Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan

Epizode

• Why aren’t men making effort in dating RN? 16.07.2026 33min

  We all know that dating is in the pits RN — we’re burned out from the apps, frustrated by convos that go nowhere, and tired of bad first dates. Too often, it feels like we’re giving a lot and getting, well, not much back.  Lately, this feels especially true for those of us who date men. You’ve only got to look at this season of Love Island to see the serious lack of effort the boys are putting into — in villa terms — grafting the girls, and we’re seeing this IRL too. From lazy dates and slow replies to a serious dearth of question-asking, we’re enduring an epidemic of low-effort men. Ringing true for you? This week, Millie and Clare are asking why men seem to be making such little effort in dating right now. Is it really gendered, or just a general modern dating thing? And, either way, what the hell can we do about it? Comment on the episode or on our socials @CosmopolitanUK with your opinions. Plus, got another topic you’d like Millie and Clare to dive into? Let us know… we’re providing a public service here, people!
• Introducing: Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan 16.07.2026

  Welcome to our brand new sex and relationships podcast, Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan, hosted by Love Island legend Millie Court and Cosmo’s very own Clare Stephenson. It’s your weekly dose of girl talk on the weird, wonderful, and, frankly, sometimes bleak things happening in the world of romance today. Every Thursday, we’ll be posing one big, chaotic, culturally-relevant question — from the trivial to the existential — and unpacking it with the help of our cover stars, celebrity friends of the pod, the Cosmo team, relationship experts, and you! That’s right, we want to hear about your dating highs and lows and find out what burning questions you want us to tackle each week. So, keep an eye on our socials @CosmopolitanUK for polls, questions, and chances to join in with the action.