The Attachment Confessions

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• Boundaries & Anxious Attachment: The True Cost of Having Zero Boundaries — And How to Finally Make Them Stick 11.06.2026 26λ

  Let me ask you something — how many times have you said yes when you meant no? Stayed silent when you should have spoken up? Set a boundary and caved on it within five minutes?🙋 Same, y'all. Same. And as a healing fearful avoidant, I am so done letting that be my story. This episode is a wake-up call — for my anxious preoccupieds, my fellow fearful avoidants, and honestly anyone who's ever abandoned themselves to keep the peace💜 What we cover in this episode: What boundaries actually are — and what they absolutely are not (including the crucial difference between a boundary and an ultimatum) Why Anxious Preoccupieds are wired to fawn, appease and people-please instead of protect themselves — and the science behind it Why Fearful Avoidants have the most contradictory relationship with boundaries of any attachment style — and why that push-pull shows up in every relationship My personal boundary story — including the relationship that slowly eroded my sense of self (and what finally changed) 6 practical, totally doable steps to start setting and keeping boundaries without blowing up your relationships or your nervous system Why follow-through is the most important — and hardest — piece of the whole thing The closing truth: boundaries aren't selfish. They're one of the most loving things you can do. For yourself AND the people you care about. As Dr. John Delony says — behavior is a language. When someone repeatedly disrespects your boundaries, they're telling you exactly how much they value you and the relationship. That's a lesson I wish I'd learned a whole lot sooner💜 "We do not set ourselves on fire in order to keep others warm." — Peaceful Barb 💜 Free resource: Grab my brand-new Attachment Conversation Guide for Couples — your roadmap for having the attachment conversations you've been avoiding. DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions or email chelsea@theattachmentconfessions.com to get your free copy.💜 Ready to heal your attachment? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Good for her self-paced courses, 1:1 coaching, online workshops, and hybrid group coaching program. People & resources mentioned: Dr. John Delony — "behavior is a language" Peaceful Barb — follow her on Instagram for boundary mantras that hit different Codie Sanchez — "You must learn to be disliked or you'll find yourself stuck in a prison of other people's beliefs." Coming up next: Attachment expert Bev Mitelman joins TAC to kick off our brand-new Summer Guest Series — and y'all, we're going there. We're talking about how hookup culture is absolutely wrecking our attachment healing. This one might ruffle some feathers, but it's a conversation that needs to happen. Don't miss it🙌 Related episodes: Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Disorganized Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant FA & DA Relationship: Why the Fearful Avoidant / Dismissive Avoidant Dynamic Hurts the Most Insecure Attachment Patterns: How to Stop Repeating Them & Actually Take Accountability
• Inside the Trenches: A Fearful Avoidant & Dismissive Avoidant Couple's Tell-All (feat. Tesha & Taylor) 27.05.2026 1ώ 18λ

  What happens when two avoidants fall in love? In this raw, eye-opening episode, we go inside the trenches of the most painful relationship dynamic — the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant — with real-life couple Tesha & Taylor. This is not a highlight reel. This is the unfiltered truth about what it actually looks like to love someone when each of your biggest needs are your partner's ultimate triggers. Tesha and Taylor sit down to share their story — the blissful beginning, the conflict that changed everything, the breakthroughs, and the moments they almost didn't make it. Together, they unpack how they each discovered their attachment styles, what their dynamic looked like at its hardest, and how they've learned to communicate, reconnect, and choose each other — even when every instinct says run. In this episode, we cover: How Tesha & Taylor's attachment styles formed in childhood What it feels like to be a Fearful Avoidant in a relationship How the Dismissive Avoidant experiences love, distance and connection The triggers that sent them into their attachment patterns — and what pulled them back Real moments of conflict and how they worked through them The breakthroughs that changed everything for Tesha & Taylor Their advice for others finding themselves in the torturous FA/DA conflict cycle Whether you're a Fearful Avoidant, a Dismissive Avoidant, in a relationship with one, or just trying to understand your own patterns — this episode is for you. This conversation is honest, emotional, and deeply human. Grab your headphones and get ready to feel seen. Doing the work together just got a little easier. 🤍 I created a FREE Attachment Conversation Guide for Couples — packed with questions to help you and your partner go deeper, heal together, and finally feel understood. Grab yours now! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and I'll get it sent your way! 💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed Tesha & Taylor's. xo - Chelsea
• FA & DA Relationship: Why the Fearful Avoidant / Dismissive Avoidant Dynamic Hurts the Most (and how to make it work) 13.05.2026 28λ

