Seeing Other People

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  When Your Parents Don’t Support Your Relationship Choices 17.09.2026 48min

  An anonymous guest joins the podcast to talk about navigating a long-term relationship in a big city — from taking their first trip together just two months into dating, to moving in together before getting engaged, to ultimately buying a home together.We talk about the pressure of the “relationship escalator,” making major decisions on your own timeline, navigating family members who don’t understand your choices, and how communication, trust, and knowing when something feels right can matter more than doing things in the “right” order.All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Getting Unstuck: How to Rewrite the Story You Tell Yourself 15.09.2026 43min

  Jane Garnett, former Hollywood producer turned psychotherapist and author of This Time With Feeling, joins the podcast to talk about how to get unstuck — from old emotional patterns, the stories we tell ourselves, and the idea that our lives are supposed to look a certain way. We talk about why understanding our patterns doesn’t always stop us from repeating them, how disappointment can become a gateway to the next chapter, and why getting back in touch with our bodies, intuition, and curiosity can help us move forward.Plus, Jane shares how to rewrite the stories we’ve created about ourselves, stop waiting for life to begin, become the protagonist of our own stories, and why sometimes we need to explore rather than nix when it comes to relationships.Get Jane’s memoir, This Time With Feeling: This Time With Feeling Website: janegarnett.com Instagram: @thebananajane See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  How We’d Date If We Had to Start Over & Dating Your Ex’s Friend 14.09.2026 50min

  Ilana and Jake catch up on baby prep, their first stroller arrival, Ilana’s newfound obsession with baby clothes, Jake’s thoughts on being married to a content creator, and why apparently having a twin bed until age 26 builds character. Then, they get into your listener questions. If they were single today, how would they actually go about finding their person? They talk dating apps, singles events, meeting people organically, getting set up by friends, and why going out with the sole mission of meeting someone might actually make dating harder. Plus, they weigh in on a messy Hinge situation: is your ex’s friend fair game?Shop Joolz strollers at www.joolz.com and check out our Joolz Aer² lightweight stroller!All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEStock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeopleGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  You Can Miss Someone and Still Know You Shouldn’t Be Together 10.09.2026 50min

  Missing someone after a breakup can make you question everything. Did you make a mistake? Does still loving them mean you should try again? And if nobody else compares, does that mean they were actually your person? In this solo episode, I’m talking about why missing someone doesn’t mean you should be together, how nostalgia can make us forget why things ended, and how to tell the difference between genuinely wanting someone back and simply missing what you had. Plus, I’m answering your questions about exes, second chances, and moving on when you still care.Mentioned in this episode:Juice Glasses with Lid & Glasses without lidAll links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Finding Love, Getting Married, and Figuring Out What Comes Next 08.09.2026 48min

  Erica Shea is back on Seeing Other People, and this time she’s married. After years of dating, heartbreak, situationships, and wondering if she was ever going to find her person, Erica is now on the other side of the story—and realizing that finding your person is only the beginning. We talk about what it feels like to finally have the life you spent so much time hoping for, why she wishes she could tell her younger self that she wasn’t as behind as she felt, and how all those moments that felt like setbacks eventually led somewhere she never could have planned. We also get into getting fired and finding the happiest place she’s ever been in her career, moving to Denver, trusting the next chapter even when it’s scary, and what marriage actually looks like once the wedding is over. Erica opens up about navigating two families, holidays, the pressure around having kids, and the ways our brains—and social media—can convince us that everything is going wrong. Plus, we revisit the dating advice that helped her find her husband: sometimes you really should go on one more date. Follow Erica Shea: @ericasheaaa on InstagramAll links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Preparing for Baby, Eating Our Way Through NYC & Football Season 07.09.2026 42min

  This week, we’re catching up on life lately. We talk baby registry overwhelm, the stroller we think we’re getting, football season, the best things we ate this week, and how different our lives will look this time next year. Plus, Ilana’s newest obsession, getting ahead before maternity leave, and what we’ve been watching and reading.Chapters:00:00 UPPAbaby vs. Bugaboo02:40 Life lately04:30 Gratitudes07:00 Ilana learns the Jets12:00 Our week of eating around NYC17:00 Torrisi and Jake’s dress code scare22:00 Ilana’s newest obsession25:30 Baby registry overwhelm28:30 Thinking about life with a baby30:00 Pregnancy, work, and slowing down35:00 Preparing for maternity leave37:00 What we’re watching and readingAll links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Everyone Around Me Is Getting Married or Having Kids and I'm Still on The Apps 03.09.2026 53min

  Harry is back for his fourth appearance on Seeing Other People, and this time he's on camera for the first time. He just turned 35, his younger brother got engaged, and the feeling that everyone around you is hitting milestones while you're still out here going on first dates? We get into all of it. How do you make peace with being on a completely different timeline than your friends, your siblings, even your parents? How do you keep showing up when things keep falling apart, and why stopping is never really the answer? Harry also took a stand-up comedy class and based his entire set on his dating life, which taught him how to look at his experience through a different lens.All links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  The One Who Broke You Can't Heal You 01.09.2026 44min

  Najwa Zebian, author of The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You, joins the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, healing, and what it really means to move on when someone has hurt you. We talk about why the person who broke you can’t be the one to heal you, why closure is a myth, and how waiting for an apology, an explanation, or someone’s regret can keep you stuck. Najwa shares what it looks like to take your healing back, stop making excuses for people who hurt you, and rebuild a version of yourself that knows what you deserve.We also get into trauma bonds, why people stay in toxic relationships, how gaslighting can make you question your own judgment, and how to support someone who knows they should leave but isn’t ready yet. Plus, Najwa shares the dating advice that changed the way she looks at relationships: date someone who is kind by nature — not someone you have to convince to treat you well.Get The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You wherever you buy books, or listen to the audiobook narrated by Najwa herself.Follow Najwa:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebianWebsite: https://najwazebian.com/All links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeopleGet $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Exes Coming Back, Bad Dating Patterns & “I’m Not Ready for a Relationship” 31.08.2026 48min

  Jake spent the weekend hosting a fantasy football draft while Barkley lived his best boys day and paid for it later, and Ilana went to her first pregnancy brand event and is currently dealing with back pain that she describes as someone stabbing her. Also: Ilana read two books in a week, including Hayden Panettiere's memoir and Michelle Obama's Becoming, and somehow still can't remember Garrett Wilson's name. Three listener questions this week: should you hear out an ex who went eight months no contact before reaching out, can you actually change your type if it keeps not working out for you, and four great dates followed by "I'm not ready for a relationship" followed by him being in one two weeks later. How do you not take that personally?All links here (submit a Q, share your story on the pod, dating coaching & more)Get FREE full sized Mascara on your first purchase at Jonesroadbeauty.com with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Different Timelines, Rejection Texts & The Most Unhinged Relationship Advice 27.08.2026 53min

  What do you do when you and your partner have different ideal timelines 3 years into your relationship? How to be less anxious after a great date? I’m answering your questions about relationship timelines, rejection texts, dating anxiety vs. chemistry, and surviving the first trimester. Plus, I’m reacting to the most unhinged marriage advice you’ve ever received and sharing why I’m seriously missing marathon training right now.All links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  The Love of Your Life Would Want to Date You 25.08.2026 45min

  Serena Kerrigan, founder of Let’s Fucking Date and author of Let’s Fcking Date*, joins the podcast for a long-overdue reunion — five years after she was one of the first guests on Seeing Other People. We talk about why modern dating needs a new rulebook, how to stop dating from a place of scarcity, why rejection doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, and what it looks like to actually trust yourself and move on when someone isn’t giving you what you want. Plus, Serena shares what she’s learned about repeating dating patterns, raising your standards without becoming too picky, being open-minded about who your person might be, and why the right person won’t be scared off by you saying you want something serious. We also get into healthy relationships, maintaining independence, handling conflict, social media comparison, feeling like you’re running out of time, and knowing when choosing yourself means walking away. Get Serena’s book: Let’s Fcking Date* — letsfuckingdate.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  What Maternity Leave Looks Like When You’re Self-Employed 24.08.2026 40min

  We’re back with a LOT to catch up on after another Jonas Brothers concert. We’re sharing what went down at MSG, why our entire section was rooting for us, and how we felt when it didn’t happen. Then, I’m sharing a big update about the future of Seeing Other People, what “maternity leave” looks like when you work for yourself, and what changes you can expect to see in the SOP world. Plus, I’m officially showing, back pain has entered the chat, and I have some feelings about people touching my belly. Then we’re answering your questions about dealing with wedding planning decision fatigue and how to stop spiraling between dates when the next one isn’t on the calendar.All links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get free shipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Why Having a Timeline for Love Can Keep You From Finding It 20.08.2026 48min

  Isabelle Surielow, PhD candidate, matchmaker, and relationship consultant, joins the podcast to unpack what it really means to find love — and why sometimes the search for a relationship is actually a search for ourselves. We talk about dating with intention, why knowing what you want matters, the difference between standards and preferences, and how focusing on how you want to feel in a relationship can completely change the way you approach dating. We also get into the idea of “spark” vs. stability, what we can learn from relationships that don’t work out, why you shouldn’t sacrifice your peace for the wrong relationship, the pressure to meet marriage and relationship timelines, and whether there really is such a thing as a soulmate. Plus, Isabelle shares some seriously rom-com-worthy stories about meeting people through synchronicity, why you can’t force love, and how staying open to the unexpected might be the best dating strategy of all. Find Isabelle: @izzysurielowALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  The Part of Relationships Nobody Teaches You Until You’re Already in One 18.08.2026 47min

  Mika Ross, therapist and relationship coach, joins the podcast to talk about the parts of relationships nobody teaches you until you’re already in one. We talk about what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship beyond chemistry and compatibility, why communication is so much more complicated than “just talk about it,” and how to navigate conflict without letting resentment build.Mika also shares practical advice for handling big feelings, setting boundaries, maintaining your individuality while being part of a partnership, and communicating when you and your partner seem to speak completely different emotional languages. Plus, we get into the realities of long-term relationships, how relationships evolve as life changes, why healthy relationships can still be messy and imperfect, and the skills we all have to learn while we’re in the relationship. Find Mika on Instagram: @mikaross.therapist and explore her relationship resources at mikaross.comALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Are the Jonas Brothers Doing Our Gender Reveal?! 17.08.2026 43min

  It’s Ilana’s birthday weekend, the Jets are (almost) back, and somehow the Jonas Brothers might be helping us reveal our baby’s gender?! We’re talking about how our very unserious idea turned into a viral campaign that actually got Joe and Kevin Jonas’ attention, plus birthday plans, the weird guilt of posting on social media when you haven’t texted people back, and a conversation about choosing to have kids, choosing not to have kids, and whether enough people actually stop to think about what they want. We also revisit Camp Rock with some very important questions about Connect 3, debate whether Spider-Man could realistically get around NYC, and start Ilana’s very necessary Jets reeducation.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Why Healthy Dating Feels Like the World's Most Boring Roller Coaster 13.08.2026 50min

  This week I'm answering seven listener questions, and somehow they all circle back to the same underlying thing: learning which feelings you can actually trust. I get into why not missing someone might mean secure instead of anxious, why every breakup doesn't mean you failed, and what it means when someone checks every box but still makes you feel unseen. I also cover the line between healthy compromise and quietly disappearing into someone else's life, why a friend's milestone can spiral into questioning your whole life, and whether becoming emotionally healthy just makes dating boring. Send in your own questions any time using the link in the show notes and my Instagram bio.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  What Happens When You Get Everything You Thought You Wanted and Still Feel Unfulfilled? 11.08.2026 41min

  Kelly Ehlers, award-winning founder, writer, speaker, podcast host, and author of Nice Girls Win, joins the podcast to unpack the invisible rules so many women live by — and what it looks like to choose yourself without blowing up your life. We talk about why being “nice” doesn’t have to mean being a people pleaser, how boundaries can actually make you a better nice girl, and why saying no doesn’t make you difficult, selfish, or cold. Plus, we get into how these invisible contracts show up in dating — from saying yes to things you don't want to do to tolerating inconsistent communication — and why communicating your boundaries is better than silently letting someone treat you however they want. Kelly also shares why rejection can feel so devastating when you haven't gotten clear on what you deserve, how small daily choices can build confidence, and why she believes everything you deserve is already on its way to you. Pre-order Nice Girls Win: Amazon pre-order Learn more: nicegirlswin.com Follow Kelly: @KellyEhlersALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  How Many Drinks on a First Date Is Too Many? 10.08.2026 45min

  Ilana's recording sick, the Syracuse course is officially over and she's not ready to talk about how much she'll miss it, and she saw Hilary Duff sell out MSG and has a lot of feelings. Two listener questions this week: how many drinks on a first date is too many (she ordered a third before he finished his first, and he was expected to pay), and he said after one great date that he doesn't want to rush into anything long term — does that mean he's not looking for a relationship, or should she just ask?ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  What Choosing Yourself Actually Looks Like 06.08.2026 43min

  Amanda Katz joins the podcast to share the story of ending a long-term relationship after realizing her partner never fully grasped that she truly did not want children. We talk about the difference between "maybe someday" and knowing something about yourself since you were eleven years old, why having a child to save a relationship never actually saves it, and the quiet, undramatic weeks when she finally decided the choice was hers to make. Amanda opens up about financial independence as a form of freedom, why she educated herself early even before she had money, and how watching women stay trapped in relationships because "nothing is in their name" shaped her own priorities. Plus, we discuss the emotional toll of staying in a "gray zone" with someone you live with, why prenups are an act of love and not distrust, the lessons marathon training taught her about choosing herself under pressure, and why she considers choosing to remain childfree just as valid — and just as loaded with judgment — as choosing motherhood.ALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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  Why You Keep Dating the Same Person in Different Fonts 04.08.2026 40min

  Jordanne Sculler, licensed mental health counselor and relationship therapist, joins the podcast to unpack why so many of us keep repeating the same dating patterns—even when we know they're not working. We talk about the psychology behind unhealthy relationship cycles, why your "type" may actually be keeping you stuck, and how childhood experiences and old stories shape the way you approach love. Jordanne explains why dating with rigid checklists can limit real connection, how to stop people-pleasing on dates, and why learning to tolerate discomfort is essential for building healthier relationships. We also discuss ghosting, dating "rules," healing after heartbreak, and whether you really need to be fully healed before starting a new relationship. Plus, we answer listener questions about awkward first dates, overthinking, dating anxiety, and the powerful mindset shift from chasing butterflies to seeking emotional regulation instead.Follow Jordanne:Website: jordannescullerlmhc.comInstagram: @jordannescullerALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.