Sideways

Feeling Hollow 16.07.2026 59min

What does a feeling of emptiness really mean? Does it indicate there's something seriously wrong, or can it be a point of punctuation and a sign you need a reset? We also discuss paper planes, whether giraffes are good at maths, and feel grateful for footballers and trees. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

How to deliver bad news 02.07.2026 1val

Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful. We also explore the dangers of having an Only Fans account if you work in education, hear about a missing giraffe, and complain about World Cup kick off times. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

Compassion Fatigue 18.06.2026 54min

This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of yourself. There's also a lot of clothing related content, for some reason. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

Things to avoid saying to someone in recovery 04.06.2026 51min

This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they do about whoever happens to be the object of their enquiry. A buffalo receives a reprieve due to his resemblance to a US president, and a wheelchair user gets an unwelcome shock, almost literally. I got the title of the episode wrong in my recorded introduction so, sorry about that if you feel you've been misled. https://www.grahamlan...

Social Loafing 21.05.2026 52min

This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed. A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb stuck in an unusual place, we discuss strange eating habits, and Martin gets a bit annoyed both about the sound quality of his recording and the way that tunes of hymns change when he is least expecting it https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Th...

The Ick 30.04.2026 1val 10min

This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise. We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again in the lyric quiz. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can e...

Hugging 16.04.2026 51min

This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

DTD (Developmental Topographical Disorientation) 02.04.2026 59min

This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism. A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

Bigorexia 19.03.2026 51min

This week, we're talking about a less well-known form of body dysmorphia. A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

How To Live A Good LIfe 05.03.2026 56min

This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives. A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

Why it's hard to escape from addiction 19.02.2026 55min

This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing. A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a supermarket. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at ...

How To be Kind 05.02.2026 1val

This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do. We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon. We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor performance on the lyric quiz. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can e...

Dry January 22.01.2026 1val 5min

This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously. We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being accused of a heinous crime, wonder about the wisdom of old men sporting ponytails, and remember the days wh...

Tolerance v Acceptance 08.01.2026 54min

This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance. There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz. There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'. Happy New Year. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate ...

Frisson 18.12.2025 47min

This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly. I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon. In other news, Martin is still struggling with Christmas, there are literal hair-raising tales about riding a rollercoaster, and a woman ge...

Glimmers 04.12.2025 49min

This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness. Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.

SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder 20.11.2025 54min

This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested. In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we really appreciat...

Overexplaining 06.11.2025 49min

This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation. A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks a...

Body Doubling 16.10.2025 51min

This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges. We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed. There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've just realised that I haven't been including the normal intro with birdsong and all that paraphernalia. I'll do better next t...

Shunishment 25.09.2025 56min

We're back! This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship. There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/ https://grahamlandi.substack.com/ You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk Thanks again for listening, we real...