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• 96 - I Can't Switch Off: Why I'm Always Waiting For Something To Go Wrong 04.06.2026 20Min.

  Do you feel like you're always waiting for the next problem?The next phone call.The next argument.The next relapse.The next thing that throws everything off course.If you love someone struggling with addiction, that constant feeling of being "on" can become so normal that you stop questioning it.You tell yourself you're just stressed.Just tired.Just a bit anxious.But what if the reason you can't relax has nothing to do with your personality?In this episode, Amanda explores one of the hidden impacts of loving someone with addiction: survival mode.From constantly scanning moods and overthinking conversations to feeling responsible for everyone else's wellbeing, many spouses and family members find themselves living in a state of hypervigilance without even realising it.Amanda shares why anxiety, emotional exhaustion and the inability to switch off are often signs of a nervous system that has spent years adapting to uncertainty.Inside this episode:• Why you're always waiting for something to go wrong• The hidden impact addiction has on your nervous system• What survival mode actually looks like in everyday life• Why hypervigilance becomes normal• The difference between surviving and feeling safe• Why there's nothing wrong with youIf you've ever found yourself asking:"Why can't I relax?""Why am I always on edge?""Why do I feel responsible for everything?"This episode is for you.🎧 Listen now.And if you're ready to stop carrying this on your own, Discovery to Recovery is designed to help you move from survival mode to feeling steadier, clearer and less alone.Because your loved one's recovery matters.But so does yours.💕If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 95 - I Know Something Needs To Change… I Just Don't Know Where To Start 02.06.2026 20Min.

  Learn more about Discovery to Recovery hereYou know something needs to change.You know something isn't working.You know you're exhausted.But when you're living with addiction in a relationship, knowing what to do next can feel impossible.Maybe you're constantly thinking about your loved one's drinking, drug use, gambling, or addictive behaviour.Maybe you're walking on eggshells, trying not to make things worse.Maybe you're lying awake at night wondering:"Am I overreacting?""Is it really that bad?""How much longer do I wait?""What am I supposed to do?"And honestly, when you're living with addiction in your home, it's easy to become stuck between recognising there's a problem and knowing what to do about it.In this episode, Amanda explores one of the most difficult parts of loving someone with addiction:The confusion.The limbo.The emotional exhaustion that comes from trying to understand addiction, trying to help, trying to cope, and trying to carry it all on your own.She shares why so many partners, spouses and family members affected by addiction stay stuck for years, the hidden fear that often stops us seeking support, and why support isn't about being told to leave or stay.It's about finding relief.If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, trapped in survival mode, or unsure how to move forward when someone you love is struggling with addiction, this episode will help you understand why you're feeling the way you are and what your next best step might be.Because your loved one's recovery matters.But so does yours.💕If you're thinking:"I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step.Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 94 - I’m In Limbo: How Long Do I Wait? 27.05.2026 21Min.

  What happens when the person you love recognises they have a problem (or maybe they don't)… and nothing feels steady?What happens when you keep hoping things will improve… but your life slowly becomes consumed by waiting?In this deeply honest episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores the emotional limbo so many spouses and family members of people struggling with addiction quietly live in: waiting for sobriety, waiting for stability, waiting for peace, waiting to finally exhale.Amanda opens up about the painful reality of putting life on hold while hoping things will eventually get better - and the emotional exhaustion that comes from tying your wellbeing to someone else’s recovery.If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:• “I’ll be happy when things settle down.”• “Maybe I just need to wait a little longer.”• “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”• “How long do I keep doing this?”…this episode is for you.Because you do not need to figure everything out today.You just need a healthier next step.🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, or share it with someone who may need to hear these words today.👇 Discovery to RecoveryYou know something has to change but you don't know where to start... This is the first step to getting out of survival mode, and into living your one great life.It is a gentle, practical starting point for spouses and family members who know something needs to change but feel completely overwhelmed about where to begin.👉 Discovery to Recovery is your first exhale. Start here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 93 - How Survival Mode Slowly Becomes Your Personality 21.05.2026 18Min.

  One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction?How slowly survival mode starts feeling normal.The hypervigilance.The walking on eggshells.The overthinking.The emotional exhaustion.The inability to fully relax.And over time… you stop recognising yourself.In this episode, Amanda explores the hidden ways addiction impacts partners and families - and how survival mode slowly becomes something you mistake for your personality.If you’ve ever found yourself:constantly monitoring moodsover-functioning and carrying everythingunable to switch off or relaxemotionally exhausted all the timewalking on eggshellsfeeling like your world has become smallerthinking “I don’t even feel like myself anymore”…this episode is for you.Inside this conversation, Amanda shares:why survival mode happens so graduallyhow hypervigilance affects your nervous systemthe hidden emotional load many partners carrywhy addiction changes the whole emotional atmosphere of a homethe connection between perfectionism and survival modehow women slowly disconnect from themselves while trying to hold everything togetherAnd most importantly?A reminder that this isn’t who you are.This is survival mode.Want more support and clarity?✨ Discovery to RecoveryIf you know something needs to change, but feel overwhelmed about where to even begin…this is your first step out of survival mode. Quietly, in the privacy of your own home and at your own pace.Find out more about Discovery to Recovery and take your next smallest step towards a better life.And... if you want the next stepThe waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 92 - Am I Overreacting? The Hidden Damage Addiction Causes 19.05.2026 23Min.

  Have you ever asked yourself, "Maybe It’s Me?"One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? It’s not always the drinking, the lying, the gambling, or the chaos. It’s what slowly starts happening to you. And loosing your own trust is one of those impacts that is lesser seen and almost never spoken about. But it's impacts are devastating.In this episode, Amanda talks about the hidden emotional toll addiction can have on partners and families - the confusion, hypervigilance, self-doubt, and the slow erosion of self-trust that can happen over time.If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:“Maybe I’m overreacting”“Maybe it’s not actually that bad”“Maybe it’s me”…this episode is for you.Amanda shares:Why addiction-impacted relationships create so much confusionHow hypervigilance and overthinking become survival strategiesThe emotional impact of constantly questioning your realityWhy self-trust is often the biggest casualtyHow survival mode slowly disconnects you from yourselfThe small ways you can begin rebuilding trust in yourself againThis is an honest, compassionate conversation for anyone feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from themselves, or unsure what’s normal anymore.💛 You are not crazy.💛 You are not weak.💛 And you do not have to carry this alone.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 91 - The Hills I’ll Die On After Loving Someone With Addiction 14.05.2026 19Min.

  Today Amanda shares the “hills she’ll die on” after loving someone struggling with alcohol and addiction… and after supporting hundreds of women and men impacted by it too.From waiting for rock bottom… to believing sobriety should magically fix everything… to thinking more information will finally make things feel better…This episode challenges some of the biggest myths people quietly carry in addiction and recovery.In this episode we talk through...Why you do NOT need to wait for things to get worse before getting supportWhy sobriety doesn’t automatically heal the people around the addictionThe confusion, self-doubt and “crazy making” impact of addictionWhy learning more about addiction is not the same as healing from its impactThe truth about hypervigilance and survival modeWhy you deserve to live your life tooAwareness matters.But awareness alone does not create change.Want more?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 90 - I Miss Who I Used To Be: How Survival Mode Slowly Changes You 13.05.2026 20Min.

  Sometimes the hardest part about addiction…. is realising how much you have changed too.In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the grief of losing yourself in survival mode.The anxiety.The hypervigilance.The exhaustion.The version of you that slowly disappeared while trying to hold everything together.Because addiction doesn’t just impact the person struggling.It changes the people around them too.🎧 In this episode, we cover:How survival mode slowly changes youThe grief of losing yourself in addictionWhy hypervigilance becomes your “normal”The hidden emotional exhaustion partners carryWhy you may not recognise yourself anymoreThe difference between your identity and your survival adaptationsRebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with yourselfWhy life is not supposed to feel like constant survival modeYou didn’t lose yourself because you were weak.You lost parts of yourself trying to survive something really hard for a really long time.The version of you that exists in survival mode… is not who you are.It’s an adaptation.And underneath it all?You are still there.So if you’re quietly thinking: “God… I miss myself…”The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you want to find out more.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 89 - Mother’s Day, Addiction, and the Grief No One Talks About 07.05.2026 27Min.

  Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for many of us.And when addiction has touched your life… not all of it feels good.Because Mother’s Day can become this painful mix of hope, disappointment and grief all at the same time.In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the complicated emotional reality of Mother’s Day when addiction is part of your story.From unmet expectations… to feeling unseen… to grieving the version of family life you thought you’d have… this episode puts words to feelings so many people quietly carry.In this episode, we talk about:Why Mother’s Day can feel emotionally heavy in addictionThe hope that “maybe this year will be different”The heartbreak of disappointment and unmet expectationsGrieving the life and relationship you thought you’d haveThe invisible loneliness of high-functioning addictionWhy social media can make these feelings even harderThe meaning we attach to gifts, effort, and feeling seenHow to approach Mother’s Day with more compassion for yourselfBecause truthfullyYou can love your family deeply… and still feel sadness.You can feel grateful… and still grieve what’s missing.And multiple things can be true at once.This episode is for you if:Mother’s Day feels complicatedYou feel unseen or emotionally aloneAddiction has changed how family celebrations feelYou’re carrying grief no one else seems to noticeYou’re trying to hold it all together for everyone elseIf this episode feels close to home… you don’t have to carry this on your own.Amanda has opened up a small number of “talk it through” spaces - a chance to simply talk things through with someone who understands this space.👉 book in a friendly chat hereYou are allowed to have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day.And you are worthy of being seen, appreciated, and cared for too.👉 Resources and support:If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthreeQuestions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 88 - Why Learning More About Addiction Might Be Keeping You Stuck 05.05.2026 15Min.

  You’ve learnt a lot about addiction.You understand the patterns.You can see what’s happening.You’ve done the reading, the podcasts, the research.So why does it still feel like nothing is changing?In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into - especially when you’re trying to handle this better:👉 learning more… instead of doing differentlyBecause at some point, more knowledge doesn’t create change.It keeps you in what I call consumption mode.In this episode, we cover:What “consumption mode” actually looks like (and how to spot it)Why learning more about addiction can start to keep you stuckThe difference between understanding something and being able to act on itWhy you can’t access what you know in high-stress momentsHow your nervous system pulls you back into familiar patternsWhy this isn’t about effort - it’s about implementationWhat actually helps you start doing things differentlyTruthfully...You’re not stuck because you don’t care.And you’re definitely not stuck because you’re not trying.You’re stuck because knowing what to do and being able to do it in real life…are two very different things.Here’s the shiftThere’s no prize for knowing everything about addiction.Change doesn’t come from more information.It comes from:👉 practising something different👉 applying it in real moments👉 getting support while you doIf you’re thinking:“I know so much… but I’m still doing the same things…”You don’t need another podcast.You need support to start doing this differently.👉 Resources and support:If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.You can study the map all you like…But nothing changes until you actually start walking the path of change.1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 87 - Why It’s Not Getting Better (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right) 01.05.2026 19Min.

  You’re struggling with a loved one’s addiction and you’re trying really hard to make things better.Reading.Listening.Learning everything you can.Trying to handle this better.Trying to respond better.Trying to make things work.And yet…You still find yourself in the same place.Reacting.Overthinking.Carrying it all.And nothing is actually getting better - in fact it’s getting worse.In this episode, we’re talking about why.Because this isn’t a lack of effort.And it’s not because you’re not capable.I am talking about...Why “trying harder” isn’t creating changeThe trap of believing you should be able to handle this aloneHow addiction becomes normalised over timeWhy this isn’t a knowledge problemThe difference between awareness and actual changeWhy doing the same things keeps you stuckI know you’ve done hard things before. Built careers. Raised children. Handled more than most people ever will.So of course you think:“I should be able to do this.”But this is different.You don’t need more information.You need the right support.Because this isn’t something you can think your way out of.If you’re tired of doing more of the same and ending up in the same place…This is your moment to do something different.Not everything.Just one thing.If you’re ready for support, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for my program, or book in a friendly chat with me where I can suggest the next best step for you.Nothing changes if nothing changes.But that change?It doesn’t have to be everything.Just the next step.👉 Resources and support:1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 86 - I Can’t Keep Doing This: What Happens When You Reach Your Limit 29.04.2026 16Min.

  Sometimes it’s not a big moment.Not a crisis.Not the worst day.Not the breaking point you thought it would be.It’s quieter than that.It’s the moment where something inside you says:“I can’t keep doing this like this.”In this episode, we’re talking about that moment.The one where you realise:👉 This isn’t sustainable👉 This isn’t working👉 And something needs to changeEven if you don’t know what that looks like yet.🎧 In this episode, we cover:The “low hum” of anxiety that becomes normalWhy things don’t need to be a crisis to not be okayWhat’s actually in your control (and what isn’t)Why waiting and hoping keeps you stuckThe quiet decision that shifts everythingI know you’ve been holding a lot together for a long time.Managing.Anticipating.Keeping things steady for everyone else.And it’s costing you.The truth is, If nothing changes… nothing changes. And over time? It gets heavier. Not lighter.You don't need to have all the answers. Just to acknowledge:👉 “Not like this.”So iff you’re thinking,“I don’t want another year like this…”Listen to that little whisper.You don’t need everything to fall apart to decide something needs to change.Sometimes it starts with: “Not life like this.”Listen next:Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With AddictionEp 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you StuckEp 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me?Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life👉 Resources and support:1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy.👉 Get the Free Guide4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 85 - The Part No One Talks About Series: Sobriety Doesn’t Fix the Relationship 26.04.2026 21Min.

  You thought sobriety would change everything. I know I did...That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better.More relaxed.More connected.Less on edge.But what happens when sobriety comes… and your relationship still doesn’t feel right?In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel confronting—but incredibly important to understand:Sobriety doesn’t automatically fix a relationship.Because while it might remove the chaos… it doesn’t undo the impact.What we are talking about in this episodeWhy sobriety doesn’t automatically rebuild trustThe difference between stopping the behaviour and repairing the relationshipWhy you might still feel disconnected, guarded, or unsureHow survival mode patterns can continue even after things improveWhat actually needs to happen for a relationship to move forwardBecause...You can want something for so long… and finally get it…And still feel like something isn’t quite right.That doesn’t make you ungrateful. And it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.It means there’s more work to be done than just sobriety.If you’re in that in-between space… where things are “better”… but not actually good…And you’re thinking:“I don’t want another year feeling like this…”I’ve created a live workshop for you:“How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not”It’s about steadying you.Inside, we’ll focus on:Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-dayBecause when you’re steady?Everything changes.👉 Reserve your spotOr DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage.You will leave with practical tools to:• Reduce reactivity• Calm your nervous system• Stop living on edge• Support your loved one without abandoning yourselfIf this episode resonated, don’t wait.👉 Register here You deserve steadiness.Listen to the seriesThis episode is part of The Part No One Talks About series.If this is your first time here, start from the beginning:Episode 80: This Isn’t Just StressEpisode 82: How It Impacts Your Ability to ParentEpisode 83: You Look Fine… But You’re NotEpisode 84: He’s Sober… So Why Don’t You Feel Better?Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 84 - The Part No One Talks About Series: When Sobriety Isn’t What You Expected 23.04.2026 17Min.

  You thought sobriety would change everything.That once they stopped drinking… you’d finally feel better.More relaxed.More connected.Less on edge.But what happens when that moment comes… and you still don’t feel okay?In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re talking about something that can feel incredibly confusing:When sobriety isn’t the relief you expected.Because while things might look better on paper…Inside, you might still feel:On edgeHyper-awareLike you’re waiting for something to go wrongUnable to fully relaxAnd no one really prepares you for that.🎧 In this episode, we cover:Why sobriety doesn’t automatically create calm for youThe difference between sobriety and recoveryWhy your nervous system doesn’t “switch off” overnightWhat happens when your wellbeing is tied to their behaviourWhy you might still be showing up in survival modeThe hidden impact of years of unpredictability, stress and bracingBecause Honestly...You can be in a better situation…and still not feel okay.And that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.It means you’ve been carrying a lot.If this resonates…If you’re sitting there thinking:“I don’t want to do another year feeling like this…”I’ve created a live workshop for you:“How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not”It’s about steadying you.Inside, we’ll focus on:Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-dayBecause when you’re steady?Everything changes.👉 Reserve your spotOr DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage.You will leave with practical tools to:• Reduce reactivity• Calm your nervous system• Stop living on edge• Support your loved one without abandoning yourselfIf this episode resonated, don’t wait.👉 Register here You deserve steadiness.Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 83 - The Part No One Talks About Series: You Look Fine… But You’re Not 21.04.2026 11Min.

  In this episode of The Part No One Talks About series, we’re diving into the invisible impact of loving someone with addiction.Because while addiction can be loud…The impact on you is often silent.This episode is for the ones who:Look like they’re holding it all togetherBut feel like they’re bracing every single dayAnd wonder why they’re so exhausted… even when nothing “looks wrong”What we talk aboutWhy the impact on partners and family members is often invisibleThe emotional weight of “looking fine” when you’re notThe constant mental load (the 2am thoughts, the what-ifs, the rehearsing)Why you might be cancelling plans or pulling away from peopleThe grief no one sees, for your life, your relationship, and what could have beenWhy this isn’t something you just “push through”Just because it’s invisibledoesn’t mean it’s not heavy.And just because you’re coping…doesn’t mean you’re okay.💛 A gentle invitationIf you’re tired of feeling like you’re bracing all the time…And you’re ready to feel even just a little more steady this year.I’ve created a live workshop:“How to Live This Year Differently: Whether your loved one is sober or not”This isn’t about fixing them.It’s about steadying you.Inside, we’ll focus on:Feeling less reactive and more groundedSupporting yourself without burning outCreating small but powerful shifts that change your day-to-dayBecause when you’re steady?Everything changes.👉 Reserve your spotOr DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage.You will leave with practical tools to:• Reduce reactivity• Calm your nervous system• Stop living on edge• Support your loved one without abandoning yourselfIf this episode resonated, don’t wait.👉 Register here You deserve steadiness.Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 82 - The Part No One Talks About Series: How it impacts your ability to parent 16.04.2026 10Min.

  This is the part no one talks about.Not the addiction itself.Not your loved one.But you. The spouse, the one without the addiction.In this episode, we’re diving into the hidden impact addiction has on your parenting. The snapping, the numbness, the overwhelm… and the quiet guilt that follows.Because here’s the truth, It’s not that you’re an impatient parent.It’s that you’re running on empty and have no capacity.If you’ve ever:Snapped at your kids and thought “that wasn’t about them…”Felt physically present but mentally somewhere elseWondered why you’re reacting bigger than the momentThis episode is for you.Your kids don’t remember everything… But they remember how they felt.And when you’re stuck in survival mode?That shows up.Not because you’re a bad parent, but because you’ve been carrying too much for too long.What I am talking about…Why it’s not about patience, it’s about capacityHow loving someone with addiction impacts your nervous system + parentingThe invisible mental load you’re carrying (even if you don’t have the addiction)Why you feel like you’re “losing it”… and what’s actually going on underneathThe small (but powerful) shift that can change how you show up for your kidsIf you are Ready to Do This Year Differently?If you’re tired of feeling:On edgeOverwhelmedLike you’re just survivingI’ve created something for you.Workshop: “How to Live This Year Differently - Whether Your Loved One Is Sober or Not”This is NOT about fixing them.This is about helping you get steady.Because when you’re steady?Everything changes.👉 Reserve your spotOr DM me “WORKSHOP” on Instagram and I’ll send it to you.This workshop is for spouses navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage.You will leave with practical tools to:• Reduce reactivity• Calm your nervous system• Stop living on edge• Support your loved one without abandoning yourselfIf this episode resonated, don’t wait.👉 Register here You deserve steadiness.Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 81 - A Personal Update: Grief, Losing My Voice, and Why I’m Here 02.04.2026 23Min.

  This episode is a little different.I wanted to sit down and share a personal update, what’s been happening behind the scenes for me, why I went quiet for a while, and what I’ve been navigating over the past few months.Just before Christmas, I received some devastating news. A dear friend of mine, Jack Nagel, passed away suddenly.This episode is me trying to put words to that experience.The grief, the shock, the strange loneliness of grief when you lose someone you didn’t share “people” with… and how it, to be honest, completely stopped me in my tracks.I found myself quietly paralysed and questioning everything.My voice.My work.Whether anything I was saying even mattered.This grief felt so familiar in a way, yet so different. That grief where it just feels so heavy, where you’re quietly carrying something that no one else can really see or understand.👉 If you need support:My DMs are always open on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 80 - The Part No One Talks About Series: This Isn’t Just Stress. It’s the Impact of Addiction. 20.02.2026 12Min.

  You might be telling yourself you’re just stressed.It’s January.It's school holidays.It’s work.It’s parenting.It’s just a busy season.But if you love someone struggling with alcoholism or addiction in your family or relationship, what you’re feeling might not be “just stress.”It might be survival mode.In this episode of "The Part No One Talks About" mini-series, I talk about:• Why you’re constantly bracing• The scanning, anticipating and replaying• The emotional load you’re carrying• How we minimise the impact on ourselves• Why “trying harder” isn’t the solutionIf you are exhausted, reactive, at capacity, snapping at your kids over Play-Doh… this conversation is for you.Because you don’t need more patience.You need steadiness.And that’s exactly what we’ll be working on inside the live workshop:How To Live This Year DifferentlyFebruary 24/25 This workshop is for spouses and families navigating addiction or sobriety at any stage.You will leave with practical tools to: • Reduce reactivity • Calm your nervous system • Stop living on edge • Support your loved one without abandoning yourselfIf this episode resonated, don’t wait.👉 Join us here: Reserve your spotCan't make it live? Register for the workshop and you'll get the replay in your inbox shortly afterwards.You deserve steadiness.Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 79 - "I Can’t Do Another Year Like This” When You’re Exhausted Living with Addiction 18.02.2026 21Min.

  You’re tired. I know you are. Not just “busy” tired.Not just “it’s been a long week” tired.You are life + Addiction tired.You’re exhausted from holding everything together, for everyone, for years.If you’re living alongside addiction, whether your loved one is in active addiction, early sobriety, or years into recovery, and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, holding your breath and constantly bracing… this episode is for you.In this conversation, we talk about:The hidden toll of hypervigilance and over-functioningWhy sobriety alone doesn’t automatically make your life feel betterThe trap of “I’ll feel better when…”How survival mode becomes your defaultWhat last year actually cost youAnd the question most people are too scared to ask themselves:Is this good enough?If you’ve caught yourself thinking,“I can’t do another year like this…” but you don’t want pressure, ultimatums, or someone telling you what to do…This episode is your pause.Because your life does not have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change.💛 The WorkshopOn February 24th/25th, I’m hosting a private workshop:How to Live This Year Differently ( Whether Your Loved One Is Sober or Not)This isn’t about fixing anyone.It’s not about confrontation.It’s not about making big, scary decisions.It’s a space to:BreatheReflect on what last year took from youGently identify what needs to shiftTake back responsibility for your own steadiness and wellbeingYou don’t need a plan.You don’t need your ducks in a row.You just need a little space.If you know you can’t do another year on addiction autopilot…👉 Join us here: Reserve your spotCan't make it live? Register for the workshop and you'll get the replay in your inbox shortly afterwards.Let's connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 78 - Acknowledging the Year You’ve Survived 14.01.2026 13Min.

  If you’ve spent the past year holding everything together while your loved one's addiction has chipped away at your energy, your hope, and your sense of self, this episode is for you.In this raw, honest conversation, we look back at the year you’ve survived.Not minimising it.Not pretending it was “fine.”Not brushing it off because “it used to be worse.”This episode gently and truthfully names what you’ve been carrying:• The constant tension in the home• The emotional load of parenting alone• The hypervigilance that has become your second skin• The grief for the relationship you hoped for• The exhaustion of managing everyone’s feelings but your own• The loneliness of knowing most people will never understand this lifeYou are not dramatic.You are not “overreacting.”You are a human who has been living in survival mode for far too long.Resources and support:1️⃣ If you already know you cannot do another year like this one, the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is now open. This is my signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction, with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here2️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy.👉 Get the Free Guide4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
• 77 - Holiday Series: Why Your Christmas Doesn’t Depend on Their Sobriety 11.12.2025 21Min.

  Part 6 of the Holiday SeriesIf you’ve lived through more than one chaotic December, you’ve probably told yourself:“Christmas will only be okay if he’s sober.”“Maybe this year will be different… if he sticks to what he promised.”In this bonus episode of the Holiday Series, I am sharing the part nobody really tells spouses and families of someone struggling with addiction:Your experience of Christmas doesn’t actually depend on whether they drinks, use, shows up on time, or follow through on promises.It depends on you having a plan, support and steadiness in yourself.I talk about...Why most people here quietly assume “this is just how December is now” …and how that belief keeps you stuck repeating the same painful holiday patterns, year after year.I share stories from past clients and how they went into Christmas with a plan, even while their partner’s drinking/drug use was unpredictable. and what actually changed for them and their kids.The hidden cost of “I’ll just handle it” and why white-knuckling your way through the holidays leaves you depleted, resentful and running on fumes by New Year’s.How to shifting from “waiting for them to be better” to “I’m allowed to create calm, clarity and moments of joy independent of what they do.”What realistic hope looks like when you’re the safe parent, and howow to hold both: grief for what you wish your family could be and hope that your holidays can feel different from the inside out.If this episode feels like it’s narrating your life, you’re not broken, dramatic or asking for too much.You’re exhausted from carrying far more than anyone can see, and you deserve support, too.And your holiday experience can be different (even if nothing changes on their end)🎄 JOIN THE FREE HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE WORKSHOPThis is where we turn understanding into a plan.Inside, you’ll learn real tools to navigate this season:💛 Grounding strategies for chaotic moments💛 Scripts for difficult family conversations💛 How to reduce conflict without walking on eggshells💛 Boundaries that actually protect your peace💛 A plan for unpredictable moments💛 Permission (and support) to prioritise YOUYou deserve a holiday that doesn’t depend on which “version” of Them shows up.👉 Save your free seat here👉 Resources and support:1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy.👉 Get the Free Guide4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree5️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.