True Identity

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  How to Surrender Your Love Life 15.09.2026 9mnt

  As Christians we are told to surrender, but how do we do that?Surrender is a heart posture. It’s letting go of what you think you know and giving it to God. It’s inviting the Holy Spirit into every part of who you are. It’s trusting God has your life in his hands and the ultimate plan for you.Surrender is not a one and done situation. It is daily. How do we do this? I will share what it looked like for me during my season of singleness. I will share how I got to the most desperate place while still having a desire for a husband. Join the Single Women CollectiveJoin my newsletterFollow me on instagram @nikki.houseman
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  This saying may be preventing you from meeting the right person... 08.09.2026 11mnt

  "He's not my type"Have you said this before? I sure have! I share advice from my own experience to help you meet the right person. The person you think is not your type may be the one for you all along. Give him a chance! What do you have to lose? Worst case, you never have to talk to him again, best case you marry him!Give God control and trust that he has the perfect person for you. Once I did this, everything changed! I give 4 pieces of advice to help you work through this concept. One may surprise you : )Join the Single Women Collective- an online community of women in a similar season. You don't have to go through this season alone. Free 7 day trialFollow me on instagram @nikki.housemanJoin my newsletter! I send out email with encouragement, advice, and discounts!
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  When is it Appropriate to Make the First Move? How to Meet Other Singles? How to be Available? 14.07.2026 13mnt

  I host an online community for single women and in this group there were some questions and topics they brought up. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about them more in depth here on this episode.We discuss:How to Meet SinglesSingle Women Collectivevolosports.commeetup.comIRL San DiegoHow to be Available/ApproachableWhen is it appropriate to make the first move (especially as a woman)Free gift for you! Here are tips I used to prepare myself to be a wife!Join the Single Women Collective! This is an online community for women who want to learn to wait well, prepare for their spouse, enjoy the season of singleness, and be in a community who understands. Join my newsletter! I send bi-weekly emails of encouragement, wisdom, and discounts!Follow me on instagram
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  Will You Be Content If You Never Get Married? 16.06.2026 11mnt

  This is a difficult question to think about, but what if? What if you don't get married? What if all you have in this life is Jesus? Is that enough?Let's work through this thought and question together! Spoiler: God IS enough and he knows what you need. Here are some resources and free guides for you:How to Prepare to Be a Wife (Guide)How to have Self-Confidence (Guide)Single Women Collective: How to Wait Well (online community)1:1 coaching with me! (info here and to set up a free consultation)Join my newsletterRead the articles I've written on SubstackRead my book!Follow me on instagram
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  Practical Ways to Prepare Yourself to be a Wife 21.04.2026 17mnt

  You have a deep desire to have a husband. You don’t know how or when you will meet him. One day you want to have a successful marriage, so why not start now on preparing yourself to be a wife! While I was single I had a mindset shift and thought, if I wanted to meet an amazing, healthy man, I need to be that myself. I needed to prepare myself to be a wife. I will share with you what I did to do just that.I am here to tell you that I am not perfect and I am still growing and learning, but I stepped into marriage more prepared and sure of myself and the man I was marrying because of the steps I took to prepare.Get your document to start preparing to be a wife hereLearn more about the Single Women CollectiveFollow me on instagram @nikki.houseman
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  Importance of Sleep: How many hours do you need? Why do you need sleep? 31.03.2026 24mnt

  Have you heard the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead"? Well, you may die sooner than you think with this mindset. Sleep is when your body recovers, restores, rejuvenates. All the systems in your body operate because of sleep. Don't underestimate it.In this episode, I share research and studies about sleep. I share how many hours you actually need and practical ways to help you be able to fall asleep and have quality sleep. One device I mention that will help with sleep is Red Light. Here is the link for a discount for Lumebox or use the code NIKKIHSingle ladies! Join the Single Women Collective! More info hereJoin my newsletter hereFollow me on instagram Here are the references and resources I used during my researchhttps://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-for-kids-a-good-ideahttps://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-bad-for-youhttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10535526/https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/spilling-beans-how-much-caffeine-too-much#:~:text=For%20healthy%20adults%2C%20the%20FDA,it%20(break%20it%20down).https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2528821/https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/healthyschools/features/students-sleep.htmhttps://www.thensf.org/what-to-know-about-teens-and-sleep/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0Zj_InJ4BQ&t=2shttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mTQbtZnN68https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/134/3/642/74175/School-Start-Times-for-Adolescents?autologincheck=redirectedhttps://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/doomscrolling-dangers
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  How Hearing God's Voice Will Help You with Dating and Many Other Areas of Your Life 17.02.2026 15mnt

  Do you feel you are getting “too old” to meet your spouse? Do you feel “left behind” as others around you are getting married, having kids? Do you feel you will never meet your life partner?This can be a hard place to be in. It can feel like you aren’t moving forward in life as you thought you would. Maybe you are approaching your 30s or 40s and you think you should have been married by now. When will it ever happen? Will it ever happen?This thought can hold you back. It can make you believe you are less than. This comes down to self trust, self worth, self talk and (the big one) COMPARISON! This also puts limits on God. He has the ultimate plan for your life. He is always working behind the scenes. It's important to listen to God's voice during times like this. I share a chapter from my book "A God You've Never Met: Who is the Holy Spirit" about how to hear the voice of God. Join the Single Women Collective! A community for single women who want to prepare their hearts, minds, and lives for a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman
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  When Things Don't Go As Planned, What Do You Do? 03.02.2026 13mnt

  What do you do when things don't go as planned? Maybe you are in a waiting season. It can feel lonely and discouraging. I'm here to share with you what I do when things don't go as planned. I share real life experiences and how I've been able to get through them. One of these experiences was my singleness journey. I had moments of doubt, but someone offered me hope.Spoiler alert.... GOD! It's all because I've him! I would love to hear from you! What do you do when things don't go as planned?email me: [email protected] me on instagram and send me a DM @nikki.housemanJoin the Single Women Collective for those who want to prepare their hearts, minds, and lives for a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Be in community with women in a similar season.Red light discount code 45% off Feb 5-8
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  How to Achieve Optimal Health 26.08.2025 20mnt

  We talk about the importance of sleep, hydration, nutrition, recovery, and mental health. All these need to be aligned to be able to achieve optimal health and performance. I share practical tips and things you can do today! You may want to take notes ; )*don't feel you need to do all the things I share right away. I started with a few and once I felt ready, I added more. This is called Habit Stacking. Here are the links I mention in this episode:If you want to know all about Creatine, listen to this episode.Stretching and mobility videosRed Light Therapy Lumebox discount NIKKIHActive Skin Repair discount NIKKIHClearStem discount NIKKIHOUSEMANFREE 20 minute consultation for 1:1 coaching with me! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman
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  The Benefits of Creatine: Muscle Mass + Cognition= Longevity 18.03.2025 18mnt

  As we age our muscle mass and cognition declines. There is a supplement to help with this and it's called creatine. There are many benefits of creatine-helps with muscle recovery-enhances focus-energy production-protects against brain neurodegenerative diseases-and so much more!In this episode, I share what creatine is, how to use it, who it's good for, when to take it, how much. This supplement is the most studied with more than 66,000 studies. Below are the references I used to create this episode. 1. https://physicalculturestudy.com/2015/02/26/creatine-a-short-history/2. https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/creatine-supplements-can-help-build-muscle-mass3. https://www.health.harvard.edu/exercise-and-fitness/what-is-creatine-potential-benefits-and-risks-of-this-popular-supplement4. https://www.uhhospitals.org/blog/articles/2023/07/are-creatine-and-liquid-iv-save-for-teen-athletes5.https://open.spotify.com/episode/72celMDl8clW0W2dBYi7P5?si=84e559359b5f4fc2When looking for creatine, look for a monohydrate. Here are some brands ThorneNaked Creatine Optimum NutritionNutricost PerformanceSmart Creatine by Dr. AmenIf you have any questions, DM me on instagram @nikki.housemanYou can also send me an email [email protected] Red light therapy 40 % off using code NIKKIHCured Nutrition discount code NIKKIHI am offering 1:1 coaching for single women! Schedule a free consult with me here!
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  5 Aspects of Marriage I Wish I Knew Beforehand 10.12.2024 19mnt

  When I was single I didn’t think about certain things that would happen while being married. I didn’t really know what to expect. Yes, I’ve had people tell me what their marriage was like, but I didn’t think about what it would be like for me.  So I want to tell those of you who are single some aspects I didn’t think about of what marriage would be like. Giving you a heads up, something to prepare for, and to look forward to. I also share what to look for in a spouse and how important this decision actually is! DO NOT SETTLE! If you are a single gal and located in or near San Diego, you are invited to a Christmas party I am hosting. DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or send me an email [email protected] to get the location. Join my newsletter here! Need help with sleep? Try Night Caps at Cured. Use code NIKKIH at checkout for 15% off. Red light therapy- Lumebox. Use code NIKKIH at checkout for a HUGE discount! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman
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  On the Same Page with Your Partner Regarding Religion, Politics, and Morals 05.11.2024 8mnt

  One thing I’ve come to realize and love about my relationship with my husband (there are many) is that we are on the same page politically, morally, and religiously. These are important things to note when you are dating someone and talking about marriage. No, you don’t have to agree on everything, but in my opinion the big stuff you should.  If you are single, dating, talking about getting married, I would ask these 3 questions What are their religious beliefs? What are their morals? What are their political views? These are hard topics to discuss, I get it, but they are vitally important in a relationship. Think about it, you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. This is the person you will be making all your decisions with. This is the person you will be raising your children with. This is the person you are sharing your finances with. This is the person you will live with. This is an important decision. I cannot stress this enough!! I want to help you become confident in your own skin. I want to help you see your worth. I want to help you become content in the season you are in while also preparing for a relationship. If this sounds like you, click here to learn more! And if you sign up now, I'm offering 50% off 6 coaching sessions!!! Interested in learning more about the Holy Spirit, my book is for you! Available on Amazon and Audible. Click here!
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  When Will I Meet My Spouse? 03.09.2024 9mnt

  Do you struggle with the thought of feeling "left behind"? As if you are getting "too old"? Or thinking you may never be married? In this episode, I walk through what I did personally to work through the questions and doubts while I was single. I struggled thinking I would never be married as I watched my friends get married and start families. I'm here to offer hope and encouragement and practical tips! My book- if you want to learn to hear God's voice How to Boost Self Confidence - a free document for you! Join my newsletter! - get resources, encouragement, updates about upcoming events, and more!
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  Is Physical Attraction Important in a Relationship? 10.07.2024 16mnt

  Is physical attraction important in a relationship? At one point I thought yes. In this episode, I unpack what is the most important aspect of a relationship and the truth behind attraction. Something to think about, our appearance changes overtime. For listening to this episode, I want to give you a free gift! Click here to get your guide to Boost Self Confidence. I share particle tips you can start implementing today. Work with me! I offer 1:1 coaching for single gals. Let's hop on a call to see if we would be a good fit working together. Click here to learn more about coaching with me. Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman Share this episode with a friend!
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  Making a List About Your Future Partner 11.06.2024 12mnt

  Do you know what you are looking for in a partner? Do you know the characteristics and traits they would have? If you answered no to these questions, it may be time to sit down and write out a list of what you are looking for in a future partner. I'm not talking about physical traits. I'm talking about if they love Jesus, are loyal, outgoing, fun to be around, have a sense of humor, have integrity. Someone suggested I write out a list of what I was looking for in a future husband. I searched my heart for what I truly wanted in a partner and invited God into the process. My list is about 6 pages of characteristics and at the end I wrote out a prayer. This may be something you need to do to become clear as to who you are looking for. This made dating less overwhelming for me and I was able to sift through guys I didn't want to date because of this list. This list is not meant for you to be closed minded, but it will help you be firm in your non-negotiables and not settle. I want to hear from you! If you decide to make a list tell me! You can DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or send me an email [email protected] Make sure to sign up for my newsletter to become VIP and get all the updates and encouragement!
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  Changing Your Mindset Around Online Dating 28.05.2024 12mnt

  There was a point in time when I was set on meeting my future husband “organically.” I had this dream that I would meet him through friends, mutual friends, or doing something I love. I didn't want my story to be "we met online." With diving into my relationship with Jesus, working on myself, and truly wanting to be with a quality guy, I started to change my mindset around online dating. My mantra became it doesn't matter how I meet my husband, it's who he is. With this shift I was able to go into online dating with a new perspective and trust that God can use any situation for me to meet my husband. Dating online isn't easy, but with the help of my dating coach I was able to put parameters around online dating to make it not so overwhelming and discouraging for me. I have complied those tips into a free guide for you to use yourself. It's called "Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating." If you would like this free guide, click here! Make sure to follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman And to get all the news and updates before anyone else and new content, join my newsletter! Click here! Visit my website for podcasts, blogs, and info about 1:1 coaching. nikkihouseman.com
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  You Don't Need to Change Who You Are to be Dateable 14.05.2024 19mnt

  Maybe you think the reason you are not dating the people you want or aren't dating at all is because of who you are. Maybe you feel you need to change aspects of who you are in order for people to want to date you. I'm here to tell you this is not true! If you feel this way, maybe it's because you are lacking self confidence. In this episode I share pratical tips for you to boost your self confidence and start attracting the people you want/should date! I have created a document for you to read through with all these tips. Click here to get that free guide. One thing I share about is creating healthy habits for yourself. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you must come from a healthy place yourself. I have a highlight on my instagram with videos I've created with healthy habits you too can start implementing. Click here to view those. Here is a link to the dry brush I use. Sign up for my newsletter here and become the VIPs! You will get first dibs on promo codes, updates, encouragement and more! Follow me on instagram @nikki.houseman DM or email me [email protected] if you have questions regarding the tips I share or coaching with me.
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  What is Dating Coaching? 09.04.2024 13mnt

  You may be wondering, what is dating coaching? I want to share what dating coaching is and what it looks like to have a coach. Stay tuned until the end of the episode where I will share 2 health tips with you! You may be unsure what life coaching is and certainly what it means to have a dating coach. In this episode, I hope to answer some of those questions and give you a glimpse as to what it may look like to have a dating coach / working with someone like me.  I share health tips with you at the end and here are the links... themedicin.com/products to get AHHC + Mushy Love use the code NIKKI for 10% off. The is the salt I suggest for the lemon salt water combo, Celtic salt Follow along on this coaching journey with me on instagram @nikki.houseman Join my email list to get updates, encouragement, and discounts.
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  The Hardest Part About Being Single 19.03.2024 16mnt

  What is the hardest part about being single?  This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed.  I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you. If you haven’t already, listen to the episode about preparing to be a wife while being single. I give practical tips in how to prepare while also enjoying the season you are in. Click here to listen to that episode.  There is still time to join the Accelerated Dating Program. This is one month group coaching for single women. The things I share in this episode, we will work on inside this program, and you will get results! You will come out the other side better than when you started. Click here to learn more and to sign up. We will begin the 2nd week of April. There are still spots left, but sign up now! Follow me on instagram and send me a DM with your answer to this question. I would love to hear from you @nikki.houseman
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  15 Green Flags in a Relationship 07.03.2024 21mnt

  Green flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating. 1. Self Confidence 2. Respectful 3. Integrity 4. Relationship with God 5. Own hobbies 6. Solid group of friends 7. Driven and Hardworking 8. Asks good questions 9. Healthy Boundaries 10. Emotionally Mature 11. Intentional and Takes Initiative 12. Knows how to have fun 13. Good listener and communicator 14. Nonjudgmental 15. Takes responsibility for own needs If you are a single woman and want to join a group of like-minded women to learn how love and respect yourself, to have self confidence, to learn how to be content in the season you are in, the Accelerated Dating Program is for you. This is an exclusive offer- from now until March 10th you will receive $40 off! Click here to learn more. If you have questions, DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or sign up for a free 20 minute consultation here! 10% off this game changer of a supplement- AHCC- by using the code NIKKI at checkout. Go to themedicin.com/products and get a discount on any of their products. Did you miss the episode, "15 Red Flags in a Relationship," click here to listen to that episode. Free document with all 15 red flags and explanations. Subscribe to this podcast to be up to date when new episodes are released.