How To Love Yourself No Matter What

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• 317. Accountability Or Self-Love — The hidden shame of motivation and accountability 11.06.2026 21λ

  DO YOU EVER FEEL LIKE YOU SET A GOAL, PUSH HARD FOR A FEW DAYS—AND THEN FALL OFF AND WONDER WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?Like no matter how many times you try, you can't seem to make yourself do the things you say you want to do?If that's you, this episode is going to change how you see yourself.Because it's not that you're lazy. And it's not that you lack discipline.It's that the fuel you've been using to motivate yourself is actually working against you—and no one has ever shown you what to use instead.In this episode, I'm breaking down why accountability and motivation fail most people, what's really underneath the cycle of trying and quitting, and what it actually takes to build habits that stick long term.In This Episode, I Cover:Why motivation and accountability alone will never be enoughThe real reason you can push for a few days—but can't make it lastHow shame becomes the hidden fuel behind most "self-improvement" effortsWhy using self-hatred as motivation has a built-in breaking pointThe difference between forcing yourself and genuinely wanting to show upWhy love is a more powerful motivator than frustration, disappointment, or disgustHow to get specific about why you actually want what you wantWhy your brain resists new habits—and why that doesn't mean anything is wrong with youThe practical steps to remove barriers and make showing up easierHow to talk to yourself the night before so you actually follow throughThe toddler analogy that reframes everything about self-disciplineWhy a D-plus effort is still better than nothing—and how to own thatWhat regulated accountability actually looks like versus dysregulated forcingHow to flex when life gets in the way without quitting entirelyWhat changes when you stop using guilt and start using radical self-acceptanceKey TakeawayYou don't have a motivation problem. You have a fuel problem.Shame, guilt, and self-disgust can push you for a few days—but they will always break down. They are not a long-term solution.What actually works is getting specific about why you want what you want, removing the barriers between you and the action, and learning to redirect yourself with kindness instead of force.You don't need to be harder on yourself. You need to be more honest—and more loving.InvitationI'm running JuneTube all month inside the Love Yourself No Matter What community—weekly trainings, weekly lives, and everything you need to actually use these tools and create a different kind of summer.To get access, grab the free End Overthinking Five-Minute Reset Ritual at:👉 joinamanda.caYou'll get the audio training plus an invitation to everything happening in June.Ready to Go Deeper?If you want support implementing this work in your own life, you can book a discovery call with me.We'll talk about what's going on for you and whether coaching together would be a good fit.Book here: amandahess.ca/bookacallConnect With MeIf this episode resonated, I'd love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahessOr visit www.amandahess.ca to learn more about working together.Featured on the Show:Book a free consultation call with meSend me a DM over on InstagramHelp Other Women Find This PodcastIf this episode resonated with you, or you know someone who needs to hear it, please share.Leave me a review on Apple Podcasts and let me know what topics you would like to hear.Don't miss an episode, follow the podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or RSS.
• 316. What Happens When the Helper Can't Handle You (When Coaches & Therapists Shame You) 04.06.2026 14λ

  What Happens When the Helper Can't Handle YouThere is a systemic failure happening in the helping industry — and nobody is talking about it.Coaches and therapists are opening emotional doors they are completely unprepared to sit in. And when you show up authentically — crying, angry, overwhelmed, resistant — instead of being held, you get shut down. Pathologized. Shamed into getting small.I'm recording this one hot, because it happened to me today. And I need you to hear it.What I cover in this episode:The $25,000 business mastermind where I was told they'd "move on" while I cried — and how it took me months to recover my confidenceBeing interrupted mid-share and told to mute myself and come back with a "more appropriate" shareBeing told by a business coach — twice — that I needed therapy, not coachingWhy this isn't a you problem — it's a capacity problem on their endWhy shutting down emotion doesn't protect the client — it retraumatizes themWhat trauma-aware support actually looks like in practiceClients who've been fired by therapists for being "too emotional" — and why that's an industry failure, not a client failureWhat it looks like when all of it is welcome: crying, anger, resistance, circling, even lying — none of it pathologizedThe truth I keep coming back to:Shame is the mechanism used to make you small. When someone in authority responds to your emotion with dismissal or redirection, the message that lands is: what you just did was wrong. And you shrink. You manage yourself. You stop showing up fully.That was never your shame to hold.You are allowed to show up as the fullest, most authentic version of yourself. There are helpers — coaches, therapists, friends, partners — who won't reject that. Your job is to find them.If this resonated:Book a free discovery call with me: amandahess.ca/bookacallConnect on Instagram: @theamandahess
• How To Become The Woman You Secretly Want To Be 28.05.2026 22λ

