The Sex After Kids Podcast

Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think 30.06.2026 23min

Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids. This conversation explores: why desire can “go underground”how women are taught to manage men’s emotionsthe connection between boundaries, sexuality, and emotional safetyhow pressure and shutdown cycles developwhy suppressing sexuality doesn’t actually sol...

Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal) 23.06.2026 16min

Send us Fan Mail What does real intimacy after kids actually look like? In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversations that almost made us stop halfway through intimacy. Because real s*x after kids doesn’t always look effortless or spontaneous. Sometimes it looks like: • feeling unsure • struggling to get “in the mood” • hitting pause • communicating th...

The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids 16.06.2026 25min

Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, I break down the **4 biggest traps keeping good men stuck...

You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids 09.06.2026 23min

Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting sx after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kidsThe “over-needed” nervous systemWhy pressure kills intimacyHow parenting overload impacts s*x driveThe hidden ways people avoid intima...

5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x) 26.05.2026 14min

Send us Fan Mail If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you. This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your sx life after kids — that have nothing to do with sx. Because for most couples, it’s not about desire, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about the patterns that build distance without you even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about: Why waiting for desire to come back often makes things worseHow becoming your partner’s ...

Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will) 19.05.2026 21min

Send us Fan Mail You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck? If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why therapy doesn’t always fix intimacyThe real reason your sex life still feels off (even if you’re trying)Why intimacy isn’t automatic—and what actuall...

What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think) 12.05.2026 15min

Send us Fan Mail What actually changes when couples fix their sex life? It’s not just more sex. It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down the real shifts couples experience when they rebuild intimacy—without pressure, awkwardness, or constant conflict. This is not the “everything is fixed overnight” version. This is what actually changes in real life. Inside this episode: How couples start ...

Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It) 05.05.2026 21min

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other? Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why intimacy changes after kidsThe real reason sex starts to feel complicated or avoidedThe pressure/shutdown dynamic that keeps couples stuckWhy trying harder often makes things worseHow to rebuild connecti...

What Couples with Great Sex Lives Do Differently 28.04.2026 16min

Send us Fan Mail Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover playful, connected intimacy, no matter how busy life gets. We'll talk about radical curiosity, honest feedback, the power of laughter, quick repairs after tough moments, and how to protect your intimacy bubble—even when little ones are...

Why am I avoiding sex after kids? 21.04.2026 22min

Send us Fan Mail This is a love letter for anyone who's lost touch with desire and feels the weight of expectation after kids. I know what it's like to feel shut down and alone in your relationship. You don't want sex, you don't know why and everytime he asks it feels like he’s making it a personal failure on your part. In this episode, I unpack the truth behind "not tonight," why it's not your fault, and how to rebuild intimacy one step at a time. Let's start a real conversation—comment belo...

The Silent Reversal: When You're the One Wanting More (And He Doesn't) 14.04.2026 22min

Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself wanting intimacy more than your husband—and wondering what changed after kids? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about the real reasons behind this shift, why "trying harder" isn’t working, and how to start changing the dynamic in your marriage without losing yourself. If you're ready to break out of the cycle and reconnect without the pressure, join me for my masterclass, The Pressure Free Protocol. You'll get practical steps to help you feel ...

It's Not Your Libido—It's Your Relationship to Pleasure (Why Desire Disappears) 07.04.2026 17min

Send us Fan Mail "I just don't care about sex anymore." If that thought has crossed your mind, you're not alone—and it might not be about libido at all. In this episode, we explore how pleasure often disappears from everyday life (especially for parents), and why that has a direct impact on desire. We talk about stress, caretaker mode, and how reconnecting with small moments of enjoyment can start to bring desire back—without pressure or performance. If you want a simple place to start, check...

The Myth of Natural Sex: Why Great Sex Is Actually a Social Skill 31.03.2026 14min

Send us Fan Mail Most couples are walking into their sex life with the same quiet assumption: If the relationship is good... And if there's love and attraction...Then sex should just work. And when it doesn't? It's easy to believe something is wrong—with you, your partner, or the relationship itself. In this episode, we challenge that belief completely. Because great sex isn't something you either "have" or you don't. It's a skill. And like any skill, it can be learned. We explore: Why the id...

The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life 24.03.2026 17min

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it? In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself during intimate moments instead of being present in your body. If you've ever found yourself thinking things like "What do I do with my hands?" or "Do I look weird right now?" you're not alone. These thoughts are incredibly common, and they can...

How to Rebuild Sexual Desire: The Positive Feedback Loop of Great Sex 17.03.2026 16min

Send us Fan Mail What if rebuilding sexual desire wasn't about trying harder — but about changing the experiences your body associates with sex? In this episode, we explore the concept of the positive feedback loop of great sex and how your nervous system plays a powerful role in whether intimacy feels inviting or overwhelming. When sexual experiences feel safe, pleasurable, and connected, your body begins to associate sex with positive outcomes — making desire easier and more natural over ti...

[RETRO] Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to My Signature Program! 10.03.2026 28min

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated? Many couples fall into a quiet pattern after becoming parents: one partner keeps initiating, the other starts avoiding, and both end up feeling rejected, pressured, or disconnected. Over time flirting disappears, intimacy becomes tense, and sex slowly fades out of the relationship. In this throwback episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we unpack one of the most common dynamics couples experience after kids: the initiate–...

[RETRO EPISODE] 5 Ways Shitty Sex-ed is Messing With Your Sex Life Post Kids 03.03.2026 34min

Send us Fan Mail In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being. Go from not tonight to let's stay up late for less than a latte. S...

Stop Fumbling in the Dark: Sex After Kids & Perimenopause (Low Desire, Arousal Changes & Intimacy After Kids) 24.02.2026 20min

Send us Fan Mail If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken. Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenopause and after having children. But most couples aren't taught how intimacy changes during this stage of life — so they assume something is wrong with the relationship. In this episode, we talk about what's actually happening with desire, aro...

How to Want Sex Again in Perimenopause — Without Forcing Yourself 17.02.2026 28min

Send us Fan Mail If sex feels like a chore in your 40s or 50s, you're not broken. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we're unpacking why desire disappears during perimenopause — even when love hasn't — and how to reconnect with intimacy without pushing through pain or guilt. You'll learn: How hormone shifts impact desire, arousal, and lubricationWhy stress and mental load can shut pleasure downThe "stress-sex loop" that makes everything harder (literally and emotionally)How orgasm...

What Really Changes "Down There" After Childbirth and Menopause 10.02.2026 18min

Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel different after having kids — or in perimenopause and midlife? Flatter, harder, painful, or just... off? You're not broken. And your body isn't failing you. In this episode, we talk about what actually happens to your body, brain, and nervous system after childbirth, postpartum, and hormonal shifts — and how to start rebuilding intimacy, even if things feel disconnected. You'll learn: Why most of us never learned how our pleasure actually worksWhat changes p...