The Sex After Kids Podcast

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  You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not. 18.08.2026 17mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Is marriage after kids harder than you expected? You're not alone. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I share the honest story of what our marriage looked like after becoming parents. We've experienced resentment, therapy, sleepless nights, postpartum struggles, the mental load, and moments where I questioned whether we'd make it. I talk about what actually helped us move through those difficult seasons, from changing how we handled the mental load to learning how...
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  Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids 11.08.2026 24mnt

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you bac...
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  10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice 04.08.2026 18mnt

  Send us Fan Mail From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes. Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted. 00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding 00:09 Navigating Tou...
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  Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce 28.07.2026 15mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those worries secret just makes things worse, and you are NOT alone. Join Sofia as she busts myths, ca...
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  Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while 21.07.2026 12mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner). What we cover: 01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection 02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust 03:25 — The...
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  The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids 14.07.2026 29mnt

  Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy' 07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle 14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life 15:10 Nervous...
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  Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy 07.07.2026 13mnt

  Send us Fan Mail If s*x after kids feels awkward, disconnected, or harder than it used to… you are not alone. In this episode, Sofia breaks down why most couples struggle with intimacy after kids — and why it’s NOT because you’re broken, selfish, or “bad at s*x.” Most couples were never actually taught intimacy skills. Instead, we relied on chemistry, novelty, alcohol, low stress, and spontaneity in our 20s… and then felt confused when those things stopped working in marriage and parenthood. ...
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  Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think 30.06.2026 23mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids. This conversation explores: why desire can “go underground”how women are taught to manage men’s emotionsthe connection between boundaries, sexuality, and emotional safetyhow pressure and shutdown cycles developwhy suppressing sexuality doesn’t actually sol...
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  Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal) 23.06.2026 16mnt

  Send us Fan Mail What does real intimacy after kids actually look like? In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversations that almost made us stop halfway through intimacy. Because real s*x after kids doesn’t always look effortless or spontaneous. Sometimes it looks like: • feeling unsure • struggling to get “in the mood” • hitting pause • communicating th...
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  The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids 16.06.2026 25mnt

  Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, I break down the **4 biggest traps keeping good men stuck...
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  You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids 09.06.2026 23mnt

  Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting sx after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kidsThe “over-needed” nervous systemWhy pressure kills intimacyHow parenting overload impacts s*x driveThe hidden ways people avoid intima...
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  5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x) 26.05.2026 14mnt

  Send us Fan Mail If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you. This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your sx life after kids — that have nothing to do with sx. Because for most couples, it’s not about desire, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about the patterns that build distance without you even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about: Why waiting for desire to come back often makes things worseHow becoming your partner’s ...
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  Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will) 19.05.2026 21mnt

  Send us Fan Mail You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck? If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why therapy doesn’t always fix intimacyThe real reason your sex life still feels off (even if you’re trying)Why intimacy isn’t automatic—and what actuall...
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  What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think) 12.05.2026 15mnt

  Send us Fan Mail What actually changes when couples fix their sex life? It’s not just more sex. It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down the real shifts couples experience when they rebuild intimacy—without pressure, awkwardness, or constant conflict. This is not the “everything is fixed overnight” version. This is what actually changes in real life. Inside this episode: How couples start ...
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  Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It) 05.05.2026 21mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other? Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why intimacy changes after kidsThe real reason sex starts to feel complicated or avoidedThe pressure/shutdown dynamic that keeps couples stuckWhy trying harder often makes things worseHow to rebuild connecti...
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  What Couples with Great Sex Lives Do Differently 28.04.2026 16mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover playful, connected intimacy, no matter how busy life gets. We'll talk about radical curiosity, honest feedback, the power of laughter, quick repairs after tough moments, and how to protect your intimacy bubble—even when little ones are...
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  Why am I avoiding sex after kids? 21.04.2026 22mnt

  Send us Fan Mail This is a love letter for anyone who's lost touch with desire and feels the weight of expectation after kids. I know what it's like to feel shut down and alone in your relationship. You don't want sex, you don't know why and everytime he asks it feels like he’s making it a personal failure on your part. In this episode, I unpack the truth behind "not tonight," why it's not your fault, and how to rebuild intimacy one step at a time. Let's start a real conversation—comment belo...
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  The Silent Reversal: When You're the One Wanting More (And He Doesn't) 14.04.2026 22mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself wanting intimacy more than your husband—and wondering what changed after kids? You're not alone. In this episode, I'm talking about the real reasons behind this shift, why "trying harder" isn’t working, and how to start changing the dynamic in your marriage without losing yourself. If you're ready to break out of the cycle and reconnect without the pressure, join me for my masterclass, The Pressure Free Protocol. You'll get practical steps to help you feel ...
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  It's Not Your Libido—It's Your Relationship to Pleasure (Why Desire Disappears) 07.04.2026 17mnt

  Send us Fan Mail "I just don't care about sex anymore." If that thought has crossed your mind, you're not alone—and it might not be about libido at all. In this episode, we explore how pleasure often disappears from everyday life (especially for parents), and why that has a direct impact on desire. We talk about stress, caretaker mode, and how reconnecting with small moments of enjoyment can start to bring desire back—without pressure or performance. If you want a simple place to start, check...
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  The Myth of Natural Sex: Why Great Sex Is Actually a Social Skill 31.03.2026 14mnt

  Send us Fan Mail Most couples are walking into their sex life with the same quiet assumption: If the relationship is good... And if there's love and attraction...Then sex should just work. And when it doesn't? It's easy to believe something is wrong—with you, your partner, or the relationship itself. In this episode, we challenge that belief completely. Because great sex isn't something you either "have" or you don't. It's a skill. And like any skill, it can be learned. We explore: Why the id...