Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

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  5 Things Socially Skilled People Do Differently in Conversation 11.09.2026 13min

  If you want help finding better answers to the questions people actually ask (including examples of what I would say), get the worksheet here: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/Con... In this episode, I share five surprising things I’ve learned that lead to better conversations. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear For regular insights and tips, subscribe to the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  How To Master The Art Of Conversation (Using Psychology) 01.09.2026 16min

  If you want help finding better answers to the questions people actually ask (including examples of what I would say), get the worksheet here: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/Con... Ever been asked about yourself and felt like the conversation went NOWHERE? This episode will help you with that. For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear For weekly insights and tips, subscribe to the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Why You Think You're Being Rejected (When You're Not) 19.08.2026 16min

  In this episode, I explain three hidden psychological barriers that may be causing you to unintentionally filter out people who are actually into you. To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  What Actually Matters When You Meet Someone New 11.08.2026 10min

  In this episode, I explain why dating can feel like a performance or evaluation, and what helps it feel more natural and enjoyable instead. To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  You Owe It to Everyone to Take a Vacation 30.07.2026 12min

  If you're a hard-worker who's feeling the grind, this episode is for you. As a psychologist, I've delved into both the research and real-world cases to uncover the truth about the necessity of vacations and the fears that keep us from taking them. Think you can power through without ever taking a break? The truth might surprise you. Skipping the downtime doesn’t just affect your performance; it could be sabotaging your life. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Facing Your Fears: 3 Lessons That Will Transform Your Life 21.07.2026 10min

  As a clinical psychologist, I've spent decades exploring the landscape of fear, not just professionally, but personally. In this video, I'm sharing the three pivotal lessons that you can learn when you face your fears. Join me as I recount personal anecdotes, like the rule that helped me write my book despite overwhelming anxiety, and give client examples that you can apply to your own life. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Stop Overthinking Social Situations: The Mindset Shift That Freed Me 05.07.2026 10min

  Do you ever find yourself frozen in social situations, haunted by what others might think of you? In this podcast, I reveal the insights that triggered a mindset shift and helped free me from the shackles of social anxiety. This is a reading from my book: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter:  https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email  
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  The Science of Playing Hard To Get 27.06.2026 14min

  This episode is about the psychology of playing hard to get, revealing indicators, how it works, and whether it's a good dating strategy, along with the downsides of using it.  To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  The Shift That Makes You Instantly More Magnetic 20.06.2026 14min

  This episode explores one reason we get overlooked, and what to do about it. If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear To work more on your social and psychological health, join the email list: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  You're Probably Better At First Dates Than You Realize 12.06.2026 16min

  In this episode, I look at a dataset of 880 Guardian Blind Dates to explore what really happens when two strangers sit down for a first date. Rory Flint’s Blind Dates dataset: https://blinddates.rory.codes/ The Guardian Blind Date series: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/blind-date To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  Why You Can't Stop Overthinking (When You Like Someone) 05.06.2026 15min

  In this episode, I explain what triggers overthinking when you like someone, what your mind is trying to do, and why it gets stuck — along with a better way to approach it.   Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  Why Jumping Ahead Is Holding You Back In Life 27.05.2026 8min

  Do you spend a lot of time thinking about possible issues in the future? I've seen this cause a lot of problems for people lately. This video game analogy seems to help. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Day I Overcame Social Anxiety 20.05.2026 6min

  I share my journey overcoming social anxiety, which led me to write my book. Through personal stories and strategies backed by clinical experience, I explore how to move from fear and avoidance into what I call the "Warm Social World," where meaningful connections feel natural. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Real Secret to Self-Confidence (You’ve Been Doing It Wrong) 12.05.2026 20min

  Becoming self-confident is easier than it seems (if you understand it). In this episode, I discuss the insight that changed everything for me. Backed by psychological research and personal insights, I reveal the real meaning of self-confidence and how it can transform your life. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  How to Master Small Talk (Even If You Hate It) 28.04.2026 16min

  Ever been in a conversation and had NO idea what to say next? This episode will help with that. If you want help finding better answers to the questions people actually ask (including examples of what I would say), get the worksheet here: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/Con... For more on psychology and social interaction, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Psychologist On Feeling Down: What I Do and What I Never Do 21.04.2026 8min

  I woke up feeling down, and decided to record a podcast (that day) describing what I did in response. I thought this could be helpful since I’m a psychologist and you can see how I used to deal with it, and how I’ve learned to respond differently now. And by the way, I stuck to this system and my mood returned to baseline within a couple of days.  Remember, it’s okay to have down days. What’s important is how we respond to them.  For more on working with all the shame or low moods associated with social anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  Become Better Looking Through Psychology 13.04.2026 14min

  Can your personality actually make you more physically attractive? I explore how certain traits can change how others see your looks, backed by surprising psychology and neuroscience findings. What key characteristics shift these perceptions, and why? Listen to learn how your interactions and behavior could enhance your attractiveness, without changing your appearance. For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter:  https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email
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  The Simple Technique To Control Your Anxiety 03.04.2026 10min

  Download my "Worry Time Pocket Guide" here:  https://thomas-smithyman.mykajabi.com/worry-time-pocket-guide For more on psychology and anxiety, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear
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  How Your Phone Is Ruining Your Social Life (And How to Fix It) 27.03.2026 14min

  Our phones are quietly undermining our social lives by pulling attention away from real human connection. In this episode, I explain the psychology behind how phones reduce happiness, weaken relationships, and block connection—and the small, practical changes that can help you level up. For more, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.  
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  What To Do When Life Gets Hard 20.03.2026 14min

  Discover the evidence-based methods to staying positive even when your circumstances are difficult. I share my own story of how and why I had to learn all about this. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com.