The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

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  End of pregnancy Q&A 22.07.2026 1h 18m

  We’re officially in the final stretch before baby #3! In this end-of-pregnancy Q&A, we’re answering your questions about third trimester life --> from shaving while nine months pregnant to nesting, preschool emotions, and how we’re preparing for the transition from two kids to three. Our Place: Upgrade your kitchen with Our Place at https://fromourplace.com/UNPLANNED and use code UNPLANNED for 10% off sitewide with a 100-day risk-free trial. Unreal Snacks: Visit https://unrealsnacks.com/UNPLANNED to get $4 off a bag of Unreal. Terms and conditions apply. BetterHelp: Don’t let stigma stand in the way of support. Start therapy with BetterHelp and get 10% off at https://betterhelp.com/UNPLANNEDPODCAST. #ad Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with promo code UNPLANNEDPOD. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby 09:00 - Launching my own makeup company 23:09 - Hiring a doula 26:27 - Maternity leave 29:24 - Transition from 2 to 3 35:55 - Mom car 38:46 - Nesting 45:26 - Neighbors calling the cops on us 48:09 - Audience questions 50:49 - Living in Arizona 52:21 - Where have you lived the longest 55:55 - Dad bod 56:51 - Would you move back to Missouri 58:40 - Weekly date nights 01:01:59 - Preparing for baby #3 01:03:18 - Potty training 01:07:19 - Matt's trip to Turkey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Co-parenting with an addict: divorce & raising a son w/ autism ft Laura Clery 15.07.2026 1h 46m

  TRIGGER WARNING: Please note this episode contains themes of domestic violence, suicidal ideation, and drug use. Chilipad: Visit https://www.sleep.me/UNPLANNED to get up to $255 off your Chilipad 2.0 with code UNPLANNED, plus free shipping and a 30-day sleep trial for Unplanned Podcast listeners. Shopify: Start your free trial today https://shopify.com/unplanned Zocdoc: Taking care of your health just got easier – start here with Zocdoc: https://zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED #sponsored Miracle Brand: Upgrade your sleep with Miracle Made! Go to https://trymiracle.com/unplanned and use the code UNPLANNED to claim your FREE 3 PIECE TOWEL SET and SAVE over 40% OFF. Laura Clery has spent years making millions of people laugh, but behind the comedy was a deeply personal battle with addiction, betrayal, and rebuilding her life from the ground up. In this episode, Laura opens up about her husband’s relapse, the end of their marriage, raising a son with autism, finding joy as a single mom, and why humor has remained her greatest survival tool through it all. She also shares the inspiration behind her new memoir, What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Hotter, and the lessons she’s learned about forgiveness, recovery, and starting over. If you or someone you love has been affected by addiction, abuse, or mental health struggles, we hope this conversation reminds you that you’re not alone. Laura's IG: @lauraclery Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 03:14 - Raising a son with autism 12:20 - Becoming a NYTimes Best Selling Author 15:07 - Getting sober 25:19 - AA 30:26 - Being cheated on 47:06 - Finding meaning 53:48 - Divorce 56:32 - Sketch comedy with my ex 01:00:28 - CPS 01:12:34 - Coming to terms with abuse 01:14:25 - Moving on 01:17:01 - Audience questions 01:26:03 - Agree to Disagree Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  An honest conversation about marriage after a decade together 08.07.2026 1h 24m

  We’ve officially been together for 10 years! In this episode, we’re sharing stories from our first date, reacting to some of our most cringeworthy old videos, and discussing the relationship advice that’s actually stood the test of time (and the advice we’d never follow). Thanks for being part of the journey with us. 🤍 Today's episode is sponsored by Ladder, Square, Factor, and Cash App. Ladder: If you have an iPhone, take a quick quiz at https://ladder.fit/UNPLANNED to get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/unplanned ! #squarepod Factor: Head tohttps://factormeals.com/unplanned50off and use code UNPLANNED50OFF to get 50% off and free daily greens per box with new subscription only, while supplies last until 09/27/2026. Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Sign up here to be the first in the know! (Coming July 10th) biswell-beauty.com Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 04:14 - 10 yrs together 08:44 - New launch! Big announcement! 19:36 - Relationship trivia 31:31 - Who said that? 39:25 - Best/Worst relationship advice 58:30 - What we've learned from a decade of love 01:02:13 - Make friends w/other married couples 01:02:13 - Prioritize your marriage after having kids 01:04:49 - Do not consider divorce for 2 yrs after having a baby 01:06:16 - You need humility 01:09:56 - Love people in their own love language 01:11:47 - Continue to date your spouse 01:14:01 - Choose your battles wisely 01:17:07 - It's okay to go to bed angry 01:17:48 - Don't keep score Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Signing a prenup, getting robbed, & living with my in-laws ft. Bryton & Jade 01.07.2026 1h 55m

  Bryton and Jade Myler join us to talk about their whirlwind first year of marriage, growing up in the spotlight as part of Ninja Kidz TV, and how they’re balancing faith, fame, and life online. We also discuss getting married young, navigating public scrutiny, and whether they’d want their future kids to grow up on the internet. Be sure to like, subscribe, and let us know your favorite moment in the comments! 💙 This episode is sponsored by Osea, Our Place, Leesa, & Nutrafol. Osea: Get 10% off your first order sitewide at https://oseamalibu.com with code UNPLANNED. Our Place: Upgrade your kitchen with Our Place—visit https://fromourplace.com/UNPLANNED and use code UNPLANNED for 10% off sitewide, plus enjoy a 100-day risk-free trial. Leesa: Go to https://leesa.com and use promo code UNPLANNED for 30% off select mattresses plus an extra $50 off, exclusive for listeners. Offer valid June 23, 2026 through July 12, 2026. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with promo code UNPLANNEDPOD. Bryton's IG: @bryton_myler Jade's IG: @jademyler_ Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:43 - How we met 12:10 - Growing up on youtube 19:36 - First year of our relationship 25:00 - Our plans for kids 27:24 - Our wedding 32:50 - Utah stereotypes 37:28 - Beast Land in Saudi Arabia 41:15 - Being in business with my family 53:54 - My LDS Mission 01:00:28 - Wing Walking 01:04:23 - Audience questions 01:15:56 - American Ninja Warrior 01:22:37 - Money matters 01:24:41 - Agree to Disagree Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Things we're doing differently postpartum 24.06.2026 1h 32m

  This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc, Sleep.me, Unreal & Cash App Insurance. Stop putting off those doctor appointments and go to https://zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Visit https://www.sleep.me/UNPLANNED to get up to $255 off your Chilipad 2.0 with code UNPLANNED, plus free shipping and a 30-day sleep trial for Unplanned Podcast listeners. Visit https://unrealsnacks.com/UNPLANNED to get $4 off a bag of Unreal. Terms and conditions apply. Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Why do moms hear babies crying when no one is crying? Do lactation cookies actually work? And is childbirth amnesia the only reason people have more than one kid? In this episode, we’re sharing the funniest, weirdest, and most unexpected parts of postpartum life, and talking about how we're going to do things differently this time. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 03:10 - Trip to Turkey 06:44 - Pregnancy update 13:34 - Postpartum prep 18:06 - Postpartum Factoids 27:12 - Sleep deprivation 36:54 - What we're doing differently this time 47:30 - Audience postpartum non-negotiables 01:08:50 - Our Postpartum Non-Negotiables Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Tay Lautner: My 1st trimester, body image, & protecting my baby from the public eye 17.06.2026 1h 12m

