Must In-Laws Be Outlaws?

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  Autism, ADHD and Family Dynamics: Part 2 Neurodiversity in Relationships 22.07.2026 32min

  Part 2 of our first ever LIVE podcast, we welcome guests: Spencer Pusey, 34 years old, autistic decoration specialist at Spectrum Designs, and a Port Washington native, and Kelli Fisher, 37 years old, autistic social media manager at Spectrum Designs.Spectrum Designs is a nonprofit social enterprise that creates custom apparel and promotional products while providing meaningful employment opportunities for autistic adults and others with disabilities. Their mission is to prove that inclusion isn't charity—it's good business. Every order supports a workplace where neurodivergent employees earn competitive wages, build careers, and showcase their talents while delivering high-quality products to businesses and organizations nationwide.The topic is Neurodiversity in Relationships: Understanding ADHD and Autism. We are honored to be joined by the incredible team from Spectrum Designs, Kelli Fisher and Spencer Pusey, who are helping us better understand autism and showing what's possible when people are valued for their unique strengths.This topic is deeply personal to our family. Our close family members have ADHD and it's taught us that understanding how someone is wired can transform a relationship. Together with our special guests from Spectrum Designs and teen, Riley Bloomgarden, who shares her own personal experience with ADHD we will discuss:How differently wired brains experience the worldCommon communication misunderstandingsLeading with curiosity instead of judgement
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  Autism, ADHD and Family Dynamics: Part 1 on Neurodiversity in Relationships 15.07.2026 33min

  On our first ever LIVE podcast, we welcome guests: Spencer Pusey, 34 years old, autistic decoration specialist at Spectrum Designs, and a Port Washington native, and Kelli Fisher, 37 years old, autistic social media manager at Spectrum Designs.Spectrum Designs is a nonprofit social enterprise that creates custom apparel and promotional products while providing meaningful employment opportunities for autistic adults and others with disabilities. Their mission is to prove that inclusion isn't charity—it's good business. Every order supports a workplace where neurodivergent employees earn competitive wages, build careers, and showcase their talents while delivering high-quality products to businesses and organizations nationwide.The topic is Neurodiversity in Relationships: Understanding ADHD and Autism. We are honored to be joined by the incredible team from Spectrum Designs, Kelli Fisher and Spencer Pusey, who are helping us better understand autism and showing what's possible when people are valued for their unique strengths.This topic is deeply personal to our family. Our close family members have ADHD and it's taught us that understanding how someone is wired can transform a relationship. Together with our special guests from Spectrum Designs and teen, Riley Bloomgarden, who shares her own personal experience with ADHD we will discuss:How differently wired brains experience the worldCommon communication misunderstandingsLeading with curiosity instead of judgementHow to create community in all relationships and the workforce
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  The Conversation We All Need to Have About Aging Parents 24.06.2026 33min

  What happens when the people who once cared for us begin navigating their own vulnerabilities? In this candid discussion, Lucette, just weeks away from turning 84, shares her perspective on aging, purpose, family, and the future. Together we explore the emotional landscape of growing older and what adult children can learn by asking the questions that matter most.
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  The Relationship Killer Nobody Talks About 17.06.2026 31min

  In this episode, we investigate the question "Am I defending who I think I am, or am I becoming who I could be?" How fixed mindsets keep us stuck and what happens if we choose growth?If you have to spend extended time this summer with a family member who is locked in their view point. This episode is for you. We offer tips to understand how to communicate best with the ones we love, even if they think "That's just who I am" or "They'll never change."Take away tips.Even if you don't agree, ask questions as to what their viewpoint is. People sometimes just want to be heard.Set boundaries before time spent (and do it with humor) "I'm on a no politics diet this summer"Create a signal so that those you are traveling with you can help divert attention if a conversation gets too heated.
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  The Secret to Stronger Relationships? Stop Trying to Win 10.06.2026 33min

  What can one of the world's most celebrated event planners teach us about relationships? This week, legendary event planner David Monn joins Cathy and Lucette to share wisdom gained from producing hundreds of weddings and navigating the emotions that come with bringing families together. From weddings to everyday life David reminds us that compromise ins't giving something up- it's choosing something else. And... what if being the bigger person isn't losing yourself - but expanding your capacity to love? And... weddings are not just about creating a beautiful day - they are about creating the foundation for a beautiful family. Together they discuss: *Why managing expectations matters. *How we are never just "I" - we become part of a much bigger "We". *The changing role of modern grooms and their families *How inclusion - not perfection- is what people remember. David's advice to every bride: Trust that you will be the most important person on your wedding day. Then be the bigger person and make sure everyone feels like they belong. Tune in to find out how you can build even more meaningful connections.
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  Could Your Anxiety Be Inherited? 27.05.2026 28min

  Guest Macha Einbender, Family Constellation Facilitator, joins us for a fascinating conversation about inherited family patterns, emotional conditioning, and the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships and health. From "white coat syndrome" to generational anxiety, we explore how behaviors, fears, coping mechanisms and even emotional responses can be passed down through family systems - just like eye color. On this episode Lucette, Cathy and Macha explore what becomes possible when awareness replaces reaction- and that we can learn to "drop the struggle." At the core of it all is a universal human truth: we are all deeply thirsty to be loved, seen and to belong. We also share our Must In-Laws Be Outlaws relationship tips - the four practical relationship tools that can transform communication and connection: 1. Respect 2. Act instead of react 3. Ask yourself: Is this result what I really want? 4. Repair
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  Blood vs. Belonging: Does Loyalty to Mom Leave Room for Other Mother Figures 14.05.2026 30min

  Guest Loren Heuschkel Guidance Counsellor & High School English teacher explains allegiance to one's mom starts young, but there is room for everyone. And, one trait to be a great mother-in-law is inclusivity and unconditional love.Allegiance To One's Mom Starts Young, But Does Blood Have To Be Thicker Than Water? In this episode we break down the step-mother/ mother-in-law stereotypes and the guilt that may come from choosing one over the other. In addition we hear how about the traits of a wonderful mother-in-law relationship!
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  What does a successful relationship look like? What is a good in-law? Episode 8 06.05.2026 23min

  What is a good in-law? How does a mother become a good mother-in-law? How do we choose to grow despite friction? We offer tools we use in our own relationships that have healed our differences.
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  Guest Joan Falk, Ph.D. Managing Stress and the Mother-In-Law Relationship 29.04.2026 24min

  Guest Joan Falk, Ph.D. - Clinical Psychologist breaks down stress management and the Mother In-Law relationship. How to deal with different communication styles, advice for troubled relationships and learning to approach relationships as "this is the job you want to keep". Advice- get to know your Mother-In-Law and understand it's ok to question advice with gentle curiosity.
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  How do you handle strong emotion towards someone and we open up the M-I-L Hotline 22.04.2026 29min

  As mother-in-law and daughter-in-law we did not always get along, but now we are the closest of friends. Together we tackle relationship situations that everyone seems to face. On today's episode we discuss how to handle strong emotion towards someone and answer a "hotline call" where a mother-in-law is hijacking a high school graduation celebration. Tune in. Rate. Share with Friends.
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  Navigating Family Vacations... Must In-Laws Be Outlaws Go on a Cruise 15.04.2026 23min

  13 Family Members. One Cruise. No Escape. How do families survive the high seas? Sometimes staying calm is not about the ocean... it's about how you navigate each other.Tune in to find out tips on how to handle your next family gathering!
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  Boundary or Blessing? When Your Mother-in-Law Takes Over the House 25.03.2026 21min

  When a mother-in-law comes over and begins rearranging furniture, it can feel intrusive, or even disrespectful- even if her intentions are good. Only you can decide how important this issue truly is: sometime letting small things go can preserve harmony, but when it affects your sense of family independence in your own home, it's important to set gentle but clear boundaries.We discuss the root cause of why this may feel so deeply insulting or is it a blessing?Lean in as the mother-in-law and daughter duo, Cathy and Lucette, discuss difficult relationship situations and how it can inspire you too.
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  In a longterm relationship, how do we avoid falling back into old patterns? 18.03.2026 25min

  When you live together (and sometimes even work together) it is easy to fall into a routine. We discuss how we keep relationships fresh and inquire how that helps around stressful times like the holidays.
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  How Do You Take The High Road? 11.03.2026 24min

  Lean in as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law duo, Lucette and Cathy Bloomgarden, discuss taking the high road. This doesn't mean staying silent or pretending you are not hurt. It means choosing self-respect over reaction, responding with clarity instead of anger, and remembering that protecting your peace is more powerful than winning the argument. This isn't about letting someone walk all over you- it's about how to choose wisdom over ego.Follow @mustinlawsbeoutlaws on instagram for more nuggets on unlocking the power of partnership: How In-Laws Become Allies
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  Episode 1: Do In-Laws Have To Be Outlaws? We were, at first... 03.03.2026 27min

  Meet Mother in Law Lucette Bloomgarden and Daughter in Law Cathy Riva Bloomgarden as they navigate tough relationship experiences to become good friends and how you can too.
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  Who Knew We Were So Alike? Get to Know the Co-hosts: Bonus Content 03.06.2026 4min

  In this special "Get to Know the Hosts" bonus content of "Must In-Laws Be Outlaws?", Cathy and Lucette turn the tables and ask each other some revealing questions. What would people be surprised to learn about us? What do we protect most fiercely? Where do we put up shields? To our surprise, we discovered we share more than just 136 years of wisdom- we are both deeply curious people who crave meaningful conversations and genuinely love bringing people together. Whether it is a heartfelt one-on-one chat or energizing a high-capacity room of strangers, connection is what lights us up. Maybe one of the talking points in a future episode should be - How do we focus on the positive aspects of what mothers-in-law and daughters-in law both have in common? What do you think? Do you have more in common with your mother-in-law than you might expect? Let us know in the comments!
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  Tone Takes A Toll : Bonus Content 21.05.2026

  From Must In-Laws Be Outlaws - Episode 2People don't realize HOW much tone affects relationshipsEspecially in familiesEspecially when nobody feels heardSometimes it's not the words that hurt us the most... it's the tone. Once tense conversation can shift the entire energy of a family.What if the real skill isn't winning the argument, but learning how to stay connected while communicating it honestly?Obviously we are still learning, but follow along as we navigate communication, misunderstandings, and finding your center in chaos.
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  How Do You Handle Stress: Bonus Content 01.07.2026 1min

  Bonus Content - A conversation on stress and how Lucette and Cathy each have their own strategy.
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  Trailer for Must In-Laws Be Outlaws? 03.03.2026 1min

  Promotional Trailer for Podcast Must In Laws Be Outlaws? The podcast where two women, a mother in law and daughter in law, navigate a rocky relationship to become unlikely friends.