The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health

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• 221: Prostate Cancer Recovery: More Than Just a PSA Test with UK Prostate Cancer Nurse Sophie Smith 20.05.2026 1t 1min

  In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa speaks with Sophie Smith, a prostate cancer specialist nurse based in the UK, about what prostate cancer nursing looks like on the other side of the world.  Sophie has been nursing for 23 years, with her entire career connected to urology and prostate cancer care. She now works with Prostate Cancer UK, providing information, support and guidance to men, partners and families navigating prostate cancer diagnosis, treatment decisions, side effects and life after treatment.  Melissa and Sophie compare the UK and Australian systems, including the role of prostate cancer nurses, access to sexual rehabilitation, erectile dysfunction care, psychosexual support, pelvic floor education, penile implants, radiation therapy, hormone therapy and the sometimes-controversial topic of lymph node removal.  This episode is a thoughtful and practical conversation about the parts of prostate cancer treatment that are not always discussed enough: erections, identity, relationships, grief, masculinity, intimacy and the importance of having someone safe to talk to.  And yes, as always, we talk about penises. Because ignoring them has never helped anyone.  Sophie’s biggest message to men going through prostate cancer treatment is to reach out and get support. Prostate cancer can feel lonely, especially when the changes affect sex, relationships and mental wellbeing. But you do not need to sit with those worries by yourself.  Sometimes the hardest part is starting the conversation. Once one brave person says, “Actually, this has been difficult for me,” the floodgates often open.    Resources & Links:  Prostate Cancer UK has a range of services that can help see links below:  https://prostatecanceruk.org/  support services page with all the support we offer: https://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information-and-support/get-support    Sexual Support: https://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information-and-support/get-support/sexual-support  Partners Support Group: https://tackleprostate.org/support-groups/national-prostate-cancer-partners-support-group/  Book an appointment with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Prostate Cancer Foundation of Australia https://www.pcfa.org.au/   Need support?  At Restorative Health Clinic and Make Hard Easy, we support men and their partners with:  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  erectile dysfunction  peyronie’s disease  premature ejaculation  intimacy and sexual recovery  partner-inclusive support where appropriate  practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back  We offer in clinic consultations in Australia and telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live.  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  h
• 220: Rob’s Recovery Story: Prostate Cancer, Peyronie’s and Penile Implant Surgery 06.05.2026 43min

  Host: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Guests: Rob and Linda  Category: Penile Implants| Prostate Cancer | Buried Penis | Penile Rehabilitation | Erectile Dysfunction| Men’s Health | Peyronie’s Disease  Episode Summary:   On this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Rob about his experience of prostate cancer, recovery after treatment, and the very real ups and downs of getting back to life after diagnosis.  This is a practical, honest, and hopeful conversation that walks through what recovery can look like for a man after prostate cancer treatment. Rob shares his story with openness and humour, talking about everything from preparing for surgery and losing weight beforehand, through to dealing with a catheter, continence recovery, penile rehabilitation, Peyronie’s disease, and eventually having a penile implant.   Melissa reflects on working with Rob across different stages of his recovery, including using tadalafil, a vacuum pump, injections, and later navigating a period of Peyronie’s disease. What comes through strongly in this episode is that recovery is rarely a straight line. Sometimes things improve steadily, sometimes there are unexpected detours, and sometimes the plan changes along the way. That does not mean things have failed it just means the journey is real and sometimes there is a bend in the road(pun intended).   Rob also talks about the emotional side of surgery and treatment. He was not necessarily thinking the worst would happen, but there was still worry about consequences, loss, and what life might look like on the other side. Melissa also brings in Linda, Rob’s partner, which adds another important layer to the conversation, the support of a positive, involved partner can make a real difference during recovery.   One of the really valuable parts of this episode is the reminder that there is no single “right” recovery story. Rob had early continence challenges, but improved quite quickly with pelvic floor exercises, walking, and staying engaged in his rehab. He later developed Peyronie’s disease, which Melissa discusses in the context of connective tissue tendencies and risk factors, and eventually went on to have a penile implant, which he describes as something he noticed was there but did not find especially troubling and has improved his quality of life.   Rob shares that his PSA is now undetectable, and despite the wobbly recovery path, he and his partner are active, travelling, getting on with life, and doing well. That matters, because many men fear that prostate cancer treatment means life is permanently diminished. This episode is a good reminder that life can still be full, active, intimate, and meaningful after treatment.   Thankfully, recovery is often less about one magical fix and more about stickability(Melissa’s favourite made up word), persistence, support, and finding the right next step.  Who should listen:  This episode is for:  men preparing for or recovering from prostate cancer treatment  men dealing with erection changes or continence issues after surgery  men curious about penile rehabilitation or penile implants  partners supporting someone through prostate cancer recovery  health professionals wanting a real patient perspective on rehab and recovery   Need support?  At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men and their partners with:  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  erectile dysfunction  peyronie’s disease  premature ejaculation  intimacy and sexual recovery  partner-inclusive support where appropriate  practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back  We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rs
• 219: The Poet Who Didn’t Know It, is back! - Steve Jones 5 years post prostate cancer treatment 22.04.2026 44min