  DISCLAIMER: Abby’s mic was off 😭 This episode is sponsored by: Omaha Steaks: Go to https://OmahaSteaks.com and use promo code UNPLANNED at checkout for $35 off. Minimum purchase may apply. Better Help: Find support and get 10% off therapy at https://betterhelp.com/UNPLANNEDPODCAST . #ad Chilipad: Visit https://www.sleep.me/UNPLANNED to get up to $255 off your Chilipad 2.0 with code UNPLANNED, exclusively for Unplanned Podcast listeners for a limited time. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at https://shopify.com/unplanned Today on Unplanned, we sit down with Tay Lautner — mental health advocate, co-host of The Squeeze podcast, and wife of actor Taylor Lautner. Tay opens up about her surprise pregnancy, the reality of a difficult first trimester, navigating body image changes, and preparing for motherhood for the very first time. We also talk about raising a family in the public eye, mental health during pregnancy, and what she’s most nervous about as she gets ready to welcome her baby. Tay's IG: @taylautner Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 03:53 - Pregnant with my first 08:51 - Finding out I'm pregnant 14:00 - 1st trimester 16:11 - Telling my family 18:15 - Gender reveal 22:02 - My time as a nurse 27:53 - Being pregnant in the public eye 42:23 - Breastfeeding 44:33 - Raising a creative kid 45:51 - Prepping for baby #2 50:15 - My dog baby 53:04 - Type A Mom 55:40 - My day to day 57:14 - Chipotle collab 58:34 - Mental Health Awareness Month 58:57 - My non profit 01:02:07 - Plans for the future 01:02:57 - THIS OR THAT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  VBAC, Mood Swings & Skipping Our Babymoon 10.06.2026 1h 23m

  This episode is sponsored by Hiya Health, Factor Meals, Ladder, & ASPCA Pet Insurance. Hiya Health: Get 50% off your first order of Hiya's clean kids vitamins and new Kids Daily Growth + Protein at https://hiyahealth.com/UNPLANNED—this deal is not available on their regular website. Factor Meals: Head to https://factormeals.com/unplanned50off and use code UNPLANNED50OFF to get 50% off and free daily greens per box with new subscription only, while supplies last until 09/27/2026. Ladder: If you have an iPhone, go to https://ladder.fit/UNPLANNED to take a quick quiz and get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. ASPCA Pet Insurance: To explore coverage, visit https://www.aspcapetinsurance.com/UNPLANNED Today on Unplanned, we’re sharing a huge update on our birth plan. Abby opens up about becoming a VBAC candidate, navigating the risks and emotions that come with it, and why reaching the third trimester feels especially meaningful after our loss. We also talk pregnancy hormones, strange sympathy symptoms, birth prep, AI robots (for some reason), and why we’re trading a babymoon for a “nesting moon.” Plus, Matt and Abby take an ultimate pregnancy quiz. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:35 - Travel Diaries 10:33 - 3rd Trimester Struggles 22:28 - Nesting 25:59 - Ultimate Pregnancy Quiz 46:13 - Change in birth plan 01:00:54 - Hypno Birthing 01:04:32 - Pregnancy symptoms 01:08:26 - Sympathy Symptoms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Escaping a cult, going blind, & retiring my guide dog w/ Matthew and Paul 03.06.2026 1h 43m

  This episode is sponsored by: Unreal Snacks, Square, Good Wipes, and Cash App Unreal Snacks: Visit https://unrealsnacks.com/unplanned o get $4 off a bag of Unreal—terms and conditions apply. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/unplanned ! #squarepod Good Wipes: Head to https://goodwipes.com/UNPLANNED to learn how to snag a free pack of goodwipes! Cash App: Download Cash App at https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w and use code FAMILY10 at signup to earn $10 when you send $5 to a friend within 14 days. Terms apply. Today on Unplanned, we sit down with Matthew and Paul — an interabled married couple loved by millions for their honest conversations around disability, identity, and life online. Paul opens up about being diagnosed with a degenerative eye disease that will eventually leave him completely blind, while Matthew shares his experience growing up in a strict religious cult and the journey that led him to finally leave. We also talk about internet trolls, misconceptions about blindness, their dream of becoming parents, retiring a guide dog, and how they’ve built a life centered around creativity, advocacy, and finding joy in the face of adversity. Matthew & Paul's IG: @matthewandpaul Paul's Children's Books IG: @paulcastlestudio Find Paul's books here: https://paulcastlestudio.com/ Find Matthew's music here: https://open.spotify.com/artist/31WEJvJ77B3sv45clvu889/discography/all Guide dog resource mentioned in this episode: https://www.guidedogs.com/ Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:02 - Traveling with a guide dog 07:15 - Retinitis Pigmentosa 11:15 - How we met 15:09 - Breaking up 17:35 - Growing up in the IBLP 30:00 - Escaping the IBLP 33:30 - Dealing with the internet trolls 42:40 - Family planning 46:00 - Coping with grief 53:00 - Getting married 01:00:00 - Retiring our service dog 01:11:30 - Running a marathon as a blind person 01:13:00 - Applying for a new guide dog 01:20:00 - When my guide dog saved my life 01:30:00 - Authoring children's books Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Love is Blind, Baby #2 & Postpartum Depression w/ Zack & Bliss 27.05.2026 1h 46m

  Today's episode is sponsored by Kiwi Co, ASPCA Pet Insurance, Rocket Money, and Zoc Doc. Kiwi Co: Build the best summer ever with KiwiCo—get $10 off your Summer Adventure Series at https://kiwico.com/SUMMER with promo code UNPLANNED. ASPCA Pet Insurance: Explore coverage at https://www.aspcapetinsurance.com/UNPLANNED. Rocket Money: Let Rocket Money help you find and cancel unwanted subscriptions, monitor your spending, and lower your bills—join at https://RocketMoney.com/UNPLANNEDZoc Doc: Stop putting off those doctor appointments—go to https://zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Today on Unplanned, we sit down with everyone’s favorite Love Is Blind redemption story — Zack Goytowski and Bliss Poureetezadi. They open up about second chances, getting married in secret, life after reality TV, growing their family, and what really happened after the pods. We also talk postpartum depression, internet backlash, Zack’s difficult childhood, and how all of it shaped the marriage and family they’re building today. Bliss' IG: @blisspoureetezadi Zack's IG: @zackgoytowski Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:00 - Love is Blind casting process + How we met 10:00 - Singing in the pods 15:23 - Redemption arc 22:26 - Ad break 24:50 - Love is Blind Divorces 30:13 - Childhood trauma 39:56 - Ad Break 44:49 - First birth story 48:47 - Postpartum Depression 52:41 - Having a boy! 55:39 - Ad Break 01:00:07 - Authenticity online 01:08:43 - Questions from audience 01:11:44 - Ad Break Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  My mom: Getting married young, Hawaii, and Parenting Now vs. Then 20.05.2026 1h 36m

  This episode is sponsored by Better Help, Ladder, Wayfair, & Kindred Bravely Better Help: Find support and get 10% off therapy at https://betterhelp.com/UNPLANNEDPODCAST . #ad Ladder: If you have an iPhone, go to https://ladder.fit/UNPLANNED to take a quick quiz and get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. Wayfair: Get prepped for patio season for way less at https://wayfair.com Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order at https://KindredBravely.com/UNPLANNED On this episode of Unplanned, Matt & Abby sit down with Abby’s mom, Lori, for one of their most honest family conversations yet. They finally unpack why the family was so against them getting married young, why the move to Hawaii caused so much tension, what Abby was really like growing up, and the parenting debates they still disagree on today. Check out Lori's Travel Book! : https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Travel-Hawaii-Guide-Kids/dp/B0GX7BFTGJ/ Follow her insta: @whatasmartcookiepublishing Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 02:10 - Dad's camera phobia 03:45 - Abby's childhood 10:45 - Matt and Abby meet cute 13:13 - Ad Break 16:37 - Mom is an author! 22:50 - Getting married in college 29:09 - Ad Break 32:54 - Asking for Abby's hand in marriage 38:35 - Social Media career 40:42 - Moving to Hawaii 48:57 - Being a teacher and a mom 50:13 - Ad Break 01:06:30 - Living in Arizona 01:08:16 - Questions from our audience 1:15:40 - Ad break #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Mormon Influencers, Filming Reality TV & Raising 5 Kids w/ Madison & Kyler (The FishFam) 13.05.2026 1h 31m

  This episode is sponsored by Goodwipes, Hiya Health, Shopify, and Tumble Living. Goodwipes: Grab the new Peaches & Cream or any other goodwipes item at Walmart or Walmart.com, buy any two packs, text your receipt, and get reimbursed for one of them—details at https://goodwipes.com/UNPLANNED. Hiya Health: Receive 50% off your first order of Hiya's best selling children's vitamin at https://hiyahealth.com/UNPLANNED . This deal is not available on their regular website. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at https://shopify.com/unplanned Tumble Living Inc: Get 10% off plus free shipping on machine washable rugs at https://tumbleliving.com/UNPLANNED #Tumble #ad This week on Unplanned, we sit down with Madison and Kyler Fisher from the Fish Fam to talk about joining The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, the pressure of raising 5 kids online, and what scares them most about entering the reality TV world. Madison's IG: @madisonbontempo Kyler's IG: @kylerstevenfisher Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:28 - Secret Lives of Mormon Wives OC 06:09 - LDS 14:36 - Baby blessings 20:20 - ad break 21:31 - filming a reality tv show in your home 26:21 - swinging scandal 32:32 - How does your family feel? 34:44 - $$ 37:20 - ad break 38:49 - Raising 5 kids 43:57 - Living in Utah 46:44 - Finding purpose 55:20 - ad break 01:01:16 - Who's more likely 01:09:50 - ad break #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Who Knows Who Better: Husband vs. Wife 06.05.2026 1h 23m

  Today's episode is sponsored by Cash App, Blissy, Square, & Ladder Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Direct deposit and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Blissy: Wake up with clearer skin, smoother hair, and cooler sleep—use code UNPLANNED for an extra 30% off at https://blissy.com/UNPLANNED Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/unplanned ! #squarepod Ladder: If you have an iPhone, go to https://ladder.fit/UNPLANNED to take a quick quiz and get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. Matt and Abby put their relationship to the test in a chaotic game of Who Knows Who Better, and nothing is off limits. From pet peeves and favorite meals to biggest regrets and proudest moments, things get real (and really funny) fast. Play with your significant other, and let us know the biggest surprises! Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 02:23 - Life Update 14:39 - Who Knows Who Better? 14:39 - Round 1 28:22 - Round 2 36:13 - Round 3 46:19 - Round 4 58:36 - Round 5 01:09:16 - Final Round Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Pregnancy Rage, Mood Swings, & Baby Names: 2nd Trimester Q&A 29.04.2026 1h 16m

  This episode is sponsored by Wayfair, Rocket Money, Blissy, and Good Wipes Wayfair: Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget at ⁠https://wayfair.com⁠ Rocket Money: Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster—join at ⁠https://RocketMoney.com/UNPLANNED⁠ with promo code UNPLANNED. Blissy: Wake up with clearer skin, smoother hair, and cooler sleep—use code UNPLANNED for an extra 30% off at ⁠https://blissy.com/UNPLANNED⁠ Good Wipes: Grab the new Peaches & Cream or any other goodwipes item at Walmart or ⁠Walmart.com⁠, buy any two packs, text your receipt, and get reimbursed for one of them—details at ⁠https://goodwipes.com/UNPLANNED⁠. Trying to pick a baby name isn’t as easy as it sounds… 😅 In this episode, Matt and Abby share the baby names they almost used, answer your 2nd trimester questions, and get real about postpartum rage, mood swings, and life leading up to the due date. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 02:34 - Grief and gender disappointment 10:21 - Most exciting part of this pregnancy? 10:48 - How do maintain energy? 11:45 - Registry must haves? 15:50 - Ad 17:22 - What are you going to do differently? 20:10 - Due date? 20:37 - pregnancy craving? 21:48 - how is matt handling mood swings? 27:47 - what personality trait do you hope the baby gets 29:38 - Ad 31:06 - Halloween costumes? 33:50 - stretch marks 35:33 - does Matt put the right amt of ice cubes in your drinks now 36:48 - honest thoughts one being one of three boys 38:24 - Post partum rage? 41:43 - processing the miscarriage 44:30 - How many weeks are you 45:04 - Ad 46:30 - Name we like but aren't using 51:20 - When will you announce his name? 52:11 - How do you talk to your kids about death 55:11 - are you doing alright? 1:00:05 - Ad 1:01:30 - How did you get pregnant after an IUD 1:03:00 - Do you still have s*x during pregnancy? 1:03:50 - How to get on the same page with my husband 1:04:47 - What is a name that matt likes but abby hates 1:05:29 - Baby moon? 1:06:04 - plans for PPD? 1:07:35 - Funny pregnancy moments Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Finding Out The Gender Of Our Rainbow Baby and Telling Our Families Finally 22.04.2026 1h 13m

  This episode is sponsored by Ladder, Cash App, Zoc Doc, and Better Help Ladder: If you have an iPhone, go to https://ladder.fit/UNPLANNED to take a quick quiz and get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Cash App Green, overdraft coverage, borrow, cash back offers and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Zoc Doc: Stop putting off those doctor appointments—go to https://zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Better Help: Sign up and get 10% off at https://betterhelp.com/unplannedpodcast #ad In this episode, Matt and Abby talk all things gender reveals, telling family, and the very real emotions that can come with gender disappointment—especially after experiencing loss. Most of all, they’re celebrating a healthy baby boy and getting so excited to welcome another little guy to the family. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 06:04 - Life pdate 13:54 - Pelvic rest 19:57 - Disney 24:59 - Empty Nesters 28:50 - Are we RV people? 34:46 - Gender Reveal 35:34 - Finding out the gender 37:40 - Gender disappointment 50:48 - Your gender reveal hot takes 55:10 - Our gender reveal party 01:03:05 - VBAC Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Adopted from Russia, Leaving Mormonism, & Dealing w/ Hate Comments w/ Maddie Henderson & Matt Scharff  15.04.2026 1h 44m

  This episode was sponsored by ASPCA Pet Health Insurance, Kindred Bravely, Omaha Steaks, and Hiya Health. ASPCA Pet Health Insurance: Explore coverage at https://www.aspcapetinsurance.com/UNPLANNED Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order at https://KindredBravely.com/UNPLANNED with promo code UNPLANNED Omaha Steaks: Go to https://OmahaSteaks.com and use promo code UNPLANNED at checkout for $35 off. Minimum purchase may apply. Hiya Health: Receive 50% off your first order of Hiya's best selling children's vitamin at https://hiyahealth.com/UNPLANNED this deal is not available on their regular website. Maddie Henderson and Matt Scharff join us for a fun, honest conversation about their whirlwind love story—from meeting online to moving in fast and now preparing for their first baby. Matt opens up about his adoption from Russia, we answer your audience questions, and wrap it all up with a chaotic round of Who’s More Likely. 💛 Maddies IG: @maddiehen.scharff Matt's IG: @mattscharff Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 01:01 - Love Story 10:27 - Archives of TikTok 15:51 - Leaving Utah 20:17 - Divorce in the LDS church  23:05 - Future planning  25:24 - Good Good  36:45 - Baby girl! 46:30 - Adopted from Russia  01:05:53 - Questions from audience  01:22:07 - Who's More Likely? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Navigating divorce, AI & What No One Tells You About Age Gap Marriages w/ Dean & Lisa Graziosi 12.04.2026 1h 9m

  Matt and Abby sit down with entrepreneur and New York Times bestselling author Dean Graziosi and his wife Lisa to talk about family, ambition, and building a life with intention. Dean shares how the pain of divorce became a turning point that pushed him toward deeper personal growth, while he and Lisa open up about blending families, waiting a year before introducing their relationship to his kids, and the values shaping their homeschooling journey. They also talk about work-life integration vs. balance, and how tools like AI can help create more time for what matters most at home. Chapters: 00:00 - Dean & Lisa 01:04 - Finding balance 03:42 - Love story 09:27 - Our age gap 11:35 - The balance of business and family 16:39 - Moms and Al 20:45 - Context for Al 25:21 - Divorce 28:43 - Crafting a vision 40:20 - Keeping the family bond 46:18 - Work/life integration 57:46 - How rich is Dean Graziosi 01:03:34 - How do most millionaire's make their money? 01:04:11 - What are the 3 C's? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Elizabeth Smart: Kidnapped at 14 & held captive for 9 months 08.04.2026 1h 24m

  TRIGGER WARNING This episode contains detailed discussions/depictions of sexual assault and rape involving minors. We understand this material is deeply disturbing and can be triggering for survivors. Please prioritize your well-being. This episode is sponsored by Shopify, Ladder, and Cash App. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at https://shopify.com/unplanned Ladder: If you have an iPhone, go to https://ladder.fit/unplanned to take a quick quiz and get a free 7-day trial with no credit card required, plus $10 off your first month if you join. Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/kssum24w #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Cash App Green, overdraft coverage, borrow, cash back offers and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Elizabeth Smart — and her story is one of both unimaginable hardship and incredible hope. After being kidnapped at 14 and held captive for nine months, Elizabeth has gone on to build a beautiful life — as a wife, a mother, and a powerful advocate for survivors. We talk about what healing has looked like for her, how she learned to move forward after trauma, and what it’s been like to find love and create a family of her own. We also dive into what fuels her advocacy, the impact she hopes to make, and her perspective on forgiveness. Elizabeth's IG: Elizabeth_Smart_Official https://www.elizabethsmartfoundation.org/ If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, support is available and healing is possible. You can reach the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE (4673) or connect online at rainn.org. Or call 911. Reporting can save a life. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 00:36 - Choosing to share my story 04:51 - The night of the kidnapping 09:20 - what kept me going 12:17 - changing mentality around victims 20:06 - How to talk to your kids 26:31 - Accusing my family 28:22 - Victims and the justice system 37:53 - Forgiveness 40:28 - Finding out my captor was released 45:35 - Why I didn't run 51:51 - Trauma responses 55:02 - What the documentary left out 59:06 - Counting the days 01:02:02 - Concern of pregnancy 01:04:01 - Telling my story to my children 01:09:41 - Intimacy after sexual trauma 01:16:53 - Clinging to my childhood 01:20:57 - Supporting survivors through my foundation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Sisters-In-Law Play Agree to Disagree *Pregnancy & Postpartum Edition* 01.04.2026 1h 31m

  This episode is sponsored by Square, Wayfair, and Upwork. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/unplanned ! #squarepod Wayfair: Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget at https://wayfair.com. Upwork: Visit https://upwork.com to post your job for free and connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. In this Agree to Disagree: Pregnancy Edition, the sisters-in-law are BACK! Abby, Abigail, and Addy dive into pregnancy symptoms, hormones, cravings, breastfeeding, birth plans, and everything no one prepares you for — sharing honest takes, personal experiences, and unfiltered opinions. Abigail's IG: @abigailghoward Addy's IG: @addybiswell Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify / Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbby Chapters: 06;14 - If men had to give birth, humanity would end 08;41 - Pregnancy brain is just an excuse 10;58 - I have cried over food while pregnant 13;01 - Ad break Square 14;20 - Babies know when you're about to get freaky 15;05 - The first trimester is the hardest 17;19 - Working out during pregnancy makes things easier 17;55 - Pregnancy is harder mentally than physically 20;06 - No one prepares you for how hard postpartum is 24;12 - Ad break Upwork 25;25 - Screentime is necessary for surviving the third trimester 27;01 - You should find out the gender as soon as possible 34;30 - Announcing pregnancy early is a mistake 37;38 - Gender reveals should be cancelled 38;38 - Breastfeeding is way harder than people admit 43;19 - Ad break Wayfair 44;46 - It's okay to still be breastfeeding a 4 year old 46;45 - Mom guilt never goes away 48;25 - Moms deserve a push present every time 50;38 - Toddlers can sense weakness and will absolutely exploit it 53;06 - I have hidden in the bathroom to get a moment of peace 56;00 - Gentle parenting doesn't work 58;44 - Every parent compares their kids to other kids 1;00;13 - Having kids makes marriage harder 1;01;43 - Pregnancy hormones have started arguments 1;04;09 - It's normal for your spouse to feel like a roomate 1;05;57 - During the baby years, your relationship is 2nd 1;07;28 - Checking your partner's location is totally normal 1;07;58 - Apologizing first doesn't always mean you're wrong 1;09;13 - Marriage advice from single friends isn't helpful 1;10;54 - Romance has to be scheduled after kids 1;12;55 - Protecting your marriage means setting boundaries with family 1;13;19 - Being a parent makes you more anxious 1;14;45 - you don't understand your partner until they're a parent 1;14;56 - I sometimes feel like the default parent 1;15;49 - You do become your own mother 1;16;45 - Traveling with kids isn't worth the chaos 1;17;22 - Using cloth diapers won't save the environment 1;18;34 - I wear the pants in my household 1;20;11 - I know the code to my husband's phone 1;20;26 - Having kids made me lose a part of myself 1;23;41 - I miss my pre-pregnancy body 1;24;52 - Sex feels different after birth 1;25;10 - I am the fun parent #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  We're pregnant with our rainbow baby 25.03.2026 1h 17m

  Today's episode is sponsored by Shopify, Pocket Pivot, Little Spoon, and Upwork. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at https://shopify.com/unplanned Pocket Pivot: Text UNPLANNED to 64000 to get a free pocket pivot and 10-pattern sprayer with the purchase of any size Copper Head hose; message and data rates may apply, see terms for details. Little Spoon: Go to https://littlespoon.com/unplanned30 and enter code UNPLANNED30 for 30% off your first order of real, nutritionally balanced meals and snacks for kids at every stage. Upwork: Visit https://upwork.com to post your job for free and connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. In this episode Matt and Abby get honest about what this rainbow baby pregnancy has actually felt like: the joy, the grief, and the complicated space where both live at the same time. They open up about the fear leading up to that 17-week appointment and what it has meant to finally let themselves feel hopeful again. Follow The Unplanned Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/unplanned__podcast/ https://www.tiktok.com/@unplanned_podcast Listen to the pod on Spotify/ Apple Podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/1ToDA4ufQuWuEgMq07zN6t https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unplanned-podcast/id1669604504 Follow Matt & Abby: Abby's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/abbyelizabethoward/ Matt's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/_matt_howard_/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_and_abby Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/mattandabb YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@MattandAbbyHoward #unplannedpodcast #mattandabby Chapters: 00:47 - Why we waited to share 05:15 - Finding out we're pregnant 15:28 - Bleeding scare and coping 22:50 - Ad Break 26:31 - Finding out the gender 29:07 - Telling our family 38:36 - Reaching the 17 week mark 45:35 - Gender reveal party 49:11 - Ad Break 52:02 - Pelvic Rest 59:52 - Telling our boys 01:02:09 - Feeling the baby kick 01:09:21 - Talking about baby #4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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  Modern Masculinity, Feminism, & Raising Boys in 2026 18.03.2026 1h 10m

  Matt and Abby open up about what it feels like to raise boys in a moment where conversations around masculinity feel louder and more polarized than ever. They unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy masculinity, how criticism aimed at grown men can be internalized by young boys, and the role social media plays in amplifying extremes. They also share their biggest hopes as parents — raising sons with strength, humility, emotional awareness, and a sense of purpose in a rapidly changing world. This episode is sponsored by Zoc Doc, Better Help, Kindred Bravely, Olipop, and Flamingo. Zoc Doc: Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to https://Zocdoc.com/UNPLANNED to find and instantly book a doctor you love today. Better Help:Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp/unplannedpodcast Kindred Bravely: Get 20% off your first order at https://KindredBravely.com/UNPLANNED with promo code UNPLANNED. Exclusions apply. OLIPOP: Get a free can of OLIPOP when you buy any 2 cans in store—just visit https://drinkolipop.com/unplanned Flamingo: Our listeners get the Flamingo Starter Set for just $7 at https://www.shopflamingo.com/unplanned Chapters: 00:00 - Modern Masculinity 01:53 - Living in a man hating culture viral clip 08:05 - How did we get here 10:08 - Redefining masculinity 17:36 - Not all men 18:42 - Raising good men 25:50 - Teaching our boys emotional regulation 29:46 - Boys vs. Girls 38:41 - Consequences 41:06 - Service in healthy masculinity 45:10 - Why young men are afraid of emotions 50:44 - Pay disparity in the home 01:00:17 - Normalizing therapy 01:03:47 - Social Media and the gender wars Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices