The Anxiety Recovery Podcast

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  How to Actually Flirt: Attraction, Chemistry & Dating Anxiety with The Flirt Coach Benjamin Camras 18.09.2026 57min

  Why is it SO easy to flirt with someone you don’t really care about, but the second you actually like someone, suddenly you forget how to be a human? 😂In this episode, I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, to break down how to ACTUALLY flirt without performing, overthinking every interaction, or making your entire dating experience about one question: “Do they like me?”Because when you struggle with dating anxiety or anxious attachment, attraction can feel incredibly high stakes. You’re analyzing their texts, replaying the date in your head, wondering if you were too much, looking for signs they’re pulling away, and trying to figure out exactly what to say or do to keep them interested.But what if flirting isn’t about convincing someone to like you?What if it’s simply about becoming comfortable expressing attraction, creating connection, and staying curious about whether YOU actually like them?Benjamin breaks down what people misunderstand about flirting, why anxiety can kill our natural ability to connect, and the actual anatomy of good flirting, from eye contact, teasing, compliments and physical attraction to creating emotional, spiritual and energetic connection.We also get into how flirting differs across cultures, whether flirting can be learned if you’ve always considered yourself awkward or “bad at dating,” masculine/feminine energetics during dating + how those dynamics can look different within LGBTQIA+ relationships.If you’ve ever left a date thinking, “Did they like me? Was I awkward? Did I say too much? Why haven’t they texted me?” Then this episode is for you.In this episode, we get into:✨ Why you suddenly forget how to flirt when you ACTUALLY like someone✨ How dating anxiety and anxious attachment interfere with attraction and connection✨ The biggest misconception people have about flirting✨ How to stop obsessing over “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I like THEM?”✨ How to flirt if you feel awkward, shy, anxious or terrified of rejection✨ Eye contact, teasing, compliments, touch and other ways we create chemistry✨ Emotional, spiritual, energetic and physical ways of connecting w/someone✨ Why flirting can look completely different across cultures✨ Masculine and feminine energy in dating, courtship and LGBTQIA+ relationshipsHow to heal the fear of rejection and the fear of uncertainty in early stages of datingFlirting doesn’t have to be a performance designed to make someone want you.Sometimes it’s simply having the courage to say, “I’m attracted to you. I’m going to let you see that. And I don’t need to know exactly what happens next.”If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: ⁠https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call⁠Connect with Benjamin on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/p/DWFFiVZk8jj/⁠Follow Benjamin's podcast here: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3Ti023cM762SVaQOZrdWlv?si=dd2c0f32a18046dd⁠Check out Benjamin's products/1:1 here:⁠https://stan.store/benjamincamras?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAafWP1g89CSX1XN-_QGtPHgEcKAD_SB8MUodbtwMlkruinxpJo30N4Qheo23oA_aem_O2j3FSLm8xQvgRE4XnBwjA⁠
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  Meeting Your Soul in Another Body: The Connection That Changed Everything with Ashley McCabe 11.09.2026 58min

  What happens when you meet a friend and your body recognizes them before your mind can understand why?In this episode, Reiki practitioner and art teacher Ashley McCabe takes us into the exact moment she met the person she describes as “the other half of her soul.” She shares the psychic sensations, immediate knowing, and synchronicities that made this friendship feel like she was meeting her soul in another body.We explore how disconnected Ashley felt from her own soul before meeting this person and how that disconnection had been showing up in her relationships, creativity, body, and everyday life. She reveals what she saw in this friend that felt like looking directly at herself, what the connection cracked open inside her, and the first parts of her old life that began falling apart afterward.Ashley opens up about her Kundalini awakening, Saturn return, cycle syncing, communication through dreams, and the strange synchronicities that appeared throughout this chapter of her life. We also discuss the book Journey of Souls, the veil of the in between, psychic sensations, and the possibility that some connections reach far beyond what we can logically explain.But how do you know whether an intense connection is truly soul-deep or actually a trauma bond? Ashley shares how she began discerning the difference, what it cost her to remain disconnected from herself, and whether she ever confused the person who awakened her with the source of the awakening.We talk about the fear of losing the person who reflected you back to yourself, and the fear that without them, you might also lose the version of yourself they helped you discover. Ashley shares the first signs that your soul may be trying to redirect your life, why that redirection can require you to outgrow people, and how Reiki can help you hear your own truth beneath fear, conditioning, and other people’s expectations.Ultimately, Ashley realized that this friendship hadn’t given her a soul. It had reflected her own soul back to her.Do we meet “our soul in another body” so we can keep that person forever, or so we can finally recognize who we have been all along?If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Ashley on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleysartapothecary/Connect with Ashley on Tik tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashleysartapothecary4Check out Ashley's website and products here: https://www.ashleysartapothecary.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAaclkuPPZZRTl20vWdmYYtBiQ1t0KS8YNkmEEpNFWIIES1LY4SXOhS1Ksiv3jg_aem_xU7BdtLUqWUcrtNP_7Uxoghttps://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
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  The hidden signs of ADHD in Women: Anxiety, Overwhelm & Emotional Dysregulation 27.08.2026 52min

  What if the anxiety, overwhelm, emotional intensity, and difficulty dealing with uncertainty you’ve been struggling with are actually connected to ADHD?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by Theresa Lear Levine to unpack what ADHD can really look like in adult women, especially the symptoms that often get overlooked, misunderstood, or mistaken for anxiety.We talk about why so many women go years without realizing they have ADHD, what emotional dysregulation can feel like from the inside, and why understanding your ADHD intellectually doesn’t always mean you know what to do when your nervous system becomes overwhelmed.Theresa also shares her own experience with ADHD and the struggles happening behind the scenes before she understood what was going on.We dive into:The misunderstood signs of ADHD in adult womenWhy ADHD in women is so often missedADHD vs. anxiety and where the two overlapWhat ADHD can look like emotionallyWhy uncertainty can feel so difficult with ADHDShame, overwhelm, and learning to give yourself more graceWhat happens in the body during emotional dysregulationThe role of the nervous system in working with ADHDHow Theresa uses EFT/tapping in her workWhat emotional regulation can realistically look like when you have ADHDIf you’ve ever wondered, “Is this anxiety, or could I have ADHD?” or you understand your patterns but still struggle to change what happens when you’re overwhelmed, this conversation will give you a completely different way to understand what may be happening underneath the surface.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callhttps://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Join Theresa's Skool Community here: https://www.skool.com/@theresalearlevineConnect with Theresa on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/theresalearlevine/
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  Why you’re terrified they’ll leave: How to heal your fear of abandonment & anxious attachment with Sarah Shiffman 20.08.2026 42min

  Why does the thought of someone leaving feel so unbearable, even when you KNOW you’ll be okay?In this episode, Sarah Shiffman interviews me about what’s actually happening underneath the fear of abandonment and anxious attachment, and why understanding your patterns intellectually often isn’t enough to change them.We dive into how fear of abandonment gets stored in the nervous system, why your body can react to distance, rejection, or someone pulling away like it’s a genuine threat, and how somatic work can help you build the capacity to feel safe even when you don’t have reassurance from someone else.We talk about:• Why fear of abandonment can feel so intense in your body• The connection between anxious attachment and nervous system dysregulation• Why you can understand WHY you’re triggered and still struggle to change the pattern • How Brainspotting can help you process attachment wounds at a deeper level • Using breathwork and nervous system regulation to build more capacity for difficult emotions• Adult self anchoring and learning to access the part of you that knows, “I can handle this” • How protector parts develop and what can happen when you begin to unmask what they’re actually protecting • Pendulation and learning to move between discomfort and safety instead of becoming consumed by an emotion • Why healing isn’t about never getting triggered again, but changing your relationship with your triggers • What it can actually look like to heal the fear of abandonment and begin feeling more secure within yourselfIf you’ve ever felt like someone pulling away sends your entire nervous system into panic, found yourself obsessing over whether someone is going to leave, or wondered why all the self-awareness in the world hasn’t made your anxious attachment disappear, this episode is for you.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Sarah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youloveandyoulearn/
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  How to Silence Your Inner Critic & Stop Feeling Like You’re Never Good Enough with Marianna Durante 14.08.2026 1t 8min

  What if the voice in your head telling you that you need to do more, be better, or try harder isn’t actually helping you grow?In this episode, I’m joined by Mariana Durante for a vulnerable conversation about the inner critic, self-criticism, shame, and learning how to build a more compassionate relationship with yourself.We unpack what the inner critic actually sounds like in everyday life — and how easily self-criticism can disguise itself as ambition, high standards, self-awareness, or simply “wanting to be better.”We also dive into what happens when you spend years feeling like you’re never quite good enough, how the way you speak to yourself can influence your relationships and what you tolerate from other people, and what you may miss out on when so much of your life is spent trying to prove your worth.Mariana opens up about her own relationship with her inner critic, what it looked like at its worst, what she’s had to learn to forgive herself for, and what changed when she began developing a healthier relationship with herself.We also talk about:How to recognize when your inner critic is running the showThe difference between healthy ambition and self-criticismWhy being hard on yourself doesn’t necessarily help you become betterHow years of self-criticism can shape the way you see yourselfHow your relationship with yourself impacts your relationships with othersWhat to do when you find yourself in a shame spiralHow to practice self-compassion when you don’t believe the kind things you’re telling yourself yetHow to work WITH your inner critic instead of letting it control youWhat a healthy inner voice actually sounds likeHow to stop making decisions from “I’m not enough”Where to begin if you’re exhausted from constantly criticizing yourselfIf you’ve spent years feeling like you need to fix yourself, prove yourself, or become a better version of yourself before you’re finally allowed to feel good enough, this conversation is for you.Because healing isn’t just about changing the way you think about yourself, it’s about changing the relationship you have with the person you spend every single day with: you.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
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  The Psychology of Self-Sabotage in Relationships (And How to Heal It) with Livia Rismondo and Nathan Francis 06.08.2026 1t 11min

  Why do so many people say they want healthy love… yet keep ending up in the same painful relationship patterns?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I'm joined by Livia Rismondo and Nathan Francis for an honest conversation about the psychology of self-sabotage in relationships. We explore why so many people unconsciously push away healthy love, chase emotionally unavailable partners, and repeat the same dating patterns—even when they desperately want something different.Together, we unpack what self-sabotage actually looks like beneath the surface, why fear can disguise itself as intuition, and how anxious attachment, subconscious conditioning, and a lack of inner freedom shape the way we show up in love.We also share personal stories of recognizing our own relationship patterns, discuss the habits that create lasting emotional change, and explore what it truly means to date from your highest self rather than from old survival patterns.In this episode, we discuss:Why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns with different peopleThe psychology behind self-sabotage in dating and relationshipsHow anxious attachment influences who you're attracted toThe difference between intuition and fearWhy healthy relationships can sometimes feel uncomfortableSigns you're repeating a subconscious pattern instead of choosing love consciouslyHow lacking inner freedom affects your relationshipsThe role of healthy habits in creating emotional healingHow to stop sabotaging healthy love and build secure relationshipsWhat it looks like to date from your highest self instead of your woundsHow to stop unhealthy / negative habits If you've ever found yourself asking, "Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship?" or "Why do I push away the love I say I want?" This episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface and give you practical insights to begin breaking the cycle.Whether you're healing anxious attachment, recovering from toxic relationships, or learning how to create healthy, secure love, this conversation will leave you with a deeper understanding of yourself and a clearer path forward.Listen to Valerie on Nathan's podcast and we talked more about healing your anxious attachment style here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2rz6kS4uhFSDWwysYti5nF?si=hxsdE3SxRpmaGlRQmm79kQListen to Valerie on Livia's Podcast - Healing Anxious Attachment and Setting Boundaries as a People Pleaser: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NUzBinhBLYaiC3obr7dyz?si=sMdFvkrWQCG1BLgbSuA0AA
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  How to Heal Anxious Attachment Through Family Constellation Therapy & Generational Trauma Healing with Haile Tanner 30.07.2026 46min

  Have you ever felt like you've always been anxious?Not because of one breakup or one traumatic event, but as long as you can remember, almost like you've "always been this way"?In this episode, I sit down with Haile Tanner, Family Constellation Facilitator, nervous system coach & emotional processing practitioner, to explore how anxious attachment, chronic anxiety, and repeating life patterns may be rooted in something much deeper than your own experiences.We dive into the world of Family Constellation Therapy, generational trauma, and legacy burdens, the unconscious emotional burdens that can be passed through families from one generation to the next. Together, we explore how these inherited patterns can shape your relationships, self-worth, anxiety, and even the way you experience love.Haile shares how Family Constellations invite us to ask a powerful question: "Is this actually mine?" We discuss why some people feel like they're carrying an invisible weight they can't explain, why the same relationship, emotional, financial, or health patterns often repeat across generations, and how healing can begin when you finally put down a burden that was never yours to carry.I also share my own experience of healing inherited family patterns through somatic therapy and how releasing ancestral burdens created shifts that years of insight alone never did.In one of the most vulnerable parts of our conversation, Haile also shares her personal journey of healing after two abortions and how Family Constellation Therapy helped her process grief, reconnect with herself, and find healing in a way she never expected.If you've spent years trying to heal your anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, or chronic anxiety but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck, this conversation offers a powerful new lens for understanding your healing journey.If this episode resonated with you, be sure to subscribe to The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear that they may not be broken, they may simply be carrying something that was never theirs to begin with.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Listen to the podcast Val was mentioning about how she healed ancestral trauma through brainspotting with the Developer of Brainspotting - David Grand: https://open.spotify.com/episode/67Ky3uoNceomDC1stdT59R?si=930245b9da314ea3Listen to the podcast Val was mentioning about how she healed the Fear of Being Jewish with Ari Kantor here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0nzOvzFkZzpkI6dpGQXv8e?si=6f0c95adf20a4485Join Haile's Anxious To Secure Challenge here: https://stan.store/HealingwithHaile/p/secure-by-summer-challengeConnect with Haile on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healingwithhaile/?hl=enConnect with Haile on Tik tok here: https://www.tiktok.com/@healingwithhaileConnect with Haile on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@HealingwithHaileCheck out Haile's Website here: Anxiousattachmentstyle.com
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  How to Heal Avoidant Attachment (From Someone Who Actually Did It) with Alex Long 23.07.2026 1t 4min

  In this episode, I sit down with registered dietitian Alex Long to have an honest conversation about what it's really like to live with avoidant attachment & what it took for her to become more securely attached.Alex shares what relationships felt like in her body before healing, the fears that kept her emotionally distant, and why avoidantly attached people often care deeply but don't know how to stay close. We also talk about the turning points after her divorce that changed everything, how solo travel helped her build trust in herself, and why healing self-worth goes far beyond affirmations and positive thinking.We also discuss:❤️‍🩹 What avoidant attachment actually feels like beneath the surface❤️‍🩹 The hidden fears that drive emotional distance and withdrawal❤️‍🩹 Why avoidantly attached people often crave connection more than they admit❤️‍🩹 The patterns Alex had to stop repeating before real healing could begin❤️‍🩹 How learning to trust herself transformed the way she showed up in relationships❤️‍🩹 The practices that helped her tolerate intimacy instead of running from it❤️‍🩹 What healing self-worth actually looked like beyond affirmations and positive thinking❤️‍🩹 How becoming more securely attached changed the way she chooses relationships todayWhether you're avoidantly attached yourself or you're trying to better understand someone you love, this conversation offers an honest, compassionate look at what healing avoidant attachment can actually look like & why lasting change is possible.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Alex on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/alex.undefined_/If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to check out Alex's first appearance on the podcast: Healing your anxious attachment to your body, food, & Health: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2z1MjuuiaD9Lt3jcbdNlUm?si=yxB8RJNuTJiRP6NGSnGYlgListen to me on Alex's podcast - The truth about your attachment: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zhG37lvxm9pfUicS4neDM?si=4hBTJwDbSlqPaL1sRxfRkA
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  Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family: Why You People Please, Fear Abandonment & Struggle in Relationships with Andrea Ashley 16.07.2026 50min

  What if your fear of abandonment, people pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, or attraction to emotionally unavailable partners didn't start in your adult relationships... but in the family you grew up in?In this episode, I'm joined by Andrea Ashley, host of The Adult Child Podcast, for a raw and honest conversation about growing up in a dysfunctional family, healing from childhood emotional wounds, and breaking the patterns that quietly follow so many of us into adulthood.Andrea opens up about her experience growing up with addiction in her family, the impact it had on her nervous system and relationships, her journey to sobriety, and what it took to stop carrying the weight of everyone else's emotions.Together, we unpack why so many adult children become chronic people pleasers, caretakers, and fixers, why healthy relationships can feel unfamiliar, and the heartbreaking grief that often comes with realizing your parents may never become the parents you needed.In this episode, we discuss:❤️‍🩹 What growing up in a dysfunctional family actually looks like (even if your childhood seemed "normal")❤️‍🩹 The subtle signs of childhood emotional neglect that often go unnoticed❤️‍🩹 Why adult children struggle with people pleasing, perfectionism, and feeling responsible for everyone else❤️‍🩹 How dysfunctional family dynamics shape fear of abandonment and romantic relationships❤️‍🩹 The connection between addiction, family roles, and survival patterns❤️‍🩹 Why setting boundaries with family can feel so uncomfortable❤️‍🩹 The grief of accepting your parents may never change❤️‍🩹 Practical ways to begin healing your nervous system after a dysfunctional childhoodIf you've ever caught yourself thinking, "Maybe I'm just too sensitive," "Why do I always put everyone else first?" or "Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns?" this conversation will help you understand where those patterns came from and, more importantly, how to begin healing them.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Andrea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod/Listen to Andrea's podcast episode featuring Valerie Wired for Abandonment: How Somatic Work Heals what Talk Therapy can't w/Valerie Rubin: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7GUy0N6LJq4tAZLuZgZTqi?si=Ft0UL4hMQ2-l1ChbqFrQmwJoin Andrea's Healing Community here: https://theshitshow.mn.co/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGn6iWE_Vg3B9abvwzjF3vD5go3oAQ_GZgtnzfKt8WxTEi4UW9CJ9en-MH2EAY_aem_8lwcE0CpcQBfuBUWmrLWrw
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  How Childhood Attachment Shapes ADHD, Anxiety & Adult Relationships with Erica Komisar 09.07.2026 48min

  Why do some people constantly fear abandonment, need reassurance, or struggle to regulate their emotions? Why are anxiety and ADHD becoming more common? And how much of it can be traced back to our earliest relationships?In this episode, I sit down with child psychoanalyst Erica Komisar to explore how our earliest attachment experiences shape the way we relate to ourselves and others for the rest of our lives. We talk about why emotional regulation begins long before children have words, how chronic stress in infancy can impact the developing nervous system, and why many adults struggling in relationships today may actually be carrying unmet attachment needs from their earliest years.We also dive into some of today's biggest parenting debates, including sleep training, the unique roles of mothers and fathers, the importance of community in raising children, and what the research says about building secure attachment from the very beginning. Erica shares why love alone isn't always enough to create secure attachment, how children can be deeply loved and still develop insecure attachment, and why healing our own emotional wounds before becoming parents matters more than we often realize.We also discuss:• The foundations of secure attachment and emotional regulation• Why attachment trauma isn't always healed through insight alone• Generational patterns of anxiety and depression• The sensitivity gene and why some children are more vulnerable to stress• ADHD through the lens of chronic stress and nervous system development• Preverbal trauma and how it shows up in adult relationships• The signs of unmet attachment needs in adulthood• Why abandonment can feel life-threatening for some people• What secure attachment looks like in adult relationships• Practical ways parents can foster resilience, emotional regulation, and secure attachment in the first three years of lifeWhether you're trying to heal your own anxious attachment, better understand your childhood, or become the kind of parent who helps your child feel deeply safe, this conversation is filled with research-backed insights that can change the way you see both yourself and the people you love.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Erica by checking out her website: ericakomisar.com
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  Fear of Running Out of Money, Fear of Conflict, and Why Anxiety Needs Certainty with Kirstin Mitchell 30.06.2026 45min

  In this episode, I sat down with artist and Shadow Mapping creator Kirstin Mitchell for a conversation about anxiety, uncertainty, and the parts of ourselves we spend so much energy trying to avoid.We talked about the fear of running out of money, why conflict can feel so threatening to the nervous system, and why anxious minds become so attached to certainty and control. We explored how our relationship with the unknown often has less to do with what's actually happening in the present and more to do with what our bodies learned was unsafe long ago.We also dove into the role of somatic healing, creativity, art, and expression in helping us process emotions that words alone often can't reach.I shared my own experience of returning home to Ohio to spend time with family and the unexpected emotions that surfaced during that transition, the grief, uncertainty, identity shifts, and the uncomfortable in-between that so many of us try to rush ourselves through.If you've ever felt like your anxiety needs answers before it can let you rest, if conflict feels bigger than it "should," or if uncertainty makes you feel like you're losing your footing, this conversation is for you.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callhttps://www.instagram.com/healwithval/https://www.instagram.com/kirstinmitchell/
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  Healing Burnout: Why You’re Emotionally Exhausted & Constantly Overwhelmed with Chelsea Horton 11.06.2026 32min

  So many people think burnout is just “working too much.”But burnout goes SO much deeper than being busy or needing more sleep.In this episode, I sit down with burnout coach Chelsea Horton for a powerful conversation about the nervous system, chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, perfectionism, hyper-independence, and the deeper emotional roots underneath burnout.We talk about why so many people feel disconnected from themselves, numb, overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and stuck in survival mode without even realizing it’s happening.This episode explores:✨ The hidden trauma responses underneath burnout✨ Why productivity becomes tied to self-worth✨ Why rest can feel emotionally uncomfortable or unsafe✨ Signs you’re burnt out that people often miss✨ How chronic stress disconnects you from joy, creativity, intimacy & your body✨ Why vacations and sleep alone often don’t “fix” burnout✨ How to reconnect with your body after years of overriding your needs✨ What nervous system healing and sustainable living actually FEELS likeIf you’ve been stuck in the cycle of overworking, crashing, recovering, and repeating… this conversation will help you understand WHY your body may be asking you to slow down.This episode is for the people who secretly feel exhausted all the time… but still feel guilty resting.Connect with Chelsea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healing.embodied/Connect with Valerie on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
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  Why You Still Don’t Feel Good Enough (And How To Heal It) with Monika Aimie Greenfield 04.06.2026 1t 9min

