Addiction Makes Three

Amanda Lockyer

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Είδη Κοινωνία & Πολιτισμός, Υγεία & Fitness, Ψυχική Υγεία, Σχέσεις

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Επεισόδια 96

Τελευταίο 25.07.2026

Addiction Makes Three The Podcast, hosted by Amanda Lockyer, explores the often overlooked impact of addiction on partners and families. It offers support, tools, and strategies for those navigating a loved one's addiction or recovery, drawing from Amanda's personal experience as an Addiction Relationship Coach.

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105 - I Don't Know What To Do. Finding Clarity When You Love Someone With Addiction 25.07.2026 24λ

One of the most common things I hear from partners and family members is..."I don't know what to do anymore."If you've ever found yourself wondering:Should I stay or leave?How do I support someone with addiction?What boundaries should I set?Should I tell the kids?How do I know if I'm doing the right thing?...this episode is for you.Living alongside addiction is exhausting. You're often carrying the emotional weight of the family, trying to protect your children, making impossible decisions, and second-guessing yourself every step of the way.In this episode, I share why feeling confused doesn't mean you're weak or incapable. It often means you've been carrying far too much for far too long.We'll talk about:Why "I don't know what to do" is such a common experienceDecision fatigue and emotional overwhelmWhy clarity feels impossible when you're in survival modeThe hidden impact of hypervigilanceHow to stop trying to solve the next ten yearsA gentler question that can help you find your next stepIf you've been searching for answers while supporting a loved one with alcohol or drug addiction, I hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone.🌿 Looking for more support?👉Discovery to RecoveryIf this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.👉Recovery ReclaimedIf you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.👉 Pathway to WellnessIf you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.👉 Not sure where to begin?If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
104 - From My Notebook | The Signs of Recovery We Almost Always Miss 21.07.2026 25λ

When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it's natural to focus on the obvious signs. Are they drinking? Using? Going to meetings? Following through with treatment?But what if some of the most meaningful signs of recovery are the ones we almost always miss?In this first From My Notebook episode, I'm sharing a story that has stayed with me long after a coaching session ended. It starts with a lemon tree... but it's really about recognising the quiet moments that tell us someone is slowly finding their way back to themselves.If you're supporting a loved one with addiction, feeling exhausted, hypervigilant, or constantly searching for reassurance, this episode will gently invite you to look beyond the crisis and notice the ordinary moments where hope quietly begins.In this episode, we explore:Why families and spouses naturally become hypervigilant when living with addiction.The quiet signs of recovery we often overlook.Why recovery is about more than sobriety.How noticing the small moments can help you reconnect with hope.Why healing begins long before life feels "fixed."Because sometimes recovery doesn't arrive with fireworks, or a grand entrance announcing itself.Sometimes... it quietly arrives with lemons.🌿 Looking for more support?👉Discovery to RecoveryIf this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.👉Recovery ReclaimedIf you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.👉 Pathway to WellnessIf you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.👉 Not sure where to begin?If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.You don't have to keep carrying this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
103 - The Things You Can (and Can't) Control 02.07.2026 22λ

What if your peace didn't have to wait?So many of us quietly tell ourselves:💛 "I'll feel better when they stop drinking."💛 "I'll relax when they get help."💛 "I'll be happy when things settle down."But what if peace doesn't arrive at the end of someone else's recovery journey?In this episode, Amanda shares two powerful voice notes from a listener whose words capture something so many families affected by addiction experience:We can't make someone stop drinking.We can't force someone into recovery.But we can begin changing where we put our time, energy and focus, and support someone in a healthy way.In this episode we are talking aboutWhy trying to change someone else's drinking leaves us exhaustedThe difference between supporting someone and carrying themWhy your wellbeing doesn't have to depend on someone else's choicesWhat you can and can't control when living with a loved one's addictionHow to begin finding peace, whether your loved one is drinking, sober or somewhere in betweenIf you've ever found yourself searching for:• How do I stop worrying about my husband's drinking?• How do I find peace when someone I love has an addiction?• Why do I feel responsible for someone else's recovery?• How do I support someone without losing myself?This episode is for you.👉 READY FOR THE NEXT STEP?If today's episode resonated, I'd love to invite you to explore Discovery to Recovery.Discovery to Recovery is my coaching programme for partners and family members affected by addiction. It's designed to help you stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, reconnect with yourself, and find more peace, regardless of where your loved one is on their journey.You don't have to wait for someone else to change before you start changing your own experience. Find out more here👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction. Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
102 - It’s all you think about. It takes Up Everything in Your Mind 26.06.2026 15λ

If you've been feeling exhausted lately... but it's not the kind of exhaustion sleep fixes... this episode is for you.When you're living with a partner or loved one struggling with alcohol addiction or substance use, it's not just the drinking that's exhausting.It's the constant worrying.The overthinking.The planning.The scanning.The mental load of trying to keep everything together while wondering what kind of day or night it's going to be.In this episode, Amanda shares more powerful listener voice notes from the OUT LOUD series and explores the invisible weight so many families carry but rarely talk about.If you've ever found yourself thinking:💛 Why am I so exhausted all the time?💛 Why can't I switch off?💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?💛 Why does it feel like my brain never stops?This episode will help you understand why.FREE LIVE WORKSHOPHow to Let Go Without Giving UpHow to Find Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or NotIf today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to invite you to my free live workshop.Together we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to reconnect with yourself again - without giving up on the person you love.Whether your loved one is actively drinking, in recovery, or somewhere in between, you'll leave with practical tools and a new way of thinking about your own wellbeing.July 2nd | 3rd (replay will be available)Register your spot here 👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
101 - It Steals Us Away from the Person We Used to Be 24.06.2026 23λ

What happens when you spend so much time focused on someone else's addiction that you stop recognising yourself?In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores one of the quieter impacts of loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours: the loss of self that can happen along the way.Through powerful listener voice notes and Amanda's own experiences, this episode dives into what it looks like when your thoughts become consumed by someone else's drinking, recovery, moods, choices, and wellbeing.You might recognise yourself if you've ever found yourself wondering:💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?💛 Why do I feel so exhausted all the time?💛 Have I lost myself in this relationship?💛 Why don't I know what I want anymore?💛 How do I stop addiction consuming my life?Amanda shares why this happens, how loving someone with addiction can slowly pull us away from ourselves, and why reconnecting with who you are doesn't have to start with a huge life change.This episode is part of the OUT LOUD series, sharing the real voices and lived experiences of people impacted by a loved one's addiction.👉 FREE LIVE WORKSHOP - July 2nd | 3rd replay will be availableLetting Go Without Giving Up - Finding Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or NotIf you've ever found yourself thinking:"I'll feel better when they get help.""I'll relax when things settle down.""I'll be happy when the drinking stops."This free live workshop is for you.Together, we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to start reconnecting with yourself again.Because your life doesn't have to stay on hold while you wait for someone else to change.July 2nd | 3rd replay will be availableRegister your spot here👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
100 - The Things We Rarely Say Out Loud About Loving Someone with Addiction 19.06.2026 32λ

What if the hardest part isn't their addiction...What if it's what living alongside addiction has done to you?For this special 100th episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares real voice notes from listeners around the world about what it's really like loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction, substance use, or addictive behaviours.Together, their voices share...Feeling exhausted from constantly worryingWalking on eggshells and living in anticipationLosing themselves in someone else's addictionThe loneliness nobody seesGrief, heartbreak and wanting peaceIf you've ever found yourself searching:"Have I lost myself?""Why am I so exhausted all the time?""Why does nobody understand?"or"This is consuming my life..."This episode is for you.💛 OUT LOUDThis episode is the beginning of a special series sharing the voices, experiences and stories of people impacted by a loved one's addiction.Want to add your voice? Visit: www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloud👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it throughThe waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness ProgramPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
99 - I Think I've Lost Myself In This. Who Am I Without Their Addiction? 16.06.2026 28λ

Have you ever stopped and wondered who you would be if addiction wasn't part of your life anymore?Not because you don't love your person.But because addiction has taken up so much space in your life that you've lost touch with yourself.In this episode, we're talking about the quiet loss of identity that can happen when you've spent years focused on someone else's drinking, drug use, recovery, choices and wellbeing.We chat about...💛 Why addiction can slowly become part of your identity💛 Why peace can feel scarier than chaos💛 The labels many loved ones unknowingly carry💛 Grieving the version of yourself you feel you've lost💛 How to begin reconnecting with yourself againIf you've ever thought:"I think I've lost myself in this."This episode is for you.👉 READY TO TALK IT THROUGH?If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with me.It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.book in a friendly chat to talk it through👉 Special Listener SeriesAs Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud"Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloudBecause sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear.👉 Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
98 - Is This Just My Life Now? How Addiction Slowly Makes Your World Smaller 11.06.2026 22λ

A client recently said to me, "I finally love my job... but I don't get joy anywhere."And I think that one sentence captures what so many people impacted by addiction experience. Because one of the sneakiest things about survival mode is that it doesn't always look like falling apart.Sometimes it looks like functioning.You still go to work.You still parent.You still pay the bills.You still show up.From the outside, it can look like you're coping.Maybe you've even been telling yourself you're coping.But somewhere along the way, life starts becoming something you get through rather than something you experience.You stop seeing friends as often.You stop doing things you enjoy.You stop making plans.You stop dreaming about what you want.And without even realising it, your world slowly becomes smaller.In this episode, we're talking about the hidden impact addiction can have on the people living alongside it.Not just the obvious challenges.But the way loving someone struggling with alcohol addiction can affect your joy, your identity, your relationships, and your experience of your own life.💛 Why survival mode can feel so normal you stop noticing it💛 The difference between coping and truly living💛 Why so many spouses and partners of people struggling with addiction feel disconnected from themselves💛 How addiction can slowly shrink your world without you realising💛 The question I believe every person living alongside addiction needs to ask themselvesBecause the goal isn't simply to cope.The goal is to live.And if you've been feeling exhausted, disconnected, emotionally flat, or like life has become something you're managing rather than enjoying, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not alone.And perhaps more importantly... that this doesn't have to be the rest of your life.🎧 Listen now and let me know what resonated most.👉👉 Special Listener SeriesAs Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud"Share your voice and answer one of three questions:What do you wish more people knew about loving someone with addiction?When you look back, how has addiction changed you?What do you want more of in your life now?👉👉 Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloudBecause sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear.👉 Want more support and clarity?If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.💕The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
97 - I Don't Think I Get To Fall Apart 09.06.2026 18λ

What happens when you've spent years being the strong one?The one who keeps going.The one who remembers everything.The one who holds the family together.The one who keeps functioning no matter what's happening around them.In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores the hidden exhaustion so many people impacted by addiction carry.The kind of exhaustion that doesn't come from a bad week.But from years of hypervigilance, over-functioning, emotional responsibility and survival mode.Because somewhere along the way, many people stop asking:"How am I?"And start asking:"What needs doing next?"If you've ever felt like you don't get to fall apart, this episode is for you.In this episode:Why being the strong one can become part of your identityThe hidden emotional cost of always holding everything togetherThe difference between wanting to leave your relationship and wanting to leave your responsibilitiesWhy so many people impacted by addiction feel exhausted, resentful and disconnectedThe question Amanda wishes more people would ask themselvesYour loved one's recovery matters.But so does yours.If you've been carrying more than anyone realises, perhaps even more than you realise yourself, maybe today's episode is your reminder that you don't have to keep doing it alone.👉👉 Special Listener SeriesAs Addiction Makes Three approaches 100 episodes, Amanda is inviting listeners to be part of a special series called "Out Loud"Share your voice and answer one of three questions:What do you wish more people knew about loving someone with addiction?When you look back, how has addiction changed you?What do you want more of in your life now?👉👉 Visit www.addictionmakesthree.com/outloudBecause sometimes the things we think we're carrying alone are the very things somebody else needs to hear.🎧 Listen now.Want more support and clarity?If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.💕The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
96 - I Can't Switch Off: Why I'm Always Waiting For Something To Go Wrong 04.06.2026 20λ

Do you feel like you're always waiting for the next problem?The next phone call.The next argument.The next relapse.The next thing that throws everything off course.If you love someone struggling with addiction, that constant feeling of being "on" can become so normal that you stop questioning it.You tell yourself you're just stressed.Just tired.Just a bit anxious.But what if the reason you can't relax has nothing to do with your personality?In this episode, Amanda explores one of the hidden impacts of loving someone with addiction: survival mode.From constantly scanning moods and overthinking conversations to feeling responsible for everyone else's wellbeing, many spouses and family members find themselves living in a state of hypervigilance without even realising it.Amanda shares why anxiety, emotional exhaustion and the inability to switch off are often signs of a nervous system that has spent years adapting to uncertainty.Inside this episode:• Why you're always waiting for something to go wrong• The hidden impact addiction has on your nervous system• What survival mode actually looks like in everyday life• Why hypervigilance becomes normal• The difference between surviving and feeling safe• Why there's nothing wrong with youIf you've ever found yourself asking:"Why can't I relax?""Why am I always on edge?""Why do I feel responsible for everything?"This episode is for you.🎧 Listen now.And if you're ready to stop carrying this on your own, Discovery to Recovery is designed to help you move from survival mode to feeling steadier, clearer and less alone.Because your loved one's recovery matters.But so does yours.💕If you're thinking: "I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step. Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
95 - I Know Something Needs To Change… I Just Don't Know Where To Start 02.06.2026 20λ

Learn more about Discovery to Recovery hereYou know something needs to change.You know something isn't working.You know you're exhausted.But when you're living with addiction in a relationship, knowing what to do next can feel impossible.Maybe you're constantly thinking about your loved one's drinking, drug use, gambling, or addictive behaviour.Maybe you're walking on eggshells, trying not to make things worse.Maybe you're lying awake at night wondering:"Am I overreacting?""Is it really that bad?""How much longer do I wait?""What am I supposed to do?"And honestly, when you're living with addiction in your home, it's easy to become stuck between recognising there's a problem and knowing what to do about it.In this episode, Amanda explores one of the most difficult parts of loving someone with addiction:The confusion.The limbo.The emotional exhaustion that comes from trying to understand addiction, trying to help, trying to cope, and trying to carry it all on your own.She shares why so many partners, spouses and family members affected by addiction stay stuck for years, the hidden fear that often stops us seeking support, and why support isn't about being told to leave or stay.It's about finding relief.If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, trapped in survival mode, or unsure how to move forward when someone you love is struggling with addiction, this episode will help you understand why you're feeling the way you are and what your next best step might be.Because your loved one's recovery matters.But so does yours.💕If you're thinking:"I know something needs to change, but I don't know where to start."Discovery to Recovery was created for exactly this moment.To help you move from confusion and survival mode to clarity, steadiness and relief.Because you don't need all the answers right now.You just need your next best step.Learn more about Discovery to Recovery here.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
94 - I’m In Limbo: How Long Do I Wait? 27.05.2026 21λ

What happens when the person you love recognises they have a problem (or maybe they don't)… and nothing feels steady?What happens when you keep hoping things will improve… but your life slowly becomes consumed by waiting?In this deeply honest episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores the emotional limbo so many spouses and family members of people struggling with addiction quietly live in: waiting for sobriety, waiting for stability, waiting for peace, waiting to finally exhale.Amanda opens up about the painful reality of putting life on hold while hoping things will eventually get better - and the emotional exhaustion that comes from tying your wellbeing to someone else’s recovery.If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:• “I’ll be happy when things settle down.”• “Maybe I just need to wait a little longer.”• “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.”• “How long do I keep doing this?”…this episode is for you.Because you do not need to figure everything out today.You just need a healthier next step.🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, or share it with someone who may need to hear these words today.👇 Discovery to RecoveryYou know something has to change but you don't know where to start... This is the first step to getting out of survival mode, and into living your one great life.It is a gentle, practical starting point for spouses and family members who know something needs to change but feel completely overwhelmed about where to begin.👉 Discovery to Recovery is your first exhale. Start here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
93 - How Survival Mode Slowly Becomes Your Personality 21.05.2026 18λ

One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction?How slowly survival mode starts feeling normal.The hypervigilance.The walking on eggshells.The overthinking.The emotional exhaustion.The inability to fully relax.And over time… you stop recognising yourself.In this episode, Amanda explores the hidden ways addiction impacts partners and families - and how survival mode slowly becomes something you mistake for your personality.If you’ve ever found yourself:constantly monitoring moodsover-functioning and carrying everythingunable to switch off or relaxemotionally exhausted all the timewalking on eggshellsfeeling like your world has become smallerthinking “I don’t even feel like myself anymore”…this episode is for you.Inside this conversation, Amanda shares:why survival mode happens so graduallyhow hypervigilance affects your nervous systemthe hidden emotional load many partners carrywhy addiction changes the whole emotional atmosphere of a homethe connection between perfectionism and survival modehow women slowly disconnect from themselves while trying to hold everything togetherAnd most importantly?A reminder that this isn’t who you are.This is survival mode.Want more support and clarity?✨ Discovery to RecoveryIf you know something needs to change, but feel overwhelmed about where to even begin…this is your first step out of survival mode. Quietly, in the privacy of your own home and at your own pace.Find out more about Discovery to Recovery and take your next smallest step towards a better life.And... if you want the next stepThe waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
92 - Am I Overreacting? The Hidden Damage Addiction Causes 19.05.2026 23λ

Have you ever asked yourself, "Maybe It’s Me?"One of the hardest parts about loving someone struggling with alcohol or addiction? It’s not always the drinking, the lying, the gambling, or the chaos. It’s what slowly starts happening to you. And loosing your own trust is one of those impacts that is lesser seen and almost never spoken about. But it's impacts are devastating.In this episode, Amanda talks about the hidden emotional toll addiction can have on partners and families - the confusion, hypervigilance, self-doubt, and the slow erosion of self-trust that can happen over time.If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:“Maybe I’m overreacting”“Maybe it’s not actually that bad”“Maybe it’s me”…this episode is for you.Amanda shares:Why addiction-impacted relationships create so much confusionHow hypervigilance and overthinking become survival strategiesThe emotional impact of constantly questioning your realityWhy self-trust is often the biggest casualtyHow survival mode slowly disconnects you from yourselfThe small ways you can begin rebuilding trust in yourself againThis is an honest, compassionate conversation for anyone feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from themselves, or unsure what’s normal anymore.💛 You are not crazy.💛 You are not weak.💛 And you do not have to carry this alone.Want more support and clarity?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
91 - The Hills I’ll Die On After Loving Someone With Addiction 14.05.2026 19λ

Today Amanda shares the “hills she’ll die on” after loving someone struggling with alcohol and addiction… and after supporting hundreds of women and men impacted by it too.From waiting for rock bottom… to believing sobriety should magically fix everything… to thinking more information will finally make things feel better…This episode challenges some of the biggest myths people quietly carry in addiction and recovery.In this episode we talk through...Why you do NOT need to wait for things to get worse before getting supportWhy sobriety doesn’t automatically heal the people around the addictionThe confusion, self-doubt and “crazy making” impact of addictionWhy learning more about addiction is not the same as healing from its impactThe truth about hypervigilance and survival modeWhy you deserve to live your life tooAwareness matters.But awareness alone does not create change.Want more?The waitlist for your support, Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
90 - I Miss Who I Used To Be: How Survival Mode Slowly Changes You 13.05.2026 20λ

Sometimes the hardest part about addiction…. is realising how much you have changed too.In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the grief of losing yourself in survival mode.The anxiety.The hypervigilance.The exhaustion.The version of you that slowly disappeared while trying to hold everything together.Because addiction doesn’t just impact the person struggling.It changes the people around them too.🎧 In this episode, we cover:How survival mode slowly changes youThe grief of losing yourself in addictionWhy hypervigilance becomes your “normal”The hidden emotional exhaustion partners carryWhy you may not recognise yourself anymoreThe difference between your identity and your survival adaptationsRebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with yourselfWhy life is not supposed to feel like constant survival modeYou didn’t lose yourself because you were weak.You lost parts of yourself trying to survive something really hard for a really long time.The version of you that exists in survival mode… is not who you are.It’s an adaptation.And underneath it all?You are still there.So if you’re quietly thinking: “God… I miss myself…”The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you want to find out more.Amanda has also opened some private “friendly chat” spaces to talk it through with you and support you to take your next smallest step.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program👉 book in a friendly chat to talk it throughPrivate and confidential. No pressure. Just support.You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.And you deserve to live your life too.And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
89 - Mother’s Day, Addiction, and the Grief No One Talks About 07.05.2026 27λ

Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for many of us.And when addiction has touched your life… not all of it feels good.Because Mother’s Day can become this painful mix of hope, disappointment and grief all at the same time.In this deeply personal episode, Amanda opens up about the complicated emotional reality of Mother’s Day when addiction is part of your story.From unmet expectations… to feeling unseen… to grieving the version of family life you thought you’d have… this episode puts words to feelings so many people quietly carry.In this episode, we talk about:Why Mother’s Day can feel emotionally heavy in addictionThe hope that “maybe this year will be different”The heartbreak of disappointment and unmet expectationsGrieving the life and relationship you thought you’d haveThe invisible loneliness of high-functioning addictionWhy social media can make these feelings even harderThe meaning we attach to gifts, effort, and feeling seenHow to approach Mother’s Day with more compassion for yourselfBecause truthfullyYou can love your family deeply… and still feel sadness.You can feel grateful… and still grieve what’s missing.And multiple things can be true at once.This episode is for you if:Mother’s Day feels complicatedYou feel unseen or emotionally aloneAddiction has changed how family celebrations feelYou’re carrying grief no one else seems to noticeYou’re trying to hold it all together for everyone elseIf this episode feels close to home… you don’t have to carry this on your own.Amanda has opened up a small number of “talk it through” spaces - a chance to simply talk things through with someone who understands this space.👉 book in a friendly chat hereYou are allowed to have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day.And you are worthy of being seen, appreciated, and cared for too.👉 Resources and support:If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthreeQuestions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
88 - Why Learning More About Addiction Might Be Keeping You Stuck 05.05.2026 15λ

You’ve learnt a lot about addiction.You understand the patterns.You can see what’s happening.You’ve done the reading, the podcasts, the research.So why does it still feel like nothing is changing?In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into - especially when you’re trying to handle this better:👉 learning more… instead of doing differentlyBecause at some point, more knowledge doesn’t create change.It keeps you in what I call consumption mode.In this episode, we cover:What “consumption mode” actually looks like (and how to spot it)Why learning more about addiction can start to keep you stuckThe difference between understanding something and being able to act on itWhy you can’t access what you know in high-stress momentsHow your nervous system pulls you back into familiar patternsWhy this isn’t about effort - it’s about implementationWhat actually helps you start doing things differentlyTruthfully...You’re not stuck because you don’t care.And you’re definitely not stuck because you’re not trying.You’re stuck because knowing what to do and being able to do it in real life…are two very different things.Here’s the shiftThere’s no prize for knowing everything about addiction.Change doesn’t come from more information.It comes from:👉 practising something different👉 applying it in real moments👉 getting support while you doIf you’re thinking:“I know so much… but I’m still doing the same things…”You don’t need another podcast.You need support to start doing this differently.👉 Resources and support:If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own. 👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program, or book in a friendly chat with me where we can talk it through and I can suggest the next best smallest step forwards for you.You can study the map all you like…But nothing changes until you actually start walking the path of change.1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
87 - Why It’s Not Getting Better (Even Though You’re Doing Everything Right) 01.05.2026 19λ

You’re struggling with a loved one’s addiction and you’re trying really hard to make things better.Reading.Listening.Learning everything you can.Trying to handle this better.Trying to respond better.Trying to make things work.And yet…You still find yourself in the same place.Reacting.Overthinking.Carrying it all.And nothing is actually getting better - in fact it’s getting worse.In this episode, we’re talking about why.Because this isn’t a lack of effort.And it’s not because you’re not capable.I am talking about...Why “trying harder” isn’t creating changeThe trap of believing you should be able to handle this aloneHow addiction becomes normalised over timeWhy this isn’t a knowledge problemThe difference between awareness and actual changeWhy doing the same things keeps you stuckI know you’ve done hard things before. Built careers. Raised children. Handled more than most people ever will.So of course you think:“I should be able to do this.”But this is different.You don’t need more information.You need the right support.Because this isn’t something you can think your way out of.If you’re tired of doing more of the same and ending up in the same place…This is your moment to do something different.Not everything.Just one thing.If you’re ready for support, you don’t have to do this on your own.👉 Join the Waitlist for my program, or book in a friendly chat with me where I can suggest the next best step for you.Nothing changes if nothing changes.But that change?It doesn’t have to be everything.Just the next step.👉 Resources and support:1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: where I can suggest what your next best step forward is, because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree4️⃣ Questions or reflections? 💌 amanda@addictionmakesthree.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
86 - I Can’t Keep Doing This: What Happens When You Reach Your Limit 29.04.2026 16λ

Sometimes it’s not a big moment.Not a crisis.Not the worst day.Not the breaking point you thought it would be.It’s quieter than that.It’s the moment where something inside you says:“I can’t keep doing this like this.”In this episode, we’re talking about that moment.The one where you realise:👉 This isn’t sustainable👉 This isn’t working👉 And something needs to changeEven if you don’t know what that looks like yet.🎧 In this episode, we cover:The “low hum” of anxiety that becomes normalWhy things don’t need to be a crisis to not be okayWhat’s actually in your control (and what isn’t)Why waiting and hoping keeps you stuckThe quiet decision that shifts everythingI know you’ve been holding a lot together for a long time.Managing.Anticipating.Keeping things steady for everyone else.And it’s costing you.The truth is, If nothing changes… nothing changes. And over time? It gets heavier. Not lighter.You don't need to have all the answers. Just to acknowledge:👉 “Not like this.”So iff you’re thinking,“I don’t want another year like this…”Listen to that little whisper.You don’t need everything to fall apart to decide something needs to change.Sometimes it starts with: “Not life like this.”Listen next:Ep 41 - The One Question Not to Ask Someone Struggling With AddictionEp 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habit Keeping you StuckEp 6 - Painful thought #1 - Why are they choosing a substance over me?Ep 47 - 11 Subtle Signs Your Partner’s Addiction Is Controlling Your Life👉 Resources and support:1️⃣ Book a Friendly Chat: Explore what working together could look like because you’ve been trying “this way” long enough, and it’s not helping anyone.👉 Click here to find a time2️⃣ Join the Pathway to Wellness Waitlist: My signature program helps you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction — with calm, confidence, and community👉 Join the waitlist here3️⃣ Download the Free Crisis Conversation Guide: Learn what to say (and what not to say) when addiction takes over, with real scripts that help you stay grounded even when it’s messy.👉 Get the Free Guide4️⃣ Connect on Instagram: @addictionmakesthree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.