Forgive Yourself

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  127: How to Forgive the Version of You Who Didn’t Know Better 11.09.2026 1t 6min

  After heartbreak, it’s easy to look back and wonder: Why didn’t I see it sooner? Why did I stay? How did I let this happen? But taking responsibility for your past doesn’t have to mean carrying shame for it.In this episode, I sit down with somatic coach, educator, and writer Christina Elaine to explore the patterns that keep us stuck in self-blame and why healing isn’t about endlessly analyzing or fixing ourselves. Christina shares how our nervous systems can pull us toward familiar relationship dynamics, why insight alone may not be enough to change those patterns, and how new experiences can help us respond differently.What You'll LearnHow to distinguish healthy self-responsibility from shame and self-blameWhy familiar emotional dynamics can keep showing up in your relationshipsHow somatic awareness can help you interrupt old patterns and choose a different responseWhy constantly analyzing yourself and others can sometimes make healing harderHow to experience difficult emotions without immediately attaching a story to themWhy frustration, disappointment, and annoyance can actually be signs of greater emotional regulationAbout Christina ElaineChristina Elaine is a somatic coach, educator, and writer who helps people rebuild emotional safety and connection through the body. She is the editor of Mutual Terrain and a top 1% writer on Medium. Through her coaching, workshops, and embodiment-based curriculums, Christina helps both men and women recognize emotional and relationship patterns, develop new ways of responding, and create healthier connections with themselves and others.Learn more about Christina: https://christinaelaine.comGet access to Christina’s Radiance and Embodied course library: https://christinaelaine.com/radiance-embodied/ Join her Workshop, Being Held, a four-Sunday live series for women: https://christinaelaine.com/being-held/ Follow Christina on…YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@christinaelainecoachingMedium: https://medium.com/@christinaelainecoachingSubstack: https://christinacoaching.substack.comResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  126: Rebuilding Your Health, Faith, and Life After Trauma 04.09.2026 50min

  Sometimes the symptoms we’re trying to silence are actually asking us to pay attention. In this episode, Dr. Jen Hewson, doctor of natural medicine, ordained minister, author, and trauma survivor, explores the connection between our physical health, nervous system, emotions, relationships, and spiritual lives.Drawing from her own journey, Dr. Jen shares how years spent in survival mode can shape the way we feel, think, respond, and care for ourselves. Together, we discuss learning to recognize the difference between intuition and hypervigilance, quieting the body so we can hear ourselves more clearly, and finding compassion for the choices we once made simply to survive.What You'll LearnHow prolonged stress and survival mode can affect the body, nervous system, and emotional well-beingWhy physical symptoms may be worth exploring as part of a larger whole-person pictureHow to begin distinguishing between intuition and a nervous system that is operating on high alertWhy some behaviors we judge ourselves for may have developed as ways of coping or survivingHow forgiveness can unfold in layers and help us release patterns rooted in past painGet Dr. Jen’s free “Your Gut Is Trying to Tell You Something” guide: https://guide.takebackyourhealth.ca/ Subscribe to Dr. Jen on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SiftingLifePodcast Listen to the Sifting Life podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1bc8CeLwm5TzeQe5fRXwYd?si=qHbCbaBGSNaRLdQVcZCfOg&nd=1&dlsi=763c6f75a55c4593 Follow Dr. Jen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takebackyourhealthwithdrjen/ Connect with Dr. Jen on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com//takebackyourhealthwithjenFollow along on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@askdrjenhewson About Dr. Jen HewsonDr. Jen Hewson is a doctor of natural medicine, ordained minister, author, speaker, trauma survivor, and founder of Take Back Your Health and Sifting Life Ministries. Drawing from both her professional training and her personal journey through childhood trauma, cancer, and rebuilding her health, Dr. Jen helps others explore the connections between their physical symptoms, emotional experiences, thought patterns, relationships, and spiritual well-being.Resources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  125: Trusting Yourself to See Relationships Clearly 28.08.2026 46min

