Awesome Marriage Podcast

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  What Do I Do if I Don't Feel "in love" With My Spouse Anymore? |Ep. 749 15.09.2026 12min

  What do you do when the butterflies are gone and you no longer feel "in love" with your spouse? If you've ever wondered whether fading feelings mean something is wrong with your marriage, you're not alone. In this honest and hope-filled solo episode, Dr. Kim unpacks why romantic feelings naturally change over time, the difference between love as a feeling and love as a choice, and how couples can begin finding their way back to one another. You'll discover why emotional disconnection often happens gradually, how small intentional steps can reignite closeness, and why God isn't finished writing your marriage story. If your relationship feels distant, this episode offers practical encouragement and biblical hope for rebuilding connection—one choice at a time.   Episode Takeaways: Why fading feelings don't have to mean your marriage is failing. The difference between love as a feeling and love as a daily choice. Practical steps to rebuild emotional connection and find your way back to each other. Quotes from This Episode: Dr. Kim Kimberling "Feelings are real. They matter. But they are information—not truth." "Don't let a fading feeling become a verdict on your marriage before you've figured out what it's trying to tell you." "The problem isn't that feelings change. The problem is believing that anything quieter than early romance means something is wrong." "Early love is about discovery and excitement. Mature love is about depth, history, and a knowing that only time can build." "If you're waiting to feel in love before you act in love, you may wait a very long time. But when you choose to act in love, the feelings often follow." "God didn't design love to be a noun you possess. He designed it to be a verb you practice." "Emotional disconnection usually doesn't happen because of one big event. It happens through neglect, not cruelty." "Love is rebuilt the same way it was built in the first place—through small moments of safety, honesty, laughter, and presence." "You don't have to fix everything this week. You just have to take the next right step." "Feelings aren't the final word on your marriage. The truth is that God is not finished with your marriage."   Time to Think About it: If I'm honest, what's really underneath my "I don't feel in love anymore" feelings—is it loneliness, fear, exhaustion, or something else? What's one intentional act of love I can choose this week, even if the feelings haven't fully returned yet? Have I been waiting for my feelings to change before investing in my marriage, or am I willing to take the first step toward connection today?   Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Need a low pressure, on ramp back toward one another: 4 Week Connection Challenge. If your marriage is struggling, try our 90 Days to Save Your Marriage email series.  Maybe you need to shift how you're viewing your marriage and your spouse. Our Reframing Challenge can help! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Continue to pursue your spouse by being a student of your spouse.  If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer! 
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  How People Skills Strengthen Your Marriage Connection with Debra Fileta Ep. 748 08.09.2026 1t 3min

  Healthy relationships don't happen by accident—they're built one skill at a time. In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with returning guest and licensed counselor Debra Fileta to talk about why so many marriages struggle, not because couples don't love each other, but because they haven't learned the skills to communicate that love well. Together they unpack practical ways to become better listeners, healthier communicators, and more intentional spouses. Whether you've been married for six months or sixty years, you'll walk away with simple, biblical tools to strengthen your connection, improve communication, and reflect the love of Christ in your marriage. Main Takeaways: Love isn't always the problem—sometimes it's a lack of relationship skills.  The healthiest communication starts with self-awareness.  Listening is one of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse.  You don't have to wait for your spouse to change first.  Quotes from this Episode: Dr. Kim: "I think a lot of marriages aren't struggling because of a lack of love—they're struggling because couples haven't learned the skills to communicate that love well." "Jesus is our model for relationships. Nobody served like He did, and nobody loved people more intentionally." "When we really learn to listen to each other, it probably makes a bigger difference than almost anything else in marriage." "Don't settle for a marriage that's just surviving when God created your marriage to thrive." "The payoff of listening well is that your spouse doesn't just know you love them—they actually experience your love." "You don't have to wait for your spouse to change before you begin obeying what God is asking of you." "Good communication isn't something you master once. It's something you keep growing in through every season of marriage." "Sometimes we think we're communicating because we're talking, but communication doesn't happen until our spouse feels heard." "If you invest intentionally in your marriage today, you'll be grateful for it in every season that comes tomorrow."   ___________________________________________________________________ Debra Fileta: "It's often not a lack of love—it's a lack of skill." "Relationships are only as strong as the skills we bring into them." "God wants us to become more like Him, not more like us." "Nothing changes if nothing changes." "People skills aren't about getting people to like you more—they're about helping you communicate God's love more effectively." "Just because you start a sentence with 'I feel' doesn't mean you're actually sharing a feeling." "Healing means looking back at the things that served you in one season and asking whether they're sabotaging you in this season." "If a relationship is like a recipe, I can't change your ingredients—but I can change mine." "Most people hear about a book on people skills and immediately think of someone else who needs it. Real growth begins when you start with yourself." "Listening isn't waiting for your turn to speak. It's receiving what's being said." "The health of my marriage starts with my personal health. When I become healthier, I have more to offer my relationship."   Time to Talk About it:  Which relationship skill do you think would make the biggest difference in our marriage right now—listening, encouragement, expressing feelings, handling conflict, or something else? Why? Is there a communication habit or response you've carried from your family growing up that may be helping—or hurting—our relationship today? What's one practical change each of us can make this week that would help the other feel more seen, heard, and loved? How can we intentionally create at least 30 minutes this week to simply connect—not solve problems, but listen, encourage, and pray together?   Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Get your copy of People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills. Your marriage communication needs intentional effort and investment: 30 Day Communication Challenge Sign up for our One Thing email series. One practical thing to do each day to grow your marriage! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Marriage communication is different- it needs your investment daily. Check out Achieving Awesome Communication in Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  
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  Talking About Sex Without Shame or Defensiveness Ep. 747 01.09.2026 20min

  Talking about sex can feel awkward—even with the person you love most. But avoiding the conversation doesn't make the issues disappear. It often creates more distance. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy have an honest, grace-filled conversation about building a healthy sexual relationship through open communication, emotional safety, and mutual respect. They share lessons from their own marriage, discuss why every couple experiences different seasons of intimacy, and offer practical ways to have conversations about sex without shame, fear, or defensiveness. Whether you've been married for six months or sixty years, this episode will encourage you to communicate with honesty, pursue one another with love, and create an environment where intimacy can continue to grow. Main Takeaways: Every marriage experiences different seasons of intimacy—and that's normal. The healthiest conversations about sex happen when both spouses feel safe, heard, and respected. Comparison is one of the quickest ways to create dissatisfaction in your marriage. Small, honest conversations build stronger intimacy than avoiding difficult topics. A thriving sex life isn't about perfection—it's about pursuing one another with love, grace, and intentionality. Quotes from this Episode: Dr. Kim Kimberling "Our marriage is not just about sex. It's about all of life, and our intimacy has to fit the season we're in." "When you approach conversations about sex with love instead of criticism, you're setting your marriage up to grow instead of to fail." "Don't compare your marriage to Hollywood or someone else's story. You have to define what works best for the two of you." "Stay at the comfort level of the person who's least comfortable. There's always another way to build intimacy together." "It's not really about the quantity of sex—it's about the quality of the connection." "The goal isn't proving who's right. The goal is making your marriage better together."     Nancy Kimberling "We've always approached these conversations with love, not a critical spirit." "Nothing is more personal than your own body, so sharing it with someone else is the ultimate vulnerability." "Warmth is the best culture to keep between you when you're talking about intimacy." "Emotional safety is foundational. It's hard to be sexually vulnerable if you don't feel emotionally safe."   Time to Talk About it: What helps you feel the safest, most loved, and most connected to me—both emotionally and physically? Are there any conversations about our intimacy that we've been avoiding? If so, what's one small step we could take to talk about them with honesty and grace? What's one thing I do that makes you feel pursued, appreciated, or desired, and what's one thing I could do more often? What would it take to take our sex life up one point? How can we make that happen?   Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Our Love Making Survey is a great way to keep conversational loving rather than critical.  Sex is intended to be a gift for your marriage, if you're having a hard time talking about it with your spouse, try this resource: 62 Questions About Sex. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our 14 Keys to Lasting Love. Check it out with your spouse! If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   
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  Wider Lens: Redefining Success with Tom Pfeifer Part 3 Ep. 746 28.08.2026 25min

  What does success really look like—and who gets to define it? In the final episode of this three-part conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Tom Pfeiffer to talk about the subtle ways we drift from our priorities without even realizing it. Together they unpack why saying "yes" to every good opportunity can cost us what matters most, how small daily habits shape the life we're building, and why true success isn't measured by titles or achievements but by living a life that's aligned with your values. Whether you're feeling stuck, stretched too thin, or simply wondering if you're chasing the right things, this conversation will challenge you to slow down, evaluate what's most important, and take one intentional step toward the life God is calling you to live.   Episode Highlights: Learn how "priority drift" quietly pulls you away from what matters most—and how to stop it. Why chasing alignment instead of success leads to greater freedom, purpose, and peace. Simple daily habits that create lasting change, both personally and professionally. Practical encouragement to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start taking the next right step. Quotes from This Episode: Tom Pfeifer: "Priority drift doesn't happen all at once. It's one extra meeting, one extra commitment, one extra 'yes.'" "Every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else." "Success is what other people can see. Alignment is when the life you're living matches the values you say you have." "The best decision I ever made was to stop chasing success and start chasing alignment." "Sports are supposed to be fun. You're not going to war." "So many of the things we worry about are first-world problems." "Don't quit your job tomorrow. Start stacking proof one day at a time." "Your habits become discipline, and discipline will always outlast motivation." "Everyone has the same 24 hours. It's not about having time—it's about the choices you make." "Just do the thing. Take the first step and let tomorrow build on today." Dr. Kim Kimberling: "Culture doesn't pull us away from what matters overnight—it happens one small drift at a time." "When we say yes to too many good things, we often end up saying no to the people who matter most." "The hardest part of protecting your priorities is learning to say no." "You don't always realize you're drifting until you look up and wonder how you got so far from what matters." "Don't get impatient. Big life changes are built one step at a time." "Working out changes far more than your body—it changes your confidence and your mindset." "One day stacked on another becomes a habit, and habits shape the life you live." "Ask yourself: Are you drifting? And if you are, where is that drift taking you?" "The best opportunities aren't always the ones that align with your priorities." "You have to define success for yourself instead of letting culture define it for you."   Time to Talk About It:  Where have you noticed "priority drift" in your own life, and what's one step you can take to realign with what matters most? How do you currently define success? Has that definition changed over the years? What's one habit or daily choice that could help you become more intentional with your time, relationships, or calling?  
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  The Communication Mistake Most Couples Don't Realize They're Making with Jason Van Ruler Ep. 745 25.08.2026 40min

  Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your spouse thinking, "That's not what I meant at all"? Or wondered why you keep having the same argument over and over again? The truth is, most couples aren't struggling because they don't love each other, they're struggling because they communicate differently. In this episode, Dr. Kim is joined by licensed therapist and author Jason Van Ruler to unpack the five communication types and why understanding your spouse's communication style can completely change the way you approach conflict. They talk about why we so often take our differences personally, how stress affects the way we communicate, and why learning to truly listen may be the most powerful thing you can do for your marriage. If you've ever felt misunderstood or wished your spouse "just got you," this conversation will help you replace frustration with understanding and give you practical tools to communicate in a way that brings you closer instead of pushing you apart.   Episode Highlights: Why communication breaks down—and why it's probably not for the reason you think. Discover your communication type and learn how it shapes every conversation with your spouse. Simple shifts that will help you feel more seen, heard, and understood in your marriage. Stop taking communication differences personally and start using them to grow closer.   Quotes from This Episode: Jason VanRuler "We aren't very well versed in communicating for connection." "The more we feel we can't communicate, the more we believe the lie that our spouse must like it that way." "We're experts in what we meant, but we're not experts in what our spouse experienced." "Understanding your communication type takes the personal offense out of conflict and helps you ask, 'What did they mean?'" "A great communicator isn't someone who thinks they're communicating well—it's someone who understands how other people experience them." "When life gets hard, we all go back to our primary communication style. That's why understanding each other matters most in conflict." "From birth, we all want to feel seen, heard, and understood."   Dr. Kim Kimberling "Most couples don't know why they struggle to communicate—they just know it creates distance." "We're fighting our differences instead of embracing them and learning how they can strengthen our marriage." "Bad communication gets in the way of being a great team." "When I really learned to listen to Nancy, it changed our marriage." "Sometimes the simplest advice is the most powerful: let your spouse finish." "If you attack the problem, you can find a solution. If you dance around it, you'll never solve it." "The healthiest marriages keep working on communication because every season of life requires new ways of understanding each other."   Time to Talk About it: When do you feel the most heard and understood by me? Is there anything I could do differently to help you feel that way more often? Which communication style do you think describes each of us best, and how have our differences helped—or challenged—our marriage? What's one small change we could each make this week to communicate with more grace, patience, and understanding?   Mentioned in This Episode: You need to get your hand on Jason's new book: Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths To Deepen Connections and Stronger Relationships  Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Awesome Marriage wants you to grow your communication skills! Try our 30 Day Communication Challenge.  If communicating about money feels too big to tackle, this will help: 27 Money Questions Every Couple Should Ask. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our Achieving Awesome Communication in Marriage reading plan. Check out it out with your spouse! If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   
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  Becoming Your Spouse's Biggest Encourager: How Words and Support Shape Your Marriage Over Time. Ep. 744 18.08.2026 19min

  Our spouse hears messages every day from the world—criticism, pressure, comparison, and doubt. But what if home became the place where they were reminded of who they are, what they're capable of, and how deeply they're loved? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy talk about the power of encouragement in marriage and why your words carry more weight than anyone else's. They share personal stories from their own marriage, practical ways to encourage your spouse authentically, and how couples can replace patterns of criticism with a culture of support. Whether your marriage is thriving or you've fallen into a habit of negativity, this conversation will challenge you to become your spouse's greatest encourager.   Quotes from this Episode: Dr. Kim "I don't care what anyone else thinks. Hearing your encouragement makes all the difference in the world." "When your spouse gets more encouragement from someone else than from you, there's a void in the marriage." "Your encouragement is meant to build your spouse up, not put them in the box you want them to fit in." "The more you become a student of your spouse, the more you'll know how to encourage them in ways that truly matter." "When I ask God to help me see you through His eyes, I'm flooded with good things to tell you." "When you see yourselves as a team, encouragement becomes part of how you do life together."   Mrs. Nancy "Your spouse is the most important person in your life. What they say carries more weight than anyone else's words." "Sometimes we simply need our spouse to say, 'You can do this.' Those words can make all the difference." "Living in a fallen world makes negativity come naturally, but that's not how God designed our marriages." "Specific encouragement is powerful because it reminds your spouse of the unique gifts and strengths God has given them." "A look or a tone can discourage just as much as words." "When I pray for you, it changes my heart. It changes the way I see you."   Time to Talk About it: When do you feel the most encouraged by me? What specific words or actions help you feel seen, valued, and believed in? Have criticism or negativity become a habit in any area of our marriage? What's one intentional way we can replace those patterns with encouragement this week? How can I better support what God is doing in your life instead of trying to shape you into who I think you should be?   Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! Struggling with your attitude toward your spouse? Find it hard to encourage someone you feel disconnected from? Our Reframing Challenge will help! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our 4 Days to Growing Gratitude in Marriage . Check it out with your spouse! If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   
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  What If I've Apologized—but My Spouse Still Won't Let It Go? Ep. 743 11.08.2026 18min

  Have you ever sincerely apologized to your spouse but felt like you were still paying for the mistake weeks or even months later? Or maybe you're the one carrying a hurt that just won't seem to heal, even though you've chosen to forgive. In this episode, Dr. Kim unpacks the important differences between forgiveness, healing, and trust—and why they don't all happen on the same timeline. He shares practical encouragement for both the spouse who has apologized and the spouse who is still hurting, offering biblical wisdom and realistic next steps for rebuilding trust, extending grace, and moving toward genuine healing together.   Episode Takeaways: Forgiveness is a standard and it's a choice.  Wounds take time to heal.  Trust is rebuilt through behavior, not just an apology.  There's a difference between a lingering hurt and using a past hurt as leverage.  Don't give up on one another.  Let your actions carry the weight!   Quotes from this episode: "You can't control your spouse's healing timeline. You can control whether you're showing up with humility and consistency." "Suppressed pain almost always surfaces later—usually at the worst possible moment and in the worst possible way." "The question isn't whether your spouse has forgiven you. The question might be whether you're giving them the space and time to heal." "Real healing requires honesty, not performance." "They chose honesty over pretending. They chose forgiveness over bitterness. And God honored that."   Time to Talk About it:  When you've been hurt by each other, do we tend to expect forgiveness, healing, and trust to happen at the same pace? How might understanding the difference between those three change the way we respond to one another? Is there an apology from the past that still feels unresolved for either of us? What would help us continue moving toward healing without reopening old wounds or keeping score? What's one practical way each of us can help rebuild trust this week—whether that's through consistent actions, honest communication, or extending grace? Mentioned in this Episode: Sign up for our daily One Thing email! If trust has been broken in your marriage, and you need a place to start, check out our Rebuilding Trust Challenge. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our Learning to Apologize Well reading plan. Check it out with your spouse! If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   
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  Married and Mastering Money with Dan and Kay Ockey Ep. 742 04.08.2026 42min

  Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in marriage—but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with financial coaches Dan and Kay Ockey to talk about why money is so much more than numbers. They unpack how family backgrounds, emotions, communication, and faith all shape the way couples handle finances. You'll also hear practical steps for getting on the same page, creating healthy financial habits, and replacing fear with faithful stewardship. Whether you're trying to pay off debt, build a budget, or simply have better conversations about money, this episode will encourage you to work as a team and steward what God has entrusted to you with confidence and purpose.   Episode Highlights: Money is emotional. Learn how your past influences the way you spend, save, and give today. Communication changes everything. Discover why a simple weekly financial check-in can strengthen your marriage. Budgets create freedom, not limitations. Learn practical tools for managing money together with confidence. Stewardship starts with trust. See how viewing your finances through God's perspective can bring greater peace and purpose. Quotes from this Episode: Dr. Kim Kimberling "Money can quietly create stress and distance in a marriage if we're not intentional." "Take a chance. Throw caution to the wind and say, 'God, I'm all in.' You'll see Him show up." "A budget doesn't restrict your freedom—it gives you freedom because you know where your money is going." "Your kids are watching your marriage. The way you steward your relationship becomes their textbook for the future."   Dan Ockey "Most couples agree on where they want to go—they just disagree on how to get there." "Everything we have belongs to God. Isn't it worth taking 20 minutes each week to talk about how we're stewarding it?" "Data over drama. Acknowledge the emotions, then let the numbers show you reality." "When we approach money with fear, we make fear-based decisions. When we approach it with faith, we become better stewards." "The long-term consequences of hiding financial struggles are far worse than the short-term pain of an honest conversation."   Kay Ockey "Money isn't just dollars and cents. There's so much emotion underneath every financial decision." "The timing of your communication is huge. Don't spring financial conversations on your spouse." "A simple weekly financial check-in can completely change the way you communicate about money." "Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you automatically know how to handle money. It's a skill that can be learned." "When you're overwhelmed, don't lose sight of having a goal that gives you hope and something to work toward together."   Time to Talk About it: What messages about money did you learn growing up, and how do they still influence the way you handle finances today? How can we create a regular time to talk about money so it feels like we're working together instead of against each other? What is one financial goal we can begin pursuing together this month that would strengthen both our marriage and our trust in God?   Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Money doesn't have to bring tension to your marriage. Check out the Money Masterclass with Dan and Kay Check in weekly with your spouse. 27 Money Questions Every Couple Needs to Ask Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You and your spouse need encouragement to steward your money in marriage well. Check out Biblical Wisdom for Money in Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  
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  Wider Lens: Redefining Success with Tom Pfeifer Part 2 Ep. Ep. 741 31.07.2026 25min

  What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't a lack of opportunity, but fear? In part two of Dr. Kim's conversation with Tom Pfeiffer, they explore what it takes to step into the life God is calling you to live. Tom shares how walking away from a successful legal career taught him that waiting for certainty often keeps us from taking the very steps that lead to growth. Together, they discuss the cost of inaction, learning to let go of other people's opinions, changing the trajectory of your family legacy, and why being fully present with your spouse and children is one of the greatest investments you'll ever make. Whether you're facing a career decision, feeling stuck, or simply wanting to live with greater purpose, this conversation will encourage you to stop waiting for the "perfect time" and start making intentional choices today.   Episode Highlights: Stop waiting for certainty—action creates clarity. Don't let other people's opinions dictate your future. Choose presence with your family over the pursuit of success. Build a legacy you'll be proud to look back on.   Quotes from this Conversation: Tom Pfeiffer "We always think you need certainty before action. But I think it's the opposite." "We never really contemplate the cost of inaction. What did I miss by not doing that?" "Far too often, you'll look back when you're 60, 70, or 80 years old and say, 'Man, I wish I did that.'" "I honestly stopped caring what people think. It's a daily practice, but it's life-changing." "Write down the names of the people whose opinions actually matter to you. I'll bet you're done in 30 seconds." "The majority of people who have an opinion about what you're doing are usually just afraid to do it themselves." "I was more afraid of staying where I was and not being a present dad than I was of making the change." "It's not going to say 'JD' or 'Doctor' on your tombstone. It's going to say father, husband, son. Those are the things that matter." "There are moments in life that are the last time you'll ever do something—and most of the time, you don't even know it." "Sports are a vehicle for life. You have to be okay with adversity because that's where growth happens." "You have to be okay with delayed gratification. You're going to crawl, then walk, then jog, then run." "The version of you that you present every day is the driving factor behind the life you build."   Dr. Kim Kimberling "There's such a profound satisfaction that comes from being the person who changes your family lineage." "Most people don't think about us nearly as much as we think they do." "If they're not on your list, don't give their opinion power over your life." "Your spouse and your kids will know if you're not being who God created you to be." "What's really important is the dash between the dates. What did you do with your time?" "You can always find time for your family if you decide they're a priority." "Your kids won't remember the career you built. They'll remember that you were there." "If you're becoming the person God created you to be, everyone around you benefits." Time to Talk About it: Where in your life are you waiting for certainty before taking a step of faith, and what might happen if you took action instead? Whose opinions have the biggest influence on your decisions, and are those the people whose voices should matter most? If your spouse or children described what you prioritize with your time, what would they say—and does that align with the legacy you want to leave?  
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  Worth Repeating: Built to Last: What Makes or Breaks a Thriving Marriage Ep. 739 21.07.2026 36min

  Just when you thought you couldn't love Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy more—this episode takes things to a whole new level. With honesty and heart, they open up about the real journey of their marriage—sharing the intentional choices, tough seasons, and deep faith that carried them through. From early challenges that could have pulled them apart to the daily decisions that drew them closer, their story reflects what's possible when a couple chooses to build on the foundation of Christ. Their marriage is both relatable and inspiring—a powerful reminder that when God is kept first, a marriage doesn't just survive—it thrives. Episode Highlights: Marriage takes intentionality. Awesome marriages don't happen naturally. No matter where your marriage is at there is hope! Quotes from this Episode: I think we had to build true love in our marriage. We've learned to build bit by bit. I thought if I loved you enough everything was going to be ok. Until you realize how much God loves you as a person you aren't truly free to love another person. Divorce isn't a word in our vocabulary anymore, commitment is! Just getting married doesn't mean you won't feel alone.    Couple's Conversation Guide: What part of Dr. Kim and Nancy's story felt most relatable or surprising to you? Why? Have you ever assumed love alone would be enough to fix everything? How has your view of love and commitment changed over time? Have there been moments where one (or both) of you felt alone in your marriage? What helped reconnect you—or what could help now? Is "divorce" or emotional withdrawal ever subtly present as an option in your mindset or language? What does it look like to choose commitment every day? How can you better prioritize keeping God first in your marriage this week? What's one thing you want to be intentional about after listening to this episode—together or individually?   Mentioned in this Episode: Find Dr. Kim on Instagram We believe that keeping marriage fun means date night can't be boring. Check out our Date Night Boosters. Reignite the fun and intimacy in your date nights with your spouse. Awesome Marriage swag is now LIVE! Grab a gift for you, your spouse or another couple. There's something for everyone.  Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to build a thriving marriage, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: Celebrating Differences in Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive this month's resource. 
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  Worth Repeating: How to Speak to Your Husband When all you Want to do is Yell at Him Ep. 738 14.07.2026 57min

  Joining me today are Dave and Ann Wilson who have written a brand new book about what it looks like to speak life into our marriages; not just with the words we say, but also in the thoughts we choose to dwell on. We'll talk about why trying to be your spouse's Holy Spirit never works, why kindness is actually one of the most rebellious things we can do in today's world, and how reframing our inner dialogue can change the way we manage conflict. Whether you've been shouting to be heard, or quietly holding back the pain of unspoken expectations, today's conversation will offer biblical wisdom, practical tools, and fresh hope for building a marriage that reflects Christ's love. We pray this episode encourages you! Episode Highlights: How you approach the conversation matters.  Hope and joy can only be in the Lord. Your words have the power to build up or tear down your spouse. Gratitude for your spouse can change your perspective of your spouse.   Quotes from Today's Episode: "Men go where they're affirmed. They go there." - Dave Wilson "I realize like when I'm in the Word, I look at things different. I look at the world different. I look at Dave different. And it started, God's Word started to change me." - Ann Wilson But there's something that's really holy about seeing greatness in a person and being able to communicate it in some way." - Ann Wilson "I had put all my hopes and dreams in Dave. I'd taken them off of Jesus and I was like, you could make me happy. And it's easy to get into that rut of like, if you would just do X, Y, Z, I could be more content." - Ann Wilson God's given us to each other to sharpen one another- Dave Wilson Speak life to your husband. Bring him back to be the man God created him to be.  We can help shape how our husbands and how our kids feel about themselves, but we have to first connect with Jesus. - Ann Wilson What good does it do to only think of the negative? When I'm in the Word, I see the world different. I see Dave different. You can't say everything you feel! Couples' Conversation Guide: How do we typically approach hard conversations with each other—and what could we do to make those moments feel safer and more affirming? Have we unintentionally placed our hope or happiness in each other instead of in God? What would it look like to shift that back to Jesus as our source of joy? What is one thing I genuinely admire or am grateful for in you that I may not say often enough? How can we be more intentional about calling out the good in each other?   Mentioned in this Episode: Find Dave and Ann Wilson on IG. How to Speak Life to Your Husband When All You Want to do is Yell at Him on Amazon Dave and Ann Wilson's podcast: FamilyLife Today Help your children write God's Word on their hearts with our FREE 11 Bible Verses For Kids to Memorize Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you work toward growing the gratitude in your marraige, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 4 Days to Growing Gratitude in Marriage If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to . receive our Raising Faithful Kids in a Cancel Culture.
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  Worth Repeating: Unvoiced Expectations: How to Put a Name to What you Need Ep. 740 09.07.2026 28min

  In this week's episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy unpack the powerful topic of expectations—focusing on how to clearly express what you need from your spouse. With honest conversation, a willingness to listen, and an open heart, you can transform how you communicate and connect in your relationship. Quotes from this episode: "I just thought you knew. And when you didn't I would go along and get resentful" "We were trying to fit each other in the mold."  "Our first big argument scared the heck out of me. My unrealistic expectation was that we would never fight."  "It's a good idea to have a signal or cue so that you make your spouse aware."  Questions for Reflection: What are some expectations—spoken or unspoken—that we each bring into our marriage, and how well do we feel they've been understood by each other? When was a time we misunderstood one another because expectations weren't clearly communicated? What can we learn from that moment? How can we create more space in our relationship for honest, judgment-free conversations about what we each need or hope for? What's one expectation we can both express more clearly this week—and how can we support each other in meeting it with love and grace?   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:   Find Dr. Kim on Instagram If expectations feel like too big of a topic to tackle alone- try out Dr. Kim's Marriage Expectations Worksheet. He has used this resource in his counseling office for over thirteen years and now we are sharing it with you! When you're frustrated, it's easy to let words fly out of your mouth. Our new FREE resource: 17 Unintentionally Disrespectful Phrases To Cut Out When Speaking To Your Spouse will help couples choose words that bring life instead of cause chaos.  Awesome Marriage has a great Premarital course to help couples have important conversations before their big day. Communicate expectations effectively and be proactive in learning your future spouse with this great course. Already married? Share this course with a couple who's looking forward to their big day. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word as you intentionally choose to puruse the marriage God intended, find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Try this FREE YouVersion plan: 14 Keys to Lasting Love If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our resource of the month.
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  Worth Repeating: The Mindful Marriage with Ron Deal Ep. 737 07.07.2026 1t 3min

  In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with Ron Deal to talk about what it really means to build a mindful marriage. Ron shares lessons from his new book, Mindful Marriage, and how restoration therapy helped him and his wife Nan find healing and deeper connection. Together, they explore how faith, self-awareness, and emotional regulation can transform your relationship from the inside out.   Episode Insights: Authenticity is the foundation of lasting happiness. Emotional dysregulation is normal.  Our brains respond to threat, not fairness. Pain cycles drive repeated conflict. Growth and redemption matter more than blame. Quotes from Today's Episode: 'Happy wife, happy life' sounds catchy, but in reality, it's an empty promise. Lasting happiness in marriage comes from authenticity, not performance or pretending everything is okay. Every single one of us gets thrown off-balance emotionally. Some stay there longer, others move through it quickly, but emotional dysregulation is part of the human experience. There's nothing wrong about you because you get dysregulated. The brain can't tell the difference between a rattlesnake, a near-miss in traffic, or your spouse's criticism. Threat is threat. Our brains are wired for survival, not perfect communication. You don't have fifty different fights in marriage. You just have one ongoing pain cycle. Once you identify and understand your pain cycle, you can finally move beyond it together. Ignoring your pain doesn't make it go away—if anything, it makes your pain stronger, more insistent, and harder to escape. It's easy to point out the flaw in someone else, but it's vital to focus on your own growth. You may not forget your pain, but you can redeem what it does in your life. Choosing redemption over resentment is liberating. Couples Conversation Guide: Are there areas in our marriage where we tend to "perform" or pretend things are okay instead of being real with each other?  When conflict or hurt arises between you, how aware are you of what's really going on beneath the surface—your emotions, triggers, or past experiences? What's one practical step you can take this week to be more mindful in your marriage—whether that's pausing before reacting, praying together, or choosing to listen with empathy? Mentioned in this episode: #1 Amazon Bestseller is available! The Mindful Marriage (designed for every marriage).   Ron Deal What's your reactive coping style? We all have one. Take our free assessment (15 minutes).  Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram Need help starting the practice of prayer in your marriage? Here's a great resource: 21 Prayers for Building an Awesome Marriage Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. We even have a plan for praying as a couple! Check out 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!
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  Seeing Your Marriage as Part of God's Bigger Story with Randy and Rozanne Frazee Ep. 736 30.06.2026 52min

  What if marriage was never meant to be primarily about your happiness? In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with Randy and Rozanne Frazee, authors of Encountering God's Love from Genesis to Revelation, to explore how God's design for marriage is part of a much bigger story. Together, they discuss how understanding God's love throughout Scripture can transform the way couples view their relationship, shifting the focus from chasing happiness to living out a covenant that reflects Christ's love. Randy and Rozanne share wisdom from their own marriage, practical ways couples can encounter God together, and encouragement for those who feel spiritually disconnected. You'll learn why spiritual intimacy doesn't require grand gestures, how your relationship with God directly impacts your relationship with your spouse, and why counseling can be one of the healthiest investments you make before a crisis ever arrives. Whether you're in a thriving season or feeling stuck, this conversation will help you see your marriage through a wider lens, one that is rooted in God's purpose, sustained by His love, and strengthened through intentional connection. Episode Highlights Marriage Was Designed for More Than Happiness How God's Bigger Story Gives Marriage Greater Purpose Your Relationship with God Shapes Your Relationship with Your Spouse Simple Ways to Build Spiritual Intimacy Together Why Counseling Should Be Preventative, Not Just a Last Resort Practical Steps for Reconnecting When You Feel Spiritually Disconnected Key Takeaway The healthiest marriages aren't built by pursuing happiness first. They're built by pursuing God together, faithfully living out your covenant commitment, and allowing His love to shape the way you love one another. Quotes from This Episode:  Randy Frazee Quotes "The closer we move to Christ, the closer we move to each other." "Marriage is really more about sacrifice. God instills this amazing agape love in you, and your job is to pour it out to others—especially your spouse." "The pursuit wasn't happiness. The pursuit was fulfilling our covenant commitment. As a result of that, we received happiness." "When you go after the feeling of happiness, it almost always devastates the relationship you're in. When you go after the responsibility of being like Christ for the sake of others, happiness often follows." "Marriages don't drift toward intimacy—they drift toward chaos. That's why intentionality matters." "The love you have to offer apart from God will eventually get you into trouble. You need God's love flowing into you before it can flow through you." Rozanne Frazee Quotes "I can't put expectations on him because he will always let me down. God will never let me down." "Marriage in Scripture is never presented as a right. It's presented as a responsibility." "The wall of resentment goes up very quickly, but it comes down one brick at a time." "Knowing that God loves me unconditionally gives me the freedom to risk loving another person." "If you want your husband to become more of a spiritual leader, encourage what he's doing instead of criticizing what he's not doing." "As you grow closer to God, you'll naturally grow closer to each other." "Don't wait until the last minute to get help. Go early. Go often. Go preventatively." Dr. Kim Quotes "We can't put our marriage on the back burner for eighteen years while we raise kids and expect it to still be thriving when they're gone." "You'll never regret carving out intentional time for your marriage, but you will regret not doing it." "Your obedience is to God. Keep doing what God is calling you to do, whether your spouse responds immediately or not." "A thirty-second prayer, a verse of the day, a simple step—just start somewhere. God can grow it from there." "What makes the difference isn't doing marriage perfectly—it's continually coming back to God's design for it." "Sometimes the most important thing a couple can do is simply make the time to reconnect."   Time to Talk About It:  What is one thing you see God doing in me (your spouse)  right now that you appreciate and want to encourage?  Have there been times when we've expected each other to meet needs that really need to be taken to God first? What's one small thing we could do this week to be more intentional about growing closer to God together? Is there anything we've been putting off talking about that would be better to address now instead of letting it sit?   Mentioned in this Episode: Get your copy of Encountering God's Love from Genesis to Revelation Check out Awesome Marriage's Two Week Scripture Challenge with your spouse. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Check out our Men of Virtue plan. Dr. Kim dives into the lives of five extraordinary men whose lives are still shaping ours today.  If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!   
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  Wider Lens: Redefining Success with Tom Pfeifer Part 1 Ep. 735 26.06.2026 26min

  What does it mean to build a life that truly matters? In this episode of The Wider Lens, Dr. Kim sits down with Tom Pfeiffer, former Air Force JAG officer, attorney, coach, trainer, husband, and dad, to talk about the experiences and values that shaped him. From growing up in a blue-collar family on Long Island to playing college football, serving in the military, and eventually leaving a successful legal career to pursue a different calling, Tom shares lessons on work ethic, purpose, fatherhood, and taking risks. Along the way, they discuss the importance of showing up for your kids, the life lessons sports can teach, and why success on paper isn't always the same as fulfillment. This conversation will challenge you to think about the legacy you're building and the choices that matter most. Episode Highlights: Why the best lessons in life often happen outside the classroom The impact of a father who always showed up How to pursue purpose over prestige and redefine success Tune in for an honest conversation about work, family, calling, and what it means to live with intention. Quotes from Tom Pfeifer: "For me, it was a non-negotiable starting point. I'm just going to be there." "Now I have margin in my life. On a Tuesday afternoon, I can block my calendar and just hang out with my kids." "Everything you do has a cost." "Every yes, every extra commitment, every extra dinner—that's time you're taking away from something else." "Most kids just want somebody to say, 'I'm proud of you.'"  At what cost do you continue doing something that looks successful on paper but leaves a void inside?"  "When things are scarce in your life, you become hyper-focused on getting them."  "Your kids aren't going to remember how hard you worked. They're going to remember that you were there."    Time to Talk About it: What is one area of your life where you're pursuing success, and what might it be costing you in your relationships, faith, or personal well-being? When you think about the people who impacted you most growing up, what did they do that made you feel valued—and how can you offer that same gift to others today? If your children, family, or closest friends described the legacy you're building right now, what would they say matters most to you? Is that the legacy you want to leave?  
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  Can Two People Love Jesus and Still Be Spiritually Mismatched? Ep. 734 23.06.2026 15min

  Prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual leadership are all good things, but what happens when faith becomes a source of tension instead of connection in marriage? In this episode, Dr. Kim tackle the unhealthy spiritual dynamics that can quietly create distance between spouses: spiritual superiority, spiritual withdrawal, and using faith as a weapon. While most couples don't intend to hurt each other spiritually, it's easy to fall into patterns that leave one spouse feeling judged, inadequate, or alone. He discusses why spiritual loneliness can be so painful in marriage, how comparison and pressure shut down connection, and what it looks like to pursue spiritual intimacy in a way that invites both spouses closer to God and each other. If you've ever felt frustrated that your spouse isn't where you'd like them to be spiritually, or if you've ever felt like you could never measure up, this conversation offers practical encouragement and hope for building a healthier, more united spiritual foundation.   Episode Highlights: When Faith Creates Distance Instead of Connection  The Hidden Damage of Spiritual Superiority and Withdrawal  Moving from Weaponized Faith to Shared Faith    Quotes from This Episode: God designed marriage as the most intimate of all earthly relationships. There's a oneness God intended for marriage that touches every aspect of life.  When one spouse longs to pray together and it never happens, it doesn't just feel frustrating it feels lonely.  Loneliness can turn into resentment or even despair.  Nothing will shut your spouse down faster than feeling spiritually inferior in their own home.  The spouse that feels like they can never measure up will stop engaging.  When scripture becomes a sword instead of a shared foundation something has gone badly wrong.  Spiritual growth cannot be forced. You can model it. You can invite. But you cannot drag your spouse into a deeper faith any more than someone could have dragged you. God does that work.   Time to Talk About it: Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse spiritually?  If you are, have you approached your spouse honestly with your concerns? Ask them: How can we use our faith to encourage each other rather than pressure, correct, or compare one another?    Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Do you feel misunderstood and defeated when it comes to disagreements with your spouse? Feeling misunderstood in conflict is usually a sign of something deeper. This assessment walks you through what needs to change, step by step. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If you're feeling disconnected from your spouse, try this plan together: 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  
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  Can Two People Love Jesus and Still Be Spiritually Mismatched? Ep. 734 23.06.2026 15min

  Prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual leadership are all good things, but what happens when faith becomes a source of tension instead of connection in marriage? In this episode, Dr. Kim tackle the unhealthy spiritual dynamics that can quietly create distance between spouses: spiritual superiority, spiritual withdrawal, and using faith as a weapon. While most couples don't intend to hurt each other spiritually, it's easy to fall into patterns that leave one spouse feeling judged, inadequate, or alone. He discusses why spiritual loneliness can be so painful in marriage, how comparison and pressure shut down connection, and what it looks like to pursue spiritual intimacy in a way that invites both spouses closer to God and each other. If you've ever felt frustrated that your spouse isn't where you'd like them to be spiritually, or if you've ever felt like you could never measure up, this conversation offers practical encouragement and hope for building a healthier, more united spiritual foundation.   Episode Highlights: When Faith Creates Distance Instead of Connection  The Hidden Damage of Spiritual Superiority and Withdrawal  Moving from Weaponized Faith to Shared Faith    Quotes from This Episode: God designed marriage as the most intimate of all earthly relationships. There's a oneness God intended for marriage that touches every aspect of life.  When one spouse longs to pray together and it never happens, it doesn't just feel frustrating it feels lonely.  Loneliness can turn into resentment or even despair.  Nothing will shut your spouse down faster than feeling spiritually inferior in their own home.  The spouse that feels like they can never measure up will stop engaging.  When scripture becomes a sword instead of a shared foundation something has gone badly wrong.  Spiritual growth cannot be forced. You can model it. You can invite. But you cannot drag your spouse into a deeper faith any more than someone could have dragged you. God does that work.   Time to Talk About it: Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse spiritually?  If you are, have you approached your spouse honestly with your concerns? Ask them: How can we use our faith to encourage each other rather than pressure, correct, or compare one another?    Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Do you feel misunderstood and defeated when it comes to disagreements with your spouse? Feeling misunderstood in conflict is usually a sign of something deeper. This assessment walks you through what needs to change, step by step. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If you're feeling disconnected from your spouse, try this plan together: 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  
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  Can Two People Love Jesus and Still Be Spiritually Mismatched? Ep. 734 23.06.2026 15min

  Prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual leadership are all good things, but what happens when faith becomes a source of tension instead of connection in marriage? In this episode, Dr. Kim tackle the unhealthy spiritual dynamics that can quietly create distance between spouses: spiritual superiority, spiritual withdrawal, and using faith as a weapon. While most couples don't intend to hurt each other spiritually, it's easy to fall into patterns that leave one spouse feeling judged, inadequate, or alone. He discusses why spiritual loneliness can be so painful in marriage, how comparison and pressure shut down connection, and what it looks like to pursue spiritual intimacy in a way that invites both spouses closer to God and each other. If you've ever felt frustrated that your spouse isn't where you'd like them to be spiritually, or if you've ever felt like you could never measure up, this conversation offers practical encouragement and hope for building a healthier, more united spiritual foundation.   Episode Highlights: When Faith Creates Distance Instead of Connection  The Hidden Damage of Spiritual Superiority and Withdrawal  Moving from Weaponized Faith to Shared Faith    Quotes from This Episode: God designed marriage as the most intimate of all earthly relationships. There's a oneness God intended for marriage that touches every aspect of life.  When one spouse longs to pray together and it never happens, it doesn't just feel frustrating it feels lonely.  Loneliness can turn into resentment or even despair.  Nothing will shut your spouse down faster than feeling spiritually inferior in their own home.  The spouse that feels like they can never measure up will stop engaging.  When scripture becomes a sword instead of a shared foundation something has gone badly wrong.  Spiritual growth cannot be forced. You can model it. You can invite. But you cannot drag your spouse into a deeper faith any more than someone could have dragged you. God does that work.   Time to Talk About it: Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse spiritually?  If you are, have you approached your spouse honestly with your concerns? Ask them: How can we use our faith to encourage each other rather than pressure, correct, or compare one another?    Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Do you feel misunderstood and defeated when it comes to disagreements with your spouse? Feeling misunderstood in conflict is usually a sign of something deeper. This assessment walks you through what needs to change, step by step. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If you're feeling disconnected from your spouse, try this plan together: 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  
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  The Love Language That Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman Ep. 733 16.06.2026 1t

  In this episode of the Awesome Marriage Podcast, Dr. Kim sits down with bestselling author Gary Chapman for a practical and honest conversation about what it really looks like to keep a marriage growing, not just surviving. They talk about why marriages don't just "stay the same," how couples slowly drift without realizing it, and what it takes to stay emotionally connected over time. Gary unpacks how love languages can shift through different seasons of life, why assumptions create so many problems, and how simple things like curiosity, communication, and daily check-ins can completely change the tone of a relationship. If you've ever felt like you and your spouse are just "off" lately, or you want to be more intentional about loving well, this conversation gives you real, doable ways to start moving back toward each other again.   Episode Highlights: Without intentional effort, connection naturally fades into distance or "roommate mode."  Couples often miss each other because they're expressing love in ways that feel right to them, not in ways that actually land with their spouse.  When couples stay teachable and intentional, even conflict becomes an opportunity for deeper connection.    Quotes from this Episode: Gary Chapman: "Marriage is either going to grow or regress—there's really no drifting in place." "I don't talk about a perfect marriage. I talk about a growing marriage." "Life satisfaction is found in relationships, not in the accumulation of things." "We cannot read each other's minds—you have to ask questions and listen." "The objective is not to win the argument—the objective is to find a solution together." "It's no fun to live with a loser. Why would you create a loser? You're on the same team." "Love has to be communicated in a way that's meaningful to the other person."     Kim Kimberling: "I don't think I'll ever learn everything there is to know about Nancy in a lifetime." "Marriage is an adventure because you're always discovering new things about each other." "If you're not feeling loved, turn into your marriage—not outside of it." "Assumptions in marriage are usually way off." "The distractions we entertain today are often stealing the connection we could be building at home." "There's so much value in the person God put in front of you to do life with." "Small, intentional steps done consistently really do make a difference over time." Time to Talk About it: Where in our marriage are we currently growing—and where might we actually be drifting without realizing it? In what ways am I trying to show love to my spouse, and are those actually the ways they most feel loved? How well do we really ask questions and stay curious about each other instead of assuming we already know what the other thinks or feels? What would it look like for us to build a simple daily rhythm of connection (even 10–15 minutes) to stay emotionally close? Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Take the Love Languages test. Get your copy of The Love Language That Matters Most. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Unpack what scripture says about how to demonstrate love well in your marriage with our plan: Speak to Their Heart: 5 Ways to Love Your Spouse Well If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!
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  The Love Language That Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman Ep. 733 16.06.2026 1t

  In this episode of the Awesome Marriage Podcast, Dr. Kim sits down with bestselling author Gary Chapman for a practical and honest conversation about what it really looks like to keep a marriage growing, not just surviving. They talk about why marriages don't just "stay the same," how couples slowly drift without realizing it, and what it takes to stay emotionally connected over time. Gary unpacks how love languages can shift through different seasons of life, why assumptions create so many problems, and how simple things like curiosity, communication, and daily check-ins can completely change the tone of a relationship. If you've ever felt like you and your spouse are just "off" lately, or you want to be more intentional about loving well, this conversation gives you real, doable ways to start moving back toward each other again.   Episode Highlights: Without intentional effort, connection naturally fades into distance or "roommate mode."  Couples often miss each other because they're expressing love in ways that feel right to them, not in ways that actually land with their spouse.  When couples stay teachable and intentional, even conflict becomes an opportunity for deeper connection.    Quotes from this Episode: Gary Chapman: "Marriage is either going to grow or regress—there's really no drifting in place." "I don't talk about a perfect marriage. I talk about a growing marriage." "Life satisfaction is found in relationships, not in the accumulation of things." "We cannot read each other's minds—you have to ask questions and listen." "The objective is not to win the argument—the objective is to find a solution together." "It's no fun to live with a loser. Why would you create a loser? You're on the same team." "Love has to be communicated in a way that's meaningful to the other person."     Kim Kimberling: "I don't think I'll ever learn everything there is to know about Nancy in a lifetime." "Marriage is an adventure because you're always discovering new things about each other." "If you're not feeling loved, turn into your marriage—not outside of it." "Assumptions in marriage are usually way off." "The distractions we entertain today are often stealing the connection we could be building at home." "There's so much value in the person God put in front of you to do life with." "Small, intentional steps done consistently really do make a difference over time." Time to Talk About it: Where in our marriage are we currently growing—and where might we actually be drifting without realizing it? In what ways am I trying to show love to my spouse, and are those actually the ways they most feel loved? How well do we really ask questions and stay curious about each other instead of assuming we already know what the other thinks or feels? What would it look like for us to build a simple daily rhythm of connection (even 10–15 minutes) to stay emotionally close? Mentioned in This Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Take the Love Languages test. Get your copy of The Love Language That Matters Most. Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Unpack what scripture says about how to demonstrate love well in your marriage with our plan: Speak to Their Heart: 5 Ways to Love Your Spouse Well If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!