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  This Is About the Kids: Becoming the Sports Parent They Need | Brea Schmidt 16.09.2026 1t 5min

  What if being a better sports parent isn't about doing more — but about knowing when to step back? Brea Schmidt, founder and creator of The Top Bleacher, joins Todd Merkow for a deeply personal conversation about parenting young athletes through the pressure, emotion and chaos of today's youth sports culture. A lifelong athlete, sports mom of three and mental well-being advocate, Brea shares the family experiences that shaped her approach to sports parenting — including the story of her grandfather "Ducky," who quietly supported her from the top bleacher and became the inspiration behind her platform. Brea and Todd explore the sports-parent ego, why showing up doesn't always mean being in the stands, allowing kids to experience failure and adversity, and the importance of giving young athletes ownership of their sports journey. Brea also shares the powerful story of her eight-year-old daughter experiencing intense anxiety while pursuing competitive gymnastics. The family made the difficult decision to step away, seek support and put the child ahead of the athlete. Her daughter eventually chose to return to gymnastics — healthier, happier and better equipped to understand and communicate what she was feeling. It's a reminder for every sports parent: our kids don't need us to create a perfect sports experience. They need us to be present, intentional and willing to keep the focus where it belongs — on them. As Brea puts it before walking into a game: "This is about the kids." In This Episode 00:25 — Welcome to Be Valiant and meeting Brea Schmidt 06:54 — Growing up as a multi-sport athlete and learning to love the game 09:28 — "Ducky," the top bleacher and the power of simply being there 11:52 — The Thinking Branch and Brea's mental well-being advocacy 16:45 — Raising three young athletes in today's youth sports culture 20:58 — Letting a child decide when it's time to leave a sport 22:32 — The pressure parents feel to show up for everything 26:14 — Why showing up doesn't always mean being in the bleachers 28:12 — Why Brea created The Top Bleacher 32:57 — Recognizing the "sports parent ego" 34:58 — Giving kids ownership of their development and room to fail 40:10 — The emotional well-being of the sports parent 45:16 — The pressure young athletes are being asked to handle 45:52 — Brea's eight-year-old daughter and her struggle with anxiety 48:05 — Listening when a young athlete says the pressure is too much 50:16 — Asking for help and caring for the kid behind the athlete 54:41 — Can youth sports be competitive and still prioritize well-being? 56:45 — Creating more happy moments and fewer harmful ones 57:21 — Brea's advice to every sports parent: "This is about the kids" 58:05 — "Be a Ducky" 59:06 — Rapid Fire: sports-parent habits, self-care and being imperfect 1:00:55 — What does Be Valiant mean to Brea? 1:03:37 — Todd's closing message to sports parents The Top Bleacher on Social INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Continue the Conversation Watch the full episode and explore additional resources, takeaways and trusted information for sports parents:  EPISODE PAGE:  BREA SCHMIDT Visit www.PlayFearless.org for free education, conversations and trusted resources designed to help families navigate the youth sports journey and create more happy moments and fewer harmful ones. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant. Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show. © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: I Lost Myself After Soccer — Sydney Merkow on Identity, Anxiety & Finding Her Way Back 09.09.2026 1t 8min

  What happens when the sport that has defined your life suddenly ends? In this powerful Be Valiant Rewind, Todd Merkow sits down with his daughter, Sydney, for one of the most personal conversations ever shared on the podcast. After years of competitive youth soccer, Sydney opens up about the identity loss she experienced when she walked away from the game—and the anxiety, depression, perfectionism, eating disorder, and mental health struggles that followed. Together, father and daughter reflect on the pressures young athletes face, the warning signs parents often don't recognize, and the long road back to healing. Sydney shares how therapy, writing, self-reflection, and finding new purpose helped her rediscover who she was beyond sports. This isn't just a conversation about leaving a sport. It's about protecting the well-being of young athletes before, during, and after their playing careers. If you're a parent, coach, athlete, or someone supporting a young person through youth sports, this is an episode you'll want to hear. Watch or listen to the full episode and explore additional resources at playfearless.org. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Joel Votaw, the View from the Middle of The Field 02.09.2026 1t 9min

  What does youth soccer look like from the middle of the field? In this Be Valiant Rewind, Todd Merkow revisits his conversation with Joel Votaw, Arizona Soccer Association State Referee Administrator, veteran referee and sports parent of three, for a perspective every youth sports parent should hear. In Arizona, nearly half of registered soccer referees are 17 or younger — many just 13, 14 or 15 years old. Yet these young officials regularly find themselves on the receiving end of criticism and verbal abuse from adults on the sidelines. Joel explains what referees actually hear during games, why those comments can stay with them long after the final whistle, and how sideline behavior contributes to a referee pipeline that loses roughly 40% of its officials each year. He also draws an important distinction between the emotion and passion that belong in sports and the sustained personal attacks that cross the line. The conversation goes beyond officiating, exploring Joel's own experiences as a sports parent, the pressure of tryouts and the college soccer pathway, the need for more female referees, and the powerful role coaches and parents play in setting the culture around a game. His challenge to parents is remarkably simple: Imagine the referee's parent is sitting right next to you. Would you still say it? A timely Be Valiant Rewind about perspective, respect and remembering that many of the people wearing the referee jersey are kids, too. Explore Joel's full episode, key takeaways, and more free resources for sports parents from Valiant Sports Society at PlayFearless.org: https://www.playfearless.org/episodes/joel-votaw-the-view-from-the-middle-of-the-field Be Valiant. Play Fearless Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Valiant Sports Society Sports Parent Resource Site Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Dr. Erik Dean-The Case AGAINST Year Round Sports Specialization 26.08.2026 1t 7min

  Be Valiant Rewind: Protecting Young Athletes with Dr. Eric Dean Dr Erik Dean Episode Page  In this Be Valiant Rewind, Todd Merkow revisits his conversation with Dr. Erik Dean, Medical Director for Sports Medicine at HonorHealth, former Division I football player at the University of Arizona, longtime team physician, youth sports coach, and sports parent. After more than 25 years treating athletes, Dr. Dean has watched youth sports change dramatically—and not always for the better. He explains why early specialization, year-round training, overuse, and the pressure to constantly do more are contributing to injuries at younger ages. Todd and Dr. Dean discuss growth plate injuries, the increasing prevalence of ACL injuries among young female athletes, the physical demands and often-underestimated injury risks of cheerleading, and why fatigue and growth spurts can create a dangerous combination for developing bodies. They also tackle one of the biggest misconceptions in youth sports: that specializing earlier and training more gives an athlete a better chance of reaching the next level. Dr. Dean offers a very different perspective from his experience working with high school, collegiate, and professional athletes. Multi-sport athletes are still being sought out—and talented athletes don't need to spend every weekend at another tournament, camp, or showcase to be found. His advice to sports parents is remarkably simple: let kids play multiple sports for as long as possible, give their bodies real time off, pay attention when something hurts, and make sure they're still having fun. Because even professional athletes have an offseason. Our kids should, too. Be Valiant. Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind | Andrew Beinbrink - Failure Is an Ingredient, Raising Athletes for the Long Game 19.08.2026 1t 4min

  This week on Be Valiant Rewind, we revisit our conversation with former Arizona State and professional baseball player Andrew Beinbrink, founder and CEO of SportsForce. Andrew brings a unique perspective to youth sports—as a former multi-sport athlete who reached the highest levels of college and professional baseball, and now as someone who works directly with athletes and families navigating the increasingly complicated college recruiting landscape. But this conversation goes well beyond recruiting. Andrew shares why playing multiple sports helped shape the athlete he became, what happened when he finally asked his own father to step back, and why parents need to create enough space for their athletes to find their own voice. We also dig into some of the biggest challenges facing families today: early specialization, overcoaching, chasing exposure too soon, the impact of the transfer portal, and the pressure to pursue a school's brand instead of finding the right fit. Among Andrew's most important reminders: "Failure is an ingredient in development." And as parents navigate all the pressure surrounding youth sports, don't lose sight of what kids themselves value most: fun, friends, and feedback. Most importantly, Andrew closes with a deeply personal reminder for every sports parent: the days of watching your child put on a jersey are fleeting. Savor them. In this episode: Why multi-sport participation matters Giving athletes the space to develop independence Why failure is an essential part of growth The dangers of overcoaching Why development should come before exposure How the transfer portal is changing college recruiting Finding the right college fit instead of chasing the biggest name Why parents should savor the experience while it lasts Go deeper with this episode: Visit Andrew's episode page at PlayFearless.org for key takeaways, memorable quotes, and additional insights from the conversation—all in one place: https://playfearless.org/episodes/andrew-beinbrink-failure-is-an-ingredient Be Valiant. Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind | When the Dream Unexpectedly Changes (Part 3) – The Athlete's Perspective with Will Proctor 12.08.2026 1t 5min

  Be Valiant Rewind | When the Dream Unexpectedly Changes (Part 3) – The Athlete's Perspective with Will Proctor In this special Be Valiant Rewind, we're revisiting the powerful conclusion of our three-part conversation with the Proctor family. After hearing from sports dad Jeff Proctor and sports mom Lisa Proctor, the final chapter belongs to the athlete himself. Former Division I baseball player Will Proctor shares his remarkable journey from one of the nation's top high school prospects to the emotional realities of performance anxiety, career-ending injury, identity loss, and ultimately discovering a new purpose beyond the game. Will speaks candidly about the pressure he placed on himself, what it felt like to watch his lifelong dream unexpectedly change, and how he found healing by embracing a new path as a filmmaker. His story is a powerful reminder that our worth is never defined by the sport we play—and that sometimes life's greatest setbacks become our greatest opportunities. If you haven't heard the beginning of this family's story, start with Part 1: "Be There for the Journey" with Jeff Proctor, available here: https://playfearless.org/episodes/jeff-proctor-be-there-for-the-journey Continue the Conversation at PlayFearless.org This episode is just the beginning. Visit PlayFearless.org to explore even more free resources created specifically for sports parents, including: • Full Be Valiant podcast episodes and video interviews • Expert articles and trusted youth sports organizations • Curated YouTube playlists for sports parents • Guest information and additional educational resources designed to help families create healthier youth sports experiences Because better-informed sports parents create healthier outcomes for young athletes. Be Valiant. Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind | When the Dream Unexpectedly Changes – A Mother's Perspective with Lisa Proctor 05.08.2026 1t 7min

  Be Valiant Rewind | When the Dream Unexpectedly Changes (Part 2) – A Mother's Perspective with Lisa Proctor In this special Be Valiant Rewind, we're revisiting Part 2 of our powerful three-part series with the Proctor family. After hearing from sports dad Jeff Proctor, this conversation shifts to the perspective only a mother can provide. Lisa Proctor shares the emotional journey of raising a son whose dream of playing Major League Baseball seemed within reach—until unexpected challenges, mounting pressure, and ultimately injury changed the course of his life. She reflects on the highs of watching Will become one of the nation's top baseball prospects, the heartbreak of seeing him struggle, and the unwavering role parents play when their child's identity becomes intertwined with their sport. This is an honest conversation about resilience, unconditional support, and the importance of loving your child for who they are—not what they achieve. If you haven't listened to the beginning of the story, start with Part 1: "Be There for the Journey" with Jeff Proctor, available here: https://playfearless.org/episodes/jeff-proctor-be-there-for-the-journey Then continue with Part 3, where former Division I baseball player Will Proctor shares the athlete's perspective on performance anxiety, identity, injury, and finding purpose beyond the game. Continue the Conversation at PlayFearless.org This episode is just the beginning. Visit PlayFearless.org for free resources created specifically for sports parents, including: Full Be Valiant podcast episodes and video interviews Expert articles and trusted youth sports organizations Curated YouTube playlists for sports parents Guest information and additional educational resources to help families create healthier youth sports experiences Because better-informed sports parents create healthier outcomes for young athletes. Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Barry Buetel - Soccer Dad, on What Really Matters in Youth Sports 29.07.2026 1t 3min

  Some conversations deserve a second listen. In this Be Valiant Rewind, Todd Merkow revisits one of the most honest and relatable conversations about youth sports parenting with longtime sports broadcaster and father of three daughters, Barry Buetel. Despite a career spent around professional sports, Barry admits he was completely unprepared for the emotional reality of becoming a youth sports parent. Together, Todd and Barry reflect on the pressure, the sidelines, the coaches, the recruiting process, and the mistakes they made along the way. More importantly, they discuss what they wish they had understood from the very beginning. Whether your child is just starting youth sports or your family is deep in the club sports journey, this episode is filled with practical perspective on what truly matters—and what simply doesn't. In this episode you'll hear: Why even experienced sports professionals can be blindsided by youth sports parenting. How parents can unintentionally become part of the pressure. Why development and relationships matter more than wins and scholarships. The importance of choosing the right coach and the right environment. Why Barry believes the greatest gift youth sports gave his family wasn't trophies—it was time together. If you've ever questioned your decisions as a sports parent, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that it's never too late to refocus on what matters most. Because years from now, your children won't remember every score. They'll remember how you made them feel. Be Valiant. Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Kevin McCabe (Arizona Dean of High School Sports), "Let Them Be Kids" 22.07.2026 1t 9min

  In this Be Valiant Rewind episode, Todd revisits his conversation with longtime friend and Arizona high school sports voice Kevin McCabe, known by many as the "Dean of Arizona High School Sports." With more than 40 years covering athletes, coaches, schools, and communities across the state, Kevin brings a rare perspective as both a broadcaster and a sports dad. He and Todd discuss the changing landscape of youth and high school sports, the pressure created by club sports, recruiting expectations, parent behavior, specialization, coaching dynamics, and the emotional realities families face along the way. Kevin also shares lessons from raising his own five children through sports, including the importance of communication, letting kids define their own journey, and remembering that the goal is not just scholarships or championships, but growth, joy, confidence, and life experience. This conversation is a reminder for sports parents to stay positive, keep perspective, trust their gut, and help lift up the young athletes around them. Be Valiant. Play Fearless. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Liz Masakayan - On Youth Sports, Let Them Play — Olympic Volleyball Player and Coach 15.07.2026 1t 3min
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Jody Jackson on the Pressure Behind the Pitcher's Circle and Quarterback Position 08.07.2026 1t 9min

  Longtime Arizona sports broadcaster Jody Jackson has spent her career around elite athletes, but some of the most important lessons she's learned came as a sports parent. In this Be Valiant Rewind episode, Jody shares the journey of raising two highly competitive athletes—Connor, a collegiate quarterback, and Caitlin, a standout softball pitcher—while navigating the realities of youth sports, club teams, coaching, recruiting, tryouts, and the emotional highs and lows that come with them. Jody reflects on the intense world of club volleyball and softball, the pressure placed on young athletes, the challenges of balancing competition with enjoyment, and the importance of allowing children to develop at their own pace. She also shares powerful insights about resilience, character, and why a child's value should never be tied to athletic performance. Whether discussing heartbreaking tryouts, difficult losses, recruiting decisions, or the lessons learned from adversity, Jody offers a thoughtful and refreshing perspective that every sports parent can benefit from. Most importantly, she reminds us that while sports can be a powerful teacher, our children are so much more than athletes. Key topics include: The realities of club sports and youth sports culture Raising a quarterback and a pitcher Mental health, confidence, and handling failure Multi-sport participation and specialization The role of coaches and parents in athlete development College recruiting, transfer portals, and finding the right fit Why character and work ethic matter more than talent A conversation filled with honesty, perspective, and valuable lessons for every sports family. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports SocietyBe Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Linda Santo, What Ron Santo's Legacy Taught Her About Youth Sports Pressure 01.07.2026 1t 3min

  In this Be Valiant Rewind, Todd Merkow revisits a powerful conversation with Linda Santo, sports parent, longtime sports media executive, and daughter of Chicago Cubs legend and MLB Hall of Famer Ron Santo. Growing up around one of baseball's most beloved figures gave Linda a unique perspective on sports, competition, and what truly matters. But even with a Hall of Famer as her father, she found herself facing the same challenges many parents encounter today: club sports, private coaching, roster cuts, scholarship dreams, performance pressure, and the emotional roller coaster that comes with raising young athletes. Linda shares the very different journeys of her two sons through youth and high school baseball, including the heartbreak of being cut, the realities of the club sports system, and the lessons learned from watching talented kids navigate confidence, anxiety, and expectations. Along the way, she reflects on what her father would think about today's youth sports culture and why he believed kids should focus less on mechanics and more on simply enjoying the game. This episode is a reminder that success in sports is rarely a straight line, that adversity can become a powerful teacher, and that the ultimate goal isn't raising great athletes—it's raising healthy, resilient young adults. In this episode: Growing up as the daughter of MLB Hall of Famer Ron Santo What Ron Santo taught his grandchildren about sports and pressure The rise of club baseball and youth sports specialization How cuts, setbacks, and failure shaped Linda's sons Why multi-sport participation matters The mental health challenges young athletes face today What parents should do—and stop doing—after games Keeping perspective when scholarship and pro dreams take over Whether you're raising a baseball player, a soccer player, or any young athlete, this conversation offers valuable lessons on helping kids compete, grow, and most importantly, keep their love of sports alive. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports SocietyBe Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: The D1 Dream vs. The Reality of College Sports | Dr. Robert Dranoff, former Conference Commissioner 24.06.2026 1t 16min

  As youth sports become increasingly focused on scholarships, recruiting, NIL, and the pursuit of Division I athletics, many families lose sight of what truly matters: finding the right fit for their child. In this Be Valiant Rewind episode, Todd Merkow sits down with former East Coast Conference Commissioner Dr. Robert "Bob" Dranoff, a lifelong college athletics leader, professor, and sports parent, to discuss the realities of college sports and the lessons parents need to hear. Bob shares insights from decades spent in collegiate athletics, including why Division II and Division III opportunities deserve far more attention, how the transfer portal is reshaping recruiting, the truth about athletic scholarships and NIL earnings, and why balance, academics, and personal growth should remain at the center of every athlete's journey. The conversation also explores the growing mental health challenges facing young athletes and the role parents play in helping their children navigate pressure, expectations, and the pursuit of success. Whether your child dreams of playing in college or simply loves competing, this episode offers practical perspective on how sports can serve young people—not the other way around. Key Topics: The reality of Division I recruiting Why Division II may be the best-kept secret in college athletics NIL, scholarships, and the transfer portal Mental health and athlete well-being Finding the right college fit Keeping sports fun and meaningful What every sports parent should prioritize About Bob Dranoff: Bob Dranoff is the former Commissioner of the East Coast Conference and a longtime college athletics administrator who has served at the Division I, II, III, and junior college levels. Today, he teaches at St. John's University and St. Joseph's University while continuing to advocate for student-athlete development and well-being. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports SocietyBe Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: "No One Has Youth Sports Figured Out" | Steve Borelli, USA Today 17.06.2026 1t 4min

  In this Be Valiant Rewind episode, Todd Merkow sits down with Steve Borelli, longtime USA Today journalist, youth sports columnist, coach, and sports dad, for one of the most insightful conversations we've had about the realities of raising young athletes. Drawing from years of experience on the sidelines and hundreds of conversations with parents, coaches, and athletes, Steve shares practical wisdom on everything from travel sports culture and early specialization to recruiting, pressure, parent behavior, and what kids actually need from us. Why do so many parents feel trapped in unhealthy sports environments? What are the warning signs that a team or club may not be the right fit? Do college coaches really prefer multi-sport athletes? And how can parents support their children without becoming part of the pressure? Steve also discusses lessons from his interviews with former MLB All-Star Todd Frazier, golf legend Annika Sorenstam, and other sports figures who have navigated youth sports as parents themselves. Key topics include: • The red flags parents should watch for in youth sports programs • Why "you're not getting scouted at 12" is a message every parent needs to hear • The importance of multi-sport participation and athlete development • The 24-hour rule and the car ride home after games • What college coaches are really looking for • Travel sports, recruiting, and maintaining perspective • Why fun in sports is more important—and more complex—than most people realize Whether you're just starting your family's youth sports journey or are deep in the travel sports world, this conversation offers valuable perspective, practical advice, and reassurance that you're not alone. Because at the end of the day, great sports parenting isn't about having all the answers—it's about learning, growing, and making decisions that are in the best interest of your child. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports SocietyBe Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Mike Strati | Creating a Healthy Sports Culture for Your Child 10.06.2026 1t 4min

  In this special "rewind" of Be Valiant, host Todd Merkow sits down with longtime friend, former collegiate and national team soccer player, coach, consultant, and sports parent Mike Strati for one of the most insightful conversations we've had about youth sports culture. Drawing from his experiences as an athlete, coach, and father of three, Mike shares a refreshingly honest perspective on what really matters in youth sports. From the importance of multi-sport participation and finding the right coach, to navigating toxic environments, managing expectations, and helping kids develop a lifelong love of sports, this episode is packed with practical advice for parents at every stage of the journey. You'll hear why Mike believes: • Kids should play as many sports as possible for as long as possible • Parents need to be intentional about choosing coaches and teams • The car ride home matters more than most parents realize • Early specialization often does more harm than good • Youth sports should prepare kids for life—not just college athletics Most importantly, Mike reminds us that youth sports are ultimately about helping our children grow, learn, build relationships, and discover who they are. Whether you're just beginning your family's sports journey or you're deep in the competitive youth sports world, this conversation offers timeless lessons that every sports parent should hear. Watch the full video episode and subscribe on our YouTube channel, and visit PlayFearless.org to learn more about Valiant Sports Society's mission to help parents safeguard the mental and physical well-being of youth athletes. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Mark Hilinski |Athlete Mental Health, Suicide Prevention & the Conversations That Can Save Lives 03.06.2026 1t 7min

  Some conversations are too important to be heard only once. This week, we're revisiting one of the most impactful episodes of Be Valiant with Mark Hilinski, co-founder of Hilinski's Hope and father of former Washington State quarterback Tyler Hilinski. After losing Tyler to suicide in 2018, Mark and his wife Kim turned unimaginable grief into a national movement dedicated to improving mental health awareness, education, and support for student-athletes. Through Hilinski's Hope, they have reached hundreds of college campuses and helped spark critical conversations about mental health in sports. In this powerful discussion, Mark shares the story of Tyler's life, the warning signs that weren't obvious, the lessons learned as a sports parent, and what families, coaches, and athletes can do to create environments where asking for help is not only accepted—but encouraged. We also explore athlete identity, the pressures of competitive sports, the importance of multi-sport participation, the role parents play in supporting their children's emotional well-being, and why mental health conversations should begin long before a crisis occurs. Whether you're a parent, coach, athlete, or simply someone who cares about the well-being of young people, this is a conversation that deserves your attention. Key takeaway: "Let's not let the crisis be the first time we talk about it." Learn more about Hilinski's Hope at Hilinskishope.org.   Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show. © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Charli Turner Thorne | Hall of Fame College Basketball Coach on Mental Health, Toughness & Youth Sports Culture 27.05.2026 1t 9min

  Former Arizona State women's basketball coach and Hall of Famer Charli Turner Thorne joins Valiant Sports Society CEO Todd Merkow for one of the most important conversations Be Valiant has had about youth sports, mental health, coaching culture, and parenting. Over a 25-year coaching career at ASU, Charli built nationally respected programs centered not just on performance, but on mental wellness, emotional resilience, leadership, and athlete development. In this Mental Health Awareness Month re release, she shares what parents, coaches, and athletes urgently need to understand about today's sports environment. Topics include: The growing mental health challenges facing young athletes Why injuries can trigger anxiety, depression, and identity loss The difference between healthy toughness and harmful pressure What parents should (and shouldn't) say after games How coaches impact athlete mental health far beyond the scoreboard Why multi-sport athletes are often healthier mentally and physically The danger of "fear of other people's opinions" in today's youth sports culture Why parents should ask colleges about mental health support during recruiting The importance of culture, joy, balance, and purpose in sports Charli also opens up about her own experiences as a sports parent, the evolution of her coaching philosophy, and why she believes the best coaches develop the whole person — not just the athlete. This episode is a powerful reminder that youth sports should build confidence, resilience, connection, and joy — not fear, burnout, or emotional harm. Guest:  Charli Turner Thorne - Former Ariozna State University Women's Basketball Coach Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  Be Valiant Rewind: Madison Merkow | Injuries, Pressure & Mental Health in Youth Sports 20.05.2026 1t 7min

  During Mental Health Awareness Month, we're revisiting one of the most personal and important conversations we've had on Be Valiant. Todd sits down with his oldest daughter, Madison Merkow, for an honest discussion about the emotional realities of youth sports; including pressure, injuries, recruiting, confidence, identity, burnout, and the mental health struggles that often go unseen by parents, coaches, and teammates. Madison shares her journey from indoor volleyball to beach volleyball, the impact injuries and concussion had on her confidence and mental well-being, the pressure surrounding college athletics, and why so many young athletes lose their love for the game. Together, Todd and Madison explore: the emotional toll of injuries in sports fear and confidence after concussion recruiting pressure and college expectations supportive vs harmful coaching environments the importance of communication at home how parents can better support their athletes emotionally preserving joy in youth sports This episode is a raw parent-athlete conversation designed to help families better understand the mental and emotional side of competitive sports. If you're a parent, coach, or athlete navigating the pressures of youth sports, this conversation matters.   Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  I Lost Myself After Youth Soccer: Sydney Merkow's Story of Identity Loss, Eating Disorder, Anxiety & Healing 13.05.2026 1t 8min

  Content Note: This episode includes discussion of anxiety, depression, eating disorders, self-harm thoughts, and mental health struggles related to youth sports. In this deeply personal episode of Be Valiant, Todd Merkow sits down again with his daughter Sydney to talk about what happened after her youth soccer journey ended. Sydney opens up about identity loss, anxiety, depression, perfectionism, eating disorder struggles, and the painful process of finding herself beyond the sport that once defined her. This conversation is honest, emotional, and necessary for parents of youth athletes. Sydney shares what she wishes parents understood, how pressure builds silently, why athletes often hide their struggles, and how healing became possible through therapy, writing, self-reflection, and learning to reconnect with joy. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.
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  She Looked Fine on the Field: What Youth Sports Was Really Doing to My Daughter 06.05.2026 1t 6min

  In this powerful re-release of Be Valiant, Todd Merkow sits down with his daughter Sydney Merkow to reflect on her youth sports journey while she was still playing competitive soccer. From the outside, Sydney's story looked like success — championships, leadership, and high-level competition. But beneath the surface, a very different reality was unfolding. Sydney opens up about the pressure, anxiety, injuries, and mental toll that built over time — including vocal cord dysfunction, concussions, and the early signs of deeper struggles that often go unnoticed in youth sports. This episode sheds light on what many athletes experience but rarely say out loud — and what parents may not see until it's too late. As Mental Health Awareness Month begins, this conversation is a reminder that performance does not always equal well-being. Host: Todd Merkow - CEO & Founder, Valiant Sports Society Powered by Valiant Sports Society Be Valiant.  Play Fearless. www.PlayFearless.org Valiant Sports Society is a non-profit organization as described in section 501(c)(3) of the IRC. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not medical or mental health advice. Always consult a qualified professional for guidance related to your or your child's health. Never delay seeking help because of something you heard on this show.   © 2026 Valiant Sports Society. All rights reserved.