She Is Here™

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  Starting Again in Your 40s: It Can Be More Colourful Than You Think 06.08.2026 32min

  If you’ve been struggling with the path you’re currently on, or worrying that it’s too late to change careers or create a different kind of life, I encourage you to listen to Michelle’s inspiring story of starting over in her forties. Now a colour analyst and stylist, Michelle shares how she reinvented herself in ways she could never have foreseen, along with what helped her navigate the uncertainty and gradually move towards a life that felt more like her own. We also talk about how to begin...
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  Lonely in a Room Full of People: Why You Feel Alone Even When You’re Not 17.02.2026 13min

  Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”? In this episode, I talk about my time working with ITV on their Dance Away Loneliness campaign and explore why loneliness isn’t always about the absence of people, but the absence of emotional safety. You’ll learn how people-pleasing, masking, and nervous system survival responses can create a sense of disconnection - where you’re present on the outside, but unseen on the inside.&nb...
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  Why People Call You ‘Too Sensitive’ (and why they're wrong) - a spoken word poem 27.01.2026 1min

  If you’ve ever wondered “why do people call me too sensitive?” or questioned whether your feelings are “too much”, this spoken word piece is for you. I explore how sensitivity gets misunderstood, how shame gets attached to it, and why sensitivity isn’t the problem - the meaning assigned to it is. This episode is for the deep-feelers, the ones who swallow their reactions to keep the peace, and the ones who were never given space to feel. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts a...
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  Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety) 20.01.2026 12min

  Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how demonstrates the importance of nervous system safety. This episode covers: • why we overthink texts and and replay social interactions • how ambiguity becomes threat for a dysregulated nervous s...
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  What I Actually Mean by ‘Safe Enough to Be Seen’ (and Why It’s Not About Confidence) 13.01.2026 24min

  In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen” because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to speak louder. We hear the word safety everywhere now, especially in conversations about visibility, boundaries, relationships, and nervous system work. But what most people don’t realise is that safety isn’t about staying calm, being in a 'zen' like state all the time or feeling fearless - it’s about whether your...
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  Why Insight Isn’t Enough: Why You Still Feel Anxious Even When You Understand It 06.01.2026 14min

  You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious. If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for you. I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck in familiar unhelpful patterns or that you’re failing. From a trauma-informed, nervous-system lens, I explain why your body can still react even when your mind knows you’re safe. We’ll look at the di...
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  Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing 30.12.2025 27min

  January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best. In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing. This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not, it's a capacity issue. We talk about how cultural ideas around productivity and self-improvemen...
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  The Christmas You Carry 24.12.2025 2min

  A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlotte-bailey.com/
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  She Is Here: Remembering Who You Were Before You Were Taught to Be Less 23.12.2025 13min

  This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering. People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible. This new series introduces depth and poetry so you can feel what lives beneath people-pleasing: safety, identity, self-belonging, ...
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  When Your Body Makes You Stop And listen To What It Has To Say - It Might Just Surprise You | Ep 53 28.10.2025 19min

  Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do! I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure. This episode invites you to consider ho...
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  It’s Not a Rebrand — It’s a Remembering | Ep 52 14.10.2025 10min

  I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am. In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't ...
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  How To Stop Feeling Guilty For Saying No | Ep 51 07.10.2025 13min

  Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.” I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person. This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing...
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  Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50 30.09.2025 14min

  If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty. In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.” This episode includes: Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or priorit...
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  As An Anxious People-Pleaser I Used To Think I Wasn’t Confident Enough — But It Was Never About Confidence | Ep 49 23.09.2025 19min

  For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver. But recently, something happened that made me realise the problem isn’t about confidence at all. In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about: The two inner voices we all carry — the one that tells us to stay qui...
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  Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48 09.09.2025 28min

  Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so hard to break free from old patterns. Kay shares her personal experience of living with shame, from body image struggles to those early messages we pick up about who we need to be in orde...
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  The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47 02.09.2025 8min

  I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself. I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think about saying no, and why it can feel like you don’t even know what you want anymore. Most importantly, I explain why people-pleasing isn’t a fixed personality trait - it’s a nervous system survival respon...
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  From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47 26.08.2025 17min

  Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing. When I was in my anxious, overthinking people-pleasing prime, I’d never have walked into a festival alone. I’d never have volunteered alongside a team I’d never met, doing something as unfamiliar as therapy in a be...
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  Does My Writing Still Sound Like Me? On AI, Sameness, and Finding Our Human Voice | Ep 46 19.08.2025 7min

  Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about: Why so much content feels repetitive or AI-generatedThe pressure to follow “scroll-friendly” formulas My own fear that my writing might not be seen as authenticWhy quirks, pauses, and imperfections are what make your voice truly s...
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  People-Pleasing in the Bedroom: Let’s Talk About Sex | Ep 45 12.08.2025 33min

  A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex. And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a topic that doesn’t get spoken about enough — and on reflection, I’m guilty of that too! Yet if you’re a people-pleaser and often say yes when you want to say no, struggle to express how you really feel or...
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  I Thought I Was Being 'Professional'... But I Was Actually Avoiding Being Visible | Ep 44 05.08.2025 12min

  In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to people, because that would be unethical. Even as a self-aware therapist with 20+ years studying psychology it took me a while to notice that I was actually avoiding putting myself out there - it was...