The Sexology Lab

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  Five Minutes Is Not Premature: Dr. Joshua Gonzalez on How Long Men Should Last In Bed | Episode 21 23.07.2026 30m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, board-certified urologist, men's sexual health expert, and co-founder of Popstar Labs, to unpack the most common concerns men have about sex—and why so many suffer in silence. From erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation to fertility, testosterone, and body image, Dr. Gonzalez explains what men are actually experiencing versus what they think they should be experiencing.This conversation explores how anxiety, pornography, social media, and unrealistic expectations shape men's sexual confidence, why communication is often the most important sexual skill, and why taking a proactive approach to sexual wellness in your twenties can have lifelong benefits. We also discuss male fertility, environmental health, supplements, and why sexual health is best approached as a collaborative effort between medical providers, therapists, and other specialists.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Most sexual performance concerns are far more common than men realize, and many stem from unrealistic expectations rather than serious medical problems.Sexual wellness is deeply connected to overall health, including sleep, exercise, mental health, hormone balance, and lifestyle habits.The best time to start thinking about sexual health isn't when something goes wrong—it's before problems begin.The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode's guest at:Dr. Joshua Gonzalez: https://joshuagonzalezmd.com/ Popstar Labs: https://www.popstarlabs.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/ 
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  Own Your Pleasure: Dr. Nicole McNichols on Better Intimacy, Better Relationships, and Less Shame | Episode 20 16.07.2026 33m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, clinical psychologist, professor, author of You Could Be Having Better Sex, and the instructor of one of the largest human sexuality courses in the United States. Teaching more than 4,000 students each year, Dr. McNichols has a front-row seat to how Gen Z thinks about sex, relationships, consent, and intimacy—and the trends may surprise you.From pornography and performance anxiety to planning intimacy and understanding pleasure, this conversation explores why so many people are having less sex while feeling more pressure than ever. Dr. McNichols explains why communication—not perfection—is the key to better sex and why pleasure deserves to be treated as an essential part of overall well-being.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Gen Z is entering adulthood with less formal sex education, more exposure to pornography, and increasing pressure to perform rather than connect.Better sex begins with understanding your body, communicating openly, and letting go of unrealistic expectations.Planning intimacy, prioritizing pleasure, and building emotional connection can strengthen both sexual satisfaction and long-term relationships.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Intro and expectations vs. reality of sex02:00 – Modern intimacy and the gaps in modern sex education04:15 – Diversity and guest speakers in the classroom05:01 – Gen Z sex and relationship trends08:26 – Emphasizing a growth mindset and normalising sexual awkwardness10:28 – The book "You Could Be Having Better Sex" and the Hierarchy of Sexual Needs16:44 – The myth of spontaneous sex20:05 – Sexual satisfaction as a driver of relationship satisfaction23:18 – Exploring different types of intimacy and the power of non-sexual touch26:40 – Who the book "You Could Be Having Better Sex" is written for27:58 – The book-writing process and translating sex science research29:45 – Promoting the book and its mainstream reception31:33 – Closing billboard message: "Own your pleasure"RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com S//xology Lab Practice Guide: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/guide⁠More from this episode's guest at:Dr. Nicole McNichols:https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/about-nicole/ You Could Be Having Better Sex: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/   University of Washington Human Sexuality Course: https://psych.uw.edu/people/2464 SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Building SAALT: How Cherie Hoeger Turned Period Care Into a Global Mission | Episode 19 09.07.2026 39m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Cherie Hoeger, CEO and co-founder of SAALT, to explore how one conversation about period poverty grew into one of the world's leading sustainable period care companies. From launching menstrual cups in 2018 to building a global brand focused on innovation, impact, and women's health, Cherie shares what it really takes to build a mission-driven business.This conversation goes far beyond period products. Cherie opens up about entrepreneurship, branding, leadership, company culture, sustainability, and balancing motherhood with running a multimillion-dollar company. She also shares SAALT's global efforts to fight period poverty through reusable menstrual products, clean water initiatives, and education for women and girls around the world.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sustainable period care is transforming both women's health and environmental impact, offering products that are more comfortable, convenient, and accessible than many people realize.Mission-driven companies grow by investing in people, building a strong brand, and staying focused on long-term impact—not just short-term profits.Ending global period poverty requires more than donating products. It demands education, clean water access, and sustainable solutions that empower women and girls for years to come.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 Entrepreneurship Myths & The MBA Misconception01:00 Essential Business Advice for Mission-Driven Founders01:41 Cherie’s Origin Story: Saalt’s Mission for Sustainable Period Care03:03 Current Trends & Regulatory Shifts in Menstrual Health04:37 Parental Guide: Normalizing Period Conversations with Daughters06:48 Adolescent Reproductive Health: Understanding Menstrual Cycle Phases08:34 Branding Strategy: Building a Mainstream, "Target-Worthy" Brand10:39 The Founder’s Paradox: Scaling Beyond Daily Operations11:43 Executive Hiring & Utilizing Professional Performance Assessments13:31 Identifying & Leading with Your "Unique Ability"14:42 Fostering a Purpose-Led Company Culture via Core Values16:38 Marketing Strategy: "Edutainment" for Stigmatized Industries18:32 Product Innovation: Menstrual Cups, Discs, and Period Underwear22:42 Perimenopause & Postpartum: Solutions for Bladder Leaks24:12 Global Social Impact: Linking Menstrual Health to Clean Water Access27:06 Corporate Philanthropy: Strategy for Ending Global Period Poverty29:59 Partnership Models for Sustainable Non-Profit Support31:30 Environmental Sustainability: Repurposing Plastic in Textile Manufacturing32:28 Circular Economy: Plastic Negative Certification & Waste Management33:40 Future Forecast: Innovation in Athletic Wear & Biodegradable Materials34:53 Lightning Round: Entrepreneurial Grit & Essential Leadership Resources37:41 Empowering the Next Generation: Living a Deliberate LifeRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com Sexology Lab Practice Guide: https://www.sexologylab.com/guideMore from this episode's guest at:SAALT: https://saalt.com/ SAALT Gives: https://saalt.com/pages/impact SAALT First Period Kit: https://saalt.com/collections/preset-bundles/products/first-period-kit-live SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Who Taught You About Pleasure? Laura Ramadei on Adult Media and Performance | Episode 18 02.07.2026 52m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Laura Ramadei, SHA certified sexologist, sexuality coach, writer, and host of the feminist comedy podcast Girls on Porn. Laura shares how reviewing adult media through an intersectional feminist lens led her into sexology and why conversations about pornography, pleasure, and media literacy are more important than ever.Together, we explore how adult media has become the default sex educator for many people, what it gets wrong about intimacy, and how unrealistic expectations around performance leave so many people disconnected from their bodies. Laura also shares practical advice for reconnecting with pleasure, communicating with partners, and finding ethical adult content that prioritizes consent, diversity, and authenticity.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Adult media has become the primary source of sex education for many people, but it often teaches performance instead of pleasure.Great sex is built on communication, curiosity, and connection—not unrealistic expectations learned from mainstream pornography.Reconnecting with your body often requires slowing down, practicing mindfulness, and letting go of the pressure to perform.SHOW SUMMARY: 01:44 – Laura Ramadei's experience in podcasting, writing, and media02:29 – Origins and mission of the Girls on Porn podcast05:36 – Reflections on a progressive, non-dogmatic sex education07:54 – Discussion on adult media as a default source of sex education10:46 – Inaccurate framings of sex in adult media as performance15:38 – Misconceptions about female orgasm speed and ease17:33 – Expert recommendations for ethical adult media platforms23:32 – Writing on non-monogamy and the human experience of desire27:15 – Challenges of public discourse on sex and digital censorship31:20 – The impact of FOSTA-SESTA on sex worker safety and networks35:32 – Inspiration and journey toward becoming a certified sex coach37:44 – Common intimacy issues, including desire and non-monogamy39:25 – Performance pressure as a barrier to physical pleasure41:55 – Nuanced sexual scripts and communication in queer relationships44:02 – Strategies for transitioning into mindful, present intimacy45:26 – Mindful masturbation as an exercise for sensory awareness47:46 – Moving from techniques to partner attunement and dialogue50:04 – Lightning Round: Rapid advice on books, habits, and mythsRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com Sexology Lab Practice Guide: https://www.sexologylab.com/guideMore from this episode's guest:Girls on Porn Podcast: https://girlsonporn.com/ Laura Ramadei: https://www.lauraramadei.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  "Just Open Your Legs": The Female Pleasure Gap in Nigeria with Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire | Episode 17 25.06.2026 44m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire, therapist, intimacy expert, founder of the Intimacy Clinic, and founder of the Chartered Institute of Counseling in Nigeria. In a powerful and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Tolu shares what it means to advocate for sexual health, intimacy, and therapy in a culture where conversations about sex remain highly stigmatized and deeply influenced by religion, tradition, and social expectations.From sexless marriages and sexual misinformation to the role of pastors, prayer, and cultural expectations around marriage, Dr. Tolu offers a rare look into the realities many couples face across Nigeria and other parts of Africa. She also discusses the urgent need for sex therapy, sexual education, and mental health support in regions where these resources remain scarce.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sexual education in Nigeria is often shaped by fear, stigma, religion, and misinformation rather than evidence-based information.Many couples struggle silently with sexual dissatisfaction, sexless marriages, and intimacy concerns because seeking help is still highly stigmatized.Therapy, counseling, and sex therapy remain underutilized, but a growing number of professionals are working to expand access and awareness throughout Africa.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Overrated Marriage Expectations in Africa01:36 – Guest Introduction: Dr. Toluope Oko-Igaire, "The Fixer”01:50 – Cultural Identity and the Happiness Paradox in Nigeria02:20 – African Sexual Reality Research and Global Implications03:13 – Stigma, Low Literacy, and Sexual Taboos03:48 – Social Media and the Spread of Sexual Misinformation04:37 – Realizing the Need for Intimacy and Mental Health Support05:04 – Religious Alternatives: Prayer Mountains vs. Counseling05:47 – Radio Show Impact: "Intimate Talk with Auntie Tolu"07:16 – Addressing Celibacy in Singles and Sexual Issues in Marriage09:21 – Viral Influence: The "Intimate Wash" Breakthrough11:34 – Cultural Conditioning and Life-Centered Marriage13:12 – The Role of Parents and Family in African Weddings14:58 – Spiritual Interventions for Infidelity and Marital Struggle16:45 – The Scarcity of Professional Sex Therapy in Nigeria18:51 – Unregulated Herbal Concoctions and Sexual Health20:54 – Potential for Medical Research on African Aphrodisiacs22:49 – Stigma and Low Engagement with Mental Health Care23:49 – Shortage of Psychiatrists and Reliance on Medication24:45 – Cultural Nuances and the Limitations of Western Therapy25:47 – Fragile Masculinity and Barriers to Sexual Communication28:06 – Lack of Education and the Erosion of Female Pleasure30:53 – Male Provider Roles and Bride Price Implications34:30 – Religious Constraints on Sexual Practices37:25 – Lightning Round: Debunking Penetrative Sex Myths38:10 – The Secret Craving for Orgasm and Exploration39:03 – Avoiding the Topic of Sexual Satisfaction40:27 – Modern Shifts in Infidelity and Traditional Taboos42:57 – Normalizing Therapy as a Future LifestyleRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at:Intimacy Clinic Nigeria: https://intimacyclinic.org/ Chartered Institute of Counseling Nigeria: https://thecicn.org/dr-tolulope-oko-igaire/ Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire: https://www.instagram.com/drtolu_thefixer/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/ Key TakeawaysSHOW SUMMARYRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODESUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW
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  Shame and the Problem with Calling Everything an Addiction with Michael Vigorito | Episode 16 18.06.2026 40m

  In this episode, we sit down with Michael Vigorito, licensed psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, author, and co-director of Sexual Health Alliance’s Advanced Certification in Problem Sexual Behavior. Together, we challenge one of the most widely accepted and misunderstood concepts in modern sexology: sex addiction.Michael shares why many sexual health professionals have moved away from the sex addiction model and toward more nuanced, evidence-informed approaches to understanding out-of-control sexual behavior. We explore the powerful roles of shame, moral conflict, erotic identity development, and relationship dynamics, while discussing what actually helps people create healthier relationships with their sexuality.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Many people who identify as "sex addicts" are experiencing shame, moral conflict, or distress rather than a true addiction processOut-of-control sexual behavior is often influenced by multiple factors, including mental health, values conflicts, relationships, and erotic identity developmentCuriosity, self-understanding, and integration are often more effective than shame-based approaches to creating lasting changeSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Introduction to Addiction Narratives01:56 – Michael Vigorito’s Origin Story04:24 – Impact of Conversion Therapy Law Changes07:34 – Deconstructing the "Sex Addict" Label09:31 – Defining Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB)12:00 – Problems with the Sex Addiction Model15:27 – The Limitations of Abstinence18:42 – Media Misuse and Externalizing Responsibility21:16 – The Role of Shame and Moral Incongruence24:26 – Understanding Erotic Orientation and Identity28:12 – A Multifactorial Framework for Treatment31:32 – Clinical Assessment and Motivation for Change33:52 – Clinical Distinctions: Consent and Criminality36:18 – Importance of Specialized Clinical Training38:26 – Lightning Round39:37 – Advice for the Next GenerationRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode’s guest at:Michael Vigorito: http://michaelvigorito.com/Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Problem Sexual Behavior: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/problem-sexual-behaviorSUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights: https://www.sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  The Hidden Cost of SSRIs: What Every Woman Should Know with Dr. Laurie Mintz & Dr. Suzette Johnson | Episode 15 11.06.2026 43m

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz and Dr. Suzette Johnson to explore one of the most common but least discussed side effects of antidepressants: difficulty with arousal, desire, and orgasm. Millions of women take SSRIs and SNRIs for anxiety, depression, postpartum mental health, and other conditions, yet many are never warned about how these medications can impact their sexual well-being.Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Dr. Mintz and Dr. Johnson explain the neuroscience behind SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction, why these side effects are often overlooked in healthcare, and what women can do if they find themselves struggling. Most importantly, they challenge the false choice between mental health and sexual health, emphasizing that women deserve both.KEY TAKEAWAYS:SSRIs and SNRIs commonly affect desire, arousal, sensation, and orgasm, yet many patients are never informed about these side effectsSexual dysfunction caused by antidepressants is often treatable through medication adjustments, behavioral strategies, and sexual medicine interventionsWomen should never feel forced to choose between protecting their mental health and maintaining a satisfying sex lifeSHOW SUMMARY:01:51 – Dr. Laurie Mintz & Dr. Suzette Johnson origin stories in sexual health05:10 – Impact of SSRIs and SNRIs on the brain and sexual response07:01 – Statistics on female arousal vs. orgasm dysfunction09:31 – The "Point of No Return" and delayed orgasm physiology11:02 – Lack of sexual health training for medical professionals12:51 – Differentiating common SSRIs and SNRIs (Prozac, Zoloft, Effexor)16:11 – Psychological toll: anxiety and performance pressure24:52 – Psychosocial and medical solutions for regaining orgasm31:26 – Medication adjustments, clinical options, and timing36:31 – Broadening the definition of pleasure and self-exploration38:41 – Lightning Round: Sexual health book recommendations and closing adviceRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode’s guests at:Dr. Laurie Mintz: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Dr. Suzette Johnson: https://health.usnews.com/doctors/suzette-johnson-2435599 Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate MyMojo: Regain Your Orgasm Program: https://mymojo.com/courses/find-your-orgasm SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Energy Drainers vs Energy Gainers: Restoring Connection to Pleasure with Dr. Shannon Chavez | Episode 14 04.06.2026 39m

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist who blends evidence-based psychology, attachment theory, sexual medicine, and holistic wellness practices to help people create healthier relationships with themselves and their partners.From nervous system regulation and desire to trauma healing, emotional safety, and multicultural approaches to sexuality, Dr. Chavez explains why many sexual concerns are not problems to be fixed, but signals to better understand. She also shares practical strategies for managing overwhelm, improving intimacy, and cultivating deeper connection in relationships.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Low desire is often connected to nervous system overload, disconnection, and depleted energy rather than a lack of attraction or relationship problemsEmotional safety is one of the strongest predictors of intimacy, sexual satisfaction, and relationship resilienceEffective sexual health care requires an integrative approach that considers the mind, body, relationships, culture, and lived experienceSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Understanding Nervous System Overload and Low Desire01:14 – Modern Culture’s Impact on Libido and Life Force01:57 – Dr. Shannon Chavez’s Origin Story: Finding The Joy of Sex03:08 – Benefits of an Integrative Med Spa Model for Sexual Health04:28 – Essential Personal Work and Multicultural Training for Professionals05:05 – Connecting Body Disconnection, Grief, and Transitions to Desire07:08 – Identifying Energy Drainers vs. Energy Gainers08:14 – Mindset Shifts: Permission for Imperfection and Balance09:51 – Mindfulness Through Play and Presence in Daily Activities11:50 – Reframing Hormones and Physical Changes as Body Signals13:44 – Distinguishing Between Individual Nervous System Dysregulation and Relational Issues15:46 – The Role of Eye Contact and Emotional Resonance in Healing17:53 – How Attachment Styles Influence Love and Pleasure in the Bedroom19:16 – Biological Necessity of Emotional Safety for Intimacy20:12 – Somatic Techniques for Building Emotional Intimacy and Safety22:04 – Reconnecting Trauma Survivors with Body Trust and Pleasure23:57 – Common Pitfalls in Sex Therapy When Addressing Trauma25:01 – Holistic Integration: Moving Beyond the "Cookie Cutter" Psychology Model27:21 – Global Perspectives: Cultural Lineage and Its Impact on the Nervous System28:41 – The Importance of Language and Cultural Assessments in Therapy30:15 – Identifying and Redefining Sexual Values and Beliefs32:45 – Strengthing Sexual Communication: Giving "Permission to be Awkward"34:43 – Using Humor to Break Barriers and Protect the Erotic35:14 – Lightning Round: Favorite Resources, Self-Care, and Krav Maga37:06 – Insights from the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) Conference38:08 – Final Message for Gen Z and Alpha: Reclaiming Your NarrativeRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.comMore from this episode’s guest at: https://drshannonchavez.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Why We Get Jealous: Dr. Justin Mogilski on Pair Bonding, Competition, and Communication | Episode 13 28.05.2026 36m

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Justin Mogilski, an evolutionary psychologist and associate professor leading an international research team studying consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships. From jealousy and attraction disclosure to parenting and evolutionary biology, this conversation explores what science actually tells us about how people make non-monogamy work.Dr. Mogilski breaks down common myths about CNM, including the idea that only exceptionally intelligent or emotionally detached people can successfully navigate these relationships. We also dive into evolutionary psychology, animal behavior, pair bonding, and the relationship maintenance practices that predict healthier and more satisfying CNM dynamics.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Communication about jealousy and attraction is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction in CNM relationshipsConsensually non-monogamous people often define infidelity around deception and broken agreements rather than specific sexual actsEvolutionary psychology helps explain why jealousy, competition, and attachment still show up in non-monogamous relationshipsSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Attraction Disclosure and Reducing Relationship Anxiety01:32 – Differences in Information Sharing Between CNM and Monogamous Couples03:32 – Dr. Justin Mogilski’s Origin Story and Background in Evolutionary Psychology04:48 – Current Exciting Trends: STI Communication and Sex Tech05:55 – Dispelling the Myth: Intelligence and Impulse Control in CNM08:52 – Advice for Professionals: Focusing on Recurrent Challenges over Prescriptive Advice11:11 – Evolution, Pair Bonding, and the Role of Jealousy13:16 – Using Evolutionary Theory to Predict Challenges in Non-Monogamy15:40 – Zero-Sum vs. Positive-Sum Worldviews in Relationships17:21 – International Research Project on CNM Relationship Maintenance20:50 – Emotional Regulation: Prevention vs. Promotion Focus22:01 – Key Findings: Communication of Jealousy and Attraction Disclosure23:34 – Polyamorous Parenting and Willingness to Care for Children25:49 – Navigating Hierarchy vs. Non-Hierarchy in CNM28:10 – Comparison of Safer Sex Practices Across Different CNM Populations30:45 – Lightning Round: Myths About Jealousy32:01 – Differences in How Infidelity is Defined32:44 – The Need for Large-Scale Data on CNM Parenting33:45 – Message to Future Generations: Building Durable, Committed RelationshipsRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at: https://sc.edu/about/system_and_campuses/salkehatchie/faculty-staff/mogilski_justin.php ABOUT THE GUEST: DR. JUSTIN MOGILSKIDr. Justin Mogilski is an Associate Professor of Psychology and a globally recognized researcher in evolutionary psychology and relationship science. His pioneering research maps out how human evolution influences decision-making, conflict resolution, and intimacy within modern partnerships. Dr. Mogilski currently leads an international team of scientists tracking relationship maintenance strategies, partner attraction, and jealousy management across various relationship structures. He specializes closely in the behavioral dynamics of consensual non-monogamy (CNM), polyamory, and open relationships. As a co-editor of The Oxford Handbook of Evolutionary Psychology and Romantic Relationships, his work translates complex biological data into practical frameworks that help coaches and therapists support diverse relationship configurations without stigma.SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights. https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Education Forgot the Fun Part: Amy Baldwin and April Lampert on Pleasure, Shame, and What We’re Missing | Episode 12 21.05.2026 24m

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the co-hosts of the wildly popular Shameless Sex Podcast, to explore what happens when sexual education leaves out pleasure, curiosity, and emotional safety. From shame and compliance to sex toys and consent, this conversation dives into the real-world gaps in how we talk about sexuality.Amy and April share their journey from working in the sex toy industry to building one of the most recognized sexuality podcasts online. They also unpack why “healing shame” may be one of the most important responsibilities for therapists, educators, and coaches working in sexual health today. April Lampert is a proud Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator.KEY TAKEAWAYSMost sex education focuses on prevention and fear while ignoring pleasure, communication, and connectionSexual health professionals are not just educators—they are often helping people heal shameGiving people permission to explore consensual sexuality without judgment can be deeply transformativeSHOW SUMMARY00:00 – Redefining Shamelessness and Working with Shame01:36 – Guest Introductions and the Origin of Shameless Sex02:49 – Overview of the "Shameless Sex" Book and Pleasure Philosophy05:16 – Influential Guests and Learning Modalities like Erotic Blueprints06:51 – Current Industry Trends: Sexual Wellness Tourism and Sex Toy Normalization08:47 – Key Insight: Sexual Health as Holistic Well-being and Empowerment10:50 – Personal Reflections on Traditional vs. Pleasure-Based Sex Education16:42 – Essential Advice for Professionals: Becoming a "Healer of Shame”19:43 – Empowering Messages for Gen Z and Gen Alpha on Sexual Autonomy22:29 – Pop Culture Review: Analyzing the "Nobody Wants This" Podcasting PortrayalRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guests at:Shameless Sex Podcast: https://www.shamelesssex.com/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Reversing Pain, Dryness, & ED Without Medication | Dr. Soum Rakshit | Episode 11 14.05.2026 37m

  Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Soum Rakshit, founder and CEO of MysteryVibe and MV Health, to explore the rapidly evolving world of sex tech and medical-grade sexual wellness devices. With a background in biomedical engineering, Dr. Rakshit is at the forefront of bridging pleasure, healthcare, and innovation—especially for people navigating sexual health after major life events.This conversation dives into the science behind vibration therapy, how medical devices are developed and validated, and why accessibility remains one of the biggest challenges in sexual healthcare. We also explore the real-world impact of MV Health’s devices, from pelvic pain to erectile dysfunction, and what the future holds for personalized sexual medicine.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sexual health solutions are often missing for people after major life events like childbirth, surgery, or agingVibration therapy has over a century of clinical evidence supporting its role in improving blood flow, arousal, and pain reliefAccessibility—not innovation—is the biggest barrier in sexual health, from education to reimbursement to care deliverySHOW SUMMARY:01:24 – The Mission of Mystery Vibe and MV Health02:22 – The Origin Story and Collaborative Research03:02 – Future Trends: Personalized Medicine and Hormone Monitoring04:15 – Applying Engineering to Sexual Medicine Problems06:19 – Challenges in Medical Device Development08:21 – Education and Accessibility as Barriers to Care09:43 – Outreach, Clinical Education, and Independent Research11:53 – The Science and History of Vibration Therapy14:42 – Vibration Therapy as a Complement to Medication18:06 – Product Deep Dive: Crescendo 220:36 – Product Deep Dive: Poco22:03 – Product Deep Dive: Legato23:50 – Product Deep Dive: Molto26:45 – Product Deep Dive: Tenuto 2 and Tenuto Mini31:53 – Navigating Global Regulatory Approvals and Markets32:26 – Future Expansion: Period and Breast Pain Solutions33:50 – Lightning Round: Misconceptions and Achievements35:41 – The Potential for Diagnostic Sensors36:32 – Advice for Sexual Health Tech Founders37:07 – Advice for Younger Generations on Human ConnectionRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/More from this episode’s guest at: https://mv.health/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Beyond Erections - Hormones and Sexual Function with Dr. Amy Pearlman | Episode 10 07.05.2026 36m

  Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Amy Perlman, a board-certified urologist specializing in hormone optimization, sexual health, and gender-affirming care. This conversation breaks down some of the most common questions people have about male sexual health, from what’s actually “normal” to when it’s time to seek medical support.Dr. Perlman brings a refreshingly honest, sex-positive perspective to topics often clouded by misinformation, including testosterone, erectile function, masturbation, orgasm quality, and prostate pleasure. She also highlights the gaps in sex education and medical training, and why expanding conversations around pleasure is essential for better outcomes.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Many concerns about penis shape, performance, and function are normal, but knowing when to seek care is essentialSexual health is deeply connected to hormones, lifestyle, and overall well-being—not just performanceMen’s pleasure, especially prostate pleasure, is under-researched and under-discussed in healthcareSHOW SUMMARY:00:11 - Introduction to Dr. Amy Pearlman01:23 - Penile Curvature and Health04:11 - Common Penile Concerns and STI Anxiety05:58 - Testosterone and Hormone Optimization08:35 - Gaps in Sex Education and Penile Injury10:10 - Maintenance of Penile Size and Daily Erections11:21 - Masturbation Frequency and Prostate Health14:22 - Collaborative Care and Professional Cross-Collaboration17:41 - Proactive Health Management and Establishing a "Pit Crew"20:21 - Sex Toys and the Shift to Prostate Pleasure24:28 - Defining Orgasm Quality vs. Ejaculation29:16 - Training the Body and Mind: Edging and Delayed Ejaculation31:58 - Rapid Fire Questions33:30 - Advice for Patients: Doctor Shopping and Foundational KnowledgeRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at: https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Why Relationship Problems Start in Childhood | Imago Therapy with Dr. Joe Kort | Episode 9 30.04.2026 40m

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Joe Kort, a clinical sexologist and founder of the Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, to explore how therapists can better understand sexual health, trauma, and relationships. With over 40 years of experience, Dr. Kort brings a deeply nuanced, sex-positive perspective to topics often misunderstood in both clinical and cultural spaces.We dive into Imago relationship therapy, trauma healing with EMDR, and the complexities of out-of-control sexual behaviors. Dr. Kort also challenges common assumptions around sexual norms, encouraging both therapists and individuals to release shame and embrace what is authentic and consensual for them.KEY TAKEAWAYS:There is no “right” way to have sex—sexual expression is valid as long as it is consensual and authenticMany relationship conflicts are rooted in unresolved childhood dynamics, not present-day issueTherapists must learn to ask better questions and challenge their own biases to effectively support clientsSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 - What is IMAGO Relationship Therapy?01:41 - Media Analysis and Relationship Dynamics02:37 - Dr. Joe Kort’s Professional Origin Story03:23 - Modern Sexual Health Trends: Outercourse and "Sides"04:35 - The Evolution of Couples Therapy Techniques06:06 - Childhood Wounding and Historical Relationship Issues07:45 - Mastering Mirroring and Validation in Dialogue09:34 - Differentiation and Igniting Sexual Passion11:18 - EMDR Therapy for Relationship Trauma Recovery14:14 - Beyond Sex Addiction: The OCSB Model1017:21 - Clinical Mistakes and Erotic Orientation19:05 - IMAGO Framework for LGBTQIA+ Couples22:03 - Facilitating Effective Intentional Dialogue23:41 - Managing Countertransference in High-Conflict Sessions25:07 - Professional Training and the SAR Experience27:10 - The Benefits of Couples Therapy Intensives31:12 - Scaling from Solo to Group Practice Management35:11 - Generational Shifts and the Importance of Genograms36:07 - Marketing, Social Media, and Professional Advocacy38:32 - Lightning Round: Clinical Insights and ResourcesRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at: https://joekort.com/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Performance Anxiety, Connection, and What Actually Works | Caitlin V | Episode 8 30.04.2026 37m

  Today in the lab, we sit down with Caitlin V, prominent sex and relationship coach, author, and media personality, to break down what people are really asking for when they say they want more confidence in bed. From performance anxiety to intimacy blocks, this conversation reframes sex as a skill that can be learned, not something you’re either born good at or not.Caitlin shares powerful insights from over a decade of coaching, especially working with men navigating issues like erectile inconsistency, low confidence, and communication challenges. She offers practical tools you can use immediately, including how to ask better questions, shift from performance to connection, and understand how your physical, emotional, and relational health all work together.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Confidence in bed is not about performance—it’s about feeling “able to” connect, satisfy, and be presentMost sexual concerns are far more common than people think, but silence keeps people feeling aloneSmall shifts like asking better questions or focusing on connection over outcomes can transform your sex lifeSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – The True Definition of Sexual Confidence01:40 – A "User Manual" for the Body: Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger04:08 – Breaking the Narrow Mold of Traditional Masculinity05:39 – Origin Story: From Academic Researcher to Sex Coach06:37 – The Normalization and Future of Sex Coaching09:24 – The Interconnectedness of Gut Health and Sexual Function11:34 – Essential Business Advice for Intimate Health Professionals14:25 – The Necessity of Sales in the Coaching Industry17:15 – Normalizing Common Sexual Worries and Struggles19:10 – The Diagnostic Decision Tree for Erectile Consistency21:32 – Analyzing the Phrase "To Be Able To23:41 – Shifting Focus from Performance to Connection26:08 – The Power of Asking Intentional Questions28:36 – Quality vs. Quantity: The "More Sex" Fallacy30:42 – Erotic Intelligence as a Learnable Skill34:45 – Lightning Round: Quick Tips for Better IntimacyRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode’s guest at: https://caitlinvneal.com/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.
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  Why Is It So Hard to Talk About? | Dr Tara | Episode 7 23.04.2026 35m

  Joining us in the lab is Dr. Tara Suwinyatichaiporn, author of How Do You Like It?, to unpack one of the most overlooked skills in relationships: sexual communication. From why people fake orgasms instead of asking for what they want, to how culture, shame, and relationship dynamics shape our ability to talk about sex, this conversation goes deep into the psychology behind intimacy.Dr. Tara shares practical, real-world tools to improve your sex life starting today. You’ll learn how simple strategies like “sexy check-ins,” media-based conversation starters, and sexual affirmations can transform both connection and satisfaction. She also breaks down the difference between sexual self-esteem and confidence, and why even highly successful people can struggle in the bedroom.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Most people were never taught how to talk about sex, and it directly impacts relationship satisfactionSexual communication is less about technique and more about emotional safety, dynamics, and trustSmall, consistent actions like monthly check-ins can dramatically improve intimacySHOW SUMMARY00:00 - 01:42: Introduction to the Importance of Sexual Communication01:43 - 02:08: The Challenge of Faking Orgasms vs. Asking for Desires02:09 - 04:50: Contributing Factors to Sexual Communication Apprehension04:51 - 06:38: The Impact of Repressed Desires and Betrayal in Long-Term Relationships06:39 - 07:43: Overview of Dr. Tara's Research and Upcoming Book07:44 - 09:40: Dr. Tara's Personal and Professional Journey in Sexual Communication09:41 - 10:48: Media Misrepresentations and the Need for Intergenerational Learning10:49 - 13:31: Moving Beyond a "Fine" Sex Life to a Fulfilling One13:32 - 13:46: Symbolic Interactionism and the Meaning Behind Sexual Lack13:47 - 14:54: Exploring Your Sexual Profile and Personality Test14:55 - 16:17: The Benefits of Differences and Compatibility in Sexual Dimensions16:18 - 17:42: Expanding Sexual Definitions and Finding Erotic Solutions17:43 - 18:43: The "Media Mention Method" for Initiating Sexual Dialogue18:44 - 21:03: Implementing "Sexy Check-ins" and Positive Psychology21:04 - 22:10: The Value of Formalized Rating Systems in Communication22:11 - 25:20: Distinguishing Between Sexual Confidence and Sexual Self-Esteem25:21 - 27:43: Building Sexual Self-Esteem Through Positive Affirmations27:44 - 30:26: Dr. Tara's Personal Journaling Practice and High Vibration Living30:27 - 31:40: Common Mistakes: Avoiding Criticism in Sexual Communication31:41 - 33:50: Navigating Emotional Regulation and Partner Communication Styles33:51 - 35:09: Lightning Round: Myths, Turn-ons, and Improving Communication35:10 - 35:33: Closing Remarks and Presentation Experiences with Sexual Health AllianceRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.comMore from this episode’s guest at: https://www.luvbites.co/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Forensic Psychology, Bias, and Criminalizing Desire | Dr David Ley | Episode 6 23.04.2026 49m

  What if the biggest legal decisions about sex in our society weren’t based on science, but on bias, fear, and misunderstanding? We sat down with Dr. David Ley, a clinical psychologist and forensic sexuality expert, to explore what really happens behind the scenes of sex-related legal cases. From testifying in court to unpacking how bias, misinformation, and cultural stigma influence outcomes, Dr. Ley shares how his work brings science and nuance into some of the most misunderstood areas of human sexuality.We dive into real-world cases involving kink, pornography laws, memory reliability, and online sting operations, revealing just how often sexual behavior is misinterpreted or pathologized in legal systems. Dr. Ley also highlights the growing “war on sex” and why education, not fear, is essential in shaping fair and informed decisions.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Many legal decisions about sexuality are shaped by bias, not scienceMemory is highly unreliable, even in high-stakes cases like sexual assaultConsensual sexual behaviors, including kink and non-monogamy, are often misunderstood and unfairly criminalizedSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Introduction to Forensic Sexuality with Dr. David Ley01:45 – The "Extroverted Introvert" in Sexology02:44 – Origin Story: From Probation Systems to Pornography Evidence06:48 – The Expert Witness: Bridging Science and the Jury07:40 – Debunking the Myth of Sex Addiction in Court08:01 – The Malleability of Memory and Trauma12:11 – Controversial Cases: OneTaste, Obscenity, and Social Bias16:31 – Online Sting Operations and the Risk to Sexual Subcultures24:31 – Kink vs. Abuse: Training Gaps in Law Enforcement27:48 – Technology and the Rise of Sexuality-Related Legal Cases29:45 – Thought Crimes and Obscenity: The "Mr. Double" Case41:41 – Advice for Professionals Entering Forensic Work43:11 – Lightning Round: Myths, Books, and Personal Insights47:16 – The Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) & Closing MessageRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at:SexualHealthAlliance.comMore from this episode’s guest at:https://www.davidleyphd.com/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  How to Stop Duty Sex & Reclaim Your Desire | Vanessa Marin | Episode 5 16.04.2026 27m

  From healing generational trauma and shame to navigating the lack of nuance on social media, Vanessa offers a candid look at the life of a public sex therapist. We explore her personal journey of helping her own family talk more openly about sex and why she believes that finding joy and pleasure, even in dark times, is a powerful form of resistance. Whether you're a professional looking to integrate sexual health into your work or someone wanting to stop viewing sex as a chore, this episode is packed with actionable insights and heartfelt encouragement.Key Takeaways:- Sex as Connection: Moving beyond the physical act to see sex as a source of lightness, joy, and profound connection in life.- Healing Generational Shame: How open communication about sex can break cycles of trauma and give others permission to let go of their own shame.- The Power of Playfulness: Why shifting away from performance and embracing the messy, funny, and joyful parts of sex leads to the best experiences.- Joy as Resistance: Understanding that prioritizing pleasure and intimacy is essential, especially when facing a challenging global landscape.Chapters:00:00 – The Transformative Power of Great Intimacy01:33 – Addressing Modern Taboos: From "Butt Stuff" to Kink02:47 – Professional Obligations: Getting Hooked on Romantasy (ACOTAR)05:11 – Handling Public Criticism and Intentional Feedback07:08 – The Value of Healthy Debate in Sexual Health08:36 – Healing Families: Breaking Generational Sexual Shame11:42 – The Most Meaningful Moments: Individual Impact & Testimonials13:13 – Challenges of the Public Eye: Navigating Social Media Nuance14:31 – Motivation After 20 Years: Why There’s Still Work to Do16:21 – S//xual Landscapes: Comparing the US and Berlin17:26 – Lightning Round: Books, Travel, and Bravo TV19:52 – The Contradiction of Privacy: Sex Life vs. Home Life21:01 – Deep Dive: "Heated Rivalry" and Representation in Media24:15 – Final Message: Why Sex Should Be Joyful27:04 – Closing Remarks and How to SubscribeResources Resources Mentioned in this Episode:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications and cutting-edge education: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/The Sexology Practice Guide: A practical guide for incorporating intimacy into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guideSex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from Vanessa Marin: Visit https://vmtherapy.com/ for courses and resources.Subscribe and Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and share! Your support helps us reach more people with these essential insights. https://sexologylab.com/
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  Why Couples Struggle with Desire, Intimacy and Communication | Vanessa Marin | Episode 4 16.04.2026 29m

  What do you mean it’s normal to not want sex with your partner all the time? We talked with Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, and globally recognized intimacy educator, to explore what really creates lasting intimacy in modern relationships. From sharing her own relationship publicly to reaching millions through digital education, Vanessa brings an honest and practical perspective to conversations about sex.We talk through some of the most common challenges couples face, including desire discrepancy, communication struggles, and the pressure to feel spontaneous desire. Vanessa reframes these experiences and explains why great s//x is not about waiting to feel in the mood, but about creating experiences that are actually worth wanting and learning how to communicate clearly with your partner.Key takeaways:- Desire discrepancy is normal in every relationship and not something to fix, but to understand.- Specific communication tools and scripts are far more effective than generic advice.- Focusing on the experience of sex and why it is "worth wanting" is more important than waiting for desire to strike.Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Vanessa Marin 01:31 – Sharing intimacy publicly and vulnerability in relationships 03:48 – Vanessa’s origin story and early experiences with sexual shame 04:52 – Why professionals must do their own internal work first 06:07 – Moving beyond vague advice in sex therapy toward specificity 08:22 – Deep dive into understanding desire discrepancy in couples 11:11– Why focusing on sexual experience and sex worth wanting matters more than desire 12:53 – Transitioning from private practice to digital education 15:43 – The Sexology Practice Guide: Scaling impact 18:00 – Working with her husband and teaching as a couple 22:47 – The number one factor for long term intimacy is communication 24:23 – Navigating censorship and the evolving conversation around sex on social mediaResources Mentioned in this episode:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance (SHA), a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/The Sexology Practice Guide: A short practical guide for incorporating intimacy and sexual health into your professional work. Download at: https://sexology.com/guide Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Every Couple Should Have by Vanessa and Xander Marin.More from this episode’s guest at: https://vmtherapy.com/Subscribe and Review:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and share. Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.https://sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  The Guide to Your Backdoor | With Renowned Anal Surgeon Dr Evan Goldstein | Episode 3 10.04.2026 30m

  In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Evan Goldstein, a nationally renowned anal surgeon and the founder of Bespoke Surgical. Dr. Goldstein discusses his mission to destigmatize anal health and education, sharing insights from his book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between. He explains how his own journey from cardiac surgery to specializing in queer-friendly intimate health was driven by a need for better standards of care and education in the community.The conversation explores the various cultural myths and stigmas that prevent people from experiencing pleasure and maintaining proper anal health. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the critical role of understanding personal anatomy and gradual progression to avoid trauma and injury. He also shares his vision for the future of intimate wellness, highlighting new technologies like Tempure for non-surgical tissue strengthening.Key TakeawaysEducation as Prevention: Proper education regarding anatomy and function is essential to prevent injury and foster a healthy, lifelong sex life.Step-Wise Progression: Many sexual traumas occur when individuals attempt "something big" too quickly; gradual exploration and pre-lubrication are vital for success.Challenging Cultural Stigma: Dismantling myths about anal play being "dirty" or linked to specific personality traits is necessary to improve sexual outcomes and overall well-being.Show Summary00:00 - Intro and Dr. Evan Goldstein's Mission01:39 - Origin Story: Transitioning from cardiac surgery to intimate health03:41 - Core Mission: The importance of dispelling taboos through education05:28 - SHA Community: Experience as a keynote speaker at the annual conference07:11 - Destigmatizing Health: Affirming care for the gay community10:08 - Cultural Myths: Debunking common misconceptions about "backdoor play"13:10 - Anatomy 101: Why understanding your body changes everything16:21 - Trends in Wellness: The rise of aesthetic and preventative anal care18:41 - Future Generation: Practical steps for families and allies to reduce shame21:02 - The Ugly Truth: The pressures of leading in a niche medical field23:15 - Personal Challenges: Dr. Goldstein’s own wellness journey24:14 - Rebuilding from Scratch: Social media, community practice, and "the give model"25:44 - Final Message: Encouraging exploration and living without limitsResources Mentioned in this EpisodeThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: https://www.sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠More from this episode’s guest at:Book: Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in BetweenClinic: Bespoke SurgicalBrand: Future MethodSocial Media: @DrEvanGoldsteinSubscribe and ReviewIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  The Missing Science Behind Women's Health and Chronic Pain | Dr Maria Uloko | Episode 2 10.04.2026 52m

  In this powerful conversation, Dr. Maria Uloko, an internationally acclaimed urologist and sexual medicine specialist, discusses the critical gaps in medical education regarding vulvar and sexual health. She shares her journey from a Nigerian immigrant to a leading surgeon and researcher, emphasizing why so many patients are currently suffering from misdiagnosed chronic conditions.Dr. Uloko highlights the urgent need for both clinicians and patients to understand the intricacies of vulvar physiology to ensure accurate diagnosis and treatment. She advocates for a shift in the medical paradigm toward curiosity and rigorous science to transform outcomes for patients experiencing pelvic pain, menopause, and sexual dysfunction.Key TakeawaysMedical Misdiagnosis: Many conditions labeled as "chronic" are actually misdiagnosed cases resulting from a lack of clinical training in vulvar physiology and the impact of hormones.The Power of Advocacy: Patients must be educated on their own anatomy to become effective self-advocates, especially as the current healthcare system is often not incentivized to provide this specialized education.Hormonal Health: Vulvar health is deeply dependent on both estrogen and testosterone; replacing these hormones can often reverse "chronic" conditions like recurrent UTIs and inflammation.Show Summary00:00 - Empowering patients through anatomical education and self-advocacy.01:31 - Critiquing medical education and the lack of research in vulvar healthcare.05:14 - Dr. Maria Uloko’s origin story: From Nigeria to a fellowship in sexual medicine.09:52 - The rise of grassroots patient advocacy groups like Tight Lipped.11:34 - Insights into vulvar regeneration and the link between vulvar and bladder health.13:58 - Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and body shame.17:13 - Redefining "chronic" conditions as misdiagnoses in sexual health.20:13 - Educating patients to drive change within the healthcare system.21:27 - Addressing medical misogyny and the importance of clinical curiosity.24:30 - Why rigorous research is the foundation of effective advocacy.30:29 - Shifting the diagnostic mindset: Becoming a "Sexual Health Sherlock".32:21 - The impact of testosterone on vulvar health and the side effects of birth control.38:59 - Reframing menopause as a transition rather than a decline.41:13 - Debunking HRT myths and providing true informed consent.Resources Mentioned in this EpisodeThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: https://www.sexualhealthalliance.com/More from this episode’s guest at: https://www.mariaulokomd.com/https://vulvai.co/Books and Publications:When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Healing Pelvic Pain by Andrew Goldstein, MD, Caroline Pukall, PhD, Irwin Goldstein, MD, Dr. Jill Krapf"Misdiagnosis of Recurrent UTI and the Impact of Testosterone Deficiency" (Forthcoming in the Journal of Sexual Medicine)Sexology Practice Guide: sexology.com/guideSubscribe and ReviewIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights. 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!