  Do you ever feel like there’s a version of you that wants more out of life…More joy.More confidence.More freedom.More YOU.But every time you try to move toward her, something pulls you back?In this episode, we’re talking about identity, possibility, and why becoming the woman you want to be has less to do with “fixing yourself” and more to do with what your brain believes is possible for you.I share a story from figure skating that completely shifted how I think about growth and identity, and why being around people who are already doing the things you want to do changes your brain faster than trying to force yourself to believe differently.We also talk about:Why sensitive women often stay stuck in old identitiesHow your environment shapes what feels possibleWhy your thoughts are not factsThe psychology behind seeing other people do what you want to doWhy your brain resists change (even when you WANT it)What Rick Rubin calls the “lazy brain”Why more possibility creates more freedomThe connection between anxiety, emotional heaviness, and purposeWhy you don’t need to “fix” yourself to create a different lifeHow coaching, support, and community help you expand your identityThe biggest takeaway from this episode:You are not as stuck as you think you are.Sometimes your brain just needs evidence that another way of living is possible.And when you start surrounding yourself with people, spaces, and conversations that expand what feels possible…you start becoming someone new without even realizing it.If this episode resonated and you want support applying this work in your own life, you can book a discovery call with me here:amandahess.ca/bookacallConnect with me on Instagram:@theamandahess
• 314. Silence Your Inner Critic: The Power of Quiet Time 21.05.2026 16λ

  Today I’m talking about something I see constantly in women who are overwhelmed, emotionally reactive, anxious, or stuck in survival mode: the inability to slow down and be alone with themselves.So many of us are constantly doing. Working, parenting, helping everyone else, consuming self-help, listening to podcasts, journaling, trying to improve ourselves, trying to stay productive — and while none of those things are bad, eventually we lose our connection to ourselves.In this episode, I’m talking about:Why constant doing can keep us emotionally dysregulatedWhat emotional reactivity actually isHow fear of feeling keeps us stuck in fight, flight, freeze, and fawnWhy silence feels uncomfortable for so many womenThe importance of emotional safety and nervous system regulationHow to build the ability to feel emotions without becoming consumed by themSmall ways to slow down and reconnect with yourself throughout your dayThis episode is a reminder that healing is not always about doing more. Sometimes it’s about creating enough space to finally hear yourself again.Key TakeawaysEmotional reactivity isn’t just about outward behaviour — it’s when emotions are running your internal experience.Many women stay busy because being alone with themselves feels unsafe.Constant input and productivity can disconnect us from our bodies and nervous systems.Fear of emotion creates chronic fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses.Emotional safety is something we can build over time.Small moments of silence and grounding matter more than you think.Healing is not about white-knuckling your way through life.Quotes From This Episode“All of your life is not a doing problem. It’s a being problem.”“The more emotionally safe you feel, the more able you are to allow emotion.”“If everything you do is designed to get rid of emotion, you’re going to live in fear.”“We live in a society that is perpetually inputting into us — and we never give ourselves space to release it.”“Silence is a skill. Being alone with yourself is a skill.”Call to ActionIf this episode resonated with you and you’re realizing how much of your life has been spent in survival mode, I’d love to support you.You can book a free discovery call at:👉 amandahess.ca/bookacallTogether, we can look at what’s keeping you emotionally stuck, how to create more emotional safety, and whether coaching is the right next step for you.
• 313. How to Build a Fuck Yes Life With a Sensitive Brain 14.05.2026 19λ

