How to Get What You Want

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  Three Questions That Make Accomplished Leaders Go Quiet 21.07.2026 20Min.

  Send us Fan Mail I have three questions I come back to more than almost any other with my clients, and every time, I watch a smart, accomplished leader go quiet. Not because they're unsure. Because they've never had to answer it before. I'm sharing what those three questions are and what that quiet usually means. It's rarely about what people think it's about, and once you see it, it's hard to unsee. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize when you're treating something as fixed that's actuall...
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  Nobody Asked If You Were Okay With That 14.07.2026 17Min.

  Send us Fan Mail There's a version of negotiation that has nothing to do with raises or job offers. It happens in ordinary conversations, when an agreement quietly becomes something bigger than what you actually said yes to. Most people don't catch it in the moment. They catch it later, and by then they've already started doubting themselves instead of questioning what changed. That self-doubt is doing more damage than the shift itself. I'm breaking down why this happens, how to spot it befor...
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  Things Nobody Told You About Leading Through an AI Rollout 07.07.2026 17Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Almost every company is rolling out AI right now, but far fewer have any idea how to actually adopt it. That gap is where leaders are getting caught. The pressure is to cut costs and move fast, so the message becomes "everyone start using AI" with almost no conversation about how. Meanwhile, your team is picking it up at completely different speeds, and the differences start showing up in trust, in communication, in who's actually still growing. In this episode, I'll cover: S...
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  The Skill That Stops You From Overcommitting 30.06.2026 18Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Someone asks you to take something on, and before they've even finished, you've already said yes. You didn't check your calendar. You didn't ask if it was your job. And three weeks later, you're carrying work you never wanted and quietly resenting the person who handed it to you. That yes was automatic. And automatic isn't the same as generous. This episode is about catching that yes before it leaves your mouth, and saying no instead in a way that's warm, fast, and doesn't co...
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  What to Do When the Answer Is No 23.06.2026 20Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Getting a no can throw you in a way that doesn't really make sense until you've felt it. You make the ask, it doesn't land, and suddenly you're quiet and a little off your game, and the worst part is how long that feeling sticks around afterward. What you might not realize is that the people in the room feel it too. They're not walking away thinking about what you asked for. They're thinking about how you handled not getting it, and that impression can quietly shape how they ...
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  How to Get Into the Rooms You're Not In Yet 16.06.2026 18Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You've watched a colleague get tapped for the senior meeting, the stretch project, the introduction you didn't know was happening. And your first thought wasn't resentment, it was confusion. They know how hard you work. They know what you're capable of. So why aren't they picking you? Because people don't live in your head, and if you haven't told them where you want to go, they're not guessing. In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually takes to get access to the op...
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  The Right Time to Ask Is Never Going to Feel Right 09.06.2026 16Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You keep delivering. You keep saying yes to more responsibility. And somewhere in the back of your mind, you tell yourself it's just not the right time to ask for the title, the raise, the recognition you've been waiting on. But on the other side of that silence, your boss isn't waiting with you. They're watching you perform and assuming you're fine. In this episode, I'll cover: Why silence signals satisfaction, even when you're anything butThe 90-day window that determines w...
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  The Career Move No One Else Can Make for You 02.06.2026 20Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You see a colleague get the stretch assignment. You think, "Good for them." And then, quietly, "Why not me?" That moment is where most people stop. But that question, "Why not me?" is exactly where a negotiator starts. Research shows 46% of managers don't even know what their people want next. That's not on them. That's on you knowing it first. Getting what you want at work starts long before any conversation. It starts with being clear enough to say it out loud. In this epis...
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  Office Politics Isn't Dirty, It's How You Get What You Want 26.05.2026 23Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Most of us hear "office politics" and immediately distance ourselves. It sounds manipulative, underhanded, like something people with questionable integrity do to get ahead. So we opt out. We stay professional, stay quiet, keep our heads down. But opting out is still a choice. And while you're making it, someone else is in the room getting credit for your idea, volunteering to send out your work, and positioning himself for the opportunity you didn't raise your hand for. In t...
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  Why the Most Prepared Person in the Room Always Wins 19.05.2026 20Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You've been thinking about a conversation for days, maybe longer, and when you finally walk in, something unexpected happens. The other person says something that catches you off guard, the energy shifts, and suddenly everything you planned feels out of reach. You end up agreeing to something you didn't mean to, and you spend the drive home wondering how it went sideways so fast. That moment isn't about confidence. It's about preparation, and specifically what happens when th...
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  When to Push and When to Pause in High Stakes Conversations 12.05.2026 19Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You're ready for the client presentation, the meeting with your boss, the room full of people counting on you to speak. You rehearsed, you have a plan, and the moment finally comes. But the energy is tight, something feels off, and instead of pausing to read it, you push through anyway. The call goes hollow. And you know it the second it's over. That gap between what you prepared for and what the room actually needed? That's where situational awareness lives. And it's the one...
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  What Imposter Syndrome Actually Looks Like in High Performers 05.05.2026 18Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Seventy percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point, and it hits hardest in high achievers. The more capable you are, the wider the gap feels between how others see you and how you see yourself. And the sneaky part is it rarely looks like doubt. It looks like stepping back, staying quiet, giving someone else the floor and calling it professional. That quiet step backward has a cost. In this episode, I'm getting specific about where it actually shows up in lea...
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  Why Getting Things Done Isn't Getting You Noticed 28.04.2026 20Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Your calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list. It's not a confidence problem. It's not a performance problem. But something is quietly happening to the way you're thinking, and it's costing you visibility at exactly the moment it matters most. In this episode, I'll cover: Recognize the three signs that your mindse...
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  The Excuses You Make That Are Costing You What You Want 21.04.2026 21Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of it so many times that the ask never happens. That's not strategy. It's directly connected to getting what you want, and every time you find a reason to wait, you're giving yourself a no bef...
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  The Meeting Mistake That Makes You Forgettable 14.04.2026 18Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Think about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the moment passed, and someone else said something close enough to your idea that everyone moved on without you. That's not just a missed moment. It's directly connected to getting what you want in your career. Every time you stay silent, you're...
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  Your Words Are Telling People How to See You 07.04.2026 21Min.

  Send us Fan Mail Every time you speak, you're shaping how people receive what you say. And most of the time, you're doing it without realizing it. It sounds like this: I'm not as technical as everyone here, but... or this may not be helpful, but... It feels polite. It feels humble. But what it's actually doing is telling people exactly how much weight to give your ideas before they've even heard them. In this episode, I'll cover: Why the phrases that feel humble or polite are actually costing...
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  The Habit Making You Invisible at Work 31.03.2026 19Min.

  Send us Fan Mail How often do you say “I’m good” and move on? It sounds harmless, but it’s one of the fastest ways to disappear in your career. I see talented leaders doing this all the time: you’re doing the work, and you’re driving results, but in the moments that actually shape perception, you’re saying nothing. This isn’t about bragging. It’s about being intentional with how you frame your value. When you start thinking like a negotiator, even casual conversations become opportunities to ...
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  What to Do When You Receive Conflicting Feedback 24.03.2026 24Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You can be a confident leader and still feel thrown off by feedback. Especially when it points in completely different directions. One person tells you to speak up more. Another says you’re too strong. Suddenly, you’re left wondering which version of you is actually right. Tune in as I talk about how to think about feedback when it feels confusing or even contradictory. I share how I’ve learned to step back, separate emotion from information, and look for what feedback is rea...
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  What To Do When A Decision Blindsides You 17.03.2026 23Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You walk into a meeting prepared and you think you’ve anticipated the questions + direction of the conversation. Then suddenly the decision goes a different way, and you feel the shift immediately. Your body reacts before your brain catches up. That reaction isn’t just frustration. When reality doesn’t match what your brain expected, it triggers a response that can make even experienced leaders defensive or reactive. This episode is about recognizing that moment and knowing h...
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  Elevate Your Differentiator: R.A.I.S.E. Framework Part 5 10.03.2026 15Min.

  Send us Fan Mail You’ve recognized the moment. You’ve aligned. You’ve inserted value. You’ve supported others. Now it’s time to elevate. In this final part of the R.A.I.S.E. framework, I’m challenging you to stop leaving your growth up to interpretation. Silence inhibits opportunity. If you don’t anchor your value and raise your hand, someone else will. Elevate is about understanding your differentiator, naming your ROI, and making it easier for others to see where you belong. You’ll walk awa...