Respect Me, Once The Dust Settles.

Jaksot

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  I thought my podcast was missing a vibe. It wasn’t my life was. 24.08.2026 19min

  I thought my podcast was missing something. The sound, the atmosphere, the vibe. Then I realized I wasn't trying to fix the podcast.I was trying to fix a feeling in my life.In this episode, I talk honestly about my growing disconnect with Dallas, what I miss about New York, why culture and environment matter more to me than I realized, and the kind of life I actually want to wake up to.This isn't really about leaving Dallas. It's about figuring out where I feel most like myself—and why Toronto keeps entering that conversation.At 33, I'm starting to think differently about where I want to spend the next chapter of my life.Because I don't just want a different address.I want to recognize the man living inside it.
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  The love I need, the love I know. 19.08.2026 17min

  Episode DescriptionI used to think I knew what love was.I thought love was intensity. Romance. Affection. Wanting somebody so badly that their presence could change the entire feeling of a room.But getting older has changed the question.I don't just want to be loved anymore. I want to be known.In this episode, I explore the difference between the love we imagine when we're young and the love we begin to understand after we've actually lived. The kind of love that isn't built entirely on chemistry or grand gestures, but on curiosity, friendship, understanding, trust, growth, and the quiet decision to keep learning another person.Because maybe the love we need isn't something we've never experienced.Maybe it's hidden inside everything we've already learned about being loved.The Love I Need, The Love I Know.If you've ever wondered what kind of love you're actually looking for now—not the love you were taught to want, but the love that makes sense to the person you've become—this one is for you.
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  Have I been ungrateful my entire life ? 18.08.2026 18min

  HAVE I BEEN UNGRATEFUL MY ENTIRE LIFE?I took an edible, got deep in thought, and somehow ended up questioning my entire relationship with money, material things, ambition, and gratitude.Growing up, my parents made sure I had what I needed. I had good meals, new clothes, regular haircuts, money for school, and parents who consistently showed up for me. I didn't grow up with every designer brand or the latest Jordans, but I was never neglected.So why did I grow up promising myself that when I had money, I would buy everything I couldn't have?Why did $20 shirts eventually become $100 shirts? Why did having good sneakers become needing expensive sneakers? And when did wanting nice things turn into believing I needed them?Maybe I wasn't deprived.Maybe I was comparing.This episode is about the difference between wanting more and believing what you already have isn't enough. It's about childhood, status, money, ambition, comparison, our parents, and the uncomfortable realization that sometimes we don't recognize a blessing because it became normal.I still want more.I still want to build something bigger.But maybe gratitude isn't about killing ambition.Maybe gratitude is what keeps ambition from becoming greed.Listen to the full episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  A mother is gonna mother regardless. 17.08.2026 18min

  A MOTHER IS GONNA MOTHER REGARDLESSThe Raising Kanan finale left me thinking about something much bigger than Raq and Kanan.What happens when your child grows into an adult you can no longer protect, guide, or control?Raq spent years trying to shape the man Kanan would become. Eventually, she had to face the reality every parent eventually faces: your child becomes their own person.That doesn't mean the love disappears.It doesn't mean the disappointment disappears either.Sometimes your mother can disagree with the man you've become and still see the little boy she raised. Sometimes you can become completely independent and still hear your mother's voice in the back of your head. And sometimes the hardest part of growing up is realizing that your parents were figuring life out too.Using the Raising Kanan finale and Raq as the entry point, this episode gets into motherhood, growing up, letting go, family, unconditional love, and what happens when a parent has to accept that they can't live their child's life for them.Because eventually, the child becomes an adult.But to a mother?That's still her baby.A mother is gonna mother regardless.Listen to the full episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  It’s not the dream I rejected , it’s the future with you. 12.08.2026 20min

  IT'S NOT THE DREAM I REJECTED, IT'S THE FUTURE WITH YOUHave you ever met someone who was good to you...and still couldn't picture spending the rest of your life with them?No betrayal.No dramatic ending.No obvious reason you could point to and say, "That's why."You just couldn't see it.And that's where things get complicated.Because what do you tell somebody when they ask, "What did I do?" and you don't actually have an answer?This episode explores the uncomfortable space between loving someone's presence and wanting their permanent presence. We talk about attraction, guilt, commitment, uncertainty, and the strange reality that sometimes your feelings reach a conclusion before your mind knows how to explain it.Maybe you still believe in love.Maybe you still want marriage, partnership, family, and the dream you've always imagined.You just can't see that dream with them.And if there isn't a villain...if nobody did anything unforgivable...how do you explain leaving?More importantly...how do you know whether you're walking away from the wrong person, or walking away from something you're simply afraid to accept?That's the conversation.Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  Alcohol made you do it, but you shaved before going. 11.08.2026 19min

  ALCOHOL MADE YOU DO IT, BUT YOU SHAVED BEFORE GOING"Alcohol made me do it."We've all heard it.But here's the problem...you shaved before going.This episode starts with a joke about cheating and alcohol, but it quickly becomes a deeper conversation about excuses, accountability, self-awareness, and the stories we tell ourselves when we don't like the person we became in a particular moment.Because alcohol can influence your judgment. Anger can influence your behavior. Hurt can influence your decisions.But influence isn't the same thing as erasing your responsibility.Sometimes the most revealing part of a bad decision isn't the moment everything fell apart. It's everything that happened before it.The preparation.The choices.The direction you were already moving.We talk about why people turn circumstances into excuses, why saying "I made a decision I regret" is harder than blaming the situation, and why you can't grow from something you refuse to honestly examine.You don't have to hate yourself for making a bad decision.But you do have to be honest about who made it.Because you can't change what you refuse to acknowledge.And sometimes...the lesson was sitting there with the razor in your hand.Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  She calms my nervous system. 10.08.2026 18min

  She Calms My Nervous System DownSometimes you don't understand the value of someone's presence until you're no longer in it.In this episode, I explore what it means to have someone in your life whose presence makes the weight of everything you're dealing with feel a little lighter. Not because they solve your problems, but because something about being around them gives you enough peace to see those problems differently.We talk about emotional safety, connection, friendship, relationships, and the people who quietly become part of how we move through life. Sometimes you don't realize you were calm until the conversation ends and the noise comes back.The question is simple: Who makes your life feel a little easier just by being there?And if you've been lucky enough to have that person, have you made sure they know what their presence means to you?Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.Inspired by SB. Thank you
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  How many of us have them … FRIENDS. 07.08.2026 24min

  How Many of Us Have Them… FRIENDSHow many of us have them?Friends.The older I get, the more complicated that word becomes. Friendship isn't just about how long you've known somebody. It's about who shows up, who tells you the truth, who can celebrate your growth without competing with it, and whether both people are willing to evolve.In this episode, I get into the expiration dates on certain behaviors, the difference between loyalty and enabling, growing apart without turning every ending into betrayal, and the uncomfortable question we don't ask enough:Are you actually a good friend?And yes, we have to talk about Jason Pitts from The Game — because sometimes the friend who gets on your last nerve is still the one who's there when it matters.Friendship changes as we get older. Life gets busier, people move, priorities shift, and sometimes relationships fade without anyone becoming the villain.But the real ones?They make room for growth.They tell you when you're wrong.They celebrate you when you win.And when life gets ugly, they're still there.How many of us have them?
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  I did 100 episodes . 06.08.2026 35min

  100100 episodes later, I finally understand what Respect Me Once The Dust Settles is actually about.When I started this podcast, I thought I wanted to enter the self-help and self-improvement space. But the more I lived, the harder it became to pretend I had the answers. I’m still figuring out love, relationships, faith, discipline, ambition, money, and what it means to become the person I want to be.So I stopped trying to tell people how to live and started talking honestly about what I’m learning while I’m living it.In Episode 100, I look back at the journey and the strange way this podcast found its identity. My memories, imagination, intrusive thoughts, music, sports, television, nostalgia, and cultural moments have all become doorways into conversations about something much bigger.Culture is the doorway. Life is the foundation.100 episodes of trying to understand people, relationships, faith, ambition, growing older, becoming, and myself.I don’t have all the answers.I have better questions now.And apparently, that was the podcast I was trying to make all along.Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  Sometimes I feel like quitting . 05.08.2026 30min

  Sometimes I Feel Like QuittingEpisode 99 is a check-in on the journey.Sometimes you can want something badly and still get tired of trying to make it happen. In this episode, I talk about what it actually feels like to build something before you know what it's going to become—the uncertainty, consistency, faith, patience, personal sacrifices, and relationships that can change while you're pursuing a dream.I've also had to change what I pray for. I used to pray for the dream to happen through hard work and consistency. Now I pray for the skill set and mentality to handle the dream when it comes true.Because I trust my work ethic. The harder question is whether I can trust myself to carry everything I've been asking for.Episode 99 isn't a victory lap. I haven't made it.I'm still making it.And sometimes the most important thing isn't knowing when the dream will happen. It's staying ready to be ready.Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  Maximilian. 04.08.2026 35min

  Maximillian?Why does the modern world sometimes feel like a cartoon version of the future we were warned about?In this episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles, a simple question about the disappearing name “Maximillian” turns into a bigger conversation about individuality, technology, convenience, nostalgia, architecture, fashion, food, social media, and the strange sameness creeping into modern life.From the colorful futures we imagined as kids to the gray buildings, identical designs, algorithm-driven opinions, and endless stimulation surrounding us now, this episode asks whether we're becoming more connected while becoming less distinct.The goal isn't to romanticize the past or reject technology. It's to ask a harder question: how do you participate in a rapidly changing world without letting it decide who you are?Because the topic is never really just the topic.And sometimes the most ridiculous question opens the conversation you actually needed to have.Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.
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  Tasha St Patrick 03.08.2026 29min

  What can Tasha St. Patrick from Power teach us about love, resentment, and growing apart?This episode uses Tasha as the doorway into a much bigger conversation about relationships, personal growth, emotional responsibility, compatibility, ambition, and peace.Sometimes relationships don't end because somebody is a bad person. Sometimes two good people simply grow in different directions.You can love somebody and still realize you don't see a future with them. You can appreciate everything they gave you and still recognize that the relationship is costing you your peace. You can be grateful, hurt, conflicted, and certain all at the same time.I get personal about a recent relationship that forced me to confront those contradictions. What happens when supporting your partner starts feeling like managing their emotions? When reassurance starts feeling like surveillance? When you find yourself explaining your thoughts, proving your intentions, and trying to prevent conflict instead of simply living your life?And what happens when you can clearly visualize the future you're building—but when you picture that future, you can't see the person you're currently with?That's where Tasha and Ghost become more than characters from Power. Their relationship raises a question that many of us eventually have to confront:What happens when growth isn't mutual?Because love doesn't eliminate resentment.Being a good person doesn't automatically make you the right person for somebody's future.And sometimes there isn't a villain.Sometimes there are just two people who stopped growing in the same direction.Respect Me Once the Dust Settles.
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  Jamaicans CAN make Mac & Cheese 29.07.2026 7min

  It starts with a joke about mac and cheese.It ends with a conversation about identity.In this episode, Brandon explores why we're so quick to reduce people to stereotypes, labels, and assumptions. From internet debates about who should cook what to the way we categorize entire cultures based on a single characteristic, this conversation challenges the idea that people can be understood through headlines and stereotypes alone.Because culture gives us context—but it never tells the whole story.Jamaicans CAN Make Mac & Cheese is a reminder that the best conversations begin where assumptions end. After all, culture is the doorway... but life is always the conversation.
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  Started with a barber, Now we're here. 28.07.2026 14min

  Growing older isn't one big moment—it happens quietly.One conversation with your barber. A few gray hairs. A different group chat. Calling your parents just to make sure they're okay. Realizing the adults you looked up to were figuring life out one day at a time, just like you are now.In Started With a Barber, Now We're Here, Brandon reflects on the invisible transition into adulthood, the responsibilities that slowly replace our childhood freedoms, and why peace, stability, and gratitude become the new definition of success. This isn't an episode about getting older—it's about becoming the person you spent your childhood watching.Because one day, without even realizing it...you look in the mirror and think:Started with a barber... now we're here.
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  Left Over Pizza . 27.07.2026 13min

  Leftover Pizza isn't about pizza.It's about the people who walk away from your life, disappear when you need them most, and somehow return months or years later expecting everything to be exactly the way they left it.In this episode, Brandon explores why people assume they still have access to us after time has passed. Through conversations about nostalgia, loneliness, guilt, curiosity, success, and entitlement, he examines the psychology behind why people come back—and why forgiveness doesn't automatically mean the door reopens.Because relationships don't have a microwave.Sometimes people don't miss you. They miss the comfort, the familiarity, or the access they once had. And sometimes, the version of you they left behind doesn't exist anymore.This episode isn't about holding grudges. It's about understanding the difference between forgiveness and access, recognizing how growth changes boundaries, and asking one difficult question:When someone comes back... are they reconnecting with you, or simply trying to reheat what they abandoned?
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  100 things grown men have to stop doing PT 2 22.07.2026 15min

  The list continues...In Part 2 of 100 Things Grown Men Gotta Stop Doing, we get back into the uncomfortable conversations, the jokes, and the moments where we have to look at ourselves and ask:"Bro... what are we doing?"From awkward workplace interactions, risking your life for Pokémon Go, hiding emotions from your woman, giving advice without supporting the journey, lying about your age and money, pretending you don't have emotions, bandwagon sports fandom, fake wisdom, and everything in between...this episode is about accountability, self-awareness, and growth.Because the goal isn't to be perfect.The goal is to recognize when it's time to tighten up.Some of these are jokes.Some of these are serious.But all of them come from the same place:Be honest with yourself.Be comfortable with who you are.Be willing to grow.Comment your own addition:What is something grown men need to stop doing?And if you enjoy the podcast, make sure you follow, subscribe, and share this episode with somebody who needs to hear it.Support Respect Me Once The Dust Settles through Patreon:$1/month — less than a coffee, helping build exclusive content and the next chapter of the podcast.Instagram: @ibeenhandsomeTrust the process.
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  The City Is Smiling Again ( Summer 26’) 21.07.2026 15min

