Immersion

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  The Most Dangerous Emotion in Connection: The Psychology of Contempt 16.08.2026 25λ

  Contempt is one of the most damaging emotions in human connection - but what exactly is it, and why can it be so difficult to let go of? In this episode of Immersion, we explore the walls that are often built between ourselves and others, sometimes unspoken and sometimes maintained for decades. These walls can form between people in romantic relationships, workplaces, the political arena, group dynamics, and even within our relationship to ourselves. Some psychologists suggest that contempt...
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  Do the 5 Love Languages Actually Work? 09.08.2026 32λ

  Are the love languages actually still a useful tool in 2026? The original 5 Love Languages book was published by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, but the framework is still talked about today - from long-term relationships to first dates and everything in between. In this episode, we take a nuanced look at the love languages and ask: What are the 5 Love Languages?What are the strengths and limitations of this framework?What is Truity’s updated version, the 7 Love Styles?What does the research actu...
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  When Your Identity Becomes a Cage: How to Hold Your Story Lightly (Part 3) 02.08.2026 31λ

  How do we balance our past experiences and tendencies with the freedom of who we can become? In this episode, part 3 of a mini-series on identity and self-concept, we explore how psychology and philosophy can help us use identity as a tool, without becoming trapped by the story we tell ourselves about who we are. In this episode, we discuss: The Zen concept of “selfing”Why we should not mistake the map for the territoryCBT principles and cognitive restructuring for examining our thoughts and...
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  Who Are You, Really? Rethinking Identity, Freedom, and the Self (Part 2 on Identity) 26.07.2026 24λ

  What is the self? Are we as fixed as we think we are? In this episode, we explore identity, freedom, and self-concept through the lenses of philosophy and spirituality. Last week, we explored how our self-concept forms through psychology. This week, we're taking the next step. In this episode, we explore: - Bad faith with Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir. - Is there a permanent self? Perspectives from David Hume and Buddhism. - Who—or what—are we beneath our thoughts? Insights from E...
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  Do You Really Know Yourself? | The Psychology of Identity & Self-Concept (Part 1) 19.07.2026 29λ

  In order to love ourselves, we first have to know ourselves. But getting to know ourselves isn't always easy. Over time, we can become attached to a particular identity or story about who we are. While that story may be true, it may only be one part of us, leaving other authentic parts hidden beneath the surface. In this episode of Immersion, we explore how our self-concept develops, why we become attached to certain identities, and how we can begin reconnecting with who we are beneath the r...
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  You Don’t Need to Be "Fully Healed" to Date (For the Anxiously Attached) 12.07.2026 22λ

  Ever feel like the second dating gets stressful, anxious, or overwhelming, your only option is to hit pause and retreat? While taking space is completely valid, true relational growth actually happens in connection with others - not just sitting alone in a room meditating. In this episode, we explore how to actively work on yourself while staying in the dating game. By leaning into attachment theory and creating safe, corrective experiences, we can use the dating process as a powerful mirror...
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  What Limerence Actually Feels Like: Is It Love or Limerence? 05.07.2026 31λ

  Part 1 was about the clinical definitions and the "why" behind limerence - this episode is about what it actually feels like to live through it. Limerence is a unique experience with some of the highest highs and lowest lows we can go through. In this episode, we are diving into the lived reality of the limerent mind. We look at how we use art and music to seek solace or feed the obsession, how obstacles keep the fantasy alive, and what happens when we constantly try to "solve" ...
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  When a Crush Becomes an Obsession: Understanding Limerence & Steps to Heal 28.06.2026 41λ

  Have you ever found yourself completely consumed by thoughts of someone, to the point where it feels less like a crush and more like an overwhelming, permanent presence in your mind? In this episode, we are doing a deep, nuanced dive into the concept of limerence - a state of profound romantic infatuation, obsessive thoughts, and an intense desire for emotional reciprocation. If you have ever felt trapped by these intense feelings, or wondered why your brain seems to latch onto a specific pe...
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  Why You Feel Like You’re Never Enough (Contingent Self-Worth) (series part 4) 21.06.2026 33λ

  Do you ever feel like your value as a person depends entirely on your last achievement, your productivity, or what someone else thinks of you? You’re not alone. This is part 4 in our 10 part series on improving our relationship with ourselves. (See the whole self-worth series here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPJBR0a3Yz6vsH5TkuPFtd2b7YgbL11OG ) And in this episode we’re diving deep into the concept of contingent (or conditional) self-worth - that exhausting cycle of making ...
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  How to Build Self-Worth and Stop Seeking External Validation (Part 3 in series) 14.06.2026 29λ

  The topic of self-worth cuts deeper than self-esteem. That is because self-worth is an internal sense that you are enough, and that you are fundamentally deserving of love and respect. In Part 3 of our "Relationship to Self" series, we are diving deep into the foundations of self-worth. In this episode, we look at: Where are we actually getting validation from?How does toxic shame quietly undermine our value?What do we truly care about versus what are the games we play to feel like we "stac...
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  Building Self-Esteem: The 6 Pillars 07.06.2026 28λ

  While self-esteem may seem like an elusive, vague concept, there are practical, everyday actions we can take to build it. In this episode, we explore the actionable frameworks outlined in the classic book, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden. Together, we will dive into all six pillars: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully, and living with integrity. Beyond the theory, we’ll look at real-world examples and the exact ...
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  The Relationship That Shapes Everything Else | Series on Self-Worth, Validation & Identity (Part 1) 31.05.2026 22λ

  You likely know how you feel about your relationships with other people - but how do you feel about your relationship with yourself? Whether we realize it or not, our relationship with ourselves influences nearly everything: our relationships, choices, ambitions, and even how we interpret everyday experiences. In this new series, we'll explore that relationship from many angles, including self-esteem and self-worth, validation, comparison, limerence, trauma, self-concept, and more. In this...
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  The Hidden Personality Trait That Shapes Your Reality: Intuition vs. Sensing 24.05.2026 24λ

  There’s an often-overlooked personality trait that shapes how you process almost everything you encounter day-to-day. While traits like introversion and extraversion get all the spotlight, this core piece of our psychology is just as crucial to understand. Originally introduced by Carl Jung, the balance between Intuition and Sensing dictates whether you prefer to live in the tangible world of facts or the world of endless possibilities. In this episode, we explore: The Tangible vs. The Possi...
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  Happiness Is Not the Opposite of Sadness | How to Handle Negative Emotions 16.05.2026 23λ

  If you’ve ever felt deeply grateful and incredibly sad at the exact same time, you know emotions don't always fit into neat boxes. We often view emotions as a simple spectrum, with happiness on one end and sadness on the other. But our feelings are far more nuanced than that. Instead of living on opposite sides of a continuum, our emotions operate more like individual "knobs" that turn up and down independently. In this episode, we explore how embracing this complexity can enrich our lives, h...
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  Ending Excess Screen Time (Habits that actually work) 10.05.2026 25λ

  We’ve all heard the basic advice: turn off notifications, put your phone in grayscale, or just "try harder." But if you’re like me, those tips didn't stick. After years of experimentation and diving into the psychology of habit formation, I’ve finally found a system that is working for me. In this episode (Part 2 of our series on technology), we are moving past the philosophy and getting into more specific action steps. We’re talking about building friction, managing decision fatigue, and fin...
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  How Culture Changes Your Pursuit of Happiness 12.04.2026 23λ

  Happiness is a universal human aim, but what we believe makes us happy, and how we define a life well-lived, varies. In Part 10 of our Positive Psychology deep dive, we explore how cultural norms, language, and social safety nets dictate our personal views on flourishing. In this episode, we explore: How cultural norms and language shape the way we express happiness.Why a national safety net changes how we behave day-to-day.The 6-D Model of culture - from uncertainty avoidance to individuali...
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  How to Find Purpose: Do We Find or Create Meaning? (Exploring with Sartre and Frankl) 30.03.2026 32λ

  Do you ever wish you knew what your purpose was? Does your life ever feel void of meaning? In this episode we explore the idea of meaning through the lens of positive psychology, logotherapy, and existentialist philosophy. We learn from Dr. Viktor Frankl and Jean-Paul Sartre as well as from the Oxford Handbook on Positive Psychology. Also in this episode: -- How to recenter when we get off track so that we come back to what matters to us. -- The difference between purpose a...
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  Relationship Science 101: Why "Minding" is the Secret to Lasting Relationships 15.03.2026 39λ

  How do we build relationships that actually flourish? In Part 8 of our Positive Psychology series, we’re looking at the science of staying connected through Minding and Active Construction. Whether it’s with friends, family, or partners, we’re moving beyond the honeymoon phase and looking at the intentional work of relating to one another. A large part of this episode is dedicated to the concept of Minding—the ongoing process of knowing and being known by others. We explore how being intenti...
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  Does Success Lead to Happiness – OR Does Happiness Lead to Success? (Part 7 in Positive Psychology Deep Dive) 08.03.2026 29λ

  We are 7 episodes into this series and I have a confession: I expected to feel "happier" by now, but the reality of positive psychology is a lot more nuanced. While I’ve definitely picked up some great habits around Grit and finding Flow in my work, I was surprised to find that the best parts of my day weren't the big achievements—they were the simple things, like a cup of tea and a good book before bed. In this episode, we’re finally tackling the "P" in PERMA+ (Positive Feeling States). In ...
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  How to Master Any Skill Faster (It’s Not 10,000 Hours) 15.02.2026 31λ

  Is the 10,000-hour rule a myth? We’ve all heard that it takes 10,000 hours to master a craft, but the truth is that not all hours are created equal. In this episode, we dive into the science of peak performance and the current "Gold Standard" of learning: Deliberate Practice. Based on the research of Dr. K. Anders Ericsson, we break down why simply "putting in more time" isn't enough and how you can greatly enhance your learning curve to improve in your field. In this episode, we discuss: ▶...