  Let me tell you, if you’ve ever felt like you just can’t shake off a past hurt, you’re in for a treat. We’re diving into the fascinating world of trauma—what it really is and why it affects us all differently. I’m talking about the sneaky ways that emotional pain can manifest in our daily lives, from the tone of someone’s voice to the way silence can feel like a punch in the gut. It turns out that our brains are wired to keep us safe, but sometimes, they misinterpret signals and lead us down a rabbit hole of anxiety and fear. We’ll unpack why trying to simply ‘think’ your way out of it is like trying to use a spoon to dig a hole—it’s just not going to work! Instead, I’ll share some insights on how to work with your nervous system to create a sense of safety and stability in your life. Plus, I’ve got a brand new free class coming up that’s perfect for anyone feeling stuck in the cycle of overthinking. It’s time to learn how to prioritize your feelings without guilt and start living a ‘fuck yes’ life—one that’s truly yours!Takeaways:You might think you're overreacting, but your brain is just processing trauma differently than others.Replaying conversations is not a flaw; it’s your brain's way of trying to create safety after emotional pain.Feeling anxious or reactive isn't a logic issue; it's a feelings problem that needs to be addressed with care.It's crucial to realize that your needs are just as important as everyone else's, not optional.Suppressing emotions only makes things worse; you need to learn how to process feelings effectively.A 'fuck yes' life is about prioritizing your own desires and needs, not waiting for others to validate you.Links referenced in this episode:amandahest.ca/bookacall
• 312. You Don’t Need More Self-Improvement 07.05.2026 13λ

  Alright friend, grab your gardening gloves because today we’re talking about something really important: how to create a life that actually blooms.The biggest takeaway from this episode?I think we spend way too much time pulling weeds and not nearly enough time planting flowers.You know how in spring we clean out our gardens? We pull out the dead stuff, clear the weeds, make space for something new. I really think we need to do the same thing mentally and emotionally too.So many women are walking around completely focused on what’s wrong. What’s wrong with them. What’s wrong with their relationship. Their body. Their job. Their life. And while yes — sometimes we absolutely do need to deal with the weeds — I don’t think healing is supposed to just be endless weeding.At some point, we also have to plant flowers.In this episode, I talk about:Why constantly “fixing yourself” can actually keep you stuckThe difference between pulling weeds and creating beautyNervous system regulation that actually feels supportive and doableWhy pleasure matters more than most women realizeHow kindness, rest, joy, and unconditional love change your lifeWhy so many women are burned out from trying to hold too many platesHow to start creating a life that feels full instead of just managedI also share why figure skating is one of the biggest nervous system regulators in my own life, and why the things that light you up emotionally are not frivolous — they’re necessary.This episode is really an invitation to stop living in constant maintenance mode and start intentionally creating a life you actually want to be inside of.Because the truth is:If all we ever do is pull weeds, we end up exhausted.But when we start planting flowers?Everything changes. 🌸Want to talk to me directly? Book a free discovery call here:amandahess.ca/bookacall
• 311. Why Mantras & Journaling Aren’t Working (And What To Do Instead) 30.04.2026 13λ

  If you’ve been repeating affirmations, journaling your thoughts, and still feeling stuck… we need to talk.Because it’s not that you’re doing it wrong.It’s that these tools aren’t actually designed to create the kind of change you’re looking for.In this episode, I’m breaking down why mantras and journaling often don’t work—especially for sensitive, self-aware women—and what to do instead.Mantras can create internal conflict when your brain doesn’t believe what you’re saying.Journaling can turn into rumination that reinforces the exact patterns you’re trying to break.So if you’ve ever felt like:“I should be further along by now”“I know better, so why am I still stuck?”“I’ve done so much work, why hasn’t anything really changed?”This episode will land.I’m going to show you a different way to work with your brain—one that actually creates emotional buy-in, shifts your beliefs, and changes how you show up in your life.✨ In This Episode, I Talk About:Why mantras often feel empty (and can actually increase anxiety)How journaling can quietly reinforce negative thinking patternsThe role your survival brain is playing behind the scenesWhy your beliefs—not your thoughts—are what need to changeThe real skill that creates confidence, calm, and lasting changeHow asking better questions can completely shift your emotional state🔑 What I Want You To Take Away:You don’t need to force yourself to think positively.You need to learn how to question what you’re thinking in a way that actually opens something up.💭 Try This Instead:Next time you feel stuck, don’t reach for a mantra.Ask yourself:What if this isn’t actually true?What would be possible if I believed I was enough?How would I show up if I felt fully accepted?Let your brain answer. That’s where the shift happens.💬 Want Help With This?This is exactly the work I do with my clients.If you’re ready to stop spinning in your head and actually create change that feels real and sustainable, you can book a call with me:👉 amandahess.ca/bookacall📲 Come Say HiIf this episode resonated, DM me on Instagram or TikTok. I’d love to hear what landed for you.Links referenced in this episode:amandahessbookacalltheamandahess
• 310. Why You Feel “Too Emotional” (And Why You’re Not) 23.04.2026 16λ

  If you’ve ever thought “why am I so emotional?” or felt like you’re just too sensitive for this world, this episode is going to shift everything.Because what if the problem isn’t your emotions…but what you’ve been taught to believe about them?In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden conditioning that makes sensitive women feel weak, overwhelmed, or “too much”—and why that narrative is not only false, it’s keeping you stuck.We’ll talk about:Why being emotional has been framed as a flawHow society profits from you believing something is wrong with youThe real reason you feel overwhelmed, reactive, or “too much”Why trying to fix yourself is making things worseThe powerful shift from problem-focused → desire-led livingHow to start trusting your sensitivity instead of fighting itIf you’re a deeply feeling, intuitive woman who’s tired of trying to be less…this is your permission slip to stop.🎧 What You’ll Walk Away WithA completely new way to understand your emotional experienceRelief from the belief that you’re “too much” or brokenA starting point for working with your sensitivity instead of against itA powerful reframe that opens the door to more peace, energy, and self-trust💬 Ready to Go Deeper?If this episode hit home and you’re ready to stop overthinking, people-pleasing, and feeling stuck in your own emotions…Book a free discovery call with me:👉 https://amandahess.ca/book-a-callWe’ll talk about what’s going on for you and map out what real support could look like.🔁 Share This EpisodeKnow someone who feels like they’re “too emotional” or struggles with sensitivity?Send this to her. It might be exactly what she needs to hear.
• 309. How to Stop Feeling Like You’re Perpetually Dismissed 16.04.2026 10λ

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• 308. Why You Can't Let Things Go (It's Not Your Fault) 09.04.2026 15λ

  Do you ever feel like you just… can’t let things go?Like something happens and other people move on—but you’re still thinking about it days, weeks, or even years later?If that’s you, this episode is going to change how you see yourself.Because it’s not that you’re overreacting.And it’s not that you’re too sensitive.It’s that your brain and body are trying to process past hurt—and no one has ever shown you how.In this episode, I’m breaking down what trauma actually is (and why it’s not always what you think), how a sensitive brain stores and replays emotional pain, and why trying to “think your way out of it” will never work.In This Episode, I Cover:What trauma really is (and why it’s different for everyone)Why you don’t get to choose what your brain labels as traumaticHow past hurt shows up in everyday moments (conversations, tone, silence, looks)Why you replay conversations and overanalyze what you saidThe real reason you assume “I did something wrong”How your brain uses the past to try to create safety in the presentWhy this is NOT a logic problem—it’s a feelings problemWhy trying to change your thoughts first keeps you stuckWhat’s actually happening when you feel anxious, triggered, or reactiveWhy suppressing or “shrinking” your emotions makes everything worseThe cycle of overthinking → reacting → reinforcing fearWhy your brain is working exactly as it’s designed toThe truth about trauma: it doesn’t disappear—and it doesn’t need toWhy willpower, discipline, and “just calming down” don’t work long-termWhat it actually takes to stop looping and start feeling steadyKey TakeawayYou’re not holding onto things because you’re weak.You’re holding onto them because your brain is trying to protect you.This isn’t a logic problem—it’s a feelings problem.And until you learn how to process what you feel,your mind will keep trying to solve it… over and over again.You don’t need to think better.You need to learn how to work with your nervous system and your emotions.InvitationI’m teaching a brand new free class on April 16:Sensitive, Not FragileIf you’re done overthinking everything,replaying conversations,and feeling like you can’t fully relax in your life…I’m going to show you a completely different way to work with yourself.Inside this class, I’ll teach you how to:Stop the overthinking loopWork with your emotions instead of against themRegulate your nervous system in real timeFeel more steady, even when life feels hard👉 Register here: joinamanda.caConnect With MeIf this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahess
• 307. Sensitive Not Fragile 02.04.2026 19λ

  If you’ve been told your whole life that you’re “too sensitive”…and somewhere along the way you started believing that meant you’re fragile…This episode is for you.Because sensitivity is not the problem.But not understanding how to work with it?That’s where things start to break.In this episode, I’m breaking down what sensitivity actually is (hint: it’s not just crying), why so many women feel like they’re one step away from falling apart, and what’s really going on beneath the anxiety, overthinking, and emotional overwhelm.In This Episode, I Cover:What sensitivity actually means (and why it’s so misunderstood)Why a “sensitive nervous system” doesn’t always look emotional on the outsideHow childhood conditioning teaches you that who you are is a problemWhy masking, performing, and shape-shifting become your defaultHow confidence decreases as life gets more complexWhy anxiety, second-guessing, and overwhelm start to increase over timeThe real reason you feel like you might “break”Why nothing has gone wrong — you’ve just never been taught how to work with yourselfThe difference between being sensitive and being fragileWhat actually creates stability, confidence, and emotional strengthKey TakeawayYou are not too sensitive.You are under-supported.Sensitivity without the right tools will feel like overwhelm.But sensitivity with support, self-trust, and nervous system regulation?That’s power.InvitationI’m hosting a brand new free class:Sensitive, Not FragileIf you’re done feeling like you’re one emotion away from falling apart,this is where you start.I’ll teach you how to:Feel your emotions without collapsingRegulate your nervous systemBuild real self-trustCreate a life that actually feels good👉 Register here: joinamanda.caConnect With MeIf this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahess
• 306. Deciding You Are Relevant - How To Stop Feeling Invisible In Your Life 26.03.2026 9λ

  What if the reason you feel invisible… isn’t actually about other people?In this episode, I’m sharing something that came up in a coaching session — and it hit deeper than I expected.Because while most of us wouldn’t say “I feel irrelevant,” we feel it in subtle ways:When someone doesn’t listen to usWhen we don’t feel validatedWhen we feel overlooked in conversationsWhen our reactions feel bigger than the momentAnd what I realized is this:You only feel irrelevant when you treat yourself like you are.In this episode, I break down how this shows up, why it triggers such strong emotional reactions, and how to take your power back — without needing anyone else to change.In This Episode, I Cover:Why “feeling invisible” is more common than you thinkThe hidden belief underneath emotional reactionsHow quickly we internalize other people’s behaviorThe difference between external validation and internal relevanceWhy you don’t need permission to matterHow to stop fighting for relevance — and start owning itThe pattern that keeps repeating in relationships (and how to break it)Why reactivity keeps you stuck — and curiosity moves you forwardHow to get your needs met without escalating conflictKey TakeawayYou are not relevant because other people validate you.You are relevant because you decide you are.When you stop outsourcing your worth and start leading yourself from that place — everything changes:Your reactions.Your relationships.Your confidence.Connect With MeIf this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahessOr visit www.amandahess.ca to learn more about working together.
• 305. Feeling Overwhelmed? Plant Yourself in the Moment 19.03.2026 3λ

  This episode is a little different.It’s actually a practice I shared with my private clients this week while I’m in Hawaii — and I wanted to bring it here because it’s something you can use in real time when you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck in your head.This is about what I call planting yourself in the moment.So many of us live in our thoughts — spinning, analyzing, anticipating — and it pulls us out of our bodies and away from ourselves.This practice is a simple way to come back.It helps you move out of your mind and into your body using your senses, your breath, and a few grounding thoughts that remind you: you’re safe, nothing has gone wrong, and you can be with yourself here.The more you practice this, the easier it becomes to regulate your nervous system and support yourself through hard moments.In This Episode We Talk About• What it means to “plant yourself in the moment”• How to use your senses to ground yourself anywhere• A simple breathing pattern to calm your body• The role of safety-based thoughts in nervous system regulation• Why getting out of your head and into your body changes everything• How to be present with yourself even when you’re experiencing discomfortKey TakeawayYou can feel grounded and safe even in the middle of a difficult emotion.When you learn to bring yourself back into the present moment — instead of getting lost in your thoughts — your nervous system settles, your body softens, and you reconnect with yourself.Nothing has gone wrong.This is just a feeling.And you can be with yourself through it.Ready to Go Deeper?If this resonated and you want support applying this work in your own life, I’d love to help.You can book a discovery call with me and we’ll talk about what’s going on for you and whether coaching together is a good fit.Book here:amandahess.ca/bookacall
• 304. 50 Years in This Nervous System: 10 More Lessons for Sensitive Women (Boundaries, Resentment & Choosing Yourself) 12.03.2026 11λ

  In episode 302, I shared the first 10 lessons I’ve learned from living 50 years with a sensitive nervous system.Today we’re continuing with the next 10.These lessons are about something I think many sensitive women struggle with: emotional adulthood.Many of us are technically adults, but we’re still letting the hurt version of us, the teenage version of us, or the people-pleasing version of us lead our lives. And when that happens, we end up exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.Learning emotional responsibility changes everything.It means recognizing that your feelings are yours to care for. It means setting boundaries instead of quietly crossing them and then feeling resentful. It means advocating for yourself even when it’s uncomfortable.These are lessons I learned the hard way — through relationships, mistakes, and a lot of personal growth. My hope is that by sharing them with you, you might learn them a little more gently.If you’ve ever struggled with resentment, over-explaining yourself, feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, or performing in order to be accepted, this episode will help you see those patterns more clearly.And once you see them, you can start choosing something different.In This Episode We Talk About• Why other people are not responsible for your feelings• How resentment often means you’re crossing your own boundaries• Why over-explaining is usually fear of rejection• Why advocating for yourself might make people uncomfortable — and why that’s okay• How you can disappoint someone and still be a good person• Why being “low maintenance” is often conditioning, not a personality trait• The difference between being needed and being valued• Why you don’t need to be relevant — you need to be important to yourself• How to recognize when you’re performing instead of living• Why you will almost never regret choosing yourselfKey TakeawayEmotional adulthood begins the moment you stop trying to manage everyone else’s feelings and start taking responsibility for your own.When you learn to set boundaries, validate yourself, and choose what actually matters to you, your life becomes more peaceful, more powerful, and far more fulfilling.Choosing yourself isn’t selfish.It’s how you stop leaking your energy everywhere and start building a life that actually feels good to live.Ready to Go Deeper?If you want support implementing this work in your own life, you can book a discovery call with me.We’ll talk about what’s going on for you and whether coaching together would be a good fit.Book here:amandahess.ca/bookacall
• 303. The Real Reason Adult Friendships Feel So Hard 05.03.2026 20λ

  Many women say they want deeper friendships. They want their people — the women they can laugh with, text, and go for coffee or brunch with.But there’s a hidden pattern that quietly blocks connection.When we walk into rooms believing that nobody likes us, we become hyper-focused on ourselves — how we’re being perceived, whether we’re awkward, whether we said the wrong thing. And when our attention is turned inward like that, it becomes almost impossible to actually connect with someone else.Real friendship doesn’t grow out of self-consciousness or performance. It grows out of curiosity, generosity, and genuine interest in another person.In this episode, I talk about the mindset patterns that make adult friendship harder than it needs to be — and what actually creates meaningful connection.I also share the simple framework I use with my coaching clients to understand how friendships develop over time and why so many women unintentionally put pressure on the wrong relationships.If you’ve ever felt like everyone else has friends except you, or like making friends as an adult feels confusing or exhausting, this episode will help you see what’s really going on — and how to start approaching connection in a healthier, more empowering way.In This Episode We Talk AboutWhy believing “nobody likes me” makes connection almost impossibleHow insecurity creates self-focus that blocks real friendshipThe difference between collecting friends and building relationshipsWhy adult friendships feel harder than friendships earlier in lifeThe three “friendship buckets” that explain how friendships actually formWhy putting pressure on a few people to become your friends often backfiresThe importance of growing your self-relationship so friendships can form naturallyHow vulnerability and invitations create opportunities for connectionWhy genuine curiosity is one of the most powerful tools for building friendshipsKey TakeawayFriendship isn’t something you acquire or secure.It’s something you build — one conversation, one interaction, and one genuine connection at a time.The question isn’t “Do they like me?”The real question is:“Am I showing up with curiosity, openness, and a willingness to connect?”Ready to Go Deeper?If you’re ready to work on your relationship with yourself — the foundation for every relationship in your life — you can book a discovery call with me.We'll talk about what’s going on for you and whether coaching together would be a good fit.Book here:amandahess.ca/bookacall
• 302. 50 Years in This Nervous System: 10 Lessons for Sensitive Women 26.02.2026 17λ

  I turned 50 this week.And I’ll be honest — this birthday feels different.There’s awareness.There’s fear.There’s grief.And there’s a level of self-trust I would have begged for in my twenties.In this episode, I’m starting a 5-part series sharing 50 things I know at 50 about being a sensitive woman in 2026 — not just how to survive, but how to thrive.Today, I’m giving you the first 10.These are the foundational lessons — the ones about your nervous system, your emotions, your responsibility, and your capacity.Because if you don’t understand how you’re wired, you will misunderstand your entire life.In This Episode, I Cover:Why sensitivity is not a flaw (even if it’s been treated like one)How your nervous system drives your reactionsWhy emotions are messengers — not problemsThe difference between regulation and suppressionWhy other people are not responsible for your feelingsHow to stop fucking yourself overWhy joy must be cultivatedHow to move with fear instead of shrinking from itWhy friendship takes work (especially at midlife)What loving yourself actually requiresWhy focusing on what you want MORE of changes everythingKey TakeawayBeing a sensitive woman in 2026 is not about hardening yourself.It’s about building emotional capacity.It’s about regulating your nervous system instead of reacting from it.It’s about becoming unwilling to betray yourself.Turning 50 hasn’t made me less sensitive.It’s made me more skilled.And skill changes everything.Continue the SeriesThis is Part 1 of a 5-part birthday series:50 Things I Know at 50 About Being a Sensitive Woman in 2026Stay tuned for Part 2 next week.Connect With MeIf this episode resonated, I’d love to hear from you.Send me a message on Instagram: @theamandahessOr visit www.amandahess.ca to learn more about working together.
• 301. The Missing Half of Emotional Wellness: Why Fixing Yourself Isn’t the Answer 21.02.2026 17λ

  If you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself for years… this episode might change everything.So much of the emotional wellness space is focused on one thing:Getting rid of what’s wrong.The anxiety.The stress.The overthinking.The guilt.The burnout.The trauma.And while support matters, here’s what’s missing:You cannot build a thriving life by only trying to eliminate what hurts.In this episode, I’m teaching a core concept I walk my private clients through — the emotional teeter-totter — and why balance, not eradication, is the real goal.Because life is 50/50.Your brain is wired to scan for danger.And trying to remove every uncomfortable emotion will keep you stuck in survival mode.Instead, we need to learn how to build the other side.Joy.Pleasure.Excitement.Belonging.Desire.Purpose.When you intentionally build those, everything changes.✨ In This Episode, We Talk About:Why “fixing yourself” can actually make you feel worseHow self-help sometimes overemphasizes what’s brokenThe 50/50 nature of emotional life (and why it’s normal)How your primitive brain keeps you in survival modeThe emotional teeter-totter analogy that explains everythingWhy eliminating stress isn’t the goalHow to build emotional capacity instead of avoidanceThe difference between tolerating emotions and processing themWhy creating joy is a skill (not a luxury)How doing hard, scary things on purpose builds empowermentWhy pleasure, excitement, and fulfillment are your responsibility💛 The TruthYour life won’t feel better because you finally eliminate anxiety.It will feel better because you’ve learned how to:Feel anxiety without collapsingCreate joy on purposeBuild balance instead of chasing perfectionEmpower yourself emotionallyYou don’t need to become stress-free.You need to become emotionally stronger and more intentional about building what you want.🌿 Want to Go Deeper?If this resonates and you want help applying this to your real life:📍 Book a consultation: amandahess.ca/bookacallYou don’t have to keep running on the “fixing” treadmill.🎧 If You Loved This EpisodeShare it with someone who’s tired of trying to repair themselves.And if this podcast supports you, leaving a review helps more women find this work.
• 300. Love Yourself No Matter What (My Most Important Message Yet) 12.02.2026 22λ

  Hey my beautiful friend… I can’t believe I’m saying this, but welcome to Episode 300.When I started this podcast, I had no idea if anyone would listen… or if I’d even keep going. But here we are — and today I want to revisit the most important message I’ve ever shared:Loving yourself no matter what is the key to everything.Because self-love isn’t about bubble baths or positive affirmations.It’s about learning how to be safe with yourself.It’s about learning how to support yourself when you’re struggling… how to regulate your nervous system… how to stop spiraling into shame… and how to stop living your life trying to earn love from everyone else.In this episode, I’m walking you through where the message of Love Yourself No Matter What came from, why it matters so deeply, how it actually works, and how to begin implementing it in your real life — even if you feel like you’ve tried everything.This is the foundation of emotional healing, confidence, boundaries, and true inner peace.And if you’ve been feeling stuck, anxious, lonely, reactive, exhausted, or like something is “wrong” with you…This episode is for you.✨ In This Episode, We Talk About:Why self-love is still deeply misunderstoodThe difference between being loving vs. being permissiveWhy so many people feel anxious, lonely, and emotionally exhaustedHow perfectionism and pressure keep you stuckMy personal rock bottom — and what I was told about myselfHow nervous system sensitivity can be mistaken for “something wrong with you”Why learning to love yourself creates emotional safetyThe “abused puppy” metaphor that explains healing perfectlyHow self-love helps you stop procrastinating, people pleasing, and spiralingWhy your life becomes unrecognizable when you stop abandoning yourselfHow to start practicing loving yourself daily (even when you don’t feel lovable)💛 Ready to Go Deeper?If you want support implementing this work in your life, I’d love to talk with you.📍 Book a call here: amandahess.ca/bookacall🎧 Loved this Episode?If this podcast has supported you, I would be so grateful if you left a review — it helps more women find this work and start healing too.
• 299. Why You Don’t Feel Like You Belong (Even When You’re Included) 05.02.2026 13λ

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• 298. Big Girls Do Cry 29.01.2026 4λ

  I’m recording this one off the cuff, because it matters.I cry a lot. I cry every day. Sometimes I cry because I’m sad. Sometimes I cry because I’m angry, happy, proud — or because I just need to cry. I’ve always been this way, and if you’re listening to this, you probably are too.In this episode, I talk about why crying isn’t something to fix — and why nothing has gone wrong when tears show up. We’ve been taught to feel shame or guilt when we cry, especially in front of other people, but that doesn’t mean crying is wrong. More often than not, it just means other people don’t have the tools to be with it.This is a conversation about sensitivity, emotion, and why big girls do cry — not because we’re weak, but because we feel deeply, we care, and we’re human.In This Episode, I Cover:Why I cry every day — and why that’s not a problemThe shame and guilt many women feel when they cry in front of othersWhy people try to fix crying instead of allowing itHow we’re taught that crying is inappropriate or “too much”Why crying isn’t manipulativeCrying as release, connection, and a non-aggressive expression of emotionA thought to try on: Big girls do cry — and I’m okay with myself when I doA question to sit with:What happens when I let myself cry without making it mean something has gone wrong?You don’t need to answer it — just notice the urge to stop it, explain it, apologize for it, or judge yourself for it.That noticing is the work.If this episode brought up relief, resistance, or confusion, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to carry it by yourself.✨ Come say hi on Instagram: @theamandahessI’d love to hear what this stirred for you — the real, unpolished version.If this episode resonated and you want support applying this work to your real life, I’d love to talk with you.I currently have space in my 1:1 coaching practice.Book a discovery call here:👉 https://amandahess.ca/book-a-callStay ConnectedIf you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it.I’ll see you next week. 💛