  What started as one man trying to make sense of prostate cancer became poetry, advocacy, and a way of helping other men feel less alone.  In this episode of The Penis Project, Melissa is joined again by Steve Jones, known to many listeners as the poet who didn’t know it. Steve is now five years on from prostate cancer treatment and he reflects on PSA anxiety, recovery, poetry, weight loss, peer support, and finding purpose in the aftermath of a life-changing diagnosis. This is an honest, moving, and hopeful conversation for men, partners, and anyone navigating life after treatment.  Steve shares his experience of being diagnosed during COVID, having a radical robotic prostatectomy, and then feeling like he was left to work out the rest on his own. He speaks honestly about PSA anxiety, the emotional toll of survivorship, and the reality that even years later, follow-up testing can still stir up fear.  But this episode is not just about cancer. It is also about what can grow in the aftermath of a hard diagnosis.  Steve talks about how prostate cancer unexpectedly opened the door to poetry, advocacy, deeper connection, better health, and a renewed sense of purpose. He also shares his work with A Touchy Subject, where he helps facilitate peer support chats for men navigating prostate cancer, sexual recovery, penile implants, incontinence surgery, and the many challenges no one talks about enough.  Melissa and Steve also discuss the importance of early testing, why men need better access to holistic care after treatment, and how simple lifestyle changes like weight loss, movement, and resistance training can make a real difference to health, confidence, and recovery.  This is a moving, funny, wise conversation about fear, resilience, and making something meaningful out of a difficult experience.    About Steve  Steve Jones is a prostate cancer survivor, writer, poet, advocate, and peer support facilitator. Since his diagnosis and treatment, he has become a strong voice for men navigating prostate cancer recovery, sharing his experience through poetry, media interviews, support groups, and community advocacy.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Steve Jones’ book Words Woke Me https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/words-woke-me-prostate-cancer-poetry-book   A Touchy Subject https://www.atouchysubject.com/   Steve’s previous two appearances on The Penis Project: https://thepenisproject.podbean.com/e/126-steve-the-poet-who-didn-t-know-it/  https://thepenisproject.podbean.com/e/151-words-woke-me/    True North on the Movember website https://truenorth.movember.com/   Prostate Cancer Foundation of Australia https://www.pcfa.org.au/   Need support?  At Restorative Health Clinic and Make Hard Easy, we support men and their partners with:  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  erectile dysfunction  peyronie’s disease  premature ejaculation  intimacy and sexual recovery  partner-inclusive support where appropriate  practical, evidence-based strategies for getting confidence back  We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live.    Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melis
• 218: Making RestoreX (traction) More Comfortable for Men with Peyronie’s Disease 08.04.2026 37min

  Host: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Guest: Richard Connell   Category: Men’s Sexual Health | Peyronie’s Disease | Penile Rehabilitation | Erectile Dysfunction   Episode Summary:   Peyronie’s disease can affect much more than the penis. It can impact confidence, intimacy, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. Many men suffer in silence or give up on treatment when it feels too hard, too uncomfortable, or too embarrassing to talk about.  Episode Description:  In this follow-up episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett welcomes back Richard Connell, inventor of the Comfort Grip, to talk about what’s changed since his first appearance on the show (Episode 194).  If you’ve ever struggled with the original RestoreX clamp (or any traction device) slipping, pinching, bruising, or simply being too awkward to use consistently, this episode is packed with practical insights. Melissa and Richard discuss why so many men give up on traction therapy too early, and how small design changes can make a huge difference to comfort, confidence, and long-term results.   Richard explains how the Comfort Grip helps men who find the standard clamp too painful, too fiddly, or too difficult to reach in a flaccid state. The conversation also explores his newer innovation, the Comfort Bend, which is designed to make counter bending more comfortable by reducing pressure points and improving the way force is distributed during treatment.   Melissa also shares what she’s seeing in clinic, including how these add-ons are helping men stay consistent with traction therapy, especially those with Peyronie’s disease, penile shortening, or difficulty tolerating the original setup. The episode finishes with a broader discussion about innovation in men’s health, the lag between clinical evidence and real-world problem-solving, and why practical, low-risk solutions matter so much in this space.   In this episode we cover:  Why some men find penile traction therapy difficult to tolerate  Common problems with the standard RestoreX clamp, including slipping and discomfort  How the Comfort Grip may help improve comfort and usability  What the Comfort Bend is and why it may help with counter bending  Why consistency matters in Peyronie’s disease treatment  The challenges some uncircumcised men may experience with traction devices  Why practical solutions in men’s health can make a real difference  How better support and better design may help men stay engaged in treatment  About  Richard Connell:  Richard Connell is the inventor of the Comfort Grip, an accessory designed to improve comfort and usability for men using the RestoreX penile traction device. His work has focused on solving the real problems men report when trying to use traction therapy consistently, including pain, slipping, awkward setup, and difficulty with counterbending.   Need support with Peyronie’s disease?  At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men with:  Peyronie’s disease  erectile dysfunction  Premature ejaculation  Phimosis  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  sexual recovery and confidence  men’s health concerns affecting intimacy and wellbeing  We offer telehealth consultations Australia/ World-wide, making it easier for men to access experienced, compassionate support no matter where they live.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to
• 217: The Partner Perspective After Prostate Cancer: Carlotta Thomas on Love, Communication and Intimacy 25.03.2026 48min