  Y'all – this one is personal. The fearful avoidant / dismissive avoidant relationship dynamic is, without question, the most painful attachment combination out there. And as a healing FA who's been on both sides of it? I know this one all too well.  In this episode, we're getting into exactly why the FA/DA pairing starts off feeling like fate — and why it almost always ends in flames. What we cover in this episode: Why the FA and DA are magnetically attracted to each other at first (hint: it's the shadow self) The difference between vulnerability and transparency — and why DAs seem open but aren't How the honeymoon phase fades and the conflict cycle begins Why the DA shuts down and the FA spirals — and how each makes the other's wounds worse My own FA/DA story and what finally broke things for good What it actually takes for this relationship dynamic to survive — and when to walk away The FA needs to feel seen, heard and understood. The DA needs peace and harmony above all else. When those two core needs collide – especially in conflict – it creates a cycle that's genuinely brutal to break out of. But it's not impossible. As long as both partners are willing to do the work. 💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Listen to these episodes first:> Avoidant Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant> Disorganized Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant> Attachment vs. Narcissism: How to Tell the Difference — and Why It Matters for Your Healing Coming up next: Our first-ever couple joins the pod! Tesha & Taylor are an FA/DA couple who've lived this dynamic firsthand — and are now on the road to healing. You will NOT want to miss this one. 🙌 If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed mine. xo - Chelsea
• Your Attachment Questions Answered: Listener Q&A 22.04.2026 49λ

  Hello, Confessions Fam! Welcome back for episode 23! He’s baaack! Everyone’s favorite Dismissive Avoidant (actually, recently discovered Fearful Avoidant who leans avoidant) – Brent Stokes – is joining the pod again to help answer YOUR questions! You’ve inquired – and as your semi-fearless host, I’m here to give you my {not so} expert attachment advice, purely based on my past year of personal heartbreak, Phoenix-like rising, and next-level obsession of burrowing down the attachment science rabbit hole.  When the people have relationship questions, we’re here to give you the best possible answers to your attachment woes. Been there, done that – got 3+ decades worth of insecure attachment T-shirts! Today is going to hit hard, provide sound advice, and bring clarity on your most-asked attachment questions I’ve received over the past 7 months since TAC launched. As ALWAYS, please ask any attachment-related questions or just chit chat with me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions To have your question answered on future Q&A episodes, send an audio message with your name, location, and question to the “TAC hotline” to be featured. Love you guys so much and thank you for your heartfelt questions! xo - Chelsea & Brent Links from today's episode: >>NEW OFFER FOR LISTENERS OF THE ATTACHMENT CONFESSIONS!!<< We are SO excited to share that The Attachment Confessions has teamed up with our favorite attachment expert, Dr. Sarah Hensley, to offer listeners of the pod something special!! Use promo code CHELSEA10 at checkout for 10% off ANY of Dr. Sarah Hensley’s transformative attachment healing programs, digital products and services at: The Love Doc | Relationship Coaching Services  >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories?<<  Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Secure Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Born & Raised Secures 10.04.2026 20λ

  Grab a hankie for your happy tears — because episode 22 is all about the holy grail of attachment styles: the Born & Raised Secures🙌 This is the final episode of TAC's 4-part attachment style deep-dive series, and we're going out with a bang. Because honestly? After three episodes unpacking insecure attachments, nothing feels better than getting an up-close look at what secure attachment actually looks like — and being reminded that it's achievable for every single one of us💜 Side note: listenership increased by 103% during this deep dive series. Y'all are incredible! Thank you. What we cover in this episode: How secure attachment forms in childhood — the two words that explain everything: consistent attunement What securely attached people carry into their relationships and why it's so different from insecure styles Interdependence — what it is, why it's the goal, and how it differs from codependence or avoidance How secure couples handle conflict differently — approaching it with curiosity instead of defensiveness Why securely attached people tend to attract other secures — and the 5 red flags that signal insecure attachment to a secure partner Why attachment quizzes are pretty much garbage (and what to do instead) The 2 things that actually earn your attachment security: self-awareness and daily practice What "catch and correct" behavior is — and why it's one of the most powerful tools in your healing toolkit Here's the truth: born secures don't make up the majority of attachment styles. But thanks to the miracle that is neuroplasticity, those of us who weren't blessed to start out secure can absolutely get there. It's not a quick fix — it's a daily practice. And it is so worth it🙌 "What matters is that the moments when your insecure attachment rears its unpretty head happen less and less frequently. And when they do, you're able to recognize it quickly and pivot." 💜 Ready to earn your attachment security? I personally recommend Dr. Sarah Hensley's programs. Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Hensley's programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout.👗 Dwell Apparel: Faith-inspired clothing, drinkware & accessories — Get 15% off with code CHELSEASCOTT at dwellapparel.com Also mentioned: Thais Gibson — Learning Love (2023) and Personal Development School Adam Lane Smith — Attachment expert & relationship coach Catch up on the full series: Episode 19 — Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Episode 20 — Avoidant Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant Episode 21 — Disorganized Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant
• Disorganized Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant 26.03.2026 30λ

  Grab your one-way ticket to cringeville, y'all — because episode 21 is a deep dive into the most complex attachment style of them all: the Fearful Avoidant. And since this one hits particularly close to home for yours truly, I am not holding back any punches💜 Sometimes called disorganized attachment, the FA is my own attachment style — and this episode is my most personal deep dive yet. Whether you're a fellow Fearful Avoidant, you've loved one, or you've been completely baffled by the hot-and-cold patterns of someone in your life (cue Katy Perry's 2008 hit "Hot N Cold"), this one is going to make the relationship light bulbs illuminate like never before. This is part 3 of TAC's 4-part attachment style deep-dive series. What we cover in this episode: How fearful avoidant (disorganized) attachment forms in childhood — the difference between big T and little T trauma What parentification is and how it shapes the FA attachment My personal FA origin story and how my dad's bipolar disorder shaped my attachment patterns The FA's core wounds: fear of betrayal, fear of abandonment, and the unworthiness wound underneath it all Why the FA is the most complex insecure attachment — operating across the entire spectrum depending on their partner The hot and cold pattern explained: why FAs crave closeness while simultaneously pushing people away Protest behavior — what it is, why FAs do it, and why it almost always backfires The FA's superpowers: empathy, emotional intelligence, resilience, and grit Why earning your attachment security is absolutely achievable — even as an FA As Dr. John Delony says — "what kept us safe when we were children will eventually destroy us as adults." This episode is proof of that. And also proof that awareness is the first step to changing it🙌 Life is so much sweeter on the other side of your insecure attachment. I promise. 💜 Ready to heal your FA attachment? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout.👗 Dwell Apparel: Faith-inspired clothing, drinkware & accessories — Get 15% off with code CHELSEASCOTT at dwellapparel.com Up next in the series: Episode 22 — Secure Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into Being Born & Raised Secure Related episodes: Episode 2 — My Fearful Avoidant Origin Story: How Tracing Back My Attachment Finally Made Sense of My Relationships Episode 3 — My Attachment Red Flags: The FA Patterns I Ignored for Years (and finally owned up to) Episode 19 — Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Episode 20 — Avoidant Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant FA & DA Relationship: Why the Fearful Avoidant / Dismissive Avoidant Dynamic Hurts the Most
• Avoidant Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant 13.03.2026 29λ

