The Self-Hype Podcast

Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered 03.07.2026 27分

In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes through literal drug withdrawals and why your biological "tribal" instincts trick you into feeling guilty for leaving a toxic situation. He also unpacks why avoidant men use rebounds as emotional crutches to avoid facing their own core wounds. You’ll leave this episode understanding that heartbreak isn't just sadness—it's grief—and why sitting in the discomfort is the only way to truly rewire your nervous system. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love 26.06.2026 24分

Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous system to realize that a "no" is just a stepping stone to your true potential. Stop living in your comfort zone and start building iron-clad discipline over fleeting motivation. Hit play, take notes, and then go out and get rejected—you deserve it. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Rewiring Your Mind To Create The Life You Deserve w/ NASA Mental Coach Dani B. 20.06.2026 48分

If your knee-jerk reaction to conflict is to shut down or freak out, your subconscious might be stuck in the third grade. In this incredibly nerdy and insightful episode, Eli geeks out with Danny B, a certified aerospace mental fitness coach who works directly with the teams at NASA. Dani breaks down the literal neuroscience of how our brains get programmed, and hands you the exact blueprint to rewire those outdated neural pathways. From mastering the STEA process (Stimulus, Thought, Emotion, Action) to shifting out of a chronic fight-or-flight state, this episode bridges the gap between rocket science and relationship psychology. You’ll learn why your phone is a "weapon of mass distraction," how to physically change through repetition, and why regulating your nervous system is the ultimate life hack. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The No BS Truth On Healing: How to Bounce Back When You Break No Contact 05.06.2026 22分

If you just caved and texted your toxic ex, hooked up with him, or stalked his new girlfriend’s Instagram story—take a deep breath. In this solo episode, Eli is letting you off the hook. He breaks down why failure in your healing era is not actually failure; it's a completely normal biological response to losing your "tribe." Eli explains why beating yourself up is a waste of energy and challenges you to ask a different question: What did touching the hot stove teach me this time? You’ll learn how to reframe your missteps as vital data points, why true mental fitness requires daily practice (just like going to the gym), and how to translate your momentary "failures" into strict new boundaries. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The Independence Blueprint: How to Love Without Losing Yourself 29.05.2026 19分

If you have a history of making a man the absolute center of your universe and abandoning your own life, this episode is your intervention. Eli is breaking down exactly how to protect your independence without sacrificing a secure partnership. He unpacks the harsh truth that your partner is supposed to be your support system, not your cure—and if you expect him to fix your anxiety or loneliness, you're setting the relationship up for failure. Eli shares the "blueprint" for maintaining your personal non-negotiables, why "bending" for a partner breeds resentment but "considering" them builds trust, and why keeping your friendships alive is actually crucial for the health of your romance. If you’re terrified of losing yourself again, tune in to learn how to keep your tribe, protect your joy, and make yourself a priority. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Use Joy To Rebuild Your Life After Heartbreak w/ SC Perot 22.05.2026 1時間

What happens when your "perfect on paper" life suddenly falls apart? In this episode, Eli sits down with author and former corporate lawyer SC Perot to talk about surviving the ultimate life plot twist. SC opens up about the acute grief of navigating divorce during the pandemic—losing not just a partner, but her community, her house, and her dog. She explains how she traded her corporate blazers for feather boas, using long walks and a Harry Styles-themed "Eat, Pray, Love" adventure to slowly regulate her nervous system and find herself again. Eli and SC break down her four-pillar framework for cultivating joy, why true joy requires us to embrace our grief, and how to unlearn the toxic conditioning that happiness is something you have to constantly achieve. If you are going through a messy life transition, this episode is your reminder to trust the process. Join My Coaching Membership Below? LEARN MORE ABOUT SC Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Do "The Inner Work" While Single (So You Don't Repeat Toxic Cycles) 15.05.2026 18分

If you are terrified of losing yourself in another relationship or repeating the same toxic patterns, this episode is your official game plan. Eli answers one of the most common questions he gets: How do I actually "do the work" when I don't currently have a partner triggering me? He breaks down why you can't truly simulate a romantic relationship while single, but how you can still prep your nervous system for a secure one. Sharing his own current journey of facing fears (like finally signing a 12-month apartment lease after years of being a digital nomad), Eli explains how to identify the deep-rooted fears running your life. You’ll learn how to trace your people-pleasing and overachieving back to your childhood, how to reframe your survival traits as gifts, and exactly how to practice setting boundaries in your daily life before you ever go on another first date. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Disney Movies Ruined Dating And How Not To Be A Toxic Disney Princess 08.05.2026 21分

In this highly requested solo episode, Eli takes a hilarious, unfiltered look at the classic Disney princess movies that secretly ruined our dating expectations. He breaks down why we’re all addicted to a delusional, “fairytale” view of love—and how media propaganda has conditioned us to chase a non-existent spark. From dragging Snow White for moving in with seven roommates, to questioning how Ariel expected to build a life with a guy who literally eats her oceanic friends, no nostalgic film is safe. Eli unpacks the bizarre trend of men falling in love with unconscious women (looking at you, Sleeping Beauty), and why forced romances in movies like Mulan teach us that we are only as good as our relationship status. You’ll laugh, you’ll feel called out, and you’ll leave with a reality check on why unlearning this "relationship porn" is the first step to building real emotional intelligence. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Stop Drinking Through Your Breakup: Unhealthy Coping vs. Actual Healing with Colleen Freeland 01.05.2026 46分

We all know the post-breakup urge to grab mimosas, turn up, and numb the pain. But in this episode, Eli and guest Colleen Freeland break down exactly why drinking through your heartbreak practically guarantees you’ll repeat the exact same toxic patterns in your next relationship. Using her own story of navigating divorce and high-functioning alcohol dependency, Colleen explains how outsourcing your sense of safety to a bottle (or a rebound) keeps you stuck in an abusive relationship with yourself. Eli and Colleen dive deep into why we are so terrified of our own feelings, how to sit with the discomfort of a breakup, and why treating the symptom will never cure the root wound of low self-worth. You’ll leave understanding that your biggest fear isn't actually being alone—it's failing to live up to your full potential. Explore More About Colleen: Follow here Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Can You Change A Man? (Why Dating for Potential is Actually Delusion) 24.04.2026 17分

Eli is dropping the ultimate truth bomb for anyone stuck in a frustrating relationship trying to "fix" their partner: you cannot change a man. In this quick, hard-hitting solo episode, Eli breaks down why dating for potential—when it's entirely one-sided—is just delusion in disguise. He shares his own journey of doing the inner work, revealing that he didn't heal his avoidant tendencies to save a relationship, but because he wanted to reach his own potential. But if you’re already in deep and want things to improve, Eli explains how to actually inspire growth. You’ll learn why you have to become the mirror for the communication you want, how your anxious attachment might be overloading him, and the psychological hack of using positive reinforcement instead of criticism to make a man actually want to step up. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Proven Sign You’re Ready To Date Again And How Not Fall In The Same Relationship 17.04.2026 22分

In this solo episode, Eli is hitting you with the ultimate post-breakup reality check: when are you actually ready to start dating again? He breaks down the crucial difference between just "healing while single" and giving your nervous system the required time to fall in love with your own life. If you are downloading dating apps out of FOMO, anxiety, or the fear of being left behind, this episode is your intervention. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The Q&A Episode: Situationships, Rebounds, & Why He Blocked You 21.03.2026 48分

It’s time for the quarterly Q&A! In this episode, Eli opens the mailbag to answer the wild, messy, and deeply relatable questions submitted by the Selfhype community. He breaks down exactly why men use "gray language" to keep you in a situationship, the real reason an avoidant jumps right into a new relationship (and why it’s not a reflection of your worth), and why your ex blocking you everywhere is actually a sign of his own fragile ego and hurt feelings. Eli hands you the exact "fun, flirty filter" script to text a guy who is dragging his feet on a second date, and explains why agreeing to be a side piece makes you a "public park" instead of a protected prize. You’ll learn how to stop defining your self-worth by another woman, why you need to switch gyms immediately if your ex is there, and how to stop asking "did I do something wrong?" when an avoidant runs away from repair. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

This Love Is Blind Season Is Prime Examples Of Avoidant Men And Heres What To Learn From It 13.03.2026 31分

Eli uses the latest season of Love is Blind as a masterclass in modern dating psychology and attachment styles. He breaks down the painful phenomenon of men on “autopilot”—guys who stick around and coast through a relationship simply because they don't want to be the bad guy, leaving you anxious and begging for their attention. From analyzing why some women double down when a man pulls away, to unpacking why a stable, consistent partner often feels "boring" to a dysregulated nervous system, this episode is a reality check. Eli also dives into the importance of holding your ground on non-negotiables (like having kids) instead of settling just to keep the relationship alive. Whether you watch the show or not, this is your guide to spotting red flags, understanding male behavior, and choosing secure attachment over toxic cycles. Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Heal Childhood Wounds And Practice Secure Attachment w/ Therapist & Coach Jessica Da Silva 06.03.2026 51分

Is your attachment style standing in your way? Our guest this week, published author, licensed therapist and attachment coach Jessica Da Silva breaks down the science of why we love the way we do. We’re talking childhood wounds, fear of failure, and how to tell if you’re actually ready for intimacy or just performing. Stop running from the "scary monster" of vulnerability and learn the tools to sit, regulate, and repair. You aren't stuck with the hand you were dealt—it’s time to rewire your nervous system for the love you deserve. We unpack attachment and so much more! Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

Dating An Avoidant: Is Taking Him Back Healing Or Self-Sabotage? 27.02.2026 27分

If you’ve ever said “He’s avoidant, but our connection is different,” this episode is your intervention. Eli walks you through the real post-breakup cycle of an avoidant man—from love bombing and intensity, to shutdown and defensiveness, to the late-night “Hey stranger” text that has you questioning everything. Using his own past as an avoidant, he explains why him watching your stories, texting you, or wanting to “try again” is usually about his fear, ego, and loneliness—not some epic, healed version of him suddenly waking up. Then he hands the mic back to you: What did this relationship expose about your attachment style, your boundaries, your inner child, and your fear of being alone? You’ll leave with a checklist of what actually needs to change for a reunion to be healthy (on both sides), how to create a “third option” that isn’t just yes or no, and how to turn this breakup from a waiting room into your personal bootcamp for building a secure relationship with yourself. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Turn Self-Love Into Community w/ Tiffany Yu 21.02.2026 57分

Tiffany Yu didn't just survive a car accident at nine that killed her father and left her with a paralyzed arm—she built one of the most impactful disability advocacy platforms in the world. In this raw conversation, she takes us through the process of not only loving herself but turning it into action and advocacy. Tiffany shares how she went from a nine-year-old to the founder of Diversability, a global movement born from her own exclusion. She explains why disability needs to be more than just known but integrated in society as whole. Her book the Anti-Ableist Manifesto, explains just that. If you’ve ever felt like you had to "fix" yourself to be worthy of taking up space, this episode is your permission slip to take even more space, unapologetically. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Survive Valentine’s Day When You’re Single 14.02.2026 27分

This episode is for the girl in the oversized sweater, scrolling couple photos, lowkey raging at Walgreens heart displays, and wondering why this day hurts so much. Eli walks you through how to survive Valentine’s Day when you’re single — not with fake “I don’t care” energy, but with honest, messy, human feelings that actually lead to healing. He gives you permission to be sad, angry, or triggered, while also challenging you to take real-world actions that ground your nervous system and make you feel in control of your day again. From buying your own damn chocolates to taking yourself out, to creating emotional “anchors” you’ll remember years from now, this is your no-BS guide to getting through the day and quietly proving to yourself: “I still got me, even now.” Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

The High Achievers Survival Guide w/ Coach Gina Moreno 07.02.2026 49分

On this episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli sits down with Gina Moreno, a coach helping high-achieving women — especially Latinas — navigate ambition, self-care, and relationships. Gina shares her journey from tech prodigy and TED Talk speaker to discovering her true purpose: coaching women to break generational patterns and embrace their full potential.They dive into her early successes, the quarter-life crisis that shifted her path, and how she turned her own healing and growth into a mission to empower others. Gina opens up about balancing family expectations, cultural pressures, and personal ambition, and Eli unpacks the lessons for listeners seeking to align their achievements with purpose. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

What It Means When Men Rebound And Why Its The Best Thing Ever 31.01.2026 26分

This week we're talking rebounds — why they're not “moving on,” why they’re actually the loudest, clearest red flag your ex could ever wave, and why you should be doing a happy dance when you find out he already jumped to the next one.This episode breaks down the mental & emotional game men play when they can’t sit with their feelings, why rebounding is just external validation on steroids, and how it’s literally PROOF that you dodged a walking trauma bond. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

How To Rebuild Your Identity After Life Changing Trauma w/ Samoana Matagi 23.01.2026 48分

Sam became a double hand amputee overnight — and nothing about his life was the same afterward. In this deeply honest episode, Sam shares what it’s like to lose not just your hands, but your sense of normalcy, confidence, and control. We explore the emotional weight of trauma, from mourning the life you had to facing a world that suddenly feels inaccessible and unfamiliar.Sam speaks candidly about relearning daily routines, confronting anxiety and self-doubt, and redefining masculinity, independence, and self-worth. He reflects on how community, vulnerability, and storytelling helped pull him out of isolation and reminded him that he wasn’t alone in his experience.This episode is a reminder that healing isn’t linear, resilience isn’t glamorous, and strength often shows up quietly. It’s a powerful conversation about rebuilding identity, honoring grief, and choosing to keep going even when the path forward is unclear. Learn More about Sahara Rose https://iamsahararose.com/ Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez All rights reserved. ©2025 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice