Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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  Why You Snap at the People You Love Most (And How to Respond Differently) | Happiness | E543 30.07.2026 55m

  Sometimes, the people you love most can push your nervous system past its breaking point. Nervous system regulation is what helps you stay grounded, communicate clearly, and respond instead of react. And when you don’t have it, you snap. You shut down. You get flooded, overwhelmed, or completely disconnected from the people you care about most. You’re not failing. You’re not “too sensitive.” And you’re not bad at relationships. Your nervous system may simply be overloaded. I’m talking with emotional-development expert Alyssa Blask Campbell about why two people can experience the exact same moment in completely different ways, and how those invisible differences can create conflict, disconnection, and hurt feelings. Listen to learn: The four hidden senses shaping your emotional world Why generic self-care works for some people—and fails others How sensory differences create surprising relationship conflicts The difference between numbing yourself and truly regulating How to build calming strategies that actually fit you Sometimes the person you love isn’t ignoring you, overreacting, or being difficult. Their nervous system may simply be speaking a different language. I hope this conversation helps you understand yourself more deeply, take things less personally, and bring more compassion into your relationships. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  How Often Should Couples Have Sex? Why the Real Answer Isn't a Number | Love | E542 27.07.2026 51m

  How often should couples have sex? I’m going to tell you the truth: If you’re counting, something deeper is already asking for your attention. When your partner starts feeling more like a roommate, it’s easy to panic. To compare. To wonder whether your relationship is broken. But the “right number” isn’t the answer. If you’re lying next to the person you love wondering, “What happened to us?”... this episode is for you. In this conversation, I’m joined by Growing Self clinician and certified sex therapist Dori Bagi to uncover the hidden reasons desire fades, and what can actually bring it back. Listen to learn: Why sexual frequency is often a distracting symptom How spontaneous and responsive desire work differently The hidden expectations quietly creating pressure and resentment How hormones, body image, and emotional disconnection affect desire Whether attraction can return after it feels completely gone You may not have a libido problem. You may have an understanding problem. And once you can finally see what’s happening, you can start changing it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. If this is touching something tender in your relationship, you don’t have to figure it out alone. You can connect directly with Dori for compassionate, expert support at growingself.com/dori.  Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  Giving Everything... Then Giving Up? How to Find Your Sustainable Pace | Happiness | E541 23.07.2026 1h 1m

  Have you ever overextended yourself to the point where you collapsed? Gave and gave and gave until your well was dry.. The problem isn't that you can't handle hard things. It's that you haven't learned how to find your sustainable pace. If you're trying to figure out how to lead a productive and full life without becoming exhausted and depleted in the process, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I'm joined by award-winning science writer Elizabeth Svoboda, author of The Art of Pacing. Together, we unpack the hidden pattern behind that all-or-nothing cycle and why the answer isn't pushing harder or checking out completely. You'll learn how to work with your energy instead of constantly fighting against it, including a simple breathing technique that can calm your nervous system in just a few minutes. Listen to learn: Why high achievers keep swinging between overdoing it and shutting down How to calm your nervous system with a simple, science-backed strategy you can do immediately Hacks that make your to do list feel easier (and energizing) The one question that helps you make better decisions about what to say yes to How to get clarity about YOUR sustainable pace (not someone else’s) How to get your energy back after a “burnout breakdown” and avoid going there again. It’s time to stop chasing someone else's pace and start trusting your own. This episode will give you direction about how to do that. Lastly, take 10 seconds to think about who in your life is barely holding it all together and needs to hear this message today. Forward it to them.  And there it is: You just made a difference. (We're on this mission, together.) Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  Can’t Sleep? How to Stop Exhaustion From Wrecking Your Relationship | Love | E540 20.07.2026 1h 2m

  You might not be falling out of love. You might just be exhausted. When you can’t sleep, everything gets louder. The resentment. The anxiety. The dishwasher fight that suddenly feels like proof your entire relationship is broken. I’ve seen this happen again and again: people blame their partner, their marriage, or themselves—when the real saboteur is sleep deprivation. In this episode, I’m talking with marriage and family therapist and sleep expert Chrissy Lawler about what exhaustion is really doing to your mood, your parenting, and the people you love most. Listen to learn: Why exhaustion makes every conflict feel more serious How poor sleep quietly drains connection and intimacy The counterintuitive reason to get out of bed when you can’t sleep How caffeine, alcohol, and nighttime habits sabotage your rest Why sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is go to bed angry Simple, evidence-based ways to start sleeping better tonight Before you decide your relationship is broken, check your sleep. A full night of rest might change the entire conversation. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠.
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  Late, Frazzled, Stressed And Scattered? How To Get Back In Control Of Your Time | Success | E539 16.07.2026 1h 6m

  Are you chronically late, stressed, and frazzled? Feel like you never have enough time to do what you really want and need to do? Here’s the reality: Until you can manage your time, you’ll always feel out of control. Poor  time management isn’t just making you late. It’s quietly stealing your life. If you feel buried, behind, overcommitted, and weirdly guilty all the time, this episode is going to hit hard. Because the problem may not be that you’re lazy, scattered, or “bad at time management.” The real problem is that you’re saying yes to everything and accidentally saying no to the life you actually want. I’m sitting down with Samantha Lane, TEDx speaker and founder of Origami Day, to talk about the simple time management shift that can help you stop living on autopilot. Here’s the uncomfortable (but also liberating and life-changing) truth: You don’t have a time problem. You have a choosing problem. Listen to learn: Why poor time management is really a life-management problem The brutal truth about your 168 hours each week How every “yes” secretly becomes a “no” Why your to-do list will never actually be done The simple weekly planning ritual that can calm the chaos If you’ve been trying to become more disciplined, more productive, more organized, and somehow still feel like you’re failing, this conversation will help you stop blaming yourself and start choosing your life on purpose. You’re not behind.You’re just ready to choose differently. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  Why Your Partner Never Seems to Get It (and How to Finally Reach Them) | Love | E538 13.07.2026 54m

  Your partner heard something you never said. That’s why the conversation went sideways. That’s why you’re suddenly defending yourself.That’s why they’re hurt.That’s why you’re both thinking, “How did we get here again?” If you’re struggling with a lack of communication in a relationship, this episode is for you. Because the problem may not be that you’re bad at communicating. It may be that you and your partner are speaking completely different emotional languages. In this episode, I’m talking with psychotherapist Jason VanRuler, author of Discovering Your Communication Type, about why the same words can land beautifully for one person and completely miss another. We’ll unpack the five communication types, why good intentions still create painful disconnection, and how to speak in a way your partner can actually receive. You'll learn: Why your partner hears something totally different than what you meant How the same words can comfort one person and trigger another The five communication types that shape every hard conversation Why “men can’t communicate” is a lazy, damaging myth How to stop blaming each other and start translating each other What to say after a fight when you actually want to repair You don’t have to keep having the same argument forever. You may just need to learn how your partner listens. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  Exhausted But Can’t Relax? How to Regulate Your Nervous System | Happiness | E537 09.07.2026 1h 1m

  Wired and tired? I’ve been there too, and I know first hand… this is not sustainable. Help is here. If you’re searching for nervous system regulation strategies because your body feels like it’s waving a white flag — the insomnia, the tension, the stomach issues, the collapse at night — this episode is a must listen.  Join me for this conversation with somatic expert Liz Tenuto, known as The Workout Witch, about why chronic stress gets stored in the body, why your doctor can say “everything looks normal” when you feel anything but, and how somatic healing can help you come back to yourself. You'll learn: Why your body won’t switch off at night How functional freeze makes you look fine while you’re shutting down The body signs of stored stress: jaw, shoulders, gut, sleep, pain Why somatic healing can help when thinking harder doesn’t A one-minute reset you can try right now If your body has been begging you to listen, this episode is where we start. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠
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  How to Build Confidence From the Inside Out | Success | E536 06.07.2026 1h 9m

  You’re the tiger pacing the cage… but the door has been open the whole time. If you want to know how to gain confidence for real — not perform it, fake it, or force it — this conversation will show you where to start. Because the truth is, you can look wildly successful and still feel trapped inside your own head. In this episode, I’m talking with Sara Anderson about why confidence doesn’t magically appear when you achieve enough — and why the higher you climb, the louder your self-doubt can get if you don’t address it from the inside out.  Because here’s the part nobody tells high achievers: You cannot think your way into confidence while your body is screaming danger. Real confidence is built from the inside out. Listen to learn: Why achievement can make your self-doubt worse, not better Why your mind goes blank when the stakes are high How your body betrays your confidence before you say a word Why affirmations don’t work when your nervous system is in panic mode How to stop freezing, spiraling, and over-explaining under pressure The 10-second grounding tool that helps bring your brain back online How to stop performing confidence and finally start trusting yourself Why the cage door is already open — and how to walk through it If you’re tired of pacing the same old cage, this episode is your open door. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors: Shopify —  Every self-made person started somewhere. Yours starts free at shopify.com/lhs Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at ⁠quince.com/lhs⁠.
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  Why You’re Miserable When Everything is “Fine” | Happiness | E535 02.07.2026 1h 17m

  Feeling down when, at least on the surface, nothing is horrible? It’s easy to blame yourself, and think “what’s wrong with me that I can’t just be happy?”  Here’s a new idea. Maybe that feeling is not wrong at all.  Maybe it’s a signal from your emotional guidance system that it’s time to evolve.  The boredom. The restlessness. The exhaustion. The quiet little voice whispering, “I cannot keep doing this.” You can numb it.You can explain it away.You can call it anxiety, burnout, depression, hormones, laziness, or “just a rough patch.” But what if it’s none of that? What if the real problem is that your life doesn’t fit anymore?  In this episode, I’m talking about how to change your life when you feel stuck, especially when nothing is technically “wrong,” but everything inside you is screaming. Because that feeling you keep trying to get rid of? It may be the most important message you’ve gotten in years. Today, I’m going to help you stop ignoring it, stop shaming yourself for it, and start reading it for what it is: your emotional guidance system telling you it’s time for a new chapter. You'll learn: Why feeling miserable doesn’t always mean something has gone wrong How to tell the difference between a bad mood and a life that no longer fits Why boredom, dread, and restlessness can be signs of personal growth The journaling questions that reveal what you actually want Why insight alone won’t change your life How to find the clarity, courage, and allies you need to move forward You don’t have to blow up your life today. But you do need to stop betraying yourself by pretending you don’t hear the alarm. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts.
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  The Silent Mind Game You’ll Never Win: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | Happiness | E534 29.06.2026 1h 3m

  There is a silent mind game stealing your peace — and you’ve been trained to play it every day.  If you can’t stop comparing yourself to others, this episode may hit a nerve. That sick little feeling of “Why am I not enough?” It isn’t something another promotion, relationship, body, bank account, or achievement is going to fix. I’m sitting down with Harvard psychologist Dr. Ron Siegel to reveal the brutal truth: your brain is wired to rank you. And the comparison game is designed so you never actually win. This conversation will help you understand why success never satisfies for long, why self-esteem can become a trap, and how radical self-acceptance can finally get you off the emotional rollercoaster. You’ll learn: Why comparing yourself to others feels impossible to stop The ancient brain wiring behind “not good enough” Why every achievement high wears off so fast How social media and culture weaponize comparison Why “just build your self-esteem” can backfire The shift from impressing people to actually connecting How to begin feeling free without becoming someone else This is for anyone who’s tired of measuring their worth against everyone else’s highlight reel. You don’t have to win the comparison game to feel okay. You can step out of it — and come back to yourself. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  The Real Reason “I’m Fine” Backfires in Relationships | Love | E533 25.06.2026 1h 2m

  If you’ve ever said “I’m fine,” watched your partner believe you, and then felt even more hurt than before, this episode is for you. Because that tiny moment, the one where you want them to know you’re not okay without having to spell it out, is where so many couples quietly lose each other. In this episode, I’m talking with therapist and workplace wellbeing expert Nidhi Tewari about attunement, the relationship skill that helps people feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe. We’ll unpack why loving partners still miss each other’s cues, why fixing, reassuring, or changing the subject can accidentally make someone feel more alone, and how to become an “explorer,” someone who asks instead of assumes. You’ll learn how to emotionally connect with your partner in a way that actually lands: how to calm yourself before a hard conversation, what to say when your partner is hurting, how to ask for what you need out loud, and how to share what hurts without starting a fight. In this episode: 04:00: The skill that can quietly make every relationship better 09:44: Why emotional connection is something you can learn 21:55: Why you can’t connect until you calm yourself first 32:12: Fixer, Avoider, Connector, or Explorer: which one are you? 38:24: What to say so your partner finally feels seen 46:36: Why “I’m fine” backfires, and how to ask for what you need 52:45: How to tell your partner what hurts without starting a fight If you’ve been stuck in that lonely loop of hoping your partner will just know, then feeling disappointed when they don’t, this episode will help you do something different. The first skill that brings couples back together is one you can start practicing tonight. Press play, and let’s begin. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  How To Handle Uncertainty Without Spiraling | Happiness | E532 22.06.2026 1h 11m

  Uncertainty can make you anxious, controlling, and completely exhausted, but staying steady is a skill you can build. Here’s the real reason you can’t seem to figure out how to deal with uncertainty: you’ve been taught that calm is a personality trait. Something you either have or you don’t. It’s not. The people who stay grounded when life blows up the plan didn’t win some genetic lottery. They’ve built a skill. And by the end of this episode, you’ll know how to start building it too. Today, I’m talking with executive coach Liz Tran about the agility quotient, the trainable intelligence that helps you stay steady when everything is changing. If the constant churn at work, in your relationships, and in the world has you anxious, overthinking, bracing, or trying to control every possible outcome, this conversation is for you. You’ll learn how to build mental toughness from the inside out, how to get out of your comfort zone on purpose, and how to start changing your life even when the future feels uncertain, without pretending you’ve got it all figured out. In this episode: 04:20: The skill no one taught you, but everyone needs now 08:09: The “third intelligence” that matters when plans fall apart 18:27: The one-question reframe that flips dread into fuel 19:24: Four quiet habits steady people rely on under pressure 29:24: Which “change type” are you? 52:16: Why Googling and doom-scrolling make uncertainty worse 53:11: The boat metaphor that can change your next bad day 1:04:27: What helps kids become resilient instead of brittle If you’re tired of living inside the spiral, needing control, asking “why is this happening to me,” and avoiding anything uncomfortable, I really want you to hear this one. Because uncertainty isn’t going away. But you can become someone who knows how to meet it. Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  Why Can’t I Stop Overthinking Everything? Your Anxiety Isn’t the Enemy | Happiness | E531 18.06.2026 1h 5m