  Relationships can become much harder to see clearly when our emotions, hopes, fears, and past experiences are involved. Sometimes we recognize the red flags or feel that something isn’t right long before we’re ready to admit it to ourselves.In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach and “Is He Worthy?” author Dave McLachlan for a conversation about bringing greater clarity and self-trust into the way we choose and navigate relationships. Dave shares how his own difficult divorce inspired him to create the Worthy Method, an unemotional relationship assessment designed to help women identify what truly matters to them, establish their non-negotiables, and look more objectively at whether a relationship aligns with the life they want. We explore why we can override our intuition, how emotions can cloud what we already know, and why recognizing our own relationship patterns is an important part of making different choices.What You'll LearnHow defining your non-negotiables can help you make more aligned choicesWhy we sometimes override red flags and our own intuitionHow self-awareness can reveal patterns in the relationships we chooseWhy assessing your own readiness matters just as much as assessing a potential partnerHow forgiveness can help you release past relationship choices and move forward with greater self-trustUse code "4GIVE" for a 45-day free trial of the Is He Worthy community: https://isheworthy.com/SubscribeAbout Dave McLachlan:​Dave's work focuses on helping women assess their relationships more clearly to stop bad relationships before they start.  He is the creator of the W.O.R.T.H.Y. Method, an unemotional relationship assessment designed to guide women to ask important questions early. Subscribe to Dave on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@isheworthynow Follow Dave on…Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/is_he_worthy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@is.he.worthy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/isheworthy/ Resources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  124: You Haven't Messed Up Your Life 21.08.2026 48min

  For years, Paul Drayton believed his struggles with addiction, relationships, and identity were simply who he was. It wasn't until a life-changing ADHD diagnosis at age 50, the end of his marriage, and the work of looking honestly at his past that he began to understand the deeper story behind his choices and find his way back to himself.In this heartfelt episode, I talk with the British actor, writer, and author of Ride or Die Trying about addiction, recovery, people-pleasing, late-diagnosed ADHD, and the quiet courage it takes to rebuild your life after losing yourself. Paul shares how years of self-medicating, public scrutiny, and searching for answers eventually led him to a place of self-understanding and peace.Get a copy of Paul’s debut Memoir, Ride or Die Trying: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/ride-or-die-trying-a-life-before-during-and-after-the-laughter-paul-drayton/470cc7e00d605b01Learn more about Paul: https://pauldrayton.co.uk/ Follow Paul on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pauldrayton1/ What You'll LearnWhy understanding yourself is often the foundation of self-forgivenessThe connection between people-pleasing, losing your identity, and unhealthy relationshipsWhat recovery looks like beyond simply getting soberHow accountability and self-compassion can exist at the same timeWhy rebuilding your life starts with coming home to yourself instead of trying to become someone elseHow resilience is often discovered only after you've lived through your hardest seasonsWhy it's never too late to rediscover who you are and create a different futureResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  123: The Spiritual Practice of Forgiveness 14.08.2026 1t

  Spiritual healing is about coming home to the divine wisdom that's already within you, not becoming someone new. In this heartfelt conversation, I sit down with author, yoga teacher, and inner life coach Regan Caruthers to explore the connection between forgiveness and spiritual devotion, and the practices that help us remember who we truly are. Regan shares stories from her spiritual upbringing, how those early experiences shaped her life's work, and why she believes so many of us have been conditioned to disconnect from our true nature. We also explore intuition, divine guidance, embodiment, and the daily practices that help us return to love instead of fear.To learn more about Regan, visit her website: https://www.regancaruthers.com Get a copy of Regan's Memoir "Tragic Magic": https://regancaruthers.com/tragic-magic/ Book a free discovery call for Regan’s inner life coaching: https://regancaruthers.com/inner-life-coaching/Follow Regan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/regancaruthers Subscribe to Regan on Substack: https://regancaruthers1.substack.com/about What You'll LearnHow reconnecting with your inner life can transform the way you experience forgivenessThe difference between intellectual understanding and embodied healingHow meditation, yoga, and contemplative practices can help you cultivate peace and self-awarenessWhy intuition and divine guidance become more accessible when you create space for stillnessHow to develop a daily practice of presence, devotion, and forgiveness.Resources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  122: Acceptance Is Not the First Step 07.08.2026 1t 2min

  For years, I've heard—and even believed—that acceptance was the answer. But through my own experiences with caregiving, health challenges, and now recovering from hamstring surgery, I've discovered something important: sometimes acceptance feels impossibly far away.In this episode, I'm sharing the gentler path that has transformed how I approach healing. Instead of forcing ourselves to "just accept" painful realities, what if we first became aware, gave ourselves permission, practiced compassion, and then found our way to acceptance? We'll explore why busyness can become a way of avoiding ourselves, how self-judgment keeps us stuck, and why understanding isn't the same as approval. I'll also share how this season of slowing down has taught me that healing only happens one compassionate step at a time.What You'll LearnWhy acceptance is often the result of healing, the beginningThe seven-step pathway of awareness, permission, understanding, compassion, allowing, acceptance, and choiceHow busyness can become a coping strategy that disconnects you from yourselfThe difference between understanding someone's behavior and excusing itWhy self-compassion creates more lasting change than self-criticismReflection QuestionsWhat are you trying to force yourself to accept right now?Is it a change in your health?A relationship that did not become what you hoped?A decision you made?A decision someone else made?A loss?A diagnosis?A family situation?A part of yourself you have been judging?What would change if you stopped pressuring yourself to accept it and simply became willing to understand it?What information, context, compassion, or permission might you need before acceptance becomes possible?What are you becoming aware of?What do you need to give yourself permission to feel?What are you beginning to understand?Where could you offer yourself a little more compassion?What truth could you allow to be present today without forcing yourself to feel differently about it?And what choice might become available when you stop fighting what is true?Resources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  121: The Freedom to Trust Your Decisions 31.07.2026 28min

  Making the right decision doesn't always feel peaceful. Sometimes it feels lonely. Sometimes it feels uncomfortable. And sometimes it comes with guilt, grief, or the fear of disappointing the people you love.In this episode, I talk about one of the most important parts of emotional freedom: learning to trust your decisions and stay with yourself after you've made them. Discomfort isn't always a sign you're making the wrong choice, over-explaining often comes from seeking permission instead of communicating, and self-trust grows when you stop abandoning yourself in the face of someone else's reaction.Drawing from my own experiences—including leaving an unhealthy marriage and making the difficult decision to move my husband into memory care—I share how self-forgiveness transforms past mistakes into wisdom and how emotional freedom comes from choosing yourself without losing your compassion for others.What You'll LearnWhy the right decision can still feel uncomfortableHow to recognize the difference between healthy discomfort and a warning signWhy over-explaining is often about seeking permission rather than communicatingHow to stop using other people's reactions as proof that you're wrongHow to stay connected to yourself even when others are disappointed by your choicesResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  120: The Freedom to Choose Without Guilt 24.07.2026 21min

  Why does guilt show up the moment you start honoring yourself? If you've ever set a boundary, said no, chosen rest, or spoken your truth only to immediately wonder if you were being selfish, this episode is for you.In this episode, I explore the difference between healthy guilt, which invites growth and repair, and old pattern guilt, which pulls you back into people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and outdated roles. I share why guilt often intensifies when you're growing, how your nervous system can mistake self-honoring choices for danger, and why someone else's disappointment doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong. Through personal stories, compassionate insight, and reflection questions, you’ll learn a new way to respond to guilt; one that helps you stay connected to yourself instead of returning to old patterns.What You'll LearnThe difference between healthy guilt and old pattern guilt and how to tell the differenceWhy guilt often appears when you're making healthier, self-honoring choicesHow people-pleasing and self-abandonment become connected to guilt over timeWhy someone else's disappointment doesn't mean you've done something wrongThree powerful questions to help you respond to guilt with clarity instead of automatic self-sacrificeA simple practice for recognizing what is yours to own and what is notResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  119: The Freedom to Stop Leaving Yourself Behind 17.07.2026 30min

  Emotional freedom doesn't begin with a dramatic life change—it begins with one honest moment. In this episode, I explore what it really means to stop leaving yourself behind. If you've spent years being the dependable one, keeping the peace, saying yes when you mean no, or putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, it’s time to recognize the hidden ways you've disconnected from yourself.I share why self-forgiveness is essential to breaking old patterns and reclaiming your voice, and explore how resentment, exhaustion, and even menopause can reveal the places where you've been sacrificing yourself in the name of love, loyalty, or responsibility. Through gentle reflection questions, you'll discover that emotional freedom isn't about becoming someone new. It's about coming home to who you've always been.What You'll LearnHow to recognize the subtle ways you may be leaving yourself behind in everyday lifeThe connection between people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and losing touch with your own needsHow resentment can become a powerful guide to uncovering unmet needs and missing boundaries.Why boundaries don't make you less lovingResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  118: Healing the Father Wound - Becoming the Safe Place You Needed 10.07.2026 33min

  Healing doesn't mean forgetting the past or pretending it didn't hurt. It means no longer allowing what you didn't receive to define who you are.In the final episode of this three-part series on the father wound, forgiveness, and healing, we explore what it truly means to move beyond awareness and begin rebuilding your relationship with yourself. I share how childhood experiences with an emotionally unavailable, critical, or inconsistent father can shape the way we love, trust, set boundaries, and view our own worth—and why healing isn't about waiting for someone else to finally become who you needed them to be. Instead, through gentle reflection questions and self-compassion, we can heal one small choice at a time.What You'll LearnWhy healing the father wound doesn't require excusing the past or reconciling with your fatherHow childhood beliefs about love and worth continue to influence your relationships and daily choicesWhy compassion is the foundation of lasting healingHow to stop waiting for someone else's approval before choosing yourselfWays to rebuild self-trust through small, consistent acts of self-care and healthy boundariesHow to forgive yourself for the survival roles you adopted as a childResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  117: The Father Wound - How It Shapes the Way You Love, Trust, and Choose 26.06.2026 20min

  The father wound isn’t just about your father. It’s about the beliefs you formed about yourself when you didn’t feel fully seen, safe, protected, chosen, or emotionally met. In this second episode of my When Father’s Day Feels Complicated series, we’re exploring how those beliefs can quietly shape the way you love, trust, and choose long after childhood.I’ll share some of my own experiences with people-pleasing, self-doubt, and trying to earn love, while helping you recognize the patterns that may still be influencing your relationships today. We’ll talk about why familiar doesn’t always mean healthy, how the father wound can impact self-trust, and what it means to begin choosing from your worth instead of your wound.What You'll LearnWhy the father wound goes beyond your relationship with your fatherThe beliefs that often develop when emotional needs go unmet in childhoodHow the father wound can affect the way you love, trust, and choose in adulthoodWhy familiar relationship patterns can feel so difficult to breakThe connection between father wounds and self-trustHow to recognize when you're choosing from old wounds instead of your worthReflection questions to help you explore your own patterns with compassionResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  116: When Father's Day Feels Complicated - Forgiving What You Didn't Receive 19.06.2026 46min

  Father’s Day can bring up more than celebration. It can stir grief, longing, anger, confusion, gratitude, or the ache of something that was never fully there. In the first episode of this three-part series, I explore the father wound and the impact of growing up with a father who may have been physically present but emotionally unavailable, absent, critical, inconsistent, or simply unable to give you what you needed.I share parts of my own story and invite you to consider the difference between the father you had and the father you needed. Together, we will explore how unmet needs can shape the beliefs we carry about ourselves, the roles we adopt to earn love and approval, and the patterns that continue to show up in our relationships today.This episode is not about blaming fathers or forcing forgiveness. It’s about telling the truth about your experience, grieving what was missing, and beginning to release the belief that what you didn’t receive says anything about your worth. What You'll LearnThe difference between the father you had and the father you neededHow unmet childhood needs can shape beliefs about worth, love, and belongingThe survival roles many people adopt to earn connection and approvalHow father wounds often show up in adult relationships, work, and achievementReflection questions to help you begin releasing old stories and reclaiming your worthResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  115: The Self-Trust Practice That Changes Every Conversation 12.06.2026 38min

  Better conversations don’t begin with perfect words—they begin with a more honest relationship with yourself.In this final episode of the self-trust series, I bring everything we've explored together and focus on what self-trust looks like in real life, especially in the conversations, decisions, and boundaries that feel the hardest. Too often, we overexplain, people-please, or abandon our own needs in an effort to keep the peace. But what if there was another way?I share a simple self-trust practice you can use before difficult conversations, major decisions, or moments when you're tempted to seek permission outside yourself. You'll learn how to recognize the difference between the voice of fear and the voice of self-trust, pause before reacting, and take the next honest step without abandoning yourself in the process.What You’ll LearnWhy difficult conversations are often about more than communicationHow fear disguises itself as kindness, patience, or being "low maintenance"The difference between the voice of fear and the voice of self-trustHow to pause before reacting and stop making self-abandoning decisions on autopilotWhy you are not responsible for controlling how others receive your truthHow to measure success in a conversation by your honesty and self-respect rather than someone else's reactionResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  114: The 5 Hidden Needs That Shape Your Choices 05.06.2026 52min

  Why do some decisions feel impossible to make? Why do certain conversations leave you overthinking for days? And why do you keep finding yourself people-pleasing, seeking reassurance, or ignoring what you know is true?Beneath avoidance, over-explaining, and self-doubt, there is often an unmet need asking for attention. In this episode, I continue our three-part series on self-trust by exploring the five hidden needs that shape our choices, conversations, and relationships. You’ll hear how needs for safety, belonging, validation, autonomy, and rest can quietly influence the way we show up in our lives. Instead of judging these patterns, I invite you to approach them with compassion and curiosity so you can begin making choices that are aligned with your truth rather than driven by fear.What You’ll LearnThe difference between seeking advice and trusting your own inner knowingHow the need for safety can keep you stuck in indecision and fear of making the wrong choiceWhy belonging and connection sometimes lead us to abandon our own truthHow a lack of validation can leave us searching for external approvalThe role autonomy and freedom play in setting boundaries and making aligned choicesWhy guilt isn't always a sign you're doing something wrongHow exhaustion and depletion can impact decision-making and self-trustSmall ways to honor your needs and strengthen self-trust every dayResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  113: You Don’t Need More Advice. You Need More Self-Trust. 29.05.2026 34min

  Self-trust is not about having all the answers or never feeling afraid. It’s about learning to stay connected to yourself while taking the next honest step forward.In this first episode of a special three-part series on self-trust, I explore why so many of us keep searching for more advice, more reassurance, and more opinions when deep down, we already know what feels true. I unpack the patterns of overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-doubt that pull us away from our own inner knowing. Old survival patterns can make even small decisions feel overwhelming, but self-trust is rebuilt one honest moment at a time, and I invite you to stop outsourcing your inner authority and begin reconnecting with your own truth.What You’ll LearnWhy overthinking and indecision are often rooted in fearThe difference between seeking support and seeking permissionHow old survival patterns can keep you disconnected from your own needsThe role self-forgiveness plays in rebuilding trust with yourselfHow to recognize when you already know what feels true for youWhat it means to take “the next honest step” instead of searching for the perfect answerResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  112: Finding Yourself Again After Childhood Trauma 22.05.2026 57min

  There are some wounds that change the course of a life, and some healing journeys that change it again. In this deeply vulnerable conversation, I sit down with author and memoirist Heather Conn to talk about surviving childhood incest, the long and layered process of healing, and the unexpected path that eventually led her toward forgiveness. Heather shares how years of therapy, body-based healing, creativity, meditation, writing, and spiritual practice helped her reconnect with herself after trauma disconnected her from her body, emotions, and relationships.Together, we talk about the difference between forgiveness and condoning harm, the complexity of family relationships, the courage it takes to tell the truth, and why healing is never linear. Heather also opens up about the backlash she received after publishing her memoir, “No Letter in Your Pocket,” and why she chose compassion anyway.Please take care of yourself as you move through this episode.What You’ll LearnWhy forgiveness is not the same thing as excusing harmHow compassion and accountability can coexistWhat “bearing witness” means in healing traumaThe impact of family silence and emotional suppressionWhat survivors should consider before telling or publishing their storyHow forgiveness helped Heather reclaim joy, peace, and self-understandingHeather will send a free copy of “No Letter in Your Pocket” to the first message she receives on her website! Visit: www.heatherconn.comGet your copy of “No Letter in Your Pocket”: https://www.amazon.com/Letter-Your-Pocket-Memoir-Biography/dp/177183787XFollow Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/SixStinkyFeetandaSasquatchConnect with Heather LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hconn/Watch "Journey to Forgiveness": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-Ukq86zVdoResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  111: Trying to Be the Mom You Didn’t Have – The Hidden Pressure No One Talks About 15.05.2026 27min

  So many women carry a quiet promise inside themselves: ‘I will be different from my mother.’ Maybe you grew up feeling unseen, emotionally alone, criticized, or responsible for everyone else’s feelings. And when you became a mother yourself, you vowed your children would never feel what you felt. But what happens when that promise turns into pressure?In this episode, I talk about the emotional weight of trying to be the mom you didn’t have and the exhaustion that comes from believing you have to get motherhood “right” in order to break the cycle. I share parts of my own story, the promises I made as a young mother, the wounds that followed me into parenting, and how fear and perfectionism can quietly shape the way we show up for our children. We also explore the role of the inner child, why motherhood can feel so emotionally intense when you’re still healing your own childhood wounds, and how repair, awareness, and self-forgiveness matter more than perfection ever will.What You’ll LearnWhy trying to be “different” from your mother can become another form of perfectionismHow childhood wounds can show up in your parenting reactions and relationshipsWhat it means to recognize when your inner child has been activatedWhy repair and honesty matter more than getting motherhood perfectHow fear can quietly drive even the most loving parenting choicesThe difference between conscious motherhood and perfect motherhoodWhy self-mothering and self-forgiveness are essential parts of healingResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  110: Why Mother Guilt Feels So Heavy – It’s Not Just About Parenting 08.05.2026 33min

  Mother guilt is something so many women carry, but rarely say out loud. In this episode, I talk about the kind of guilt that shows up in everyday moments. The guilt of not being present enough, patient enough, or doing enough. The guilt that lingers from the past and the pressure we place on ourselves in the present.But this conversation is not about judging yourself or trying to “just let it go.” It’s about understanding where that guilt comes from, separating it from shame, and beginning to meet yourself with more compassion.What You’ll LearnThe difference between guilt and shame and why it matters for healingWhy mother guilt feels so personal and tied to your sense of selfHow to identify what you actually feel guilty about without turning it into your identityWhat healthy repair looks like and when it is or isn’t possibleHow to stop punishing yourself and begin moving forward with more honesty and careResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  109: From “What If” to Self-Compassion After Pregnancy Loss 01.05.2026 1t

  There are losses we talk about, and then there are the ones we carry quietly. In this episode, I sit down with pregnancy loss coach Shruti Trivedi to talk about a kind of grief that so often goes unspoken. Pregnancy loss is something many experience, but few feel safe enough to fully process. What gets left behind is not just sadness, but guilt, shame, and the constant loop of “what if.”Shruti shares her own story of multiple losses and what it looked like to carry that grief silently for years. We talk about the emotional weight women hold, the pressure to move on, and the moment everything shifted when she finally allowed herself to be supported.This is a conversation about learning how to stop blaming yourself for things you were never meant to carry and finding a way to move forward without leaving your loss behind.What You’ll LearnWhy pregnancy loss often leads to intense guilt and self-blameHow “what if” thoughts keep women stuck in cycles of painHow silence can be more healing than saying the “right” thingWhy avoiding grief can resurface years later in unexpected waysHow to honor your loss while still moving forward with your lifeBook a complimentary 60-minute breakthrough call with Tulsi: https://calendly.com/shruzee/60min Connect with Shruti:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tulsihealslifecoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tulsiheals_life_coaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shruzee Substack: https://substack.com/@tulsihealslifecoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEuJzTER4Lz2u42KQIg2X9w LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/shruti-trivedi-pmp-acc-8793671a Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/tulsiheals_lifecoaching Blinq: https://blinq.me/AAcAILQ5QK3kxylXUp3S?bs=icl Resources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn
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  108: Why Receiving Feels So Hard (And How to Begin Allowing It) 24.04.2026 25min

  Giving comes naturally. Receiving does not.In this episode, I’m diving into why receiving can feel so uncomfortable, especially for high-achieving, high-functioning women who are used to being the ones who give, support, and hold everything together.This isn’t just about brushing off compliments. It shows up in your relationships, your work, your business, and even your ability to receive success, opportunities, and financial growth. Receiving requires vulnerability, and if your nervous system learned that it wasn’t safe to be seen, supported, or open, then of course receiving feels unfamiliar. But it isn’t something you earn, it’s something you learn to allow.What You’ll LearnWhy receiving feels uncomfortable (and what your nervous system has to do with it)How overgiving can actually block success, support, and recognitionThe connection between worthiness and your ability to receiveSmall, everyday ways to practice receiving without overwhelmHow to build a sense of safety around being seen, supported, and valuedResources:Your FREE Forgive Yourself resources: https://brendareisscoaching.com/resources/Are you struggling with a situation or a person in your life? Wondering if you are ready to work on forgiving yourself? Take our quiz to find out your emotional IQ and how this impacts your ability to forgive: https://archetype.brendareisscoaching.com/sf/357cdc60  Brenda’s Website/LinksWebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedIn