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  S6E2: How to Convince Your Brain You’re Queer Enough 16.09.2026 42min

  We promised you cutting-edge research, and you know the killjoys make good on their promises. That’s right, we’re discussing the recent March 2026 article, “From Self-Stigmatization to Self-Affirmation: Plurisexual People’s Experiences with Internalized Sexual Stigma and Positive Identity Attitudes,” by Clara McNamee, J. Roy Gillis & Abby L. Goldstein, published in the Journal of Bisexuality. After hearing a lot of chatter online about how bi+ identities don’t exist or that bi+ people need to make themselves smaller, we chose this article first to discuss the power of positivity, even if that positivity is only coming from within. So buckle up, it's time to learn how cool research is and why affirming your identity is actually really important!Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected] Resources:McNamee McNamee, J. Roy Gillis & Abby L. Goldstein (2026) From Self-Stigmatization to Self-Affirmation: Plurisexual People’s Experiences with Internalized Sexual Stigma and Positive Identity Attitudes, Journal of Bisexuality, 26:3, 415-447, DOI: 10.1080/15299716.2026.2633762Sound engineer: Richie Smith 
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  S6E1: Who Gets Counted? Why Bisexuality Needs Research 02.09.2026 51min

  Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! Online “discourse” is at an all-time high, and it’s about time we started building a solid foundation. Season 6 is here to gather the skills and tools you need so we can get to work!You know us and our love for a good book, research article, and well-explained methods. Over the next 9 episodes, we hope to instill some of that same love in you by going over the latest in Bi+ research across disciplines. And like Jace says, “We’re gonna co-construct a reality based on actual truth, goddamit!” Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected] Resources:Check out the upcoming International Bi+ Research Conference: https://www.bisexualresearch.com/ibrcconference2025cfp-1-1Check out BiWeekly shop for Bi+ Fashion: https://biweekly.shop/For more information on the Attraction, Identity, and Behavior Model, check out our blog post: https://open.substack.com/pub/bisexualkilljoy/p/but-my-actions-dont-define-me?r=3ma0e6&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=webLearn more about science and post-truth:Chalmers, A. (2013). What is this thing called science? (4th ed.). University of Queensland Press.Fuller, S. (2018). Post-Truth: Knowledge as a power game. Anthem Press.Malcolm, D. (2021). Post-Truth Society? An Eliasian Sociological Analysis of Knowledge in the 21st Century. Sociology, 55(6), 1063–1079. https://www.jstor.org/stable/27108945McIntyre, L. C. (2018). Post-truth. MIT Press. Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  S5E9: Because I Love You 24.06.2026 41min

  We’re winding down this season on love, and what better way to bid you farewell than with a love letter? This episode is a walk down memory lane of all the nooks and crannies love encompasses. We’re so grateful for bell hook’s guidance with her book, All About Love, and all of you who took the time to read and reflect with us. We do this work because we love you.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  S5E8: Bi+ Community as Revolution 10.06.2026 40min

  We don’t shut up about Bi+ community, and this season sure wasn’t going to be the exception. We’re firm believers that Bi+ community is the life-hack we all need to embrace so we can feel confident in our queerness and bring forth the Bi+ revolution we didn’t know we needed. Sit with Bailey and Jace in this episode that exists as a living love letter to Bi+ communities around the world.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  [PREVIEW] Give It to Me Bi: How do I hold on to my identity? 05.06.2026

  At this point, we're professional bisexuals. Give It To Me Bi is a bi-weekly advice column where your favorite Bisexual Killjoys answer all your questions about being bi+.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  [PREVIEW] Killjoy Habits: Bring the Energy 29.05.2026

  Jace reflects on what it takes to be in it for the long haul.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  S5E7: Plurisexuals and the Myth of Platonic Purity 27.05.2026 57min

  Are friendships important? Can you be friends with folks of the genders they’re attracted to? Can bisexuals even HAVE friends? These questions have plagued us since we came out, and now we’re here to share our answers with you. Friendships are crucial for us to foster healthy interdependence and learn how to love selflessly. In this intimate conversation with Bailey and Jace, we cover all the basics on how friendship shows up for Bi+ people.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:Cohen, R. (2024). The Other Significant Others. St. Martin’s Press.hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Rich, A. (1980). Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. Signs, 5(4), 631–660. http://www.jstor.org/stable/3173834https://www.biwomenquarterly.com/against-the-hierarchy-centering-friendship-in-bi-womens-relational-lives/Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  [PREVIEW] Give It to Me Bi: Does This Even Count? 22.05.2026

  At this point, we're professional bisexuals. Give It To Me Bi is a bi-weekly advice column in your favorite Bisexual Killjoys answer all your questions about being bi+.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  [PREVIEW] Bi+ Bridgerton, Pedro Pascal, and the Partner Problem 15.05.2026

  Bailey talks about the exhausting cultural urge to sort everyone into straight or gay.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  S5E6: Shared Liminality of Love - A Reflection on Bi+ Polyamory 13.05.2026 44min

  For a lot of polyamorous people, being Bi+ is an important part of their lived experience. In this episode, our hosts expand on how both polyamory and Bi+ness are philosophically intertwined. From unpacking imposed relationship norms, to celebrating the abundance of love that surrounds us, this episode holds beautiful insights on what it means to nurture yourself so you can gift more to others.Jace is so looking forward to meeting you at the Bi+ World Conference! Haven’t registered yet? Check out all the details here.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Klesse, C. (2017). Theorizing multi-partner relationships and sexualities – Recent work on non-monogamy and polyamory. Sexualities, 21(7), 1109–1124. https://doi.org/10.1177/1363460717701691Spiedel, L. (2025). Relationships: Dating, monogamy, and consensual non-monogamy. In Bisexuality beyond binaries: Celebrating multiple bisexual identities in a world of erasure. Routledge.Weitzman, G. (2006). Therapy with Clients Who Are Bisexual and Polyamorous. Journal of Bisexuality, 6(1-2), 137–164. https://doi.org/10.1300/j159v06n01_08Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  [PREVIEW] Give It to Me Bi: Am I just allergic to heteronormativity? 08.05.2026

  At this point, we're professional bisexuals. Give It To Me Bi is a bi-weekly advice column in your favorite Bisexual Killjoys answer all your questions about being bi+.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  [PREVIEW] Nobody is just "a little bit bi," But Everyone is Bi+ 01.05.2026

  Jace reflects on the "overlap" of Bi erasure and Bi resistance.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  S5E5: Bi+ Marriage & the Messy Middle 29.04.2026 46min

  The question that abounds in Bi+ subreddits and support groups is: If you’re already married, does being Bi+ even matter? This episode, we give this question the attention it deserves. From opening your marriage to Bi+ community involvement, we dive deep into the most common pain points for our married Bi+ listeners.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:Give It to Me Bi: Learning to “B” Proud. An advice column on how to come out to your children.Frisk, M. J. (2021, February). Maintaining my bi identity while married. bi.org. https://bi.org/en/bi-stories/staying-bi-while-married/hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Parker, K., & Minkin, R. (2023, September 14). Views of divorce and open marriages. Pew Research Center. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/09/14/views-of-divorce-and-open-marriages/Spiedel, L. (2025). Relationships: Dating, monogamy, and consensual non-monogamy. In Bisexuality beyond binaries: Celebrating multiple bisexual identities in a world of erasure. Routledge.Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  [PREVIEW] Give It to Me Bi: Am I Too Picky to be Bi? 24.04.2026

  At this point, we're professional bisexuals. Give It To Me Bi is a bi-weekly advice column in your favorite Bisexual Killjoys answer all your questions about being bi+.Get access to all Advice Column Bonus Episodes AND much more by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  [PREVIEW] Managing Expectations (or: You Are Not Entitled to My Labor) 17.04.2026

  Bailey reflects on organizing, boundaries, and when to tell people to stfu.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  S5E4: The Harm in Silence & Isolation - Intimate Partner Violence with Katherine Wela Bogen 15.04.2026 58min

  This season is all about love, and one of the most important lessons we need to learn is how love cannot co-exist with abuse. Over a third of women in the US have been victims of intimate partner violence, and the rates for Bi+ women are even more worrisome. To help us navigate the stats, we’re lucky to welcome Katie W. Bogen as our guest. In her own words, Katherine Wela Bogen is “first, a storyteller; second, a scholar-activist; and third, a joyful little freak.” Bisexual and Jewish, she grew up in rural New England. A doctoral candidate in clinical psychology studying the intersections of bisexual identity, sexual trauma, sexual functioning, and kink, she has published more than forty peer-reviewed papers and is the host of the political podcast SuperHumanizer. Bogen’s 600k+ social media followers will recognize her as @k.w.bogen from her public-facing scholar activism. Queering Him, the first in the Avra and Kieran trilogy, is Bogen’s debut novel.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Where to Find Katie:Instagram: @k.w.bogen and @k.w.bogen_booksThreads: @k.w.bogenTikTok: @kwbogenPatreon: @kwbogenPodcasts: 1) Super Humanizer and 2) Think Thirsty: A Podcast for Smart SlutsWhere to Find Katie’s new book:https://booklife.com/project/queering-him-103299Resources:Katie’s Responses to Disclosure Slide DeckBermea, A. M., van Eeden-Moorefield, B., & Khaw, L. (2018). A Systematic Review of Research on Intimate Partner Violence Among Bisexual Women. Journal of Bisexuality, 18(4), 399–424. https://doi.org/10.1080/15299716.2018.1482485Head, S. (2020). Understanding Power Dynamics in Bisexual Intimate Partner Violence: Looking in the Gap. In: Russell, B. (eds) Intimate Partner Violence and the LGBT+ Community. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-44762-5_7Coston, B. M. (2017). Power and inequality: Intimate partner violence against bisexual and non-monosexual women in the United States. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 36(1–2), NP316–NP340. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260517726415Corey, J., Duggan, M., & Travers, Á. (2023). Risk and protective factors for intimate partner violence against bisexual victims: A systematic scoping review. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse, 24(4), 2130–2142. https://doi.org/10.1177/15248380221084749Flanders, C. E., Anderson, R. E., Tarasoff, L. A., & Robinson, M. (2019). Bisexual stigma, sexual violence, and sexual health among bisexual and other plurisexual women. The Journal of Sex Research, 56(9), 1115–1127.  https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2018.1563042Friedman, M. R., Dodge, B., Schick, V., et al. (2014). From bias to bisexual health disparities: Attitudes toward bisexual men and women in the United States. LGBT Health, 1(4), 309–318. https://doi.org/10.1089/lgbt.2014.0014Johnson, N. L., & Grove, M. B. (2017). Why us? Toward an understanding of bisexual women’s vulnerability for and negative consequences of sexual violence. Journal of Bisexuality, 17(4), 435–450. https://doi.org/10.1080/15299716.2017.1364201McCauley, H. L., Bonomi, A. E., Maas, M. K., Bogen, K. W., & O'Malley, T. L. (2018). #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou: Social Media Underscore the Realities of Intimate Partner Violence. Journal of women's health (2002), 27(7), 885–891. https://doi.org/10.1089/jwh.2017.6560Salim, R. (2022). Sexual violence and revictimization risk among bisexual women: A systematic review. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse. https://doi.org/10.1177/15248380211073837Turell, S. C., Brown, M., & Herrmann, M. (2018). Disproportionately high: An exploration of intimate partner violence prevalence rates for bisexual people. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 33(1–2), 113–131. https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2017.1347614Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  [PREVIEW] Give It to Me Bi: I Have a Crush on a Friend. What Should I Do? 10.04.2026

  At this point, we're professional bisexuals. Give It To Me Bi is a bi-weekly advice column in your favorite Bisexual Killjoys answer all your questions about being bi+.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  [PREVIEW] Bi+ People Were Here 03.04.2026

  What Creating Change taught Bailey about belonging, erasure, and showing up anyway.Get access to all Bonus Episodes AND their written blog posts by supporting our work as a Podcast Enthusiast on our Patreon!
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  S5E3: Monogamy Didn’t Make Me Choose a Side 01.04.2026 38min

  Being a Bi+ monogamous person isn’t the oxymoron it seems to be. In this episode, Bailey shares about what it means to be monogamous while still holding on to her Bi+ identity. From defining monogamy to sharing our favorite romance gestures, this is the episode where we prove the biphobes wrong.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]  Resources:Ault, A. (1994). Hegemonic Discourse in an Oppositional Community: Lesbian Feminists and Bisexuality. Critical Sociology, 20(3), 107-122. https://doi.org/10.1177/089692059402000306 (Original work published 1994) Diamond, L. M. (2008). Female bisexuality from adolescence to adulthood: Results from a 10-year longitudinal study. Developmental Psychology, 44(1), 5–14. https://doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.44.1.5hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999)Mark, K., Rosenkrantz, D., & Kerner, I. (2014). “Bi”ing Into Monogamy: Attitudes Toward Monogamy in a Sample of Bisexual-Identified Adults. Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, 1(3), 263–269. https://doi.org/10.1037/sgd0000051Sound engineer: Richie Smith
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  S5E2: Bi+ Single & Ready to Mingle 18.03.2026 48min

  Dating as Bi+ person comes with its own set of challenges. In this episode, we dive into what it means to be on the dating scene as a Bi+ person, and the role of self-love. Part philosophical musics, part practical dating tips, this episode is the Bi+ dating perspective you didn’t know you needed.Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at [email protected]. Resources:hooks, bell, 1952-2021. (2000). All About Love: New Visions. New York: William Morrow. Sound engineer: Richie Smith