  Why do so many people still feel “not enough” in relationships, even when they logically KNOW they’re worthy?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, I’m joined by women’s empowerment coach and somatic therapist Monika Aimie Greenfield to dive deep into the roots of low self-worth, the fear of not being enough, and why so many people exhaust themselves trying to be chosen, loved, validated, and fully seen in relationships.We talk about the connection between trauma and self-worth, how worthiness wounds show up in dating, friendships, family dynamics, and anxious attachment, and why healing these patterns goes SO much deeper than mindset work alone.Inside this episode, we cover:✨ Why you can KNOW your worth and still feel devastated in relationships✨ The hidden ways low self-worth shows up in dating + anxious attachment✨ Why trauma survivors tend to internalize disproportionate blame✨ Why emotionally unavailable relationships can reinforce old wounds✨ The nervous system effects of feeling like love has to be earned✨ Why people pleasing and over-giving leave so many women emotionally exhausted✨ Embodiment, reconnecting to the body, and healing through somatic work✨ Courageous conversations, finding your voice, and speaking your truth✨ What secure self-worth actually FEELS like in the body✨ How relationships change when you truly heal the “not enough” woundThis conversation was vulnerable, validating, deeply healing, and honestly one I think SO many people are going to feel seen by.If you’ve ever secretly felt “too much,” “not enough,” hard to love, emotionally exhausted from trying to be chosen, or stuck in relationship patterns you can’t seem to break… this episode is for you 🫶🏻Get Monika’s workbook on 6 steps to heal the worthiness wound here: https://www.monikaaimie.com/selfworthbookConnect with Monika on instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/monika.aimie/Connect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call
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  How to Stop Dating From Survival Mode, Heal Your Anxious Attachment, Embrace Your Single Era & Embody Your Feminine Energy with Jessica Charuk 14.05.2026 48min

  There’s a conversation happening online about feminine energy… but I think so much of it skips over the nervous system entirely.Because the truth is:you cannot fully relax into your feminine energy when your body still feels unsafe in love.In this episode with Jessica Charuk, we’re talking all about feminine energy, dating, somatic healing, heartbreak, nervous system healing, anxious attachment, and what it actually looks like to date from self-worth instead of survival mode.We dive deep into:✨ why so many women intellectually know their worth but still panic when someone pulls away✨ the connection between feminine energy and nervous system safety✨ why financial/emotional dependence can keep you dating from survival instead of freedom✨ healing the deeper roots underneath anxious attachment patterns✨ the sacred single era and learning how to romanticize your life while single✨ breakups as the catalyst for your biggest glow up✨ how dating becomes the perfect mirror for your healing journey✨ creating emotional safety within yourself instead of outsourcing it to relationships✨ signs you’re moving from anxious attachment into secure feminine embodiment✨ what changes when you truly know: “I’ve got me regardless of what happens.”We also share personal stories about identity shifts, heartbreak, self-trust, and the moments that forced us to realize:“I actually don’t trust myself to survive without a relationship.”This episode is really about becoming the kind of woman who has herself no matter what.The kind of woman who no longer dates from fear of abandonment, but from freedom, self trust, nervous system safety, and deep self worth.If you’ve been trying to embody feminine energy externally while internally feeling anxious, hypervigilant, or emotionally unsafe in relationships, this episode is for you. 💛If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support in May for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Jess on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femininecollective_/Connect with Jess on her website: www.jessicacharuk.com
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  Why You Can’t Heal Anxious Attachment Alone (Rupture, Repair & Secure Relationships) 08.05.2026 1t 2min

  I was a guest on Lindsey Lockett’s podcast called Holistic Trauma Healing with Lindsey Lockett and this podcast was just too juicy to not also publish it on my podcast, the anxiety recovery podcast! What if anxious attachment isn’t something you heal by becoming hyper-independent, perfectly regulated, or never needing anyone again?In this episode, I joined Lindsay Lockett on the Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast for such a raw, nuanced conversation on anxious attachment, rupture, repair, overfunctioning, emotional unavailability, and why relational wounds have to be healed in relationship.We talked about how anxious attachment is often created through inconsistent or emotionally unavailable caregiving — and how that doesn’t always look like obvious neglect. Sometimes emotional unavailability looks like a parent being overwhelmed, struggling with their own mental or physical health, working constantly, caring for another child with higher needs, or simply not having the capacity to attune to you the way you needed.And when that happens, your nervous system learns to survive through hypervigilance, people-pleasing, overfunctioning, reassurance seeking, suppressing your needs, and trying to control the relationship so you don’t have to feel the terror of abandonment.We also got into why healthy love can feel boring after toxic or emotionally unavailable relationships, why attraction is often driven by familiarity and neuroception, and why your body may feel pulled toward dynamics that aren’t actually safe — simply because they feel familiar.Lindsay and I also talked about the connection between anxious attachment and overfunctioning: why doing the most can feel like safety, why resentment builds when needs go unspoken, why anxiously attached people often repress anger, and how anger can actually become a doorway into boundaries, honesty, and repair when we learn how to express it in a healthier way.One of the biggest themes of this episode is that social media often gets relationships wrong. We’re constantly told to “just leave,” “detach,” “never need anyone,” or heal alone before we let ourselves be loved. But attachment wounds happened relationally — so they also have to be healed relationally.That doesn’t mean staying in unsafe or abusive dynamics. It means learning the skills of secure relating: communicating needs, building capacity, allowing rupture and repair, taking accountability, and understanding that being triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken or failing.We also talked about earned secure attachment — and how secure relationships aren’t built because there is never conflict, anger, misunderstanding, or activation. They’re built through what happens after the rupture. Can we come back? Can we repair? Can we build safety over time?This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt too much, too anxious, too needy, too sensitive, or like you have to heal every single wound before you’re worthy of love.You don’t.You are worthy of relationship and belonging right now.And healing anxious attachment isn’t about becoming perfect.It’s about building the nervous system capacity, communication skills, and relational safety to stay connected to yourself and the people who matter even when it feels scary.Connect with Lindsey on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/iamlindseylockett/Connect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
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  If You Can’t Decide to Stay or Leave, This Is Why (How to Trust Your Body & Intuition) with Becky Aste 01.05.2026 42min

  If you’ve been stuck in the spiral of “do I stay or do I leave?”…overthinking every interaction, questioning your intuition, and trying to make the “right” decision from your mind…this episode is for you.Because the truth is — you’re not actually confused.You’re disconnected from your body.In this episode, I sat down with Becky Aste to talk about why decision-making in relationships can feel so hard — especially when you have anxious attachment — and what’s actually happening in your nervous system in those moments.We dive into how overthinking becomes a protective strategy, why awareness alone isn’t enough to shift your patterns, and how attachment activation can completely block access to clarity and intuition.We also get into what it really looks like to move from anxious attachment into secure attachment, not just conceptually, but in real-time, lived experience.This episode will help you understand:why you feel stuck in the “stay or go” loophow anxious attachment impacts your ability to make decisionswhat’s happening in your body when you can’t access clarityhow to start trusting your intuition againwhat it looks like to shift from “I don’t know” to deeply trusting yourselfIf you’ve been trying to think your way into clarity… this will show you why that hasn’t worked — and what to do instead.Your body already knows. This episode will help you learn how to listen.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of May, who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together:  https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste/Connect with Val on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/
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  You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxious Attachment (How to Stop Overthinking & Fear of Abandonment in Relationships) with Mitch Webb 24.04.2026 1t 16min

  There are certain relationship patterns that just feel impossible to break…The overthinking.Waiting for a text back.That feeling in your body that they’re going to leave… even when nothing is technically wrong.And a lot of the time, people don’t realize this is anxious attachment — and that it’s not just in your thoughts, it’s actually living in your body.In this episode, I sat down with Mitch Webb (nervous system expert and host of Rooted Conversations) and we really got into all of it — overthinking, reassurance seeking, fear of abandonment, and why these patterns keep repeating.We talked about how this actually forms (trauma, childhood experiences, nervous system dysregulation)… and why trying to just “think differently” doesn’t actually shift it.And then we went deeper.I actually guided Mitch through a live somatic therapy / brainspotting session to work through fear of uncertainty in real time, so you can see what this work actually looks like, not just hear about it.If you feel stuck in relationship anxiety or like you keep ending up in the same push/pull dynamic… this will help you understand why — and what actually starts to change it.
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  Why they feel impossible to let go of (Anxious Attachment, Trauma Bonds, & Soul Ties) with Katie Blumenfeld 09.04.2026 38min

  If you’ve ever known someone wasn’t right for you…but you still couldn’t let them go…this episode is for you.Because there are certain connections that don’t just live in your mind, they live in your body.The ones you replay.The ones that changed you.The ones that feel almost impossible to release… even when you’ve done the work, you understand your patterns, and you know better.And at some point, you start wondering…Was that a soul tie… or was that my attachment wounds?In this episode, I’m sitting down with Katie Blumenfeld: she’s a psychoanalyst, psychotherapist, and reiki practitioner and we’re really going there.We talk about:why some connections feel so intense, consuming, and honestly… hard to breakhow to tell the difference between real love vs a trauma bond vs what people call a “soul tie”why one person can still have a hold on you… even after therapy, self-awareness, and all the healing workthe grief no one talks about, not just losing them, but losing who you got to be with themthe deeper wound underneath the thought “I’ll never find something like this again”what’s actually happening in your nervous system in these “can’t let go” dynamicsand how to start releasing this, not just in your mind, but in your bodyThis episode is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck on someone who felt… different. deeper. harder to move on from.Because this isn’t just about love.It’s about what your body learned to attach to. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of April for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together:  https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katieblumenfeldlcsw/Check out Katie's Website: https://www.katieblumenfeldlcsw.com/Check out Katie's Substack: https://substack.com/@katieblumenfeldlcsw/p-190017664More info on Katie's signature program: Where the Psyche Meets the Soul: https://www.wherethepsychemeetsthesoul.com/
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  Self Abandonment in Relationships: Why you ignore your needs (even when you're self aware) with Lorina Manzanita 03.04.2026 44min

  You can literally feel when something’s off…and still not say anything.You know what you need.You’ve done the therapy.You can name the pattern as it’s happening…and you still go quiet.You still over-explain.You still choose them over yourself.If that’s you — this episode is going to hit.I’m sitting down with Lorina Manzanita (somatic intimacy coach) and we go into the kind of self-abandonment that’s not obvious…The kind that looks like being “understanding.”The kind that looks like giving them the benefit of the doubt.The kind where you leave yourself… but don’t even realize you did.We talk about what this actually feels like in your body,why being self-aware doesn’t automatically change it,and why for so many of us… it actually feels safer to abandon ourselves than to be fully honest.We also go into the grief that comes up when you realize how long you’ve been doing this…and how to start catching it in real time instead of after the fact.This isn’t because something is wrong with you.Your body just learned that being you wasn’t always safe.And this episode will help you start coming back to yourself.If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Lorina here: www.LorinaManzanita.com
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  Why waiting for your partner to change keeps you stuck (& how to break this blame cycle in relationships) with Peter McLaughlin 13.03.2026 1t 2min

  Most people believe the reason they’re unhappy in their relationship is simple: their partner needs to change.If they communicated better… showed up differently… stopped certain behaviors… then everything would finally feel safe, calm, and fulfilling.But what if that belief is actually part of the cycle that keeps couples stuck?In this episode of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, Valerie Rubin sits down with relationship coach and certified hypnotherapist Peter McLaughlin to unpack the blame cycle in relationships and why so many people get trapped waiting for their partner to change in order to finally feel better.Together they explore the deeper subconscious patterns that drive blame, conflict, and repeated disappointment in relationships and why blaming your partner can actually function as a protective response when you're feeling hurt or powerless.Peter shares how unconscious beliefs, nervous system responses, and cultural conditioning shape the way we interpret our partner’s behavior and why shifting out of blame is often the key to creating healthier connection.In this episode, we explore:• why blame feels so automatic when we're hurt• the hidden reason people believe their partner is the source of their pain• why the cycle of hope → disappointment → blame keeps repeating• how media and cultural narratives create unrealistic expectations about love• the difference between expressing a valid need and reacting from blame• how to take emotional responsibility without abandoning yourself• healthier ways to communicate pain without attacking your partner• what shifts when you stop waiting for your partner to changeIf you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “If they would just change, everything would be better…” this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start moving toward deeper connection instead of repeating the same painful cycle. Check out Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Peter on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepetermclaughlin/Connect with Peter on youtube:https://www.youtube.com/@BlueSkyHypnosisConnect with Peter on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petertmclaughlin/