  Host: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Guest: Carlotta Thomas   Category: Partner Support | Prostate Cancer | Intimacy and Sexuality | Penile Rehabilitation   Episode Summary: Prostate cancer does not just affect one person. It can affect the couple, the relationship, the way intimacy feels, and the confidence both people bring into the bedroom. Many men and their partners feel alone in that. This episode reminds listeners that they are not broken, they are not failing, and they are definitely not the only ones trying to work out what comes next.  It also gently challenges the old idea that intimacy only “counts” if there is penetration or a reliable erection. Thankfully, human connection is a bit more creative than that.    Episode Description: In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Carlotta Thomas about something that does not get talked about nearly enough, the partner perspective after prostate cancer. Carlotta is a breast cancer survivor and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor, and she shares a deeply honest, thoughtful, and hopeful perspective on what it means to navigate love, intimacy, communication, and recovery in a relationship touched by cancer.   Melissa first met Carlotta through a Canadian support and education organisation (The Walnut Foundation) for men and their partners affected by prostate cancer and was struck by how openly and powerfully she spoke about the realities of being the partner of someone going through treatment and recovery.   Together, Melissa and Carlotta explore the reality that for many couples, sex and intimacy after prostate cancer may need to look different, especially in a newer relationship. They talk about the common assumption that sex must always mean penetration and why broadening that definition can be both freeing and healing. Carlotta shares how she and her partner navigated those early conversations, how they learned what worked for each other, and why intimacy can be as simple as touch, affection, holding hands, and being emotionally present.   This episode is particularly valuable because it normalises the awkward bits. The conversations that feel hard. The fear that a partner may withdraw. The uncertainty around erections, desire, and body confidence. Melissa and Carlotta talk openly about how communication is not optional if couples want to stay connected through change.   There is also a strong message of hope in this episode. Melissa reflects on how many men eventually regain erectile function, sometimes naturally and sometimes with support such as rehabilitation or injections, but that the process can even improve people’s intimate lives. Carlotta’s message is that this journey is one that involves faith, love, courage, resilience, and communication.   In this episode we discuss:  the partner perspective after prostate cancer  navigating intimacy in a new relationship  why sex is more than penetration  how to talk about awkward or emotionally difficult topics  the impact of treatment changes on connection and confidence  how couples can adapt and find new ways to be intimate  why communication is one of the most important tools in recovery  hope, resilience, and learning together as a couple  About Carlotta Thomas:  Carlotta Thomas is a breast cancer survivor, advocate, leader, and the partner of a prostate cancer survivor. Melissa describes being struck by Carlotta’s honesty and vulnerability when they met through a Canadian prostate cancer support and education event. In this episode, Carlotta shares her lived experience of navigating love, partnership, communication, and intimacy in the context of cancer recovery.    Need support with Prostate Cancer or Intimacy?  At Restorative Health Clinic, we support men and their partners with:  penile rehabilitation after prostate cancer treatment  erectile dysfunction  intimacy and sexual recovery  partner-inclusive support where appropriate  practica
• 216: Penile Fillers, HoleTox & The Art of Male Aesthetics with Injector Chris (Lushful Aesthetics) 11.03.2026 1t 11min

  In this eye-opening episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa chats with Chris Bustamante—better known online as Injector Chris — a New York and San Diego–based Nurse Practitioner who has become one of the world’s leading experts in penile aesthetics, including penis fillers, scrotal enhancement, ShowTox, Scro-Fill, HoleTox, and more.  Chris brings a unique combination of artistry, anatomy, and sexual-health expertise to a niche area of men’s health that is rapidly growing but often misunderstood. Together, Melissa and Chris unpack the science, the artistry, the risks, and the motivations behind male cosmetic procedures—from girth fillers to anal Botox—while smashing stigma and celebrating patients’ right to feel confident in their bodies.  Whether you're curious, skeptical, or considering enhancement yourself, this is an honest, deeply educational, boundary-pushing conversation you won’t want to miss.   This Episode, We Cover:  Chris shares his journey from makeup artistry → biology → nursing → nurse practitioner, and how combining aesthetics with sexual health led him to create Lushful Aesthetics, one of the most recognised male-enhancement clinics in the US.  Melissa and Chris dive into:  The difference between cosmetic artistry and simply “knowing the technique”  Why penile filler is nothing like facial filler  The rise of revision work—and why many patients are coming in after botched jobs elsewhere  Ideal candidates for girth enhancement  Why proper technique preserves sensitivity  What partners think—and why many return to get procedures themselves!  Chris also explains some of the most intriguing procedures in modern sexual health:  ShowTox™  Botox in the shaft to reduce retraction and help men appear more like a “shower” than a “grower”.  HoleTox™  Anal Botox for:  Easier and more comfortable anal play  Anal spasms  Proctalgia fugax  Chronic fissures  Post-surgical spasm (With important safeguards to prevent incontinence)  Scro-Fill™  Scrotal filler to enhance fullness, particularly for men experiencing:  Testicular retraction  Loss of volume from testosterone suppression  Aesthetic concerns  Preference for a fuller “hang”  Penile Filler 101  How Chris approaches girth enhancement with an artist’s eye  Why anatomy varies dramatically and requires tailored technique  The dangers of “one-size-fits-all” injectors  Typical filler volumes, costs, longevity & touch-up schedules  Why shaft fillers should be placed along the sides, not the top  Preserving the dorsal nerve to maintain sexual sensation  How to counsel men who want only subtle changes vs. those wanting dramatic gains  Peyronie’s Disease & Aesthetics  Why filler cannot treat plaque—but can improve post-treatment symmetry  When cosmetic filler can help visually balance a penis after deformity  Premature Ejaculation & Fillers  Can glans filler help?  What the early research shows  Stigma, Masculinity & Why Men Want Enhancements  The shift toward openness in gay and straight communities  Generational differences in disclosure  Why older men (including 70+) are embracing enhancements  Male cosmetic procedures as the new “sports car”    Connect with Chris  Instagram: @injectorchris Clinic: Lushful Aesthetics (NY & San Diego) https://www.lushfulaesthetics.com/    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If y
• 215: Intimacy, Embodiment & Becoming the One: A Conversation with Allana Pratt 25.02.2026 59min