  There are moments when it feels like everything is falling apart.Then there are seasons when everything starts falling into place.This episode is a celebration of one of those seasons.We talk about the New York Knicks bringing a championship back to the city, Jalen Brunson's rise as the new face of New York basketball, the New York Liberty continuing their championship standard with another Commissioner's Cup, and Sabrina Ionescu delivering another clutch moment on the biggest stage.We also reflect on Jay-Z's historic three-night run at Yankee Stadium, unforgettable appearances from Beyoncé, Nas, Rihanna, Usher, Jadakiss, Fat Joe, Memphis Bleek, and Blue Ivy, and why those moments meant so much to a generation that grew up on New York culture.From Raising Kanan paying homage to the Lo Life movement to Kai Cenat returning to the internet, this summer has felt like a love letter to the city.And somewhere in the middle of all of it...I found my own reason to smile.After months of unemployment, uncertainty, and rebuilding my life, I landed a new job, found my confidence again, and started a new chapter. This is an episode about restoration, gratitude, and recognizing when life finally starts moving in your favor.Special shout-out to Corey, the very first winner of our podcast giveaway. Thank you for being part of this growing community.If you've been rocking with Respect Me Once The Dust Settles from the beginning, thank you for believing in the vision. The best is still ahead.Trust the process.
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  Streamer University , changed the game . 20.07.2026 16min

  What happens when a creator stops chasing moments and starts creating opportunities for other people?In this episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles, we talk about Kai Cenat's evolution from one of the biggest streamers in the world into something bigger: a creator building culture, community, and opportunities for the next generation.We break down Streamer University and why this moment represents a shift in entertainment, attention, and the creator economy. From Kai Cenat's return after stepping away, to his commitment to creating experiences for others, this episode explores what happens when you stop thinking only about yourself and start thinking about the ceiling and the people.We also dive into the story of Suburb Baby — a creator whose journey represents everyone trying to figure it out. After stepping away, returning, staying consistent, learning the game, and respecting the process, he found himself in a moment where the world started paying attention.This episode is about more than streaming.It's about preparation meeting opportunity.It's about staying committed when nobody is watching.It's about understanding that the opportunity doesn't create you — it reveals the work you were already putting in.If you're building something, chasing a dream, or trying to find your lane, this episode is for you.Support the podcast through Patreon:$1/month — less than a coffee, helping build exclusive content and the next chapter of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles.Follow, subscribe, comment, and join the conversation.Instagram: @ibeenhandsomeTrust the process.
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  Lo life crew . 16.07.2026 11min

  I recently had a debate about fashion with someone from atlanta. He said to me Atlanta’s “ white boy “ swag , or “preppy” boy swag should be credited for why Ralph Lauren is Ralph Lauren. I had to remind him of who Ralph Rueben Lifshitz was , and how he’s a Bronx legend. I then mentioned the lo life crew , and that same Friday night lo life crew was being depicted in Raising Kanan The pod episode goes much further than my debate , we dive a bit into hip hop history. #spotifypodcasts🎙️ #applepodcasts📱📻🎙🎧 #iheartradiopodcasts #blackpodcastsupport #patreonpodcasts
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  106th & Park. 15.07.2026 6min

  Before algorithms decided what we watched, before every moment became a clip, before music became something we consumed in seconds...there was a time when culture had a destination.In this episode, I take a trip back to the era of 106th & Park, BET, MTV, music videos, and the moments that shaped a generation.We talk about a time when artists didn't just drop songs — they created experiences. When music videos had creativity, storytelling, and anticipation. When kids wanted to be Allen Iverson or Bow Wow, when Bow Wow and Romeo debates were everywhere, and when movies like Like Mike showed how sports, hip-hop, and childhood dreams could all collide.We revisit what made 106th & Park special: Freestyle Friday, legendary performances, artists addressing rumors, beefs becoming public, groups breaking up in real time, and fans feeling connected to the culture.We also talk about how music television changed. MTV was once the place where you discovered music, but somewhere along the way the "music" became secondary.This episode isn't just nostalgia.It's about how we consume culture, what we lost when everything became instant, and why some moments felt bigger because we all experienced them together.Because there was a time when music wasn't just something you heard...it was something you lived.