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• The Broken Marriage, Her Exit Affair 27.05.2026 22Min.

  Joni Woods spent fifteen years in a marriage marked by abuse and control—staying partly out of faith, partly out of pressure, and partly because she didn't yet have the language for what was happening to her. When her children became targets of her husband's behavior, she filed for divorce. And before it was finalized, she began an affair. Tim Tedder talks to Joni about what kept her in so long, what finally moved her to leave, and how she makes sense of the affair now.
• Men’s Groups: Show Up. Be Real. 19.05.2026 28Min.

  Men are often taught to be strong, self-reliant, and emotionally contained, and that same conditioning is frequently at the root of what goes wrong in their most intimate relationships. In this episode, Tim Tedder talks with men's embodiment coach and group facilitator Jason Lange about what men are typically missing when it comes to emotional awareness, communication, and connection, and how men's groups provide a powerful space for that to change.
• A Conversation with My Ex: Relationships After Divorce 12.05.2026 19Min.

  In this final episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim and Konnie talk about the decades since their divorce: the struggles, the cooperation, and the relationship they've quietly built for the sake of their children and grandchildren. Some of those children share their own perspective here, expressing gratitude that their parents' past doesn't arrive as unwanted drama at family gatherings, and that their own children are growing up as witnesses to what forgiveness actually looks like. A genuinely hopeful ending to an honest series.
• The Children’s Experience of My Affair, Our Divorce 05.05.2026 20Min.

  Before the final episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim steps back and lets someone else tell the story — two of his five children. In this bonus episode, one of his sons and his youngest daughter share their own experience of their parents' affair and divorce. Their perspectives are distinct, personal, and quietly powerful.
• A Conversation with My Ex: D-day and the Aftermath 01.05.2026 25Min.

  In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim and Konnie revisit the hardest stretch of their story: the disclosure of Tim's affair, the full confession that followed a week later, and the months they spent trying to hold their marriage together. What makes this conversation remarkable is not just what happened, but how they each experienced it differently—Konnie's raw grief, Tim's troubling emotional disconnection, and the misunderstanding that ultimately ended any chance of recovery. Painful and honest, this episode is also something unexpected: a conversation that still carries warmth between two people who lived through it together.
• A Conversation with My Ex: Our Marriage, My Affair 28.04.2026 30Min.

  An ex-husband and ex-wife sit down together to talk honestly about how they met, why their marriage struggled, and how an affair changed everything.
• Old Wounds, New Hurts 21.04.2026 23Min.

  What drives someone to have an affair? Most people, including the person who had one, focus on what was wrong with the marriage. But therapist Kayla Crane argues the answer goes deeper than that. In this conversation, Tim and Kayla explore how the survival patterns we developed in childhood keep showing up in our adult relationships — sometimes in ways that lead to betrayal, and sometimes in ways that make healing harder than it needs to be.
• Addicted to Porn: Sacrificing Intimacy & Integrity 14.04.2026 30Min.

  Porn addiction rarely looks like a crisis at first. It looks like a habit. But over time, it rewires desire, erodes real intimacy, and keeps people stuck in a cycle of shame and secrecy. In this episode, I talk with Jeremy Lipkowitz — founder of the Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked podcast — about his personal journey from addiction to recovery, and the inner work that actually sets people free. We cover what defines addiction, how porn becomes a substitute for genuine connection, and why community is often the most important first step toward change.
• Out of Betrayal’s Fire: The Rising Phoenix Story Part 2 07.04.2026 21Min.

  In part two of her conversation with Tim Tedder, Michelle moves from survival into healing. She talks about the breakdown that became a turning point and the slow process of learning to regulate her body, establish real boundaries, and choose herself. She also opens up about how intimacy found its way back into her marriage, what her husband did to rebuild trust, and what their relationship looks like today. Honest, grounded, and quietly hopeful, this conversation is about what healing actually costs and what it can become.
• Out of Betrayal’s Fire: The Rising Phoenix Story Part 1 31.03.2026 28Min.

  Michelle discovered her husband's affair when a laptop was left open on the table one morning. What followed was four years of survival, breakdown, and hard-won healing that she has since shared publicly under the name Rising Phoenix. In part one of this two-episode series, Michelle talks with Tim Tedder about discovery day, what trauma felt like in her body, the exhausting in-between of that first year, the effects on her children, and the breakdown that became a catalyst for real change. Her story is raw, honest, and deeply encouraging for anyone navigating the early pain of betrayal.
• From Suffering to Love, Part 2: Gratitude and Love 24.03.2026 25Min.

  Gratitude and love may sound like distant destinations when you're still living in the aftermath of betrayal. But in this conclusion to Tim's conversation with Anthony Silard, author of Love and Suffering, those destinations become surprisingly reachable. Anthony unpacks the final two steps of his love progression model, explaining why gratitude isn't about minimizing what happened but about choosing to learn from it, and why love, real and lasting love, requires becoming a different person than the one who entered the crisis. Tim shares from his own experience, and Anthony offers practical guidance alongside compelling research on post-traumatic growth. If part one asked whether you could accept and forgive, part two asks whether you're willing to go further.
• From Suffering to Love, Part 1: Acceptance and Forgiveness 17.03.2026 28Min.

  After infidelity, both the betrayed and the one who betrayed often quietly give up on the possibility of real love. In this episode, Tim speaks with Anthony Silard, author of Love and Suffering, about the first two steps of his love progression model: acceptance and forgiveness. Anthony reframes acceptance not as passive resignation but as the active foundation of change, and challenges common assumptions about forgiveness, including who it's really for and why "forgive and forget" may be the wrong goal. A thought-provoking conversation for anyone trying to find a way forward through the pain of broken trust.
• Setting Good Boundaries: Pleasing, Controlling, or Caring? 10.03.2026 28Min.

  What do boundaries have to do with infidelity? More than most people realize. In this episode, Tim talks with boundaries coach Barb Nangle, who grew up surrounded by infidelity and codependency and spent decades unknowingly repeating those patterns. It wasn't until 12-step recovery that Barb began to understand what healthy boundaries actually look like, and why their absence makes relationships vulnerable to broken trust. She shares how people-pleasing is a form of dishonesty, why integrity means aligning your behavior with your values, and how "boundaries of self-containment" can clean up the chaos that fuels relational breakdown. Whether you're the betrayed partner trying to establish safety or the involved partner trying to understand why you crossed the line, this conversation offers a grounded, honest framework for doing the harder work.
• Better Conversations In Troubled Times 03.03.2026 26Min.

  After betrayal, communication often feels impossible. In this episode, Tim is joined by couples therapist Raffi Bilick to break down what actually works. They discuss why the involved partner must prioritize listening and validation over defensiveness, how separating conversations into “exploration” and “resolution” can prevent repeated arguments, and why self-regulation and curiosity are essential for rebuilding trust. Raffi shares practical tools couples can start using right away, along with insight into managing guilt, anger, and repeated conversations in early recovery. If you’re navigating the aftermath of infidelity and want a clearer path forward, this episode provides both structure and encouragement.
• The Post-Affair Marriage: Who Broke It? Who Should Fix It? 24.02.2026 22Min.

  Who broke the marriage after an affair, and who has to fix it? In this episode, Tim challenges narrow explanations about why infidelity happens and what recovery requires. By exploring stressed, severed, and stable marriages, he clarifies an essential distinction: accountability for betrayal belongs to one person, but rebuilding a relationship requires both. If you’re wrestling with blame, responsibility, or what comes next, this conversation will help you think more clearly about the path forward.
• Can You Have a Better Marriage after Infidelity? 18.02.2026 30Min.

  Tim Tedder talks with Dr. Amy and Roy Clark about feeling stuck after infidelity, exploring humility, boundaries, transparency, and the four pillars that determine whether a marriage can truly heal.
• Deciding to Stay In Your Marriage: The Involved Partner 10.02.2026 20Min.

  In this episode, Tim talks with Dr. Deb Miller, who explains why lasting healing depends on the unfaithful partner doing deep personal work, not just saying “I’m sorry.” Deb shares why she now focuses primarily on the betrayer’s inner life, emotional awareness, and personal history, and how understanding those patterns makes genuine empathy—and trust—possible. They discuss the limits of apology, the importance of combining emotional and cognitive insight, and why affairs never fully disappear from a couple’s story—but can move from center stage to the background. This is a thoughtful, grounded conversation about accountability, empathy, and the slow work of becoming someone safer to love.
• Deciding to Stay In Your Marriage: The Injured Partner 03.02.2026 22Min.

  Discussing the betrayed partner's role in the rebuilding of a marriage after an affair.
• Deciding to Leave After an Affair: Emotional, Relationship, and Religious Considerations 30.01.2026 29Min.

  Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Barbour discuss issues that come up following a decision to leave your marriage: grief, shame, coparenting, starting new relationships, and the religious issues that sometimes surround this choice.
• Deciding to Leave After an Affair: When and Why to Heal Alone 27.01.2026 21Min.

  A conversation about when and why to leave a marriage after an affair.