  If your mind starts spinning the second your head hits the pillow, replaying the conversation you had at lunch and rehearsing the one you have to have tomorrow, I want to tell you something that genuinely surprised me. Sometimes the goal is not to get rid of your anxiety at all. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Chloe Carmichael, the clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of Nervous Energy, who taught me to treat anxiety as a signal rather than a malfunction. Dr. Chloe and I work through how to tell the worry that is worth listening to from the kind that just loops, and then we go somewhere I did not expect, into why holding everything in might be quietly making your anxiety worse. In This Episode Why trying to get rid of your anxiety can backfire, and the single question to ask it instead The mind map exercise for the kind of worry you cannot quite put your finger on How to tell healthy fear from overthinking that just spins in circles The eight Diet Cokes story that changed how I check for anxiety, because the body comes first Why holding things in actually creates more anxiety instead of less The difference between self censorship and healthy self restraint, and a simple way to spot which one you are doing What to do when you finally speak up and it does not go well, including a tool Dr. Chloe calls the debrief date What the friendship between two famously opposite Supreme Court justices teaches us about staying close to people we disagree with This episode is for anyone who has ever laid awake at 2am with a brain that simply would not power down, then dragged through the next day exhausted and wired at the same time. It is also for you if you have ever smiled and nodded along with something you did not believe, and walked away feeling a little smaller for it. Anxiety and authenticity are far more connected than most of us realize. This conversation is about both, and about how getting a grip on one quietly helps you with the other. Episode Breakdown 00:00:00 Why You Shouldn't Try to Get Rid of Your Anxiety 00:08:21 From a Yoga Mat to a PhD: How Anxiety Became Her Life's Work 00:18:06 Healthy Fear or Overthinking? How to Tell the Difference 00:24:30 The Mind Map Exercise for a Racing Mind 00:27:21 The Eight-Diet-Cokes Client: When Anxiety Is Actually Physical 00:34:40 Why Holding It All In Actually Makes Anxiety Worse 00:39:04 Self-Censorship vs. Healthy Self-Restraint 00:49:36 How to Speak Up Without Blowing Up the Relationship 00:59:27 The Three Doors: A Simple Way to Decode Any Anxiety Resources The full episode and show notes Anxiety support, schedule a free consultation What’s Holding You Back? Quiz (free) Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  Family Cut Offs: What to Know, How to Deal, and Find a Way Forward | E530 15.06.2026 1h 8m

  By the time an adult child finally says “I’m done,” they have usually been deciding it for about three years. The parent almost never sees it coming. The child was never once surprised. On the other side, the pain and anger that comes when someone you love with all your heart and soul refuses to talk to you? It's as crushing as it is confusing. This episode is for anyone who has ever sat in the car outside a parent’s house, bracing themselves before they walk in. And it is just as much for the parent staring at a phone that has gone quiet, replaying what they could have done differently. If your relationship with your parent, or with your grown kid, has started to feel like a careful performance instead of a real connection, you are not imagining it, and you are not stuck with it. If it feels like bridges have been burned, there is a way back. In this episode you'll learn about the small, respectful shifts that re-open lines of communication, rebuild trust, and develop an enduring v.2 for your relationship. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Blindsided: Why Adult Children Pull Away 11:11 No One's to Blame, Everyone's Responsible 16:47 Why Adult Children Stop Being Honest With You 21:04 "Am I in Trouble?": When the Past Hijacks the Present 22:47 Raising From the Inside Out: The Foundation You Set Now 33:50 The Letter, the Agenda, and the Boundary 42:30 Grieving the Expectations You Handed Them 48:42 The PARENT Method, and the One Thing Bigger Than the Issues Resources: Full episode show notes and everything mentioned Book a free consultation with a therapist who specializes in this If this conversation stirred something up, that is worth paying attention to. You do not need to be in crisis to talk to someone. Come find us at GrowingSelf.com and schedule a free consultation. We will help you figure out what is actually going on between you and your parent, or you and your grown child, and what to try next. No pressure, no commitment, just a real conversation. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  Are You Being Impacted By Someone Else's Trauma? (And If So, How to Break Free), with Dr. Thomas Hübl | E529 11.06.2026 1h 10m

  Do you ever have reactions that don't quite make sense? Or feel like you're carrying feelings that don't fit the situation? Maybe you're sad, reactive, anxious or just... off... and can't put your finger on why. Turns out, generational trauma may be to blame. Things your parents, grandparents, or community went through might be impacting the way you think, feel and behave in the present. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Thomas Hübl, the teacher and trauma-integration facilitator who co-wrote the new book Releasing Our Burdens with Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems. He's here to explain what's going on , and how to put down someone else's burden. This episode is for anyone who has ever looked at their own anxiety, or their drivenness, or that low hum of feeling empty for no reason they can name, and thought, where is this even coming from? If you have done the personal work and still feel like there is a layer underneath you cannot reach, this conversation opens a door. Some of what you carry is not a personal failing. It is inherited. And it can be set down. Episode Breakdown 00:00 Trauma That Didn't Start With You 10:42 Why You're Driven by People You Never Met 13:24 It's Bigger Than Any of Us (Which is Why We Must Do 18:52 A Case Study: Can You Relate? 31:41 How to Start Reclaiming Your Timeline 35:21 Stop Paying Someone Else's Bill 39:30 Generational Trauma In Relationships 53:31 How to Clean Up That Mess and Move Forward into Freedom Resources Full episode page with a rundown, transcript, and resources Free “What’s Holding You Back?” Quiz Personal growth coaching and therapy at Growing Self xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  But You Look Fine: The Hidden Toll of Chronic Illness, with Amy Kurtz | E528 08.06.2026 58m

  This episode is for anyone who has technically gotten through something hard and quietly cannot understand why they still does not feel like themselves. I sat down with Amy Kurtz, author of "But You Look Fine" to unpack what's going on. The reality? Even if you're on the mend physically after a medical trauma, chronic illness, or profoundly life altering experience there is mental and emotional repair work to do. This can often only even start to happen once your physical symptoms have resolved, and you're on the other side. If you have been told you should be fine by now, and you are not, this conversation is going to give you language for what is actually happening in your body and a way forward that respects the timeline. What You'll Learn: 00:02:04 The Gap Between Sick and Well Nobody Warned You About 00:05:10 36 Doctors and No Diagnosis: Amy's Story 00:13:25 What Is Medical Trauma Brain? 00:14:54 How to Heal Emotionally, After You're Healed Physically 00:21:05 How to Advocate for Yourself in a System That Won't 00:45:03 How to Regulate Your Nervous System After Trauma or Illness 00:51:01 The Wider Lens: When Someone You Love is Not Okay 00:56:00 The One Tool That Changes Everything Resources: Read the full article on this conversation, including everything we mentioned and where to find Amy's work Ready to talk to someone about what you are carrying? Book a free consultation If this speaks to you, I'm so glad you've found it today. If this conversation makes you think of someone in your life who is not okay, or recovering in the aftermath of chronic illness, thanks for passing it on. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  Career Pathing: How to Find Your Passion | Success | LHS Classic 04.06.2026 45m

  If you've been grappling with that "what am I doing with my life?!?" angst, and craving clarity about your next best step forward today's episode is for you. I'm sitting down with an expert career coach to pose all the question that are probably keeping you up at night, to bring you answers and direction. Here's what you'll learn about today: 00:00 Getting Unstuck When You Have Too Many Options 05:12 Career Crossroads: How to Navigate Paralysis and Indecision 11:08 Life Design vs. Job Search: Shifting How We Think About Career 18:39 Finding Your Passion by Reflecting on the Past 27:26 The “Quarter-Life” Crossroads: Making Sense of How You Got Here 30:12 Burnout or Misalignment? How to Tell the Difference 34:45 The 10-Year Vision Exercise That Brings Long-Term Clarity 36:44 Why Big Career Decisions Shouldn’t Happen During Burnout Resources Companion article on the blog (full resource list, references, and related episodes) Free What’s Holding You Back quiz — the 20-question self-assessment that helps you see what is actually keeping you stuck Career Coaching Services at Growing Self — work one-on-one with a career coach on my team Schedule a free consultation⁠ If something in this conversation landed somewhere specific, that is the signal to talk to someone. The career coaches on my team at Growing Self spend their days with people exactly where you are, and the first conversation is free. Not a sales pitch, just a real conversation about what is actually going on and whether the work we do here is the right fit for you. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast: Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  How to Be More Optimistic... While Avoiding Toxic Positivity | E527 01.06.2026 1h 9m

  You want to be a more positive person. We all do. But by the end of the gratitude journal, the mindfulness, the affirmation in the mirror, you felt worse, not better. You might feel like you're "failing at positivity..." but authentic hope, optimism and resilience might be different than you've been taught to believe. That's the disconnect. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Deepika Chopra, the clinical health psychologist known as The Optimism Doctor and the author of the new book The Power of Real Optimism. Deepika has spent over a decade studying why optimism is a skill, not a personality trait, and her work has appeared everywhere from the TODAY Show to Forbes to Vogue. She joined me to explain why forced positivity actually makes anxiety worse, and what real, durable optimism looks like when you stop performing it and start practicing it. In this conversation, you'll learn: Why an optimist isn't someone who feels good all the time, and what they're actually doing differently in their head The reasons so much standard advice for how to improve your outlook backfires, and what to try instead. The one mental shift that moves you from rumination to agency when nothing about your circumstances has changed. This episode is for anyone who has tried to think their way into feeling better and quietly felt like a fraud doing it. If you've ever closed a self-help book and felt worse, if you've ever heard someone say 'good vibes only' and wanted to throw something, if you're currently navigating something genuinely hard and tired of being told to look on the bright side, this conversation will give you something more honest, and more useful. If something in this conversation landed for you, share it with one person. You probably already have someone in mind, the friend who's been white-knuckling their way through something hard. Send it to them. And follow the show wherever you listen so you don't miss what's coming next. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  How to Get Over a Broken Heart: What Really Works | Jesse Stanley | Love | E526 28.05.2026 54m

  A year. Two years. Five years. Ten years. Still stuck on the same person. If that is you, this episode is not going to tell you to give it more time. In this episode, I sit down with my colleague Jesse S., a licensed marriage and family therapist and board-certified coach who co-facilitates our Heartbreak Recovery Intensive with me here at Growing Self. Between us, we have watched a lot of people walk in still tangled up in a relationship that ended months or years ago, and walk out free of it. Jesse joined me to talk about what we have seen actually work, including the one reframe that unlocks years of stuckness for almost every person we meet. In this episode: The factory accident sign that explains why you have been resetting your healing clock for years without realizing it Why a breakup mimics the symptoms of PTSD, and what is actually happening in your nervous system The exact reason your thinking brain and your attachment brain disagree about whether to text your ex back Why heartbreak recovery groups move people faster than years of one-on-one therapy The closure myth that keeps people waiting for an apology from someone unable to give it The airplane metaphor that finally lets you accept the good parts of a relationship that had to end Why most therapists are not trained in heartbreak recovery, and what to look for instead The reclaim-the-song, reclaim-the-room experiment that does more than years of talking about feelings Why this matters This episode is for anyone who has been stuck on a past relationship long enough to be embarrassed about it. The person you cannot stop checking in on. The relationship that ended a long time ago but somehow still has a vote in your life. The voice in your head that keeps telling you that you should be over this by now. We see you, and we have seen this. There is a way through, even if it has been years. Resources Full episode article and show notes How Over Your Ex Are You? Quiz Heartbreak Recovery program at Growing Self Online breakup support group I know that going through heartbreak can make you feel like you're so alone. I hope that by listening to this conversation today you felt like other people get what you're going through, and that you have more clarity on how to find your way forward. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. If you want to know exactly where you are in the process before you talk to anyone, the How Over Your Ex Are You? quiz at growingself.com/breakup-quiz-how-over-your-ex-are-you takes about two minutes and tells you the truth. Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.
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  Asking Claude "How Can I Stop Overthinking?" This is better: Sam Yo reveals all... | E525 25.05.2026 56m

  Have you ever felt like every tab in your brain is open, and not one of them will close? That was Sam Yo at 23, the year before he walked away from a successful London stage career to spend years in a Thai Buddhist monastery. In this episode, I sit down with him to get his advice on how to transcend frazzled-overwhelm and reconnect with your inner calm. By the end of this episode you'll get not just a new perspective and insight into what's *really* going on that's getting you so wound up. But more importantly you'll get concrete skills that you can start using today. (Sam walks us all through a powerful one and I can personally share that I felt 100% calmer by the time we were done!) If something in this episode landed for you, pass it on! Send it to the person you were thinking about while you listened, and share the love. XO, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you’ll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.