship lessons you wish you'd learned sooner, this conversation offers practical wisdom for building healthier relationships across generations.In this episode:The difference between selflessness and losing yourselfWhy you aren't responsible for another person's feelingsHow healthy couples repair after conflictWhy kids need to see parents disagree and reconcileWhat emotional safety actually looks likeRelationship skills that matter far beyond datingTo connect with Ruby:WebsiteInstagramTikTokThings referenced in this episode:Ruby's TikTok PostRaising Sexually Healthy Kids PodcastTalking to Your Kids About Sex PodcastSex Education for Tweens & Teens PodcastLet's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, & Respect by Jayneen Sanders(aff link)What Feelings Do When No One is Looking by Tina Oziewicz(aff link)The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld(aff link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Maybe It's Not Low Libido: ADHD, Executive Function, & Sex ft. Dr. Leann Borneman, PhD, LCSW, CST 25.06.2026 1t 6min

  If you've ever wanted sex in theory but couldn't seem to get yourself interested in the moment, this episode may explain why.For years, conversations about desire have focused on libido, hormones, and responsive desire. But what if the problem isn't a lack of desire at all? What if the real issue is executive functioning?In this episode, I sit down with clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, and ADHD sexuality researcher Dr. Leann Borneman to explore the often-overlooked connection between ADHD and sexual intimacy.Together we discuss:• Why ADHD is frequently mistaken for low libido• The role executive functioning plays in desire and sexual initiation• Task switching, mental load, and why getting started can feel impossible• Rejection sensitivity and its impact on intimacy• Attention, arousal, and why orgasm can be more difficult for ADHD brains• Sensory seeking, sensory sensitivities, and changing preferences from one day to the next• How neurotypical relationship expectations create shame in ADHD partnershipsWhether you have ADHD yourself, suspect you might, or love someone who does, this conversation offers practical insights that can help couples stop blaming each other and start understanding what's actually happening beneath the surface.Because sometimes what looks like a desire problem is really a brain wiring problem.I must add a disclaimer to this episode: I did the MOST ADHD thing I could have done with this episode (short of forgetting to record it): I forgot to plug in my mic. I've done all I could, but the audio is less than what I hoped it would be. I apologize for the inconsistency, and promise to do better moving forward!To connect with Dr. Leann:WebsiteInstagramTikTokYouTubeAASECT CEU CourseExecutive Function 101 EbookResources referenced in this episode:Coaching with AngelaIntimate Conversations Sex JournalTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• When Anxiety Goes to Bed with You: Why You Can't Relax Enough for Sex ft. Dr. Karianne Bilsky 11.06.2026 54min

  Anxiety doesn't stay in your head—it follows you into your relationships, your marriage, and yes, your bedroom.In this episode, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Karianne Bilsky to talk about the often-overlooked connection between anxiety and intimacy.Together, we unpack how anxiety affects desire, arousal, connection, and your ability to be present during sex. We discuss why "just relax" isn't helpful advice, and what happens when your nervous system is constantly operating on high alert.If you've ever found yourself overthinking during intimacy, feeling touched out, struggling to relax, or wondering why sex feels more stressful than enjoyable, this conversation is for you.You'll learn:• How anxiety affects desire and arousal• Why anxious brains struggle with intimacy• The role your nervous system plays in sexual connection• Practical ways couples can create more safety and connectionThe number one section you don't want to miss? When Dr. Karianne explains why even if you don't have an anxiety diagnosis, you can't switch into sexy mode as a touched-out mom. (She blew even my mind with this one!)Sometimes the problem isn't your marriage—and it isn't your sex life.Sometimes it's anxiety.Disclaimer: Nothing in this episode should be considered medical advice. Please take whatever information you learn from this episode and discuss it with your own doctor.Resources referenced in this episode:Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski(Amazon aff link)Dr. Karianne's First Episode on The Go Have Good Sex PodcastRub Me the Right Way: Massage Episode on The Go Have Good Sex PodcastAngela's PatreonShe Comes First by Ian Kerner(Amazon aff link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Why Depression Changes Your Sex Life ft. Dr. Karianne Bilsky, PhD 04.06.2026 54min

  Disclaimer: Nothing in this episode is intended to be medical advice. Please take any information your learn in this episode to a discussion with your own personal doctor.Trigger warnings for discussion of depression and suicide. Depression doesn’t just impact your mood.It impacts your body, your nervous system, your relationships, your energy, your intimacy, and sometimes even your ability to recognize yourself.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Karianne Bilsky, PhD for an honest conversation about depression, mental health, and the things Christians are often told that make struggling people feel even more isolated.Because “just pray more” is not a treatment plan.And pretending you’re fine doesn’t magically make you healthy.We talk about:What depression can actually feel like in real lifeHow depression impacts marriage, connection, and intimacyIf "pushing through" sex is a good strategyMedication stigma in Christian spacesWhat support actually looks likeWhy struggling mentally does not make you weak, broken, or a “bad Christian”We also unpack the pressure many people feel to perform wellness while privately drowning—and why curiosity, support, and honesty matter so much more than toxic positivity.If you’ve ever wondered why you can love God, love your spouse, and still feel exhausted, numb, disconnected, or hopeless… this conversation is for you.And if you love someone battling depression, this episode may help you understand them with more compassion and less judgment.Spoiler: healing is rarely as simple as “trying harder.”Items referenced in this episode:PatreonRomantic Blessings - my Christian sex toy website partner. Use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchaseNational Crisis Hotline - Call 988Intimate ConversationsCoaching with AngelaTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• The Stories Women Learn to Outgrow ft. Dr. Ashley Odom-Rodrigues 28.05.2026 54min

  What happens to women’s sexuality as they age?Because contrary to what culture — and honestly, a lot of the church — would have us believe, women do not magically stop being sexual beings after 60.In this episode, I’m joined again by Ashley Odom Rodrigues to talk about her dissertation research interviewing women over the age of 60 about their sex lives, relationships, bodies, identity, and aging.We talk about the messages women inherit from their mothers, the pressure many women carried throughout marriage, how bodies and desire shift over time, and the surprising freedom many women discovered later in life.Spoiler: aging doesn’t erase sexuality. For many women, it actually creates space for honesty, confidence, and deeper connection.If you’ve ever feared aging would mean the end of intimacy, or if you’ve struggled with how purity culture shaped the way you view women’s bodies and sexuality, this episode is going to challenge a lot of assumptions.You’ve been warned.To connect with Ashley:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokAs mentioned in the episode:Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke(Amazon aff link)Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves - and How to Find Our Way Back by Dr. Ingrid Clayton(Amazon Aff Link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Postpartum Changes Everything ft. Danielle Bruner 21.05.2026 1t 9min

  What happens to intimacy after birth when everyone is exhausted, touched out, overwhelmed, and trying to survive on broken sleep and cold coffee?In this episode, I’m joined by postpartum doula and educator Danielle Bruner for a conversation that every married couple needs to hear before the baby arrives — not after the damage is already done.We talk about why so many couples feel disconnected during this season, and how emotional safety and practical support directly impact intimacy inside a marriage. Danielle shares what moms actually need after birth, why “bouncing back” culture is failing women, and how partners can become a source of stability instead of resentment.We also unpack:why postpartum recovery is about more than physical healingthe mental load mothers carry that often goes unseenhow non-sexual intimacy lays the foundation for sexual intimacy laterwhat dads and partners often misunderstand about postpartumhow couples can stay connected without pressure or performanceIf you’ve ever wondered why sex can feel complicated after kids, this episode gets to the root of it with honesty, compassion, and practical wisdom.Because spoiler: healthy intimacy doesn’t grow in exhaustion, overwhelm, and isolation.It grows where people feel cared for, safe, supported, and seen.For easy, non-sexual ways of connecting, check out my Small Moments of Connection GuideTo connect with Danielle:WebsiteFacebookInstagramResources referenced in this episode: What am I Thinking? Having a Baby After Postpartum Depression by Karen Kleiman, MSW(Amazon Aff Link)A Dude’s Guide to Baby Size: What to Expect and How to Prep for Dads-to-Be by Taylor Calmus
(Amazon aff link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Why You Feel Like a Different Woman Every Week (And What to Do About It) ft. Lauren Hall 14.05.2026 1t 18min

  Most women were never actually taught how their bodies work—we were just told to deal with them.Push through the exhaustion. Ignore the mood swings. Feel confused when your desire changes. And maybe blame yourself when your body doesn’t respond the same way every day.But what if nothing is wrong with you?In this episode, I’m joined by traditional midwife Lauren Hall to break down the four phases of a woman’s cycle—and how they mirror the seasons: winter, spring, summer, and fall.We talk about what’s actually happening in your body during each phase, how your energy and emotions shift, what to lean into, what to avoid, and how understanding your rhythm can completely change the way you experience your body.And yes—we go there. We talk about how your cycle impacts your desire, your connection, and your marriage… because you’re not meant to feel the same every day.If you’ve ever felt inconsistent, disconnected, or frustrated with your body, this episode is going to make things make sense in a whole new way.You’re not broken. You’re cyclical.And once you understand that? Everything changes.Lauren is a traditional midwife, trained through an apprenticeship model, Indie Birth Midwifery School and a great deal of self-directed learning. She serves her local community in Central Arkansas, as well as women around the country as a midwife and holds hopes and dreams of international travel for missionary midwifery. She is a mother to 8 children, including a set of twins, and has experienced a great variety of birth stories with them. She is the founder Rooted in Eden, cofaciliator of Holy Wild Birth Podcast and Hearthmother Journey, and the primary facilitator of Hearthmother Midwifery Unschool.To connect with Lauren:Rooted In Eden WebsiteHearthmother Ministries WebsiteLiving as Cyclical Beings Podcast EpisodeHoly Wild Birth YouTubeResources Referenced in This Episode:31 Days of IntimacyThe Fifth Vital Sign: Master Your Cycles & Optimize Your Fertility by Lisa Hendrickson-JackHoly Wild Birth Podcast: Living as Cyclical BeingsTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Jesus Was Never in Purity Culture ft Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers 07.05.2026 1t 4min

  If purity culture was supposed to lead to healthy, fulfilling sex in marriage… why are so many couples still struggling?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to unpack the real impact of purity culture—where it came from, how it spread far beyond the Church, and why so many of us are still carrying its messages into our marriages today.We talk about:• How purity culture moved from evangelical spaces into mainstream culture• The ways it shaped both women and men (yes, men too)• Why so many people still feel shame around sex—even after marriage• And the uncomfortable but necessary truth: Jesus was never at the center of purity cultureIf you’ve ever felt like sex was something to avoid, control, or feel guilty about—even with your spouse—this conversation is going to challenge what you were taught and open the door to something healthier.Because sex was never meant to be driven by fear and shame.And healing is possible. ✨✨✨✨Connect with Dr. Tina:InstagramFacebookWebsiteResources referenced in this episode:Dr. Tina's podcast with Dr. Cami HurstSex, God, & The Conservative Church(aff link)Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-Free, Confident Kids, and Heal Your Shame Too!(aff link)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Are Sex Toys Sin? Or Are You Just Uncomfortable? 30.04.2026 34min

  So… let’s talk about toys.For a lot of Christian couples, this conversation comes with immediate tension:Is this okay? Is this sinful? Are we crossing a line?In this episode, I break it all the way down—without shame, fear tactics, or vague “just pray about it” answers.We’re diving into:What the Bible actually says (and doesn’t say) about bringing outside tools into your intimate lifeWhy drawing a hard line at toys—but not things like pillows or position aids—might not be as consistent as we thinkHow resistance to toys can unintentionally exclude or shame people with physical limitations (yes, we’re talking about ableism)The different categories of toys and what purpose they actually serveAnd how to approach this conversation with your spouse in a way that builds trust, not pressureIf you’ve ever wondered whether curiosity in the bedroom is something to fear—or something to explore with wisdom and connection—this episode is for you.Because healthy, connected marriages aren’t built on rules rooted in discomfort…they’re built on intimacy, communication, and mutual enjoyment.Go Have Good Sex. 💜If you are looking for a Christian-eyes friendly place to browse toy options, check out my website partner, Romantic Blessings. They are a Christian owned sex toy website. Which means you will never see any nudity on their site, and can browse your options in a faith friendly environment! Use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchase!As referenced in this episode:Join my Patreon - where I post all about different toys all the time!MYHIXEL Control(aff link)Use code thechristiansexpert10 for 10% off your purchase!Book a coaching sessionTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• She's Not Avoiding Sex (Her Body Is Trying To Tell You Something) 23.04.2026 29min

  You think she doesn’t want sex.But what if that’s not actually the problem?In this episode, we’re unpacking what I really mean when I say, “Healthy women, in safe marriages, don’t turn down good sex.” Because “healthy” is doing a lot more work in that sentence than most people realize.We’re talking about the real, often ignored factors that impact desire—mental health, trauma (including purity culture), hormones, physical health, medications, nutrition, and even where she is in her cycle.If desire feels inconsistent, confusing, or completely gone, this episode will help you understand why.Because low libido is often not the root issue—it’s a signal.✨✨✨If you would like to learn more about reconnecting to your body, please join my Patreon. I have a whole series on different ways to reconnect - because a woman well-connected to her own body has better sex!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Being a "Good Guy" Isn't Enough for a Safe Marriage (And It's Affecting Your Marriage) 16.04.2026 35min

  A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.”They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her.So why doesn’t she want sex?In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety.Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t going to show up… no matter how “good” her husband is.We’ll talk about:Why safety directly impacts desireSigns a marriage might not feel as safe as it looksAnd how to start creating an environment where intimacy can actually thriveIf you’ve ever wondered why the spark feels gone—or why sex feels like a struggle—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.Because you don’t fix desire by forcing it.You build a marriage where desire feels safe to exist.And as always… go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Marital Coercion ft Nat LaJune31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionSex Drive Divide MasterclassTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Sex Education for Tweens & Teens ft Kristen Miele of Sex Ed Reclaimed 09.04.2026 1t

  If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will.And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values.In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture.We’re covering the real-life situations parents are facing right now—like how to talk about porn, what to do if your child is exposed before you’re ready, how to approach masturbation and sexting, and how to set boundaries around phones and privacy.We also tackle the questions so many Christian parents are asking but don’t know where to start:Does talking about sex make kids more curious?What if I didn’t start these conversations early?How do I talk about porn, sextortion, and more?This episode will help you move from avoidance and anxiety to confidence and clarity—so you can guide your kids toward a healthy, shame-free understanding of sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Get lifetime access to the Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum here(aff link)Raising Sexually Healthy Kids ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTalking to Your Kids About Sex ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Christian Sex Myths Ruining Marriages Part 2 02.04.2026 23min

  What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage?In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected:That sex is only for procreationThat having more sex will magically fix your marriageThat struggling with sex means something is fundamentally brokenThese beliefs sound spiritual on the surface—but in real marriages, they often lead to pressure, disappointment, and silence.In this episode, we’re unpacking what Scripture actually supports, what healthy intimacy really looks like, and why good sex is built on more than just frequency.Because sex was never meant to be a duty, a quick fix, or a measuring stick for your marriage.It was meant to be a celebration of the intimacy you’ve already built.If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in this area—or just confused about what’s “normal”—this conversation is going to bring clarity, freedom, and a whole lot of truth.Things referenced in this episode:31 Days of IntimacyTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• When Baby Making Sex Stops Feeling Good ft Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC 26.03.2026 45min

  Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life.What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure.In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of intimacy and infertility.We cover:How infertility changes the emotional and physical experience of sexWhy desire often drops (for both spouses) during this seasonThe grief, pressure, and performance anxiety couples don’t talk aboutHow to reconnect with your spouse when sex starts to feel clinicalIf you’ve ever felt like your sex life disappeared into ovulation tracking, doctor’s appointments, and disappointment… you are not alone.There is a way to stay connected—even here.Connect with Kimberly:WebsiteTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Christian Sex Myths Ruining Marriages 19.03.2026 29min

  What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true?For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it.But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart.In this episode I'm breaking down 3 of the most common myths and why they are causing harm.You’ll learn:Why the “men are more visual” narrative isn’t supported by researchWhether God actually created men to need sex every 3 daysWhy the Bible paints a very different picture of women’s sexual desireBecause good theology shouldn't lead to bad sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Neural substrates of sexual arousal are not sex dependent by Ekaterina Mitricheva, Rui Kimura, Nikos K. Logothetis, & Hamid R. NooriTo learn more about the 1 Samuel 21 passageIntimate Conversations JournalTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Playing Pretend Might Save Your Marriage: Why You're Not Too Holy For Role Play 12.03.2026 25min

  Role play isn’t about pretending you’re someone else—it’s about giving your marriage permission to explore, play, and reconnect.In this episode, I explore why role play can be a powerful tool for married couples. From flirty scenarios to power dynamics like doctor/patient, role play allows couples to safely explore curiosity, communication, and desire inside the safety of marriage.As adults, we were never meant to outgrow play. When we create space for playful exploration in our marriage, we are opening ourselves to powerful discoveries about ourselves and our spouses at the same time. Play allows us to explore consent, fantasy, and emotional needs we may not otherwise have language for.If you’ve ever thought role play sounded awkward, embarrassing, or “too spicy,” this episode might just change your mind.Because sometimes playing pretend is exactly what your marriage needs.
• Bedroom Games: Turning Your Bedroom Into Your Playground 05.03.2026 20min

  When it comes to sex, there's a lot of talk about "spicing things up." But what if you don't need another date night, a weekend away, a new toy, or more lingerie?What if all you need is more play?In this episode we are diving deep into the sort of ideas that originally made me go viral: Simple, accessible ways to turn your bedroom into the playground of your marriage.These aren’t gimmicks.They’re intentional, creative, connection-building ways to engage with your spouse that:Lower performance pressureIncrease laughterBuild anticipationReduce awkwardnessCreate novelty without requiring purchasesIf your intimacy has started to feel predictable…If one of you carries the mental load of initiation…If sex has become a checklist item instead of a celebration…This episode will give you practical ways to shift the dynamic.So you can go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Spinner Board(aff link)Twister(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Ditch Date Night: Why Scheduled Romance Won't Build Intimacy 26.02.2026 24min

  We’ve been told that date night is the cure for everything.Disconnected? Date night.Not having sex? Date night.Feeling like roommates? Definitely date night.But what if date night isn’t the problem - and was never the solution?In this episode we're going to talk about why a once a month night out isn't intimacy - it's performance, and performance doesn't build connection and never builds safety.I break down:Why scheduled romance can actually increase pressureHow “checking the box” slowly erodes real connectionThe difference between shared experiences and actual intimacyWhy sex doesn’t flow naturally from forced funWhat to build instead if you want a marriage that feels aliveIntimacy is not built in restaurants.It’s built in everyday interactions, emotional safety, shared play, honest communication, and the kind of connection that doesn’t turn on and off with a reservation time.If you’ve been doing date night faithfully but still feel disconnected, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.Maybe it’s time to ditch date night — and build something better.Resources referenced in this episode:The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• Marriage without Play Feels Like Work: Why Creative Intimacy is Essential to Marriage ft. Nicola Hughes 19.02.2026 48min

  When did your marriage start feeling like a to-do list?Laundry. Logistics. Parenting. Work. Bills. Repeat. (And WHY do these people need to eat every single day!?)Somewhere along the way, creativity quietly packed its bags — and without it, intimacy starts to feel like just another obligation.In this episode, we’re talking about why creativity isn’t childish… it’s foundational. We unpack how couples drift into “roommate mode,” why creativity and recreation are essential types of intimacy, and how laughter, flirting, and shared fun actually protect your sex life.Because here’s the truth:If your marriage feels like work, your bedroom eventually will too.You’ll walk away with practical ways to reintroduce creativity — even if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected.Marriage isn’t meant to be managed.It’s meant to be enjoyed.Go have good sex.✨✨✨Resources for the episode:Andrea Nelson Art
Conversation Cards(aff link)As a side note - if you also hate meal planning, try out Plan to Eat. I use this for our family and LOVE IT. (aff link)Fair Play Book(aff link)Fair Play Cards(aff link)Fair Play episodeVisual Timer(aff link)Don’t Get Got(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
• You're Here, But You're Not With Me ft Nicole Lee, LMFT 12.02.2026 55min

  In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one partner perceives the other as using social or interactive media to escape, relationship satisfaction drops by more than 22%.This episode isn’t about demonizing phones or shaming habits. It’s about perception, meaning-making, and emotional presence—and why couples often fight about time when the real issue is disconnection.We discuss:What escapism actually is and how it shows up in modern marriagesWhy perception matters more than minutes spent scrollingHow social media and other forms of escapism impact intimacy and conflictWhy men and women often experience and report relationship satisfaction differentlyHow mental load, emotional labor, and “pphubbing” fuel resentmentPractical ways couples can replace the scroll with real connectionIf you’ve ever felt ignored, deprioritized, or like your spouse is emotionally somewhere else—even when they’re right next to you—this episode will help you name what’s happening and start repairing connection without blame or shame.Because presence isn’t about being in the same room.It’s about being with each other.Resources from this episode:Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari1+1=3, You, Me, & Our Relationship by Nicole Lee1+1=3, You, My, & Our Sex Life by Nicole Lee31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo connect with Nicole:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.