NDA: No D*cks Allowed

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  I Didn't Want You to Worry 13.10.2026 24分

  Send us Fan Mail Why do we tell the people who love us that we’re fine when we’re not? In this episode, we’re joined by Stephanie Kennedy for a conversation about what happens when we try to carry difficult experiences on our own while also protecting everyone else from worrying about us. We talk about the difference between privacy and isolation, why asking for help can feel like becoming a burden, and how “I’m fine” can become a way of shrinking ourselves. We also explore what meaningful su...
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  An NDA Coaching Session: Harder to Categorize 06.10.2026 25分

  Send us Fan Mail This episode looks a little different from our usual format. Amanda brings a shrinking behavior she has been wrestling with into the conversation in real time: the fear that a nonlinear career journey makes her harder to understand, harder to market, and ultimately less credible. Elizabeth coaches her through the assumptions underneath that fear, the imaginary version of herself she keeps comparing herself to, and the language she uses that reinforces the very perception she ...
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  Living by Unwritten Rules 29.09.2026 22分

  Send us Fan Mail Nobody handed us a rulebook, yet somehow so many women learned the same rules anyway. Apologize when you have done nothing wrong. Pretend everything is fine. Avoid a few seconds of awkwardness, even if it inconveniences you. Add the exclamation point so nobody thinks you're mad. Say “we should get together” when you both know you probably won’t. In this episode, we’re looking at the unwritten rules women follow without ever consciously agreeing to them, where they come from, ...
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  Shouting Into the Void 22.09.2026 24分

  Send us Fan Mail What do you do when you’re communicating clearly, raising legitimate concerns, and the people around you still aren’t listening? In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when women are interrupted, dismissed, talked over, or ignored, especially in male-dominated environments. We unpack the instinct to assume the problem must be how we’re communicating, which can lead us to overprepare, soften our language, rehearse everything we say, or eventually decide it isn’t wor...
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  When Friendship Turns Toxic 15.09.2026 28分

  Send us Fan Mail We talk a lot about toxic romantic relationships, but toxic friendships can be harder to recognize, especially when there’s history, loyalty, and genuinely good memories mixed in. In this episode, we’re talking about the friendships that leave you second-guessing yourself, editing your joy, explaining away behavior that doesn’t sit right, and feeling guilty for setting boundaries. We dig into the red flags we tend to minimize, what happens when a friend makes you pay for sayi...
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  Permission to Want 08.09.2026 22分

  Send us Fan Mail Women are taught to care about other people. But somewhere along the way, many of us also learned that our own wants and preferences are not enough. We feel pressure to justify why we want something, and just as often, why we don’t. Saying yes feels easier when we can explain how it benefits someone else. Saying no feels more acceptable when we can prove how we've earned it, how we're needed somewhere else, or otherwise have a reason that sounds sufficiently legitimate....
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  The Noise in Your Body 01.09.2026 31分

  Send us Fan Mail TW: This episode includes discussion of eating disorders, disordered eating, body image, weight, dieting, and exercise-related behaviors. Listener discretion is advised. We spend an enormous amount of time thinking about our bodies: how they look, what we eat, whether we have exercised enough, what other people might be noticing, and what we should be doing differently. In this episode, we’re joined by eating disorder and body image therapist Brittany Manchester, LMHC-D...
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  Honesty as a Weapon 25.08.2026 26分

  Send us Fan Mail There’s a difference between being honest and using honesty as cover for cruelty. In this episode, we unpack the kind of “honesty” that shows up as unsolicited criticism, backhanded comments, judgment disguised as concern, and the familiar excuse: I’m just being honest. We talk about why this behavior shows up so often between women, how insecurity, competition, resentment, and personal history can sit underneath it, and what it does to trust, confidence, and psychological sa...
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  Prepared for Everything, Safe from Nothing 18.08.2026 33分

  Send us Fan Mail We like to think being prepared means being safe. If we anticipate every possibility, make the backup plans for the backup plans, manage the details, read the room, stay useful, and keep everything moving, maybe nothing can catch us off guard. But control is often less about the outcome and more about the feelings we are trying to avoid. In this episode, we unpack the different ways control shows up, from over-preparing and over-functioning to managing other people’s reaction...
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  Not Wrong, Just Different 11.08.2026 27分

  Send us Fan Mail Type A is treated as the standard for what responsible, prepared, and successful should look like. When someone operates differently, their process is frequently mistaken for disorganization, procrastination, or a lack of commitment. In this episode, Elizabeth talks honestly about what it feels like to be a Type B person in a world that does not always understand or appreciate her way of working. We explore time optimism, flexibility, structure, trust, and the tension that ca...
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  When Feelings Become Facts 04.08.2026 29分

  Send us Fan Mail Content note: This episode includes a detailed account involving a firearm and a perceived threat of gun violence. Listener discretion is advised. Self-doubt is not always proof that we are unqualified. Sometimes it points to a real opportunity to learn, prepare, or grow. Other times, it's old criticism, conditioning, and fear that we view through a self-created filter as objective truth. In this episode, we challenge the way imposter syndrome is often discussed and examine w...
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  The Competence Curse 28.07.2026 24分

  Send us Fan Mail You're the one everyone depends on. The one who always steps up, solves the problem, picks up the slack, remembers the details, and gets things done. Those qualities make you incredibly valuable. But they can also become the very things that keep you stuck. In this episode, we unpack what Amanda calls the competence curse: the pattern where women become known for their reliability and execution, only to find themselves overlooked for opportunities to lead, influence, and grow...
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  Love on an Allowance 21.07.2026 25分

  Send us Fan Mail Financial abuse is one of the most common forms of abuse, but it's one that can often be tougher to recognize when you're in it. Many women don't realize it's happening because it rarely starts with dramatic financial betrayal (secret credit cards, draining a bank account). Instead, it often looks like one person taking over the finances, discouraging questions, controlling access to money, requiring purchases to be justified, or slowly convincing someone they "just aren't go...
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  The "No" You Made Up 14.07.2026 29分

  Send us Fan Mail How many opportunities have we missed because we assumed the answer would be no? Assuming a no before asking for a raise. Before applying for the job. Before speaking up in a meeting. Before asking for help. Before ordering our meal the way we actually wanted it. In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common ways women hold themselves back: negotiating against themselves before anyone else has the chance to respond. We explore where this pattern comes from, why ...
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  The Performance of Authenticity 07.07.2026 28分

  Send us Fan Mail What happens when being yourself starts to feel like another performance? In this episode, we're unpacking the tension between hiding and oversharing, and why neither one is actually authenticity. Some women carefully edit themselves, keeping their opinions, needs, and emotions tucked safely away. Others share everything, hoping that vulnerability will create connection. But both behaviors often come from the same place: self-protection. We explore: • Why overshar...
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  Impossible by Design 30.06.2026 34分

  Send us Fan Mail For decades, women have been told they can have it all. A successful career. A thriving family. A clean house. A full social life. Time for self care. Time for everyone else. And when it all feels impossible, the advice is almost always the same: get organized, manage your time better, set better boundaries, become more resilient. But what if the problem isn't your planner? In this episode, we sit down with Amanda Duncan, founder of Chiara Consulting, to unpack a difficult tr...
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  When Awareness Becomes Avoidance 23.06.2026 25分

  Send us Fan Mail You know your attachment style. Your Enneagram number. Your communication tendencies. Your childhood wounds. Your triggers. Your patterns. So why are you still stuck? In this episode, we're unpacking a modern trap that many women fall into: confusing self-awareness with actual change. Somewhere along the way, reflection became a substitute for action. We learned to analyze ourselves, understand ourselves, and explain ourselves in incredible detail. But awareness alone doesn't...
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  Chasing Gold Stars 16.06.2026 31分

  Send us Fan Mail TW: This episode includes discussion of burnout, serious medical events, and brief references to suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised. We’re taught that perfectionism is a sign of ambition. That it means we care. That it’s what separates high performers from everyone else. But what if perfectionism isn’t really about excellence at all? In this episode, we unpack the hidden fear beneath perfectionism and explore how many women learn to tie their worth to achieveme...
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  Body Image: Appreciation Sold Separately 09.06.2026 36分

  Send us Fan Mail TW: This episode includes discussion of body image, weight, eating disorder recovery, sexual abuse, medical procedures, and women's experiences with body-based judgment and objectification. Listener discretion is advised. Women are taught early that our bodies are projects. Something to improve. Something to shrink. Something to manage. Something to earn approval through. In this deeply personal episode, we unpack the complicated relationship women have with their bodies and ...
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  Inconveniently Complex 02.06.2026 28分

  Send us Fan Mail We love to talk about generations. Boomers don't like change. Millennials are entitled. Gen Z doesn't want to work. At least that's what we're told. In this episode, we're unpacking why generational stereotypes have become one of the most socially accepted forms of bias and what gets lost when we reduce complex human beings (especially women) to labels. The moment we start using those labels to explain someone's entire personality, we stop being curious about who they actuall...