No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

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  163: When Your Son Starts Masturbating | How to Respond Without Shame & Guide Healthy Sexuality With Sam Jolman 16.09.2026 47mnt

  What should you do when your son starts masturbating? How do you talk about masturbation without creating shame, fear, secrecy, or confusion—and how can that conversation help him develop a healthier relationship with sexuality, pornography, and his own emotions? In this episode, I sit down again with therapist and author Sam Jolman to talk about one of the most uncomfortable topics many parents face: masturbation in boys and teenagers. We explore how fathers can respond with greater wisdom a...
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  162: How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame | Healthy Sexuality, Porn Exposure & Healing Purity Culture with Sam Jolman 09.09.2026 51mnt

  How do you talk to your kids about sex without creating fear, shame, or secrecy—especially if your own sexual story was shaped by purity culture, pornography, or years of confusion? In this episode, I sit down with therapist and author Sam Jolman, author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, to talk about helping our kids develop a healthy relationship with sexuality. But this conversation goes much deeper than simply figuring out what to say during “the sex talk.” For many of us as fathers, talking...
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  161: Why Porn Addiction Feels Like Connection: The Neuroscience of Loneliness, Attachment & Pseudo-Joy With Chris Coursey 02.09.2026 1j 5mnt

  Porn addiction and loneliness are often more connected than we realize. What feels like a powerful sexual craving may sometimes be your brain reaching for something deeper: connection, belonging, emotional relief, or the experience of feeling wanted and known. In this episode, I sit down with Chris Coursey of Thrive Today to explore why pornography can begin to feel like a form of connection—and why that “connection” ultimately leaves us hungry for more. Chris introduces the concept of “pseud...
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  160: Replacing the Need for Orgasm | How Porn Addiction Twists Natural Desire Into Sexual Dependence 26.08.2026 28mnt

  If you feel like you need to orgasm before you can focus, relax, sleep, or get on with your life, there may be more happening beneath that sexual craving than you realize. For much of my teenage years and twenties, I lived in a cycle of wanting orgasm, experiencing it, and then waiting for the desire to build all over again. If I went several days without release, I felt distracted, preoccupied, and unable to fully engage with the rest of my life. For a long time, I believed this meant my sex...
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  159: Porn Addiction, Narcissism & the Crisis of Connection: Why Men Feel So Alone With Chuck DeGroat 19.08.2026 1j 7mnt

  What if some of the pull toward porn addiction isn’t just about sexual desire—but about loneliness, disconnection, and a deeper longing to feel known? In this episode, I sit down with therapist, author, and professor Chuck DeGroat for a conversation about porn addiction, narcissism, shame, loneliness, healthy masculinity, and what Chuck calls the growing crisis of connection in our culture. One of the ideas that stood out to me most was pseudo-connection. Pornography, social media, technology...
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  158: Why Porn Cravings Aren’t Really Sexual: The Hidden Emotions Behind Pornography Addiction 12.08.2026 24mnt

  Have you ever wondered why your porn cravings can feel so intensely sexual—even when you just had sex, genuinely want to quit porn, or know that acting on the craving will hurt you? One of the most important things I’ve learned in porn addiction recovery is that many cravings aren’t really about sex at all. They’re emotional. Pressure. Loneliness. Shame. Fear. Inadequacy. Sadness. Anger. Disconnection. Sometimes what my brain labels as “I need porn” is actually an emotional or relational need...
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  157: Why Father Wounds Can Fuel Porn Addiction: The Emotional Story Behind Sexual Cravings (with Chris Bruno) 05.08.2026 57mnt

  Father wounds and childhood emotional neglect can shape porn addiction in ways many men do not recognize. You may believe you simply have a problem with lust or self-control, while pornography has quietly become a way to manage loneliness, powerlessness, shame, stress, or a deeper hunger to feel like you have what it takes. In this episode, I sit down with Chris Bruno, founder of Restoration Project and Restory Counseling, to explore the unhealed boy behind pornography addiction. Chris helps ...
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  156: How Neurodivergence Shaped My Porn Addiction—and Eventually Became a Strength | Exploring Perfectionism, Emotional Overwhelm, and Why Sensitive, Driven Men Turn to Escape 29.07.2026 1j 26mnt

  What if some of the traits that make porn addiction harder to overcome—perfectionism, emotional intensity, anxiety, hyperfocus, sensitivity, and relentless drive—could eventually become strengths in your recovery? In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation from when I joined Ania Hulsman on her podcast, Neurodivergent Unplugged. We dig into my personal history with neurodivergence and porn addiction, including what it was like growing up highly sensitive, socially anxious, perfectionistic, a...
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  155: The Anger Beneath Porn Addiction: How Resentment Fuels Cravings, and Forgiveness Helps You Break Free With Brant Hansen 22.07.2026 35mnt

  What if your porn cravings are not only about sexual desire—but also about anger, resentment, stress, and emotions you have never learned how to process? For much of my life, simmering anger and frequent porn cravings were both part of my internal baseline. I treated them as separate struggles. Eventually, I began to recognize that they were often connected to the same deeper emotional pressure. In this episode, I explore the relationship between anger and porn addiction and explain why unres...
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  154: Why Boredom Feels So Dangerous When You’re Quitting Porn — And 5 Ways to Use It as a Secret Weapon 15.07.2026 33mnt

  One of the biggest surprises I see in porn addiction recovery is that many men aren't actually defeated by their cravings, they're defeated by boredom. The moment life slows down, the urges show up. You're home alone. The house is quiet. Your schedule opens up. Suddenly your mind starts wandering, fantasies begin creeping in, and it feels like you're fighting yourself all over again. Most recovery advice says to stay busy, avoid boredom, and keep yourself distracted. I think there's a better ...
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  153: ADHD, Dopamine, and Porn Addiction: How to Finally Work With Your Brain Instead of Against It 08.07.2026 1j 16mnt

  Do you ever feel unfocused, unmotivated, distracted, restless, or disconnected from the life you actually want to live? Do you have a deep desire to build something meaningful, show up with more discipline, and finally break free from porn addiction, but it feels like your brain keeps getting in the way? In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Ania Hulsman, a peak performance coach who specializes in helping neurodivergent, creative, and “gloriously unboxable” people le...
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  152: Is Your Smartphone Training You to Be Addicted to Porn? How Technology Hijacks Dopamine, Presence, and Real Connection 01.07.2026 53mnt

  What if your smartphone is quietly keeping you stuck in pornography addiction? And not just because of the access, but something much deeper? Most men who are trying to overcome porn addiction focus on the obvious problem: the relapse, the secrecy, the shame, the loss of confidence, the damage to marriage, and the spiritual weight that comes after giving in again. And yes, porn has to be addressed directly. But in this episode, I want to help you look at something deeper: the way your relatio...
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  151: Why So Many Men Struggle to Love, Connect, and Feel Their Emotions | The Hidden Roots of Addiction and Relationship Pain (With Dr. Eddie Capparucci) 24.06.2026 1j 3mnt

  Do you ever feel like you genuinely want connection, but somehow keep finding yourself disconnected? You want to be close to your wife. You want deeper relationships. You want to feel connected to God. You want to be emotionally present with your children. You want to overcome pornography addiction and become the man you know you are capable of being. Yet when life becomes painful, stressful, overwhelming, or emotionally intense, you find yourself withdrawing, shutting down, becoming defensiv...
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  150: Why Recovery Motivation Fades (And How to Rebuild It) Using the 4 P’s of Motivation to Stay Sober from Porn 17.06.2026 30mnt

  Why does recovery motivation disappear so quickly after a relapse? Most men know exactly what they don't want. They don't want to watch porn. They don't want to relapse. They don't want to feel shame, anxiety, depression, or disappointment. But knowing what you don't want is not the same thing as being motivated by what you do want. In this episode, I break down one of the biggest mistakes men make in porn addiction recovery: trying to stay sober through willpower alone. The truth is that mot...
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  149: The Real Reason You Feel Disconnected From Your Wife | How Avoidant Men Often Marry Anxious Women, and Reversing The Cycle That Destroys Relationships With Tyler Patrick 10.06.2026 1j 27mnt

  Do you feel disconnected from your wife, even though you genuinely want to be close to her? For many men in pornography addiction recovery, one of the most painful parts of the journey is not only stopping porn. It is learning how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and real connection in marriage. You may want to listen, love, repair, and show up well, but still feel like your wife does not trust you, does not see your efforts, or does not believe your intentions. You may try to explain your...
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  148: How Masculine Leadership Helps Men Quit Porn and Rebuild Trust in Marriage 03.06.2026 38mnt

  Many men trying to overcome porn addiction believe recovery is mainly about stopping the behavior. Stop watching porn. Stop relapsing. Stop lying. Stop hurting your wife. And of course, those things matter. But long-term porn addiction recovery is about more than quitting porn. It is about becoming the kind of man who no longer needs porn to escape pain, feel powerful, avoid responsibility, or find a counterfeit sense of connection. In this episode of No More Desire, I talk about how masculin...
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  147: How Internet Porn Rewires the Male Brain: PIED, Porn Addiction, and Real Recovery (with Noah B.E. Church) 27.05.2026 1j 14mnt

  In this episode, I sit down with Noah B.E. Church, author of Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn, to talk about how internet porn rewires the male brain, contributes to porn-induced erectile dysfunction, and trains men away from real intimacy. Noah shares his personal story of early exposure to internet porn, escalation, PIED, and the long road back to healthy sexuality. We discuss why so many men can feel aroused by porn but disconnected with a real partner, and how the brain can be retrained th...
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  146: Why Perfectionism Keeps You Addicted to Porn: The OCD-Like Loop of Escape, Fixation, and Control 20.05.2026 30mnt

  Most men think porn addiction is only about sexual desire, lust, or lack of discipline. But after working with men for years—and walking through my own recovery—I’ve seen something deeper. Many men who struggle with porn addiction also struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, overthinking, obsessive thought patterns, and OCD-like symptoms. They replay conversations, worry about what others think, feel responsible for everyone’s emotions, and carry constant pressure to be the perfect husband, fat...
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  145: The Addictive Part of Your Mind Isn’t Evil: How IFS Helps Heal Porn Addiction from the Inside Out with Conor McMillen 13.05.2026 1j 27mnt

  It’s easy to believe the part of us that pulls us toward porn addiction is evil. We condemn it, suppress it, shame it, and try to control it. But often, that inner war only keeps the cycle of porn cravings, relapse, and self-hatred alive. In this episode, I sit down with Conor McMillen to discuss how IFS for porn addiction can help men understand the addictive part of the mind with more calm, curiosity, and compassion. IFS, or Internal Family Systems, teaches that the mind is made up of diffe...
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  144: Why Porn Addiction Destroys Trust in Marriage—and How Men Can Rebuild Real Connection 06.05.2026 38mnt

  Porn addiction does not just damage sexual integrity. It damages trust, emotional safety, emotional intimacy, and the ability to be fully known in marriage. In this episode of No More Desire, I talk about how porn addiction affects marriage, why it creates emotional distance from your wife, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust after porn addiction. Many men who struggle with porn addiction do not only struggle with cravings. They struggle with closeness, emotional presence, defensivene...