  In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa is joined by internationally recognised intimacy expert and relationship coach Allana Pratt for a wide-ranging conversation about emotional healing, embodiment, vulnerability, and what it truly means to build meaningful, intimate relationships.  With over a decade of podcasting experience and more than 20 years working with individuals and couples, Allana brings a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, body-based awareness, and practical tools to help people reconnect — with themselves first, and then with others.  This episode goes far beyond sex, exploring how unresolved emotional pain, self-rejection, and disconnection from the body can show up as relationship struggles, sexual dysfunction, and ongoing dissatisfaction — and how learning to truly feel can be transformative.  This episode offers a powerful reminder that sexual health is not just physical — it’s emotional, relational, and deeply human.    In This Episode, We Discuss:   Allana’s journey into intimacy and relationship coaching — and why intimacy is about far more than sex  How intimacy with self is the foundation for intimacy with others   The link between emotional suppression, trauma, and physical symptoms — including sexual dysfunction  Understanding the autonomic nervous system and emotional regulation   Why repeating relationship patterns is a sign of unresolved emotional work   What “becoming the one before finding the one” really means  Practical communication tools for couples to build safety, presence, and trust  Why structured check-ins can prevent resentment and emotional drift   Dating as a practice ground for honesty, boundaries, and self-worth   How to respond to rejection without collapsing into self-blame  Why vulnerability is a strength — not a liability    Key Takeaways  Healing doesn’t happen in the head alone — it happens through the body  Secure intimacy starts with self-acceptance, not performance or achievement  Relationships thrive when two whole people come together — not two people trying to complete each other  Communication isn’t about being right; it’s about being heard  Emotional safety allows desire, pleasure, and connection to return  About Allana Pratt  Allana Pratt is a globally recognised intimacy expert, relationship coach, and host of the Intimate Conversations Podcast, now in its 14th season. She works with individuals and couples to heal heartbreak, develop emotional resilience, and create deeply fulfilling relationships grounded in authenticity and embodiment.    How to Work with Allana  Podcast: Intimate Conversations with Allana Pratt Instagram / YouTube: @allanapratt Patreon Community: Weekly Q&A and teachings Website: www.allanapratt.com/connect   Special Offer for Penis Project listeners: Use the code READYNOW to access a subsidised Intimacy Breakthrough Experience call with Allana.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook: 
• 214: When Prostate Cancer Affects the Partner: Rachel’s Story of Intimacy, Grief & Connection 11.02.2026 57min

  In this an honest and emotional episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa and Kate shift the spotlight to a voice that is far too often missing in prostate cancer conversations — the partner.  Rachel bravely shares her lived experience of navigating intimacy, grief, love, patience, and reconnection after her partner underwent prostate cancer surgery. What unfolds is not a clinical education session, but a raw, validating conversation about what happens to relationships when erections, continence, desire, and confidence change overnight.  Together, they explore how prostate cancer is not just a medical diagnosis, it is a life changing event. One that impacts communication, identity, sexuality, and emotional safety on both sides.  This episode is essential listening for partners, couples, and clinicians who want to better understand the unseen emotional labour carried by those standing beside the man with the diagnosis.  In This Episode, We Discuss:  Why prostate cancer is a couple’s condition, not just a men’s health issue  The silent grief partners experience   Why erectile dysfunction, incontinence, and medicalised sex can affect intimacy  Feeling out of sync: when one partner is focused on survival and the other on connection  The loss of spontaneity, desire signals, and sexual confidence  The emotional complexity of “being supportive”  Why saying “I don’t mind if we never have sex again” can feel like rejection  The impact of ED on a partner’s sense of desirability and femininity  Navigating injections, pumps, implants   Shifting from performance and penetration to connection and shared pleasure  Practical strategies that may help   Key Takeaways  Desire doesn’t disappear after prostate cancer — it changes shape.  Partners grieve too, and their pain deserves space and validation.  Intimacy is about connection, not outcomes.  Support for partners is a glaring gap — and one that must be addressed.  Support for Partners  If you are a partner navigating life after prostate cancer and would like to connect with others in a similar situation, you can email: admin@rshealth.com.au (Your details can be passed on confidentially — partner anonymity respected.)    Resources & Links:  Book an in clinic or telehealth consult with our sexual health practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Book: Come Together – Emily Nagoski  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   
• 213: Swinging, Connection & Consent (with “George & Mildred” + Guest Host Kira) 28.01.2026 1t

  In this candid and surprising episode, Melissa is joined by guest host Kira and anonymous guests “George and Mildred” for a deep dive into their relationship story, how menopause and erectile dysfunction impacted their marriage, and how a journey into the swinging lifestyle ultimately strengthened communication, intimacy, and connection.  This conversation explores the real relationship work behind non-monogamy, including boundaries, ground rules, consent culture at clubs, the importance of emotional safety, and how past breaches of consent can shape future intimacy.  What You’ll Hear in This Episode  How they met (army posting, friendship-first, and a hilariously blunt pickup line)   Menopause, libido changes, and the ripple effects inside a long-term relationship   What ED did to confidence, connection, and communication — and why many men withdraw silently   Their first visit to Restorative Health Clinic, and the moment treatment helped restore intimacy   The relationship rupture: online searching for connection, betrayal, and rebuilding trust   The turning point: honest conversations that revealed the issue wasn’t “just sex” — it was the relationship   How and why, they entered swinging (slowly), why it wasn’t instant confidence, and what helped   Attraction, compatibility, and why “the whole package” matters more than perfection   Sexual identity and exploration (bisexuality, comfort, and removing shame)   The “unicorn” dynamic: what it means, how it works, and why friendship matters as much as sex   Clubs explained for beginners:  what swinging clubs are like  what “play areas” are  how different venues have different vibes (more social vs more kink-friendly)   The Dom/Sub dynamic: how it developed, how they practised safely, and why education matters  Consent and confidentiality: what “yes” must look like, and why assumptions can be harmful   A powerful consent story: what happens when boundaries are crossed, and how recovery can take time   Jealousy (teased at the end): acknowledging it exists and setting up the next part of the conversation  Key Takeaways  ED and libido changes don’t just affect sex — they affect identity, confidence, and emotional connection  Silence and embarrassment can create distance in long-term relationships  Non-monogamy isn’t a “quick fix” — it often requires more communication, not less  Healthy swinging relies on boundaries, consent, and emotional safety  Consent isn’t a one-time checkbox — it’s ongoing, clear, and must be re-established  Intimacy can be rebuilt, but breaches of trust (or consent) can take months to heal    Listener Note  This episode includes frank discussion of sex, non-monogamy, and consent experiences. Please listen with care.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  https://breathworkforsurfers.com.au/ Mentioned in the podcast Ryan did this program with tom Carroll  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-10008
• 212: Never Mind My Bollocks: Talking Vasectomy, Masculinity & Myths 14.01.2026 48min

  Let’s talk bollocks — literally. In this candid and funny episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa chats with Kurt Brookes and James McConnell, co-hosts of the bold new podcast Never Mind My Bollocks, produced by Made in Manchester. Together, they’re breaking the silence around vasectomy — a topic often buried in myths, awkwardness, and outdated notions of masculinity.  Kurt, a comedy creator, and James, an NHS scientist and geneticist, bring their lived experience and friendship to the mic. What started as a casual post-comedy-night confession (“You’ve had one too?!”) became a mission to normalise the conversation about vasectomy — with honesty, humour, and zero shame.  From misconceptions about “losing your manhood” to the truth about recovery, ejaculation, and “blue balls,” this episode goes where most won’t — cutting through the misinformation with science, storytelling, and a laugh or two.  In This Episode, We Cover:  How Never Mind My Bollocks began and why the world needs to talk about vasectomy  Myths that persist: masculinity, testosterone, and “dry orgasms”  What really happens before, during, and after the snip  Why vasectomy doesn’t make you “less of a man”  Lived experience vs. medical expertise — and why both matter  Common misconceptions around reversibility, chronic pain, and recovery  How humour helps break taboo around men’s sexual health  Kurt Brookes is Deputy Creative Director at Made in Manchester. James McConnell is a geneticist and allied health professional working within the NHS. Together, they created Never Mind My Bollocks to make vasectomy conversations real, relatable, and stigma-free — sharing stories from men and experts alike to help others make informed choices about their reproductive health.     Listen to Never Mind My Bollocks on all major podcast platforms.    Key Takeaway: Talking about vasectomy shouldn’t be taboo. Kurt and James remind us that openness — not silence — is the real sign of strength.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 211 - Talking About Sex Shouldn’t Be Taboo – A Global Perspective with Sangeeth Sebastian 31.12.2025 1t 22min

  In this special episode of The Penis Project Podcast, the tables are turned — and Melissa Hadley Barrett is the one being interviewed! Joining her is Sangeeth Sebastian, a journalist and sexuality writer from Kerala, India, and the founder of VVOX — a groundbreaking platform with a mission to make accurate, science-based sexual and mental health knowledge accessible to everyone and end sexual shame.  With nearly two decades in journalism, Sangeeth brings empathy and investigative depth to the conversation as he and Melissa explore everything from erectile dysfunction and Peyronies disease to libido, body image, and the silence surrounding sexual pain. Together they unpack why shame remains one of the biggest barriers to intimacy, how open communication can transform relationships, and what it means to create a culture of curiosity over judgment.  In This Episode, We Cover:  Sangeeth’s journey from award-winning journalist in Kerala to sexuality educator and founder of VVOX  Why he launched VVOX and how its helping people unlearn sexual shame  Melissa’s insights into men’s sexual health — erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, and post-cancer recovery  The social and cultural roots of shame around sex  How misinformation affects both men’s and women’s confidence and pleasure  The importance of empathy, language, and education in sexual healing  What it takes to build a healthier, shame-free global conversation around sex  Key Takeaways:  Shame is cultural — but it can be unlearned through education and open dialogue.  Science and compassion together heal more than medicine alone.  Sexual health is human health: it affects confidence, connection, and quality of life.  True intimacy grows from honesty, curiosity, and mutual respect.  Access to accurate information is the foundation of sexual freedom.  About Sangeeth Sebastian:  Hailing from Kerala, India, Sangeeth Sebastian is the founder of VVOX (pronounced we-vox), a platform dedicated to ending sexual shame by making reliable, evidence-based education about sexuality and mental health available to everyone. With nearly 20 years of experience as a journalist, he has worked with major Indian media houses including The Hindu, Hindustan Times, and India Today Group. An award-winning sexuality writer and DAAD researcher, his work has been recognised internationally and featured in outlets such as BBC, The Guardian, AFP, Channel 4 UK, and The Daily Mail. Sangeeth also received the Likho Award for Excellence from the Humsafar Trust for fair and inclusive LGBTQ+ representation in media.  Learn more about VVOX:   https://www.youtube.com/@vvoxIndia  www.vvox.in  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 210: Merry Christmas and wrap up for 2025 17.12.2025 22min

  In this special Christmas edition of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa is joined by members of the Restorative Health Clinic team for a candid, funny, and surprisingly heartfelt look back at the year that was.  From awkward inbox messages and clinic mishaps to deeply meaningful patient moments, the team reflects on what it’s really like working in men’s sexual health — a space where humour, vulnerability, trust, and life-changing conversations collide every day.  This episode is part thank-you, part behind-the-scenes, and part reminder that sexual health work is serious — but laughter matters too.   Key Takeaways  Men’s sexual health is about much more than erections — it’s about confidence, connection, and quality of life  Trust takes time, but once it’s built, men open up in powerful ways  Porn has skewed expectations — most penises are completely normal  You don’t need to have a penis to understand men’s sexual health — listening matters more  A good clinic culture blends professionalism, compassion… and humour   Clinic Updates & Announcements  New clinic location: Icon Cancer Centre, Midland  Expanded support for men post-radiation (prostate, bladder, colorectal cancer)  Telehealth services now supporting rural, remote, interstate, and overseas patients  Upcoming training & conferences:  International Society of Sexual Medicine (Porto, Portugal)  Advanced Botox training for penile health applications  Christmas closure:  19th December- 12th January    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 209: Unhooked - Mindfulness, Porn Addiction & Reclaiming Intimacy with Jeremy Lipkowitz 03.12.2025 48min

  In this deeply insightful episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk turned mindfulness teacher and men’s recovery coach — to explore how compulsive behaviours like porn addiction can quietly undermine men’s sexual health, relationships, and sense of self.  Jeremy shares his personal journey from genetics research at Duke University to living as a monk, and how mindfulness, neuroscience, and self-compassion became the tools that helped him (and now others) break free from addiction. Together, Melissa and Jeremy unpack the neuroscience of porn use, its impact on intimacy and erectile function, and how men can rewire their brains to rediscover genuine connection and confidence.  In This Episode, We Cover:  Jeremy’s unique path from scientist to monk to men’s recovery coach  How porn addiction develops — and why it’s often hard to recognise early  The neuroscience of addiction: dopamine, neuroplasticity, and “amygdala hijack”  How compulsive porn use impacts erectile function, libido, and intimacy  The truth about porn, body image, and unrealistic sexual expectations  The role of mindfulness and meditation in rewiring the brain and regaining control  How to “urge surf” — using 90 seconds of awareness instead of autopilot  The power of community and accountability in creating lasting change  How mindfulness helps men face emotions rather than escape them  Key Takeaways:  Addiction isn’t about weakness — it’s about avoiding uncomfortable emotions.  Porn rewires the brain to crave novelty, dulling connection and satisfaction in real life.  Mindfulness builds awareness and self-control, allowing men to choose consciously rather than react automatically.  Healing comes through connection, compassion, and understanding — not shame.  You don’t have to be perfect to make progress; awareness is the first step to change.  About Jeremy Lipkowitz:  Jeremy is a certified mindfulness and emotional intelligence teacher, former Buddhist monk, and founder of Unhooked Academy — a global community helping men break free from compulsive behaviours and build discipline, purpose, and fulfilling relationships. He also hosts the Unhooked Podcast, where he interviews experts and shares practical tools for self-mastery and recovery.  Learn more: www.UnhookedAcademy.com Follow Jeremy: @jeremylipkowitz Listen to his podcast: Search “Unhooked” on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA   
• 208: Ryan Girdler: The Conduit – Masculinity, Breathwork & Redefining the Modern Man 26.11.2025 1t 3min

  In this deeply human episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with former NRL legend and now men's mentor Ryan Girdler, whose life after professional football has taken an unexpected and transformative turn.  Ryan talks candidly about growing up in a blue-collar household in the 70s, the pressures of masculinity, and how being driven hard as a child shaped his identity. He reflects on his footy career, the unspoken expectations to “be tough,” and how those patterns carried over into life after retirement—leading him to overwork, burnout, and eventually, a total personal reset.  Through meditation, breathwork, and support from his wife, Ryan found a new path. Today, he mentors men through profound emotional, physical, and spiritual work, helping them reconnect with themselves, develop healthier expressions of masculinity, and live with more balance, softness, and purpose.  This conversation goes far beyond sport. Ryan opens up about parenting, vulnerability, inner dialogue, relationships, and why so many men feel lost in today’s world. He also explores his work with Reconnected Men, breathwork retreats, and his partnership with the enigmatic healer, Imrah, known to many as “the alchemist.”  This Episode, We Cover:  Ryan’s early life & sporting beginnings  Growing up under pressure in a hardworking family and feeling driven to please others  How internal and external expectations pushed him into rugby league  The emotional impact of a “boys don’t cry” upbringing  Masculinity, identity & the struggles men face today  Why modern masculinity feels confusing—and why “toxic masculinity” breaks Ryan’s heart  The lack of healthy male role models  Balancing discipline with vulnerability  Why many men feel they must fix everything rather than be present  Life after professional sport  Losing identity and purpose at 30  Overworking to fill a void—“trying to beat yoga at yoga”  How breathwork and meditation became lifesaving tools  The profound influence of his wife in redirecting his path  Breathwork, nervous system regulation & healing  Ryan’s introduction to meditation through a big wave surfer  Using pranayama as the “cheat code” to stillness  How breathwork helped him “wield the mind” rather than be controlled by it  Why he believes every man should experience nervous-system regulation  Reconnected Men & the work he does now  One-day and three-day men’s retreats in Queensland and Sydney  Holotropic/transformational breathwork sessions  Corporate breathwork and team integration sessions  His mentoring program combining discipline, stillness, personal story, and emotional growth  The story of Imrah – “the alchemist”  How Ryan reconnected with Imrah after 25 years  Imrah’s unusual upbringing in the Pilbara and his unique abilities  Their partnership in retreats and breathwork events  Why I have named Ryan  “the conduit”   Parenting, relationships & emotional presence  Raising daughters with boundaries, connection, and regulated technology use  Letting go of control in relationships  How softness, listening, and heart-led responses change family dynamics  Ryan’s message to men  "You don’t always have to be in control. And you don't have to do it on your own."  Key Takeaways:  Masculinity isn’t the problem—disconnection is.  Men thrive when they learn discipline and vulnerability.  Breathwork, meditation, and nervous system tools can fundamentally shift a man’s internal world.  Healing begins with self-awareness, not fixing others.  You can be strong and gentle at the same time—and your family will feel the difference.  Sometimes your partner sees your path before you do.  Life after high-performance sport requires finding new meaning, not new metrics to “win.”  Connect with Ryan Girdler & Reconnected Men  Reconnected Men (retreats & programs): https://www.reconnectedmen.com   Instagram: @ryangirdler  Transformation
• 207: Finding Neville and Raising the Flag – David & Denise’s Journey Through Prostate Cancer 05.11.2025 58min

  In this heartfelt and humorous episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by husband-and-wife duo David and Denise Price — a couple who’ve faced prostate cancer together with courage, curiosity, and a lot of laughter.  David, a professional speaking coach and keynote presenter, and Denise, a writer and storyteller, open up about how prostate cancer changed (and strengthened) their relationship — from navigating continence and erectile recovery to rediscovering pleasure, communication, and connection in new ways.  They share how pelvic floor exercises became a “couples’ activity,” why David calls his penis “Neville,” and how humour, love, and teamwork helped them through the challenges of treatment and recovery.  This episode is equal parts informative, real, and uplifting — a reminder that intimacy isn’t just about sex, and that open communication can transform even the toughest times into opportunities for growth and connection.  Episode Highlights  The importance of humour and resilience in prostate cancer recovery  “Erection parties” and finding levity in hard (and not-so-hard) times  David’s flagpole story — and what it taught him about raising more than flags  How exercise and pelvic floor rehab changed his life  Rediscovering intimacy through outercourse, toys, and open communication  Denise’s journey from sexual repression to pleasure and confidence  The emotional impact of “dry orgasms” and how couples can adapt together  Why men should talk openly about prostate health — and get tested    Key Takeaways:   Communication is everything — before, during, and after prostate cancer treatment.  Pelvic floor exercises are for life (and for both partners!).  Intimacy after surgery is possible — it just might look a little different.  Pleasure and connection go far beyond penetration.  Being informed, asking questions, and involving your partner make the journey smoother for everyone.  Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/  TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 206: Mike & Shirley: Hope, Healing and Intimacy After Prostate Cancer 22.10.2025 1t 1min

  In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa reconnects with Mike and Shirley from the USA, who first joined us back in 2023. Now celebrating an incredible 48 years of marriage, they share how life, love, and sex have evolved nearly four years after Mike’s prostate cancer surgery.  Together, they open up about recovery, resilience, and rediscovering intimacy after cancer — proving that sexual function and emotional connection can keep improving long past the two-year mark many men are told is the “limit”. Their journey is one of teamwork, trust, and trying everything from pumps to performance rings to injections — the famous “four Ps” as coined by Mike: Pills, Pump, Puncture, and Performance Ring.  Key Takeaways:   Recovery doesn’t stop at two years. Erections and sensation can continue to improve with regular therapy and effort.  Devices aren’t kinky — they’re medical tools. Pumps, rings, and injections all have a role in penile rehabilitation.  Partner support changes everything. Involving both people in the journey helps reduce shame and increases success.  Hope is powerful. With the right approach, couples can enjoy a “new normal” that’s deeply satisfying and connected.  Sex is more than orgasm. Connection, laughter, and closeness are what really matter.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett  “Just like you wouldn’t skip physio after a hip replacement, penile rehabilitation after prostate surgery takes consistent effort. Devices like vacuum pumps, injections, and rings aren’t gimmicks — they’re proven ways to restore blood flow, preserve function, and build confidence. Mike and Shirley’s story shows what’s possible when couples stay curious, keep communicating, and don’t give up.”    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 205: It’s In Your Hands: Building Emotional Resilience with Dr Jane Foster 09.10.2025 52min

  In this powerful and uplifting episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by Dr Jane Foster, an educator and author who’s spent more than 40 years helping people understand and manage their emotions.  Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility.  Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.   In This Episode, We Cover:  How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond.  Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth.  The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment.  Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives.  The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS).  How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery.  Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery.    Key Takeaways:   You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering.  Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads.  Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health.  Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life.  Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett  Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction. Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence.    Resources & Links:  Dr Jane Foster Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible) Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  LinkedIn: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Connect With Us    We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 
• 204: 5 year anniversary episode: Kirk’s Story: Early PSA Testing, Surgery at 59, and Getting Back to Life (Fast!) 24.09.2025 29min

  In this Episode which marks the 5th anniversary of the Penis Project Podcast, Kate and Melissa, practitioners from Restorative Health Clinic talk to Kirk (59), who shares his very recent journey with prostate cancer — from vigilant PSA screening due to a strong family history, through biopsy and robotic prostatectomy(Gleason 9), to an unusually swift return of continence and erections (yes, really… at 5 weeks!). We chat about why a good GP relationship matters, common myths (no, PSA screening is not a finger-up-the-bum), and practical rehab steps that set you up for the best outcome. We also touch on the challenges recent Medicare telehealth changes pose for rural men and why community conversations save lives.  Key Takeaways:     PSA screening saves lives: It’s a blood test. Many men still believe screening means a rectal exam — that misconception stops blokes from testing.  Early and regular checks matter, especially with family history. Kirk and his GP were “on it,” which likely changed his trajectory.  Rehab starts before surgery: Pre-op pelvic floor coaching and early, structured penile rehab support faster continence and sexual recovery.  Expectations matter: Being clear about how important sex is to you helps the team tailor a plan (medications, devices, or injections) so intimacy continues post-treatment.  Modern prostate cancer care is not what it was 20 years ago — minimally invasive surgery, targeted radiation, and better side-effect profiles.  Episode Highlights  Family history matters: Kirk, a 59-year-old anaesthetist, always knew prostate cancer was a “when, not if.” Vigilant PSA screening caught it early.  PSA test = blood test: Many men still mistakenly think screening means a rectal exam — this myth stops blokes from testing.  Gleason upgrade: Biopsy showed 7, but post-surgery pathology was 9 — reinforcing why early surgery was lifesaving.  GPs are gold: A trusted GP relationship ensures timely checks and continuity of care.  Rehab starts before surgery: Pelvic floor exercises and penile rehab education gave Kirk the best start.  Fast recovery: At 5 weeks post-op, Kirk is dry, pad-free, and already regaining erectile function with support strategies.  Community conversations: Kirk shared his diagnosis with ice-hockey teammates — most had no idea PSA was just a blood test.  Rural barriers: Medicare telehealth changes risk limiting access for country men as of November 1st 2025 — highlighting the importance of policy that supports remote care.  Positive outlook: Kirk’s story proves recovery can be quicker than many expect, and modern treatments offer far better outcomes than in the past.  Take-home message: Don’t wait for symptoms — get your PSA blood test done and talk to your mates about it.  Shareable quotes  “Good news — PSA screening is a blood test. That’s it.”  “Pre-hab matters: start pelvic floor and penile rehab before surgery.”  “Sex after prostate cancer is absolutely possible — the toolkit is bigger and better than ever.”  “Men will talk footy all day — let’s talk our health the same way.”    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@rshealth.com.au   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/
• 203: Peyronie’s Disease, Restorex & New Frontiers: A Conversation with Dr Landon Trost 10.09.2025 58min

  In this episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa sits down with world-leading urologist Dr Landon Trost to unpack Peyronie’s disease, traction therapy, and what’s next in men’s sexual health. Dr Trost shares his journey from training under Professor Wayne Hellstrom to leading research and innovation in Peyronie’s management, fertility, and penile rehabilitation. Together they explore the Restorex device, emerging treatments, and the vital role of early intervention. Episode Overview: What Peyronie’s disease is and how common it really is How to tell the difference between a natural curve and a problem curve The new classification system for penile curvature The psychological impact of Peyronie’s, including anxiety and dysmorphic disorder Restorex traction therapy – why it works when others don’t The importance of early treatment vs “waiting until stable” What options exist when surgery is (or isn’t) the right answer Partner perspectives and how relationships are affected Emerging therapies, from nutraceuticals to genetic testing Where treatment might head over the next decade Key Takeaways: Peyronie’s is often under-diagnosed and misunderstood. Not all curves are Peyronie’s – some are congenital or age-related and not necessarily a problem. Restorex is unique in its ability to generate therapeutic force and counter-bend effectively. Early intervention with traction, PDE5 inhibitors (like sildenafil), and anti-inflammatories may prevent progression. Surgery is effective but comes with risks and regret can be high – conservative options should be maximised first. The psychological toll is often greater than the physical curve – reassurance, partner involvement, and counselling are vital. Future treatments may include new collagenase drugs, natural compounds, and even gene-based therapies.   Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:   At Restorative Health Clinic, we see many men early in their Peyronie’s journey. This conversation reinforced the importance of not dismissing early symptoms. Doing “something” – whether traction, PDE5 therapy, or anti-inflammatories – can help men feel in control, protect their erections, and preserve penile length. Just as you wouldn’t ignore a broken bone, Peyronie’s deserves timely care.   Resources & Links: Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com Dr Landon Trost https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ To access references that were mentioned by Dr Trost in this episode please go to https://malefertilityandpeyroniesclinic.com/about/ and scroll to the bottom of the page. Listen & Subscribe If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app. Connect With Us We love hearing from real people, navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.   Email: admin@rshealth.com.au Websites: https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders https://makehardeasy.com.au https://melissahadleybarrett.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/  TEDX https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA  
• 202: Premature Ejaculation: Mitch’s Story – Courage, Connection & Control 27.08.2025 26min

  In this raw and refreshingly honest episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa chats with Mitch—a 21-year-old who opens up about his journey with primary premature ejaculation (PE). From rural farm life and open family chats to medication mishaps and sexual self-esteem struggles, Mitch shares his experience with warmth and humour.  Mitch talks about:  Growing up with PE and its emotional toll  Navigating sexual intimacy and relationships as a young man  His experience with online men’s health services like Pilot  The turning point that led him to seek help at Restorative Health Clinic  Finding the right treatment—and relief—through personalised care  This episode is a must-listen for any man who's felt alone with PE, and for partners or parents who want to better understand the experience from a younger male’s perspective.   In This Episode, We Cover:  What it’s like living with lifelong (primary) premature ejaculation  How a father’s prostate cancer treatment led to a cheeky encounter with penile injections—and eventually helped Mitch seek help  The cost, pros and cons of online health platforms like Pilot  Why in-person or telehealth consults with a practitioner can make all the difference  The emotional impact of PE: shame, self-doubt, and how it affects confidence in and out of the bedroom  The power of humour and honesty in breaking sexual health stigma  Key Takeaways:  PE can affect men of all ages—including young blokes—and it’s more common than you think.  Medication isn’t one-size-fits-all. Finding the right dose and drug with a skilled clinician can be life-changing.  Open conversations with family, partners, and mates can reduce shame and build resilience.  Telehealth can be a more accessible, cost-effective way to get specialist support—especially in rural areas.  Tackling PE early builds long-term sexual confidence and can improve relationships.  Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:  Premature ejaculation can feel devastating for men, but it’s both common and treatable. We see men every day at Restorative Health Clinic who’ve been told to “just relax” or “it’ll go away with age,” but that doesn’t always happen. Treatment is individual and may include:  Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)  Behavioural therapy  Mindfulness and arousal control strategies  Support for partners to reduce pressure and enhance intimacy  Every man deserves to enjoy sex without anxiety—and we’re here to help you do just that.    Resources & Links:  Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.  Connect With Us   We love hearing from real people navigating penile health. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch.     Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com   Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melissahadleybarrett   TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett    Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA