Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Episode

• Ask Andrea - Finding Clarity in the Middle of the Mess 29.05.2026 24mnt

  When you're in the middle of betrayal, confusion can feel overwhelming. You may question your reality, your instincts, and your ability to know what is true. In this special "Ask Andrea" episode, I answer listener questions about projection, reconciliation after decades of deception, lingering resentment, unmet emotional needs, staying for the children, and the powerful connection between your mind and body. I talk about why healing does not require immediate answers, how boundaries help you step out of the "courtroom," and why your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to accept it. Most importantly, I want you to know that it is never too late to build a more truthful and peaceful life. In this episode, we cover: How to respond when blame and projection distort your reality Why understanding the meaning behind betrayal matters How to know if your needs are reasonable When staying for the children can be a healthy choice Why body-mind conflict can contribute to depression If you are navigating infidelity and searching for clarity, this episode will help you trust yourself and move forward with greater confidence. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Decentering Your Partner Without Closing Your Heart 22.05.2026 25mnt

  When infidelity turns your world upside down, it's easy to make your healing dependent on what your partner is doing, feeling, or deciding. I know how tempting it is to monitor their progress, wait for reassurance, and hope that if they finally change, you'll feel safe again. In this episode, I share why true healing begins when you stop revolving around your partner and start returning to yourself. Decentering your partner doesn't mean you stop loving them or close your heart. It means your peace, clarity, and sense of worth are no longer controlled by someone else's choices. I talk about how childhood conditioning and codependent patterns can lead us to lose touch with our own needs, and I offer practical journal prompts to help you reconnect with your truth and rebuild self-trust. In this episode, we cover: What it means to decenter your partner after infidelity How codependent patterns keep you emotionally stuck How to rebuild self-trust and strengthen boundaries Journal prompts to help you return to yourself How to keep a soft heart and a strong spine If you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to hand you your life back, this episode will help you begin creating it for yourself. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• I Don't Know What to Do... and Other Deceptions that Keep You Stuck 15.05.2026 18mnt

  I hear it all the time: "I don't know what to do." And I get it — it feels honest and real. But what if that thought is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I explore how "I don't know" is often a softer way of avoiding what we do know deep down. Whether it's fear of conflict, uncertainty about outcomes, or not wanting to face what comes next, we can hide behind indecision and stay stuck far longer than we need to. I walk you through the subtle ways we delay action — waiting for more time, more clarity, or for someone else to change — and how those patterns slowly erode our self-trust. The truth is, healing and movement don't come from waiting. They come from honoring even the smallest piece of truth within you. In this episode, we cover: Why "I don't know what to do" often isn't true How waiting and avoidance keep you stuck The connection between truth and self-trust Small, powerful ways to start moving forward If you're ready to stop spinning and start rebuilding trust with yourself, reach out and I'll help you take that first step. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• The Cost of Staying the Same 08.05.2026 18mnt

  In this episode, I'm diving into something that quietly keeps so many of us stuck: the cost of staying the same, especially when we already know better. There comes a point where the confusion lifts and clarity is there. You can see the patterns, you understand what's happening, and yet… you don't move. I've been there, too. What I want you to see is that the real cost isn't just that your situation doesn't change. It's what happens inside of you when you ignore what you know to be true. Every time you override your truth, you chip away at your self-trust. You start to feel disconnected, resentful, and out of alignment. This episode is an invitation to look honestly at where you might be choosing comfort over truth. Not with judgment, but with awareness — and a willingness to take small, honest steps forward. In this episode, we cover: Why awareness alone doesn't create change  The hidden cost of ignoring your truth  How self-trust erodes when you don't follow through  Small ways to begin choosing truth over comfort  If you're ready to stop negotiating with what you know and start living in alignment, I'd love to help you. Reach out and let's take that next step together. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Navigating Couples Therapy and Coaching After Infidelity with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin 01.05.2026 54mnt

  In this episode, I sit down with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin to talk about what it really takes to heal and rebuild after infidelity. We explore the truth that love alone is not enough — and why real growth requires deep self-reflection, emotional safety, and intentional skill-building. E.J. and Tarah don't pretend to have it all figured out — they've lived it. From navigating their own intense early challenges to helping hundreds of couples each week, they bring both expertise and humanity into this conversation. We talk about betrayal trauma, the importance of radical honesty, and how healing isn't just about saving the relationship — it's about becoming a healthier, more empowered version of yourself. If you're feeling overwhelmed, unsure whether to stay or go, or stuck in painful patterns, this episode will give you clarity and hope. In this episode, we cover: Why love is not enough to sustain a relationship  How betrayal trauma impacts your nervous system  The role of radical honesty in rebuilding trust  Why individual growth changes the entire relationship dynamic  What the "messy middle" of healing looks like  Reach out if you need support — you don't have to navigate this alone. Resources Mentioned: The Untethered Soul – https://untetheredsoul.com More on E.J. and Tarah: EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and creators of the Relationship Renovation Model™, as well as hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. They blend raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience to help couples deepen intimacy and build emotional safety. Known for their vulnerability and real-life storytelling, they share practical, research-backed tools rooted in attachment science and nervous system regulation. EJ is also the founder of Men Who Do the Work, a group helping thousands of men create emotional safety and show up more intentionally in their relationships. Together, their work includes the nationally recognized Relationship Renovation Counseling Center in Tucson, Arizona, a globally ranked top 1% podcast, the Relationship Renovation @ Home manual (available on Amazon), a global online community, and private coaching for couples and individuals. They are passionate about helping partners break old patterns, rebuild trust, and create lasting, intentional connection.  Relationship Renovation website - https://relationshiprenovation.com Relationship Renovation Podcast - https://relationshiprenovation.com/podcast/ The Relationship Renovation At Home Manual: A Guided Journey for Couples to Rebuild Trust, Communication, and Thrive Together - https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Renovation-Home-Manual-Communication/dp/B0FWMGQP8D/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/ More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Is There Actually a Snake? 24.04.2026 33mnt

  Fear can feel so real — so urgent — that it's easy to believe every emotional "rustle" is a threat. In this episode, I walk through how fear actually works in the brain and why so much of what we react to isn't what's truly happening in the present moment. I share personal stories and real-life examples to help you understand how your nervous system is trying to protect you — but may also be keeping you stuck. Whether you've been betrayed or you're the one who broke trust, fear shows up in powerful ways. And until you learn how to examine it, it can quietly run your life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, pull the thread, and look deeper. Because when you're willing to follow fear all the way to its source, you gain clarity, self-trust, and the ability to move forward with intention instead of panic. In this episode, we cover: How fear is often based on prediction, not reality Why your brain keeps sounding alarms from old pain The difference between reacting and examining How to "pull the thread" to uncover truth Building self-trust so fear no longer controls you If you're ready to stop living in reaction and start living in truth, this work will change everything. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• What's Living in the Corners 17.04.2026 29mnt

  In this episode, I take you deeper into what it really means to tell your truth all the way out — especially the parts we keep hidden. I share what I've been discovering in my own life as I slow down and begin to look honestly at what's been "living in the corners." These are the patterns, beliefs, and versions of myself that once felt like strength — but may actually be rooted in survival. I explore the difference between survival strength and what I'm calling examined strength — the kind that comes from truly knowing yourself and standing in that truth, even when it's uncomfortable. This process has required me to question everything: my choices, my relationships, my work, and the version of me that created them. If you're navigating infidelity or any kind of personal upheaval, this is your invitation to look inward with honesty and compassion. In this episode, we cover: There's a difference between survival strength and examined strength Real vulnerability happens in real time, not after it's "resolved" You are allowed to re-evaluate the life you've built Slowing down is essential to seeing what's been hidden If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and connect with me. You don't have to navigate this alone. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Truth All the Way Out 10.04.2026 19mnt

  In this episode, I'm sharing what led me to step back — and what I discovered when I finally slowed down and got honest with myself. After years of building, producing, and helping others, I realized I had been operating from a place that looked like strength… but was actually rooted in survival. This season of my life has been about something deeper: telling the truth all the way out. Not the polished version. Not the "this should be enough" version. But the real truth about what I want, what I feel, and who I actually am. If you've been circling your own truth — avoiding hard conversations, silencing your needs, or settling for what looks "good enough" — this episode is an invitation to stop. To listen inward. To get radically honest. Because real healing, especially after infidelity, doesn't come from checking boxes. It comes from truth. In this episode, we cover: Strength rooted in survival can keep you stuck Truth creates alignment—even when life feels uncertain Avoiding your truth prolongs pain Real healing requires radical honesty If you're ready to stop circling and start moving forward, I invite you to reach out and take the next step with me. If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Stay or Go? The Truth About Leaving a Marriage [Encore] 03.04.2026 24mnt

  If you've ever felt stuck in the question of whether to stay or leave, this encore episode is for you. I'm sharing some of the most common concerns I see when women are facing this deeply personal decision — and I'm also opening up about my own story in a way I haven't before. This isn't about giving you a checklist or telling you what you "should" do. It's about helping you come back to yourself. I walk through what it really means to show up with integrity, to self-confront, and to take ownership of your emotional growth — regardless of what your partner is doing. I also explore the questions that matter most: Are you being honest with yourself? Are you in a place where you can truly thrive? And do you genuinely like your reasons for staying or leaving? This work is not easy — but it is powerful. And it's yours to keep, no matter what you decide. In this episode, we cover: You leave when you feel at peace with how you've shown up  Self-confrontation leads to real clarity and growth  Emotional self-regulation is essential for decision-making  Your reasons matter more than anyone else's approval  You deserve a life where you can truly thrive  If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• How to Trust Yourself After Infidelity [Encore] 27.03.2026 28mnt

  What if the discomfort you feel isn't confusion… but clarity trying to break through? In this encore episode, I walk you through one of the most powerful shifts in healing from infidelity: learning how to recognize truth. I share a personal analogy that completely changed how I see betrayal, trust, and decision-making — the idea of your life as a puzzle that gets blown apart, and the process of deciding which pieces actually belong as you rebuild. I open up about my own experience of trying to force things to fit, ignoring what I knew deep down, and what finally changed when I chose to trust myself instead. This conversation is about learning to listen — not just to words, but to your body, your intuition, and your inner knowing. If you've ever questioned yourself, minimized what felt off, or wondered whether to stay or go, this episode will help you reconnect to your truth. In this episode, we cover: Why forcing "pieces" to fit keeps you stuck  How your body reveals truth before your mind accepts it  The difference between discomfort and misalignment  Why honoring truth leads to real peace and clarity  If this resonates with you and you're ready for support in sorting through your own puzzle, I invite you to reach out. You don't have to do this alone. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Why Time Alone Won't Heal Infidelity Pain [Encore] 20.03.2026 25mnt

  Healing from infidelity isn't about waiting for time to pass — it's about what we choose to do with that time. In this encore episode, I walk through what I've seen truly create healing, both in my own life and in the lives of the women I work with. I invite you to look inward as you listen. Where are you in your healing process? What might you be avoiding? What could you lean into just a little more? We talk about the real work of healing — allowing emotions instead of suppressing them, creating a new identity after betrayal, and building the discipline to stop harmful thought patterns. I also share why patience matters more than perfection and why courage is the foundation of it all. Healing is available to you, no matter where you are right now. And it doesn't require you to be perfect — it just requires you to be willing. In this episode, we cover: Time alone doesn't heal — your actions and thoughts do Allowing your emotions is essential for processing trauma You have the power to create a new identity and story Discipline helps break cycles of painful thinking Courage is required to truly heal and move forward If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and take the next step in your healing. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Sustainable Healing: The Path Beyond Infidelity [Encore] 13.03.2026 19mnt

  In this encore episode, I talk about a concept that can completely change the way you approach healing after infidelity: sustainability. Many of us try to push through the pain, distract ourselves, or convince ourselves that we should already be "over it." But healing doesn't work that way. When we ignore our emotions, silence our questions, or avoid difficult conversations, we often create patterns that simply aren't sustainable in the long run. In this conversation, I invite you to take a deeper look at how you are currently navigating life after betrayal. Are the things you're doing now actually helping you heal, or are they just helping you survive today? I share examples of what unsustainable healing can look like—stuffing emotions, avoiding conversations, or white-knuckling your way through recovery—and I offer a different path forward: slow, intentional, honest healing that creates lasting change. When we choose courage over avoidance, we create the possibility for deeper intimacy, stronger self-trust, and a future that truly feels aligned with who we are becoming. In this episode, we cover: Healing after infidelity must be sustainable, not just temporary relief Avoiding emotions or conversations often prolongs pain Honest communication builds deeper intimacy in relationships Sustainable healing requires courage, self-responsibility, and patience If this episode resonates with you, I encourage you to reach out, learn more, and take the next step in your healing journey. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• When the Truth Finally Comes Out: Lauren's Story of Reclaiming Life [Encore] 06.03.2026 55mnt

  In this encore episode, I sit down with Lauren, a former client who bravely shares her journey through discovering decades of hidden infidelity and the powerful transformation that followed. What began as a devastating revelation ultimately became a catalyst for profound personal growth, courage, and rebuilding a life on her own terms. Lauren opens up about the moment she uncovered the truth about her husband's long history of betrayal and how she navigated the emotional shock, grief, and fear that followed. She shares the pivotal role that trusting her intuition, facing painful truths, and envisioning new possibilities played in helping her move forward. Together we talk about the importance of reclaiming your voice, creating a plan for your future, and refusing to settle for a life that keeps you small. Lauren's story is a powerful reminder that even after deep betrayal, it is possible to rebuild a life filled with peace, confidence, and purpose. If you are navigating infidelity or questioning what comes next in your life, this episode will remind you that your future is still yours to create. In this episode, we cover: Your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to accept it Healing requires feeling the pain rather than avoiding it Creating a vision for your future opens the door to new possibilities You deserve a life filled with peace, joy, and self-respect If you're ready to reclaim your life after infidelity, I invite you to reach out and explore how we can work together. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Luke Shillings: A Man's Perspective on Betrayal and Healing [Encore] 27.02.2026 38mnt

  In this encore episode, I sit down with relationship and infidelity coach Luke Schillings to talk openly about betrayal from a man's perspective. Luke shares his experience of discovering his wife's affair, navigating divorce, co-parenting through heartbreak, and ultimately rebuilding his life from the inside out. We talk about the shock of confirmation, the unexpected relief of knowing you weren't "crazy," the struggle with resentment when children are involved, and the powerful shift that happens when you focus on what you can control instead of what you can't. Luke shares how journaling, forgiveness, and personal responsibility became the turning points in his healing. Most importantly, this conversation is about resilience — and hope. In this episode, we cover: Why confirmation can bring relief after suspicion How to identify what you can and cannot control The role forgiveness plays in your own healing Why putting yourself first actually serves your children How resilience is built one decision at a time If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. You do not have to navigate betrayal alone. Luke's Info: Website: https://www.lifecoachluke.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke/ After the Affair Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200 More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Self-Trust After Infidelity: Ending People-Pleasing [Encore] 20.02.2026 21mnt

  In this encore episode, I talk about something that is foundational to healing after infidelity: learning to trust yourself again by honoring what you truly want. After betrayal, it's so easy to lose your footing. You question your instincts. You second-guess your judgment. You stop trusting your own voice. But one of the most powerful ways to rebuild that trust is by reconnecting with your desires — even the ones that feel small, selfish, or uncomfortable. I walk you through why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want, how people-pleasing and a reflected sense of self keep us stuck, and how honoring your desires actually accelerates your emotional growth. When you lean into what you want, you build integrity, emotional maturity, and strength. You stop abandoning yourself. In this episode, I cover: Your desires are not random — they are invitations to growth Honoring what you want rebuilds self-trust after betrayal Tension is not a sign you're wrong — it's a sign you're growing You can stop people-pleasing and still be loving If you're ready to rebuild your foundation and trust yourself again, I would love to support you. Reach out. You don't have to do this alone. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• From Spiral to Steady: Managing Intrusive Thoughts [Encore] 13.02.2026 20mnt

  Intrusive thoughts after infidelity can feel overwhelming, consuming, and impossible to control. In this encore episode, I walk through what intrusive thoughts really are, why they happen after betrayal, and what we can actually do about them. If you've ever gone from calm to a full emotional spiral in seconds because of a memory, a word, or a random reminder, you're not broken. You're responding to trauma. I explain the difference between the "upstairs brain" and the "basement brain," and how betrayal keeps us in survival mode longer than we realize. Most importantly, I share practical steps to slow intrusive thoughts down, understand what they're signaling, and begin healing at a deeper level instead of just trying to push them away. In this episode, I cover: Why intrusive thoughts feel so intense after infidelity How to regulate your nervous system in the moment Questions to ask yourself when a thought won't let go How to know if a thought needs processing or reassurance What it looks like to co-regulate safely with your partner You don't have to live at the mercy of intrusive thoughts. There is something underneath them that can be healed. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love for you to reach out and let me know what landed. The February virtual retreat, The End of Holding It All, is February 18th at 9am-4pm EST. If you want to be there, you need to be inside "Get Your Life Back" by February 16th. If you're interested, schedule your call with me today: https://andreagiles.com/schedule/ More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Three Steps to Stop the Pain After Betrayal [Encore] 06.02.2026 16mnt

  After infidelity, one of the most common questions I hear is, "Will it always hurt?" In this encore episode, I answer that question honestly and offer a clear path forward. The pain does not last forever — but healing requires understanding what actually causes the pain and learning how to work with your mind instead of against it. I walk through three foundational steps that help the hurt subside over time. First, I explain why infidelity hurts so deeply and how the meaning we attach to it often reactivates old wounds. Then I separate remembering from hurting — showing why forgetting isn't necessary in order to heal. Finally, I teach how to set boundaries around your thoughts so you stop reopening the wound again and again. Healing does not mean erasing the past. It means learning how to remember without suffering and how to treat yourself with compassion when pain resurfaces. This work puts the power back in your hands — regardless of whether you stay in the relationship or not. In this episode, I cover: Infidelity hurts because of the meaning we attach to it, not the event itself Remembering and hurting are two different processes Thought boundaries help prevent emotional re-injury If you're ready to heal without waiting for someone else to change, I invite you to reach out and learn how to begin this work. The February virtual retreat, "The End of Holding It All," is February 18th at 9am-4pm EST. If you want to be there, you need to be inside Get Your Life Back by February 16th. If you're interested, schedule your call with me today: https://andreagiles.com/schedule/ More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Letting Go After Betrayal - Learning to Loosen Your Grip [Encore] 30.01.2026 18mnt

  Letting go after betrayal sounds simple, but it's some of the hardest work we'll ever do. In this encore episode, I talk honestly about why letting go feels so impossible after infidelity and how we often hold ourselves in pain without realizing it. I walk through the most common ways we stay stuck—replaying details, reminding ourselves of the betrayal, or trying to punish our partner in order to feel safe—and why those strategies end up hurting us more than protecting us. I also explain how trauma and re-experiencing responses can keep our minds and bodies on high alert, even long after the event has passed. From there, I share practical ways to begin loosening your grip, including cognitive shifts, mindfulness, and body-based healing approaches. Letting go isn't about minimizing what happened—it's about choosing peace and trusting that you can handle whatever comes next. This is an intentional, courageous act of faith, and it's one that can bring real relief. In this episode, I cover: Why replaying the betrayal keeps you stuck How trauma affects both the mind and body Practical ways to begin letting go safely Why mindfulness and somatic work matter If this episode resonates with you and you're ready for support, I invite you to reach out and explore working together. More from me: EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• Healing Resentment When Trust Has Been Broken [Encore] 23.01.2026 22mnt

  Resentment is one of the heaviest emotions we carry after infidelity, and it can quietly destroy even the most well-intentioned attempts to heal. In this encore episode, I talk honestly about what resentment really is, why it shows up so powerfully after betrayal, and how it quietly takes over when we don't feel safe asking for what we want. I walk through real-world examples from my coaching practice — from both betrayed partners and unfaithful partners — to show how resentment builds on both sides and why it keeps couples stuck in painful gridlock. I also share how resentment often has far less to do with what someone else is doing, and much more to do with what we believe we're not allowed to want, need, or ask for. Most importantly, I explain how to move out of resentment by learning to take ownership of our desires, set honest boundaries, and stop carrying responsibilities that aren't actually ours. Healing doesn't come from control or punishment — it comes from courage, clarity, and self-advocacy. In this episode, I cover: How to recognize resentment when it shows up Why unspoken needs fuel emotional gridlock How asking for what you want cuts through resentment If you're feeling stuck, angry, or emotionally exhausted, this episode will help you see a clear path forward. Reach out if you're ready for support — you don't have to navigate this alone. More from me: EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles
• The Skill That Makes Emotional Healing Possible [Encore] 16.01.2026 23mnt

  In this encore episode, I'm teaching one of the most foundational skills for healing after betrayal: how to feel your feelings instead of fighting them. Our emotions are not the problem — they are how we experience the world. And when we try to rush past pain, numb it out, or judge ourselves for feeling it, we actually make it last longer. I walk through the most common ways we deal with emotions — resisting, avoiding, reacting — and why none of those create real relief. Then I introduce the practice of allowing emotions: observing them, getting curious, and letting them move through your body without believing every story your brain tells. I also share a deeply personal experience from my own life that illustrates what it looks like to allow difficult emotions while still choosing how you want to show up. Healing doesn't mean never feeling fear, grief, or sadness again. It means learning that you can handle whatever comes up. In this episode, I cover: Emotions must be felt to be released Allowing feelings is different from believing them You can choose which emotions fuel your life Register for After Betrayal: Who You Decide to Be in 2026 - the women who heal fastest aren't the ones who try hardest. They're the ones who decide. That's why I'm hosting this live class on Tuesday, January 21st at 12 pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/after-betrayal-january More from me: EXPAND: Who You Came Here to Be - An immersive, in-person retreat experience. February 5th to 8th, 2026 at the Estancia La Jolla Hotel & Spa in San Diego, California. Join us here! https://portal.andreagiles.com/expand-retreat-who-you-came-here-to-be-v2  Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles