Be Real with JoDee

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  when they won’t add you to the group chat… 25.09.2026 7min

  Send me a message!! What do you do when you’re not invited, added to the group chat, or included in the plans? Instead of spending all your energy trying to get people to choose you, what if you took your power back? Start your own group chat. Make your own plans. Invite someone else. Look around for people who might need a friend. You might meet some of your best friends when you stop chasing the people who aren’t choosing you. You get to decide what it means when someone doesn’t pick you. I...
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  Wait… should I be embarrassed? 04.09.2026 8min

  Send me a message!! Have you ever had someone say something that made you suddenly question yourself? One comment can send your brain into a spiral: “Was I embarrassing? Did I do something wrong? What do they think of me?” That happened to me recently, and it reminded me of something I teach all the time: someone else’s opinion is not a fact about you. In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, how my brain reacted, and how I had to remind myself that I get to decide what I make someone else...
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  the confidence secret nobody teaches teenagers 28.08.2026 10min

  Send me a message!! What if confidence isn’t something you’re born with… but something you build? In this episode, JoDee breaks down the surprising connection between confidence, identity, and knowing who you are. She shares research involving hundreds of teenagers that found something fascinating: helping teens connect with their personal values and identity can actually help protect their self-esteem. You’ll learn why trying to look confident isn’t the same as actually feeling confident, ho...
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  done is better than perfect! 21.08.2026 9min

  Send me a message!! Done Is Better Than Perfect Do you ever get so stuck trying to make something perfect that you end up not doing it at all? Maybe you keep rewriting the assignment, overthinking the text, waiting until you feel ready, or telling yourself you’ll start when you can do it “right.” In this episode, we’re talking about perfectionism and how the need to get everything just right can actually keep you stuck. I’ll show you how to recognize all-or-nothing thinking, calm yourself dow...
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  I am too anxious at school.. what do I do? 31.07.2026 16min

  Send me a message!! Have you ever been at school and thought, “I literally cannot do this. I need to go home”? If you have, this episode is for you. I’m talking about something I see with teens all the time: the anxiety → escape → relief cycle. You feel anxious. You leave. You feel better. So your brain learns, “Leaving worked!” But then the next time you’re anxious, your brain wants to escape even faster. I share the story of a girl I worked with who was leaving school almost eve...
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  what if it all works out? 09.07.2026 11min

  Send me a message!! What if the thing holding you back isn’t that you’re not capable… but that you’ve already decided how it’s going to turn out? In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between optimism and pessimism and why being pessimistic can feel like you’re just being “realistic” or protecting yourself, when sometimes it’s actually keeping you from trying, growing, and staying in the game. As you head into a new school year, this matters. Maybe your schedule isn’t what you h...
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  how to feel more confident THIS week 14.06.2026 13min

  Send me a message!! Do you ever feel like everyone else is naturally confident except you? In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths about confidence: that some people are just born with it. The truth is confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill you build. We’ll talk about why confident people still feel nervous, why waiting to feel ready keeps you stuck, and how confidence actually comes after you take action, not before. I’ll also give you a simple challenge...
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  if you are dreading going to summer camp… 31.05.2026 17min

  Send me a message!! Dreading camp this summer?Thinking: “It’s going to be boring.” “I won’t know anyone.” “What if I don’t fit in?” In this week’s episode of Be Real with JoDee, I’m sharing simple confidence hacks to help you survive camp, make friends, handle homesickness, and actually enjoy yourself even if you don’t want to go. Because confidence isn’t feeling comfortable. Confidence is being willing to feel uncomfortable and still participate in your life. An...
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  social anxiety hack 08.05.2026 9min

  Send me a message!! Do you ever walk into a room and immediately start thinking: “Say something.” “Don’t be awkward.” “Be more social.” And then suddenly your mind goes blank? In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re talking about why forcing yourself to “be social” actually creates more anxiety and overthinking. I’ll teach you a simple mindset shift that helps calm your nervous system, stop the pressure, and make conversations feel more natural. One of the biggest confidence mistak...
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  your brain is lying to you (and you are believing it) 25.04.2026 12min

  Send me a message!! What if the reason you feel stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed… isn’t because your goal is too hard? In this episode, I’m breaking down something that will change the way you see your brain forever: Your brain doesn’t care what’s true. It believes whatever you repeat. So if you keep thinking “I can’t do this” or “this is too hard,” your brain will accept that as fact and you’ll start showing up like it’s true. That’s why you procrastinate. That’s why yo...
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  why you don’t feel confident trying something new 10.04.2026 16min

  Send me a message!! What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you lack confidence… but because you’re relying on the wrong kind? In this episode, we break down the difference between confidence and self-confidence and why it matters more than you think. Confidence comes from your past. It’s built by doing something over and over again until you trust you can do it. But self-confidence? That’s something completely different. Self-confidence is deciding ahead of time: “I’ve got ...
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  how confident people have difficult conversations 07.04.2026 9min

  Send me a message!! In this episode, we’re talking about something that feels SO hard …having difficult conversations. It can feel like you only have two options: stay quiet and people-please… or speak up and risk hurting someone or starting a fight. But what if that’s not actually true? What if the real question isn’t “Do I be nice or do I be honest?” What if the question is: “How can I be kind and honest?” In this episode, I’ll teach you: Why people-pleasing keeps you stuck (and a...
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  how to actually FEEL confident 22.03.2026 31min

  Send me a message!! I’m taking you inside a real talk I gave to a club volleyball team, where we got into confidence, anxiety, pressure, and what to do with all the thoughts in your head. But here’s the thing this isn’t just about sports. Everything I teach in this talk applies to school, friendships, performance, and just being a teenager trying to figure life out. If you’ve ever felt nervous, not good enough, or stuck in your own head… this episode will change how you see yourself. ...
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  you don’t have to be who you were 5 minutes ago 13.03.2026 13min

  Send me a message!! You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago. In this episode, we talk about how the labels you give yourself shape your identity and how you can choose new thoughts, new actions, and become the person you want to be starting today.
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  why being a “try hard” is actually cool 08.03.2026 11min

  Send me a message!! In middle school and high school, one of the worst things someone can call you is a “tryhard.” Like somehow caring about school, sports, or your goals is embarrassing. But what if that idea is completely backwards? In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about why trying hard is actually one of the coolest and bravest things you can do. JoDee shares a story about Victor Wembanyama crying after a regular season basketball game because he cared that much about doi...
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  how to stop judging yourself and everyone else 20.02.2026 12min

  Send me a message!! The way you talk to yourself is the same energy you bring to other people. Let’s learn how self-compassion changes everything.
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  stop telling yourself you HAVE to do things and try this one question instead 06.02.2026 9min

  Send me a message!! Ever notice how the second you tell yourself “I should do this” or “I have to do that,” you suddenly feel tired, annoyed, or totally unmotivated? In this episode, we talk about why pressure and guilt actually shut your brain down and why that doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated. You’ll learn a simple question you can ask yourself that helps your brain calm down and be willing to try.
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  the lies your brain tells you 16.01.2026 13min

  Send me a message!! If you’ve ever walked into school feeling like no one likes you or you don’t fit in, this episode is for you. Your brain isn’t telling you the truth. It’s just trying to keep you safe based on what’s happened before. Your brain looks for evidence that matches what you already believe. So if you believe you don’t have friends, it will notice every time someone doesn’t talk to you and ignore all the moments that don’t match that story. Then you pull back, stop engaging, an...
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  this is how you actually change 09.01.2026 9min

  Send me a message!! What if you didn’t have to hate yourself into becoming better? So many of us think that shaming ourselves, replaying past mistakes, or calling ourselves lazy or a procrastinator will finally motivate us. But it doesn’t. It just keeps us stuck and feeling embarrassed, discouraged. In this episode, we talk about why your past choices don’t define you, why self-criticism doesn’t create growth, and how compassion actually moves you forward. You’ll learn how to stop reli...
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  stop telling yourself you are stressed (especially during finals) 13.12.2025 7min

  Send me a message!! Finals week hits and suddenly your brain is yelling, “I’m stressed, I’m overwhelmed, I have too much to do!” And then… you don’t actually do anything. In this episode, I break down why telling yourself you’re stressed actually makes finals harder, not easier and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling, calm your nervous system, and still show up and do your best without burning out. We’ll talk about: •Why “I’m so stressed” keeps you stuck •How to separat...