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  EP 52: The Third Person on Every Date: Eating Disorders, Body Image & Dating with Zeynep Demirelli 23.06.2026 1val 4min

  If you've ever cancelled a date because of how you felt in your body that day — this episode is for you.Body image and eating disorders don't stay in the kitchen or the gym. They follow us onto the dating app, into the first date, into the bedroom, and into the moments when we finally start to let someone in. And yet, this is a topic that almost never gets talked about in dating spaces.Madden opens up about her own decade-long experience navigating an eating disorder alongside dating — the restriction before dates, the hypervigilance at dinner, the way her ED behaviors flared up when her anxiety did — and invites therapist and eating disorder specialist Zeynep Demirelli to unpack what's actually going on beneath the surface.This is not a clinical episode. It's a real, raw, deeply human conversation about shame, attachment, and the longing to be loved exactly as you are.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The difference between body image and eating disorders (and why it matters)Why eating disorders are really about attachment and fear of abandonment — not vanityWhen and how to tell a partner about your eating disorderHow a breakup hits differently when you have an ED — and what your inner critic does with itHow eating disorders show up in men (and why we miss it)Why healing doesn't have to happen before love — it often happens inside it"Eating disorders have nothing to do with vanity. It's all about shame, attachment, and safety — or the lack of it. For people with eating disorders and severe body image disturbances, their relationship with their body is deeply tied to their sense of worth and their fear of abandonment. Dating doesn't create this fear. It activates it."- Zeynep DemirelliCONNECT WITH ZEYNEP DEMIRELLI:Zeynep is a therapist specializing in eating disorders, body image, and food struggles. Drawn to this work through her own teenage experience with an eating disorder, she brings both clinical expertise and genuine lived understanding to the conversation.Zeynep's Instagram: @realistic.body.therapistZeynep's SubstackCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 51: You've Been Asking the Wrong Questions After Every Date: The 4-Question Dating Checklist 26.05.2026 25min

  You went on the date. You texted your friends. And immediately, every question was about him — did he like you, did he text, does he want a second date?But here's what we almost never stop to ask: Did you even like him?In this episode, Madden introduces a dating checklist that has nothing to do with his behavior — and everything to do with yours. Fresh off hosting her very first in-person dating event (the Love Lab!), Madden brings the energy of summer dating season with a framework that puts you back at the center of your own experience.This checklist isn't about being pickier or playing games. It's about breaking the cycle of performing and auditioning your way through dates — and finally dating like someone whose experience actually matters.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: Why even the most self-aware daters default to outsourcing their experience — and how to catch yourself doing it in real timeThe subtle but important difference between performing and auditioning on a date (they overlap, but they're not the same thing)How to tell if you were actually present on a date or just managing the conversationWhy your body language during a date is some of the most honest data you have — and how to start reading itThe one question that should anchor every post-date debrief that almost none of us are askingHow to use this 4-question checklist to keep yourself at the center of your own dating experience — not just this summer, but every date going forward"This checklist exists for one reason: to put you back in the center of your own dating life."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 50: Pelvic Health, Shame & Intimacy: What Your Doctor Isn't Telling You ft. Dr. Sarah Oreck 19.05.2026 47min

  So many women are silently navigating pelvic pain, chronic BV, UTIs, and other symptoms — feeling embarrassed, dismissed by doctors, or completely disconnected from their own bodies. And what we don't talk about enough? How much this affects your confidence, your intimacy, and your relationship with yourself.In this episode, Madden is joined by Dr. Sarah Oreck, a Columbia-trained reproductive psychiatrist and co-founder of Mavida Health, for one of the most validating and important conversations we've had on this show. Whether you're single, dating, in a relationship, or married — this one is for you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The real (and often ignored) women's health issues: BV, pelvic pain, vaginismus, vulvodynia, perimenopause, chronic UTIsWhat medical gaslighting actually does to your nervous system and your trust in relationshipsHow pelvic health symptoms quietly erode your confidence and make you avoid intimacyWhy you don't need to apologize — not to your doctor, not to your partner, not to anyoneHow to start rebuilding your connection with your body (and why your skincare routine counts)What emotionally supportive partners actually do (and what's a red flag)The importance of leading with curiosity"The pelvis holds a lot. I actually think it's a place that stores a great deal of trauma and a great deal of anger. That's why the mental health piece is always so important to link with the physical. A lot of people are just running to OBs and urologists trying to figure it out — but mental health support in all of this is essential."— Dr. Sarah Oreck CONNECT WITH DR. SARAH ORECK:Dr. Sarah Oreck is a Columbia-trained reproductive psychiatrist with a practice focused on women's mental health across every life stage — from fertility and pregnancy to perimenopause and beyond. She is the co-founder of Mavida Health, a virtual mental health platform making specialized reproductive psychiatric care accessible and affordable. Mavita is currently serving patients in California, New York, New Jersey, and Texas, with rapid expansion underway.Dr. Oreck's Instagram: @sarahoreckmdDr. Oreck's TikTok: @drsarahoreckMavida Health Instagram: @mavidahealthLearn more about Mavida Health HERECONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 49: Social Media Is Killing Dating: How Your Phone Is Sabotaging Your Love Life 21.04.2026 44min

  We have more ways than ever to meet people, communicate, and see how others are living their lives. And yet — research shows we're in the middle of a loneliness epidemic. More than 6 in 10 adults in the U.S. report feeling disconnected. So what's actually going on?In this solo episode, Madden gets into three specific ways that living in a digital world is quietly wrecking how we date — and what you can actually do about it.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why constant texting early in dating creates a false sense of intimacy — and what real connection actually requiresHow your social media algorithm is secretly setting impossible relationship standards (and why we never see the messy middle)The truth about dating apps: they weren't designed to help you find love — they were designed to keep you on the appWhy every swipe and match is really just an ego hit dressed up as datingThree practical things you can do right now to start dating with more presence and intention"We are living in a time where we have more ways than ever to meet people and connect. And yet, research is showing time and time again that we're actually potentially the most disconnected generation. More than six out of 10 adults in the U.S. report feeling disconnected or lonely. That is not a coincidence. That is a pattern worth paying attention to."- Madden ZappaLOVE LAB & MORE:🎟️  Love Lab LIVE Dating Event- Minneapolis, May 4th📥 Free PDF Guide: The 9 Dating Personalities (deeper breakdown of every pattern)CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 48: Great at Dating, Terrible at Relationships: A Celebrity Matchmaker's Unfiltered Truth ft. Alessandra Conti 14.04.2026 1val 1min

  You've been on the dates. You've felt the spark — or you haven't. You've told yourself you have a "type." You've stayed friendly with your ex "just because." And you've done all of it while genuinely believing you're ready for a relationship.But what if most of what you've been taught about dating is quietly working against you?This week, Madden sat down with Alessandra Conti — Celebrity Matchmaker and co-founder of Matchmakers In The City in Beverly Hills to talk about the single biggest mistake daters make (going for chemistry instead of character), what a man's Instagram following actually tells you, and the real reason why men who are great at dating are usually terrible in relationships. Then we go fully off-script — into whether men and women can actually just be friends, and why staying in contact with your ex isn't harmless, it's self-sabotage.This one is going to make you want to text your group chat immediately.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why chemistry-chasing is keeping you in the same loop — and the question Alessandra says to ask insteadThe one Instagram red flag that tells you a man isn't ready for a relationshipCan men and women actually be just friends? (We have opinions.)Why staying friends with your ex is an avoidant attachment pattern — not just a personality traitHyperindependence as a trauma response and how to start letting people in"People are going for chemistry and not going for character. And this is where we are — welcome to 2026 and the wild, wild west of dating. It's not that chemistry doesn't matter. It's that character is the thing that sustains a relationship once the butterflies quiet down. And most people aren't vetting for character at all."- Alessandra ContiCONNECT WITH ALESSANDRA CONTI:Alessandra Conti is a Celebrity Matchmaker and co-founder of Matchmakers In The City, a personal matchmaking firm based in Beverly Hills. She has served as the matchmaker for Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, NBC's Access Hollywood, TLC's My Big Fat Fabulous Life, and two seasons of MTV's Are You The One. Her advice has been featured in Forbes, The New York Times, The LA Times, and Fox News. Over nearly 14 years, Alessandra has worked with clients ranging from royalty to young professionals, leading a team of six matchmakers responsible for hundreds of marriages.Alessandra's Instagram: @matchmakeralessandracontiMatchmakers In The City: @matchmakersinthecityMatchmakers In The City WebsiteLOVE LAB & MORE🎟️ Love Lab Live Dating Event – Minneapolis, May 4th 📥 Free PDF Guide: The 9 Dating Personalities (deeper breakdown of every pattern) CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 47: You Don't Have a Type, You Have a Pattern: 9 Dating Patterns Quietly Sabotaging Your Love Life 07.04.2026 39min

  Have you ever looked back at everyone you've dated and thought… wait, why does this keep happening? This week Madden breaks down something that's been living in her head for months — and honestly, it cracked something open for her in a really big way.It started with a simple comment from her best friend: "He's totally your type." And she couldn't let it go. Because she's always said she doesn't have a type. But here's what she realized — it was never about her type. It was about her pattern.In this solo episode, Madden walks you through 9 dating personalities she's identified from her own experience, her coaching practice, and the stories of so many women navigating dating. These aren't diagnoses. They're not labels. They're tools — for awareness, for self-understanding, and for finally starting to spot the behaviors that aren't serving you.WHAT YOU'LL LEARNWhy your "type" is actually your pattern in disguiseThe 9 dating personalities: The Saleswoman, The Chameleon, The Bargainer, The Detective, The Dreamer, The Runner, The Project Manager, The Performer, and The Affirmation JunkieThe unique strength inside every single one of these patternsThe one shift each personality can make to start showing up differentlyWhy awareness alone isn't enough — and what comes next"Awareness is everything. And also — awareness is just the first step. What you do with your awareness, that's where the change actually starts to take place. That's the work. So which one hit home for you? Because knowing your pattern is one thing. Choosing differently is another."- MaddenRESOURCES MENTIONED📥 FREE 9 Dating Personalities Guide (deeper breakdown of every pattern) 🎟️ Love Lab Live Dating Event – Minneapolis, May 4th [LIMITED SPOTS- BOOK BEFORE IT FILLS UP]📲 Follow Madden on Instagram: @maddenzappaCONNECT WITH MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  SEASON 3: Modern Dating Has a Problem — The Accountability Episode Nobody Asked For 07.04.2026 31min

  Welcome to Season 3 of We're Dating the Same Guy!After a few weeks off, Madden had a lot of time to reflect on modern dating, how Madden's showing up as a host, and the things that have been genuinely driving her crazy lately in the dating space. And she's done keeping them in.In this season premiere, she's getting real about three things she keeps seeing that are quietly sabotaging our dating lives and stories we're holding on to that are not serving us.This episode isn't about blame. It's about awareness — the kind that actually leads somewhere. And it's a preview of exactly what Season 3 is about: going deeper, getting more honest, and having the conversations that aren't always comfortable but are absolutely necessary.RESERVE YOUR SPACE FOR THE LOVE LABA never before seen LIVE dating event coming to Minneapolis on May 4! Spots are limited to 40 individuals. LEARN MORE AND BOOK YOUR TICKET HERE.Why "there are no good men out there" might be the most damaging thing you can say — and what it's actually doing to your dating energy and the culture around yoUThe real reason meeting people organically isn't working (hint: it's not just bad luck)Why wanting a relationship and being ready for one are two very different thingsHow to honestly assess whether you have the time, energy, and bandwidth to show up fully in a relationship right nowWhat accountability in dating actually looks like — without letting anyone off the hook for bad behaviorWhy the most uncomfortable dating conversations are usually the most necessary ones"Dating right now is a double-edged sword. You say you don't want to meet someone on the apps, that you want to meet people in the wild — but what actions are you actually taking for that to happen? And then when someone does approach you in public, so many people are turned off. Y'all, we can't have it both ways." - MaddenMadden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 45: Is it Chemistry or Just Anxiety? The Dating Pattern Anxious Attachers Need to Hear 24.02.2026 31min

  Have you ever left a date feeling butterflies and obsessive thoughts and assumed it meant real chemistry? What if that feeling wasn't chemistry at all — what if it was anxiety? Y'all, they can feel almost identical. And if you've been confusing the two your whole dating life, this episode is going to be a game-changer.Madden breaks down the three key variables that are actually at play every time you start dating someone — anxiety, chemistry, and compatibility — and how understanding the difference between them can completely transform the way you date. She shares three personal stories from her own dating life that illustrate exactly what each of these dynamics looks and feels like in the real world: a connection that was pure chemistry (but zero compatibility), a man who was everything on paper (but the attraction just wasn't there), and what it actually feels like to finally build something from a stable, secure place.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why chemistry and anxiety feel so similar — especially for anxious attachersHow to check in with your body after a date to assess what you're actually feelingThe three variables (anxiety, chemistry, compatibility) and how they can show up in every combinationWhat the "holy grail" combination actually feels like — and why it might seem boring at firstWhy chemistry can get you hooked, but compatibility is what keeps you togetherWhat happens in your body when anxiety is fading vs. when chemistry is fadingWhy healthy love can feel uncomfortable if you're used to chaos"If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. Every single person deserves to date someone that when asked that question, it's a hell yes."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 44: Did Disney Ruin My Dating Life? Girl Boss, Soft Girl Era… or Something In Between? with Angie Lee 17.02.2026 47min

  Are you an ambitious woman who's been told you're "too much"? Or have you bought into the idea that you need to choose between crushing it in your career and having a fulfilling relationship? This conversation with Angie Lee is going to completely shift how you think about ambition, feminine energy, and what it really means to build a life you love.Angie is a college dropout turned multi-million dollar entrepreneur, keynote speaker, and content creator who's been in the game for over 15 years. We're diving deep into how ambition shows up differently in business versus relationships, why the soft girl era is actually hurting women, and how to navigate masculine and feminine energy without losing yourself in the process.If you've ever felt like you had to dim your drive to be loved, questioned whether you can "have it all," or wondered why your relationship feels like work when your career feels easy (or vice versa), this episode is for you. Angie shares the uncomfortable truth about what happened when she tried to stop working completely, how her partner literally told her "this won't work unless you get back to your work," and why Disney sold us a lie that's still messing with our relationships today.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The false choice between girl boss and trad wife—and why the answer is neitherHow creative suppression is killing women's mental health and relationshipsWhy men need respect more than love (and what that actually means)The princess complex and how it's secretly disrespecting your partnerWhat women actually want: optionality and work they love, not to do nothingHow to shift between masculine energy in business and feminine energy in relationshipsThe most attractive thing about a woman (hint: it's not what you think)Why your relationship struggles might mirror your business struggles"Your relationship is the foundation of your life. When we aren't doing well, it is harder for me to show up. And vice versa, when you're in such a great season of your relationship, you can take that fuel and it enhances whatever you're doing."- Angie LeeCONNECT WITH ANGIE LEE:Angie Lee is a college and corporate dropout who built multiple seven- and eight-figure brands without following anyone else's blueprint. At 19, she started a health and wellness blog that eventually exploded into a full content creation career spanning 15+ years. She's the co-founder of Soul gummies (a health and wellness brand), a powerhouse keynote speaker, podcaster, and social media expert who's mastered the art of being unapologetically herself online.Angie Lee's Instagram: @angieleeshow Angie's WebsiteCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 43: Single on Valentine's Day? The Questions Nobody's Asking 14.02.2026 34min

  This Valentine's Day, you don't need another article telling you how to cope with being single. You don't need tips for surviving the day or substitutes for what you actually want. In this solo episode, host Madden challenges the three dominant narratives around Valentine's Day—the "you don't need anyone" approach, the "here's how to get through it" mindset, and the "celebrate with friends instead" substitute—and offers something deeper: three questions that will help you understand what you truly want and where you're wanting from.Drawing from personal experience including a past relationship where she felt profoundly lonely despite being partnered, Madden shares the powerful moon phases tattoo story that reminds her she's always whole, even when she doesn't feel complete. She explores the critical difference between wanting love to fill an emptiness versus wanting love as a container to share your wholeness with, and why both truths can exist simultaneously: you can deeply crave love AND know you are complete.This episode is for anyone—single, partnered, or somewhere in between—who's tired of surface-level Valentine's Day advice and ready to get honest about desire, wholeness, and what authentic love actually feels like.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why the three common Valentine's Day approaches all miss the pointThe difference between wanting love from emptiness versus wanting from fullnessHow to recognize whether you're accepting substitutes for what you truly craveA powerful practice of writing a love letter from your future selfWhy you can want partnership and feel complete at the exact same time"Wholeness, being complete, isn't about not wanting anything. It's about wanting from a full place instead of an empty one. That's the shift that changes everything in how you date."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST MADDEN ZAPPA:Madden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 42: Burnout, Boredom & Autopilot: The Real Reason Dating Feels So Hard 10.02.2026 34min

  Ever feel like you're just going through the motions on dates? Asking the same questions, having the same conversations, dating the same types of people over and over? You're not alone—and you're probably dating on autopilot.In this solo episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's been showing up in both my nine-to-five life as a fitness instructor and my dating life: the difference between being a student and being on autopilot. When I started learning a new class format after teaching for nearly a decade, I noticed something. The same feelings of discomfort, vulnerability, and fear of judgment that came up while teaching? They're the exact same feelings we experience in dating.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why the moment you think you've figured out dating is the moment you stop growingHow autopilot mode creates disconnection (even in long-term relationships)The uncomfortable truth about feedback and why we get so defensiveWhy not everyone is going to like you—and why that's actually a good thingPractical ways to step out of autopilot and back into curiosity"If you're not staying curious about your partner, you're no longer a student of your relationship. And eventually one day you could wake up with someone next to you and realize that they're a stranger."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: MADDEN ZAPPAMadden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 41: Am I in a Situationship? Why It's So Hard to Walk Away 27.01.2026 35min

  Let's talk about that person you keep going back to even though you know better! In this raw, vulnerable solo episode, I'm sharing my 18-month situationship saga—the hot and cold dynamic, the false promises, and the moment I finally closed the door for good on January 1st.If you've ever felt confused about where you stand, made excuses for inconsistent behavior, or held onto hope that "this time will be different," this episode is your permission slip to want more.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The 4 types of situationships (and which one keeps you most hooked)Why we confuse intensity with intimacy—and how that keeps us stuckThe psychology behind anxious-avoidant dynamics in undefined relationshipsHow to assess your non-negotiables before having "the talk"The three-month rule: when to define the relationship or walk awayWhy "if he wanted to, he would" isn't harsh—it's honestHow dating other people can open to yours to what you were settling for"Staying in a situationship where there's a lack of clarity is you also choosing uncertainty just on the other side. So what's harder? Sitting in the uncertainty with someone where you're not sure where this is ever going to go, or having the conversation and receiving the clarity you need and potentially then experiencing the uncertainty of no longer being in the situationship? The latter opens you up to then actually meeting someone and dating someone who could be a much better match for you long term."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: MADDEN ZAPPAMadden Zappa is a dating and relationship coach who helps people recognize and break the patterns that keep them dating the same person over and over again. Through her podcast "We're Dating the Same Guy," Madden combines vulnerable personal stories with practical frameworks to help listeners date smarter, healthier, and more intentionally. Her approach is refreshingly honest—she's willing to share her own uncomfortable truths and dating mistakes to help others avoid the same cycles. With expertise in attachment styles, dating psychology, and relationship patterns, Madden creates content that speaks to the late-night Google searches we're all too afraid to admit we're making.Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 40: How to Be Quality so You Attract Quality: The Secret to High Performance Dating with Coach Dar 20.01.2026 35min

  What if you approached dating the same way high performers approach everything else in their lives—with intention, strategy, and a commitment to excellence? Today I'm sitting down with Coach Dar, a mental performance coach who works with pro athletes and executives, and she's breaking down why quality attracts quality and what it actually takes to show up as quality in the dating world.Here's the truth: If you're not doing the work to be quality, you won't attract quality. And that work isn't about changing who you are—it's about sharpening yourself, knowing yourself deeply, and bringing your best to the table. Coach Dar shares why confidence in dating is really about psychological safety, why you need to treat choosing a partner like you're vetting a billion-dollar business deal, and the exact questions to ask on first dates that reveal true alignment.We're talking about slowing down instead of rushing into physical connection, doing your due diligence before committing, and why the person you choose is the biggest business deal you'll ever make for your finances, health, and quality of life. This conversation is for anyone who's ready to approach dating like a high performer—intentionally, strategically, and with standards.Whether you're tired of repeating the same patterns, wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people, or just ready to level up how you show up in dating—this episode will give you the framework to date differently.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why quality attracts quality—and what it takes to BE qualityHow to treat choosing a partner like a billion-dollar business deal (do your due diligence)The exact work you need to do to show up as your best self in datingWhy confidence is really about creating psychological safetyFirst date questions that reveal true alignment (not small talk)How to slow down, communicate clearly, and date with real standards"Who you bring into your life is the biggest business deal you will ever make in your life—for your finances, your health, your quality of life. If you don't do your due diligence and talk this through and figure out who each other are and slow the roll, you will repeat patterns of picking the wrong person."- Coach DarCONNECT WITH COACH DAR:Coach Dar is a world-class mental skills coach who works with professional athletes, executives, and high performers navigating pressure, identity, and resilience. With a background as an occupational therapist specializing in neuroscience and neuropsych, Coach Dar brings a unique approach to mindset work—helping people go from where they are to where they want to be through the power of their mind and human behavior. She's the author of The Art of Bouncing Back and speaks around the country on confidence, communication, and human connection.Coach Dar's Instagram: @thecoachdarCoach Dar's WebsiteOrder your copy of The Art of Bouncing Back right here!CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 39: Is My Biological Clock Ticking? The Truth About Fertility Anxiety, Dating & Egg Freezing with Dr. Lucky Sekhon 13.01.2026 38min

  Are you feeling the weight of fertility pressure every time you swipe on a dating app? You're not alone. Research shows that 72% of Gen Z women experience age-related fertility anxiety—many by age 23—and nearly half feel pressured to have children before 30. But what if that panic is actually preventing you from making the best decisions for your future?In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon, double board-certified OBGYN, reproductive endocrinologist, and author of The Lucky Egg, to unpack the intersection of fertility, dating, and modern womanhood. Dr. Lucky is not just an expert—she's been through it herself as both a fertility doctor and an IVF patient who relied on her own frozen embryos to have her second child.We're breaking down the fertility myths that keep us up at night, exploring when and how to have "the conversation" with partners, and discussing why egg freezing has become less about desperation and more about empowerment. Dr. Lucky explains why understanding your body isn't just about biology—it's about choosing partners from a place of confidence instead of fear.Whether you're 28 or 38, single or partnered, unsure about kids or absolutely certain, this episode offers the honest, pressure-free information you've been craving. Because the truth? Your fertility story is yours to write—and the right partner will respect that.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:How fertility anxiety impacts modern dating and relationship decisionsWhy egg freezing has shifted from desperation to empowerment for women in their 20s and 30sThe biological realities of egg quality and the biological clock—without the panicWhy male fertility matters just as much (50% of infertility is male factor!)When and how to have fertility conversations with partners- Red flags vs. green flags: how your partner shows up during these discussions"Fertility challenges are one of the biggest things that differentiate couples in good relationships from those who don't necessarily have a strong foundation. Who you choose as a partner is so important. Never make that decision out of fear or desperation."- Dr. LuckyCONNECT WITH DR. LUCKY:Dr. Lucky Sekhon is a double board-certified OBGYN and reproductive endocrinologist practicing at RMA of New York, one of the largest fertility clinics in the country. As both a fertility doctor and former IVF patient herself, Dr. Lucky brings unique insight to the intersection of reproductive health, modern dating, and women's empowerment.After successfully using her own frozen embryos to overcome secondary infertility at age 38, Dr. Lucky became a passionate advocate for accessible fertility education. She provides free resources through her blog, The Lucky Egg, and has built a thriving online community on Instagram and TikTok.Her newly released book, The Lucky Egg, is being hailed as "the fertility Bible"—the most comprehensive resource available for anyone navigating fertility questions, from those just beginning to think about family planning to those deep in treatment. Dr. Lucky's mission is simple: close the knowledge gap and help people make informed decisions about their reproductive futures without fear or desperation.Dr. Lucky's Instagram: @lucky.sekhonDr Lucky Sekhon Double Board Certified REI & OBGYN at RMA of New York ORDER YOUR COPY OF THE LUCKY EGG TODAY!CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 38: Don’t Let Your Breakup Break You: 5 Steps to Turn a Breakup Into a Breakthrough 06.01.2026 27min

  What if your most painful breakup was actually a portal to your most empowered self?In this deeply vulnerable solo episode, Madden shares the story of the breakup that changed everything - not because it was her longest relationship or most painful ending, but because it became the catalyst that launched this very podcast and her return to coaching.This episode isn't just about healing after heartbreak. It's about recognizing when you've been ignoring your intuition, identifying where you've been playing small, and learning to channel the pain of loss into fuel for your biggest expansion.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:How to recognize when your intuition is speaking (even when you don't want to listen)The exact moment she knew this relationship wasn't aligned - and why she stayed anywayHow to identify where you're compromising your goals and dreams for a relationshipHer 5-step framework for turning breakup pain into personal expansionWhy some relationships are meant to be catalysts, not foreverHow to use heartbreak as fuel instead of letting it keep you stuck"We can get stuck in mourning the breakup. But what if that energy is actually the energy you could use to rebuild yourself? What if you used it as momentum instead? You get to choose the meaning of the hurt. The hurt can either take you in a loop of stories that bring you down, or you can use that hurt to fuel you forward."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 37: Dating Burnout in 2025: How to Stay Hopeful When Modern Dating Feels Impossible 30.12.2025 34min

  Dating in 2025 is exhausting. If you're feeling burnt out, frustrated by ghosting, or questioning whether good people even exist anymore, this episode is for you.In this raw, filter-off solo episode, I'm taking the dating coach hat completely off and sharing my honest experience as someone actively dating in the modern landscape. With 79% of millennials and Gen Z reporting dating app burnout, you're not alone in feeling like modern dating is a mess—because it absolutely is.I'm getting real about the challenges we're all facing: profiles that give you nothing to work with, the waiting game after matching, the normalization of ghosting (which 91% of daters consider the worst trend in modern dating) and the frustration of people saying one thing while their actions show something completely different.But here's what matters most: even with all these frustrations, I still have amazing dates. I still meet wonderful people. And I still believe you can date from a grounded, optimistic place—without losing yourself in the chaos.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Why modern dating feels like a parking lot after a blizzard (and it's not just you)The real impact of dating apps on connection and communicationHow to protect your peace when someone's behavior has nothing to do with youWhy pacing your energy in early dating changes everythingHow to use your past dating wins to stay motivatedThe power of knowing your "why" for datingPractical ways to stay grounded without becoming jaded"The behavior you're receiving from other people that can make dating really challenging has nothing to do with you. The moment you're able to disconnect your worth or your value from the situation, the easier it is to be like, okay, yeah, that sucked, but to also move on."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 36: You're Not Bad at Dating — Your Profile Is: Online Dating Tips that Actually Work with Coach Erika Ettin 23.12.2025 44min

  Feeling burned out from dating apps? You're not alone—79% of users report dating app fatigue. In this episode, I sit down with Erika Ettin, founder of A Little Nudge and dating coach for 15 years, to break down exactly what makes online dating profiles stand out and how to actually convert matches into dates.Erika shares her "Name Your Five" framework for creating profiles that spark conversation, the biggest mistakes that quietly sabotage connection, and why successful people often struggle the most with modern dating. We dive into profile photo strategies, the art of first messages, texting between dates, and when to move from app to in-person.If you're swiping but not connecting, getting matches but not dates, or feeling like dating has become another exhausting chore, this conversation is full of practical insights that will shift how you approach online dating entirely.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The "Name Your Five" profile framework that creates message baitPhoto strategy: What your first three pictures need to showWhy "doing the work" doesn't entitle you to find someoneHow to text between dates without creating false intimacyThe green flags people overlook when chemistry isn't instantWhy your attitude toward dating apps determines your experienceWhen to go on a second date (hint: if you're curious for one more conversation)"Your trip to Europe is fleeting. Your potential partner, hopefully, is for a long time. So perhaps people should spend more time on their dating profile than planning vacation. You spent 10 hours planning your trip to Europe but only five minutes on your Hinge profile. That math doesn't add up."- Erika EttinCONNECT WITH ERIKA:Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site. Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.” A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column.  Erika's Instagram: @alittlenudgeGET YOUR VERY OWN THE SKIN DEEP DECK RIGHT HERE!CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 35: You're the Only Single Person at the Holiday Party (Now What?): How to Own the Holidays Single 19.12.2025 31min

  The holidays can bring up complicated feelings when you're single—but what if you stopped treating this season like something to survive and started owning it instead? In this solo episode, Madden gets raw and honest about navigating holiday gatherings without a partner, the unexpected clarity that can come from seasonal reflection, and why your relationship status has nothing to do with how fulfilled your life actually is.If you've ever felt the weight of being the only single person at a party, fielded awkward questions from well-meaning relatives, or caught yourself wishing for a plus-one—this episode is for you. Madden shares personal stories from recent holiday experiences and offers practical language for handling those inevitable "so, are you seeing anyone?" conversations with grace and confidence.This isn't about pretending you're fine when you're not. It's about understanding that you can simultaneously enjoy your life AND desire partnership. Both things can be true at once. And more importantly, your confidence doesn't come from having someone by your side—it comes from choosing yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Navigating holiday gatherings as a single personFinding clarity about what you want in relationshipsHandling intrusive questions from family and friendsUnderstanding that fulfillment and desire for partnership can coexistBreaking out of hibernation mode during winterBuilding confidence through choosing yourselfEmotional maturity and sitting with uncomfortable feelingsThe difference between surviving and owning the holiday season"Your relationship status—whether you're single, you're dating, or the state of your current relationship—that is not the most important and most interesting thing about you. It never was. It never will be unless you're the one deciding that. You are so much more than whether or not you have a partner."- Madden ZappaCONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: @maddenzappaSTAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram. Follow us over at @datedifferentlycoSubmit YOUR dating stories and questions: Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)✨As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over Instagram to share the most recent episode.
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  EP 34: From Anxious to Secure: Stop Chasing, Overthinking & Losing Yourself in Love 09.12.2025 54min

  Anxious attachment isn't a life sentence—it's a pattern you can heal. In this transformative episode, internationally recognized relationship coach Trevor Hanson shares his journey from working at Tesla while trapped in toxic relationships to helping thousands break free from anxious attachment patterns.If you've ever felt like you're dating the same person repeatedly, sabotaging healthy relationships, or addicted to the highs and lows of chaotic love—this episode is your roadmap to change.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:The real difference between anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment stylesWhy you keep attracting unavailable partners (and how to stop)The TEMPO Cycle framework for identifying and breaking your patternsHow to build genuine safety within yourself before seeking it in othersWhy healing while dating isn't just possible—it's powerfulThe emotion-logic gap and why knowing better doesn't equal doing better"There's an emotion-logic gap. There's a logical part of you that totally gets it in the front part of your brain. But then there's an emotional part of your brain that stores all your subconscious content. Too often we try to activate the front part of the brain to fix the emotional base brain. And it doesn't work. You literally aren't even turning on the right part of the brain to fix it. That's why you can learn all day long what a healthy pattern looks like and still get sucked into the same old stuff."- Trevor HansonCONNECT WITH TREVOR:Trevor is an internationally recognized coach dedicated to helping individuals and couples create secure, thriving relationships.After overcoming his own anxious attachment, breaking his jaw, ending a toxic relationship, and leaving a corporate career at Tesla, he found his purpose in helping others find their secure self.With a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and advanced training from some of the world’s top attachment experts, Trevor has helped thousands of clients around the globe. He’s been featured by the Gottman Institute and has spoken to audiences of over 10,000.As the founder of The Art of Healing, he teaches his signature Secure Self Method to help people step into emotional confidence and build the kinds of relationships that last.Trevor's Instagram: ⁠@theartofhealingbytrevor⁠⁠Trevor's Website⁠Free! Seminar ⁠From Anxious to Secure ⁠Join the⁠ Secure Self Club⁠ (Go from anxious to secure in 120 days!)CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUY:We NOW have an Instagram! Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠⭐As always, we do not gatekeep how to date smarter. If this episode moved you or taught you something new, think it would be beneficial for others to hear, please take a moment to follow, leave a review, and SHARE! Pass this episode along to someone who would love it too or head on over to Instagram to share the most recent episode!
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  EP 33: Combining Finances in Marriage: Money Talks, Financial Infidelity & Building Wealth 02.12.2025 42min

  Should couples combine finances after marriage? Financial therapist Lindsay Konchar shares expert advice on money conversations, avoiding financial infidelity, and building wealth together.In Part 2 of our conversation with financial therapist Lindsay Konchar, we dive deep into the money questions that come up when relationships get serious. From combining finances to navigating financial infidelity, this episode gives you practical tools for building a financial foundation that actually supports your relationship instead of stressing it out.What You'll Learn:The truth about combining finances in marriage (and why the "merge everything" advice might be wrong for you)How to have money conversations without triggering defensiveness or shameThe biggest financial conflicts couples face and how to navigate themHow to maintain financial equality when one partner out-earns the otherWhat financial infidelity really looks like and how to rebuild trustEssential money conversations to have before kids, mortgages, and major life decisionsHow to escape "keeping up with the Joneses" and define what YOU actually wantThe power of weekly money dates for thriving (not just surviving) financially"We are not just keeping up with the Joneses anymore. We are keeping up with everyone. Social media is a huge culprit of that. For anybody that's like, I don't give a shit what other people think about me - that's a huge red flag. Every single human being on planet Earth gives a shit about what other people are thinking about them. And they should. What that is all about is having a sense of belonging. You want to belong with your friends, your chosen family. That's okay. But you need to understand how your money is reflected in that."- Lindsey KoncharCONNECT WITH LINDSEY:Lindsey is your favorite financial therapist for women and couples, here to help you feel excited about money! (Yes, it's possible!) Money is more than just a math problem; there is always so much more to the equation. Merging behavioral therapy and financial education, Lindsey helps you live your dream life!Lindsey's Instagram: ⁠@financialtherapistlindsey⁠⁠Lindsey's Website⁠Join Financial Self-Care's GET OUT OF DEBT course ⁠WAITLIST⁠CONNECT WITH MADDEN:Madden's Instagram: ⁠@maddenzappa⁠STAY UP TO DATE WITH WE'RE DATING THE SAME GUYWe NOW have an Instagram! Follow us over at ⁠@datedifferentlyco⁠ Submit YOUR dating stories and questions: ⁠Date Differently Diaries (completely anonymous)⁠⭐ As always, we don’t gatekeep how to date smarter.If this moved you or taught you something new, take a moment to follow, leave a review, and pass this episode along to someone who would love it too.