Sex Drunks

Jaksot

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  39. Do I need to hit a rock bottom? 14.09.2026 1t 47min

  Margie joins the conversation to talk about women in sex addiction recovery, breaking stigma, and the freedom she found after years of white-knuckling it. She shares how faith, vulnerability, and her husband’s steadfast support carried her through a devastating bottom, while J. reflects on surrender, marriage, and a God who knows how to get our attention. Plus: Jedi mind tricks, step-four warnings, ocean-sized egos, and one listener’s official approval of the crack joke.
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  38. I’m Not God, Bro 07.09.2026 1t 25min

  A fellow’s family crisis pushes the guys into a candid conversation about humility, marriage, boundaries, and the limits of recovery advice. J. shares what years of rebuilding trust looked like, while an awkward downstairs neighbor raises the question of what it actually means to 12-step someone. Then things loosen up with a misguided attempt to sponsor women, accusations that recovery is a cult, and red cards at a cross-talk meeting.
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  37. Breaking anonymity 31.08.2026 58min

  A dream studio and a ChatGPT detour into hyperfixation lead to a bigger question: how do you share recovery stories without exposing someone else? J. and his co-host unpack silent meeting regulars, awkward public run-ins, and why “men’s group” is a dangerously flimsy wedding cover story. Plus, they unveil a wildly unethical sobriety-based Patreon and accidentally pray the wrong prayer.
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  36. Don’t light the fuse 18.08.2026 2t 6min

  R.C. joins Pasha and J. to unpack 14 years of searching for recovery, the “first drink” of lust, and why changing the recipe can change the result. They get into sobriety definitions, the Big Book versus the White Book, healthy intimacy, and letting go of the need to fix everyone else. Along the way, football tension flares and “bro” and “dude” become a very non-alcoholic drinking game.P.S. The email that R.C. gave in the episode was incorrect. If you would like to reach out to him you can do so at [email protected]
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  35. My way or the highway 10.08.2026 1t 34min

  Ash joins J. and Pasha to talk about quitting playing God, loosening the grip on “the right way,” and finding a more honest kind of recovery. Along the way, they unpack people-pleasing, sponsorship, character defects, and the difference between pointing to a book and pointing to God. Plus: yogurt on the microphone, merino wool obsessions, and a long-awaited disagreement that refuses to happen.
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  34. It may not work for you 05.08.2026 1t 27min

  J. and Pasha wrestle with what message to carry: the book’s instructions, personal experience, or sometimes nothing at all. Along the way, a vanished beard, a possibly familiar barber, and a ten-minute limit on complaining keep things lively. It’s a candid conversation about meetings, sponsorship, humility, and helping people without trying to control them.
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  33. We Had to Learn to Like Each Other Again 30.07.2026 1t 36min

  Matt and Carriss D join J. and Pasha to unpack betrayal, relentless snooping, reclaiming a voice, and the hard work of staying on your own side of the street. Along the way, a timeshare pitch becomes a marriage, an app tracks someone else’s sobriety, and Matt repeatedly tests the podcast’s profanity—and bathroom—limits. It’s a candid look at how two recovery programs helped them move from mutual damage toward kindness, respect, and actually liking each other again.
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  32. Save it for your sponsor (Denver) 28.07.2026 1t 14min

  Laura joins Pasha and J. to wrestle with healthy meeting shares, graphic details, newcomer safety, and what real inclusion looks like for women. Along the way, they debate first steps, unpack the difference between surrendering and reliving lust, and find laughter to be a surprisingly good antidote to shame. Expect plenty of cliff-bound detours, rebellious recovery, and one increasingly urgent need for lunch.
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  31. Sober Dating, Future Tripping (Denver) 24.07.2026 52min

  Ethan joins J. and Pasha to talk daily sobriety renewals, romantic fantasy, and why he waited a year before dating. They get real about disclosing sex addiction on a third date, making a partner your higher power, and building a relationship on honest ground—then veer into 20-push-up delusions, tall-guy energy, and the need for a go-kart sponsor.
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  30. 24 Years, Give or Take 12 (Denver) 23.07.2026 1t 10min

  Susie joins J. and Pasha at the Denver convention to talk fellowship, service, and the very strange math of reclaiming a sobriety date after years of calling it something else. They get into slips, powerlessness, flirting with roller skates on, disclosure in marriage, and what it actually takes for women to feel welcome and safe in SA meetings. Plus: Vietnam listeners, Pasha as the fellowship punching bag, baby-monitor excuses, the Women’s Welcome Packet, and one surprisingly practical question about parking lots.
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  29. Secrets, shame, and a snow-covered dumpster (Denver) 21.07.2026 1t 9min

  Ezra joins J. and Pasha after getting pulled into the podcast basically by accident, then somehow ends up telling a full recovery story from newspaper clippings and secret emails to scary basements, Israel meetings, relapse lessons, and three months sober. They get into rigid recovery vs. letting things flow, why service can work even when nobody understands why, and how shame starts losing power when you just say the thing out loud. Plus: roasting Pasha as a spiritual practice, Vietnam fame, sponsor-with-benefits confusion, memory cards, and one very serious question about whether God’s plan includes shoveling snow off a dumpster.
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  28. I met God at the car dealership 13.07.2026 1t 35min

  J. and Pasha start with a mysterious spike of Vietnam listeners and a plan for Denver convention episodes before landing in the very spiritual battlefield of car dealerships, amends, and not buying a car out of guilt. They get into why receiving an amend can feel awkward, how recovery changes conflict, and what it means to see another person as human instead of just “the guy trying to sell me stuff.” Plus: Chick-fil-A manipulation, the man in the headphones, Pasha’s gangster photo, and the strange gift of not letting your pain go to waste.
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  27. I love lust 07.07.2026 1t 36min

  J and Pasha get patriotic before diving into progressive victory over lust, relapse shame, and whether a reset means starting over or just getting back on the path. They get into five-second fantasies, “thank you God” moments in Safeway, inconveniently helpful honesty, and why God probably isn’t going to pry lust out of your clenched little hand. Plus: I Love Lust t-shirts, half-caff scheming in rehab, video games as a portal to everything else, and Pasha's very spiritual refusal to put a poop bag on Pumba’s leash.
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  26. I Am Weak 29.06.2026 1t 5min

  J and Pasha record from a not-so-private Mount Rainier lodge and somehow turn whispering, staff members, and “no sexaholics in the national park” into a conversation about weakness, ego deflation, and letting God in through brokenness. They get into The Spirituality of Imperfection, Paul’s thorn in the flesh, service work gone sideways, making amends, and why sometimes the thing we hate most is exactly where recovery starts. Plus: Pasha's sponsor is catching up on old episodes, and Pasha may or may not be hiding under a table.
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  25. Sex drunk in Armenia 15.06.2026 1t 25min

  Pasha gets back from Armenia with stories about Yerevan, Russian-speaking SA, jazz clubs, and a hostel grandma who apparently knows how to make a goodbye way too intimate. J and Pasha also get into bookending, casual lusting, spiritual fitness, and why connecting with God and using the actual tools might have to be a both-and thing. Plus: chewing ice cream, the Russian slip, Pumba sniffing out the truth, and negative self-talk as a very questionable recovery strategy.
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  24. Dumb phones and disclosures 01.06.2026 1t 4min

  JP get into digital minimalism, dumb phones, and the weird shame spiral of choosing AI music over replying to a prison sponsee. They also wade into disclosure in marriage, whether lusting after your own wife is still lust, and why “mindful masturbation” might be the clearest sign you’re in the wrong room. Plus: listening to the podcast on half speed, protecting Pasha’s ego, nuclear-bomb honesty, and the terrifying moment when meetings start feeling boring.
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  23. DSRs and temper tantrums 18.05.2026 1t 11min

  J&P get into whether staying busy actually helps recovery, why DSRs can feel both useful and completely maddening, and what it means to tell on yourself before your ego gets too comfortable. They also talk forgiveness as a choice, resentment as poison, and Jonathan’s very real temper tantrum over a nursery footstool. Plus: cinematic addicts, Taco Bell burrito trauma, The Power of Now, and the deeply spiritual struggle of not saying the closing catchphrase.
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  22. Can exposure therapy help? 11.05.2026 1t 8min

  Pasha comes back from a work conference tired, rattled, and with one painfully awkward problem: what do you say when a coworker asks for your secret podcast? He and Jonathan get into conferences as a minefield, the weird buildup from a thousand little looks, and why bookending might be the most practical tool they’ve found for staying sane in the wild. Also: the guy who read "lusted perverts," one very reluctant meeting chair, and a Russian Serenity Prayer to close it out.
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  21. Predators, monsters and perverts 30.04.2026 1t 7min

  Jonathan and Pasha recap the Sumas retreat, from the very specific chaos of trying to save a variety show with almost no acts to Jonathan leaving early to get home to his wife and screaming baby. They get into recruiting people off the trail, Pasha's red-bandana intimidation strategy, and why Mike K and Thomas completely stole the show with their fake phone-coordinator bit. They also talk about the weird freedom of being around people who already know your worst stuff, what happens when guys keep relapsing, and why hearing "go to God" can still be maddening when you want actual instructions.
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  20. Free to be me (Sumas retreat) 22.04.2026 54min

  Kent joins Pasha and Jonathan at the Sumas retreat to talk about being openly gay in SA, why he tells guys to get sober first and sort out the rest later, and how recovery changed the way he sees his wife and their marriage. They get into early-recovery anger, saying the Serenity Prayer in Home Depot, what it was like for Kent to walk into a room full of men, and the tension around who feels welcome in the fellowship. Kent also shares some great stories about working with David Maynard, including the simple rule that told you whether he was really your sponsor: call every day.