  Grab a pillow to scream into – because episode 20 is all about the Dismissive Avoidant😅 The DA tends to get the most attention of all the insecure attachment styles — and for good reason. It's the most predictable, yet often the most frustrating, confusing, and heartbreaking attachment to be on the receiving end of. Whether you're a DA yourself or you've loved one, this deep dive is going to make everything make sense💜 This is part 2 of TAC's 4-part attachment style deep-dive series. If you haven't listened to Episode 19 on the Anxious Preoccupied yet, go back and check it out — the contrast between these two styles is genuinely mind-blowing. What we cover in this episode: How dismissive avoidant attachment forms in childhood through emotional neglect — including subtle, seemingly benign parenting patterns you'd never expect The DA's core attachment wound: deep defectiveness — and why they believe they're fundamentally broken The brain chemistry of avoidant attachment — GABA, oxytocin deficiencies, and heightened dopamine-seeking behavior The infamous DA relationship cycle: infatuation → fault-finding → discarding — and why it happens every single time Why DAs move quickly at the beginning of a relationship and then completely pull away Why the DA is the most difficult insecure attachment to heal — and why coaching works better than therapy for them The positive qualities and superpowers of the Dismissive Avoidant If you've ever dated a DA and felt completely blindsided by their withdrawal — this episode is your explanation. And if you're a DA yourself? You're about to finally make sense to yourself🙌 As Dr. Sarah Hensley says — every DA might as well have a diploma in dismissive avoidance. That's how freakishly predictable this attachment style is. 💜Looking to heal your DA attachment? Dr. Sarah Hensley's hybrid group coaching program has an incredibly high success rate with DAs specifically — it's a way lower-pressure environment and more effective than therapy or couples counseling. Get 10% off at thelovedoc.com with code CHELSEA10. Up next in the series: Episode 21 — Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant Episode 22 — Secure Attachment: A Deep Dive into Being Born & Raised Secure Related episodes: Episode 19 — Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Childhood & Relationship: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience (parts 1 & 2) Love Bombing 101: How to Spot It, Why We Fall for It, and How to Get Out >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied 25.02.2026 27λ

  Y'all — before we get into today's topic, I have to share some news that still has my jaw on the floor. The Attachment Confessions has been named one of the Best 30 Attachment Theory Podcasts in the US by Million Podcasts, ranking alongside some of the leading experts in attachment theory. I am truly flabbergasted and so incredibly grateful. All glory to God — and to YOU, my confessions fam!🎉💜 Now — episode 19 kicks off a brand new 4-part series where we're putting each attachment style under the microscope. And we're starting with the Anxious Preoccupied. If you're an AP, have loved one, or have ever been baffled by anxious attachment patterns in a relationship — buckle up. We're going deep🎙️ What we cover in this episode: How anxious preoccupied attachment forms in childhood through intermittent reinforcement — and why inconsistent caregiving creates an addiction to love in the brain The specific scenarios that create AP attachment — from working parents and big families to one emotionally attuned parent and one emotionally withdrawn parent The AP's core wound: fear of abandonment and the core belief "I'm not enough" — and how these drive every relationship pattern The fawn trauma response — why APs over-apologize and fall on their own sword even when they've done nothing wrong The octopus vs. turtle illustration (from attachment specialist Brie Neil, episode 4) — and why the AP's closeness-seeking behaviors push their partners further away The self-abandonment cycle — how morphing into whoever your partner wants you to be builds resentment over time The friend-ghosting pattern — why APs disappear from everyone else the moment a new relationship starts The superpowers of the AP: their kindness, thoughtfulness, affection, and deep capacity to love Why healing anxious attachment is 100% possible — and what that process actually looks like This isn't a roast session, I promise!😂 Every insecure attachment style has its shadows AND its superpowers, and we're covering both. The AP just wants to love and be loved. Understanding the science behind why their patterns sabotage that goal is the first step to changing it. Are you an Anxious Preoccupied who wants to share your story on the pod? I'm actively looking for an AP guest for an upcoming lived experience episode! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions. 💜 Ready to heal your anxious attachment? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. (Check out Episode 13 for my full review of Dr. Hensley's hybrid group coaching program!)🏆 TAC made the list! Check out Million Podcasts' Best 30 Attachment Theory Podcasts in the US — millionpodcasts.com/attachment-theory-podcasts Also mentioned: Thais Gibson — The Personal Development School Episode 4 — Attachment Specialist Brie Neil Joins TAC Episode 13 — My Attachment Healing Journey: An Honest FA Update Episode 18 — Love Languages vs Attachment Styles Up next in the series: Episode 20 — Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant Episode 21 — Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant Episode 22 — Secure Attachment: A Deep Dive into Being Born & Raised Secure >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Love Languages vs Attachment Styles: What's the Difference — And Which One Actually Predicts Your Relationship Patterns? 11.02.2026 24λ

  One of the most common questions I've gotten since starting this podcast is about love languages — and how they relate to attachment styles. So in the spirit of Valentine's Day, we're getting into it 💜 You've probably taken the love languages quiz. You know your results. But here's what most people don't know — your attachment style is actually what predicts your preferred love languages. They're connected, but they're not the same thing. And understanding the difference? Total game changer. What we cover in this episode: What the 5 Love Languages are and how Dr. Gary Chapman's framework has shaped how millions of people understand love How love languages and attachment styles are connected — and where they differ Why your attachment style is actually the deeper predictor of how you give and receive love How each insecure attachment style — AP, DA and FA — tends to express and experience love languages differently Why knowing both your attachment style AND your love language is the real relationship superpower Whether you're deep in your attachment healing journey or just starting to connect the dots — this episode ties two of the most talked-about relationship frameworks together in a way that'll make everything click🙌 Knowing your love language is a great start. But knowing your attachment style is what helps you actually use it. 💛 Find out your love language: Take the official 5 Love Languages quiz at 5lovelanguages.com/quizzes💜 Ready to heal your attachment? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Related episodes: Attachment Theory explained: The Beginner's Guide to All 4 Styles Anxious Attachment Deep Dive: The Anxious Preoccupied (AP) Explained — Signs, Triggers & How to Heal Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Conflict in Relationships: How Securely Attached Couples Fight Differently (and what we can steal from them) 28.01.2026 20λ

  Conflict. Just the word makes my body tense up. And if you're anything like me, yours probably does too. 😅 But here's the thing – it's not conflict itself that destroys relationships. It's how we handle it. And for those of us with insecure attachments? We were never really taught how to do it right. Episode 17 is all about changing that.💜 What we cover in this episode: Why conflict feels so scary — and how our childhoods are to blame How each insecure attachment style handles conflict (AP, DA, and FA — yes, we all have our things 😬) The 24-hour rule secure couples swear by — and why it's a game changer How secure couples reframe conflict as a bridge to connection rather than a relationship threat What non-critical communication actually looks like in practice Why quick repair is everything — and how pride is silently destroying relationships Taking accountability without defensiveness — and why it's the secret to building real trust I'll be honest — achingly poor conflict management has been a major theme in all of my past relationships. On both sides. But the good news? Secure conflict resolution is a skill. It can be learned, practiced, and eventually become second nature — just like muscle memory. 💪 If secure relationships are the goal, we have to start showing up as secure individuals. And this episode is your roadmap for one of the biggest pieces of that puzzle. 💜 Want a step-by-step conflict resolution plan? Dr. Sarah Hensley's "Achieving Your Attachment Security" coaching program includes her own proprietary no-fail conflict resolution guide. Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Listen to this first: Episode 16 — Insecure Attachment Patterns: How to Stop Repeating Them & Actually Take Accountability (the prelude to this episode) Coming up next: Love Languages vs Attachment Styles! xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Insecure Attachment Patterns: How to Stop Repeating Them & Actually Take Accountability (yes, even the hard stuff) 14.01.2026 27λ

  What's up, guys! Welcome back for episode 16 of The Attachment Confessions! "I am who I am – take it or leave it!" Sound familiar?? Maybe you've had partners make similar claims? Perhaps your current partner has told you this a time or two? Or shoot, you might even be the guilty party, just like I have been in past relationships! Today's episode is all about facing the person we see in the mirror and taking accountability for our not-so-pretty insecure attachment behavior. New Year, New Us!! Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow Fearful Avoidant – it's time to put our insecure patterns in the past, and experience life and love to its fullest. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Dating & Relationship Resolutions For 2026 31.12.2025 31λ

  Happy New Year's Eve, everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! Since we are on the cusp of a new year, there's no better time than now to set some solid dating and relationship goals. Whether you're single, dating, or already committed to someone special, this week's episode is packed full of resolutions to ensure that your love life thrives in 2026.  Cheers to the new year! xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Love Bombing 101: How to Spot It, Why We Fall for It, and How to Get Out 17.12.2025 25λ

  Hello confessions fam!! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions! On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that has been all the rage on social media in the dating world, especially over the last few years – love bombing. Not gonna lie you guys, just the mention of that term gives me full-on body chills. In the worst way! Love bombing is essentially bombarding a new romantic interest with over-the-top attention, affection, compliments, and the extravagant, finer things in life very early on in the getting-to-know-someone phase. I've been love-bombed a time or two, and let me tell you, it can feel absolutely amazing! For those of us with an insecure attachment, that is (healing Fearful Avoidant, party of 1, right here). However, love bombing is not a true testament of someone's motives, character, or {realistic} true feelings. In fact, there are two types of love bombing to be aware of – narcissistic-driven and attachment-driven. In today's episode, we'll break down each type along with some helpful tips on how to appropriately spot and handle a love bomber in action.  Whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a fellow Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – this week's episode is sure to set you up for success next time you feel premature love grenades coming your way. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story,  you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• My Attachment Healing Journey: An Honest FA Update — What's Changed, What Hasn't & What I've Learned 04.12.2025 17λ

  Y'all — I just finished Dr. Sarah Hensley's 4-week hybrid group coaching program. And I have SO much to say💜 If you've been following along, you know I've been in the thick of it — doing the actual work of earning my attachment security, not just talking about it. Episode 13 is my full, honest debrief. The highlights, the hard parts, and everything in between. What we cover in this episode: A week-by-week breakdown of Dr. Hensley's hybrid group coaching program — what each session covers and what to expect My personal highlights and the moments that hit hardest as a healing FA What actually shifted for me after completing the program Why this program works for every insecure attachment style — AP, DA and FA alike My honest take on whether it's worth it (spoiler: 1,000% yes) I've talked about attachment healing a lot on this podcast. But actually going through a structured program — with a world-class attachment expert leading the way — is a completely different level. If you've been on the fence about doing the work, this episode might just be the push you need🙌 Earning your attachment security isn't just possible — it's a decision. And Dr. Hensley's program gives you the exact tools to make it happen. 💜 Ready to do the work? Check out Dr. Sarah Hensley's full range of attachment healing services at thelovedoc.com — including her hybrid group coaching program. Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off using code CHELSEA10 at checkout.   My hope is that by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey – just like me. Now go work on your healing, y'all!💜 xo - Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Relationship: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience [Part 2] 26.11.2025 40λ

  Brent is back — and this time we're getting into the good stuff 👀 In part 1, Brent walked us through how his dismissive avoidant attachment formed in childhood. In part 2, we're picking up right where we left off — diving into how those DA tendencies actually played out in his romantic relationships, including a real behind-the-scenes look at how his attachment showed up in his marriage. And the part I'm most excited about? Where Brent is now. Because spoiler alert — discovering attachment science changed things for him. (You're welcome, Brent 😉) What we cover in part 2: How Brent's DA attachment played out in his romantic relationships — including his marriage The patterns he didn't even realize he was repeating until he learned about attachment science What it actually looks like for a dismissive avoidant to start doing the healing work Where Brent is now on his attachment healing journey — and what's changed Can avoidants actually change? Brent's story is your answer💜 This conversation is one of the most eye-opening episodes we've had on TAC. Hearing a DA talk openly about how his attachment impacted his marriage — and his willingness to do something about it — is exactly the kind of real, raw content this podcast was made for. Shoutout to Brent for being so incredibly open and honest about his journey. It takes guts, and it's going to help so many people🙌 💜 Ready to earn your attachment security? Dr. Sarah Hensley's 4-week hybrid group coaching program is the real deal — I'm in it right now and it's life-changing. Listeners get 10% off at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Listen to part 1 first: Episode 11 — Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Childhood: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience [Part 1] Want to be a Lived Experience guest? Reach out to be considered! I'm especially looking for an Anxious Preoccupied to come share their story! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions if you're interested — I'd love to have you on 📲 >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Childhood: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience [Part 1] 19.11.2025 32λ

  Y'all have heard my fearful avoidant woes plenty by now — so it's time to hand the mic to someone else🎙️ Introducing a brand new series here on The Attachment Confessions: Guest Lived Experiences — where guests from all walks of life and across every end of the attachment spectrum give us a real, unfiltered insider look at what it's like to live with their insecure attachment style. And our very first guest? Brent Stokes — a dismissive avoidant. In part 1, Brent takes us all the way back to the beginning, sharing how his DA attachment formed in childhood and the experiences that shaped the way he shows up in relationships today. What we cover in part 1: How dismissive avoidant attachment forms in childhood — straight from someone who lived it What emotional neglect actually looks like growing up as a DA (it's not always what you'd expect) The childhood experiences that wired Brent to prioritize independence, suppress emotions, and keep people at arm's length What it feels like from the inside to be a dismissive avoidant — and why DAs are so often misunderstood This episode is going to hit different, y'all. Hearing the DA perspective firsthand — not through the lens of someone dating one, but from a DA himself — brings a whole new level of understanding and empathy to this attachment style💜 Whether you're a DA, you love one, or you've had your heart broken by one — this one is for you. 💜 Ready to start your own healing journey? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. Don't miss part 2: Brent is back next episode to share how his DA attachment went on to impact his romantic relationships — and how he's now on the road to earning his attachment security. You will not want to skip this one 🙌 Listen to these first: Avoidant attachment: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Theory Explained: The Beginner's Guide to All 4 Styles 📲 Got a burning attachment question? DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions — your question could be featured on an upcoming Q&A episode!   >>>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• The Narcissist / Codependent Toxic Relationship Dynamic 12.11.2025 34λ

  What's up, everyone! Welcome to The Attachment Confessions! We've made it to episode 10 – double digits, baby! Today we are taking our previous discussion on narcissism a step further and examining the most painful duo that exists – the narcissist / codependent toxic relationship dynamic.  From an attachment lens, the codependent partner subconsciously enters relationships with their anxious attachment in the driver's seat, leaving them totally vulnerable to the charm, manipulation, and control of the narcissist. Whether they are an Anxious Preoccupied or a Fearful Avoidant that leans anxious, the pairing of the codependent with the narcissist proves to be the perfect storm and unfortunately, is all too common.  In this episode, we'll do a deep dive into the many reasons why these two tend to gravitate toward each other, the behaviors that each bring to the relationship, and the destruction that inevitably ensues. In true Attachment Confessions fashion, you'll get a closer glimpse behind the curtain of my toxic covert narcissist relationship. It was hell, but by the grace of God, I made it through to the other side. If you find yourself in a similar situation where you feel there is no escape, listen up. You, too, can break free from the agonizing narcissistic stronghold. Check out attachment expert Dr. Sarah Hensley's hybrid group coaching services if you're serious about breaking your painful relationship patterns and healing your attachment, just like I am! The Love Doc Hybrid Group Coaching Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty heavy topics but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea P.S. – Be sure to follow the pod on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and DM me your burning attachment-related questions so that your question can be featured/answered on an upcoming Q&A episode of The Attachment Confessions! >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Attachment vs Narcissism: How to Tell the Difference — and Why It Matters for Your Healing 05.11.2025 25λ

  Hey everybody! Welcome to episode 9 of The Attachment Confessions! On today’s episode, we're doing a deep dive into a topic that a number of you have asked me about – narcissists. Particularly, where does narcissism fall on the attachment spectrum? When it comes to how the two of these coincide, there actually is no correlation at all whatsoever. Narcissism is a highly complex psychological construct that can wreak havoc in all areas of someone’s life that struggles with this issue, especially in their romantic relationships.  We'll be chatting through the differences between attachment and narcissism, digging into the varying levels of narcissism, and going over the different types of narcissism. The science shows that whether you are an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, or a Securely Attached individual – narcissism is a totally different psychological construct than attachment.  After having experienced many years of abuse from a covert narcissist myself that I am now SO thankful to refer to as my ex, I'm here to lay out all the signs of narcissism for you guys, so that you can hopefully spot a narcissist quicker than I was able to. Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty disturbing topics from time to time. But – opening our eyes and seeing things for what they truly are can often be the catalyst we need to experience peace in our lives. And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey and finally break free from anyone in your life that doesn't deserve to be in your orbit. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea P.S. – Be sure to follow the pod on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and DM me your burning attachment-related questions, so that your question can be featured/answered on an upcoming Q&A episode of The Attachment Confessions! >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Should I Break Up or Stay? How Attachment Styles Affect the Hardest Relationship Decision 29.10.2025 32λ

  What’s up, everybody! Welcome to EPISODE 8 of The Attachment Confessions!! Guys – We’ve hit a milestone making it this far. Fun fact – 90% of podcasts don’t make it past episode 7, which is B-A-N-A-N-A-S. But here we are, episode 8 baby! Thank you so much for giving me space in your life and joining me on this attachment healing adventure! It seriously means the world *insert joyful teary-eyed emoji* On today’s episode, we are wrapping up our 3-part breakup series by examining when a relationship that’s gone splitsville is salvageable versus ending things for good. We’ll dive into the most common reasons why couples call it quits, chat through which circumstances are definite deal-breakers vs which love stories stand a chance of being revived, and finish things by going over some solid advice from attachment expert Thais Gibson on how to approach your ex if getting back together is on your wish list.  For the sagas that are worth saving – understanding both your and your partner’s attachment styles can make all the difference in the world of setting your relationship re-do up for success.  Whether you’re an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached – knowing when to keep trying or when to throw in the towel forever can be a confusing time in anyone’s love life. Having a better understanding of what is and is not worth fighting for can help give both partners the clarity needed to make the best decision – to continue or not to continue.  Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty intense topics but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey and finally have the tools needed to experience break-up or make-up clarity in your love life. That's my hope, at least!   xo - Chelsea P.S. – Be sure to follow the pod on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and DM me your burning attachment-related questions so that your question can be featured/answered on an upcoming Q&A episode of The Attachment Confessions! >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout
• Breakup Pro Tip for Every Attachment Style: The No-Contact Rule 22.10.2025 23λ

  What's up, guys! Thanks so much for stopping by for episode 7 of The Attachment Confessions! Today we're continuing our breakup series with an episode featuring some sure-fire ways to stay strong during the dreadful post-breakup season, including a spotlight on one pro tip in particular that has gained massive popularity over the last few years among attachment experts and relationship coaches alike – The No-Contact Rule. Breakups are one of life's major valleys of heartbreak, so the more {actually} helpful guidance we can get in order to navigate these brutal breakup waves, the better!  In this episode we'll discuss how each attachment style responds to the no-contact rule, the 10 reasons why this breakup technique works, and how to effectively implement and stick to the no-contact rule – God forbid you find yourself in another relationship demise. So, whether you're an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, a Fearful Avoidant, or Securely Attached, this episode packs a ton of powerful advice that will better equip you to come out on the other side of your split stronger and healthier than ever! Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing journey. We'll get into some pretty heavy stuff but have ourselves a good time while doing so! And who knows, maybe you'll be inspired to ALSO embark on your own attachment healing journey and master the breakup game like a champ. That's my hope, at least!   xo – Chelsea >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout