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  What Intimacy Coordinators Really Do | Jamie Monahan Part 2 | Episode 29 17.09.2026 23min

  What actually happens when actors film a sex scene—and who makes sure intimacy is choreographed, communicated, and consensual?In this episode of The Sexology Lab, intimacy coordinator Jamie Monahan takes us behind the scenes of intimate storytelling in film, television, theater, and audio erotica. Jamie shares what the job really involves day-to-day, why actors often struggle more with voicing intimacy in audio than performing it on camera, and how confidentiality, clear communication, and aftercare help build crucial trust on set.We also dive into Jamie's perspective on why intimacy coordination goes beyond just stopping harm, how actors can detach from heavy emotional roles, why younger generations aren't anti-sex on screen but want authentic representation, and how media serves as real-world sex education.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Audio Intimacy vs. On-Camera Intimacy: Actors are often more confident physically acting out a scene of intimacy than voicing it.A Day in the Life of an Intimacy Coordinator: The job starts long before filming,Confidentiality Builds Safety: Actors often share private details or anxieties. IIntimacy Coordination Is Artistry, Not Policing: A common myth is that intimacy coordinators exist to police sets. Younger Audiences Want Better Representation: Gen Z isn't uninterested in intimacy in media; rather, they reject formulaic scenes that lack purpose.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Audio Drama Intimacy vs. Film and TV00:27 – Meet Jamie Monahan & Introduction01:11 – Aftercare, Mental Health, and Leaving the Role on Set03:52 – What Intimacy Coordinators Actually Look For on the Monitors05:18 – A Day in the Life of an Intimacy Coordinator: From Prep to Set08:04 – Choreographing the Scene: On-the-Fly Adjustments and Script Writing11:05 – Why Voicing Intimacy in Audio Is Harder Than Acting It on Camera13:44 – The Vocal Technique of Sensual Sound and Lower Registers14:28 – LIGHTNING ROUND: Awkward Props, Myths, and On-Set Signals16:39 – Humor vs. Vulnerability During Intimate Filming17:41 – The Power of Confidentiality and Trust with Actors20:38 – Media as Sex Education and the Future of Authentic Human ConnectionRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for accredited sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness:Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026!As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative.Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠Resources, people, and projects discussed in this episode:Jamie Monahan: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5536708/ Ember and Ice: https://www.tryquinn.com/series/ember-and-ice Heated Rivalry: https://www.instagram.com/heatedrivalrycrave/?hl=en Chala Hunter: https://www.chalahunter.com/ Intimacy Directors and Coordinators (IDC): https://www.idcprofessionals.com/ If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us continue bringing thoughtful conversations about sexuality, relationships, culture, media, and human behavior to listeners around the world.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/ 
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  What Really Happens When Actors Film Intimate Scenes? | Jamie Monahan Part 1 | Episode 28 10.09.2026 25min

  What actually happens when actors film a sex scene—and who makes sure intimacy is choreographed, communicated, and consensual?In this episode of The Sexology Lab, intimacy coordinator and intimacy director Jamie Monahan takes us behind the scenes of intimate storytelling in film, television, theater, and audio. Jamie shares how her background as an actor and director led her into intimacy coordination, what the job really involves, and why the role is about much more than preventing something from going wrong.We also dive into Jamie’s work with Quinn Audio on Ember and Ice, featuring Heated Rivalry actors Connor Storrie and Hudson Williams. Jamie explores how intimacy can reveal character, why consent and aftercare matter on and off screen, how audio erotica creates new opportunities for immersive storytelling, and why better representations of intimacy in media can shape the way audiences understand sex itself.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Filming intimacy is far more technical than it looks. An intimacy coordinator is both a creative collaborator and an advocate. Intimate scenes can tell us something important about characters. Consent on screen matters off screen, too. Intimacy coordination isn't only about stopping harm.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Why an Actor May Still Need an Intimacy Coordinator00:27 – Meet Jamie Monahan01:20 – Jamie's Most Unexpected Fun Fact01:45 – What Filming a Sex Scene Really Looks Like03:00 – What Is Quinn Audio?04:00 – Behind Ember and Ice04:40 – Romance, War, and the Intimacy Arc06:05 – When Romance Fandom Crosses Into Audio Erotica06:55 – Are We in a "Smut Renaissance"?08:20 – Sex Scenes Should Tell Us Something09:20 – What Heated Rivalry Does Differently10:30 – Consent as Character Development11:35 – Media Is Sex Education, Whether We Like It or Not13:10 – From Actor and Director to Intimacy Coordinator14:00 – The Sexual Assault Scene That Changed Her Career14:40 – "Your Body Doesn't Know the Difference"15:00 – Discovering a Brand-New Profession16:20 – Following Curiosity Into a Career17:30 – What Does an Intimacy Coordinator Actually Do?18:40 – Why This Role Became Necessary19:20 – No More Surprise Nudity on Set20:00 – You Can't Remove Power Dynamics20:45 – What If an Actor Doesn't Want an Intimacy Coordinator?21:05 – One Bad Experience Doesn't Define an Entire Profession22:00 – When the Bigger Star Says, "I Don't Need One"23:00 – "I Know He's Not a Creep" Misses the Point24:00 – Making Intimacy Coordination Standard PracticeRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern s//xual wellness:Explore the Community: ⁠https://sexualhealthalliance.com/⁠Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications⁠Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026!As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative.Secure your conference pass: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/amplify⁠Resources, people, and projects discussed in this episodeJamie Monahan: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5536708/ Ember and Ice: https://www.tryquinn.com/series/ember-and-ice Heated Rivalry: https://www.instagram.com/heatedrivalrycrave/?hl=en Chala Hunter: https://www.chalahunter.com/ Intimacy Directors and Coordinators (IDC): https://www.idcprofessionals.com/ If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! 🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Trauma Doesn't Stay Outside the Bedroom | Amanda Jepson | Episode 27 03.09.2026 52min

  Trauma doesn't stay neatly contained in the past—and it doesn't stay outside the bedroom.In this episode of The Sexology Lab, we sit down with Amanda Jepson, SHA-certified and AASECT-certified sex therapist and trauma specialist, to explore how trauma can shape desire, pleasure, trust, touch, attachment, communication, and relational safety. Amanda explains why trauma-informed sex therapy often requires slowing down, building safety first, and helping clients reconnect with their bodies and sexuality at their own pace.We also talk about affirming care for erotic minorities, the risks of clinician bias, how Amanda chooses between modalities like EMDR, CPT, narrative therapy, CBT, and DBT, and what good care actually looks like for queer, kinky, non-monogamous, disabled, larger-bodied, and otherwise marginalized clients. Plus, Amanda shares how current political realities are showing up in the therapy room—and why community, supervision, curiosity, and ethical self-reflection matter more than ever.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Trauma can affect sexuality even when the trauma itself wasn't sexual. Trust, nervous-system regulation, desire, touch, vulnerability, attachment, and orgasm can all be impacted.Trauma-informed sex therapy moves at the client's pace. Safety and stabilization come first, followed by trauma processing and then deeper reconnection with pleasure, sexuality, and relationships.Clinicians have to examine their own bias. Erotic minorities can be harmed when professionals pathologize, judge, minimize, or over-romanticize identities and behaviors based on their own beliefs instead of listening to the client.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 Trauma & Sexuality00:42 Erotic Minorities01:54 Origin Story04:00 Fluid Labels04:32 Sensate Focus05:48 Overcoming Bias06:58 Clinical Gaps: OCSB08:26 Taboo Porn & Guilt12:35 EMDR, CPT & CBT18:12 Safety & Stabilization20:21 Fight or Flight vs. Orgasm23:54 Somatic Coping25:38 Ready for Reconnection28:28 Kink, BDSM & CNM Trauma31:52 Polyamory Affirming Care36:56 Therapist Humility38:22 LGBTQ+ Across Politics45:28 Ethics: Community & Military46:53 Post-Traumatic Growth47:54 Rapid Fire Myths & Skills49:45 SHA ExperienceRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals.Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness:Explore the Community: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertificationsJoin Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026!Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative.Secure your conference pass: https://www.sexologylab.com/amplifyResources and concepts discussed in this episode include:Amanda Jepson: https://colorfullifetherapy.com/ Sexual Health Alliance: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ EMDR: https://www.emdria.org/ Tell Me What You Want by Dr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/books/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more people with thoughtful, evidence-informed conversations about sex, relationships, trauma, and human behavior.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Why You're Not in the Mood (And There's Nothing Wrong With You) | Dr. Nazanin Moali | Episode 26 27.08.2026 35min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Nazanin Moali, licensed clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and host of the Sexology Podcast, to unpack one of the most common concerns in modern relationships: low desire. Dr. Moali explains why so many people mistakenly believe something is "wrong" with them when they aren't spontaneously in the mood, and how understanding responsive desire can completely change the way we think about intimacy.We also explore the hidden factors that quietly erode desire—including chronic stress, nervous system dysregulation, emotional safety, body image, mental load, relationship dynamics, and the myth that great sex should always happen effortlessly. Plus, Dr. Moali shares practical strategies couples can use to reconnect, communicate about sex, and cultivate desire over time instead of waiting for it to magically appear.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Most people experience responsive desire, meaning desire often follows arousal—not the other way around—and there's nothing broken about that.Stress, emotional safety, mental load, and disconnection have a profound impact on desire, often more than libido itself.Great sex isn't effortless—it requires communication, curiosity, and intentionally creating the conditions where desire can thrive.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 - 00:44 – Debunking the Myth of Spontaneous Libido vs. Responsive Desire01:48 – Dr. Nazanin Moali on Clinical Sex Therapy and Modern Intimacy04:16 – Hollywood Misconceptions: Understanding Responsive Desire in Relationships06:16 – Nervous System Dysregulation, Burnout, and Low Sexual Drive08:45 – Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Movement, and Regulating Stress for Pleasure11:21 – Building Emotional Safety, Healing Trauma, and Overcoming Bodily Disconnection12:48 – Overcoming Long-Term Relationship Predictability with Erotic Novelty13:56 – Mapping Your Erotic Template and Using an Erotic Journal16:56 – Cortisol Overload, Body Image Issues, and Navigating Sexual Shame17:59 – Libido Killers: Antidepressant Side Effects and Perimenopause Hormonal Shifts18:43 – Practical Insights from the Sexology Practice Guide19:43 – Managing Desire Discrepancies and the Myth of Effortless Intimacy21:18 – Sexual Communication Strategies: Sexy Happy Hour and Intimacy Menus22:24 – Domestics Resentment: Chore Inequity and the Parent-Child Relationship Dynamic27:12 – Rebalancing the Mental Load and Sensory Overload for Caregivers and Moms27:42 – Dr. Nazanin Moali’s Journey Founding the Sexology Podcast31:16 – De-stigmatizing Taboo Intimacy Topics, Kink, Pegging, and Sexual Education32:45 – Content Creation Tips for Aspiring Sexual Health Podcasters34:11 – Why Sex Feels Like a Chore: Shifting from Goal to ExperienceRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals. Explore the Community: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Certifications: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertificationsJoin Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative.Secure your conference pass: https://www.sexologylab.com/amplifyMore from this episode's guest at: Dr. Nazanin Moali: https://oasis2care.com/Sexology Podcast: https://sexologypodcast.com/The Erotic Mind by Jack MorinSUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! www.sexologylab.com
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  The Kids Are Alright: Dr. Eli Sheff on 25+ Years of Polyamorous Family Research | Episode 25 20.08.2026 30min

  What kind of relationship actually works for you—and how much of that answer comes from what you genuinely want versus what you've been taught a relationship is supposed to look like?In this two-part conversation, we sit down with Dr. Eli Sheff, sociologist, certified sexuality educator, longtime researcher of consensual non-monogamy, and Director of Sexual Health Alliance's Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Drawing on more than 25 years of research, Dr. Sheff takes us beyond the stereotypes surrounding polyamory and into what people's relationships and families actually look like.In Part 2, we turn to Dr. Sheff's groundbreaking longitudinal research on polyamorous families with children. After decades of following these families, her findings challenge one of the biggest assumptions about consensual non-monogamy: that unconventional relationship structures inherently create instability for children. Instead, her research highlights resilience, emotional intelligence, strong support networks, and the importance of what she calls polyaffective relationshipsKEY TAKEAWAYS:Dr. Sheff's long-term research challenges assumptions that children raised in polyamorous families are inherently confused or unstable; the families in her research demonstrate significant stability, resilience, emotional connection, and social support.Strong polyamorous families often rely on polyaffective relationships—lasting emotional bonds that can remain important even when sexual or romantic relationships change. The quality of relationships, communication, consent, and support may tell us far more about a family's well-being than whether its structure fits conventional expectations.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 - 02:56 - Common Mistakes in Consensual Non-Monogamy & Navigating the Unicorn Hunters Phenomenon02:56 - Unpacking Threesome Dynamics: Deconstructing Male Fantasies and Pornography Expectations06:13 - The Evolution of Consensual Non-Monogamy in Academic Research and Psychology11:00 - Debunking Myths About Polyamorous Families: Resilience, Emotional Intelligence, and Child Support Networks16:50 - How Children Form Relationships with Parental Partners in Polyamorous Homes20:05 - Overcoming Societal Stigma and Understanding Boundaries in Polyamorous Parenting23:53 - Lightning Round: Media Representation, Pop Culture Portrayals, and the Reality of Non-Monogamous Lifestyles27:51 - A Message for the Next Generation: Releasing Shame and Embracing Sexual Health and Relationship DiversityRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, the premier global hub for sexology certifications, evidence-based continuing education (CE/CEU), and an expansive international network of therapists, healthcare providers, educators, and sexuality professionals. Learn directly from industry pioneers and leading voices in modern sexual wellness:Explore the Community: www.sexualHealthAlliance.com Certifications: www. sexualhealthalliance.com/get-certified-allcertifications
Join Us at AMPLIFY this October 2026!Modern intimacy is evolving. As millions turn to digital media, social platforms, and modern culture for guidance on sex, relationships, and identity, clinicians and educators must shape conversations that are inclusive, evidence-based, and representative.Secure your conference pass: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/sha-annual-conference-2026More from this episode's guest and topics discussed:Dr. Eli Sheff: https://elisabethsheff.com/ The Bonding Project: https://www.bondingproject.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/consensual-non-monogamy-certification SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! ⁠www.sexologylab.com⁠
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  Monogamy, Polyamory, or Something Else? Finding Your Relationship Style with Dr. Eli Sheff Part 1 | Episode 24 13.08.2026 24min

  What kind of relationship actually works for you—and how much of that answer comes from what you genuinely want versus what you've been taught a relationship is supposed to look like?In this two-part conversation, we sit down with Dr. Eli Sheff, sociologist, certified sexuality educator, longtime researcher of consensual non-monogamy, and Director of Sexual Health Alliance's Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Drawing on more than 25 years of research, Dr. Sheff takes us beyond the stereotypes surrounding polyamory and into what people's relationships and families actually look like.In Part 1, we explore the many ways people build relationships, from monogamy and polyamory to swinging and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Sheff introduces the Bonding Project, explains how to determine which relationship structure might work for you, breaks down common mistakes people make when opening relationships, and tackles everything from unicorn hunting to couples privilege.There is no single relationship structure that works for everyone. Monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and other relationship styles come with different expectations around emotional intimacy, exclusivity, autonomy, and commitment.Before trying consensual non-monogamy, it's important to consider not only how you feel about having additional partners, but how you would feel about your partner having those same opportunities.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Non-traditional Relationship Models and Cornerstone Needs00:21 – Introduction to Dr. Eli Sheff and Consensual Non-Monogamy01:14 – Guest Icebreaker: Dr. Eli Sheff's Background in African Dance01:54 – Overview of The Bonding Project Relationship Test03:56 – Audience Compatibility and Romantic Bonding Archetypes05:59 – Inspiration and History Behind Creating The Bonding Project08:10 – Relationship Diversity, Stigma, and Fluid Expectations09:58 – Paid Results Expansion and Managing Polycule Expectations11:49 – Sponsor Segment: Sexology Practice Guide Promotion12:28 – Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Polyamory13:47 – Emotional Intimacy vs. Couple's Privilege in Polyamory and Swinging16:12 – Identifying Personal Alignment with Monogamy vs. Polyamory19:07 – Structuring Relationship Boundaries, Open Arrangements, and Alone Time21:33 – Sociological Differences Between Polyamory, Polygamy, and Polygyny22:56 – Socioeconomic Requirements of Polyamory and Women's AutonomyRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: www.SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode's guest and topics discussed:Dr. Eli Sheff: https://elisabethsheff.com/ The Bonding Project: https://www.bondingproject.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Consensual Non-Monogamy: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/consensual-non-monogamy-certification SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved these episodes, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/ 
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  Question Everything: How Japan, the Military, and Kink Shaped Midori | Episode 23 06.08.2026 32min

  Today in The Sexology Lab, we sit down with Midori—sexologist, educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneering voices in modern kink education. Best known for writing the first English-language instructional book on Japanese rope bondage and for leading Sexual Health Alliance's Kink Informed Certification Program, Midori shares the remarkable story behind the educator so many professionals know today.From growing up in Japan and immigrating to the United States at 14 without speaking English, to serving in the U.S. Army, discovering San Francisco's underground sex-positive movement, and helping shape modern kink education, Midori explains how questioning cultural norms became the foundation of her life's work. She also explores how attitudes toward sexuality differ between Japan and North America, why the BDSM community developed many of today's consent practices, and what professionals still get wrong when working with kinky clients.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Curiosity—not certainty—has driven Midori's career. Constantly questioning assumptions has allowed her to challenge outdated ideas about sexuality and kink.Modern BDSM education wasn't built overnight. Many of today's best practices around consent, negotiation, and safety were developed through decades of community learning and activism.Professionals can unintentionally harm kinky clients through bias, assumptions, or lack of education. Becoming kink-informed starts with curiosity, humility, and examining our own blind spots.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 Introducing Kink Pioneer Midori01:23 Midori’s Origin & Early Background01:45 Cultural Views on Sex: Japan vs. US03:43 Questioning Norms & "Coming Out" Kinky05:15 Contextual Shame in Japanese Culture07:28 Sensory Sensuality & Eroguro in Japan10:34 Negotiation & Communication Gaps in Japan12:54 Bringing Consent & Negotiation to Japan13:14 Promo: The Sexy Practice Guide14:13 Common Mistakes Therapists Make with Kink15:56 Trauma Assumptions & Pathologizing Kink16:51 Consensual Non-Consent vs. Non-Consensual Kink18:33 The Spectrum of Non-Consensual Kink20:20 How Therapists Can Signal Kink-Inclusivity22:02 Networking & Outing Yourself to Doctors23:56 How the DSM-5 Shifted Kink Stigma26:26 Lightning Round with Midori26:27 BDSM Prevalence & Big Misconceptions26:40 Overcoming Biases as Sex Professionals27:43 The Book That Shaped Midori’s View on Desire28:23 Empathy & Slowing Down for Relationship Safety28:51 Why Kink-Informed Certification Matters29:46 The Future of Sex Education & GatekeepingRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at SHA events and educational programs.Learn more at:Sexual Health Alliance: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Midori: https://planetmidori.com/ Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seductive-art-of-japanese-bondage-midori/1004747883 San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI): https://www.sfsi.org/ The Kinsey Institute: https://kinseyinstitute.org/index.html Leather Archives & Museum: https://leatherarchives.org/ Carol Queen: https://carolqueen.com/ Annie Sprinkle: https://anniesprinkle.org/ Patrick Califia: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/contributor/patrick-califia/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us continue bringing thoughtful conversations about sexuality, relationships, and human behavior to listeners around the world.🎙️ Thanks for listening to The Sexology Lab. We'll see you next week. https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  The Camera Has a Point of View: Arthur Brun from Erika Lust on Indie Adult Cinema | Episode 22 30.07.2026 41min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Arthur Brun, Chief Growth Officer at Erika Lust, one of the world's leading independent adult film studios. Arthur takes us behind the scenes of ethical production, cinematic storytelling, and the future of adult media, sharing how every creative decision—from who's behind the camera to how performers are supported on set—shapes the stories audiences ultimately see.This conversation explores why Erika Lust has shifted from the label "ethical porn" to "indie adult cinema," how explicit media influences culture and sex education, and the unique challenges of building a values-driven business in one of the world's most restricted industries. Whether you're interested in filmmaking, sexuality, ethics, or media, this episode offers a fascinating look inside a world few people ever get to see.Every film reflects the perspective of the people creating it—who is behind the camera matters just as much as who appears on screen.Ethical production extends far beyond performer consent; it includes communication, collaboration, representation, and creating psychologically safe working environments.Building an independent adult media company requires creativity not only in filmmaking but also in marketing, technology, and community building because traditional platforms often restrict adult content.SHOW SUMMARY:01:35 – Arthur Brun Origin Story & Professional Background02:48 – Industry Misconceptions & The Realities of Sex Work03:58 – Core Principles of Erica Lust Films05:14 – Shifting from "Ethical Porn" to an "Indie Adult Studio"07:27 – Concrete Realities of Ethical Film Production11:53 – Performers' Agency & Authenticity of Pleasure13:40 – Set Dynamics & Inclusive Technical Crews14:21 – Authenticity and Intimacy on Screen15:24 – Ethics of Representation & The Camera's Point of View17:58 – De-centering Heteronormative Frameworks19:13 – Mid-Roll Break: Sexology Lab Advertisement19:53 – Adult Media as Modern Sex Education23:25 – Responsible Platform UX & Resisting Misogynistic SEO26:28 – Creative Content Discoverability Without Objectification28:07 – Leveraging Extensive Customer Surveys & Feedback29:15 – Navigating Digital Censorship & The Return to Physical Events32:25 – The "House of Lust" VR & Immersive Exhibition33:44 – Global Demographics & The Strategic Power of PR35:55 – Providing Platform Accessibility for Marginalized Groups36:19 – Lightning Round: Success, Kindness, and Workplace Culture37:27 – On the Desk: Previewing Erica Lust's Upcoming Memoir38:13 – Future Guest Recommendations & Film Festival CultureRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode's guest at:Arthur Brun: https://es.linkedin.com/in/arthur-brun-barcelona Erika Lust: https://es.linkedin.com/company/erikalustLust by Erika Lust (forthcoming memoir): https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250472304/lust/ House of Erika Lust immersive exhibition: https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/house-of-erikalust-exhibition-first-immersive-erotic-experience-b1218464.html SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Five Minutes Is Not Premature: Dr. Joshua Gonzalez on How Long Men Should Last In Bed | Episode 21 23.07.2026 30min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, board-certified urologist, men's sexual health expert, and co-founder of Popstar Labs, to unpack the most common concerns men have about sex—and why so many suffer in silence. From erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation to fertility, testosterone, and body image, Dr. Gonzalez explains what men are actually experiencing versus what they think they should be experiencing.This conversation explores how anxiety, pornography, social media, and unrealistic expectations shape men's sexual confidence, why communication is often the most important sexual skill, and why taking a proactive approach to sexual wellness in your twenties can have lifelong benefits. We also discuss male fertility, environmental health, supplements, and why sexual health is best approached as a collaborative effort between medical providers, therapists, and other specialists.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Most sexual performance concerns are far more common than men realize, and many stem from unrealistic expectations rather than serious medical problems.Sexual wellness is deeply connected to overall health, including sleep, exercise, mental health, hormone balance, and lifestyle habits.The best time to start thinking about sexual health isn't when something goes wrong—it's before problems begin.00:00 – Global Fertility Trends and Joshua Gonzalez Introduction01:25 – Misconceptions and Sexual Anxiety03:32 – Primary Sexual Health Concerns04:18 – Breaking the Communication Barrier05:21 – Mind-Body Connection and Confidence07:06 – Understanding Premature Ejaculation (PE)08:25 – Treating PE and Lasting Longer11:41 – The Other Extreme: Delayed Ejaculation12:59 – Men's Health Culture and Redefining Masculinity14:54 – Mid-Show Break: Sexology Practice Guide15:22 – Proactive Healthcare for Younger Men17:03 – The Impact of Sexual Confidence17:58 – The Story Behind Pop Star20:12 – Pop Star Product Lineup22:27 – Collaborative Care in Fertility and Proactive Testing27:02 – Lightning Round28:14 – Crossover and Collaborative Medical CareThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode's guest at:Dr. Joshua Gonzalez: https://joshuagonzalezmd.com/ Popstar Labs: https://www.popstarlabs.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week! https://www.sexologylab.com/ 
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  Own Your Pleasure: Dr. Nicole McNichols on Better Intimacy, Better Relationships, and Less Shame | Episode 20 16.07.2026 33min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, clinical psychologist, professor, author of You Could Be Having Better Sex, and the instructor of one of the largest human sexuality courses in the United States. Teaching more than 4,000 students each year, Dr. McNichols has a front-row seat to how Gen Z thinks about sex, relationships, consent, and intimacy—and the trends may surprise you.From pornography and performance anxiety to planning intimacy and understanding pleasure, this conversation explores why so many people are having less sex while feeling more pressure than ever. Dr. McNichols explains why communication—not perfection—is the key to better sex and why pleasure deserves to be treated as an essential part of overall well-being.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Gen Z is entering adulthood with less formal sex education, more exposure to pornography, and increasing pressure to perform rather than connect.Better sex begins with understanding your body, communicating openly, and letting go of unrealistic expectations.Planning intimacy, prioritizing pleasure, and building emotional connection can strengthen both sexual satisfaction and long-term relationships.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Intro and expectations vs. reality of sex02:00 – Modern intimacy and the gaps in modern sex education04:15 – Diversity and guest speakers in the classroom05:01 – Gen Z sex and relationship trends08:26 – Emphasizing a growth mindset and normalising sexual awkwardness10:28 – The book "You Could Be Having Better Sex" and the Hierarchy of Sexual Needs16:44 – The myth of spontaneous sex20:05 – Sexual satisfaction as a driver of relationship satisfaction23:18 – Exploring different types of intimacy and the power of non-sexual touch26:40 – Who the book "You Could Be Having Better Sex" is written for27:58 – The book-writing process and translating sex science research29:45 – Promoting the book and its mainstream reception31:33 – Closing billboard message: "Own your pleasure"RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com S//xology Lab Practice Guide: ⁠https://www.sexologylab.com/guide⁠More from this episode's guest at:Dr. Nicole McNichols:https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/about-nicole/ You Could Be Having Better Sex: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/   University of Washington Human Sexuality Course: https://psych.uw.edu/people/2464 SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Building SAALT: How Cherie Hoeger Turned Period Care Into a Global Mission | Episode 19 09.07.2026 39min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Cherie Hoeger, CEO and co-founder of SAALT, to explore how one conversation about period poverty grew into one of the world's leading sustainable period care companies. From launching menstrual cups in 2018 to building a global brand focused on innovation, impact, and women's health, Cherie shares what it really takes to build a mission-driven business.This conversation goes far beyond period products. Cherie opens up about entrepreneurship, branding, leadership, company culture, sustainability, and balancing motherhood with running a multimillion-dollar company. She also shares SAALT's global efforts to fight period poverty through reusable menstrual products, clean water initiatives, and education for women and girls around the world.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sustainable period care is transforming both women's health and environmental impact, offering products that are more comfortable, convenient, and accessible than many people realize.Mission-driven companies grow by investing in people, building a strong brand, and staying focused on long-term impact—not just short-term profits.Ending global period poverty requires more than donating products. It demands education, clean water access, and sustainable solutions that empower women and girls for years to come.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 Entrepreneurship Myths & The MBA Misconception01:00 Essential Business Advice for Mission-Driven Founders01:41 Cherie’s Origin Story: Saalt’s Mission for Sustainable Period Care03:03 Current Trends & Regulatory Shifts in Menstrual Health04:37 Parental Guide: Normalizing Period Conversations with Daughters06:48 Adolescent Reproductive Health: Understanding Menstrual Cycle Phases08:34 Branding Strategy: Building a Mainstream, "Target-Worthy" Brand10:39 The Founder’s Paradox: Scaling Beyond Daily Operations11:43 Executive Hiring & Utilizing Professional Performance Assessments13:31 Identifying & Leading with Your "Unique Ability"14:42 Fostering a Purpose-Led Company Culture via Core Values16:38 Marketing Strategy: "Edutainment" for Stigmatized Industries18:32 Product Innovation: Menstrual Cups, Discs, and Period Underwear22:42 Perimenopause & Postpartum: Solutions for Bladder Leaks24:12 Global Social Impact: Linking Menstrual Health to Clean Water Access27:06 Corporate Philanthropy: Strategy for Ending Global Period Poverty29:59 Partnership Models for Sustainable Non-Profit Support31:30 Environmental Sustainability: Repurposing Plastic in Textile Manufacturing32:28 Circular Economy: Plastic Negative Certification & Waste Management33:40 Future Forecast: Innovation in Athletic Wear & Biodegradable Materials34:53 Lightning Round: Entrepreneurial Grit & Essential Leadership Resources37:41 Empowering the Next Generation: Living a Deliberate LifeRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com Sexology Lab Practice Guide: https://www.sexologylab.com/guideMore from this episode's guest at:SAALT: https://saalt.com/ SAALT Gives: https://saalt.com/pages/impact SAALT First Period Kit: https://saalt.com/collections/preset-bundles/products/first-period-kit-live SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Who Taught You About Pleasure? Laura Ramadei on Adult Media and Performance | Episode 18 02.07.2026 52min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Laura Ramadei, SHA certified sexologist, sexuality coach, writer, and host of the feminist comedy podcast Girls on Porn. Laura shares how reviewing adult media through an intersectional feminist lens led her into sexology and why conversations about pornography, pleasure, and media literacy are more important than ever.Together, we explore how adult media has become the default sex educator for many people, what it gets wrong about intimacy, and how unrealistic expectations around performance leave so many people disconnected from their bodies. Laura also shares practical advice for reconnecting with pleasure, communicating with partners, and finding ethical adult content that prioritizes consent, diversity, and authenticity.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Adult media has become the primary source of sex education for many people, but it often teaches performance instead of pleasure.Great sex is built on communication, curiosity, and connection—not unrealistic expectations learned from mainstream pornography.Reconnecting with your body often requires slowing down, practicing mindfulness, and letting go of the pressure to perform.SHOW SUMMARY: 01:44 – Laura Ramadei's experience in podcasting, writing, and media02:29 – Origins and mission of the Girls on Porn podcast05:36 – Reflections on a progressive, non-dogmatic sex education07:54 – Discussion on adult media as a default source of sex education10:46 – Inaccurate framings of sex in adult media as performance15:38 – Misconceptions about female orgasm speed and ease17:33 – Expert recommendations for ethical adult media platforms23:32 – Writing on non-monogamy and the human experience of desire27:15 – Challenges of public discourse on sex and digital censorship31:20 – The impact of FOSTA-SESTA on sex worker safety and networks35:32 – Inspiration and journey toward becoming a certified sex coach37:44 – Common intimacy issues, including desire and non-monogamy39:25 – Performance pressure as a barrier to physical pleasure41:55 – Nuanced sexual scripts and communication in queer relationships44:02 – Strategies for transitioning into mindful, present intimacy45:26 – Mindful masturbation as an exercise for sensory awareness47:46 – Moving from techniques to partner attunement and dialogue50:04 – Lightning Round: Rapid advice on books, habits, and mythsRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show's guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com Sexology Lab Practice Guide: https://www.sexologylab.com/guideMore from this episode's guest:Girls on Porn Podcast: https://girlsonporn.com/ Laura Ramadei: https://www.lauraramadei.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  "Just Open Your Legs": The Female Pleasure Gap in Nigeria with Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire | Episode 17 25.06.2026 44min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire, therapist, intimacy expert, founder of the Intimacy Clinic, and founder of the Chartered Institute of Counseling in Nigeria. In a powerful and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Tolu shares what it means to advocate for sexual health, intimacy, and therapy in a culture where conversations about sex remain highly stigmatized and deeply influenced by religion, tradition, and social expectations.From sexless marriages and sexual misinformation to the role of pastors, prayer, and cultural expectations around marriage, Dr. Tolu offers a rare look into the realities many couples face across Nigeria and other parts of Africa. She also discusses the urgent need for sex therapy, sexual education, and mental health support in regions where these resources remain scarce.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sexual education in Nigeria is often shaped by fear, stigma, religion, and misinformation rather than evidence-based information.Many couples struggle silently with sexual dissatisfaction, sexless marriages, and intimacy concerns because seeking help is still highly stigmatized.Therapy, counseling, and sex therapy remain underutilized, but a growing number of professionals are working to expand access and awareness throughout Africa.SHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Overrated Marriage Expectations in Africa01:36 – Guest Introduction: Dr. Toluope Oko-Igaire, "The Fixer”01:50 – Cultural Identity and the Happiness Paradox in Nigeria02:20 – African Sexual Reality Research and Global Implications03:13 – Stigma, Low Literacy, and Sexual Taboos03:48 – Social Media and the Spread of Sexual Misinformation04:37 – Realizing the Need for Intimacy and Mental Health Support05:04 – Religious Alternatives: Prayer Mountains vs. Counseling05:47 – Radio Show Impact: "Intimate Talk with Auntie Tolu"07:16 – Addressing Celibacy in Singles and Sexual Issues in Marriage09:21 – Viral Influence: The "Intimate Wash" Breakthrough11:34 – Cultural Conditioning and Life-Centered Marriage13:12 – The Role of Parents and Family in African Weddings14:58 – Spiritual Interventions for Infidelity and Marital Struggle16:45 – The Scarcity of Professional Sex Therapy in Nigeria18:51 – Unregulated Herbal Concoctions and Sexual Health20:54 – Potential for Medical Research on African Aphrodisiacs22:49 – Stigma and Low Engagement with Mental Health Care23:49 – Shortage of Psychiatrists and Reliance on Medication24:45 – Cultural Nuances and the Limitations of Western Therapy25:47 – Fragile Masculinity and Barriers to Sexual Communication28:06 – Lack of Education and the Erosion of Female Pleasure30:53 – Male Provider Roles and Bride Price Implications34:30 – Religious Constraints on Sexual Practices37:25 – Lightning Round: Debunking Penetrative Sex Myths38:10 – The Secret Craving for Orgasm and Exploration39:03 – Avoiding the Topic of Sexual Satisfaction40:27 – Modern Shifts in Infidelity and Traditional Taboos42:57 – Normalizing Therapy as a Future LifestyleRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at:Intimacy Clinic Nigeria: https://intimacyclinic.org/ Chartered Institute of Counseling Nigeria: https://thecicn.org/dr-tolulope-oko-igaire/ Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire: https://www.instagram.com/drtolu_thefixer/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/ Key TakeawaysSHOW SUMMARYRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODESUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW
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  Shame and the Problem with Calling Everything an Addiction with Michael Vigorito | Episode 16 18.06.2026 40min

  In this episode, we sit down with Michael Vigorito, licensed psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, author, and co-director of Sexual Health Alliance’s Advanced Certification in Problem Sexual Behavior. Together, we challenge one of the most widely accepted and misunderstood concepts in modern sexology: sex addiction.Michael shares why many sexual health professionals have moved away from the sex addiction model and toward more nuanced, evidence-informed approaches to understanding out-of-control sexual behavior. We explore the powerful roles of shame, moral conflict, erotic identity development, and relationship dynamics, while discussing what actually helps people create healthier relationships with their sexuality.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Many people who identify as "sex addicts" are experiencing shame, moral conflict, or distress rather than a true addiction processOut-of-control sexual behavior is often influenced by multiple factors, including mental health, values conflicts, relationships, and erotic identity developmentCuriosity, self-understanding, and integration are often more effective than shame-based approaches to creating lasting changeSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Introduction to Addiction Narratives01:56 – Michael Vigorito’s Origin Story04:24 – Impact of Conversion Therapy Law Changes07:34 – Deconstructing the "Sex Addict" Label09:31 – Defining Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB)12:00 – Problems with the Sex Addiction Model15:27 – The Limitations of Abstinence18:42 – Media Misuse and Externalizing Responsibility21:16 – The Role of Shame and Moral Incongruence24:26 – Understanding Erotic Orientation and Identity28:12 – A Multifactorial Framework for Treatment31:32 – Clinical Assessment and Motivation for Change33:52 – Clinical Distinctions: Consent and Criminality36:18 – Importance of Specialized Clinical Training38:26 – Lightning Round39:37 – Advice for the Next GenerationRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode’s guest at:Michael Vigorito: http://michaelvigorito.com/Sexual Health Alliance Advanced Certification in Problem Sexual Behavior: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/problem-sexual-behaviorSUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights: https://www.sexologylab.com/🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  The Hidden Cost of SSRIs: What Every Woman Should Know with Dr. Laurie Mintz & Dr. Suzette Johnson | Episode 15 11.06.2026 43min

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Laurie Mintz and Dr. Suzette Johnson to explore one of the most common but least discussed side effects of antidepressants: difficulty with arousal, desire, and orgasm. Millions of women take SSRIs and SNRIs for anxiety, depression, postpartum mental health, and other conditions, yet many are never warned about how these medications can impact their sexual well-being.Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Dr. Mintz and Dr. Johnson explain the neuroscience behind SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction, why these side effects are often overlooked in healthcare, and what women can do if they find themselves struggling. Most importantly, they challenge the false choice between mental health and sexual health, emphasizing that women deserve both.KEY TAKEAWAYS:SSRIs and SNRIs commonly affect desire, arousal, sensation, and orgasm, yet many patients are never informed about these side effectsSexual dysfunction caused by antidepressants is often treatable through medication adjustments, behavioral strategies, and sexual medicine interventionsWomen should never feel forced to choose between protecting their mental health and maintaining a satisfying sex lifeSHOW SUMMARY:01:51 – Dr. Laurie Mintz & Dr. Suzette Johnson origin stories in sexual health05:10 – Impact of SSRIs and SNRIs on the brain and sexual response07:01 – Statistics on female arousal vs. orgasm dysfunction09:31 – The "Point of No Return" and delayed orgasm physiology11:02 – Lack of sexual health training for medical professionals12:51 – Differentiating common SSRIs and SNRIs (Prozac, Zoloft, Effexor)16:11 – Psychological toll: anxiety and performance pressure24:52 – Psychosocial and medical solutions for regaining orgasm31:26 – Medication adjustments, clinical options, and timing36:31 – Broadening the definition of pleasure and self-exploration38:41 – Lightning Round: Sexual health book recommendations and closing adviceRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com More from this episode’s guests at:Dr. Laurie Mintz: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/ Dr. Suzette Johnson: https://health.usnews.com/doctors/suzette-johnson-2435599 Becoming Cliterate by Dr. Laurie Mintz: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/becoming-cliterate MyMojo: Regain Your Orgasm Program: https://mymojo.com/courses/find-your-orgasm SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Energy Drainers vs Energy Gainers: Restoring Connection to Pleasure with Dr. Shannon Chavez | Episode 14 04.06.2026 39min

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Shannon Chavez, a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist who blends evidence-based psychology, attachment theory, sexual medicine, and holistic wellness practices to help people create healthier relationships with themselves and their partners.From nervous system regulation and desire to trauma healing, emotional safety, and multicultural approaches to sexuality, Dr. Chavez explains why many sexual concerns are not problems to be fixed, but signals to better understand. She also shares practical strategies for managing overwhelm, improving intimacy, and cultivating deeper connection in relationships.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Low desire is often connected to nervous system overload, disconnection, and depleted energy rather than a lack of attraction or relationship problemsEmotional safety is one of the strongest predictors of intimacy, sexual satisfaction, and relationship resilienceEffective sexual health care requires an integrative approach that considers the mind, body, relationships, culture, and lived experienceSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Understanding Nervous System Overload and Low Desire01:14 – Modern Culture’s Impact on Libido and Life Force01:57 – Dr. Shannon Chavez’s Origin Story: Finding The Joy of Sex03:08 – Benefits of an Integrative Med Spa Model for Sexual Health04:28 – Essential Personal Work and Multicultural Training for Professionals05:05 – Connecting Body Disconnection, Grief, and Transitions to Desire07:08 – Identifying Energy Drainers vs. Energy Gainers08:14 – Mindset Shifts: Permission for Imperfection and Balance09:51 – Mindfulness Through Play and Presence in Daily Activities11:50 – Reframing Hormones and Physical Changes as Body Signals13:44 – Distinguishing Between Individual Nervous System Dysregulation and Relational Issues15:46 – The Role of Eye Contact and Emotional Resonance in Healing17:53 – How Attachment Styles Influence Love and Pleasure in the Bedroom19:16 – Biological Necessity of Emotional Safety for Intimacy20:12 – Somatic Techniques for Building Emotional Intimacy and Safety22:04 – Reconnecting Trauma Survivors with Body Trust and Pleasure23:57 – Common Pitfalls in Sex Therapy When Addressing Trauma25:01 – Holistic Integration: Moving Beyond the "Cookie Cutter" Psychology Model27:21 – Global Perspectives: Cultural Lineage and Its Impact on the Nervous System28:41 – The Importance of Language and Cultural Assessments in Therapy30:15 – Identifying and Redefining Sexual Values and Beliefs32:45 – Strengthing Sexual Communication: Giving "Permission to be Awkward"34:43 – Using Humor to Break Barriers and Protect the Erotic35:14 – Lightning Round: Favorite Resources, Self-Care, and Krav Maga37:06 – Insights from the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) Conference38:08 – Final Message for Gen Z and Alpha: Reclaiming Your NarrativeRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events.Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.comMore from this episode’s guest at: https://drshannonchavez.com/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Why We Get Jealous: Dr. Justin Mogilski on Pair Bonding, Competition, and Communication | Episode 13 28.05.2026 36min

  In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Justin Mogilski, an evolutionary psychologist and associate professor leading an international research team studying consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships. From jealousy and attraction disclosure to parenting and evolutionary biology, this conversation explores what science actually tells us about how people make non-monogamy work.Dr. Mogilski breaks down common myths about CNM, including the idea that only exceptionally intelligent or emotionally detached people can successfully navigate these relationships. We also dive into evolutionary psychology, animal behavior, pair bonding, and the relationship maintenance practices that predict healthier and more satisfying CNM dynamics.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Communication about jealousy and attraction is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction in CNM relationshipsConsensually non-monogamous people often define infidelity around deception and broken agreements rather than specific sexual actsEvolutionary psychology helps explain why jealousy, competition, and attachment still show up in non-monogamous relationshipsSHOW SUMMARY:00:00 – Attraction Disclosure and Reducing Relationship Anxiety01:32 – Differences in Information Sharing Between CNM and Monogamous Couples03:32 – Dr. Justin Mogilski’s Origin Story and Background in Evolutionary Psychology04:48 – Current Exciting Trends: STI Communication and Sex Tech05:55 – Dispelling the Myth: Intelligence and Impulse Control in CNM08:52 – Advice for Professionals: Focusing on Recurrent Challenges over Prescriptive Advice11:11 – Evolution, Pair Bonding, and the Role of Jealousy13:16 – Using Evolutionary Theory to Predict Challenges in Non-Monogamy15:40 – Zero-Sum vs. Positive-Sum Worldviews in Relationships17:21 – International Research Project on CNM Relationship Maintenance20:50 – Emotional Regulation: Prevention vs. Promotion Focus22:01 – Key Findings: Communication of Jealousy and Attraction Disclosure23:34 – Polyamorous Parenting and Willingness to Care for Children25:49 – Navigating Hierarchy vs. Non-Hierarchy in CNM28:10 – Comparison of Safer Sex Practices Across Different CNM Populations30:45 – Lightning Round: Myths About Jealousy32:01 – Differences in How Infidelity is Defined32:44 – The Need for Large-Scale Data on CNM Parenting33:45 – Message to Future Generations: Building Durable, Committed RelationshipsRESOURCES MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at: https://sc.edu/about/system_and_campuses/salkehatchie/faculty-staff/mogilski_justin.php ABOUT THE GUEST: DR. JUSTIN MOGILSKIDr. Justin Mogilski is an Associate Professor of Psychology and a globally recognized researcher in evolutionary psychology and relationship science. His pioneering research maps out how human evolution influences decision-making, conflict resolution, and intimacy within modern partnerships. Dr. Mogilski currently leads an international team of scientists tracking relationship maintenance strategies, partner attraction, and jealousy management across various relationship structures. He specializes closely in the behavioral dynamics of consensual non-monogamy (CNM), polyamory, and open relationships. As a co-editor of The Oxford Handbook of Evolutionary Psychology and Romantic Relationships, his work translates complex biological data into practical frameworks that help coaches and therapists support diverse relationship configurations without stigma.SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights. https://www.sexologylab.com/
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  Education Forgot the Fun Part: Amy Baldwin and April Lampert on Pleasure, Shame, and What We’re Missing | Episode 12 21.05.2026 24min

  Today in The Lab, we sit down with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the co-hosts of the wildly popular Shameless Sex Podcast, to explore what happens when sexual education leaves out pleasure, curiosity, and emotional safety. From shame and compliance to sex toys and consent, this conversation dives into the real-world gaps in how we talk about sexuality.Amy and April share their journey from working in the sex toy industry to building one of the most recognized sexuality podcasts online. They also unpack why “healing shame” may be one of the most important responsibilities for therapists, educators, and coaches working in sexual health today. April Lampert is a proud Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator.KEY TAKEAWAYSMost sex education focuses on prevention and fear while ignoring pleasure, communication, and connectionSexual health professionals are not just educators—they are often helping people heal shameGiving people permission to explore consensual sexuality without judgment can be deeply transformativeSHOW SUMMARY00:00 – Redefining Shamelessness and Working with Shame01:36 – Guest Introductions and the Origin of Shameless Sex02:49 – Overview of the "Shameless Sex" Book and Pleasure Philosophy05:16 – Influential Guests and Learning Modalities like Erotic Blueprints06:51 – Current Industry Trends: Sexual Wellness Tourism and Sex Toy Normalization08:47 – Key Insight: Sexual Health as Holistic Well-being and Empowerment10:50 – Personal Reflections on Traditional vs. Pleasure-Based Sex Education16:42 – Essential Advice for Professionals: Becoming a "Healer of Shame”19:43 – Empowering Messages for Gen Z and Gen Alpha on Sexual Autonomy22:29 – Pop Culture Review: Analyzing the "Nobody Wants This" Podcasting PortrayalRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guests at:Shameless Sex Podcast: https://www.shamelesssex.com/SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Reversing Pain, Dryness, & ED Without Medication | Dr. Soum Rakshit | Episode 11 14.05.2026 37min

  Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Soum Rakshit, founder and CEO of MysteryVibe and MV Health, to explore the rapidly evolving world of sex tech and medical-grade sexual wellness devices. With a background in biomedical engineering, Dr. Rakshit is at the forefront of bridging pleasure, healthcare, and innovation—especially for people navigating sexual health after major life events.This conversation dives into the science behind vibration therapy, how medical devices are developed and validated, and why accessibility remains one of the biggest challenges in sexual healthcare. We also explore the real-world impact of MV Health’s devices, from pelvic pain to erectile dysfunction, and what the future holds for personalized sexual medicine.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Sexual health solutions are often missing for people after major life events like childbirth, surgery, or agingVibration therapy has over a century of clinical evidence supporting its role in improving blood flow, arousal, and pain reliefAccessibility—not innovation—is the biggest barrier in sexual health, from education to reimbursement to care deliverySHOW SUMMARY:01:24 – The Mission of Mystery Vibe and MV Health02:22 – The Origin Story and Collaborative Research03:02 – Future Trends: Personalized Medicine and Hormone Monitoring04:15 – Applying Engineering to Sexual Medicine Problems06:19 – Challenges in Medical Device Development08:21 – Education and Accessibility as Barriers to Care09:43 – Outreach, Clinical Education, and Independent Research11:53 – The Science and History of Vibration Therapy14:42 – Vibration Therapy as a Complement to Medication18:06 – Product Deep Dive: Crescendo 220:36 – Product Deep Dive: Poco22:03 – Product Deep Dive: Legato23:50 – Product Deep Dive: Molto26:45 – Product Deep Dive: Tenuto 2 and Tenuto Mini31:53 – Navigating Global Regulatory Approvals and Markets32:26 – Future Expansion: Period and Breast Pain Solutions33:50 – Lightning Round: Misconceptions and Achievements35:41 – The Potential for Diagnostic Sensors36:32 – Advice for Sexual Health Tech Founders37:07 – Advice for Younger Generations on Human ConnectionRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: http://sexualhealthalliance.com/More from this episode’s guest at: https://mv.health/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEW:If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!
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  Beyond Erections - Hormones and Sexual Function with Dr. Amy Pearlman | Episode 10 07.05.2026 36min

  Joining us in The Lab is Dr. Amy Pearlman, a board-certified urologist specializing in hormone optimization, sexual health, and gender-affirming care. This conversation breaks down some of the most common questions people have about male sexual health, from what’s actually “normal” to when it’s time to seek medical support.Dr. Pearlman brings a refreshingly honest, sex-positive perspective to topics often clouded by misinformation, including testosterone, erectile function, masturbation, orgasm quality, and prostate pleasure. She also highlights the gaps in sex education and medical training, and why expanding conversations around pleasure is essential for better outcomes.KEY TAKEAWAYS:Many concerns about penis shape, performance, and function are normal, but knowing when to seek care is essentialSexual health is deeply connected to hormones, lifestyle, and overall well-being—not just performanceMen’s pleasure, especially prostate pleasure, is under-researched and under-discussed in healthcareSHOW SUMMARY:00:11 - Introduction to Dr. Amy Pearlman01:23 - Penile Curvature and Health04:11 - Common Penile Concerns and STI Anxiety05:58 - Testosterone and Hormone Optimization08:35 - Gaps in Sex Education and Penile Injury10:10 - Maintenance of Penile Size and Daily Erections11:21 - Masturbation Frequency and Prostate Health14:22 - Collaborative Care and Professional Cross-Collaboration17:41 - Proactive Health Management and Establishing a "Pit Crew"20:21 - Sex Toys and the Shift to Prostate Pleasure24:28 - Defining Orgasm Quality vs. Ejaculation29:16 - Training the Body and Mind: Edging and Delayed Ejaculation31:58 - Rapid Fire Questions33:30 - Advice for Patients: Doctor Shopping and Foundational KnowledgeRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThe Sexology Lab is powered by Sexual Health Alliance, a global hub for world-class certifications, cutting-edge education, and a thriving community of professionals. Many of the show’s guests also share their expertise at their events. Join them at: SexualHealthAlliance.com (http://sexualhealthalliance.com/)More from this episode’s guest at: https://pearlmanmds.com/amy-pearlman-md/ SUBSCRIBE AND REVIEWIf you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more people who need these insights.🎙 Thanks for tuning in to The Sexology Lab. See you next week!